Put a price on yourself

author:
"Ross Jeffries"
date:
Fri, 06 Sep 2004 15:35 GMT
website:
www.speedseduction.biz
subject:
Put a price on yourself ...That should get her viewing you as scarce and therefore
a lot more valuable and therefore something She's Willing To Pay A Hell ...
Ross Jeffries: And one of the most true and powerful realities of human nature is: IF
SOMETHING COMES AT VERY LITTLE COST, PEOPLE TEND TO THINK IT IS OF
LITTLE VALUE! We believe that things that are difficult to possess are inherently of better
quality and that things that are easy to posses are of little value or quality. In other words,
absent knowing what something can do for them, people will make a judgement based on
what they have to give up to get it. They confuse price with value. I certainly hope that you
are smart enough to see the difference. Personally, I judge the worth of something based on
what it will do for me. But practically speaking, here are some ways to do it in your
behaviour in the field:
1. At the appropriate place and time, SHOW YOUR ANGER! Guys who never get mad, who
never show that they will stand up for themselves and make a woman feel a bit of
unpleasantness are, in effect, giving themselves away for free! Let the females in your life
know that if they break your rules, cross you, or show any lack of respect that THEY ARE
GOING TO PAY A PRICE!
2. Be willing to withdraw your time and attention and be unavailable! There are actually two
rules working here: one is that people value more what they have to work for, but also the
rule is: if it's rare or becoming MORE scarce it's viewed as being more valuable.
Well, in any case, as I've said, it's a reality, so use it in the following ways:
A. ANSWER: Now and again, cancel dates.
B. Don't always return her phone calls promptly
C. On occasion, and especially in the beginning, GET OFF THE PHONE FIRST! Don't have
unlimited time or willingness to talk!
That should get her viewing you as scarce and therefore a lot more valuable and therefore
something She's Willing To Pay A Hell Of A Lot More To Get! Now the final, and perhaps
the most important rule I can give you is: Let Women (and people in general) Know What
Your Rules Are And What You Expect Of Them! Now, I didn't say whine or demand. I just
said let them know with the attitude of: Hey, these are the rules. If you care to obey them,
great. You'll receive GREAT value in return. If not, please get out of the way because plenty
of people are lined up who WILL pay, and gladly so.
Finally on this topic, you should take steps to totally eliminate from your life anyone in any
capacity who will not pay your price, after you have clearly informed them what that price
may be, and most especially if they have explicitly agreed to pay it. As I have long said,

confidence works two ways: both in going for what you do want and moving away from what
you don't. If you don't eliminate those who won't pay the price, then you will be undercutting
your confidence when you want to move towards what you want, because your behaviour is
not 100% congruent with your belief that you are a person of value who is deserving of the
best.
Craig, Clifford's Seduction newsletter: Make her put some work into hanging out with you in
order for her to value you. Make her come and pick you up, make her spend some money on
you, make her call and do you favors, etc. When she does things for you it will justify her
own feelings for you and allow them to grow.
What to do to get in rapport

She has to FEEL you two are soulmates, like she has known you forever. When it happens
fast, you will hear the following from her:
"Oh my God I don't know why I'm telling you this, I don't even know you.."
What happened?
She FEELS she knows me better then her best friend and her logical brain supplies her with
information "You don't know this guy!"
And yes, rapport gets you girl!
The following is for guys who want Rapport Fast:
Attraction is naturally created between people.
With deep rapport you will get her. If not the first time you see her, then the second or third
you will. She will remember you as someone special and think of you all the time. Good
rapport brings the chick to you.
What to do to get in rapport, guys:
1. Relax. It is important. RELAX. Nervous guys, don't drink coffeine, don't look around like
you escaped from jail. Act like you're alone in the most comfortable place on Earth. Make
that place exist in your imagination if you have never been in a place like that.
2. Avoid everyday chat (weather, school, job, newspapers, movies..) you will need weeks to
get rapport with that.
3. Skip the usual introductions and talk with her like she is your twin sister, in fact even more
openly than you would with your twin sister.
4. Go deep (share some emotions with her, talk about yourself (example: how you fell in love
first time when you were 5 years old, how you had a rabbit and he was your friend and when
he died you were very sad and felt vulnerable..)
5. Listen when she follows with her deep story. Leave comments aside. Don't interrupt with:
"That's good!", "That's funny", "Oh that's so bad for you". Just listen. Don't criticise or judge
her whatever she says. Never involve in discussion. If you do so you're pushing her away. If

