What is narrative therapy? An easy-to-read introduction » Alice Morgan WICH CENTRE PUBLICACopyright © 2000 by Dubwich Centre Pbications 1s8N 0957782905 } { pebbobesty Dulvich Genre Pubieatens de Sth haa 500 hoe aan ae fr AEE AL ‘at Sep@sene em: rwdserestnas The views exgresied in ths boc sre rot rcessniy thse ofthe Pbiahen [No prt ofthis bok maybe reproduce or trnamited by ary pocest ‘hlscevr without the poor writen peomason ofthe Polisher Printed & manufecure in Australie Graphic Print Gee, Rcinond, Suh Astrae Contents ‘Anote from the publisher PART ONE: What is narrative therapy? Introduction 1 Understanding ore ving cur ves throgh stories Stories he tneropevtic coment Externalsngconrerstion Naming the problem “racrg the history of the poder Exporng the effect ofthe prosion 'iustng the problem n context: Sucanstruction Discovreg unique outcomes “racing he hatory end meaning ofthe unique outeone endearing anctoative story exeeten PART TWO - Thickening the alternative story Introduction 9) Re-menbering conversctons 0, Therapestie documentation LH: ‘Therapesti letters 12 itl ond celebrations 13. Exponding the conversation 4 Outsider-witness groups ond definitional ceremonies, Closing remeris References Index n ” a5 tor im us 2 19 iat 53A note from the publisher “Tishook seks wo iuodace people othe es and ways of wodking hat bave be krown a maratve herp. We specie asked Ace Magan wo repre he tas tes here nan my tread indo The ios an wayt of wockiny colada this book were ovodaced ‘ode therapy rain by Day Epon ad Michel White The version 0 hi od ape fou wit # wide ange af ack and atic, wich they have ren Over he st en eer varity f eter het have engaged with Fane practees aid tare ede spac contabatus 10 wht 1 a ‘const evovig bay of owledge ani sls ortho of yu who find hs bok xerestig, we sonly recomend lint You flow up the steenes that me clued atthe end af vaseot hopsers, Whi sete hooks or aces you wil tind he rg! dsrpins of lhe idea thst Ase se suredseng here You wi a fad thorugh stulabons dhe dking dat non raraiepracic. Toc eow hough, we ae very pleased econ jou otis ay seead lnwedoction which, a tide sugges, seks to aa tbe question: Wha ie arate tea? Acknowledgements his poet bean doef he wena ivan of Chey White on sos susaned ough et cotiwal intrest and encungement. fee recivng henson and aking dep breath, Alice Morgan wrote an ital inf oF eis book, Which Davi Dentoraigh Worked on efor i was than stint a wide age of pep or Feedback and sugetons. The who wee able te offer Feacksncsded Mate Carey, Leta Pery, Shona“ ati Norte Pray? dn sre toon ‘Rust Jun Tonkin, Rose Hare, Cao} Tomes abd Michal White Alle sectving their en, feedback and example, David Desboveuph and Alice Morgan worked thoughy a he dal, whic veld back at foi om Meloourew Adelaide (hak oodoess fr coal) ut ici is are fom Jute Hole wa expose for he aout ad Meliss Raven fe oat realing. Abe woul ls Hie to acknowledge te itooce that her tae ave had on he therapeu racice especialy Lesa Andee, Grey Sra, David pon and Micha! Whe. ‘Acoma pipe of marae ways af wong sat te bao dps ‘dhl of hose who cna therapist shape, gan ways, te peice ofthe tompy. IC seems iepetntteefore wo across the signet Contribution w he its contin in ths bok tt ae bees made y howe ‘ave conse he hiss whose work esrb bee Arnote about examples In dee to oro people fo narative patce, examples of herpetic cameron, Iter ani secs Dave Been inched the folloing pages. Tese exiles have bees generate ina nose of dierent sways: Some are repre f ss here converaioas wich all people ivelved ce happy to se pblsed. Oder hve been adopted 10 sive ident by combing the elements of deat people's sores fn Some ceunstncs, sone t lust a specie point o way f wesing, ¢ Aedtious example has been wed ese ako not iti this book examples of mrmtce practice have eee dan ffom fity eadion Hepes seins, rater tan from omni comets ot fom specie incon (choo, psoas, spas ie) Iryoud ke feud tore abot Une we of arate pcs i thee litesemseiags please eft he reading ss ta ae ceded tronghow: ‘histook Part One What is narrative therapy?@ (altri hry dn canter inrdn Introduction Fallot Weleome to this euy-torad took which designed ss an truco oreo the i theres of mamas hep. Ie simple ad conte explants of te thinking tind narrative rates as wel 2s hnany peacical examples of therapeu comernaons. This Book cerainhy oerrt cover eventing but hopeflly wll sve 96a nanng poi fe ‘er explains, To si hi, nce be ef ox of he capers are ete fo ae vat orion ps ‘There ae tay feet thes wich makeup hat as comet Be own os “native heap" and every therapist engages wih hen ees romewhs iffy. When you hear amon ei ‘aaalive deep they ‘ight be refering Yo prclar ways of undermanding people's idee ‘Akeraively, they might be sefering wo cen ways of endetndig rubles an thei fst on peop’ ives. They might an be speaking bat Partie waye of ting wih peopl ont hee nd robles they may be experiencing or parisiar ways of undcrandg thespnticTeaontips nde ets e pen tp. ‘err tery’ sak 19 bea respec, ow-Daning approach 10 nunc ad consmuniy work, which enes people as tbe expat in htt ‘own ives, Ht views pubis a seat om peoples arunes pele hive ‘iy sh, conpteciy bls, vles, commer and sts a assem tn rate he ndvenceofpreblens inh ive. ‘Threat vvow prises which fora narave ways of working, ‘tn my opicion, woare patil signin: lyays maitsiing n nce fears, and abaya ating geesions hich You gemitely do nat now ‘Be anes. vie you eo ed his Hook wk hese two principles nmin “Tes form he eas, the tae, the tone, he vais the comments ad ie ‘i of arate they, Possibilities for conversations 1 have site this Hook i eos, cach chap descibing one ape theme of urate waya of working, Fave dane so ante hope hat his Par One: Wha sari tray? 3 makes eich clement easy to uae, Inszad of appesching the Meas onveyed inthis ok Hike recipe, however, ae ht mate flowed in Pstiular onde, Ta ine you © insead approach them a jou wold Sorgahord an aay of does coor or! 1 hope hs took simpy ‘uns aang of possible fo tsetve conversions, When 1 meet wih th people eoxsuing me, I ometimey think of he owt forthe dnections ofthe comenabion a they ate roa om & jourey. Thee ate many eo-ronds, erections, pats ad ack ocho ton. Wih every sp a ew al diferent xs ea or intrseton ener Aivoars bach, righ gon, in dei degrees, With cach tp that fake wath the person comuking me, we ae opening tore pose dictions We co choos: whee wo go ant win 1 Inve behind. We cn vay tke & erat pth, nora ow eps, go back, rept ack, of Hy on he ane Fou fr some tine AV he beponng ofthe jurey we ae nt ue whee i Wil enor what wll de icone. ‘The posites desrted in thi bok ae lke the ead, wacky and Jat of tbe james. Each question a naraive Berit aks ie ep ia our: Al he as may be aka, ae of the pats cr ec eel along fone pth fr x ine Before changing ater Ther no ‘igh! way ogo Istey many posible detox baa om, Collaboration moral, he peson consi the herp lays gle para pag he dation ofthe jum. Neve conversions ae iri ways im colsboration wi ke people ensuing te taps. The Sk Ho nertand what Finest te pape consi Hem in how the journey 16 auting ter peteenes. You wil oferta, for ample, aie ep aking: 1 Howse his conversation sing for seu? 1 Should we kp tig abou so Weald you e move tatrsod tn .? 1 fs ds tring 0908? thie what we showld spend eu time aking ata?4 hat Drain Ther? An eed tn + vas wondering fou would be mare inersed i me aking yu some noe tht ths or whether we howd fos on X Yor Z? (X,Y, Dlg ve pti) In ie way, meme convection ate guided and direc by the alert of hoe who ae one ke rps. ‘Summary So before we dive int Si exploration of aatve ways of working, Jas guy summa what we ave conse ofr 4 Namie thenpy seks 1 be a cexpecto, meaning approach to oumeling and commmiy wit, which ceies people athe exper heron tes {$e vows problems a spare fom poops abd assumes people have many Sil, competencies, belie, vaies, commen: and abies tit will sit the change er lsnship wth prob in thei Hes. 4 Cunosity anda wings o ask ueton io wich we getiney do’ nthe answers ate important prices fs a © Thoe ate ny posible dieetioes ht aay convertion can take (ter is sn sing cous dtc). {> The pergnconsuing the rapist plays asian. pt in deeming the deems hal areaken, ‘useen propia 0 bein ay explain of maine teas wih consideration of what st by the native’ tor four Ue. ay Chapter 1 Understanding and living ‘our lives through stories Nermtive thnpy i someting, known at aye “eating” oe “soning conversions. As these descriptions nas, srs me esl an vetting of aati ways af woking. The word “sory” as ifzem asocinons and snderandines for Aizen people. Fr sanatie tera, sores consi of + Tink in sega + ssconting ta plot ‘As hans, wo ae interpreting ings, Weal ave dy expenses of enh we ek to make reanng. The saris We ae aout ur es are fred tough inking cen event stor in paral sequence aco ime period, tod fking vay of explaining or rnhig see of then. This Imening forms th plo ofthe try. We give maeaings to our expences, srstamly ac we ive our ves A parative like a ead tt weaves de ens ogee, frming story We al lave suay seis abou oar lve an reaonabips, ociing sien, Fer exaile, we bave teres sot arses, icy, rages, ou eompeences, ou actos, oar dese, reach cur Work, our interes, ew caoquesl, ou aehevements, ote fue, The ay We« ha iain: hry? dn yore inn 1 Unertotig adtg vr te Nrhties 3 have developed these sore ie Grermind by how wo fave linked contin Figure 1 vel gate ina sure dy the meaning we hao atte en ‘An example: the story of my driving tint plot story 1 coud ave ary sot yc ak gpa diver This means could ting ogeter «meter of vet that have happened ome whist vig ‘a {could put tee events eet with thers no parla segusnce and fntervet them a «denioneaton of me being 2 good dive. 1 might dink tout, ad sl out for he ling of he str, events sch af soping ath Talc ys, pring way to peas, obeying the speed His, casing Tins ad espng a ae discs behind fer veils To fxm story about ny ay ava deer, Lam selecting el eran evens as portant ht ih ‘his pac potn singe, thee events se pleut ots fe. ‘St moe and me events ae ile sd gated int the dosnt oy he tony une tess ae hcknes AS gan cknes, cher event Sf fay davtg competence a casty remkeed and dd to the sry "oighou ti proces, esr) tes, becomes more dominant in my ie ceasing ety forme to fad ne examples eens ha th the mening havo raced These oven of ving competence that a emerbering am sling at at elevated in hi sige oer oe evens hat do wt i wi te ‘lot of eine yoo diver. Fer itsce, the times when T pled out to ‘uly fom the cu rigged he tances won puking my cata nak thing piileged They might he sen as signin of maybe a kein the light o he dominant pasty of ving comers) Im he reeling of vis th ce lay vee tre eek, bsed upon weber 0 ak bey Kt ne mia ph. “The dag on de next page (6 Hig 1) demas the ie of ois consiing of evens inked in Sequence acs ime scoring f plo ‘The X nana al he events ht have ecard in my i a ever The vets tat 4 woth he sary of “eving competence’ ave seater! amongst ‘vets that are ons of tat sor (ea erase Hs ecured 4 months ao) In order ath sory of diving competence, ern eves ate elected out and peilegd ovr athe events. One pve hey a inked ah ake events, und he sil moe evens ee in, fim wry aoe eng god rer The neem he dag shows this Inking of even 12 form te dominan:stry. As yu oun se thee ar ther event (X) tht ae ‘we of thie dominant sory tat ves ier oes sigan in he ight fe domi pla Tn this expe, paps why 1 cn tend only to te goo even ea ave mays o cons a ry of Being a competent diver, 6 the Feeciows of ote fay rember nd nde have hy deseied mea god dee, this woul have made sgn’ dies, Str ne ever produce insolation fos the bender worship ths exam, 1 ras nver subjected