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BEHIND THE DOOR
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DEDICATION
T
o everyone who is sincere and willing to
acquire knowledge to enhance greatly their
sexuality.
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
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Let this book inspire you to get the best out of your
sexuality. I mean be positive. You can live a sexually
fulfilled life, you can have children, you can enjoy sex to the
fullest, you can live a sexually disease free life and you can
enjoy your marriage.
Yours faithfully,
FOLASHADE AJAYI
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CONTENTS
DEDICATION...................................................................................iii
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS...............................................................iv
NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR....................................................vi
INTRODUCTION...........................................................................ix
CONTENTS....................................................................................xxii
SECTION 1
PLEASURE IN SEXUALITY.......................................................24
CHAPTER 1
SEX AND THE BODY..................................................................25
CHAPTER 2
HOW TO ENJOY SEX...................................................................33
CHAPTER 3
COMMUNICATION......................................................................49
CHAPTER 4
OVULATION, CONCEPTION, PREGNANCY AND
CHILD BIRTH.................................................................................65
CHAPTER 5
BREAST FEEDING.......................................................................77
CHAPTER 6
FAMILY PLANNING.....................................................................83
CHAPTER 7
SEX AND DIET.............................................................................105
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SECTION 2
PROBLEMS OF SEXUALITY...................................................112
CHAPTER 1
SEXUAL DYSFUNCTIONS.......................................................113
CHAPTER 2
LOW SEX DRIVE..........................................................................119
CHAPTER 3
SEXUAL HARASSMENT...........................................................127
CHAPTER 4
RAPE..................................................................................................133
CHAPTER 5
PROBLEMS ASSOCIATED WITH PREGNANCY..........139
CHAPTER 6
INFERTILITY................................................................................145
CHAPTER 7
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS....................159
CHAPTER 8
INFIDELITY..................................................................................171
CHAPTER 9
TYPES OF EJACULATION DISORDER.............................181
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INTRODUCTION
At the top of the uterus are the pair of fallopian tubes that
lead to the ovaries. The two ovaries produce eggs, or ova
(the female sex cells that can become fertilized), and
female sex hormones, primarily estrogens and
progesterone. The fallopian tubes have finger like
projections at the ends near the ovaries that sweep the egg
into the fallopian tube after it is released from the ovaries.
If sperm are present in the fallopian tube, fertilization
(conception) may occur and the fertilized egg will be swept
into the uterus by cilia (hair like projections covering the
walls of the fallopian tube).
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The scrotum is a sac that hangs below the penis and contains
the two testes, which produce sperm (the male sex cell
responsible for fertilization) and are considered part of
the internal genitalia. The testes also are the primary
producers of testosterone (male sex hormone) in men. Inside
the testes are about 1,000 seminiferous tubules that produce
and store the sperm. The scrotum can pull up closer to the
body when the surrounding temperature is low and can
drop farther away when the temperature is hot in order to
keep the testes at an optimal, constant temperature
somewhat lower than body temperature.
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After sperm are produced, they move out of the testes and
into the epididymes, a long tube coiled against the testes,
where the sperm are stored and mature. The vas deferens
transports the sperm from the epididymes through the
prostate, after which the vas deferens becomes the
ejaculatory duct. Here, fluids from the prostate and seminal
vesicles (small sacs that hold semen) combine with the
sperm to form semen, a thick, yellowish-white fluid. The
average discharge of semen, called ejaculate, contains
approximately 300 million sperm.
SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT
There are two periods of marked sexual differentiation in
human life. The first occurs prenatally and the second
occurs at puberty. Although adult women and men may
differ greatly in genital appearance and secondary sexual
characteristics, they are almost identical during prenatal
development.
UNDERSTANDING SEXUALITY
B. Childhood
After birth, the process of sex-role socialization begins
immediately. There may be small, physiologically-based
differences present at birth that lead girls and boys to
perceive the world or behave in slightly different ways.
There are also well-documented differences in the ways
that boys and girls are treated from birth onward. The
behavioral differences between the sexes, such as
differences in toy and play preference and in the degree of
aggressive behavior, are most likely the product of
complex interactions between the way that the child
perceives the world and the ways that parents, siblings, and
others react to the child. The messages about appropriate
behavior for girls and boys intensify differences between
the sexes as the child grows older.
C. Puberty
Puberty marks the second stage of physical sexual
differentiationthe time when both primary and
secondary sexual characteristics as well as adult
reproductive capacity develop, and when sexual interest
surges. Puberty typically begins in girls from 8 to 12 years
of age, whereas boys start about two years later. The
hypothalamus initiates pubertal changes by directing
pituitary growth hormones and gonadotropins (hormones
that control the ovaries and testes).
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GIRLS
A girl's breasts grow, her pubic hair develops, and her body
grows and takes on the rounded contours of an adult
woman. This is followed by the first menstrual period
(menarche) at about age 12 or 13 (although ages of onset
range from 10 to 16.5), underarm-hair growth, and
increased secretions from oil- and sweat-producing
glands. It may take a year or two before menstruation and
ovulation occur regularly. The hormones primarily
responsible for these changes in young girls are the adrenal
androgens, estrogens, progesterone, and growth
hormone.
BOYS
During puberty, a boy's testes and scrotal sac grow, his
pubic hair develops, his body grows and develops, his
penis grows, his voice deepens, facial and underarm hair
appear, and secretions from his oil- and sweat-producing
glands increase. Penile erections increase in frequency, and
first ejaculation (thorarche) typically occurs sometime
from the age of 11 to the age of 15. For a boy who has not
masturbated, a nocturnal emission, or so-called wet
dream, may be his first ejaculation. The ability to produce
sperm may take another year or two and typically begins at
about age 14. Growth hormone and androgens,
particularly testosterone, are responsible for these
pubertal changes in boys.
The fact that boys tend to develop more slowly than girls
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D. Adolescence
Whereas the term puberty refers to the period of physical
maturation, the term adolescence typically refers to the
socially defined period during which a person adjusts to
the physical, emotional, and social changes associated with
the transition from childhood to adulthood. Adolescence,
which occurs from about the age of 12 to the age of 17 or
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E. Adulthood
In adulthood, more permanent relationships, in the form
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Section One
PLEASURE
IN
SEXUALITY
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SEX AND THE BODY
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A. Excitement or Arousal
In Men
The excitement stage of sexual arousal is characterized by
increased blood flow to blood vessels (vasocongestion),
which causes tissues to swell. In men, the tissues in the
penis become engorged with blood, causing the penis to
become larger and erect. The skin of the scrotum thickens,
tension increases in the scrotal sac, and the scrotum is
pulled up closer to the body. Men may also experience
nipple erection.
