Get That One Special

Girl
A Dating & Love Guidebook
for Men: Stop Playing the
"Game" and Keep Her For
Good!
Antoinette Cabral
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Acknowledgements
Introduction
Who is Antoinette and why is she teaching this?
How to get the most out of this book!
Table of Contents
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
 Acknowledgements
I want to acknowledge all the amazing people
who helped get this book together in lightning
speed because the men are ready for this
information. To Umoh, Anita, Trisha and Mari:
thank you for your love, support and sisterhood. I
love you beautiful ladies! Adam, you are
blessing in my life. Thank you for providing
encouragement and for truly seeing me.
Jonathan, I adore you. Thank you for donating the
cover of this book. You make a great son.
Deepak, youve been so awesome sharing with
me the empowered masculine point of view so
well. All of you are my angels, and I love you!
 Introduction
Hello handsome! My name is Antoinette. Thank
you for reading and purchasing this e-book. It
means a lot to me. So, from the bottom of my
heart, I want to let you know that you can Get
That One Special Girl in your life and keep her.
Because of your desire and willingness to be
open you are well on your way and probably
closer than you think.
Successful relationships are a big enigma for
both men and women. I think God was having fun
when he/she created men and women with
different needs and desires on a biological,
emotional, and spiritual level. Men are opposite
from women, and trying to understand the
opposite sex is pretty comical to me. Sometimes,
I laugh out loud thinking how funny life can be. I tell
women and I share this with you, Men think
women are crazy, and women think men are
stupid. Do you agree?
This e-book is meant to be fun, give you insight
into the heart of a radiant and confident woman,
and understand a womans ever changing
emotions. More than anything, I give you powerful
tools and techniques for you to Get That One
Special Girl and keep her in your life.
This one special girl is the new modern woman.
She is both radiant and confident . What does
this look like? Let me tell you about her right now.

For dictionary purposes here are the definitions:

Radiant [rey-dee-uhnt] adj

1. sending out rays of light; bright; shining

2. characterized by health, intense joy,

happiness, etc.

Confident [kon-fi-duhnt] adj

1. having or showing confidence or certainty; sure
confident of success

2. sure of oneself; bold

This modern woman is not the same woman who

came out of the 60s and 70s feminist movement
who says she can do everything herself, nor is
she a woman who is needy, insecure and
submissive.

This radiant and confident woman knows who

she is. She radiates with beauty, love,
compassion, and her heart is filled with laughter
and play. She loves men, believes in men and
knows that with her man, they can thrive in the
world togeth er. Plus, she has a mission and
purpose in life. With her man, they can make the
world a better place.

This brings about the New Relationship

Model. This new relationship model is not
based on ownership, jealousy, neediness or
expectation. It is based on feeling whole. Each
person is filled with joy, passion and love. They
communicate, share feelings and are honest with
each other. When these two people come
together, they know that are enhancing each
others lives to bring more to the table than they
can individually. They know how to thrive in
relationship.

Plus, your sex life is going to be an amazing

adventure in this new kind of relationship.
Because you are able to make her feel safe,
cherished and respected, she is open to explore,
try new things, play, and ask for what she wants in
and out of the bedroom. She will be a lady around
your friends and naughty in the bedroom with
you, the perfect union.

Sounds pretty hot, doesnt it?

I think so! I am here to assist you so that a radiant
and confident woman chooses YOU! Then, Ill
show you how to make her safe and cherished so
you can have amazing experiences together!
This time you Get That One Special Girl without
having to play games and for more than a night or
two. YOU will have her just as excited about you
as you are about her!
Who is Antoinette and why is she
teaching this?
I am a Dating and Intimacy Expert for Successful
Men. People always ask me how I got into this
field.
Growing up, I was the ugly duckling, rejected by
pretty much everyone around me. I went to a
small private school. When I would walk into my
classroom everyone would point at me, call me
names and laugh. I was horrified. This happened
for six years. When I would come home my family
was not available either. There was much sibling
rivalry because my parents were not available. I
was not happy with my life. Actually, I was
depressed. This directly affected my self-esteem
and confidence.

I hated my life. I took my insecurities into my love

life. With my first boyfriend, I was so needy. All my
insecurities that I had with my body surfaced.
Everyday I would ask my boyfriend, Do you love
me? Do you think I am beautiful? He grew tired
of this and said, Antoinette, you are beautiful! If
you were more confident, then you would be more
attractive. Ouch! This was a true wake-up call.
Yes, I was insecure and that insecurity projected
a sense of being ugly to those around me.

Do you want to be with a needy and insecure

woman? Hell no! You want to be with a woman
who is comfortable and confident in her own skin,
of course! Well, that is exactly what I wanted to be
when I realized that being an ugly duckling
wasnt working for me. This started me on my
journey of self-love, confidence and adventure.

I traveled around the world and had the time of my

life. I lived in Hawaii, climbed waterfalls and
jumped off 65-foot cliffs. I slept on the beaches of
New Zealand and harvested live mussels for my
lunch. I got chased by a Komodo dragon off the
island of Rinca and lived to tell the experience. I
would meditate in the temples in Northern
Thailand for days on end. I learned how to cook,
throw amazing parties, and connect to my body
as a celebration of being a woman. I learned to
dance like no one was watching and savor the
small and special moments of my life. I learned
how to be comfortable in my own body, build my
confidence through personal development and by
studying with Master Teachers all over the world.
Most of all, I was living by my own rules of making
my life a celebration and an adventure.

As I embraced my own radiance, I also started to

relate to men in a whole new way! Great men
were drawn to my playful spirit, my open heart, my
confidence, my sense of adventure and fun. With
a man, my playful spirit invited men into the
adventure of the feminine like traveling to an
exotic country. How fun is that? Arent you tired of
going on dates where there is drama or it seems
like a job interview? Im sure you are.

As I learned how to be magnetic to men, it helped

me create tools and a lifestyle that caused me to
embrace beauty, confidence, playful spirit and a
connection to my body in way that brought
pleasure and passion into both our lives.

As I embraced my radiance and confidence , I

started to attract amazing men in my life. I loved
getting to know men on a personal level. Learning
about men was an adventure for me. It was like
learning a new and fun language. I had so much
fun getting to know men and how different they
are from women.

I have a fun story to tell you.

I remember living in Northern Thailand. Have you

ever received a Thai massage? Well, its a very
intimate experience. You are stretched while
receiving gentle yoga moves and a massage at
the same time. One day, while taking a Thai
massage course, I was partnered up with a hot
Spanish man that I had a crush on. It was a hot
day, and the air conditioning wasnt working.
Everyone in class was dripping with sweat.
While he was on his back, I was practicing a Thai
technique. I was trying not to get sweat on him,
and at the same time wanting to say something to
him in the little Spanish I knew. I said to him,
Estoy caliente! thinking I was saying that it was
hot in the room. He looked at me with big eyes
and said, Do you know what you just said to
me? I said, Yes, its so hot in the room. No,
you said that you are horny! Oh boy! Ha-ha. That
was the start of a new love affair.

