I vs.

You Messages
Step 1: Describe the situation or behavior that is
causing problems for you.
Step 2: Describe how you feel when this occurs.
Step 3: Explain why you feel this way.
Example: Jacobs mom told him hes no longer
allowed to bottle flip.
You-Message
You are the worst mom ever!
Im never going to become the
worlds best bottle flipper and
its going to be all your fault!

I
Message
Mom, it bugs me that you say I
cant bottle flip because I love to
do it, Im good at it, and I want
to be famous on Youtube.