you "agree" with her or "approve" her actions you loose trust from her. Just listen. Ask a
question if something is not clear to you. When you finish asking, shut up and listen her for a
while. You must NOT become her cushion. It happens in 15 mins to 2 hours, only longer in
special situations. Don't make it long. If you make it long without stepping forward (kiss),
there is a danger of becoming a friend, or even worse, marriage material.
6. Don't try hard to find common things between you two. Do it more like you're just
informing yourself about her and her about your thoughts, or even better, you're just thinking
loudly, with no specific objective.
7. Don't give her eye contact too much. Save it's power for later. Give it more and more in
moments before kiss, and make a last one longer.
8. Cube and similar techniques can work if used on right place in right time and by skilled
person. I prefer something else: use experience to explain how she feels or what she thinks or
why she behaved in such way in such occasion. That adds HUGE amounts of rapport, it's
quicker and less borring.
Newbies, the above is gold , I'm writing it for you instead of sleeping so *pay* *fuckin*
*attention*. Re-read, apply and get that girl!

Always answer the girl's questions

author:
"Jugglar"
date:
Fri, 08 Sep 2005 18:26 GMT
website:
www.charismarts.com.
subject:
ALWAYS answer the girl's questions ...The opposite applies to those routine
questions that people ask each other expecting one word answers. If a HB ...
You WANT a girl to ask you questions. This is the beginning of HER chasing YOU.
Unless you are fifteen, do not ruin this dynamic by giving constant evasive answers. You
want her curious about you. Reward her curiosity by being interesting. Not by being a smart
ass. Be Peirce Brosnan not Jim Carrey
Play upon her curiosity. Set her up to ask you questions. Then give great answers.
Take the common questions you always get asked and figure out great answers. And get good
at answering spontaneous questions with improvised patterns.
If it is bold to answer a question directly, do it in the most direct way.
For example, if you are short and she asks you how tall you are, say, "Five foot five."
That's it. Boom. Direct. If you are evasive you will look ashamed. If she asks you your
opinion of something, give it - boom - direct. You are a man. You are not afraid to speak your
mind.

The opposite applies to those routine questions that people ask each other expecting one word
answers. If a HB asks you how you are - you tell her, "I am great. I went skydiving yesterday
and the effects still haven't worn off." She will want to know more. You have an interesting
topic. Answer all her questions about your trip with your fascinating details.
See the difference? Interesting - not evasive. Evasive is for children.
Do not duck questions. They are your opportunities to shine.
If you tell a girl something witty or insightful she will be impressed. However if you answer a
question with something witty or insightful she will be amazed.
Some Examples:
>> How are you?
>Excellent Thankyou, Have you ever had one of those days >where you are thinking about an
old friend and then out of the blue, you get a phone call from them, I mean you havent heard
from them in weeks.. Its like E.S.P. Or something, Do you believe in anything like that ?
>> What are you doing?
>(Really depends on what you are doing but..) Well, I was just doing a bit of shopping and
decided I needed a cup of something sweet and warm.. then Ive got a few other bits to get and
I can go home. I'm not really a great shopper but, when I see something I like, I just have to
grab it :-).. How about you?
>> How was your weekend?
>Excellent Thanks, Met up with some old friends went down the pub Saturday.. On Sunday,
took the mountain bike up to the hills just to blow away the weeks cobwebs.. you know,
Adrenaline is great, that first rush of trying something a bit dangerous, where you might get
hurt, but its only temporary, it goes away, but the memory of that experience stays with you...
blah blah blah...
>> What's your name?
>Martin De Porres, I was named after a catholic saint famous for his healing touch and
martyred for witchcraft.. Not really, Its (my real name) why do you ask ? that would tend to
be what comes out of my mouth anyway..