Traveling gave me tools to be present with a

man. We would explore Northern Thailand by
motorbike, talk for hours about life, love, travel
and anything our heart desired. His heart was so
open. Some days he would just hold me and tell
me how beautiful I was. He would whisper
beautiful and enchanting words in my ears. I felt
safe and protected by him, and my heart and
body opened up to him because of this. I loved
how open he was. We danced, played music,
tried amazing food, bathed in the hot springs, and
most of all, we both loved connecting to each
other. Sometimes it was with words. Sometimes
it was just being in each others presence. We
both loved without conditions, and experienced
an amazing, enchanting love affair. The thing I
remember most about him was my ability to trust
him because of his ability and willingness to
connect with me. He emailed me not too long ago
after finding me online. He said he remembered
our passionate love affair. It was through these
enchanting personal experiences with men that I
discovered powerful principles to creating
amazing relationships.
This adventure of learning about men was an
amazing time in my life. I started to take classes
on men because I was fascinated by their
differences. This gave me more grounded and
specific information about men. Here are some
fun things that I have learned:
Men are simple. You like to protect,
provide, eat good food and hunt for
women. I love it when a man wants to
protect. It makes women feel safe.
Grounded and heart-centered men are
attracted to healthy and confident women.

Men notice a womans energy by her

body language. You are so perceptive and
more intuitive than we give you credit for.

If a woman you like is happy, you want to

be around her. If she is not happy, you
 want to fix it so that she is. I love that you
want to make women happy.

Your testosterone levels are high. You

think about sex more than you admit to
women. Your thing has a mind of its own!

You hate being rejected by women.

Womens emotions are very hard for you
to understand. You are confused by a
womans ever-changing emotions.
Sometimes you think women are crazy.
Despite all the bad experiences youve
had with women, you will protect and fight
for the right woman.
With the right woman, you will want to be
a better man for her.

There is nothing better than a woman who

will believe in you and stand by her man.

You like to solve problems, and fix things.

I love this!
With this knowledge, I started coaching women
on how to be magnetic and irresistible to the right
man. I have successfully coached women on how
to find their soul mates and bring out the best in
their men. Ive trained, coached, worked with, and
I am friends with over a thousand women all
around the world. Going from ugly duckling to a
radiant and confident woman gave me the
powerful tools I needed to help you Get That One
Special Girl and keep her.
Testimonial:
Thanks to Antoinette, her amazing work and
insights, I went from being a self-conscious
doormat in an abusive marriage to a confident,
self assured, empowered goddess who is
radiant and magnetic. So much so, I often find
myself surrounded by men all vying for my
attention. In fact, recently I was the center of
attention surrounded by 12 firemen all in
uniform, every girl's dream! Although I have yet
to select the man I want for myself, I'm having
the most amazing and juicy time deciding.
I highly recommend Antoinette to anyone who's
looking to embody his or her confidence and to
embrace the sensual way of life. I know if I can
come from the worst of the worst to a space of
honoring and empowering myself, anyone can."
Lisa S, Vancouver, Canada
I started coaching men with even more success.
You need to be the man that the right woman
wants to be with. If you want to Get That One
Special Girl its not about games or strategy, its
about breaking the pattern of attracting the wrong
woman, and being grounded in the amazing man
that you already are.
 How to get the most out of this
book!
I have created a 7-step proven and powerful
formula for success to Get That One Special
Girl and keep her! The first chapter on
confidence is meant to be the foundational step
to your success. Embodying your confidence as
a man is essential. Master each chapter to
secure your foundation. When you get to the top
of the stairs, you Get That One Special Girl.

If you choose to follow my system, I guarantee it

will change your life forever. I believe in my
system because it has changed lives and
continues to do so! You can also choose to work
with me in a private mentorship or by joining a
group program in conjunction with the book. You
are not designed to do things alone. Receiving
support from me, a radiant, confident and
compassionate woman, will help you achieve
your goals even quicker because I can see your
dating and love blind spots.
This is my mission in life. I want people to be in
healthy and thriving relationships. I know that
when you are happy great things are possible!
Plus, two people together can inspire others to
make the world a better place.

I hope this book will inspire you to be the best you

can be, so you Get That One Special Girl to say
YES to you for good. I believe in YOU!
 Table of Contents
Chapter 1: The #1 quality that attracts a high
caliber woman.
Chapter 2: Defining the "empowered
masculine" man.
Chapter 3: Understand the mystery behind a
womans ever changing emotions.
Chapter 4: Stop attracting the wrong woman,
and Get That One Special Girl.

Chapter 5: Chemistry vs. Compatibility

Chapter 6: How to find her. How to get her to
notice you. Know what really turns her on.

Chapter 7: Interesting questions and fun dates

to Get That One Special Girl to notice YOU!

Chapter 8: Questions that men have asked me.

Chapter 9: Whats next?
 Chapter 1
How to feel more confident with
women.
The #1 quality that attracts a high
caliber woman.
If you want to attract a confident and radiant
woman, you must be confident and magnetic
yourself. Being confident is very sexy and shows
up in the way you move and present yourself.
Your body language can represent more than
90% of the impression you make on people. A
radiant woman wants her man to exude
confidence and passion, not arrogance!

Arrogance is displaying a sense of overbearing

importance to make yourself superior. In other
words, acting like or thinking you are better than
everyone else. Confidence is a feeling that
comes from within. A mistake that some men
make is confusing arrogance with confidence, but
arrogance i s a big t urn-off to women. Having a
strong understanding of the difference between
the two can make or break your ability to connect
with that one special woman.

Modern women are attracted to men who exude

a level of confidence and passion in their lives.
There is something inside of a woman that trusts
and wants to be around a man who knows who
he is. This type of man is incredibly sexy, even if
he isnt as physically attractive or wealthy as other
men.

For many man, your confidence is based on your

career and ability to produce. This brings you
confidence. Beyond your state of being,
confidence and magnetism is a state of mind,
too. For the modern woman, your ability to
produce is attractive, but not the most important.
What she is looking for is a deep connection, so
she can feel safe and trust you. So if you can
learn to be confident in who you are, then how
much money you make is not as important. Also,
the modern woman enjoys making her own
money too. She still likes to be pampered and
taken out but she doesnt need you to pay the
bills.

When I dated a man who wasnt confident, I didnt

respect him on a deep level. I could believe in
him and encourage him as he built his career, but
if he didnt have confidence within himself, it
became challenging. I knew that he needed to
find that within. I couldnt give it to him. It was just
like my first relationship when I needed to find that
confidence inside of myself.

A couple of years ago I made this amazing

Pocahontas costume for a Halloween party. If I do
say so myself, I looked pretty smoking hot that
night. I walked into a party with my friends and
walked over solo to the kitchen area to check out
what was going on. This cute man with an
interesting costume walked up to me with a big
smile, and introduced himself as the pick-up
artist. He wanted to pick-up Pocahontas for the
night and keep me handcuffed to him! Because
of his confidence and friendly manner, I allowed
him to be attached to me for the night. I had a
blast while he lead me through the party and
introduced people to me as his captive
Pocahontas. That night was definitely an
adventure. You are probably thinking that I went
home with him that night. I did not! Radiant and
confident women dont sleep around. The first
thing that I was drawn to was his confidence.
When he asked me out on a date the next week, I
easily said yes.

Now, I am going to share some exercises with

you to break your confidence barriers and
activate your strength as a man. Get a pen and
paper for the following exercises. Make sure you
have some quiet time to yourself.

Exercises:
On a scale of 1-10, how confident are you
in life?
If you arent living your life from a scale
from a place of 10 then ask yourself, How
can I make my life a 10? What can I bring
into my life that will allow me to be more
confident? What can I do to feel more
grounded in being a man?