to diminishing romans oa ie bast of my gear. > none ‘The effects of dominant stories psn bt willbe lar my Nae eo. Por example 1 Imasted de ts aw sare ng dace lhe my eon plas wil ented by he eninot ery Ive abt ying Meld posh te more iced to exes ding he fms en itachi Thave abut yas ig pod perth iT hd 1 ry sou asl obeys gus en pene der Thee a °{he moaning et these oven ae na otal in hei fects en my Me they wil const and sap my fe oe ft, All foc a consti le ad shape ur ives Living many stories at once: ‘ur ves ase maiseried. Thee ae magy sre oezuring athe sme ‘ne and diferent store c be ld bout he same events Mosler cn be feof amigo er conmdicion and no single story can espe et oi al he continence fie TE hada et ace a i someone ta my ie began ofeas an ey ‘ide mista at Love mine wile ein, fnew was tedaced tha “Auer ai people ike me in om: way anaes about my ‘Sivng igh: Begin develop. Other eyeas, ther peple's inten of | ‘hes evens, and my osm inlerpeeatis could le an alemative story Sevelopng tout my driving ~ aly of eampetzoce or eeesnes. Tis eranve sy oul ave ef too Foe a tine I might lve with ili, t ores aboot my ive depending upon he context or he sulence. Over tine, depending on a very of facts, the negnve story bout my diving ‘mig psin fn infence and oven bere the dasa tony ux my Mie a retin omy ding, Neither stay of my vig aiy morte ay af ‘ny driving fue wld fv of embigity or contaton, Different types of stories Therese many ferent ort of sores by which we ive our Hoes ‘sitions - caging saris abet the pas pesent and fie Sires can ‘So belong o individ andor ecnmnis. There sn be aly tres ad ela stones ‘hn inv ay haven ator bout heels as Being sce and omgeten. Alrite they may ate a story about thenscles a being ‘a | fase at tine new hing or 's coward’ or a5 “lacing devemnaton’ Fis ay have sie about snselves 96 being ‘xilg’ oF ‘20 of 1. nerd nd igo trough sre "vy ox Spsfncion e ‘lee A community may have sory about tlt ia on ‘policy active’ "gancialy ong.Al heve src old De occas athe same time, and evens, a tiey ecu, wil be inetd ‘congo he meaning (ptt sda that ie Ith wy, he Df ving request we ae engaged it the mation between te domi ovo and the aeranve nove of or lies We ar alway negeiing and nerpeig our experince, ‘The broader social context of the stories by which we live our lives ‘Toe way in which ve understand ou ese inflarecel bythe oer ‘xe of ue eure in wich we ive. Some ofthe ars we ave boat Jer have postive ets and some wave nope ess on ie the fst present and fae: Laura nay desenbe heel a elle therpi. She as develope his sary about esl fom her empresa stk frm er work All thse expeences have contibuted to shaping sary about ene at 3 competent cating sak therapist. When faced wi the ison to apply for anv jo fl tht est fio her, Laura s ‘ware tiely 1 soy rink abou applying unr he inca af hie psitse selina pect hat she would experience the cllges fn er work ‘vit sme conten nd might ak bot er wink in ways hat dese as ‘The menngs tht we give fo thse evens oui it sequence eros time do nt occu is a vacuum. Thre i aly content a whic te stove of or lives are formed. Tis cone! contest he inespetations sd mings tha We give ven. The inl ged. las tee, cue sel pefrece ate power conti tote plo of the ses wich we live: Laas say of bela ile, tae, wel have ben nflanced by the es f th ur in wbich se es, Thi care ould have parla bedes bout what consis silat teapis and Lusso would be shaped by tose ies, Laura's working las ockground may Revs ago cotibutel o the ways in which sb de cay ate cometions with people who come‘o conslt wih ber fom a divert of bckgronmds Hex confidence in speaking ‘utin work ination muy hve tick 0 do wit he istry wis th ein ‘movement snd alo theft ht she a white Atal profesional is “lly ta people wil ten ese saying whew sorts of ways te bbe, eas and practices ofthe cute “hh we ive play ep i the mening we ms ofr ves ‘Summary ‘As Lhe edo oxpin,marative eras thik nes of ois dominance andere soit min psa tna pls: ‘ven ele liked tee over seta hve implications fr past present tod fre actos; soit ha ae gous abaping_of ves: Neate nt ar tree in ing wid peopt explore be sore th ave out ir vs and eaionsips thie, eit meanings atthe cae ‘nwhich hey bave bee formed and mor Chapter 2 Stories in the therapeutic context et ur think stout some ofthe sores tat ae rose into the context of leap. Most corumony, whon people decide 19 commit therapist i became they are eapericsing « dfeuty or potlem in tires. When necting witha toca, ey wal often Bein by Kling the Heap about ray events f the Ie of the problem for wih ty ae eeing help Cennoay hy wil sn sepa he meaning ey hate pve thes ve, “The Cease fly sought wy asbsance when one af he members of the family, Sean, was caught steaig. Ae Tsu abut the probe of ling, Sears parents explained ear rally worried about Seon Beau Be selina have Pt 12 sop in bat he at wom’ He wg oon a rable ob frm he tne he was Tide, He didn't mach ani en Br Was al fc Ane wae] was Since thon he ays ae ouble at schol Mea’ rane ra Asef nd anys rang fights wh his boon. ow he's stale pape nei Within his sory, Sean's stealing was ezesced as meaning Ne was ‘avenion seek’. This pani mening (or eminnt ple) occa sinough a gang ogetier of many oer eens he pat ht fed with ‘his itmectiion As Sean more aed are cue tobe soe acon his2 trata Traps? An aan indo sry, mess mors event wish ppt the sty of ‘atenin sein! rege to be selecnd ou ar the sary was wld and feo, As wore events ‘wee added thi plo he sary of San as an ‘anion seeker: becne sone “To el hi patna soy, erin evens om the present and pas were seleed ou and enlaine oft whe means thats ents had aie tin doing so, certain events were elected and pinged be ow they tere itercted tof with the pot of “tenon secking’ Therefie, ther vets (a id Stith. Sean sesking. aeons ets “uognse The espns tb sty of tention seckig? ors gh ot i heen ekig” sr bese Fi. S 06 he ‘owe ula) ucerstndings af Sean's ations econ obscured — inching the fact it teal conor ety young men of Seas ls ack round latireighourhord Alle canplexses and contabtns o Sean's ie bat ‘ee spied ine the udetranding tht Seon wasn ‘asin eke ‘Thin description’ ly in heir meetings wis people teapeoen ia sta, he ee above, abut te problem ad te eas that Have oon reached aboot thom. These meanings, reached inthe face of every, often const of what ‘rate therapist cll in desertion “Thin _desrptin allows litle space for the complexes and ond of kf. allow Ui space fo poops to atte thir Own Farias eunings of ei ations andthe content wit which thy cece For example, ia the story above, the description of Sea's bebaviout es tenon seeking’ was thin deverpton Iw genera by oer (008. the case with hin decrgons al eft ile room ovement, “This in desrpn oF Seu tin ateton seeking obscures many thc posible meanings, For al-ws kno, as ting Sean ated my bare ‘een fers stealing oe giver aetna! Pefaps hese ass bad mee do ssh.» for loging ths wh ogi oti fs $e ith dw we ain of oo Nims 2. Serine herp ones 8 ‘eae in siehboutood where adh fort young man mens ei Tosa aiden (thei) Ain desipion of atetin sek has th poli ete Sst ola nd dios rm hsparrs ode, ‘wore arate dips ay psn thr oss fen in deterpons of people's actonsieaies ae cetd by oters = those wth he poner of din in putas cueumsnse Datei nd ecko inh ves of hie, hes rosin in he es of ‘hose who comutem).Bu soles people coe undead tis om tos hough ha descrpoos. Ja wistver context hin deerme ‘Thin conclusions and their effects "Tha desipton fie ea hi consis out pope's denon to the have may nopave fects Fer example, as Sean actions wre thal deserted a “eet seein" he uckly sce een “an ation sccice, Thi thin coelson abou! Sean as 2 pervon was having neatve ‘Mes ot oly in elation fo Sea's experience of hf but lo on the ‘olonships tween Sean ands pares "Thin coolsins ae ofen exsist ap «truth about he person who it sveing th the poblem and tr ieiy. The sen wid i problem fray be undesocd to be ‘of’, “hopeli o& ‘a woublewake’. These hin Conckstons, dan fom problsatned ses, iepower people thy ive regularly tase in forms of yothieie, diabies, dyunctons or taadogacies, an seal my of se hin Conlon hat people whe Dave consul me ve Bem vite int: It's ese I'm abd psn! or We ate 2 dytietonl iy Sometines thse thin coocasins obiewe trader aoa of over. For examples 4 oman ha come fe see hers ‘worse isting, of yumident- ait yen brings abi, thse thi sonsasions rake nisl he insce de bas npecnce Thy he he wis of power nd conto whi sb Bs een subj as wel as her sgieant ats of reas ‘Once thin conckons tke holst Recomes very ey fr people 10" thas Move Therapy? exp aoicion ngnge in ptirng evidence 1» support thre dominant poem sanrated ‘ovis, The inten of tee polemic sons can hen become bige md ‘ie: nthe pees, ay ins wien the prin at ecaod th eet of tie problem, any sums wc they have nt been “be hopelse’ or“ wouble mie become Less vibe. Aa hy grblem sory higesr and ig Mt oe owe and wil Mfc ie evs This cooeisions fen lead fo moe thin eoneasns a people's sls, knowles, abies and campteciesheime iin by he ecble to. Alternative stories Naratve thrpits when nally eed wi Seemingly overhelning a concen a pobiem sts, ae eesed in conversion ht sk ‘vt ative ret ~ pot jas ny akerave aris bu stories at ace ete by Se person ering covnsling a oie by which they would tics to Te ther ten. "Thesicrasti inssted_w seek out, od cent in oer, ses of erty st wil as people to bee forthe flee ofthe probly re ig ‘is vaso ha deseition and coelsons an suppor an ssn oblong ese pre can educe dhe in ons of problem and create Bow pores feline oe Sn for stm an eiplatna ofthe arate tex of Ms righ crete uc fi ange, Thee old at be sa of began atscon tee ora probit Intend, hey might con of sts of detention "cago ith, or ves of bow he evecae voles in euler es in Iie fear ways whic ees aeons wells seks i A of se ihe Le leave stores of Seas iO alert sis ight found i te, ‘ean cai) elms of inuginy Seni, hates of names wih hit moh fa, or wii pil Knees that Set might poss Seg ‘is ebcahp with isbeloved et dog Riny In ty of thee eis of i firogh terpatiecnmvenadon, alae stones might be word thal cou anit in aden the grobles Sin curently sugeing vith Th tra in which sheapst and thee who cont wis bem can coal ‘shernve once willbe deere in lowing pts ‘With tes ideas bat staves informing thi work they question fr romaine therapists becomes: How can we sat geole fo eal fom hin onesie and reutbor aew and preted sone fr their Hes and ‘saorsipe? ‘As Feed nd Gene Con deri: Naru therapists ve eet in working wt pope tring fh and sche sone ht eo mot signs or susan prolens As people ‘gin (0 Inhabit and Ive ont the aleve ers, the resis are ‘yond soi prtlems With the new tori, ppl ve oc nlf meng, nes possi for relationships ond new furs (196,916) Towards rich and thick description “ore fe fm he nue of peblemate Hoe it ough simply reauthor an aeraive ery, Nanaive drops ae ited ja Siding wey in wih te alive nes can ‘ihr descbe- The oppo of hin cencisn’ is unestood by aura heaps be “rich scp! of lives and elton Many ifn hing cn canto aerate Mois bing “chy crt’ = not least of which being hat they ae gene by the person “nbs if sein aed about. Rich description inate the elation in fie deal ofthe stots of a pons if Ifyou imagine eng 4 move sometimes a sary & ely dered ~ the mies of the characte isons, and own undesandirgs we finely ariculted. The store of the lors fives af inerooven with the seis of eter people ac eve. Simi, mama thet are interest Tn ways forthe serie stro of people's ives obey dread iatrmcven wi he wis ‘The ways in which aerave sole ae comhore, bow they te ad ‘nd © whom, ace all evant consderstons fr mative therapists. Inthe flowing pags, ways wo e.uthor convertion that engage peopl inte ‘ich