Jugglar's Rapport Theory

author:
date:
website:

"Jugglar"
Fri, 09 Sep 2005 19:46 GMT
www.charismarts.com

subject:
Jugglar's Rapport Theory ...Be interesting. Give answers that engage her
imagination and make her want to know more about you. Your mind ...
To achieve a feeling of being very connected to a girl, who you have just met, act as if you
are already lovers.
Okay, nothing ground breaking. Other people have suggested similar frames. But few have
dug deeper and thought about the implications of being and staying in this frame.
The first realization should be that you can not ask a girl questions such as, "Where are you
from?", "What do you do for a living?" or even "What is your name?"
If you know her already, then you would not need these answers. If you ask those questions
you will remind her that you are a stranger and rapport will be damaged.
Instead, ask questions like, "What would your fantasy vacation be like?" or "What's the story
behind the ring you are wearing?"
Even better, instead of asking questions, make intimate statements. Talking as if your listener
already knows you as well.
Do not say, "I have a four year old niece. While visiting me today she did the craziest thing
with her bowl of cookie dough ice cream."
No need to inform your listener of your life facts. Re-word to avoid this feel.
Instead say, "My four year old niece did the craziest thing with her bowl of cookie dough ice
cream."
Bad: "I work for XYZ corporation as a vice president. My office is on the twentieth floor.
Today I had a thought."
Better: "I was looking out over the city today at work when I got this feeling that I was
connected to all those people "
Do not go out of your way to inform your listener about the facts of your life. Otherwise, you
are ruining the illusion that you two already know each other.
Now of course your listener will become curious about you and ask questions. When she
does, reward her curiosity by being interesting.
Her: "What is your nieces name?"
You: "Her name is Christine. She was named after my great grandmother. The funny thing is,
my great grandmother, back in the thirties, ran an upscale bordello. So when my niece is
being rambunctious we call her, Madam Christine."
Be interesting. Give answers that engage her imagination and make her want to know more
about you. Your mind frame should not be about holding something back, but instead giving

something more than she expects. Something most people are only comfortable giving after
they know someone.
In general avoid discussing life facts for their own sake - hers or yours. That will only get in
the way and degrade rapport.
One caution: Women can fall under the spell of this illusion very strongly. They can be
aggressive with you in a way they only would with a boyfriend they had been seeing awhile.
Make sure they know you are not so easy as to sleep with a woman the first night you met
her. Well, at least not until she buys you a couple of drinks and gives you a back massage. :)
A Rapport Builder Routine

This is a rapport builder as well as an opportunity for anchoring for those of you that do this.
In addition, it really shows that you GET IT, when it comes to "relationships", when a chick
brings it up.
I had to come up with a good response on the fly when a few of the gals I have been out with
lately have asked me what I'M looking for in a "relationship". I normally don't like to bring
up the "R" word, but when a gal brings it up, you have to have a good reply... one that will
show them that you are intelligent, that you have it together, that you are sophisticated, and
that there is more to you than meets the eye.
Now the context of using this is that I have only used it with gals in a casual environment, (a
bookstore, coffeeshops, restaurant). Haven't tried it in clubs nor do I think it would work in a
club setting. This is for when you are alone, having one of those one on one, deep rapport
conversations, as a prelude to (a few steps before) the full close. Here was my response... and
everytime I've used it so far, it has gotten deep levels of rapport (it became about them
seducing ME) as well as broken down any resistance...
As far as anchoring, when I've done this, I used sugar packets once, and I used my fingers
(pointing to them) the other times.
(You may want to read the theme itself before reading about the anchoring part next so that it
will make more sense)
Actually using my fingers as an anchor was kind of a subtle sexual signal, because I would
put my 3 right hand fingers up (one finger for each value, as if counting), and point to them
with my left index finger and then when I would do each of the "2 values without the 1", I
would form a "ring" with my thumb and index finger of my left hand that would encircle the
two fingers of the other hand... and as I talked I subtly slid my encircling hand up and down
over my fingers. (first each of the 2 together and then the 3 all together at the end)
I actually did this without thinking about it consciously at first, then I wondered why the
chick I was talking to got all flushed and started breathing heavy as I was moving my left
hand index/thumb "ring" up and down the "shafts" of the fingers of my right hand. Anyway,
here it is...
-----------------------------------Begin theme
"I have a new theory about all relationships and what makes up the ideal one.