Think of a man you admire. What are the

qualities that he exemplifies that you want
to exude in your life? Ask yourself, How
can I bring these characteristics into my
life right now?
A powerful way for you to feel confidence
is to remember a time when you were
confident and successful. What were you
doing? What did you feel like? How did
this make you feel? What was your body
language like? What can you do to
recreate this experience in your life this
week?
Do you love and value yourself? Loving
 yourself first is the foundation of any
successful relationship. You do not need
her to validate your life. Fill your cup first.
Do things that allow you to appreciate who
you are as a man.

Are you living your purpose as a man?

Are you fulfilling your destiny and are you
doing what you came here to do? If not,
what will that look like and why? Ask
yourself, How can I fulfill my mission here
as a man? Write down three next steps to
accomplishing this in your life. Please note
that with a modern woman in your life, she
can inspire you to live your highest
potential as a man. You two can co-create
your purpose or even enhance each
others purposes.

Ive shared with you the number one quality that

one special woman is looking for...confidence.
Ive given you some great exercises to activate
this quality. Now, I am going to share with you the
secrets to feminine and masculine energetics.
This is important so listen up!
Testimonial:
Antoinette came into my life as I was going
through the worst possible time going through
a messy divorce and a toxic relationship. As
much as I knew I needed to get away; somehow
my wife still had a hold on me eventhough we're
nearly divorced. Antoinette has spent so much
quality time talking to me, helping me to learn
the importance of understanding myself, and
working on being the best me I can be. Most
importantly she has helped me to find the
good/blessings in everything. I saw what kept
me stuck and why I keep attracting the wrong
women. All of these things I owe to Antoinette
and absorbing her wisdom. It's amazing to find a
woman who understands men as well as
Antoinette. I am proud to call her a mentor and
more so a friend. Scott, Tallahassee, FL,
USA
 Chapter 2
How to understand feminine and
masculine energies.
Defining the "empowered
masculine" man.
This is an important chapter to read because
when you can understand how the masculine and
feminine energies work together it will help you
understand how to prepare yourself for the right
woman to choose YOU. In Eastern traditions they
know that there are two distinct energy bodies
when it comes to being a whole and complete
person. They call the energies Shakti and Shiva ,
but for the purpose of the book, I will call them
Feminine and Masculine energies.

Feminine energy: Flowing, creative, intuitive,

spontaneous, emotional, activated,
compassionate, complex, loving, collaborative,
cooperative, forgiving, connecting, receiving,
sensual, and internal.

Masculine energy: Straightforward, logical,

structured, linear, still, solid, grounded,
aggressive, protective, simple, providing,
singular, sexual, extroverted, needing space and
competitive.
These energies work together as opposed to
separate. These energies are not based on
gender. Because these two energies go hand
and hand, they do work quite well together. The
way that I see the energy is that you need to
cultivate both energies in the body to become
whole and complete.

The modern woman knows how to balance both

energies of masculine and feminine in her own
body. First, she is inspired by the feminine vision.
Next, she takes masculine action in order to
implement a goal. For example, she receives a
vision in her meditation that she wants to start a
new project. The creative vision comes strongly.
She writes and journals about it for a few days.
She waits until something inside of tells her to
start implementing a plan and take action on her
vision. The action part of the plan is the
masculine side. With both the feminine and the
masculine energies working together, she is able
to manifest a powerful new plan and implement it
with grace and power at the same time.

For men, youve been taught to not share your

feelings and, if you do, you would be considered
weak. You were taught, big boys dont cry. For
you to embrace the new and empowered
masculine man qualities, it is important for you to
be open to embracing your feminine side. This
will not take away from you being masculine. You
will balance the masculine and feminine energies
inside of you. I called the balance the
"empowered masculine". When you embody the
empowered masculine this will make you even
more attractive to a radiant and confident woman
because she wants to connect with you in this
way.

What does a "empowered masculine" man

look like?

Embraces healthy masculinity

Clear on his path and purpose

Solid as a man

In touch with his emotions without being

overwhelmed by them

Makes mistakes and learns from them

Able to take risks

 Wants to protect and provide, especially
for his woman

Is not afraid to embrace his "empowered

feminine" side

Is open to trying new things

Wants to learn what a radiant and
confident woman wants and is willing to
meet her halfway

A big complaint that I often hear from women is

that men rarely share their feelings or are not
open to trying new things. He goes into his cave.
He closes off. In these situations, I teach women
how to give men their space. Relationship does
go both ways. Hint: A woman can trust you even
more when you are able to share your feelings.
She will be able to trust you and connect to you
on a deeper level. I will be sharing with you more
details on why connection is important to
women.

In the meantime, here are some things to help

you open up to your feminine qualities.
Some Feminine Activities:
Dancing
 Playing
Creating
Visualizing
Journaling
Receiving a massage
Sharing feelings
Spending time in nature
Connecting and communicating
Cuddling
Being vulnerable

Some Masculine Activities:

Competing and watching sports
Implementing a plan
Debating
Being in your man cave
Spending time alone
Writing a business plan
Solving a problem
Fixing things
Destroying things
Protecting a woman
Being a hero
The empowered masculine man can have both.
What does this look like? You can be protective,
goal oriented, solid as a man, confident, but also
have an open heart and be vulnerable at the
same time. You are both strong and sensitive.
This is the magic formula of exactly what the
confident and radiant woman wants and needs in
a man. If you look at this percentage wise it would
be anywhere between 20-30% feminine and 70-
80% masculine. When you master this balance
you will be irresistible to this kind of women.
Feminine activities will allow you to connect with
a woman on a deeper level, which is what women
desperately crave. This will make you stand out
from all other men.

I am with a man who is communicative,

spontaneous, protective and a risk-taker. I am
drawn to him because he embodies the
empowered masculine qualities that I was
looking for in a man. When together, he continues
to be open and share with me without being too
feminine. He takes the lead and I still allow him
to protect me. Plus, he keeps me in check. I truly
feel safe to be with this man. He is open to try
new things and getting to know each other is
quite an adventure. We both naturally drop our
guard and we are open to new possibilities.
When I told my friends about him, they all agreed
that this was the type of man is a keeper. I feel
safe with him because we connect and I still feel
protected by him.

I coach and know incredibly amazing women

around the world. The complaints that I hear from
women are that men are emotionally closed off,
not open, do not know how to connect to them
and they don't feel that their men are there for
them consistently. If you are able to embrace your
empowered masculine qualities then a whole
new caliber of women will flood into your life. She
is looking for you, just as much as you are looking
for her. Good luck!
Testimonial:
Antoinette has been a friend, guide and
teacher to me. Her intuition is unmatched.
Within our first session together, Antoinette
zeroed in on my biggest challenge and began to
help me work through it. She is flexible in her
approach and was able to adjust her style to
match mine. When I initially struggled with an
exercise, she quickly adapted and led me
though one of the post powerful and emotional
moments Id ever had to help me see my true
potential as a man. Adam, San Francisco, CA
 Chapter 3
How to be with a radiant and
confident woman.
Understand the mystery behind a
womans ever changing
emotions.
You are dating a woman, you seem to get along
fine, but she seems to get moody at times. When
she tries to talks to you while you are focused on
something you seem to get annoyed and she
seems to get more emotional. When the two of
you do talk, her up and down emotions confuse
you. You are thinking What the fuck? This chick
is crazy! You try to help her, but she doesnt want
your help because you are trying to fix things. You
are so lost!

If you want to Get That One Special Girl you

must learn about a womans biological,
emotional, and spiritual needs.