Women
In women, vasocongestion occurs in the tissue
surrounding the vagina, causing fluids to seep through the
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Both women and men may develop sex flush during this
or later stages of the sexual response cycle, although this
reaction appears to be more common among women. Sex
flush usually starts on the upper abdomen and spreads to
the chest, resembling measles. In addition, pulse rate and
blood pressure increase during the excitement phase.
B. Plateau
Men
The man's penis becomes completely erect and the glans
swells. Fluid secreted from the Cowper's gland (located
near the urethra, below the prostate) may appear at the tip
of the penis. This fluid, which nourishes the sperm, may
contain active sperm capable of impregnating a woman.
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In Women
In women, the breasts continue to swell, the lower third of
the vagina swells, creating what is called the orgasmic
platform, the clitoris retracts into the body, and the uterus
enlarges. As the woman approaches orgasm, the labia
majora darken. During the plateau stage, vasocongestion
peaks and the processes begun in the excitement stage
continue until sufficient tension is built up for orgasm to
occur.
C. Orgasm
Orgasm, or climax, is an intense and usually pleasurable
sensation that occurs at the peak of sexual arousal and is
followed by a drop in sexual tension. Not all sexual arousal
leads to orgasm, and individuals require different
conditions and different types and amounts of stimulation
in order to have an orgasm. Orgasm consists of a series of
rhythmic contractions in the genital region and pelvic
organs. Breathing rate, pulse rate, and blood pressure
increase dramatically during orgasm. General muscle
contraction may lead to facial contortions and
contractions of muscles in the extremities, back, and
buttocks.
Men
In men, orgasm occurs in two stages. First, the vas
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Women
In women, orgasm is characterized by a series of rhythmic
muscular contractions of the orgasmic platform and
uterus. These contractions can range in number and
intensity. The sensation is very intensemore intense
than the tingling or pleasure that accompanies strong
sexual arousal.
D. Resolution
During resolution, the processes of the excitement and
plateau stages reverse, and the bodies of both women and
men return to the unaroused state. The muscle
contractions that occurred during orgasm lead to a
reduction in muscular tension and release of blood from
the engorged tissues.
Women
The woman's breasts return to normal size during
resolution. As they do, the nipples may appear erect as they
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Men
In men, erection subsides rapidly and the penis returns to
its normal size. The scrotum and testes shrink and return
to their unaroused position. Men typically enter a
refractory period, during which they are incapable of
erection and orgasm. The length of the refractory period
depends on the individual. It may last for only a few
minutes or for as long as 24 hours, and the length generally
increases with age. Women do not appear to have a
refractory period and, because of this, women can have
multiple orgasms within a short period of time. Some men
also experience multiple orgasms. This is sometimes
related to the ability to have some orgasms without
ejaculation.
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HOW TO ENJOY SEX
Variety of places
Sex should not be confined behind the barred walls
of the bedroom alone. It lends greater intimacy and
relaxation to the marital bond when the couples
learn to explore their sexuality in a variety of palces
such as bedroom, Bathroom, Kitchen, Backyard or
Corridor, on the floor of the living room e.t.c
Variety of positions
Besides the traditional position generally known to
most couples, it can be sexually fulfilling to explore
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VARIOUS STYLES
Cowgirl
Doggy-Style Bridge
Arch
Lotus
Upstanding
Missionary
Scissors
Wheelbarrow
Cross
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ENVIRONMENT
Bedroom Corridor
Beach Garden
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TASTE
There is some credence to the saying that the way to a
man's heart is through is stomach. Good food can do
wonders to a man's libido, just as some food types have
been known to enhance the sexual performance of the
woman. A good culinary skill is essential for all women. A
woman who can not cook good meals should go and learn
variety of good meal to nourish her husband and family
and help her husband to be psychologically and sexually
balance.
Kissing
What does your spouse taste like? Your spouse tongue
should be like honey. During foreplay, the role of kissing is
an important motivating factor especially for women as it
heightens the pleasure and turns them on more quickly.
This should continue during other sexual activities.
TOUCH
The hand can unlock untold fantasies in both spouses if it
touches the right spots during sexual intercourse. How
many times do you touch your spouse per day? I
recommend at least 20 times it could be more. This brings
closeness and intimacy
Petting
Petting plays an important role in the development of
sexual response as it offers the opportunity for body
exploration, for genital exploration and emotional
interaction. The body exploration which petting permits
is important, particularly for those people who obtain
great pleasure from touch. Many women enjoy body
contact for long period of love-making before they want
sexual intercourse, and many men would find that they too
would get sexual pleasure from touch if they could
overcome their inhibition.
SMELL
Smell nice, keep your environment clean. This includes the
perfume you wear. The permeating fragrance and aroma in
your home can greatly influence your sexual experience as
a couple. The smell of a food burning can be a quick turn
off for most women. Dispose your cabbage or dustbin
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SIGHT
Look good, be attractive.
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HEARING
Learn to say loving and romatic words to your spouse,
Listen to good music that will turn you on.
The penis is the genital organ around which, the desire and
physical pleasure of the male on penetrating the vaginal
cavity of his partner during intercourse, is centered. The
physical pleasure is accompanied by a profound joy which
is impossible to achieve through other means. Coital
satisfaction can be achieved even at a well advanced age.
1. Foreplay
Taking the time to have foreplay can be extremely
stimulating. It also provides a way to build physical and
emotional trust between couple. This trust can grow
towards creating an atmosphere between partners that is
full of pleasure and intimacy. This intimacy can be an
important part of a sexual and emotional relationship.
Knowing yourself really well can be very exciting.
C- Strip Down
Strip shows aren't just for men anymore; women have
gotten wise to the idea of having men perform for them.
Remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit).
Remove your socks before you do anything; they're
awkward and nothing turns anyone off faster than seeing a
naked body with socks on.
2. Fusion
At the height of the passion and pleasure of a gratifying
sexual experience, there is a union of two spirits reaching
together to the depths of their very being in body as in the
spirit. Therefore, in the intimacy of the joining the spirit,
the mind and the body of both lovers have reached fusion
and what were two before, by virtue of love, now is one.