First of all you need Passion. This is where you have a physical chemistry with this person,
where you feel drawn to this person that you're with, you may even feel a warm feeling right
here in your stomach and maybe it spreads all over your body when your with this person
where you can lose track of time and give yourself completely to this experience
Next you need Intimacy. This is where you feel an emotional connection with this person,
like you've known them before, and like you were always meant to know this person like
this was meant to be and where you feel completely comfortable and close and you may
feel it right here in your heart
Then you need Commitment. Philosophers have called this a sense of "duty" where you
feel secure, knowing that this is someone that is here for you, that we both choose to be
together and this is someone that you can see yourself with now and in the future
Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of each one of these elements.
For example if you have just passion, but no intimacy or commitment, then that would be like
just physical infatuation. Like a one night stand or something nothing more, nothing less
If you have just intimacy, but no passion or commitment, then that would be just friendship.
And we all have those
If you have just commitment, but no passion or intimacy, then that would be an empty
relationship. Like a lot of married people out there so sad.
Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no commitment. This is like a "Romantic
affair" and maybe the knowledge that it is something that's now or never or that you
have no guarantees about, makes the passion and intimacy even more intense
And you can have passion and commitment, but no intimacy. That is like people who stay
together because they really like the sex.
And you can have intimacy and commitment but no passion. That would be like grandma and
grandpa who are together for companionship, but cant remember the last time they did it.
And of course the ideal, as with all things is about balance, where you can have just the
right amount of passion, just the right amount of intimacy, and just the right amount of
commitment well now that I think about it, an extra little bit more passion would be
nice what do you think?"
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Using The Lying Game to build rapport

I have had a great reaction from this game even from HBs who didn't end up digging me.
Braid_ged : Hey, are you a good lier ?
HB : what ?
Braid_ged : can you lie, like (turns to other HB), is she a good lier ?

HB_Other : yes! she is a fantastic lier! / No, she can't lie.

Braid_ged : Is that right? well lets see. Ok, you are going to tell me three things. One of them
will be a lie. Ok ?
HB : Ok.
Braid_Ged : right.. you are going to tell me.... umm.. a place you have always wanted to visit.
Ummm a shop you like going to... and.... the name of the first guy you slept with, or girl...
(HB raises eyebrow)
Braid_ged : ok guy. So that's three things, place to visit, shop you like and first guy you slept
with. Ok ?
(the whole table is now looking at her)
HB : ok.
Braid_ged : ok... hold on, take it slow, think about it you have to try and be as convincing as
you can...
she tells.. you try and pick the lie... you get the idea.
Then usually someone goes "MY Turn!" and if they say to you "Your turn" you go "Are you
kidding, I am not playing some silly lie game", then turn to your wing "Yeah like _I_ and
going to play some lie game, these people are crazy".
Then go get a drink or something and let them think about what a fun guy you are. .... .... ....
you get the idea.
Mini-Cold Reads For Attraction

author:
"Jugglar"
date:
Sat, 10 Sep 2005 20:56 GMT
website:
www.fastseduction.com
subject:
Mini-Cold Reads For Attraction ...Rapport is pretty simple when you understand
the tendency to like and feel COMFORT around those people ...
Just about everyone will agree that rapport is important anytime you have an interaction with
another person. If you think about it, it's kind of a no-brainer. Who likes to spend time around
someone that is being obnoxious? Maybe some of the whacked out street people in San
Francisco do, people I know like to spend time with people that make them feel comfortable.
People Like People Who Are Like Themselves
Rapport is pretty simple when you understand the tendency to like and feel COMFORT
around those people who are similar to you. There are theories that say it goes back to our
days of living in tribes and clans, and was a way to recognize threats to the clan. That may be
true, but all that really matters is to understand if you want a woman to feel comfortable with
you, you'll need to build rapport with her.

