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1) A video lesson
Make sure you actually do the exercises and put some effort into the write-up. Nonsensical and
One-word write-ups etc. will be deleted and access to later lessons may be removed until you
properly
The idea is to get you not only out of the house and DOING things that are going to help you,
but sitting down and really reflecting on what happened. Both are important to get the most out of
LESSON 1: INTRODUCTION
Fearless Dating is the only online course based on both years of dating coaching industry experience
and decades
The course is based on the tenets of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT hones in on specific
thought-patterns and beliefs and then prescribed systematized actions in order to achieve the new
behaviors.
CBT has been shown to be the most effective form of therapy for anxiety-based problems.
This course is a mixture of videos and exercises.
The videos will educate you on important psychological concepts and inspire you to evaluate some
of the patterns and behaviours within yourself.
The exercises will then challenge you to go out into the real world and try on new behaviours to see
how they work for you.
To proceed through the course, you must submit written responses to either some of the questions
posed in the videos or the exercises you go out and do. Dont worry, there are no wrong answers.
Take your time with the course. The best results come from consistency. If you ever feel stuck in
one place, go back to the previous exercises and do them again until you feel able to proceed.
EXERCISE
Write down the biggest challenge youre facing in your dating life at the moment and three specific
goals youd like
My 3 Goals:
1. Id like to have more courage in meeting women in social settings like gym/office college
irrespective she is a beautiful supermodel and eventually sleep with them.
3.I Should able to turn my friends into lovers by being a High status alpha male in the group.
1. Fear of rejection or fear of approaching Talking to girls in Social settings like Gym / cafe house.
The vast majority of behaviors most of us do when pursuing someone were interested are what I
characterize as performance behaviors.
The implication of performance-based behaviors is that you are not good enough as you are.
Any time you feel it necessary to perform to impress someone, you are implying a sense of
inferiority.
Women are wired to pursue men of status. They perceive status based upon behavior and social
indicators. Performance-based behavior completely undermines a mans perceived status, thus
making him unattractive.
Some men become too intimidated by feelings of inferiority and surrender themselves to women.
These men are codependents (aka Nice Guys.)
Other men decide to over-compensate and treat women as if theyre inferior. These men are
narcissists.
Inferiority is often situational as well. Some men feel fine speaking with women, but horrible about
becoming sexual with them. Some feel fine being sexual but are scared to death to speak to them.
EXERCISE
Write about the ways in which you perform or try to impress women. Write about how this causes
you anxiety. Write about what beliefs or experiences have led to you feeling inferior in certain
situations.
Lesson 3: Vulnerability
But arent we always performing throughout our lives? Isnt it normal to want people to like us?
Yes, but the problem arises when we try to control the other persons impression. Obviously we all
want to present ourselves well and communicate well.
But as soon as you try to control what another person thinks, you are broadcasting a feeling of
inferiority.
Vulnerability requires one to communicate with authenticity that means communicating your
thoughts, feelings and desires with no conditions, with no expectations.
But ultimately, practicing vulnerability in your everyday life is the ticket to improving all of your
relationships.
Research shows that vulnerability builds self esteem and builds trust with others. These are the two
ingredients of successful sexual relationships.
Exercise
Name three ways in which you can practice vulnerability in your life. Go out and do one of them.
Write about what happens.
1 Approach and tell a girl that I would like to know something more about her.
3.Doing something which I am not good at, even though there is the fear of looking silly at the back
of my mind.
If weve experienced a series of negative events in our past, we often form negative beliefs about
women or sex.
Negative beliefs about women, through a process of self-selection, end up attracting those very
women into our lives. In psychology,
this is referred to as Assortment Theory, and it particularly holds true with self-esteem and gender
beliefs.
What this also means is that your insecurities about yourself are likely to inadvertently screen for
women with similar insecurities.
Its important to single out your beliefs about women and sex and figure out why you have them and
if they possibly may not be true.
Common examples:
Exercise
Evaluate beliefs you have about yourself, sex and women that you think might be hurting you. Write
what drives those beliefs and
why you believe them to be true. Consider what would happen if they werent true.
One aspect of feeling inferior or feeling as if you must perform is simply not thinking or feeling highly
of yourself. This is often simply referred to as low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem people feel a greater need to compensate, perform for others, and are more likely
to surrender, give up or check out. Theyre also more likely to commit manipulative behaviours.
Before we dive into the challenges of the program, its important that you realize a baseline level of
taking care of yourself.
That means before moving on, you need to each one of these for at least one week apiece before
moving on, if you dont do them already:
Groom properly (shower, shave, teeth brushed)
EXERCISE
If you dont have one of the three things above handled, write about how you plan to handle it. If
you do, simply reply, Ive got it handled, and move on.
EXERCISE SUBMISSION
Since this program is going to challenge you to adopt many new and uncomfortable behaviours, its
best if we build some momentum by giving you important, yet simple, behaviours which you can
change on your own and will prepare you for what youre going to be getting into.
One problem is that some men take on too many changes at once, or take on too big of changes at
once.
With this final step before the modules, I will give you a handful of easily actionable changes you can
make that will get you to begin feeling different and more enthusiastic for these life changes. Once
you do them, the following exercises in the program will feel easier and more reasonable.
1.Throw out and ill-fitted or ugly clothing. Only wear your best clothing.
2.Always walk looking straight ahead, remove any headphones, do not ever pull out your
smartphone to look at
the internet or anything. Always stay socially engaged with the world around you.
3.Join one social event or group which you can partake in and something you actually care about.
4.Call up friends and make sure you have people to hang out with at least once per week.
These all sound simple, but they will help you immensely over the coming months.
Exercise
Go through each of the four items above and write how you did them and how the result felt.
If you already do the four things, write about how theyve benefited you.
The seminar covers a lot of the ideas presented in this program with more depth, explanation and
discussion.
1:34.20 Q&A Does honesty mean that you approach girls by complimenting their boobs?