The complete being, in intimate upheaval, reaches the
greatest enjoyment, the gratifying result of a total
surrender without reservations.
3. Afterglow
After the mutual surrender, accompanied by feelings of
love, the couple falls into the intimate rapture caused by
the reciprocal security of mutual release. They happily
relax next to each other, fulfilled and contented in the
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KEGEL EXERCISE
HISTORY
The body muscles involved in the act of sexual intercourse
can be strengthened in order to ensure their optimal
performance during sex.
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Ejaculation
To get a sense of the vital role of a healthy, abundant
volume of ejaculation in male pleasure, let's take a look at
how male climax works.
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COMMUNICATION
Don't swallow the lie. The truth is this: you will experience
your greatest sexual intimacy with one person.
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LOVE TALK
Love Talk during lovemaking adds new dimensions to
your sexual pleasure. Love Talk is sharing your erotic
passion for your mate in this way transforms amorous
interludes into multimedia events.
The only way you can each get just exactly what arouses
you most during erotic encounters is to share what you
want and when you want it. No matter how well you know
each other's sexual preferences, your spouse can't possibly
know what would arouse you must at that moment in that
lovemaking session. Actively telling your mate what you
want them to do, or to stop doing, has many benefits.
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Speaking up:
Minimizes embarrassments.
Reduces concern over hurt feelings. The secret to
positive instructional Love Talk is to be sure what
you say comes across as requests, not commands.
Make your guidance sultry, flirtatious, playful or
gently. If you experience anxiety or embarrassment
at being guided, let your spouse know how you'd
like comments phrased or delivered. And let go of
the mistaken notion that you should be able to
define what your spouse wants by mental telepathy
(If you really loved me, you'd know...), or that the
request is a criticism.
Love Talk, in all its forms, is the most basic of Love skills.
Unless you can communicate honestly about what you do
and don't like and do and don't need, and unless you can be
verbally playful and creative, you can't work together to
acquire the skills of Body love, Love Touch and Love Play
that will help you to sustain and intensify an exciting erotic
relationship.
FAMILY COMMUNICATION
How to Talk with Your Children about Sex
YOUNG CHILDREN
Do you know the names of all your body parts?
Do you know why girls look different than boys?
Your aunt is pregnant. Do you know what that
means?
PRETEENS
People change a lot during puberty. What have you
heard about the changes of puberty? How do you
feel about going through puberty?
At what age do you think a person should start
dating? Have any of your friends started dating?
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TEENS
How have you changed in the last two years? What
do you like and what do you not like about the
changes?
At what age do you think a person is ready to have
sex? How should a person decide?
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experiences
how to be assertive when refusing sex play or
insisting on using birth control and safer sex.
how to communicate clearly about sex play with a
partner or potential partner.
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Chapter four
OVULATION, CONCEPTION,
PREGNANCY AND
CHILD BIRTH
OVULATION
1. Ovulation occurs only once in a menstrual cycle.
Even if more than one ovum is released in a single
cycle, they are all released within 24 hours of each
other.
2. A released ovum dies after 24 hours if not fertilized
by sperm cell.
3. In a cycle, the subsequent menstrual period results
because the released ovum did not get fertilized (i.e
> pregnancy didn't take place). There is no direct
physiological link between a preceding menstrual
period and the subsequent ovulation. However, a
clear causal link exists between an ovulation in a
cycle and the subsequent menstrual period.
4. The duration between a preceding menstruation
and subsequent start of a menstrual period (i.e. the
post-ovulatory phase) is generally constant at 14
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CONCEPTION
1. After ovulation, the released ovum stays within the
fallopian tube awaiting fertilization. If sexual
intercourse takes place around the ovulation
period, and no hindrances are present, there is a
good chance of the ovum being fertilized by a
spermatozoon (sperm cell). If so, the fertilized
ovum is now called a zygote (which grows into a
baby).
2. The placenta: The fertilized ovum (Zygote)
migrates to the uterus and implants into the
endometrium. Its chorionic cells, which grow to
form the placenta, start immediate and continuous
secretion of hormone, Human Chorionic
Gonadotrophin (HCG), for the first 12 weeks of
pregnancy. Before and after the 12th week, the fully
developed placenta produces increasing quantities
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The first few months of pregnancy are the most critical for
the developing infant, because during this period the
infant's brain, arms, legs, and internal organs are formed.
For this reason a pregnant woman should be especially
careful about taking any kind of medication except on the
advice of a physician who knows that she is pregnant. X
rays should also be avoided, and pregnant women should
avoid smoking and alcohol consumption.
Human fetus
The implanted embryo consists of a hollow sphere, the
blastocyst, containing a mass of cells, called the embryonic
mass, attached by a stalk to one side of the encircling
membrane.
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Early in the second month the buds of the arms and legs
appear. The major internal organs begin to take shape, and
in about the sixth week bones and muscles begin to form.
By the third month the embryo is recognizable as that of a
primate, and is now called a fetus. It has a definite face,
with the mouth and nostrils distinct, and the external ears
are forming. By the end of the eighth week the tail has
usually been incorporated in the body, and in the 11th or
12th week the external genitals become evident. The
human embryo is especially vulnerable to the damaging
effects of X rays, of disease viruses such as measles, and
of certain drugs during the fourth to the eighth week of
gestation. These agents can result in the death of the
embryo or in the birth of a child with deformed limbs or
other abnormalities. By the fourth month an embryo has
developed obvious human features.
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Weeks Grams/KG
4 0.02 gram
8 1 gram
12 14 grams
16 100 grams
20 300 grams
24 650 grams
28 1,100 grams
32 1.7kg
36 2.5kg
40 3.5kg.
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FEATURES OF PREGNANCY
Symptoms
1. (a) Sudden and total cessation of menstrual periods in a
woman of child bearing age whose menstrual cycle where
regular, and who has engaged in sexual intercourse since
her last menstrual period.
(b) Note that pregnancy can occur during periods of
physiological amenorrhea (before menarche, during
lactation) or iatrogenic amenorrhea (after stopping oral
contraceptives).
2. Early morning nausea and vomiting, which occurs
from the 6th to 14th week.
3. Tenderness and tingling sensation in the breasts which,
in addition, fell full.
