Women and men what you can learn today to

have a better relationship tomorrow

Women like to say: Men want only sex , while men like to say: Women care only
about money and shopping . Well, that's not exactly true. Both is a part of life, but
factually speaking whoever generalizes so carelessly, is publicly showing how little they
actually know about the nature of both one and the other. Each of us is different, yet
there are distinctive characteristics and methods how to touch a heart of a woman or a
man and how to do the opposite to belittle their egos.

Because we do not know about the fundamental differences in how men and women
think about each other, we expect more than we can actually give each other and this
leads to countless and completely unnecessary misunderstandings within partners,
family, friends, and in the work environment.

Women's emotions are several times more intense than that of a man which means they
can enjoy as well as suffer much more than men. When women are happy, everyone is
happy, but when they suffer everyone suffers and that's why it's so important for
them to always be sustained and satisfied. Their consciousness and wellbeing
significantly influences everyone around them, especially children.

A man, that is aware of this fact, will always give his partner all she needs (but not
necessarily all that she wishes for). A smart man, that knows how essential for the health
of the relationship and children it is whether the woman is calm and satisfied, will take
care of his family in all aspects and will not let her to work just for the sake of money in
an environment that does not suit her, unless she alone wishes for it to be that way. Only
in such case can he count on his partner, to be able to give her priceless contribution to
relationships and upbringing.

A home, where women are respected, caring, and satisfied, attracts abundance and can
be compared to a small heaven on earth, but whoever treats a woman badly, life will
sooner or later destroy him in all aspects.

The first need of women is security, when that is satisfied, it's time for variety
Men usually love routine, but for women routine is the most horrible thing that can
happen to them. Men live for goals, women live for emotions; men live for victories,
women live for harmony.

The very unusual difference in the structure of the subtle bodies of men and
women

In a man only either reason or feelings and emotions can work at once but in a woman,
both is always active at the same time. This can most clearly be observed in the fact, that
a man can usually best think, when he is alone, but when in a crisis, women tend to call
someone and calm themselves via conversation. Both have its pros and cons; the trouble
with the male mind is that when he is emotional or uncontrolled, his reason completely
shuts down and the bad side of a female mind is the emotions never truly turn off.

History and contemporary media much more frequently mention men while talking of
geniuses, but it is also interesting men are also more frequently mentioned in the context
of talking about lunatics. It was also written that a man, who is being led by senses, the
mind and his emotions, is not able use his reason, intelligence and from that we can
understand how men commit completely irrational acts more frequently. History and
modern science like to forget that the type of genius we today perceive as genius is not
actually the only type; all respects to numerous extraordinary mathematicians, chemists,
physics and other minds, but for me an even greater genius is someone who - instead of
being able to calculate uncountable equations and integrals or calculate the distance to
the sun or the moon - is someone who is able to treat people with kindness, love,
tolerance, selflessness, and patience, often even for the price of their own comfort, as
was the practice, from one generation to the next, of our saintly mothers. For their hard
work, they received zero government or European acknowledgements, instead they
begot a strong family, personal satisfaction, and what is most important, peace. Today we
have pushed women to work in industry and paid the price of badly brought up children
and loosely connected families. In such society women work like dogs while numerous
people, directors and presidents also on this account, stay as mature as a ten-year-old
child for the rest of their lives. I can hardly say that six years ago I myself have been
thinking any more mature than an average six-grader in grammars schools, even if
I was able to financially take care of myself and my then girlfriend.
One of the key mistakes, committed by men, is that they like giving advices every
time a woman complains about something. Do not do this! A woman is calmed down,
when she is understood. When she talks to us, she doesn't need advice, she needs to be
heard.

Men acquire good qualities with time, but women have all the good qualities since
birth, but gradually lose them as a consequence of the state of society. The woman
shapes the shape of relationships to an amazing extent, so it is especially important for
her to be an expert in interpersonal relationships. The true nature and responsibilities of
both one and the other truly surface when a couple is in love. At that time, the man is
decisive, hard-working and responsible, while the woman is gentle and loving.

Men have to understand this: it's a fact, that a woman feels restless and
dissatisfied if the partner behaves like a child; she wants to create a family with the
right man that promises her protection and support, with someone who would always
calm her mind, but she is often disappointed, when that man instead acts exactly the
opposite like a child and expects the woman to protect and calm him, give him comfort,
and "wipe his nose ". Such behaviour changes the relationship from husband/wife to
mother/son and takes it far from what they both want and need.

Modern women that know the secrets of male nature and ego are rare

In that way, they approach them in a totally wrong way which leads to numerous
completely unnecessary fights and misunderstandings. A woman is like a neck, that
turns the head, a mature man is unable not to please a caring and loving woman, but he
will not wish to please someone, when that is demanded from him. With her behaviour,
the woman alone decides if she will have a loyal and hard-working or on the other hand
an irresponsible and immature husband.

A long-lasting relationship can survive only where at least one of the partners is striving
for quality self-improvement. Whoever doesn't self-improve becomes boring to others
and themselves.
If women want the men to be truly men they should first let them be such and raise
boys into men and not lapdogs. Man adores the position of a protector and feels
obliged to take care of everyone that let him, otherwise he might develop a tendency
towards bad habits and get the feeling of being a hindrance to people. When the woman
tries to overpower the man he usually becomes weak and starts drinking, cheating and
will remain or turn irresponsible or even violent because his mind and ego can't bare it.
It is sad and terrible to see how much violence there is in modern families and
relationships. Women are more often psychologically abusive, while men are physically.

Man needs the feeling that he is the leader, protective and in charge. A man that doesn't
have such a feeling tries to satisfy this need of feeling in control with drugs, gambling,
pornography, or infidelity. Consequently, woman suffers the most, because she is unable
to feel happy, loved and protected with an indecisive and weak partner. Modern women
often work themselves like dogs, but the woman doesn't need to do extraordinary things
for a man to love her. It is enough for her to be a woman, since the meaning of woman is
relationships. Whoever masters this science is invaluable to all those around him.

Today men are more similar to women, while women are more similar to men. But this
doesn't cater to anyone but marketers who make money out of our misery.

Women are naturally very devoted but only to someone that knows exactly what he is
doing and is also devoted to something or somebody special. Beware of men that have no
meaningful or higher goals in life. Such men would either only like to toy with you or
have you as a mother, wife, and God in one person. But men should avoid stubborn and
harsh quarrellers, even if they seem divine.

Ancient wisdom and various holy scriptures say: "The man leads and the woman
follows."

Men usually interpret it like this: Whatever I say, the woman should simply do. When I
say 'Jump,' she asks 'How high?'. That's a great marriage, isn't it? But woman following
actually means this: whatever I expect of her, I should first do and live myself.
If we are fighting and I want for her to see her mistake I first have to see my own
mistake. If I want for her to serve me, then I should first adequately serve her myself.
That's a bit different concept of leading, right? This is true guidance, the right leadership
approach. Man, if you wish to lead, lead by example do it yourself and show how.

Modern men (and women) lack proper training that would teach them, what their role in
relationships and the world is. What to do? They need mentors that can teach them.

This knowledge is not just useful in the relation to your partner, but also in your
relationships with parents, children and colleagues. After all, nobody is a woman or a
man, we all currently (as individual personalities) have the body a man or a woman, and
it is good to know what the characteristics of one and the other vehicle are. Putting this
knowledge into practice brings out wonderful results.

All the best to all of you,

Andrej Pesec

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