A Womans Biological Needs:

A woman releases a bonding hormone called
oxytocin . Oxytocin is released through the vagas
nerve, the longest nerve in the body. Oxytocin
creates cooperation, empathy, and the balance
between the giving and the receiving. When men
or women are stressed they produce cortisol, a
chemical that negatively affects the body and
mind. Cortisol reduces the level of oxytocin in the
body. For the modern woman, she can release
oxytocin through deep breathing and feminine
practices, such as a soaking in a hot bath,
receiving a massage or spending time in nature.
Studies show that women are more susceptible
to stress than men. Keeping the oxytocin levels
high for a modern woman is important, so she
can counteract the affects of cortisol and stress in
the body. For any woman, her oxytocin levels will
increase through cuddling, receiving touch, or
connecting to her man. When a woman does
orgasm, she releases the highest amount of
oxytocin. You do not produce the level of oxytocin
that she does because of your level of
testosterone. After sex, if she wants to cuddle, let
her cuddle you. This is actually good for her AND
for you. She wants to connect and you will receive
the healing benefit of the oxytocin. This will keep
and strengthen the healthy bond between you.

Any woman can get off-balance, especially after

a long stressful day, which can lead her to be
acting needy and overly clingy. She will start to
produce more cortisol because of her stress
level. She actually can be a bit needy because
she wants you to replenish her oxytocin with you.
Here is how you can support her to avoid being
overwhelmed her needs. You can help her
replenish her own oxytocin! For example, when
you get home from work your levels of
testosterone has dropped tremendously because
you used all of it at work. Your body needs to
replenish itself and rebuild testosterone. This is
what causes you to go into your man-cave. You
want time to yourself, and she wants to bond and
talk. Here is a secret weapon for you. Think
ahead and solve the problem by saying:

"Honey, I am going to make you a bubble bath

so you can relax. While you relax, I just need
an hour to myself. After, we can spend quality
time connecting and I can give you my
undivided attention."
She will love you for this because her oxytocin
levels will be replenished by the bath, and you
solved the problem. Its a win-win for both of you!

Stay on the lookout for a woman who replenishes

her own oxytocin levels. She will more balanced.
You can recognize her by the activities she
participates in:
 Practices yoga
Meditates
Goes on spa days
Takes baths
Goes on hikes
Spends time in nature
Spends time alone
Spends quality time bonding with friends

Dances
She will have a natural glow to her and will rely on
you less to make her happy. Instead you will want
to be around her because of her positive energy.

A Womans Emotions:
The feminine is about connection and
relationships. For thousands of years before the
industrial and technology age, women lived
tribally and in community. While the men were off
hunting, women would stay home in community
with other women and support each other in
raising their children, gathering herbs and local
food, being emotional support, leading the tribe,
and creating rituals together. It is very natural for
women to connect and be around other women.
This is in her nature. Her first instinct is to want to
connect with others AND with you.
Your first instinct, as a man is to go off hunting
and to provide for your woman and your family.
When you come home and she immediately
wants to connect and emote. Understand that
this is who she is naturally. This is her nature. For
you, however, you might just want to come home,
relax and take space because you feel
overwhelmed. This is your nature. If both of you
could understand this, then your relationship can
become more empowered and fulfilling.

Also, she may talk and talk on a date because

she wants to connect. This most likely can
overwhelm you because you want her to get to
the fucking point! I highly suggest that you go on
dates where you engage in activity such as
dancing or going on an adventure, so you can
connect while the sharing the activity instead of
just sitting and talking.

A big reason her emotions might go up and down

is because she is not connecting to you in a way
that is natural. Her biology and instinct naturally
wants to share, cuddle, hold hands and
communicate. When she is not receiving this she
can feel rejected, disconnected, moody and
emotional.
In healthy relationships, there is a balance
between having space and connecting. If you
understand that she likes to connect and because
a modern woman understands that you like your
space, you can find a balance between
connecting and having space. You will find your
woman feeling happy and content helps make
your life much happier and content.

Feminine Energy:
In the last chapter, I shared with you how feminine
energy is so much different than masculine
energy because women are made to have much
more feminine energy than a man. Her nature is
spontaneous, creative, flowing and mysterious.
When a woman embraces her feminine energy,
she is soft, flowing, feminine, creative and
spontaneous. The feminine energy can change
from moment to moment. You love the mystery
and, at the same time, it drives you crazy! When
a woman is not grounded in her own spiritual
purpose or does not spend time processing her
feelings every month, her energy can be even
more scattered.
As a man, if you can be her solid rock and be
consistently there for her. She will feel calmer,
balanced and centered. Touch her hair. Hold her.
Look at her in the eyes. She will love and
appreciate this quality about you. You will
completely stand out from other men!!

Her spiritual purpose:

The new woman embraces her empowered
feminine by embracing 20% of her masculine
side. She values her career and purpose, and
she values the power and importance of love.
When a woman embraces her potential, taps into
her radiance and confidence, she will inspire you
which, ultimately, will cause you to naturally want
to protect her feminine vision. This cycle of give
and take in an empowered relationship is key.

Women have a strong sense of intuition and inner

knowing. With this gift, she is able to pick up on
things, discern whats bothering you and those
she loves. This ability is partly developed
because she has had to raise kids, run a family
and connect to community in order to help her
family thrive.

There is a certain time of the month when a

woman has the greatest ability to connect to her
spirituality and her empowered sensuality.
Because she has been living in this masculine
world for so long, she hasnt been fully able to
embrace her empowered feminine side.
Mainstream media has taught both women and
men that this time of the month is dirty for a
woman. Plus, a woman is taught to pretend that
this time of the month doesnt exist. The physical,
emotional and spiritual well being of a woman is
at stake because this is the time of the month
where a woman naturally cleanses emotions and
receives feminine wisdom. When a radiant and
confident woman does have the tools and space
to embrace this special time of the month, she
will release pent up emotions that she carries in
her body. She will be able to release negative
beliefs about relationship, sexuality, self-criticism,
self-doubt, fear, body shame and more when she
accesses her feminine wisdom. This will ground
and balance her in a beneficial way for both of
you. Last, when she does use this time of the
month wisely, her connection to her feminine and
sensual power will expand. Her fears around her
body, sensuality and sexuality can be healed in a
gentle way.
As an empowered man, you give her space
during this time of the month to allow her to
connect to her empowered feminine side. Since
her emotions are heightened, dont take it
personally and cut her some slack. She will love
you, inspire you, support you, partner with you
and champion you to your highest purpose and
calling. You will be embracing your masculine
side by being there consistently for her. She
needs you, the man in her life, to be her solid
rock. Your ability to protect her empowered
feminine vision is huge! She will inspire you to be
a better man with her love and light. Plus, a
woman who is in touch with her empowered
sensuality will make you a happier man in more
ways than one! This will create a stronger bond
between the two of you and create a foundation
of a thriving and sexy relationship.
The type of man who is willing to understand a
womans biology, emotions and spirituality is a
keeper. A high caliber woman is open to learning
about you and, when you learn about her,
together you will create a thriving and sexy
relationship. I highly recommend reading Dr.
Christiane Northrup's book, Women's Bodies,
Women's Wisdom to learn more about women
on a biological, emotional and spiritual level.
Next, I will share with you some powerful ways to
stop attracting the wrong woman and how to
attract the right woman.
Testimonial:
The information that Antoinette provides is pure
gold for the man who was open and ready to
receive it. I learned that I will attract the kind of
woman according to the energy I emanate. If I
am an angry person, I will only attract negative
women or with anger issues. If I am generous,
positive and pay attention to her needs I will
attract women who are open and ready to start a
healthy, mature and loving relationship. I also
learned some amazing secrets to unlock the
combination to her heart, to understand her
feelings, and why it is so important to listen and
to be aware of her true needs. Thank you
Antoinette!! Leo F.K., Los Angeles, CA
 Chapter 4
Stop attracting the wrong type of
women, and...
Get That One Special Girl.
I know this story quite well. I shared with you
earlier about my first relationship. As I started
learning how to be a radiant and confident
woman, I became a total man magnet. I loved all
the attention. Yes, it was fun. However, I wasnt
attracted to or interested in any of the men that
were interested in me. Bummer! I was so sad
and pissed at the same time. Then, I realized that
I kept attracting men who rejected me because I
was rejected by my family and peers while
growing up. Through my spiritual mentors tools, I
learned to understand my relationship "blocks"
that kept coming up in the men that I attracted.
This gave me the insight to help me see this
pattern being recreated over and over again. This
resurfacing pattern helped me learn to heal, love,
forgive, and gain my power and strength as a
woman. This shifted my block from blaming
someone for something he/she did, to seeing that
he/she came into my life to gift me and help me
realize that I am my own source of love. This
process of me releasing my past helped me
connect to the right kind of man. It will help you
too to Get That One Special Girl .