4. Frequent daytime urination, which is caused by
pressure on the bladder by the enlarging womb, in the first
12 weeks.
5. Sensation of feral movement in the abdomen. It is felt
around the 18th-20th week in first pregnancies, and 2 weeks
earlier in subsequent ones.
Signs.
1. Enlargement of the breasts.
(a) The areola skin, surrounding the nipple, becomes
darkened from the 8th week (primary areola). This sign
does not disappear after the first pregnancy, and is not a
useful sign in subsequent ones.
(b) The nipples are thicker and usually erect.
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(c) A clear fluid can be squeezed from the nipples after the
12th week. It is called colostrums, and becomes creamy
and yellowish as pregnancy progress. This sign is equally
not useful in the subsequent pregnancies.
(d) Sebaceous glands on the areola enlarge to form a ring
of small tubercles around the nipple.
(e) From the 20th week, the breast skin beyond the areola
becomes patchily pigmented. This is called the secondary
areola, and it disappears after delivery.
2. The womb enlarges progressively throughout
pregnancy, due to growth of fetus and uterine muscles.
3. From the 24th week, the mother can distinctly feel the
fetus 'kicking'. At the same time, various parts of its body
can be felt abdominally.
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ULTRASOUND
Ultrasound Imaging, medical diagnostic technique in
which very high frequency sound is directed into the body.
The tissue interfaces reflect the sound, and the resulting
pattern of sound reflection is processed by a computer to
produce a photograph or a moving image on a television.
Ultrasound can be used to examine many parts of the
body, but its best known application is the examination of
the fetus during pregnancy.
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BREAST FEEDING
For the first three to four days after the baby's birth, the
milk released from the mother's breast is colostrum, a
thick, yellowish fluid rich in protein, antibodies, and other
infection-fighting agents that is more concentrated than
mature breast milk. It is also lower in fats and
carbohydrates. Colostrum is replaced by early, or
transitional, milk, which is thinner, lighter in color, and
more plentiful. Within about two weeks of the baby's
birth, early milk is replaced by bluish-white mature milk.
The mother of a premature infant has milk higher in
protein and salt concentrations that meet her baby's
special needs.
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FAMILY PLANNING
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2. Withdrawal method
Withdrawal is the deliberate removal of the penis from the
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3. Abstinence
The avoidance of any sexual activity that could cause
pregnancy. This includes intercourse and other sexual
activities in which semen may come in contact with the
vulva (external female genitals) or vagina. Abstinence is
completely effective in preventing pregnancy, and it poses
no health risks.
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T H E R E V E R S I B L E B I RT H C O N T RO L
METHOD IN WOMEN
Women condom
The female condom acts as a barrier by forming a sheath
between the penis and the vagina, preventing sperm from
reaching and fertilizing an egg. The female condom is
made of polyurethane so it can be used with both water-
and oil-based lubricants. Like the male condom, it should
be used only once and removed immediately after
ejaculation. With typical use, the female condom's
effectiveness in preventing pregnancy is 79 percent.
The pill may not be suitable for women with high blood
pressure; heart, kidney, or gallbladder disease; a family
history of heart attack or stroke; a history of headaches or
depression; high cholesterol or triglycerides; epilepsy; or
diabetes. For the first two to three months of use, the pill
can cause a change in weight, nausea, and sometimes
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Cervical cap
A small, thimble-shaped latex cap that prevents pregnancy
by covering the cervix, (the opening of the uterus.) The
cap forms a seal around the cervix and is held in place by
suction. Spermicide placed in the hollow of the cap kills
any sperm that may slip through the suction seal. With
typical use, cervical caps are 80 percent effective in
preventing pregnancy in women who have not given birth
and 60 percent effective in women who have given birth.
Contraceptive injection
Drug containing one or more female sex hormones that is
injected into the muscles of a woman's arm or buttocks to
prevent pregnancy. These hormones halt ovulation, the
monthly release of an egg from the ovary. They also
thicken the mucus of the cervix (opening of the uterus),
making it difficult for sperm to pass into the uterus. In
addition, the hormones may prevent the lining of the
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Contraceptive patch
A small, plastic skin patch for women that releases low
doses of female sex hormones to prevent pregnancy. The
square-shaped patch measures 4.45 cm (1.75 in) on each
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Contraceptive ring
A small, flexible device inserted in a woman's vagina that
releases low doses of female sex hormones to prevent
pregnancy. This clear, colorless ring measures slightly over
5 cm (2 in) in diameter and is made of soft plastic. It
contains estrogen and progestin (a synthetic form of
progesterone). This hormone combination is similar to
that used in some types of birth control pills, and it works
in a comparable fashion to prevent pregnancy. When
absorbed by the body, these hormones inhibit the ovaries
from releasing an egg, thicken the mucus of the cervix
(opening of the uterus) to prevent sperm from reaching an
egg, and prevent the lining of the uterus from thickening
so that a fertilized egg cannot implant. This method of
birth control is 99 percent effective in preventing
pregnancy.
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Hormonal implant
These are flexible, plastic capsules inserted under the skin
of the upper arm in women to prevent pregnancy. The
capsules deliver small, continuous doses of
levonorgestrel, a synthetic female sex hormone that blocks
ovulation (the release of an egg from the ovaries) and
thickens the mucus of the cervix (opening of the uterus),
making it impossible for sperm to reach the egg.
Diaphragm
Diaphragm is a round, molded latex cup with a flexible rim
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Tubal sterilization
Aalso known as female sterilization, surgical operation in
which the fallopian tubes that extend from the ovaries to
the uterus are closed off. The operation permanently
prevents pregnancy by making it impossible for sperm to
reach an egg. Tubal sterilization is almost 100 percent
effective in preventing pregnancy.
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A woman may feel sore, tired, gassy, or bloated for the first
few days after the operation. Possible complications of
tubal sterilization include infection, bleeding, injury to the
intestines, and complications caused by general anesthesia.
Major complications are rare, occurring in only about 1
out of 1,000 cases.
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Circulation of blood
Having good circulation is critical to the erection process,
as signals from your brain need to send sufficient blood to
the penis. You should consider circulation boosting foods
and these are foods that are high in Omega-3 fatty acids
such as mackerel, salmon and sardines.
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As you can see to enjoy sex naturally, you need to have your
body in optimum condition and this involves eating foods
that improve your blood circulation and overall health.