erp’ of theives aad elation Be moc lly explored‘6 hail Narain Tera? Aneel aration Further reading rondo, J & Cob. 1196: Shing pendams: From sss © sr! In Tresimi J & Can G, Norte Ty: Te ntl oration of era ‘capa New Yo: Nota, Epson, DW, M. 199 Sry, nlp, power n Eps, DW ‘Nae Mere Teraposs Pa chpr|New Yo: Nore. ‘Wht 3,197; The se of rose Apia” White, M,Narabes of Then Lins, Sle | Adele: Dla Cnte Piet. Chapter 3 Externalising conversations: Naming the problem the fist igs hat marae epi terested in doing i 0 the pron's entity fom the probe for whic hey seek assistance. hrefre tein speaking stout the problem in ways thal state i yom te peso ed heir ident. Ths is ise on he premise a robles the pcb, 1 pote to the pero being een 8 he len, scemaling conversions, which oecar allt ume i= nananie sve contains ce bu Externe pater stink of lana 1 a9 aieae and ointaon im cnr, at ely =| gb weds spy weriqu, Kean fen have te oppose fet neni ‘When prope Sock he asstince of thps ey fen spk aout ble in aye th atime tht ts smnchow par of them, er win forexampe am a deprecave sort of person aul dn Twn 0g ayer im wetvate nd at co som othe eer td hing. Fam a worn. Fahey gt ais wn Far newthings8 hast Narain Tey An eso aren “Tae inemmsing eomveratons (souvesatos dat ete problems wad) uly have teguive eles on people's yea and result in tin ‘oncusons (at desc inept 2) (A nrative Gera Lieto hese Sxcrpons an ire in ‘engaging ina convertion to inne the poem away fos the person ~ to “xeric Sone of muna ent do anything’ therapist Ih ny ‘So de problem as ffs you ney lve Inca of "Lm 2 ‘epesive sx of pron be rsp col sy ‘Sth Depeson kas mas ‘thd fr you to goon” "When th Problem song has you thnking that ou hive 9 mctaton’ am a weer could be extemal by saying oth ke The Wony ie stop you eying ne tings? ‘Within exerling convesons, grblems re aay spoken of separate fom people, To ait heupst wien fist exploring exemaliing ‘conversations sometimes suggest sa hey. smagne th prolem os being. ‘hing hat siting sors ei the spom, fr example, onthe pe» ‘ous, ov on ¢ ilerent che Thinking about iti this may cam elp ‘erps espe a heir owr ind the ptson from the problem. There are mary ways begin extemalsing comessations, The Uheapa’s language, chace of word and he wy in ich se pases sentpces snd questions aie all iui. The plrane of stamens and weston it the convertion fom aa iterslsed conveoation t an rerlse one (See Table I: ‘Some directs bese intealsing sm verlag conversion’ sth ent of scape.) (Nuraive tenis ail lie othe decripion of the penon's enpeenc, ping 40 sar a word or pase that describes what might be ‘tin in he Way of he eons if. They wenn for the mares ops ‘of eeming the problem that he psn cermin em wes. A ptson ny Say ost get so more lt casey a nih ods ke a neptive ce imide my hed teling me ttl ant do ayn’. The pcon bas ne the word “wory” and “he mgauve voKe’ to reer te the problem v0 the Herp ay pik up on these two words These wosds wuld he be sed y he harpist nd phrased iieuly se tut it's cle th polem i staned oul ofthe petn andi ier. 4, Buenas cmercon: Mani hpreon wo The theupistmipht make a satemet such a So the Woy in stoping you fhm sleping at night’ or ask a queion tk: ‘How bs the Neate Vokes tit convince you tat yo can't ati” Pang the wor be? before she probleme inmedatey snus ay fon the pein, lentes Souveaions ofen an active ot veh ecemes 2 nan, For erample, the ord “depressed” woul some "he Depron ighting” woul! be spoken fas the Fgh’, waste Won ‘Sonvtines te problen: in be given an dnt or mame ke «pen (tis scaled pesoifjng the problem) People who colt me abt the ifs of ancexis nervosa en theives omatinieschoore to refer to the problem 2 Rex’ or The denon’ ot “He or somtines “Anorexia. Some Shiva who have ben experening euros or etcopiss hve chun i al We prob ‘Seaky woe" or Tiky poo’, Tempers have sometimes bon Jefened wo 2¢ The Teper Tyran Asking people, pclae, to daw whit the problem lk like can sometimes lo be hepa. Therap of this wwe ay «2 Jnl them sprate he person fe he ble (ss tlow),» hart Mate They? An sora acto Naming the problem Import, the Imguape and rane for he problem comes fom the person conn the terapitan ele bythe. The eras may ak fomething ik Tm ja wondering te 8 name yo woul le. 1. roblen? aninvite ns hee ao apne meme “The rit igh heal magenta mae ot way of refering co the problem, was wondering out whit you woud ell is rblem, vein ke, the Depression ths Woy oth Guilt or Sel doubl They were some of the things Vw inking of while ou wee speaking. What do yo thnk” The ‘Heap oak! be exemelyteaee (0 be Sue tha the mae HOF that ‘appeals the pron comeing them. Te thepit dce not was in ay way fo impose a ae en them, They may check the word withthe pion by ‘avin something He: Lyi mooring the name Ansty ot omy mould Stl ya We Soulja esp cling te obi “aml we come mp wih 2 beter one, satis. Intl he poker mht imply Be named Hun sme cat the peso coosaling the then sound During he couse of conversation crt eres ofhempy setiony, heme at as ren agreed spa to desrbe the problem can changs ts ne in dipvered abou x carci. Wis very imprint hat he teapat cota cons the peron daring testking What can be externalised? Inthe ons of converains my ion things canbe exten Feelings esis such tai, wor fa, al detesson nay he he fas ofetemalisiag conversations. in thebe tains, heros might pre ei questions ke these “+ So wharha the Gul sd ak you nt bout ourse [Been conrition: Nong theron uw ‘So how has she Far id convince sot tht ase oot of our 1 How lng has he Stn Ban rt et ition you ond you fede? Problems between people ‘Apes of inerperiolreltonuios my alka be extemal ete Bickoring the Blame the Getic, the Tipting, the Hopeeese the Moss, Jealousy. Questions in hse suations cul soon Uke 4+ Wha othe igh tle yin att yore aa pier? + What dost Bla hav you deine with enc ctor? + Whats the Conca 300 moantewch other? 4+ How mueh dors the Bering get tn hs ayo yor convertion? Culrurel ard soto! practices Cla and sci patos may lobe stmmed ayy en he person Moterblaning,poeecbisniag. women ising, heleoseaal dominance, rc, eeonomi atonal ay be aod a practic tt have ase the ‘lem ners enn pron ile ‘other metaphors ‘Sometimes people may tlk shout 9 probim mesos. For ‘cample, they my speak of ‘wall ofzseament te bls "te dean’ of "io ia wave dsp Meter ithe can alo be ete More thon one problem ot a time te courte of convertion iis poss tht hrs wl be more tha ‘ne problem etal Insane etait nb mae an it al ‘te entrained problems and ask the person conuling them pitie ‘tem, Alatvey, on pase to he Nexile a apen nextel ‘varius problemi ans a ey arse in he convention ay be that one problem 6 working ogee wa anoierpablem, Deprecoa my have2 Ino Nate Theres? An aod irae “fens oc allies’ that ssi 3, iho teaming. up Se dous” 0 "Selec for example Taking care to consider the broader context Tiking ce when choosing words tsetse the problem is very important nexerasng convertion. is cial atte guage coten i extemlising conversions ct not eadvery eine Gmina ees ‘tot maybe smpoting the probes. Some exerts will reste much ve rom move than oe. ‘For examples Twas cosling child in retin 0 ther exeesss ‘of bullying in the since un they spoke equaly bout the eft of Sane ad the ffs of Heaing, would be irene fe asking are fanerqusrion o deerme wit wo exteie. Keowing tht focusing on ‘xtmng sas nth wot of sation could navel cone to king ive the lao of power ht wer sci tn this hl’ iL ‘might ask wheter te Hasng thar rags he Sadness? Or, i Sadiss round more or lest when Ming. aun? I the anener di Lik tbe Sess Haig her Fight ak woul be al ight © ak ome more ‘gusto about Has, n this may I wou Ye keeping an awareness of the Policy sven aning te problem, weak conlig wth the chi 0 Cre dal we cane op with a mame for he pele thet muy reesei ec expesiene Tei ingortan ha he content of pesos i is abvays alee in cxtemlsing conventions, If for example, « you peson i bought ‘herpy wit hiss fry complaining ef anger and tarts, oe initia might consid estemalving he pote a he Taner or "Trp. What i however, the aay he eeaty moved Route came ofa change ther ancl elzumstances? What if the jouns pstaba and family were ao xeroncing th fet of rack? Thee coafexta icin could be minimis ithe problem was ame a “Teper after jstice cold be dns. Tring caret explore herr conta in which te problem is occung i therefore a spect part of extern convection In hi sation afer futher conversations the pobler mht perhans be mae “the Rags” a way 1 rang coer Manin he probs a ‘fo takes into ecout the levine of power and inte nthe young psn’ ie Anoker imporont fhe i slsion to ackaowleding he trader Senex of people's es in enealisiog connections ree to Sues of sure ecause ofthe prevalne fabase checkout of the context of a peon' fe ned bo routine. Ti prolly te in ‘etn eile Ta some ercumrance, when taking shot exeralsing aeration, checking ot about be posit ef bas rial feb, for example, a6 speaking sot the fein thee Wife the teas, or the ihimares they ere experesig, hee would ot be extranet there ‘asa terough eon of he conte ofa hl’ te. Tis exploration of he comet of he lls ie i eed node oes tht she tthe reson forthe temo, furor ngkimares? To oan «problem as faerie! igimares when the problems & setuly one af abate coal contibute to silencing the cis experene, a ric he iad the suse beg, adeed. Ia is vay, as 9 pat of deeming te coun extemaliing convertion, Heaps are oe comntatlyeheckig out the ade ont © pope's lies Exteraliing caveat noe be sem i he cont of fess chackin-ut processes ane a cont aero the bode context of people's ves. ‘So, smmary, witha exenaliing comets i i port tt the mame oi robles the experince fhe ern contig ep, Ste pecan eosaing the thease voted in didn pa oy he problemi going be refered oan at there chosen lle fo he lies experience be examined. eras ave any las abet wht [wnat hey my need as te questions ote pein) enced 0 uy wt woul ee Ds way cfr the pee, cs rein f owing on neo Ka™ Iti Narain Tes? Ann read eran Why do we choose to engage in externalising conversations? People who ae sngnged in sxtraliieg convermions find them ‘ermal bepfl fOr many sesors. Exeicng conven esabsh 2 onie! wh the pron caperiones teaches gpa fom te problem Inca ny te problem no longer spas ther of ter ently oe ‘na ‘oH who they ue. People olen Gand Us» grea rele a topes apace for ‘hem to bein to ue action again the peblem and opens sac fer them t2 ‘nok peavey revie hres tthe problem. Treblems appear ket fixe and es resicing, when spoken of in ‘xtrrsng says. When people te. separated stm problems, he a hilt, ites, competecies and conminens besome more vibe, The Ino wsble tere eile some, the mare ade they are for people ‘cts Excmalsing convertion edace gui and ame ad yt eave com foe tesponsiiiy Exenisig converatios hep ods te eects of bling, pastolopeng an signesing dat are consmonly experienced hy peopl 3 Impevershing of txt liven Tay open posits fr people to describe Uhescivs, sac other ad tel relnshipe om «now and nn proem ‘oivated poston, Eneralsing.consrmions (ate te renaming of he oblemsatred story tht noe dominated te es In tis, way the ‘roblom beste the pblem and then the person's telaoshi. wih the ‘oblom becomes the problem CWhis & Epste 1990, pA0) teasing ‘soavetabonr emilee dveopment on allesntive story er uni ie ta ferret amily ewes ‘Once a person is pa fom the problem o he doniaast problem story, once yen song aout themes as bis. aft by problem ss opposed to teneclves being problema, opin bpm avalible, "Tne or vaye which ty have been ev ae presently separated fom the fle of tole Bosome ese hick and speak sb Ts ines ate oun aimee ouome’ a wl be dcisedn chape 7, Unique outset rovide pent o dierent saris ad eh eseriptons of people's ives. “Enetaliing conversions can