Your relationship blocks are typically learned

from your parents, your childhood and the people
who influenced you while growing up. The reason
why most people dont have healthy relationships
is because you havent been taught how to have
a healthy relationship, and your role models for
healthy relationships are slim to none. How often
do you see a thriving couple?

Addressing your relationship "blocks" that keep

you stuck in unhealthy patterns is part of the
process for you to stop attracting the wrong kind
of woman and Get That One Special Girl
instead. Part of the clearing work that I do will
help you connect to your empowered masculine
side, so that you find that balance in your life. I will
give you an example through one of my own
clients experiences.

I had a client that had very bad experiences with

women. He kept attracting women who were
incredibly controlling and didnt respect his needs
as a man. His last relationship was a nightmare. I
definitely had compassion for this man. When he
sought out coaching services with me he was
super jaded by women and wanted to protect
himself. When I looked at his relationships with
his parents, we found that his dad was incredibly
controlling and didnt respect his needs. He
recreated this same type of relationship with
women as he did with this father. Do you see how
the past affects the present? With my coaching,
he was able to clear his relationship patterns and
blocks with his father by releasing the past,
forgiving his dad and these women and allowing
a new belief to take place of the old one. Now
he is in a thriving relationship with a woman he
loves and she loves and respects him in return.
He was able to open his heart, release the past,
and allow the new empowered love and woman
to come in. I love talking to him about how happy
he is in this new relationship. Without clearing the
past and being open to the new, you will attract
the same relationship over and over again
until you break this pattern!
I have another female client who had a
relationship pattern of attracting men she did not
feel safe with. With the process I took her through,
she was able to release her past relationship
patterns, reprogram herself and her ideas about
her own safety and open up to receiving and
experiencing a loving, safe relationship with a
new man. She soon after attracted her soul mate.
Here is an exercise to help you start unraveling
these patterns right now. I want you to take
inventory and journal about your relationship with
your parents and how their relationship has
negatively and/or positively influences your
relationship patterns and blocks. For this
exercise, I want to encourage you to be in a quiet
room with no distractions.
Exercise:
What was your relationship like with your
parents? How did they interact with each
other? Describe in detail.

What was your mother like? Was she

overbearing? Was she supportive? Was
she affectionate? Passive aggressive?
Was she the one who solely raised you?
What is your relationship like with your
mother now?
Did you have a father that was around?
How was your relationship to him? Was he
stern? Was be passive aggressive? Were
you afraid of him? Did you have a good
relationship with him? What is your
relationship like with your father now?

Is it hard for you to express your feelings?

 Were you taught, big boys dont cry? Do
you relate feminine energy to being weak?

Write down all the dynamics you

discovered here so that your relationship
blueprint can come to light!

Heres a simple practice to help you clear a

relationship block. This exercise is meant to be
experienced with a trained professional or
healing coach. It is best to receive guidance for
this exercise to experience a clear breakthrough
in your relationship blocks.
Write about your current dilemma in your
dating and love life.

Notice the recurring pattern you see with

your current love to your parents or
guardian's relationship.

Feel where this is in your body. Are you

feeling this emotion?

Breathe into that part of the body where

you are holding this emotion and release.
Breathe and release.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable and to
express your feminine side. You most
 likely will start to feel pent up emotions
from the past, especially if you were taught
big boys dont cry.

Allow yourself to feel all of your emotions.

Send this part of your body love.

Forgive your parent(s) and your current

relationship to release blame. Open your
heart to love.

See the gift in this experience.

When you are able to clear these memories from
your heart and be free from the past then you are
well on your way to Get That One Special Girl
and keep her too.
Congratulations! Youve passed a courageous
part of this book. You are awesome!

Testimonial:
When I came to Antoinette, I just got out of a
relationship nightmare. She taught me how to
see each experience as a gift for me to learn
and grow as a man. If you keep attracting the
wrong types of relationships, Antoinette will help
you attract the right ones. I am now with an
amazing woman that I love. Big D., San
Francisco, CA, USA
 Chapter 5
Chemistry vs. Compatibility
So you see this hot woman, and you instantly are
aroused and cant stop thinking about how many
positions you want to do her: in your car, outside,
in the shower, or on the beach. Your mind goes
crazy. Remember, I know that your thing has a
mind of its own. Or maybe you see this woman,
and she mesmerizes you because she smiled at
you and you want to kiss her soft skin. You are
obsessed with her. You go on your first date and
experience your first kiss. It is magical. You dont
pay attention to anything else but how much you
want to be with her.
A month goes by and you are now in a
relationship with her but you realize that you dont
have that much in common other than sexual
chemistry. Hmmm....what are you going to do?
You end up fighting and arguing with her. She is
possessive, jealous of you spending time with
your friends and complains when you work late.
You dont understand why she just cant be happy.
The relationship ends very quickly. You are
confused.
After clearing the past by transforming your
relationship blocks you will take inventory on
what is the best relationship for you by seeing
how compatible you are in these areas:

Best friend: Can you feel safe sharing

your feelings with this woman? Does she
handle emotions in healthy ways or does
she exhibit jealousy, neediness or
unrealistic expectations? Can you
communicate openly and safely with her?
Can you be yourself around her? Can
she connect with you physically, mentally,
emotionally? Does she get along with your
friends? Can you just relax at home with
her?

Spiritual partners: Are you open

spiritually? Do you share the same faith or
are they compatible? Do you share the
same spiritual values and practices? Do
you both believe in God?

Lovers: Is there sexual chemistry

between you and your partner? Are you
both open to new ways to explore this
area in your lives? Do the same things turn
you on? Are your sexual appetites similar
in intensity and frequency?
 Lifestyle: Do you share the same
hobbies and lifestyle? Do you share the
same values when it comes to monogamy
or not being monogamous? Do you both
want children or not? Can you see yourself
liking each others friends and family?
How much space and closeness do you
two enjoy? Do you like to eat the same
way? Are you either city types or country
types?

A healthy adult relationship takes time. A person

doesnt just jump into a relationship based on
chemistry or sex alone. A healthy relationship is
based on compatibility. Yes, it looks sexy in the
movies to take a hot woman home right away, not
when you dont have a clear picture of who she
really is as a woman.