Generally, a diet rich in oily fish, combined with eating
naturally from the earth and avoiding processed foods
will do the trick.
Naturally, sex is all about feeding your body with food that
are natural and healthy. if your body is in good condition,
chances are your sex drive will be too.
Yam
Researchers have discovered that Yams, especially wild
yams, scientifically known as Dioscorea villosa. are rich in
phytoestrogen a hormone known to be capable of
stimulating the ovaries to produce an egg from each side,
thereby resulting in the possible twin births.
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Black pepper
Several local herbs have been used to boost sex drive
among Nigerian men and women. But a recent study has
added West African black pepper the Ibo's call it Uziza
and the Yoruba's call it Ata iyere could be used to boost
sexual performance in men.
Bananas
For Women Bananas are the perfect foods to give you
endurance in the bedroom. Bananas have B vitamins
which convert carbohydrates into energy and may help
your body produce sex hormones such as testosterone.
Eating bananas few hours before sex keeps your energy
up. Good for both men and women. All the banana family
is good for your sexuality.
Vanilla
The smell of food is the most powerful aspect for making
men feel in the mood. In a study on aromas and their
effect on penile blood flow, it was found that smells which
remind men of the security and pleasure of their
childhood make them turned on. Vanilla seems to work for
this reason.
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Dark Chocolate
A recent Italian study concluded that women who eat
chocolate daily have more satisfying sex lives. Chocolate
contains chemicals that are linked to relaxation,
intoxication, and pleasure. T he chemical
phenylethylamine in chocolate has been found to trigger
feelings similar to falling in love. Men who know this
secret include it in their valentine gifts for ladies.
Ginger
Fresh ginger root stimulates your circulatory system which
in turn increases the blood flow to the genital areas.
Flaxseeds
Consuming one tablespoon of flaxseeds every day helps
to increase testosterone in the body. Flaxseeds are also
packed with essential fatty acids (omega-3, omega-6, etc.)
Failing to get enough fatty acids forces your body's
hormone levels to drop along with your desire. Try walnuts
if you don't like flaxseeds.
Oysters
Oysters are high in zinc which is a mineral the body needs
to produce testosterone. Zinc is often low in men who
have sexual dysfunction. Adding foods high in zinc, like
oysters, as well as pumpkin seeds and pine nuts, is essential
for a healthy sex life. Also, a recent study found that two
types of amino acids in mussels, oysters, and clams induce
a rush of sex hormones in the body. In addition, make sure
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PROBLEMS
OF
SEXUALITY
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SEXUAL DYSFUNCTIONS
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physician, if necessary.
phenomenon of sex
A disparity between the sexual appetite and
preferences of the couple
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LOW SEX DRIVE
Besides the period when the sexual organs in the male are
yet to reach maturity or when there are specific physical or
psychological hindrances, men generally have a higher sex
drive than women.
Sexually speaking, getting turned on is really not an issue
with men. It is women who mostly experience low sex
drive. While males may love to have sex, if possible,
everyday of the week, most women may find it too
demanding.
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MENOPAUSE
Menopause is the medical term for the end of a woman's
menstrual periods. This usually happens between the ages
45 and 60, but it can happen earlier. Many women say that
their sexual desire lessens during the time of menopause.
In many cases the cause is physical. Some women find that
sexual desire changes because of how they feel about
themselves during menopause. Sometimes, women may
experience low sex drive in menopause because they may
have been conditioned by the culture or over religiousity to
believe that the sole purpose of sex is to have babies, and
since they are no longer capable of having babies, they
basically see no need to engage in sex.
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2. Breathe:
Breathe slowly and deeply. Before reacting to the next
stressful occurrence, take three deep breaths and release
them slowly. If you have a few minutes, try out breathing
exercises such as meditation or guided imagery.
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3. Slow Down:
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by stress, practice
speaking more slowly than usual. You'll find that you think
more clearly and react more reasonably to stressful
situations. Stressed people tend to speak fast and
breathlessly; by slowing down your speech you'll also
appear less anxious and more in control of any situation.
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SEXUAL HARASSMENT
Sexual coersion
Sexual coersion means to force someone to have sex by
means of manipulation or threat. It often occurs in
situations where the coercer has a poor understanding of
sexual consent - for example, when boys think (or have
been told) that girls have to say "no" so they don't feel like
"sluts", even if what they really mean is "yes".
Sexual coersion can also arise when a partner with low self-
esteem fears they will lose their boyfriend/girlfriend if
they don't "put out". This type of coersion is often
perpetrated by ill-informed people who fail to put their
partner's needs and well-being on the same level as their
own.
Sexual violence
Sexual violence is a pervasive global health and human
rights problem. In some countries approximately one in
four women may experience sexual violence by an intimate
partner. Sexual violence has profound immediate and
long-term consequences on women's physical and mental
health.
Sexual assault
Sexual assault and abuse is any type of sexual activity that
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RAPE
TYPES OF RAPE
A. Forcible Rape
Sexual intercourse carried out against a person's will by the
use or threat of physical force is sometimes referred to as
forcible rape. Historically, a person could only be charged
with rape if force was used to subdue the victim.
B. Acquaintance Rape
When a person rapes a person he or she knows, it is called
either acquaintance rape or date rape. The two people may
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C. Marital Rape
Rape of a person's spouse is called marital rape or spousal
rape.
D. Statutory Rape
Sexual intercourse with a person who has not reached the
age of consent is known as statutory rape. The age of
consent for sexual intercourse varies depending on state
law, but is no higher than 18 in any country. if a person has
sexual intercourse with someone who is drugged or asleep,
or who is mentally retarded, that person may be found
guilty of rape.
Effects on victims
Women who are raped suffer a sense of violation that goes
beyond physical injury. They may become distrustful of
men and experience feelings of shame, humiliation, and
loss of privacy.
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Defensive tactics.
The following are advice from Masters and Johnson for
women who may face attempted rape:
help.
If you cannot scream load enough, fight the rapist
with anything available (hitting, biting, and kicking).
Hit the rapist in the groin to temporarily demobilize
him.
Sometimes psychological tricks such as telling the
rapist that she has AIDS or some other contagious
disease, or simply that she is having her period, have
achieved positive results.
If the woman can force herself to vomit, to urinate
or to defecate, the rapist will often give up on his
intentions.
Faking a fainting spell when the victim is being
taken to a car or to an isolated spot may be a
discouraging factor for the rapist.
