What do you want most in a friend- someone who is intelligent, someone who has a

sense of humour, or someone who is reliable? Which one of these characteristics is

most important to you? Use reasons and specific examples to explain your choice.
One of the advantages when talking to yourself is you can ascertain that there is
someone who is ready to listen to you Franklin Roses. Yes, the ability to listen is what I
believe people are forage for when they meet their friends. There are many characteristics
that lead to a successful friendship such as truthful, honest, generous, reliable, etc. But to
me, the most imperative factor to maintain a long-term friendship or even a relationship is
the ability to listen with the volunteer from both sides.
First of all, everybody loves to speak. It is only by speaking that people can express
themselves in the most convenient way.The desire to express their own opinions exists in
every humanbeings, thus, create a more urgent desire for their audiences. This is where a
listener appears, erases the feelings of emptiness and releases the duress from the speaker.
Therefore, it is obvious that someone who appears during your harsh times can easily
become your best friend. For example, my History teacher, who always appear with
elegancy and confidence suddenly did not come to our class anymore. All of us keep asking
why she keep on missing classes but nobody actually want to find out. We are to busy to
care about other problems and continue with our homework and projects instead. However,
our class monitor, Sara, wrote a letter with cheering words and ask her the question why.
Then, they become close friends that they can both share with each other problems in their
lives. Without Sara, we could have become agressive and give our teachers unpleasant
comments. Thanks for Sara that we finally understand that our history teacher is taking care
of her mother in the countryside.
Additionally, listeners are those who do not judge, which encourages other people to
speak up. It is not because they do not have a clear opinion, it is not also because they
devoid of logical thinking but in fact, it is because of the possibility to be judged as absurd
and ridiculous that prevent people from sharing. Hence, to my mind, the ability to just listen
and only listen make listeners become more precious in the society of speakers. For
instance, in a book called Sorrow of War written by Bao Ninh once illustrated a story of a
couple. The woman who rent the house, could not speak live upstairs and having a secret
crush on the man who live downstairs. This man who successfully escape from war had so
many stories to tell that he could not block himself from sharing his sadness with the woman.
The woman who could not talk motivates him to speak more. This story ends up with a
inexplicable friendship between them.
In a nutshell, I believe that friendship can only be built with the willingness to
understand and listen from both sides. However, successful listeners also encompass the
ability to give advice from their experience. With those factors of believing, sharing and
listening, there is no obstacles that can prevent a frienship from flourishing.