Dr Mathew Mathews, a senior research fellow at the National University of

Singapore, says there is still "much support for parenthood to happen within the
context of the 'traditional family' in Singapore", but that views are starting to
change.
"More Singaporeans today accept that some children will be raised in contexts which
differ from their idealised conceptions of family, though they might be hesitant of
this becoming the norm."
No regrets
On 4 January, the couple filed an appeal against the decision.
They are still awaiting its outcome, but said they knew adoption would "not be an
easy process".
"We had hoped that the courts would see the merits of our case, we are very sad and
disappointed this wasn't [so]," said James.
Currently, James has no legal rights to the child, but still remains his de facto
parent due to their biological link, and is allowed to make all decisions on behalf
of Noel.
When asked if they would consider migrating moving overseas should the appeal fail,
James said: "Singapore is our home. My partner and I are true-blue Singaporeans,
born and bred here. We received our education here. We served in the Singapore
Army.
"Our families and lives are rooted here in this country we love. We've never been
made to feel different, or been discriminated against, except when dealing with the
authorities.
"Having to leave...is not a decision we will make lightly."
The couple add that they have no regrets having Noel, who is currently "oblivious
to the ordeal", despite the challenges it has presented.
"The four years of joy my son brought to us cannot be adequately measured or put in
words. He knows he has two fathers - he calls me Papa and my partner Daddy," James
explains.
"Our neighbours, extended family - they've all embraced him and often tell him how
lucky he is to have two caring fathers. We have no regrets having him."