The opposite is true as well. If you want to drive someone away, break rapport with them.
There are times when this can be useful, but I would recommend you practice building
rapport first you'll get a lot more mileage out of that.
Methods For Building Rapport
There are people who seem to be naturals at building rapport. These people were modeled
using the methods of Nuero Linguistic Programming (NLP), and a lot of different techniques
were discovered.
Many of these use a method known as Mirroring and Matching. To do this you must be able
to calibrate the other person, moving your body like they do, speaking like they do, and even
timing your breathing to theirs.
These techniques work well, since this is what normally happens when two people are in
rapport. The challenge with these methods is that it takes a lot of practice to be able to do
them without being detected.
It also takes a while to be able to do them without being distracted from the conversation
going on. Since mirroring and matching will usually happen naturally once you already have
rapport, you are better off finding an easier way to build rapport and let nature take it's
course.
A Simple Method
An easier method is to find out things about the person that you both have in common. This
can be done easily inside of a fun and fascinating conversation. The more you have in
common, the faster rapport will develop.
Think about a time when you met someone and found out they were from your home town.
How quickly did that change how you felt about them? I've had the experience of being on
the other side of the planet and running into someone from the USA. It might be the case that
normally I wouldn't spend time with them, but it feels good just to speak your own language
and share the culture you have in common for a brief moment in time.
That's rapport.
A Fun Way To Find Commonalities
When you have a woman you want to build trust and comfort with, a really fun way for both
of you to build rapport, is to use cold reading as a way to find out what you have in common.
There are some key benefits to using cold reading as opposed to everyday conversation.
(1). People usually won't resist cold reads since they are ambiguous, yet sound true to the
listener
(2). She will feel like you understand her, so she will open up even more to you.
(3). It's easy to get her talking about things she doesn't even tell her best friends
(4). You will quickly find out things you share in common, by pointing these out you'll build
rapport quickly with her. You'll connect' with her on a deeper level.

What Is Cold Reading

Cold reading is a technique used by salespeople, interrogators and psychics to convince other
people that they know more about them than they actually do. Generally, the cold reader will
make a series of vague statements, will observe their reaction, and then will refine the
original statements based on the reactions they got.
If you have ever read a newspaper horoscope and felt that it was accurate, you have
experienced a cold read type of statement.
The reason that it works so well, is because of the use of ambiguities basically statements
which can have multiple meanings. When a person hears such a word or statement, their mind
will fill in the meaning from their own personal experience. Thus it seems to be a true
statement about them.
In NLP there is a method of speaking in ambiguities called the Milton Model, named after
one of the most famous hypnotists Milton Erickson. When modeling Erickson's hypnosis it
was discovered that he used ambiguities in language to not only build rapport, but to put
people into a suggestive state (trance). So you might realize that cold reading is also
hypnotic.
Different Types Of Cold Reading Used In Pickup
There are two distinct types of cold reading that can be used in pickup. The first type really
aren't cold reads for getting rapport, they are a modified version used to build attraction.
Some people call these mini-cold reads.
Mini-Cold Reads For Attraction
Basically these are playful teasing comments, often that don't make a lot of sense, but are a
fun way to escalate sexual tension through banter.
Examples:
(1). "You and I would never get along."
(2). "You're a bad girl, my mother warned me about girls like you."
(3). "You're a shy girl aren't you? You guys need to get her out more."
(4). "You're like Velma on Scooby Doo, always trying to figure things out."
(5). "You guys are trouble."
WARNING: If you do this at the wrong time you will destroy rapport and blow any chance
you had with her. There is an art to playful banter, and part of that art is knowing when it's
time to drop it.
Cold Reading To Build Rapport
In rapport phase you want to use these to have her feel like you really understand her and so
she will open up to you. You'll need to be a very good listener during this process so when
you hear a commonality, you can point it out to her so she realizes it. Otherwise she won't
notice.