Remember the new relationship model is a

relationship where two whole people can thrive
together. You both are grounded in your
masculine and feminine energies and qualities.
As you start to develop a new sense of who you
are in the world, you will take time to get to know
you. Because you value yourself, you will also
take the time to get clear on what you want
because the more clear you are, the faster the
Universe can Get That One Special Girl into
your life.
This exercise requires that you do the
relationship pattern from Chapter 3 . By being
clear about what you want in a woman, you can
focus on making her a reality. That clarity will
allow you to attract this woman into your life with
power and precision.

Find a quiet space now where you can close your

eyes and imagine your ideal woman.

Visualization Exercise:
Play some happy music!
Write and visualize the qualities you
want in your ideal woman. Imagine how
your woman will respond to you and how
these qualities show up in her.
Focus on how you feel when you are
with this radiant and confident woman.
Say your mantra, I am with an amazing
and beautiful woman. She is here.

Allow yourself to feel and go beyond just

having the thoughts of her in your head.
See and feel her in your life daily, clearly.
 Bring in the senses of sight, sound,
smell, taste and touch.
Imagine calling her in by visualizing all of
these five senses.

Have fun using your imagination to

manifest her in your life right now.

Say your mantra again, I am with an

amazing and beautiful woman. She is
here.
Have fun!

When I take my clients through this exercise after

they clear their relationship blocks, they have a
visceral feeling of this woman in their lives. They
feel excited that she is coming. Not only are you
looking for her, but she is looking for you too!
Next, I will share with you how to find her.

Testimonial:
In a city of many extraordinary practitioners,
Antoinette Cabral stands out as a true L.A. find. I
initially sought out Antoinette to spice up my 10-year
marriage. Through one of her 8-week seminars, I
learned a multifaceted approach, which included
uncovering my relationship to my femininity and
how to tap into its power. I also learned how to
fulfill many of my perceived needs within myself
before I unleashed them as whining demands.
Through her simple exercises, I found ways to look,
act and feel sexier.
I also appreciate that Antoinette appears to draw
from both Eastern and Western mindsets, and is
equally comfortable discussing such things as
chakras and oxytocin. In a short time, she's guided
me to new levels of mystery and wonder in my
relationship. Jane, Los Angeles
 Chapter 6
How to find her.
How to get her to notice you.
Know what really turns her on.
There are amazing, radiant and confident women
everywhere! But the question is, do you know
how to find her? I know they exist because I have
many women friends, clients and family members
who are. Plus, I meet women everywhere I go that
exude these qualities. After you get a clear
picture of her, and you do the visualization from
the last chapter, you take masculine action to find
her. This gets you out of strategy. This puts you in
adventure mode. Keep confirming she is here,
and you will find her.

You will most likely not find her at a bar or

nightclub. The radiant and confident woman
knows that these places are for men and women
who are mainly interested in having one night
stands. Men, know this. The radiant and confident
woman is not interested in this at all. She wants
something more empowering.
Below is a list of places where you can meet her.
Most importantly, trust your instincts when going
somewhere. Keep the feeling of adventure in your
thoughts and emotions when meeting her, and go
to a place that excites you. The energy of
excitement is extremely sexy in a man and to a
woman.

Yoga studio

Health food store

Dance class

Fitness Center or Fit Club

Farmers market

Singles mixer

Art exhibit

Place of worship

Volunteer organization

Wine tasting

Dinner parties or friends party

 Personal development workshop
Business networking event

Tantric workshop

Live music concert

Health food restaurant

A Green Event

An outdoor meetup

Online Dating
Yes, you can meet a high caliber woman online
too. She really is everywhere. You can use the
same tools that I have shared with you and work
your magic online. Show your confidence, pay
attention to her, and make it a priority to connect
to her. I would also say dont date just to date.
Date with intention. Online dating should not be
used to fill a void. Dont limit yourself to just being
online because you are too busy. Date when you
are happy and feel good. When you are filled with
your own happiness, and you arent looking too
hard, is this when you are going to find her.
 Five Steps to Flirting
If you see a radiant and confident woman that
you are attracted to, here are some things you
can do so that she notices you.

Ground into your "empowered masculine"

and notice your body language. Refer to
chapter one for tips on this!

Stand tall with your shoulders back and

your heart open, so that she can feel your
magnetic presence.

Walk up to her, and notice something

about her.
Talk to her with an open and confident
heart. Say, I noticed your beautiful energy
and wanted to say hello.
Make her laugh, or ask her a question
from the section in the next chapter.

Even if you dont say the right thing, the most

important qualities that a high caliber woman
finds attractive are your open heart, confidence
and playfulness. Dont worry what you are going
to say to her. She just wants you to be authentic.
Women connect most with men who are
authentic. Most men that come up to me that talk
to me are trying to think of what to say to me. It
really doesnt matter. Sometimes a simple hello
and a smile is all you need. Women feel energy.
Being confident and open hearted will get you far.

If you see a woman that sparks your interest, be

yourself. Believe it or not, this same woman
doesnt tolerate strategies and games that
certain dating gurus recommend that you use.
You might have read about strategies to put a
woman down in order to lower her confidence so
she will go out with you in order to validate
herself. This is considered a game. This does not
work on a modern woman. If you want to Get
That One Special Girl , you do not want to play
games to fuck with her mind! If you do, instead of
attracting a woman who is confident and radiant
you will attract a woman who lacks self-esteem
and self-worth. If you understand the Laws of
Attraction, remember like attracts like. What you
put out there eventually will come back to you in
some way, even in your relationships.

I went on a date once and all this man did was try
to put me down. I didnt like his energy. I was
wondering what he was trying to do. His strategy
to put me down DID NOT work. I spotted this
manipulating man and the games right away
and closed the door on him real fast.
 What turns her on?
A radiant and confident woman has many
options. She can make her own money so she is
not dependent on you. What she really wants is a
deep connection. She will have many suitors.
How will she choose you? How will you keep
her? You have to learn how to turn her on. Turning
a woman on starts with her heart and mind first,
and then lastly her body. Trust is the most
important quality for a woman when it comes to
opening up intimately.
She values love. A radiant and
confident woman most likely will have a
career, be an entrepreneur, have a strong
purpose or volunteer. Deep down she is
motivated by love. Her career is an
extension of love. In her heart, the most
important thing is to love and be loved.
She wants you to recognize that she is
love herself. Recognize her. Love her.
Honor her. Protect her. Be inspired by her
love. Open your heart to love.