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PROBLEMS ASSOCIATED
WITH PREGNANCY
1. Bleeding in pregnancy:
Bleeding in pregnancy can occur anytime. It could be a
stain in the panties or stain on the bed-sheet. Seek urgent
medical attention as soon as you notice the slightest trace
of blood during pregnancy.
2. Ectopic pregnancy:
This is a type of bleeding that is common at the early stage
of pregnancy, usually the first 3 months of pregnancy.
Under a normal circumstance the growing baby or
fertilized egg usually implant itself in the uterus for
growth. But in Ectopic pregnancy the fertilized eggs fails
to make their way normally into the uterus, and therefore
development begins to take place outside the uterus.
Ectopic pregnancy is also called mini-placed. Since the
commonest place is the lining of the fallopian tube of the
oviduct it normally burst, because this lining is very thin,
and is surrounded by a thin muscle wall. And as the
embryo grows, it's placenta eats into the muscle wall,
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3. Placenta Praevia :
This type of bleeding do most times occur at the late
middle (5-6months) or (7-8months) of the pregnancy.
This is the case in which the placenta of the growing baby
in the uterus is not properly attached and imbedded. A
normal placenta should be situated at the upper uterine
segment (the fundus part of the uterus), but in the case of
placenta praevia, the placenta is situated wholly or partially
in the lower uterine segment of the uterus. The stretching
and dilatation of the lower section of the uterus during the
latter weeks of pregnancy causes premature separation of
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4. Miscarriage or Abortion:
This is an expulsion of the growing baby in the uterus
before 28 weeks of gestation. Miscarriage or abortion is at
times a natural way in which nature eliminates an abnormal
pregnancy or abnormal growing baby in the womb.
Causes: There are many reasons why miscarriage occur,
some of them are listed below:
(i) Abnormal pregnancy
(ii) Cervical incompetence (the inability of the neck of
the womb to close normally).
(iii) Poisonous drugs
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INFERTILITY
Causes of infertility
A. Conditions Affecting Both Partners
A number of factors that affect males and females alike
can increase the risk of infertility. Perhaps the most
common problem is age. The older a person is, the more
difficult it is to become pregnant. Over the last 20 to 30
years there has been a trend to delay childbearing, often
until women are in their 30s. A woman reaches her peak
fertility at age 18 or 19, with little change until the mid-20s.
As she approaches age 30, her hormone levels start to
decline and her fertility also begins a slow decline, with a
more rapid decline after age 35. Menopause, which occurs
in the late 40s to early 50s in most women, marks the end
of a woman's natural ability to bear children. A man's
fertility decline is not as rapid and has no clear-cut end
point, but a man of 50 has lower hormone levels and is
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1. Sperm Abnormalities
Low sperm count is the most frequent cause of male
infertility. Although ultimately only one sperm is required
for fertilization, men whose semen (fluid produced during
ejaculation) contains less than 20 million sperm per
milliliter frequently have infertility problems.
2. Structural abnormalities
Some men have anatomical abnormalities that impair or
prevent fertility. The most common structural problem
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3. Medical disorder
A number of medical disorders may cause male infertility.
Infections such as sexually transmitted infections,
prostatitis (infection of the prostate gland), and mumps
contracted as an adult may lead to scarring and obstruction
of the reproductive organs. Certain medications,
including some prescribed to control high blood pressure
(calcium channel blockers and beta blockers), ulcers
(cimetidine), and depression (MAO inhibitors), can impair
testicular function. Exposure to high levels of
environmental toxins, including lead, mercury, and certain
pesticides, may also affect male fertility. Some men have
insufficient hormone levels, resulting in low sperm count
or improper testicular function.
1. Structural Abnormalities
Some women are born with reproductive systems that
have anatomical irregularities, or infection or injuries may
damage certain reproductive organs. Blocked fallopian
tubes are a frequent cause of female infertility, accounting
for up to 35 percent of cases among females. Scar tissue
that blocks the fallopian tubes - caused by infection,
inflammation, or a condition called endometriosis -
prevents eggs from meeting sperm.
2. Hormonal Imbalance
A frequent cause of infertility in women is abnormal
ovulation. Normally one egg will be released each month
about midway through the menstrual cycle, under the
direction of several hormones. If any of these hormones
are not functioning, ovulation will occur irregularly or
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3. Other factors
A number of other factors also may contribute to female
infertility. Once inside the female's cervix, sperm may
encounter obstacles. The cervical mucus (thick fluid that
protects the cervix and uterus from infection) may be too
thick for the sperm to penetrate, or it may be chemically
hostile to the sperm. A fertilized egg may become stuck in
the fallopian tube and result in an ectopic pregnancy.
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Treatment
Once the cause or causes of infertility are determined,
doctors devise a strategy for the couple to increase their
fertility. Structural problems, such as varicoceles or
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a. Fertility drugs
Experts estimate that more than 75 percent of infertility
cases due to hormonal problems can be treated with
fertility drugs. One or more fertility drugs, such as
clomiphene, human menopausal gonadotropin (HMG),
and an injectable form of follicle-stimulating hormone,
may be prescribed to women to treat ovulatory disorders,
such as failure to ovulate or infrequent or erratic ovulation.
Fertility drugs may also be used to treat male infertility. For
example, men may use HMG to stimulate sperm
production.
MENOPAUSE
Menopause is when a woman's menstrual period stops
permanently. Period can stop for a while and then start
again, so a woman is considered to have been through
menopause only after one year without periods.
Symptoms
Irregular periods
Vaginal dryness
Hot flashes
Night sweats
Sleep problems
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Mood changes
Weight gain and slowed metabolism
Thinning hair and dry skin
Loss of breast fullness
Helpful lifestyles
Decrease vaginal discomfort by staying sexually
active also helps by increasing blood flow to the
vagina.
Get enough sleep. Avoid caffeine, which can make
it hard to get to sleep.
Exercise during the day.
Practise relaxation techniques. Deep breathing,
massage and progressive muscle relaxation can help
relieve menopausal symptoms.
Strengthen your pelvic floor. Exercise called kegel
exercise, can improve some forms of urinary
incontinence.
Eat healthy. Fruit, vegetables and whole grains and
reduce the saturated fats, oils and sugar.