Use this as a tool for a deep and intimate conversation, women dream about meeting a man
who can talk with them in this way.
Utilize a mixture of general statements and subtle leading questions to gain information on
the subject by either verbal or non-verbal means (such as tone of voice, facial expressions,
body language, etc).
Example: Using The Cube as a framework for cold reading. CR = Cold Read
PUA: where is your cube located HB: it's floating in the air, above the horizon PUA (CR):
Some of your ideas tend to be a bit unrealistic HB: OMG, that's so true. I have these ideas
and when I tell my friends they say I'm a total dreamer, all the time.. blah blah PUA: That's
too funny, my friends tell me the same thing when I tell them about blah blah
What if she didn't agree or was neutral (you have to calibrate the tone of her voice and body
language)
HB: Ummmm, I guess so PUA:(CR) Fortunately, you are a person who has learned her
strengths and limitations, so you seldom take on a project which you aren't sure you can
complete. HB: Yes. Exactly! Even since I was a kid I won't do things that I'm not sure I can
do. People know me as the practical one. When we plan our trips to Costa Rica they always
come to me to make sure it will get done. PUA: Costa Rica is where I had my most amazing
travel experience (story) I think it's my favorite country.
11 Commonly Used Cold Reads
This is a list of the 11 most commonly used cold reads by psychics. If you memorize these
you really won't need any others. You can mix and match them based on the context.
1) You have a strong need for others to like and admire you.
2) You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.
3) You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.
4) Your past relationships have presented problems for you.
5) You can be disciplined and controlled on the outside, and worrisome and insecure on the
inside.
6) You sometimes doubt your own decisions.
7) You like change and variety and don't like to be hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.
8) You are independent minded and need proof before accepting others opinions.
9) You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.
10) At times you are extroverted and sociable, while at others you are introverted and
reserved.

11) Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic.

You don't have to use this exact wording, but the structure is important. Example: #10 could
be restated as "There are times when you are very energetic and outgoing, and other times
you just like to chill." Note that you can open any of these statements with "You know, I've
got an intuition about you"
If you want more of these, just read the daily horoscope for material.
Wrap Up
There are many different ways to build rapport, and using cold reading is just one. Cold
reading is powerful because it provides a way to get her to open up to you without her feeling
like it's an interview. Then you can find commonalities that you share so that she can bond
with you.
It may also happen during this process, that you find out she's not really a woman you want to
spend time with. You'll have saved a lot of time finding this out.
Practice the techniques of cold reading and you'll get good at them quickly. You'll be amazed
at how women will open up to you.
Enjoy!
How to seduce the kind of women you always want

Guys who have lower self confidence when it comes to women like to think that they don't
"deserve" to get the kind of women they want deeply inside. Well, if you belong to this group
I have good news for you. Just keep reading!
I usually put women into 3 categories: in the first there are ugly or average looking girls. In
the second category there are girls with "supermodel" looks. And I named the last category,
"girls you really like". The first needs no explanation. The second category changes by time
and fashion: currently, it's girls who are 180cm tall, who weigh 50kg and who have mostly
blonde hair and a certain type of face. When we talk about "hot girls" we like to talk about
girls in this category. But what about the third?
Have you noticed that there are certain women you have "a thing" for? These girls don't
resemble the actual trend in supermodels. At least not in 100%. They are taller or shorter.
They might have a bigger nose or smaller lips. They might not have the biggest boobs. But
there is one thing in common: you will have a "fetish" for these girls. A little thing or feature
on their body, which attracts you like a magnet.
Let's see my case as an example. I love shorter (but slim) girls who have a very fragile bodytype. Are these girls 180cm tall as the current trend in supermodels dictates? No. I also love
girls with exotic faces or certain exotic features on their faces. Do these girls have a baby face
like supermodels should? No. Do I still like these girls? Of course! If I am with a girl like
this, am I getting the kind of women I want? Of course!
I'll share a secret you will like: oftentimes, these unique types of girls you find attractive will
find your type attractive as well! When I was younger and less successful with women, I have

noticed getting signs of interest from these girls I had a thing for. Later I realized that it was
somehow made to be this way: I respond to their looks and they respond to mine. As I talked
to many guys since then, I had to realize that I am not alone: most of the guys experience
this! I don't know if there is a logical reason behind this phenomenon, but it's not important at
all. What matters is that you can attract the kind of women you have a thing for damn easily!
I don't say you should restrain yourself from going for supermodels. But do not let the trends
dictate which kind of girls you should date and which kind you shouldn't. The above is the
type of women, which could give you a lot of joy and happiness.