alo. decrease the amoat_ of unpeedbctve conit hat ay have sien Retcen poope nce the problem’ “4 Brag emirates Nomi he poten a ‘xisece. Dips over who ia blame bocme ls leant as ppl bepia loduink fe problem aan inden: ety. Co-qpention nd caliahoraton become more of poslity wien he problem i nt locate within be ety of ther pon ‘A thorough exploration and personification of the problem ‘Agevingwpon a way of refering tthe problem and emai i 2 ‘cman covers shifts the roblem fr nie the pron 0 euiide of them. A though investition ip tbe problems is thn purl This Svough veigaton can cee sty to in onveatons with pele ‘Te thers interested in exposing ab fining at a mech at posible about the probe's rcks the probe aces he problem's way of operating the problems ways of peaking ts voc, eh ote f why ‘he problem ination te problem's ttt ad is, be pol plans ‘he problem's iss and isi the problem rules the prob papones the pobin detes ‘he prebien’s motives the problem's techniques ‘be prblem’s reams {te problem’ ales: who stands with to isi who appa it ht foresee ia gs with IWBBrebes deceit ois™ hae Marae herp? dn eens econ ‘As we lao al ts ft he probe sadly develops its om persona. Esplng wily the olen ticks al aetkos of erin, a ‘doing hs some di detest pole a septs "thing ig. This ir why thee soe of camversaons ae sometines refered 1 as -onvestons which "penonif he pelem’ The gusto that are asked ead to the problem bing eno a uving som ways of ing and its ov ‘motive ninth fe pets ekg asiacee ‘One way to expan is ype of converiion 10 inode yo to Madeline who wa ight ets of when we met Madeline conse me bout the ffs oF ie Dum Bun elie The Dm Bug was ei in he way ‘of bir coseetaton 1 sechool and ming had for Madeline fo by ew things using ur iia neungs ogee T asked Madeline tof questions ‘sho the Den Bg rd wha was po. il suai someof he things tat Madeline fold me aod te qosns Fake et, They are daw flo ‘abe cue var peed tin Ale: 5 what 8 he Du Bape youaboat yous? Matinee say x onyhing aed ae 0 op me to ag. Ale: Ho est tp ou to ying Madeline: Wye, “You not abet tht 1 oe Hae, There's poi ‘ce arg, co yea won't Be able Wo 8 i ‘Ace: Ham dos ay th Do ithav a spe arf veo ay of pa Madaine: On. S301 of oe vice. Mice: At oie? Madeline, Worse wd yell me and e98 manly. Alice: Does always speak mesa to you? ‘Madeln; Atways never sy any le, jst ings ke "You ae du spit Alice: Wha oct tay hee thing? tall eine a only some fe ine Madeline; st sone of the te but voally when I got my work ftom teacher ad ali 28 things 0 mea spr. 4 onan tomeratoe Nana phn ” Alice: Wha oe tay apo) Det: “Youve cia, you ca pe i tia cin oc EE ‘wot wat 0” Alc: Sores yo? Is that se? Maden: Wes, always cities in eveything ven whe a ot hort oles haw ry he bes Alice Wow does the Dub Bug work? Do you tno coming? Dose tive youn wating? Madalne: Seretines io is he bao makes my smc cba Alice: $i tags your stomach Fis Ushi Madeline No. Boor that ts nny bed saying ings x hen it gost my ‘somach AlceThen waa apps? Madi: Wel eat ge beans when my sch chums, Lat da thing ana ick Al: Sos tsi 0 rs gab your heugts and then twos: on yout omach, Nadel: You Ace: Wow lng woul take w dos? Dogs itor uch or stony? Mace: Once pts inthe Dum ga All problem can be externa. Petry nasty, sorein ners, ‘ice of szopiel, rac, hab, ls, sl dou al have peat Thos of operation. Thee cao br ilies betwen the way Ht whith probe speak an her canbe deren. * For example, many wari Me Gt me tat ke oie of nena Ivo ia male oie However, ome sy isp sft nde vis, vi ces ay that spas as nt an boorang voce, Thy al ay tit fel tm they wil gt ey ea To some waren Amores Nee pe tothemall tein, ts sens ony x mea ies nd when thy ae od” hart Nr Thay? An ay vend aration ‘Thcpists never presume they “ko” how e prbles works. Each convertion is wend a spate fom aloes, Smetines the taps ‘expense wih ther people ean Be drawn upon oasis with the expose of he problem. oul, fr example, yt Madtin: ‘ve apn ew people ow ho have had some expurence with eating isthe Dum Be. Wold you be intrest in knowizg wha thy sve sid shou tha? They have sid th the Dunk Hg es the og pen and ot ty ayn Has it ied tox you eds it ry ferent ings” Madeline espe ois queton ‘il pea mere posibis nexplors how the Dun ug apes. sept explore carey al asown of he problem a his ca are si he pers to separate hemscves ft Thi exploain ‘occur at any tine =o the fist mina oF te conversion, Txooghout he verti sup he therapist 1 en for sg the ats ofthe [moblem Once the problem hasbeen externa, the thrpit ever ts that the peole'stsics ar pcient inthe conviction (the poem i Mfecnag te ways in which the penon spel) then te teapt may ‘hoof vetigate his by abi a sie of qusions. They may ao nite an exploration of the tess of the problem and sf and eal te so abou hei inex paring this srt of ction fo it Me ‘abocep Revising relationships with problems By enabling pope separ themssves fom te pobias which Mey ae seeing eiitanee, exeralising converatone ll fi celaations oh laos etwas he person nthe problem. When ‘cp nmin tat people ar a a parla relation wih dhe prob fe "whicey te hel, his pens possi: fr rau conversations. ‘Therap ca sk peopl o think of way te dese the rel ‘hat cutenly exists becween them and te peoblem. Queso may a0 tomating ike this I thre name you cold pve how things eB you and Perfection” or "What wands would pou we to deci ‘embip ih tis problems i. hagpy fens, a some mined_ype_of comectn?” Pople tay wie words ike "tou Ector Nani he pales 2 Jarmomenmtve’, ‘eafical, vette’, fiend oy fiend and foe Sometimes metaphors may be evoke sich at's Hea spa” o sks bring ey 2 ya, Thee explersiny can ait in describing the nature oft relationship between the person an ie problem. (ce desericon ba been gen tthe curentreaiowtip the therapist igh ak some qustons to determine what ipo of relies ald Beer aut te pean. Ths awe people o begin wo te thi owe pnions and ideas an canbe an importa tp in he poses of raring live mh be tat poole wih en tee elation with the robles ‘ier stations people might simply be bing fr ‘aa, “oeeadonl of ‘soublete’eliinsip with what carey «poten, Tee oulowiag capers wil explore ways jm whisk thepetc Sovecatons can att people 16 change te realonhie they have wi Problems. Fit however, have il «able tat aps ot some of the iereoes betwen intemal and exes conventions. Table 1: Some differences between internalised and ‘externalsed conversations Tnrernaized conversarins | Externalised conversetions ‘See the persones the problem. | See the probleme the problems Lecate problems side the |The problems spoken of es outade person ofthe person, This sreses spce fer dscuon cbt the persons ‘relationship wth the pasion tok for whet is ‘arog! o | Lacre problems ina conto that “elcent with nina ‘external or culsie of the porton rd thir ety Actions gean os surfoce | Actions seen os eventa That Rove Ionfestarens of « central core | cciered ne segues, eet @ oral tine gered. accorday tes» Mati Neri Tray? An ays ction 3: Baling comers Naming he proton a ( Internatsed conversations ior) Externaized comersetions | oor eek the opons of eikers 10 ‘Spl shavers or robes Descriptions Tend fo ftaise the ferson and the gefty leon Fete roam for other ceserotions tide. ‘low for maple desenphons oF Tite people v0 dicern Ther own rneaing end) expletations for ‘een. ‘ake tise te sacl proctices that pronete, ston and rarare ‘the bff the prebem ie waibe The soci) proctices that pronste, susan and nartne the fe of the pobien, ead fo thin cerlasons about Ve. the fond relations. Teed fe rich deveriptons of ee ora relotarshis Trane the interalrlvences on pele who seek heb, Tranine the elfrel soc-polial Mores thet infuerce The Ives of pople wha sek hel Lead to catoorcation of people in tema of ham “iferent they fe from the ror tele ot teens ore aevsed Yo describe pesples experience or problem Niven people ore seen co ferent, they often expenence ‘Sacrmination Gelbrote ference ond colege Teor of norm Ebrace ference eed” sete 10. make ‘crimination pratices vile Understand problems os rt of people ond. their dent. Exnversaion ore therefore ened ern ys. of ‘ing ik the effects of cartan igroes, atone ADD: Thole cenuting people about Charging or reegotting Felonies mith roblens ‘Those euside of the nflence of | People hold the expertise over tele the problem (eg. professienas) | emlve ard eletonshipe are seen a the expert, ‘The agent of change is considered | The agent of change le annmuna tebe the stroteges designed by | Erteralsingcoreraatont seek Yo thers thet wil i th prabim| cover what sie ond Moulage: eepecnt, Langige weed often Tom | Language wed i ofton Tt Cffen ile talking «lot abou | Seek elerative ceacrptions ond the problem end it deta, Stones culade of the poblen desert Further reading Morpu, A 1998 “Cosermton® of aly” Ia Wa. & Deteswh, De, Tarai orate harp A eoecon of pace bed wn. Ads ue Cae Pte is, on, D 90 omg aon” Ws Mpa, D (Cour) Nora Mess Thrapete a, a2, pp HEI. New Ye or examples of eternal conten in comma work etings se Te we of Be CARE Couselon o Mian & Sip, ¥. 198 ‘Pango pao Ke yi at ba Wh. & Dest BC Indien Naratne Therapy 4 itn of prc baedwrtingy, Aaa Wins, B. 1998 hnedcng Se" Ia Whe, C & Deu, D. fl, Sting Sara hy lin of rich wr Nae Wing B. 199K “et Remeber, eft eve!” Whe, & Dehaoh D. {ela Nara Thay eaten ef paced etn ‘die Dele Cone ueionsChapter 4 Tracing the history of the problem ory inthe meesngs wih people, Ueap Interested in aaa practes ‘fe fiat cetera canveratens sin the peron coming er ae Asus in dhe previous chap). Once a conversations opened whereby tbe Iblem sumed and spared tom ihe person the thera sinned a “ohng some questions that agus nto the hitter of the peer in te son's ie. Ths soy may steaming fm th stan pt (eps ‘efor: ne problem etd ie pesoe’s he) tough eth eae at peage he day before, tela Before te pevows wes, he ine since making the ‘jpinien) This iaguy esto ace he iets ofthe problem it he son's over a eg tine pri. ‘en this osu wil ome fom tgs tat he pein cnsaing the erp sys, such I nny, you know, Because Wien Twas om bois Ia eur esl el seen ae ps dt et inthe way al! 0 "1 on even remember having sluts 8 ci’. Tae therapy pick op sateen si a esa inguefaher hy aking Te mar deta abut the tines telened and te tines flea bef ifr example: “How ol reg then when yu. wes ie ftom slob! and Since that me can sy fille non what ion i? The traps ca so ark mere dict questions abou the pat and he ssn’ lationship wih he problem thos es The therapist is eking 10 sders vets in pst ad what he peon noticed aout he probe at ‘aime Some guesion might incase + Men dou fro noice ihe proton? How omg? + ae do you ramen Before problem entre. your if? ee se asia totter Vandi age eh elaepedie + arar ing ASA fF EAA fo Teh on cal SDdaoeen Wat dlr tra Allin? fee mowmnnengu In thse questions, the therapist may simply fet the pole ‘the oblen’ or se the pater extras same or metpho a has be egolaed, or example "When would you sy ht Sel-Dout was stones Speciving the paclen’s me ip ts extelistd way fuer assist separa ho pole fom he person The heaps san cote any fame dort expr the ie pei athe sof ie prblem, Questions hs begin wats What ‘ihen a Who stn faa conversations hat provide more spectic det shot the event ht i, Relative influence questioning Relaveinlunce guts cane hep when acing he ior the plan. Te teapt can atk he penox © tage hey wert 1 hi ott tere a wo ofthe number ea. The therapist ean then ak ‘muh f out ie ou te woul you sy the prble ad sx mots 50 owsnach of ou fe ide have” The oson may ep, "Sic months ago ad scoot often an Bad our cut of en’ The therapist ea the ask ‘ther ime pero sing he sme numeral ese “Aad woek age, ‘woul yoa say you had and Bow each i the problem have” The person 0h, igh ot fea othe poem ad two ont often