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SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED
INFECTIONS (STIs)
Placenta
The placenta is responsible for respiration and excretion in
the growing fetus. Fetal blood flows through the blood
vessels of the umbilical cord to the placenta, where finger
like capillary nets are surrounded by pools of the mother's
blood. Here carbon dioxide and other metabolic wastes
diffuse from fetus to mother, and oxygen and nutrients
pass from mother to fetus. Some STDs can be passed from
an infected mother to her unborn child when disease-
causing organisms cross the placenta.
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2. Gonorrhea
Gonorrhea, caused by the bacterium Neisseria gonorrhoeae,
infects the membranes lining certain genital organs. Like
Chlamydia, gonorrhea is often symptomless. When
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3. Syphilis
Syphilis, a potentially life-threatening STI, is caused by the
bacterium Treponema pallidum. In the early stage of syphilis,
a genital sore, called a chancre, develops shortly after
infection and eventually disappears on its own. If the
disease is not treated, the infection can progress over years,
affecting the vertebrae, brain, and heart, and resulting in
such varied disorders as lack of coordination, meningitis,
and stroke. Syphilis during pregnancy can be devastating
to the fetus, causing deformity and death, it is good that
pregnant women receive screening for the disease in the
first weeks of pregnancy so that the disease can be treated
before the fetus is harmed. In essences, untreated Syphilis
causes damage to the nervous system and may lead to
madness. Syphilis is easily treated with penicillin.
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4. Genital herpes
Genital herpes is caused by infection with the herpes
simplex virus (HSV). Most cases of genital herpes are due
to HSV type 2. Some cases, however, result from genital
infections with HSV type 1, a common cause of cold
sores. Genital herpes causes recurrent outbreaks of
painful sores on the genitals, although the disease often
remains dormant with no symptoms for long periods.
Blood tests can detect HSV infection, even if a person has
no symptoms. The symptoms of HSV can be treated with
antiviral drugs, such as acyclovir, but HSV cannot be
eradicated from the bodyit is incurable.
5. Hiv/Aids
More than 42 million people around the world are
currently infected with human immunodeficiency virus
(HIV), the virus that causes acquired immunodeficiency
syndrome (AIDS). New HIV infections have leveled off
or even declined in most developed countries, but the
virus is spreading rapidly through much of the developing
world. In some areas of sub-Saharan Africa, one in four
adults is carrying the virus.
Symptoms of AIDS
The following are some of the minor and major symptoms
of AIDS: rapid weight loss, prolonged diarrhea, white coat
on the tongue and enlargement of glands in the neck,
groin and armpit. Others are persistent fever, persistent
cough, pneumonia, loss of appetite. Skin infection e.g.
Kaposi sarcoma- a form of skin cancer, e.t.c.
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7. Genital warts
Genital warts grow on the penis and in and around the
entrance to the vagina and anus. They are caused by a
family of viruses known as human papillomavirus (HPV)
that are transmitted during sexual intercourse. Genital
warts are treatable with topical medications and can be
removed with minor surgical procedures. Certain types of
HPV that cause genital infections can also cause cervical
cancer. Regular pap smear screenings can detect cervical
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8. Trichomoniasis,
Trichomoniasis caused by infection with the protozoan
Trichomonas vaginalis, causes burning, itching, and
discomfort in the vagina in women and the urethra in men.
Trichomoniasis is easily treated with a single dose of
antibiotics.
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that bacteria from your anus will not get into your
vaginal area.
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INFIDELITY
Understanding infidelity
It can happen to anybody.
Society (you and I) glorifies infidelity, in the
following ways
The media, movies romance novels, etc.
Sex saturated culture- sex sells
Lack of honest discussion of sex by
parents when raising their children.
The marital vow of fidelity does not guarantee it.
Even the happiest couples can either or both be
guilty.
It is possible to avoid infidelity.
Divorce is not always a solution.
You are in a better way to help your cheating spouse.
Get professional help, if need be; your marriage is
worth the fight.
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Egoistic problem.
Men generally believe that they are the most superior
beings in the family and they have right to do whatever
they choose. Some men cheat just to prove this fact. Most
men want to be in charge.
Good meal.
The road to a man's heart is good food and good sex.
Some women don't care about the food they give to their
husband. They cook salty, tasteless and unbalance diet.
When their husband communicate these problems to
them, some of them don't take a conscious step towards
the heart desire of their husband thereby sending him to
another woman who can cook better.
To be in charge.
Most men have childhood sexual fantasies that they still
long to actualize When a man is restricted from exploring
the world of sex he feels rejected and any opportunity to
get someone who would let them express these fantasies
could give him greater sense of control over his manhood.
Men don't want to be limited, they like to have oral sex, go
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External influence.
Infidelity is the order of the day in some social gatherings,
men attends parties with another woman who is not their
wife. Some men do it because their friends are doing it not
necessarily because they enjoy doing so. They are doing it
for sense of belonging.
Childless Marriage
In this part of the world we don't believe in childless
marriage. After about a year of marriage (depending on
the tribe, status and culture of the family), the relatives
expects to hear the announcement of the birth of a baby.
When this does not happen for a protracted period, the
relatives may put pressure on the man to secretly take a
second wife. In trying to look for solution, all kinds of
advice comes, and if the man in question is not matured to
handle this pressure, it could lead to infidelity in other to
prove that all is well with him.
Health reasons
Men could cheat on their spouse if she is having some
serious heath problem. For instance, women who
experience problems from the beginning of their
pregnancy. Women experiencing uncontrollable genital
odor could put a man off sexually.
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Emotional imbalance
Women are emotional being and they need someone
especially their spouse to fill in their emotional bank. Lack
of expression of love to her could affect her emotions and
this could lead to infidelity. Sometimes women feel they
are being used as a means to satisfy the sexual urge of their
spouse without them getting enough satisfaction .
Rape victims
Married women who have experienced rape in the past
find it difficult to concentrate when their in a sexual
activity with their spouse because the image of the past
keeps flashing their mind especially if their spouse have
the same look, height, size of the person who rape them in
the past. A woman in this state tends to appreciate and
likes to associate sexually with men who has opposite
characteristic of the rapist.
Financial Care
Women generally like to be financially pampered. They like
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External influence
Pressure from admirers. Infidelity in women could be as a
result of unemployment. In most corporate organization
today women secure employment or keep their job by
dancing to the tune of their admirer. However this could
continue as long as they intend to keep their job.
