[fSgciaTa Ge PainoTEnaor| AMILIEYS!A coPtutr ag) BiBLioTEca Chance Hope & Health for the Alcoholic Family Sharon Wegscheider Soience and Behavior Books, Inc.Patrick, Sandra, and Deborah, Contents ‘who gave me support, encouragement, and understanding during my yeas | coruataagh of writing eisLioreca Pacer by Vigne Slo ° Perewerd by Keath Wilions, MD 8 Prologue 4 Pree ” 1. Od Mit New Init ” | 2 The Whale Peon Model = 5. Aston of «Family “ sienna ame ‘Twe swank oisEAae ipa 8 hb Seen nf ai a 4 The Adition Spi * Eye Sort Re ge $ the Family Dene * ‘io ty ecb scd oy ian" ssneanr | re rawtey nous Uber of Cn Ca Ct Naber 830 6. The Enabler & 7 The Heo 104 | 8. The Scapegoat 16 9. The Last Chi a sa The Mascot 76 / convents 1a, Intervention 1. The Continuum of Case 13, Primary Cae 4 AterCare 15, Recovery Unlined 16 AN aba Treatment Ally 17, The Whale Counselor Exar for Heater Fanos The Whole Peron retary Ides 150 6 170 4 25 os x6 54 ACKNOWLEDGMENTS. (the nay people to whom Lam indebted fr help in waiting book, I wad Iie to pve special vention: Pace Kelings, wn cotsibtd lng hou of ting and ering she ued er expertae sed rent apd imapation fo weave ap at ‘il be undrtood and appected by many. Don Wepiheder, wo spent many burs wing ting and sharing with pe a Teepe the stents of the Bok, he made an ivahble ‘eatin Vig Seti, who gave me suppor and beeved in me before I beled in my her ting and mrtrance guided me developing the coments presented bere Wheelock Whine, whe encouraged me t we my knowledge aout fay ste fora ete undertanding of rper stems seh a indy, ‘lust, ad comantes i ding we Rave oe to reste bealer ‘Siote fo which fans can work ad prow Thee Whitey, who andro my fay concept and phish Lng ‘before they were ace exteniely byte trate Bel her encourage tent ive me bope even times of avery Anne Raclond, my mse, who ang with my brother, my site, ed sme staged though ow fly fle with ool rough he eso Ince love Ilsa great dea stout fly togetherness, 2 lesan Oat ‘tdci he ploy of ts Book8 1 Aebrowldements nil Reland, my fe, who lt hi et the dae of oli, | am bleed with emai of is wah and lve fo which Ta tbe ‘ching and sents Deli, Bab, Elaine, FS, Ro, Evie, Let, Jas, Dic end Mon, lat ‘sends wh, daring the pst few ja of bard wok, npeditatleshedaes, sand ting offre, hve een conten cle to me; with them Ths nied, cred, desmed and paved To them ll my warmest thanks Foreword BY VIRGINIA SATIR, M.S.W. ey Tp aman Syne Crt ihe apa Ct Ft They We nas 4 10 about stress thee days—how wide- spread it what serious health problems it causes, what canbe done tout it But actualy we Americans ofthe twentieth century did't lent stress. Its been around a Tong time. I suspect that every human bringin every time and place hat experienced test of ne sort or another "The paticulr circumstances that cause stress vary according to ‘one's age, cutie, socioeconomic status, and other factors, but they tly come downto 2 few basis, such a: balance "Too much work and too litle play, for instance, an lead to feling of Being overburdened. Some put of the elf steal all the time and energy wile other parts ao valued, have no chance for expression a all, ‘Conflet When two strong yet apparently ineconcable needs come into conic, 2 peron fel trapped and helpless. ("l must aways ‘ake the right decison, yt here here it no ight decison,” Or," must ‘ver safer aks, yet hee 1am bound to lose one ting othe othe.”) ‘Suniel needs. One person may be threaten by esonomie worries “Af Kdon't have money, 1 die) another by il health ("TF my boy isn't functioning wel il die"; stil another by feeling alone, aba