ome Tee guestons allow he therapist ings about ay ine daring it Te ate may sorte of rite aduence questions hat ean e 4 hcg testy fe rb ” (Questions canbe asked tat ivite he pers to onsite intense oF the problem with umber eg eu af 10, 20,50, 0, orana peeage Opp ‘ghths neste in daving pi eprescraion ‘Amy fund ich daw ise nd ivi eto segment to show the ieflece of worry ine if. The complete in sess Arps ake: Amy tomark aX show how mucho her ie wary had wn ha” uch she tadatditeren poit in sine ‘The port of Amy's life ‘The part of Amy's taken up with Werry or ten ae ‘separate from Worry Yerterdy Three weeks ope cece aM wo months op: ‘one yer age Four year x Fe yan oo: Fram thee plererwe begun o ge view of Amys ean he poe. Ally chat fo repent her ie by drawing» sina shay: She mated o he spa tke amount of pace she had nd umount of space the roles Ba tere nes in eri "hen is by owing pete topos th ear the oe ofthe pete at paula ties Ste exit eth he a ne ‘hn shies tha Teeube and ie hen Table ig ha“6 hata Thay? dn ao eed ct Facto ace anther way t9 abo the problem's intense over tine “is terps cana pron for xampl to shade shape a i tng bob shape) to dpi he run of problem's ie and ie amount of ‘here over te. Sareea might ska peso acta pec of paper ‘nw two pes oe pce nese he sizeof the problem undo 19 represen thesis of i pron’ ie Why is it helpful2 Tiacing the hry of th problem in he peroes Me Dens epee space fo he conden of thee stores about the problem. When ae yoblemilacedinacomtoxotr inst son as chaning ads ss. oF Fred. Moments of greater er lester flee ean be teal. People ofen ne now When times of less and greater inthence ate dicoveted new of seen storie may emerge Tes when te problem hd es inten oe ‘eiaps no ines) my be anigue outcomes (> hater 7) and nd 1 m9 MA Trig ey oft pron, ” ‘Conversations tat aes the history ofthe problem cable tetera ‘eta sent of vme ofthe meting (is cochaon)that he person ay ave och ding the poben's existence. For example, Tonys “The anicy as lly song fore coc Bere besaat I n't cope well with new ‘tos’. Thes thin cone nons ca then be expr fre conventions ‘hay that open vp possibile for new and dierent asi, “Trig. hs af the elem can alo sak. pombe to dover he pecs bee nla. oer the problema pst es, Th Ima askabout be umes when for anes hs ha tf LO andthe problem. ony. bad 2 The teas ay eek to umes ore wha was happening a at Une, the ail, competes, desis | the person was comeced 1 and thee ns wane educa. ‘Asking gets. sae: pubes ison. ny aio bei. sme of ths probe sik al staf operation (ee copes 3 soning the problem). For example, when Tony Tak heist that rs les have hin fo jared ew ew st at at Ineo top hi fm coring © de thapy appoimimen he herp ght re Ben ners in aking me abeat bow ality works, This it have ino an exploration of tir ties wen ane) ha id to pevent him sme oof actin bat a le, Exemalisingcomtestlons that nase the bury ofthe problem over ntribute © the person futher sparatiog fom the problem sey place protic na ouger tom cohen. Axasonas tte conversions ac ain restoring were be, Problems that seem to have a long history Considerations oC history are ako important when dosing problems hat ave een sound for a Lowg ine. Tracing the Mary hee sot of ses cables fon enn problens ob pied with say. Questions fan be asked tht lead oan explain of whe the pobln fs eame ita Matt Meat Therapy? An a red ution na’ ie, wh he blest ook shape owt was super ho ‘Mora sippame by, A sne of hisory eal he pce be placed within {laters sore or example, Ral we slleiag frm severe depen. For mah of ik ada Tie he id ved lone wih ie steaton with ther, Depression ng man. He al bees hospi ov & umber of occasions, and wae conuling a thnpist now Seuss he was ‘mcr that he whe Wo edhe if. tthe couse of cxnveations, he sory of Deression entering i ie wa raul rte nie, Raat ‘ony he very day hal ra appeared ia hi i. Ths wa the day ie rte did a he was nea lve ote home fat weld pore be tm abusive ani howl place By wacng Depression’ omy ino is ie at is ‘tome, Ral wi abl to speak abot his before Depession, hi He it Iu mote te orgies hey a shared together He was abit ence the tcc of Depression alte suse dat enabled to ai mos of his ‘if Over ne, placing Depo mt plier string alo enabled Ra to sds te histones ofthe way i wil he had mie fo rest Daren’ alas. Hy nding way akeowlege hs iors, an fink ways recount th his mother's nage, Depressions infvenge exer so gradul ‘gan have est of old on Ra's ie ‘el write mote sbout acing th histories of esse to probe hapier 8 But porto esplring the wast i which peopl ave resi rublems is npr fr he feof problem to ely expe Chapter 5 Exploring the effects of the problem ‘Pay on in therapeic conversions, eit paras o expore in sme i ets tat problem as don. the era's re. Azan te problem ie ‘poten ofa extra 0 the pees nity es hater 3). The teat can * ef gusto abot the ways in which problem as alec: 4 he poson's sete ose wha thy thik of hemeles a3 psn Ahir view of hemalees paren, parr mtr, wie sister, brother, "hes pe rear and sen the se heir relinsbies with cilen pret pat, corny meer collegues thei wu ‘i soil le ese tough eiephysia ealdh tec Further reading ae, M198 Hare af the pons” In liga, S. ed Thrapeu ‘eran New Yer Net her moods a tings ir everdy ite »o hat trative They? An yond oto “The qostane might sound someting he tes How have the Habits effet your relationship wih you teachr? Has _gg0u cloner fhe fram hn? How ha the Depreson acted how you Bink about youre? © Hos have the Hoste Votes acted your neg) feels? i easier or Frodo things when they are dominant? How hs the Bulimia ace yourmods and felines? “How has th Fear afected your Bl about oer pape and he wi wort? aye the Terran ected yo wok? + What ct as he Sony had an yo ew of one an father? rho ft has the Pit had on you sok HE? Have you nocd anges? “+ How haste inary at bom you se youself as paret end pare? Why is this helpful? ‘sotto wie od pal Si x sum ety ing of mgt te tn ‘Sony in the, person's ie, Je a ot es reieis ey erent ernpt yt piecing Wr ee ton Seu bn one ois Hon loi eat Sy cote or irae To he exer of pan 18 onsatoe. When wre dan pe peso i reset a meeting 2h Fmember cape cold abou be effets of the grote on tei om, ‘Teviy bing igi saris and ilerences in experienc hat eat be forte eps re Texas may wwii docunenis (oe caper 10) pa goa the isn te. jroblm i ving on be pron’ 1s pont fo note hat his exploration of th ones ser ly rough exerting conetaons, fr example, “$0 the hele wees you feeling wore? Ife explorations did oso nexterslisine could quis sail conte. to. me geen fling wore a8 te ben's inlence could ial be nese the ting fe apres fn xtmaising ways, waver, It cas beam engectiag, maga acloowleping proces. It Jonge psi of thee ent. ‘When the dominant ides and betes tat apport se problem se expe and dcoed,ties when the pen has se aginst or chllengsd Them also become vise, Ishi sigan tote pean, nique fucome tnt wil ops posi forthe discovery af an abst 300) ‘Once Tocy and 1 hoo explored the Hens of “pracy say Uh Jinluenced et, he sory of thse Meas und tei ele, Ley fk mort Sepa from tern. Once separated, the began to lap at hem an Wie merged were ste of ner when the probes had ad less inne upon tr ines when he vos preva Tay sbought these were sigan sad rofench and they were hus anigu outcomes tbe futher epoced and Aeveloped (oe capes 7 on sige oueomes) tn eeanution convertion is Sprtan i note a herp ‘ot yng omovies or hgh onthe person, 0 "cheng pon thinking” Nor ate hey tnponing an cutie pot of vew no hs convert “hey are aking qutons that they do ot know the answer and they emaining coos, They ae ingiiag 0 1 the Mets and costext ht may tepporing the existence of ie problem; they are ting the history of ‘det how they sume ino he pero’ We the are asking pets tl Calut the ees of thes lef, wheter ya ely fo Se ‘fxs re nda not be elf Sait are sein fo nis ono ties when the ron bus din way ht dente x breaking aay ‘hese dominant eas Wen te wiqu scenes re ented, ts pos to expe ten fater 18 they sre openigs fo alematice stones. Ths consid ia re deta ithe fllowing hap. Chapter 7 Discovering unique outcome: Listening for times when the problem has had less or no influence ‘As are hist othe sre ought otheapy they wil ea of yes that wih he podem story and events Bat ce te condi or stand “uns o€ tat eominan problem rr. They wil ee eves that sent ‘ve infsne of he pole, and eves that tard aguas the problem's Jo and Thee conned 8 erp need in weliming their ‘ehionship on sce and aout imal meeting ty 11 the Traps ehow any events ta ts wi his dominant decrition of this Iestonsip. For inane, Teme said "He jus doe al ee anymore, bat De sens all his ime eter watching sport en TV ad the ely tine we get to Tak i wen Igo and mi of Teter yh dd’ cone oe fam wrk fn! nde ont doen't ant 9 be wit meat ai: "Ske won tel me Dying and when ak ee what i wrong he jon sus off ad enes the oo, Ic soo get hough to her sy res. Ste wl ly ak to Ber Die ens, We mado sare eve hing gether ‘Te teapisingused abou te mss who they el re comme fe ter befre disance ad jealousy sueceed a te clansip Teme ol the thei aboot thet enjoyment of bu waking ad wating move 812 hai rat hry? An co-ed adn ogee ad ooh od the hrepist abou ang hoi a they ha ened tome mons previ. Teme ai: “Well, til go sallg ogee and "harmo too fa He sometines wl tel ne hing hen an 'mabays realy pie Joh greed an ofered "Yes, we are alas beter if we have Beek ing but ht oes happen very ofa’ The apt aha then Wat they Spo cl tine ey aed eer, when toy were salina Josh called closes an Teme common” When Joh and iene went sailing ey experienced someting ierent— aie amy sl dhe dace ap jal. Both Josh and Tene ‘decided thi tne a sighieant om. vem ke Jock and Tine going taling tgs, dt are fren ox cute of the peablen’s inten, are Jim nique once. ‘igus ousome can be anything tat be grblen oul ot ks nything tat doesnot iC with th ominant ry. They ar insteesevent that wold be illo schieve height of te problem. Hoth and iene both ought dat was suprising o chive communication and eisenss whit sailing ad hats was il aehleve nthe ight ofthe dominant Sry (ot sant nd jens clash), Narave thepis would cons this ange omc and woul be vr inated to. disover mor abet Sometimes unig aos are Keowa a spxklng c¥ens! a hey ae IKE ‘ret ht shine o stand ost ental domleat try. ‘A uangae oteome ray bea plan, action felng. interest, quality ‘evi, dcan though, sti blip, ocecmmltmet. nga onzomes canbe in he pas, the present andor the fue, Table 2 gives some examples niu outcomes, To begia with 1 would gest hat therapists choos to. fess the lngucy sound ong once hati very sk he resections of he mn() a ht i Sry fiir hor. Genel, people tnd quctons Shou thse emus xtcmes ei Wo aver, as hey Sem mow! evant 18 ths dyt-day experience of Ki ad hi ot of ing most ky 1 sa inthe ih sptiton on alematve oy > Diwonrine mde cnteomer Fy Teble 2: Unique Outcomes A plan: Mel paring to gp out for cup of coffee when Anerexie “rie 9 tll her she wil get fot nd shod go. oat) ‘An ection: Ari raging 0 fiend when the vice of depression hs ‘ed 7st i rom hi ends (3s) ‘A feeling Maroy felngplcsed with her exam ress when Self Prfectonsn tried te tel her they werer? gord ena.gh (resent, ‘A statement: Ral ging her oprare na meeting when Sef-Dovt Aid toslence her (it) ‘A quality: Ena maintining hr care for otharsin the fen of abusive prochiees inher werk enironment (presen!) [A desie/deeam: Dave hoping 10 share haiay with Ws emily when Tis teis free ofthe nflance of leah ond drs (ate) 1 thought: Xorg thikirg ‘Ts rot my fou’ wen mother bloning ed to tek her into feeing response for her eavghtar berg sibject tabs, (esata ast) ‘A beef: Lux soying ballve I will get beter from thi when Depression res ofl him tat ts mgs (preset) ‘An any: Chis nd Learn aughigYogether abou samething thar ‘eughter hod sad to Them Expects’ fad on any ‘2czaon# oot between them and made ffi for then ‘Sperence oy wih parenting, resent) 1A conmitment: Baber cd Laurie berg carmited to nowvelert Terms of parenting when ther own experienc ad Seen one of hues. ger ona presenta ht Naira? An and ron Discovering unique outcomes. Unique outcomes may be dsoreed diag rape conenains 8 vl at ding dhe times eevee, Hfoe aad afer these conversations. Many poole Fhaveoken Wo coagerthe act of mag an apoinnent and ming to apeak with therapist about a robes sgiieantuique oxsome, Speaking abont a peblen wih aia pevon sally epee 2 snd ‘punt problem’ fence. asked Asta, “Did any yw tp yo ora ‘omit Aa tld me of nye When anxiety a tapped hes om Pong to make an appoinien and tat tna big thing 1 aie a my Mice and nt “bac ou he st minis, Hk sally usin soyersatio, the herp ay nace eens it stand ove the prcbem sory, Ni at his fons conse me abot the ffs of an “Aenton Delict Disoe dagen, Dring ou menting Nie at quite sil nd atemve near 30 ts out of he 6 nt: eso. This ait ugh my acon as being letent rom what ADD wou want Whes f {hed abouts, Nien bse tl me tha "Yes, hat good fr Nc but he ‘an ital wen hein in Art la or wn Rag Rats om evn’ ng Raia palaces carton rosa) ‘Once fhe boty aed effects of ke problem hare ben. mee, de peop i lteiag for any fim when the preblem had eg il oF snus ove pen, Tey aon he oka fring hl ar exceptions ‘oF fret fom the dominant problem sampted sry: As the espe “utes abut» paren ozone ote: ines fe fom a problen's ‘ene become more spareuvisbleaccessiblsraable. Noting Niet lily itsilin he semon Jed to ever sme ote tines wed ADD Aid oo emp is Me A hee unig outcomes ae expe fare, hey vet eink and ood gtr, > forma ew al erate soy. parte from he ADD sy ‘Unlove outcomes (events Hat sand ouside of the dominant slay problem anf go omotie, ules he therapists ane yah tr thom, Poole te pice less sglficance op thee: evens amt wil fen ‘mean the very quel pasing. Tey ean pss tough conversation ‘woot beng commmentl wpon ani they ate nace by Ge therapist amd inguired sbont Unigueeukomes might be mentioned inom... 7. Dacaig i coca 8 ‘hetbraict py particu aneation tem. ‘The hep isms ian egy ft cont a ey en seve a pening he desrions of teie ndrelaonhp of he people seeing ‘omen Uniusotarssca be dorways a adsense ese Ife center ‘te dagram below (igre 2), tis oars canbe tough a he Xs tie ‘Gee evens comes wih he donna sory. Wis hy are es ie inthe lof Ue damit ey hey ae nels tes, ee 0 Be aor Figure 2 = brea per/story honinant potstory xen “Terps nunca by naman ways of working aie ht hese cat nique outcomes do ot exit i laa Tey ste HE pabent re neve 100% sees and ha, treo, hr wil be oh evens tet is tat a te eta liked wid tbe aoigue outcome tht Bat heen discover, Daativethrpsts do aot ce hese tines thte unique ctcomes, 364k ed they pa than dow ech. Tey conser thes sparing event te Iocopenings one and iret convertion ~ openings to sup ts ti ulus ad move towarseer destin “Tee ae many othr ways to discover unique tices, When x heaps mee witha aly ad traces the history of th problem and the effets oft problem nthe Faas ite he about many eves at it the damian tory. Trou! these experts, however, they renin arous aout ny eves that oat fe wth he doin ty. ‘When inguin about the efits of SIE on he tonsips wih fiends, Szanue reported: “OH 9, Lal go out ad met with my Hae Seat does me fom deat, {would et Thi aby sem lobe an exception of someting diferent fr the Sominnt ory of Se Hate,% haa hry? An canoe inaction is imortn to note, however, tat sich eve ate ne unane on the herapnt conus he pero otc ican is mot pot Ie op w the peron who fe sorking counseling to deemioe whether something 8 oF is mote ungue oxsare. The hepa mst ak the perio tout the even to check whtr ot they conser it be spei sn tis I hey oo consis sitet asian, nd corto ‘he domina say then 0d only he ean ibe cohee unique ous, ‘hcp hn texas can al ina cel these times away Ko Mh lminan soy 9 ese shea sigutcnt nl asa es atin os sttryngoconine the peso hath set spifian Ths oes ns Ateapin im postin of outing ot poses and i ot the approach mative thenpats ae istered Jn. AN eve hat xa onside of ‘ominn sry bony nique outcome i the peren contin ibe era lbs iw be so, Cf eagairy nd conultion st te ers ainays eae evilaing te sigaicance of ern evens a ie eee ‘be peraon whose ils being cise ‘The eri an as dct queions wo dacoer esgic of vet dha they pest may bea aide aoe: "What des ian {tn Selle hos got inthe wy of oa end? Dosa sian ot Sout Smetins te theap ry solce events hat seem (sland ouside “eof the domi role sry an estan igue sbout ther: jot hiking a yen you met your fend sess ie you eit the See aes ues nme wy? Waldo you tisk? Does ht porta Sir the teat might ask ow i that es 0 ‘Dut supase you or not suprie you that, you, di hs?” Some siifiaes of the even or the perion Is casi 1, Gti by. ‘hanes in casino: body angange The ay in wach he penn i fms) ie the therapist ache, The person's ane af voice mig shit eine mere exile reine, boy poste may esse ea ease, thelr fica expresnncs Boppy of bigh perhaps, TH ‘ion uring fe yeson give he tect some Cus a oe he pen plies he ve "The sigalicace of ceria even can ao be termined by the person sy sy, sch as “cul cblee wer tro with tisk fon th day dw many tes od hat ut jot did't 7, Discover sige xine: 2 us but I Just dd ad did't vem Rave o think sboat ik? People's express often tel he herp how they hve judged he event: homer it isl somes necessary fr te therapist cl the even importance, isterng fr these expressions i tee por, In some crmstnees where the person consi he deat ay be ery cape by the problem str, he umgaeoazome my sem vey sal. ‘There. vo. acd for angus owtoine fo be peor secteur any wy, “Who. wl besos sigan te person dries tht inde a nies “come ar the ways wi te unigoe ouome unto’ and desert the Ways ts eked other een and meanings. ‘The therapist may need oe very enone alt x paisa event a fee out what mde is occurence possible. To bein withthe pean whone Wie temp disused may oe se he evot ae paca seit, The Arnis may ak ore questions abot the eve Before thay ak th pia to (ales significance Ife terpltak h percn to rate the possible nique outcome to ex, thot an export of te content of te eve, estes that oll have revered te paca ston aking place, tay ce meanigfulaes: of se vent. The trp heer eso ete 2 that eos the penon to more easly appre the sinificnce of a cur event. However, and this very mort, the haps sould nvr same wo Know how aby eoh bas experienced 4 pala event. Wis imtely Up" the person themselves to make 4 judgeDedr a6 10 the cane ur Ick of significance of ey paler event I wp to the 4s) consling the thei o determine white 20: ceain event t,t, belle, abil or comminent conti the dominant ory 1 hs extent ha it is conser sgn and etfs unig ute kup questions {a siuion in yi be erat or some ean is abl in 2 ont to expe posible unig cucomes, ther ae vce ‘backup ton ha erp sy couse using, How have you manged op te probe rom ting worse? Are there tines when he problem 6 ot aba ual? Are tev inesFy arts Mera hey? dn ore notion ion x dating an ony? “+ Conyou ink ofa time wher the problem coud have stopped. you ro i ‘the ey, bn? What pene? thre 6 story you cont etme about nme when you rested the problemen dd wht sou waned do intl? Relive inuence queon See ciate 4) ca ho Be wie a tp cover ania outcomes, 1 pston hs judged the problem 10 0M af ir Ke, th therapy consider asking aot the 20% hat, ave maoged aan, "To dnsver une outomes, nl eocoarge thant ey a on tr kin Using cae tha these bck question. W f unigeeeutome is Weld the couse of de coment, i i of xpeencal y the pean afar nore bell any were ke a back ‘gerton ‘summary Im summary, wen meting with peopl, mamasive tenis Inessed in being orth new dierent sor about people's lies an ‘eimowships. Te beonngs of ese sas ce times eens hat oot tthe conta othe ola tory, cs ese that robles Tee be tote secs in cling a peson’s i, Thee vl vay ‘restion erties of dierece. Tes, tes of iflesace, known, igus oncomes, Aning that defer te problem or cranes. ‘ben canbe secu 3 igue aomec paling cvent~ iso ened fhe poo cancereds They ate nee when he problem has es ite fafueace ove ihe pesons if. These ny betes bh ve {ecings acon of Hews at stad ove of he ifcase tthe, “These me he openings or a and ies fe dicovert Further reading We, M998 The marve genes in hey. In Whi My Ret Tint mre aed ens ane Ae Dubich Cente Pus Chapter 8 Tracing the history and meaning of the unique outcome and naming an alternative story sllade tenet tater tor, 2 AS terapins discover wigu® cates thy ane interested in exploing them Fut, eosin thi story and undeststing wise fey man to te peron eset Ui aman a dow pig new an The harap atefeps tence the history ofthe unique atecmes, Fry fond them, make tem more vise nd link hem in voine way ith a np newstoy. AS moe an more unique ostom ar nced, preaned, angen meaning we plot mages and an aleve stay bores neh described, By paying ateton he wig oso ths thespe ines te plcing of these events move isthe foreground of people's selousneavarees. Atibtng aang 4 term and inking thm 49 events in he past ebueiuls owerflly to the onatoring of new This alleraive soy is sully “sn-bem’ and ns oth pope's lk, abies, competencies and corundrest. Keli some of these Fompcences my Inve been dealt when they wee ovaowe by the Movnant problem oy, and the et of brnging thm fara asi people Pconect with thes peferene, ope, deans ond Iden. Grane the ieoacive sory fork and aceesing people's sil and abies wil is numed, in tun affect fate scons Troup this proces the dea© ha Nave Pera? Aes nocion ‘conte be prion shout he eerging ory, bow it uit ther ie and how i Fits ith preferences er iin. Exploring the particularities of the unique outcome ie eis Se eet i en ein, a ean pes ot he atin sty et) we ied caer Simms nda eye Te oi Scent er Wi Wine Wien bare alpecteoscat apd nt Tecan um bard uh xb te et ch Sa Ta utes ie to i one iat ico fain ote ep of et te ME Set a ne on aed tie re wake rata roc fre Ufone aa traps ofc sere oe oe et kan ny, Tse mgr al imine etn (198.030, Landscape of action questions ere ae some examples of ldcape of ation cuestions heaps muy aio hy ar explaring unas oncom 1 Waarewere you wh save? 4 eve yuan your evn or wth somcone ce? When happen? ew long i st 1 What happened st fore and afr? Tasca ty emer 95) Hot hey al 8 Macnee and ening te nig oteome a ond nating on tera se + How i ou prepare some? + What di you eed yen you ot hin? + as decison you mae on your ono with some? + Have you don tis before owas ths theo ne? + het were th sop lado up doing is? 1m tis way, lniicape of acon questions avo ngs ot aly na ts dei ofthe paral wiqu ote bat ls tomy other avons nit nts Ol aye Hike the uigueontome. Questions migh be asked shou any evens tat led wp 1 te unique eum, evento that occured fr itr evennetons Fem he dist pest ht ould be ise Jnsome way tthe uhgue alee iat Being discus. Exploring the mecning of the unique outcome ‘The pewon couing the therapist ithe vied to rfl the Poenings oF te events ot umiue euomes fu they hve descried. This Inrpretiion oe iving of meaning is ikely to came the unsueencoe inte foundation of oer evens across tine. An exploration i undeaen ino what the development (unique eacam:) meas in ters of the persen's dies, esos, preferences, Beli, pe, personal geal, vals, skengts omminmet plans, carci, abies, and prytes, Thee quetons ae own as lance of nity questions (gain hs ew sgl wed brome Brae, 8 sors) they tk abou certs events hy wif indicate wht they ik ene rent reflec aa the character moves, desis and 0.0m of vrs Peroni tht sell nent. They ill fle wpon wht hese vom say aboat the quales