Sometimes it could go beyond just one person. A woman
can have 3 admirers in the same establishment and all of
them occupy powerful position in the establishment. She
may find herself having to sleep with them all to keep her
job.
Diminished intimacy
Less arguing and fighting
More phone calls, internet
Changes in the children behaviour
Late nights
Men
Try to be romantic
Pet and play with your wife
Give her surprise gift
Adore her in public
Discuss all your female friends with your spouse.
Endure in sickness and late part of pregnancy and
early stage of child birth.
Provide for your wife's needs.
Be financially transparent to your wife
Avoid hanging out with a female friend in a
secluded environment.
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Women
Don't deny your husband sexually
Be attractive all the time
Take good care of your body
Learn to say No to your admirers
Play active role during sex.
Openly Flirt with your husband in the public.
Cook good meal
Keep a clean, healthy and uncluttered surrounding.
Be unique, attractive and smart all the time
Ignore Men who sing your praises and talk more
about your husband's inabilities to get your
attention.
Learn new things all the time especially what your
husband like and talks about.
Be neat.
Pray for grace.
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TYPES OF EJACULATION
DISORDERS
Early Ejaculation: This term is used for cases in which
ejaculation occurs even before introduction into the
vagina.
ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
An erection is a complex event that requires the
interaction of the brain, nerves, hormones, and blood
vessels. This process is separate from ejaculation and
orgasm, both of which can occur without an erect penis.
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Ways of occurences
A man may be unable to get an erection at all.
A man may lose his erection during intercourse,
before he ejaculates.
Illnesses
Illnesses that may affect erections includes:
Diabetes
High blood pressure
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Heart condition
Poor circulation
Kidney failure
Thyroid deficiency
Multiple sclerosis
Chronic alcoholism
Spinal cord injury
Depression.
Physical condition
Injections work best for men with erectile dysfunction due
to: Psychological factors, such as the vicious circle of
failure. Neurological problems, such as diabetes or
multiple sclerosis
Stress
Stress related to a job, marriage, or finances is a common
cause of erection problems. Ongoing stress may result in
erectile dysfunction, which in turn increases stress.
Misinformation
Sex is still wrapped up in myths and misinformation. Men
and women who are unaware of normal changes in
sexuality may react with fear and worry when something
goes wrong. Unrealistic expectations- like trying to
bring a partner to orgasm every time during intercourse-
can make sex a task rather than a pleasure.
Poor communication
Sex is a form of communication. Couples who cannot
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Solution
Modern treatment of impotence takes into account both
the physical and psychological causes of the condition.
Many impotent men have been affected originally by a
purely physical problem, but by the time they seek
treatment, their condition is complicated by psychological
factors.
Medical solution
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Counseling
Medical solutions
Medical solutions- The best person to approach is your
own doctor, who might be able to help you or who can
recommend someone else. You may be referred to an
urologist, a medical specialist with advanced training to
deal with issues surrounding erectile dysfunction
Counseling
Counseling- The role of counseling is very important
especially when the entire test conducted on a patient do
not point to a physical cause. Many men find the help they
need through sexual counseling. You should choose a
therapist who is a licensed and qualified psychiatrist,
psychologist, physician, or social worker. For best result,
your partner should be included in the counseling.
PROSTATE CANCER
Prostate cancer is a disease which only affects men. Cancer
begins to grow in the prostate or gland in the male
reproductive system. Prostate cancer is mostly a very slow
progressing disease. Infact, many men die of old age,
without ever knowing they had prostate cancer.
Symptoms
During the early stages of prostate cancer there are usually
no symptoms. Most men at this stage find out they have
prostate cancer after a routine check up or blood test.
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Genetics
Statistics indicate that genetics is definitely a factor in
prostate cancer risk. It is more common among certain
racial groups. A man has a much higher risk of developing
cancer if his identical twin has it. A man whose brother or
father had prostate cancer runs twice the risk of
developing it compared to other men.
Diet
A diet high in vegetable consumption greatly reduces the
risk of prostate cancer.
A diet high in red meat may raise a person's chances of
developing prostate cancer.
Lack of vitamin D: it is very important for men to include
meal that contain a high content of vitamin D such as
mushrooms, mackerel fish, sardines, catfish, tuna fish,
eggs and cod liver oil.
Sunshine
Daily exposure to sunshine can seriously increase your
vitamin D intake.
Obesity
Overweight and obese men are at high risk of prostate
cancer
STD's
Men who have had gonorrhea have a higher chance of
developing prostate cancer.
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REFERENCES
Claire Etaugh and Bridges (2006) Women lives:
A Topical Approach, Person Education, Inc.
WEBSITE
www.allholistichealth.com
www.buzzle.com/
www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topic/parents
www.womenshealthmag.com/
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LIST OF ACRONYMS
AIDS - Acquired Immunodeficiency
Syndrome
ART - Assisted Reproduction Technologies
ED - Erectile Dysfunctions
FSH - Follicle Stimulating Hormone
GIFT - - Gamete Intra Fallopian Transfer
HIV - Human Immunodeficiency Virus
HPV - Human Pailloma Virus
HMG - Human Menopausal Gonadotrophin
ICSI - Intra Cytoplasmic Sperm Injection
IVF - In Vitro Fertilization
PGD - Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis
PID - Pelvic Inflammatory Disease
STIS - Sexually Transmitted Infections
WHO - World Health Organization
ZIFT - - Zygote Intra Fallopian Transfer
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http://www.fertilityhandbook.com/pages/reproductive-health-overview/male-
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OUR MISSION
To educate, inform every member of the family on their sexuality.
OUR VISION
By 2027 in Nigeria 50,000,000 people from all works of life,
which cut across age, sex, socio-economic status, educational
levels and religious background will be literate on their sexuality in
Nigeria.
GLOBAL VISION
By 2035 great number of people all over the world would be
aware and be informed on the importance of exploring and
experiencing a positive sexuality.
OBJECTIVES
To make clear the importance and power of sex for the
married couples in shaping their life now and in the future.
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FOCUS AREAS
Sexuality and career
Sexuality and Diseases
Sexuality and Marriage
Sexuality of Infant , Teenagers and Adolescents
Contact:
GSM: 234-80-23269835; 234- 80-33812349
Email: behindddoor@yahoo.com ;
shadeunique@yahoo.com
folashadeunique@gmail.com
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