- constant, sustained eye contact - he uses his BL to display dominance - able to read when other people are challenging him - who can invade whose space? - who looks away? - who feels more uncomfortable? - dealing with this, by calling it out? - making the rules clear - clearity of what gets punished and what gets rewarded - punishment, and(or) reward - punishment can only go as far for a leader, it must exist soem kind of a posit ive reinforcment(reward) - setting up reward systems for those loyal to him - benefits of working for him, opposite to punishemnts for disobaying - you need to have clear consequences - you can't just punish, you must reward too - altering someones identity is the way of strongest ways to alter someones beha vior - Charels Manson - identity is made of the choices - "if I choose to work for Negan, then I become the Negan" - "feeling of when you are doing something outside of your identity" (?) - get the key supporters on your side by controling and distributing the treasur e - notice who people literally follow when that person walks in a certain directi on - *** notice who people ask questions of when they need to make a decision *** - who do people listen to when there are disagreements - **** if Negan can control the group then the whole group is controlled, follow s - ** minimize key supporters ** - freedom of association - reducing the communiaction, connections, speach between people reduces their p ower
- be aware the generals refuse your treasure
- they don't want what you give - they want something else - they will be unsatisfied - they will be less loyal - until they get what they are seeking