Laughter is the best medicine. Make

her laugh. A man who can make a woman
laugh is very attractive. This tells a radiant
and confident woman that you two can
 have a lot of fun together! I went on a date,
and this guy made me laugh the entire
time. It didnt matter what we did. I had the
best time because I didnt care what we
did. I just wanted to be around him
because he didnt take himself too
seriously.
Trust is a high on a list of things
that she needs. She can trust you if you
are open to communicating and
connecting with her. Be open to sharing
your feelings and being vulnerable at
times. Most women think it is very sexy
and brave when a man isnt scared too
share his feelings and lets her know what
he needs emotionally. If she sees this,
then she can trust you even more.
You are her solid rock. She wants to
know that you will be there consistently
even with the relationship ups and downs
that you can go through. Keep your word
and do what you say you are going to do. If
for some reason you cant, acknowledge it
and apologize to her. Showing her that
she can feel safe with you and that you
have her back no matter what is going to
build trust. Then, she can surrender to
you and allow you to be the man.
 Dont be a pushover. When I was with
a man like this, I thought it was nice that he
did everything for me. He never said no.
Later as I grew, I realized that I couldnt
fully trust a man who couldnt stand up for
himself. If he couldnt stand up for himself,
how would he be able to stand up and
protect me when I needed him to? She
wants to see you stand up for yourself.
Listen to her. Really listen to her and
just hold her when she needs to be held.
Dont try to fix things. She wants you to just
love her! One particular man who was
courting me payed attention to what I liked
and disliked. Sometimes I would have a
bad day and he would simply hold me and
listen. This was wonderful, powerful, and
just what I needed. I remember feeling so
safe to be with him. I chose him to be my
boyfriend, and I stopped dating other men.
Hint, hint!
Notice her beauty. Tell her how
beautiful she is when you see her.
Although a radiant and confident woman
feels love and beauty within herself, it
helps to hear it now and then. She also
LOVES it when a man compliments her
because it brings her enjoyment. She will
 glow even more when you are able to
express how beautiful you think she is to
you. Be present with her. Look at her in the
eyes. Say, "You are beautiful. You are a
gift in my life." When you can express how
beautiful a woman is, she will glow for the
entire day.
She is a flower. If you are dating a
woman that you think can be that one
special girl, dont rush into sleeping with
her. She doesnt want to be treated like a
piece of meat. She wants to be cherished,
valued, and treated like a rare and unique
flower. The more you water her gently with
love, attention, and intention -- showing her
that she is that one special girl -- she can
and will blossom and open up more fully to
you. I once dated a man that wanted to
have sex right away. Because that was on
his mind the entire time, this was a turn off.
A man who shows that he can wait for a
woman when she is ready is a HUGE turn
on! This type of man is a keeper. This also
tells me he is open to the adventure. If you
get a woman to trust you before sex, then
she can open up in ways that you have
never experienced before! If she is fully
open to you mentally and emotionally, she
will definitely open up to you physically.
 Heres a little secret: Our biggest sex
organ is our heart. That said, connect to a
womans heart and youll physically
increase hers and your sexual experience.
Buy a book on Tantric Lovemaking.
Let her know that you are open to trying
things different. Learn about foreplay. It
takes most women at least 15 minutes to
orgasm. Trust and connection is what
allows her whole body to tingle with
delight. So many women fake orgasms
just so that her man will not be
disappointed. Remember that her heart is
the largest sex organ. When you are
present with her tell her how beautiful she
is. Her heart will open, her brain will
release chemicals to her body to create
sexual stimulation to her genitals and she
will surrender to you. You will be her hero.
She wants to be held. Spooning,
cuddling, kissing, touching and massaging
ALL of her. This will build the oxytocin
levels between you. Also, remember a
woman wants to connect with you. Allow
her to cuddle you after sex to receive the
benefits of oxytocin between you. This
helps you and builds trust. When she can
trust you, then she can surrender to you
 and allow you to protect her.
Protect and provide your womans
vision. If she is a radiant and confident
woman, she will want to make the world a
better place. Your woman can inspire you
to be a better man. With the two of you
combined, you can live and share a
common vision of improving the world
together.

Communicate to her. Be open to

talking to her if you notice something is
bothering her. If you are single focused on
something, let her know the best time to
talk is later. Say it with love. "Honey, I
would be happy to talk to you in an hour. I
am busy with something and need to
complete it. Once Im done I can then give
you my undivided attention."

Be open. She doesnt want to be with a

man who is set in his ways. I hear this over
and over again from women. He wasnt
open to trying new things. He was set in
his ways. If you treat your relationship like
an adventure, then your woman will be
happy. My guy is open to trying new things:
traveling, exploring inside and outside the
bedroom, dancing, going on motorcycle
 adventures, going to personal
development workshops, communicating
when there is a misunderstanding and
more. This makes me happy. He is a
keeper.
Dont have a closed heart. Let go of
all the past drama that you have
experienced with women. If you bring that
into each relationship, then you will keep
attracting the same woman over and over
again. I have been with men who are so
afraid to be open with me that I knew they
had not healed their past relationship
blocks. They were too scared to face the
past. Most of these men were great men,
but they didnt have the tools to open up
their hearts. It takes courage to do this,
which you have. I believe in you!
I just gave you some amazing insights into the
heart of a high caliber woman. I gave you tools to
find her, flirt with her, ask her out, and get her to
choose you. Keeping her is an adventure. The
best advice for you is to listen to her, make love
to her, gain her trust and connect to her as much
as you can. She will love you for this. You will be
her hero!
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 Chapter 7
Interesting questions and fun
dates to Get That One Special Girl
to notice YOU!
I know for men, you hate being rejected. It takes
courage and confidence to approach a radiant
and confident woman. Remember, women feel
energy and sense your body language. The best
things for you to do are embrace your confidence,
be open to this adventure and keep your heart
open. Here are some fun questions and dates to
assist you on this new adventure.

Questions
If you were to pick two flavors to show
your personality, which ones would you
choose? Pick two combinations like
sweet and spicy to start a conversation.

What are you most passionate about in

life?
If you were on a deserted island and you
 could only bring one thing, what would you
bring?

Whats your favorite food and why?

Now, ask her when she is going to make
you dinner. She will laugh.

If you were to choose a country to travel

to tomorrow, where would you go?

If you could have all the money in the

world what would you do with it?

If there was one thing you could change

about the state of the planet right now, and
you have a super power to change it, what
would this superpower be?

Dates
Women love romance! I remember going on this
awesome date with this man that picked me up
and he took me to a Moroccan restaurant. We
had our own area where you sit on these beautiful
seats with low tables. The vibe of the place was
intimate, romantic and fun. The restaurant serves
its meals in five courses. We started off with mint
tea and they gave us a hot towel to clean our
hands. As each course came, we decided to
feed each other and really taste the food. This
turned the date into an adventure. The belly
dancer came up to the table demonstrated a
sensual dance for us. She invited me to join her.
Of course, I said yes. We danced for my date. He
was mesmerized by both of us dancing for him.
The night was light, fun and I loved how he would
pay attention to my needs. I felt protected by him
by the way he was opening up doors and paying
attention to me. We laughed, had fun and
connected throughout the night. When the night
ended, I was so happy, and thanked him for an
amazing date. I said yes to another date.

Also, I know that you might feel overwhelmed by

too much talking on your first dates. Think
ahead. Plan activities or adventures that allow
you two to bond, and will allow you two to still
connect. Plus, she will think that you are
incredibly romantic and a man with a plan!
Women love it when you take the lead with
making plans so she can just be feminine and
enjoy being with you!

Here are some fun date suggestions:

A wine tasting at a new wine bar

A salsa dancing class

A restaurant with finger foods where you

 two can feed each other

A picnic at sunset, look at her eyes and

tell her how beautiful she is

An outdoor music venue

A flower garden with lots of flowers to
smell

Chocolate and wine tasting

A Moroccan restaurant with belly
dancers
A bike ride before sunset and wine on
the beach during sunset

An adventure on your motorcycle and let

her know you are taking her to a surprise
place

A meditation place with beautiful

gardens
She wants to see that you are open, confident
and fun. The more you can connect to her, the
more she can trust you. Remember connection,
trust and listening are keys to the kingdom. If you
can give a woman these three simple things she
will be very happy, brag to all her friends about
you and be by your side for good! Have you
noticed theres a theme here? I hope youre
paying attention.
 Chapter 8
Questions that men have asked
me.
I came up with this section because these are
common questions my male clients have asked
me. I answered these questions to help you Get
That One Special Girl.
I am still building my career and when I tell a
woman this she seems to be turned off by
this. What should I do?
The first thing I want to say is that, with the right
woman, she won't care if you are building. She
might be in the same boat as you, building her
career. The modern woman doesn't expect you to
be the sole provider. She enjoys making her own
money. Being in relationship with her can even
bring out even more of your purpose. She might
inspire you to be a better man. With her light and
love, your career can be taken to a new level.
Maybe with her, you two can co-create an
amazing vision together. I have seen this with
couples I feel inspired by. I know one couple that
teaches retreats all around the world together.
They are in love and they are having so much fun.

