Ashley Espinoza

Chapter 5B Divorce & Love

FHS 2400 Period_4

Interview a person who has been divorced (it is even better if they have remarried). Ask them
how their definition of love changed as they went through the various stages of dating,
engagement, newlywed, married, divorce. As with other assignments, try NOT to settle for
"simple" answers. To do this assignment correctly you will probably need to spend at least 30
minutes with the person you are interviewing.

My parents have been divorce since I was 11 and it hasnt always been as easy. I have received a

new perspective on love and marriage over the last 5 years. I sat down with my mom to talk

about what love meant to her after all these years.

The definition of love while dating is sort of an expectation or illusion of the perfect person.

During this stage you are young and nave and expect love to be like a fairytale. But when you

do find that true love, its beautiful and you will never want to let it go. You feel like someone

actually cares for you as much as you care for them. Being engaged just makes the love grow

like a little plant, stronger and stronger each day. You feel like you cant live without that person.

There is a lot of excitement and learning during this time. As a newlywed the love sort of gets

confused because you have to do a lot of compromising. It is like you are in a LaLa Land. In

marriage, the love intensifies as you get older. You two are one. Once you have kids, the love

grows even more. Then it becomes unconditional love. But you have to be careful not to lose the

love for your spouse, because it is not the same love you have for your children. With divorce,

love change, maybe if your expectations arent met. You still love that person, but you just cant

live with them anymore.

Love is essential to our lives (Strong and Cohen 148). I learned this from my book, as well as,

with my mom. I hope to find that deep love my parents once had. Maybe one day I will.Work

Cited:

Strong, Bryan, and Theodore Cohen. The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate
Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth, 2014. Print.