1s » cHapreR s POSITIVE BEHAVIOR GUIDANCE Adlute glayan essensiat roe in helping preschoolers develop self-control ‘They must setbehavioral expectations that are developmentally realtor chien state hem, in positive terms, and enforce them consistently. Its also important that adults pro. vide uncondliionalfove and serve as positive ole models for children, ‘Three-year-olds: + Serlimits und use short, simple statements to expla why they ate necessary + Acknowledge children when they are behaving appropriately, + Rensain cata and patient; keep your own anger and frustration under contol + Redirect the chills activity: ithe cil iy uoeowing sand, ask hima to help you sweep the sand back into the sandbox. Fouryearolds: + Offerchoices: “Du you want ro wear your sandals or sneakers" > Use natural consequences: “If yee ail ee paine there wan't be any fel for our picture.” “Ifyou bump into the other children with your bike, you will need to Feave thee.” + Pravicle simple ditections andl warnings so children know what to expect next: “Lunch will be served in a few minutes so we ace! to begin picking up the toys” Five-year-olds: + Tovolve children in problem-solving: “Which eay da you think your brother would like?* "Where should we look fr your jacket?" + Remove chileren from an activity if inappropriate behavior continues and give hem tine te think about dei actions + Tacluce children in sexting rues za increase conapliance: "What should we do if someone Pushes another child?”