The next thing I wanted to share with you is that

you might have a belief that you are not enough.
When you claim your "empowered masculine"
you will know that you are enough. You can have
a relationship whether you are building or not. It's
all your choice.

It seems like I do connect with women when

I am on date with them. Why am I still not
finding the one?
If you are connecting with women, then there is
most likely a few blocks and beliefs within
yourself that are preventing you from finding her.
Each chapter of this book is a formula to finding
the one. Each chapter is meant to work with each
other. Build the foundation with your confidence
and empowered masculine. If you are not finding
the one, then I highly suggest receiving personal
support from me or a trained professional to help
you transform your blocks and turn them into gifts.
When you clear the blocks in you, she will show
up. Remember, she is looking for you, just as
much as you are looking for her.

I seem nervous when I approach a woman I

like. If I don't really like her that much, I seem
to be confident and secure in my manhood.
What should I do?
A radiant and confident woman feels energy. The
most important thing for you to do is embrace
your confidence as a man and keep your heart
open. She will feel this.

I highly suggest you practice embracing your

confidence and go out. Take a risk and approach
all kinds of women wherever you go. Practice
saying, hi and talking with no agenda. When you
have no agenda and are open, then there is
nothing to lose. Keep this in mind when you are
out there approaching women.

I go out a lot. I go to singles events, parties,

hiking and I am social. I meet a lot of women
and I know I am a quality man but I can't
seem to find the one. Any suggestions?
If you are not meeting her and you are not sure
why then, once again, you have a few blocks
inside of you that are preventing you from finding
the one. I suggest going over the book as a step-
by-step process. Each chapter is a building block
to the next step. Do not move to the next chapter
until you feel like you have succeeded. If you
move too fast you will compromise your
foundation. Remember, at the top of those
building blocks is the prize. You Get That One
Special Girl! Of course, if you need support, I am
here for you. I believe in you!

My girlfriend is afraid I will cheat on her. It

has happened to her before. Her father
cheated on her mother. How do I gain her
trust?
First off, your girlfriend has a relationship block
within herself that she needs to release. What you
can do is suggest to her that you see a therapist
or coach together, so she can start to release this
block. Please check out the next chapter on how
to receive coaching. Her knowing that you are
there for her will let her know that you are her
solid rock. She wants to know that you are there
for her consistently. She wants to know that you
love her and will protect her. When she knows
this, she can surrender to you even more. After a
clearing process, what happens is that you two
might even feel closer than before because you
didn't let the "block" get in the way of what is truly
important -- love. Intimacy can be even more
amazing because you two have connected to
each other even more.
I sometimes just need to have space from my
girlfriend. I like doing my own thing and spending
time with my friends. She doesn't have as many
friends as I do and she seems to get jealous. It
has nothing to do with her. What should I do
because this is causing lots of tension between
us?
Communication and listening are the keys to the
kingdom. Find a time when you two can
communicate openly. Let her know that
something has been on your mind. Connect to
her. Touch her hair. Look at her eyes. Make sure
she knows that she is safe. Let her know how
important your own space is. Ask her what she
needs from you and follow through with your word.
Encourage her to find her own things to do that
she loves. Maybe suggest a spa day where she
can pamper herself and you treat her the first
time. When you two see each other after a day
apart, don't forget to connect to her and make her
feel special. Cuddle her, listen to her, and
connect to her like you have in the past. The love
making that night will be amazing!
Why do women always change their mind?
This drives me crazy!
I hear you. When I change my mind often, this
drives me crazy, too. First off, the energy of the
feminine is spontaneous, flowing, creative, non-
linear. This is the part of a woman that you love.
This creates mystery and magic. When a woman
isnt grounded in her empowered feminine, she
can be wishy-washy most of the time, which is
neither good nor bad. She is discovering who
she is and what she wants in her life. You have to
decide if the qualities she has to offer outweigh
the fact that she changes her mind often.
Also, a woman might change her mind often
because she doesnt feel connected to you. If
she cannot trust you as a man because you
havent been vulnerable to her or solid as a man,
then she will not be able to trust you. She is not
sure if she wants to be with you. Her needs, as a
woman, are not being met. Remember,
connecting, sharing feelings and cuddling are
important things for a woman. The more you can
offer your solid, masculine and open qualities,
she will start to relax and trust you as a man. You
will see the back and forth energy calm down and
balance out.

I know this chapter has helped you clear up some

questions that you might have been experiencing
for yourself. If you have any personal questions,
feel free to contact my team or me. Find out how
by reading the next chapter.
 Chapter 9
Whats next?
I am so excited about sharing with you this
amazing and new information for men from a
radiant and confident womans perspective. I
know, with this information, you can Get That
One Special Girl and keep her. As I tell my
clients, dating and love is an exciting adventure.
Remember, she is waiting for you just as much as
you are waiting for her. Also, I would love to hear
your stories, feedback, and how things went from
what I have taught you. Please email me at
questions@antoinettecabral.com for any
questions that you might have.
Your next step is to receive support in the areas
of developing your empowered masculine side.
Because you purchased this book, you may
qualify for a complimentary Special Girl
Strategy Session. Email me at
session@antoinettecabral.com to inquire about
your session.

Also, you can sign up for my newsletter at

www.GetThatOneSpecialGirl.com to get free
dating and love tips from me.
I personally know and have coached many
amazing, radiant and confident women all over
the world. If I think you will be a good match to
one of them, I can connect the two of you. You will
first need to go through at least one of my
signature programs for my approval before I will
make that introduction.

I will be offering live events like empowered

singles adventures, innovative products and
workshops all around the world. I would love to
connect you to a beautiful and radiant woman.
This will be my honor and pleasure.

Lastly, I am here for YOU! I believe in you as a

man. I know that you deserve to be in a thriving
and sexy relationship where you can completely
be yourself, live your purpose, and wake up next
to a beautiful, radiant and confident woman who
believes in you. When you are happy as a man, I
believe that great things are possible for both of
you.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this

e-book and going on this new adventure with me.
You are much closer to finding her. I am so
excited for you.
Now go Get That One Special Girl and keep
her for GOOD!

Much love,

Antoinette Cabral
Dating and Intimacy Expert for Successful Men
WWW.ANTOINETTECABRAL.COM

WWW.GETTHATONESPECIALGIRL.COM

While I've helped men and women all over the

world find love, passion and adventure, I am not a
doctor or a psychologist. My advice is based on
years of personal experience with men and my
study with Master Teachers in Tantra, personal
development and the healing arts. In addition,
I've coached, trained and know over a thousand
women all over the world.

I invite you to use my powerful tools and

techniques to work for you, but I do know that
some of the exercises that I share cannot be
done alone. Its best done with a healing
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sign up for one of my coaching programs, if I am
the one who is best for you.

I get rave reviews from my male and female

clients all over that world. I am confident that I can
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When you do take action to Get That One
Special Girl , I guarantee that your life will
change forever. With the right woman at your
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