of partelar relation So, the Lundscpe of enor mani ha 0 do withthe intryretains that sre mute though reflection ow thane eons tha are fog rough laniicapes of at (Whe 1998, 931)e aris Nera Thro on-road Landscape of identity’ questions ete ate vome examples of indsape of ienty ques, Desires, wishes, preferences: When you agreed 0 ont with your fends for dimer, what do you ‘hat ay abt wha yom wantfor your Bf? Staying in contact wth your Iona in your course ~ hat does at. hou whet is apart for your ie 1 Wt ou thin that aot the hopes you ave or your relatos ‘wh your daughter? Personal values 1 What personal vase nurse of action Bed pon? “hen yo rang our grandmother afr the argent ha! dita fortabout whet you vein your rlauoship? Wha peroaa aes ‘he sow? Relationship qualities + When tat happoed ow wl you descr yo eens i ttt? Persenal sills and ables 1 Wha et no deg hs ts point in youre? + Word ate trier io do is? Intentions, motives, plans, purposes: When you ok tis te wha wer onda for our ie? 1 Wha does say about whatyou ere planing? Tina 6 ey gee we is fied © ab hee of 1 Paneer nd mening ie ie come ud wamaing a aerate story 5 q 1 Was esx abou you a a poson ta 00 woul do i? Beliefs ond valves: + Monaping tay working i a patting seg wing respi eae hat does ht Bol wha ou tink goto?” + Can. blp me understand mor abut wht that ays You eee vale? Personal qualities: + Wor does saab you prs thay wou tis? + Mh da ttt for 04 ta? + Wht doy tho ht spe ont our ees oles? ‘Ts no parla ode in which a hee sor of questions he ‘heaps may ask about the details of te evens and then switch i rg ‘hut what thes evens mca in terms he person’ ites or bi The heaps might sk ft abo the deals tnd then tee meanings These ‘ucts are woven hack ad fork and ot iting 1 testing new aad Ateneo, Te re-auoring wart we imive persons 0 tic in both of these Jandsempes [ston and deny] = by reflecting on wharabernaive vet th landscape of ation migh men, andy dermis Which even the Fndicape of acon most eft the prefer acount of characteris, of move, of Bl and 20 on ~ 20 a alereaive dunibeaper of ction and of deny are bung orth (White 1993, pal)“« hats tne Tea? Antes irate Creating a new story Meta (8 yes) come se abot er slings wih er pee “Fights and armen’ wre weting i the way ofr fedship with Rebs anc ere crsting a pace etwcen ham ut id wot wie Mel. Ths Spa omnes reat hat Meanie nd Rebecea woul aot peak teach her ‘rhe hi Eamfies spent tin ager ox weeks, Melani was intro fetiog ber fendship back Som “Fah and argunen'. In cae of fonversins, Mcaie ol me of an chet at ha eer ecard, She ‘habe fe so song) ht he had had encgh” hts just wet ate OP to Rebeca and sa This icons, we hive to tar ang Decne I Ising eveything’, Melnie comsidred this to be » paiualy parking ‘mom, She water socked at sbe at ken his ation consid th theo pel nt not spoken for several weeks ue 0 the iaflacne of“ tnd agumens' Thi wigue oteome prompted me 10 ask Mela ray Tandsape of action and ndscpe of ity questions in ork 6 pce evelopment in an erative sory sout tet relationship, Ths aoa Sony was judged oe praied by Meanie and Rebecca, To give ya a0 ‘thon this pe of consenmien might sound 1 wl shar ptt convent and sero th guests Tasted Melani ach question i he flowing wait has bee given a mabe eles othe dagam below, This diagram hows ow te Indep of ie {nu landscape of ation questions are nove bask and fr amy convert ‘wth Melani, 1 follow the Geile at she ole nation a gaiees the eique ontome Conversction between Alice & Melanie Landscope of Action Questions aut ye tact hemp teow) Lendscope of Edentity Questions (et dre hemenngf tec) A tg hie rig he i ste Binig otclonaimeaa et ry Question 1 Ale Sou scaly went po Reed id nt a igh? Melanie: Yes. oe Question 2 Alice: Con you me abt mee abo ke where wee you be? At oo rar Rebecs hws, at your house? Where i th apps? Melani: W happened onthe way th iy. We were js walking log 01 jst ought say ‘Question 3 Alice: A wha ep i How you prepare youre oda is? ‘Melani: Wel vent Rebece's othe wkend ed my il robe wae rally sa sis he want to play wih Rebeca's other ad he coulda ‘enue Rebeca an ont lk have ben ating snc the that it 2s o sop became itis messing up everon's i, ot ut Reheeae and any ie Question 4 Ale: How mang des were you iskng about before yous hi? eon Oso ou oe days, Question 5 ics: 0 Wow mac inking lyon do bout At a ie bi oe ‘what ould yousy? Motnie: 08, at Bocas twat ha ogo to sleep Bens wa thinking ‘hou ise mich an I oul’ do my shot work a wl a analy, Question 6 ‘Ale: So wea you ty Yt you wer the sr of person wh prefer to sot things ou tht sonehing hat you stn frat pec? Meant Yes. ik mportan tr to won hg twit oop Question 7 Alice: As what happened then?“ hat Rrra hry dn carer indie Meanie: Wel, Rebssa that heared iat itd Been ping on o> on tds she wanted he ied on Question 8 Al: Wt ele di se ay, ea as yu? ‘elo: Sh ode sh was ada wed her becase she di’ have ‘be ‘at doit Question 9 “Ale: 80 Rebeca hough ok aot of coger bevy to do this? Would ‘ones odo yout wok someting le? Melani: yeo 1 bravery ese foe I wes really nervous and had ‘onthe eave 6 comet and sy it ‘Question 10, Allee So when you wsse dog ll hit thing and then poke to Rebe what do you tik the ay about what you disk is iportat ben Rebecca and yo? Melanie Is import ty to wrk igs ou wi people And ely toe Rebec's end Question 11 “Alice: So sou ae tp oF peo sho sales woking things x 04 our endshp with Retest what you sre sag? Melani es . Bscuse he everyone can ave ms fan Question 12 Alc: So when yon were thinking sac he weekend shout Rebeca and 30 ‘an you el me seme mote about Hat thaking? Was 10 da wih ‘lcs in working things ou or your intrest in everyene having Fo esi to have Reece ax yur ied or someting es? Melani Ve, yas al ht a1 wa st hing hat Rebeca os to be uch ood finds and ito sh ogee ad hough hat ould ae abouts we might woek sazedung out and make i fit venom asians eee eae e eae: ‘uf waming ar aliornative sory . * Question 13 Ae i fre nmeing ou wold ny oa sand ot Melanie: Yo. 1 ik being he is ell porn f you ae going to be someon nd Question 14 Ace: Wt ces things do you think aking to Rebecea ike you did ays shout whats imporantto yen nyo ems? Melanie ik W's important speak kindy fe you end Question 15) Alice: 80 bow 8 you speak wih Reb ay? Da con that yo se your ‘peaking kin’ skill help you or someting cae? Mone: usd then but ao Tho iHow wold T want someove lk ‘me Ant as how led to Rebec Question 16 Ace So king ee you would oY ale o— what would you ay tat ‘cams about wht you Believe in or wh ou ind for your ini? Melanie: Wel, {want my ties alvays ko me ks att, ‘Question 37, Ales: the » ame for tie way of ting to your fiend hat you are onuted | oni Well’ ues and ind aking. Question 18 ‘Alc Te sind hing eign ove Jou a ‘eminent lang re? Mette: ng te, 1m this wy a aternve tory i named a est id king” Ex a plot of tuavery could ao have bull yp, but as the pbc lnvohed ging and conic, it seemed move appropiate wo focus om 38 ‘hertive soo fies and Kinde. We I sted Meas, se ad thatos ha eerie Ths? An cy end retin enolate Y ‘Mdontifying the unique outcome, and using Iandscape of 7 laps ey wen ed clei ct Ma eal Cumin bled ie en fod peg: Tena a il Sit ion te fd ttn coming cere sy. As ty So eh Sc ceria pet Through these questions 1 inquired about the meas pest ~ the preparation eet eee eer uae os commitments nd sng Quelon an ring fh eer eves i ooo eo Seen Sores See ee eres lara Se Saree en eee ees Se es (Se Seee eer remr Se en a ce 4 Taina hy ond mesg fh qoutes o ‘nding omar oo Other avenues for the rich description of skills and bilities Sometines questions tat draw catch decipios of pessoal sill ‘mitment, bebifsand valet canbe ake tough he een of satan exon Th ether person sosen should be aomcone de t,o spec ihe enon. Thi peso an bo Mee ia numberof way The epiate tnowledge ofthe person may ast. They ay kiow, for carpe te he Peron consulting the ld ie opinions of te eacer,prandpaen pon ‘end, citoon chars, movie thaneter, o relate fa high tte, The raps knowiige about he pervon wel ast hem W aka pen eg ‘Wyo granite had wes you seating to Rebecca at way, what dy 2" think she would sry about the He of eon yu as be sects of lie omar aap Anetice way t dicover who right beable to ofr sipnoat ‘efecto by asking ton sich a: "Who would be Ion sted tat 2 dds rong hi? What mi thy sy about ist What mou ay ow about you tat would wot mike tem surprised? Wha pros ski ould thyme shots woul have ets not pied? at wen ey sy this sys ahout wht yeu vant for your hie” ‘tet chats Wil explore more fly ses vrs of qustoas (which Michael Whe ees ats merbeing eto, Noming an alternative story Faller chairs lave deserted the rocte of naming the probe, oloing i ete evahting tes fest inviting action of it tvaletion, We bave som also consdeed ways of filly notin and Dow Seated that his now aary is poste ein fo he, consent wi efrenes, hopes ad values oii the etait woo wish find OT tickeaag this ory, of making more ricky desorbed and thus talibl to Dorothy, would ete heaps ole provide somes ‘eas for Dotty connie othe sary of bel 5 song an ‘One may of thishening the ltemate try fvolves fining wie ‘who will ac aban aula wo pefoaraest ofthe few soy. Thea Ahetfre inte myig to gage aulienes tthe emerging soy Ie therapist an find way fo which the people in hs mance cn ‘ny ts wine, ut can ik esis tse way the mew 0 the person onsting he therapist ican signa aie and riche thine say Thee ar ny oases for inviting an audience o ease with lenatie ory. The sbdence may const f people eset or abet ‘ess el or imaginary, rom he pen’ aso Fen ‘Some of the way in whch oer peopl re gap in this pat of ork cade: rt Teo: Tee erste ory » 1+ through remembering convention (cape 9) 1 member of ages, networks, ccm, group, or tams and o- reser (hap 13) ‘espns within iat and celebration (chp 2) jn definional emenies as oubide-winess group members of members of lecing teas (laper 4) ‘hece ae ako eter options fo tikeniog the leave sry hat do otnecessaty valve ler peopl ict. There cade. + expec documentation — ching declarations, docments, cients, boks, te from the ssn, vlcoapes, eyboly, ists wl plete (tape 10) + therapeutic ees (taper 11) Allofhese options ca play ei pari rang riche desertion of the sheave sory and hein tm can ast he person coma the ‘hemp to stay comes with the new preted try. The herp and ‘Dorothy might hoor use one, ro, cpap ore of thee opins over ‘he cuune of tii meting. The choise wil dopeat jon a mmbe of tgs Doro’ ner, her ils (fr enacple reding end wing sles), bet rcfrnce (Come people prefer wal einai an, eters wre, Ihe aval of ote people she time aval for example owe soe. or phone a peoon) aseesbily, for example, enteder-wites groups are sly mide up of to oF more people. the therapist's intel, the theapin’s knowledge of he perton and of their Hikes and dies, the Terapi’sunfentndig of he person’ pst expences an wht weal for them, anor the knowledge te teaps has gained frm oer in sina sits ato lt ep The ponubiier are alos ene fm this ae of the work The ‘ollowing chars wl expt te ieet options in some etalChapter 9 Re-membering conversations To undestand what is meant by wemembergg cometsioes, it fat ‘ecsry eink shot person's if ab lib with mere, When wei ‘oat all thse people whim we ae aacias! within th ete of dy res we could consid them as men of ow ‘lb’ f ie Some of tse ‘members we may hae enscionyinvied nto out ve thers we ay ave tad litle coi ever including. Remembering coavewatons invove people ett chosing who hey woud ik to ave me petent she embet of tr cbf ie, ad whee memberships thy would peter to fevse of vole. The we of the tm remembers tercfte not is about collocing or Ying reminded. The hyphen tween re and membecng is ‘Soin ot meaning anc ein rate heap ‘When people se fed wit poten, they fen experience oan ss! dscoanstio for important relsieships The donna prdlem sory Iuay be sucessful in mitimising or making ove cain parsers Fstones in the peso’ ie, Re-membering conversions are teed Yess this ant powevily icomarte and elevate signfcan people's oatrbiion i he Ines of thse conaling the tcapet Engaing fn tae PTS sey cy ate en Wot ns” eas Rare Tey? Ant read rao eee oe Sees oe Se tears’ ee es et coe See ee Seca ee ee eee ees ee ae oe a ee ee Seer sane ee cia Tene eeak sone a eee eee ee ane eae Sienna eee ee ace maaan! aie ae nae oe oY oh eee oe Seen ener Seen pedaieckergte Senta ‘memberships may inclede people alive or neg ieee eee 9. Remanborngcomraions » ‘Symbols cr abject All ex poets cn be eaploed widely, ‘The becapistmay ak te povps contin them gies 9 dover thee member + ho would Be os sri hear yo says? 1+ ho ele would iow tha you tnd for olerance ant pace? 1 ther someone 30% Cam think of who cold tell w ory Bout you in ‘elation to your commitment ering eens? + Gon you think of somwone iho would know soning about jour reference for parenting ths way? {Yate odscover some are abou this lof your, who (other han 90) would Be ableo lm tons? neo ore meee may Ye Meat The hepit ostimes e caows about What tev people would way about ihe pasion and ie isos, The terapit would ask may question Yo enplos wt these people roel be ty to ow and say. Agustin in the conversations cold be ‘your an (he sigitean member det) was Re oy nT as ble 4 asker tin sbot you, what do yoo tik se woudl aout these. skills your? When woul she have fit ote he?" ‘The thers wold continue ak gues o invite specaatin stout hut the sian member onl te dink, bat woul hve Tod hem to these eas, whe they at would hve sgh hi what hey would ay uy they wou ay his, ee, Questions hat bein with Wha, Wh, Whece, Won How and Why can extract rich descriptions of tee sgnifant dts, The etait might lb ask questions about wht he pee lonship with i sgnifcat mener would have meat fr thm. Ter expe: “Wheto you ink Kea fr you at far ou olde era yur fi ti wy? What you think i mesn fret spend tho tines wih you” ‘rough tse soc of conversions, an histor ative asso of the porosity can e peut and the signfcan merge ot son's Me can gin tbe privileged and explored. The itp scenes ta "hs i pi in el but scree it may be pense fr the person op ‘aly cance wi the remembered people nother aya, "Ue therapis way cy comet tes pope aad itriew hem abut» hat Raraie Pop? An nyse icon Ibi nove of he pei wh i costing he heap (te Soins of memertip dex im chapter 12) Lats, yhane all emails lcvitions fo met are oflen ext to te people seated 0 eat erp can dover mare shout thee apes of the pera’ esti ‘sss wth aerate stain of hives (Ae chapter 11). Ths wil ik these account nd 1 the try fey tht he heist and he es 2 ihe cnt of he teapy ave coamierng. These mecings wih ign ‘en ae oe extremely inpaian in he couse of the tes. Tey eel with hkl t he erative soy that ake te he es of {i wsy tht powefily contri he rblemsaturtd acorn of hei ves If signin people ietfed ix ese coversitions a unshle 1 ‘ona i ey at no loge alive or ae wneble communicate, sean tomcone who vaso clot the significa person ean act a Sa thee stanton, he Seep can ak series of questions tthe pervon wh nding 9, who the endeavours 0 give answers “rough theese" of sigan pen. Inde following examples 1 de remeniberng convertion, st fw of the many pss | Sophi Sop (ag in yen) wa recog logp fom ie fence ‘bed dca, She fa Ben asses in bavi our gh of My when Jet with her and her Baby Born doll, Sopia told me that she ‘managed rei er sep by doing some ‘hard hnking. Aes ensuring those as nt pat ofthe oats of Sophia's ie mastered in pling Sopa’ ski so addresig the ed dram. Cased her ih Choking’ was scting he ha wy bao onething new Sophia wa fe, 1 panied my intrest i er 2k funder with the assistance of ‘membig eto. Thad moths kl inh alleatve sory woul ‘gone umoseel ani sappeare. The ach destin ofthis sill mip five ben alse) aod eplsed and his wold hve cst he door ray of he uniguediconees that wee subsequently made ‘asked Sopa there was anyone wo woul! not Be srs hat 9 Remember smertons a ‘wu ‘shard tier Sophia dnt know, hn red sone posi or ts, om my Keowee of lanai ner lit: Alice Would youu mam o you ao ou acer, yan, c,d oe sant one of your Joys know aything abot this a4) of your oe hiking? Serle) ik Buby or] ad many oul & Alc: 0 were Wak than abe what would thy? Sophia: ¥ dot know what mommy woul say bt Baby Bors would kaow brea she ses doy homework. Mice: Wat dos sh 6 on Sophia: She sees me hiaking bs when something is had Alc: So you ck ard when hig se Rad aad ate you th sat of prion who sites of eeps going? What would Baby Bora say aout ha? Sophia: She would say ta Lnevee sve wp wen things are har Bens ‘ow my fur times table ao tat was eda didn't iw Mle 80 ut wl Baby Bs la qty youve st ‘when things get hard? aie oe Soph: A Gabier i on tga Se he ma icing eg we iT eg ay ste sts thy of ti lies ed sb wet mene csp ‘te ella now sh het ye ae oc el ‘say dite Ome iy ede hes oe Soh ty waar er Tad wl bp wie desl lcs Ba ‘Pers of her life as well cn en See ur mt of wh Ate woud ao ate ad tig peed at samen a ag rig {ons eg Spr ates ase ope2 hati rave hry? can idan vetng, At he meting Litersewed Marcia Sophia's peers abot her owing of Sepa’ hard hnking sil er ig si, and era 12 tsk ty uags when thy are Ir. Many mu saris ofthese abies famerged,eldng 16 a vew ory of Sopia's idea. Tis procs cabled Soph ork tom te bad deans. tal made i pessible fr Sepia eur own dea abot aes aed hap ies Leonie eons fer, Bo ha died adel and utepectedy, canting ae lsces and saves to many wh sew him. Leone conmled me sme non fle he anerayg that if ad fered oars se death She coined ney nebawoaby and a ot ‘leo zen With iar forget bout er ier, Many peopl ad enor hei orgs ‘move on’ ad Leni bad been endeavouring > 0 hs wih pret diffe “Thi iia was atkng Beri hiking be a fle ad ily amd she should have fl beter by now T asked for emma to lnite abet he ftir and thé meri tum that Leosie cheihed. | asked about te effet of te dens Asconnectig, moving oa abd owen ber fate ado 0 Leonie. Lat spoke ofthe burden he al and he dea enn it requ ny ps mermiy aay. woodeced whats would De like for tert Baye Imctoris closer aera mire dist fom et. What eras da tink this ould make? Leone was ured by this sageon but wok ow she hog it would assis et ‘ur eeverations ten ented roan tae memories and eo the tad her ft, way Be Bad ved bs ear he sain ‘Sieencs tat they had apres none anit asked Leonie wha tought he father woud at fe al wines her tears and sro ovr eth, Leonie wa intertidal somewhat purse hy hs Qo fo asked herifthere wet myome who might mow abut what i tie Sey about her sow, Leone instantly me her fe’ ifeons en, ‘Sho expsitod that Ted wd he ber new everything abou ach ote, relly spect each ter Haske Leone ise wonld be need in Te 8 Remenberinecomerans a ‘ews om tis qunion (wha er ae would sy if he cul lites or sorrow and ia) She as Yr) teste as ho sald would meu ae know what her da would ny tober at this neo sides ‘We invited Ted to our next sean ad | ieriewed him about owed of Leone's ihr. We he marys of he pci elaonship ae Bob had cared with bis dave. Tet thought that Bob woud fet oaoued ta Leonie sil sadness 8 he hight hal ab wold expen her eats at an eknowledgereat of whal ty shard ogee Vase Tat shout some of hoe tenes He share a sry abou Leonie ad Bob replacky tending fotball mates tgeie as be was ling ws thi, [ated tat onc became very tefl ake her abeut heer. Lei elds hl sho sealed hat singe het iter death she had been ural 9 wat tated opal ume she taught ts would be sspecta bf Hearng Ted speak ia this eonvesaton helped Leni cmsierbly. Ste {esered tow ahe sens he father’ peeace strongly 28 Ted spoke, Se rade many dscns at +r of thie meting ta combed postive tere for alan she ad Ted ow regu atond foal matcher oper nour Bob Ted hs en 9 me se the meng > exe te Impet of th conversa oa his he: "Spstang about Hobe wed elped ef eli ht o't bave to forget him. Lennie and Dave a reat ime teptier now and ou ine ogee sow a yer pot par my fe Reciprocal sharing Remembering conseaatons more directly scowedge the valued ontibtons that eter have mad i the ve of pple soning te ‘herp His w reciprocal type of shop. Pople who ate Med ant toca nthece conversations exprnce than poweralyekaowlalpag and booouring of tem alo. Ths enowing in, cotibute ther ves tring more rity deed. Ofen wt i covered st thee ae many sinirtiesbetten the preferences, comminnes, bebe or valu ways of Ing hewn the pes corm the teapot perce(s) whose membenhip i ackaowlnged. Taegh remembering caveraons, eons ‘ecoe joined in hse sare and shred eles ways tt fle ets” aera Phra? mca re odin fone posite for ston for eveqone inven the contention People fe jin he bli, comments sd peeencs fring. A thee ar cue and lovee though the teapss questions, they Deore hore been cherie ‘Summary Memoriet and hiveven of comecion become ore eee prople ae nied eg in r-amembering conversations Peon ae al Fink and jon with siguifact ther ie their lies round ehred va emuncus a referees, n was tha perfil contibt oes ot alteratie sie. People hase tld me that this way of king th ltnprat meres of hire fle ha meant at hey experience resenoe f hese signin people interes mate wl a el fection anda ths opens up posits ta terwine wo ot sed, Remeber comers can al involve deliberate decisions ‘sla certain pope os he merbonkip of «person's i, ope wh ‘ave ented fo the ie f the poem rye Zoe's story i bape By privileging tho memenips dat are deemed w te soporte of peoon's wes ails a if, and by revoking the meters howe wh conibue oe ie ofthe poo resenting conersations Py = igen! part in he e-autoring process Further reading pln Frese, J. Lstvi,D 197: "Unmet Trea 1 Latovi D(a dppracee 1 Serius ‘rot hay th ey a hme chp 9. Yee Neve ‘Whit M1958: Sai nl aa The enprnin of hs eosin Techton f get” Repcet im whe, CA Desh D. (oH) Iarelas Hirouce Tap: 4 ello of praise wing. i ‘Wine, 1997 Re member In WOM, Nraterof Tryst "Adee: DubchCee Paes Chapter 10 Therapeutic documentation: Documents, declarations, certificates, handbooks, notes from the session, videotapes, lists, pictures [A peopl eto the ies nd laos, sean haowledges abou be problem a he pon’ preference for vag Became clearer The mint Sry’s uence dines a ae ad peered sles eae Therapeutic ncumenation ecu thes ferences, knowledges ad mime 0 they tue eal for people to acess at any ine, ‘Therapeutic documents ‘Thecapeate document re often writ when people mike import ‘commitments or when people are rn 10 celerae import acieveens Document wen it constlation with pple and conta the orm they jig to be pram The theapsascrais fom te fey How they ‘si ke te dacuent tobe wre wth intend ding wht, Some rople have been Kran 0 cay hese documents wi hem a al mes, ‘her hanibas or wal xo at hey are accessed whe eee These documents can be private ot can have a wide readesip6 hats Aerator? An agora rion rec a ui ot ew and pore meanings tae vo ng OF the prople who are seling asians They oe serve “canteens! fo the prdtesutarmed docamenaton ef pols Hives tat olen xs ‘aio nsaons (boos, hsp wel sjters, prose) ‘Documents may al inked ltr t ad rm signifi people fotow on from eebering converting. Thy way record the Bsr the ep hat hele pt ifn igo otome. They muy dee tow mich ofa pesos ie has boen reclamed fom a parts problem! fnflace and baw this bts acne Or ey may dares semen uggesion: bt bye been mae ipa hea sok, Having 4 writes dosent at eens he comminess and dec tue peor have shone fen aes them fo sekim tae Hes om ine fp eel Yes of Aen trample, hus sid tt thy fi dearens pai wel Ge Bes ‘Sue em & Vetonks, 1997, Power to Ost Joumeys 199), Whe acd by tack fom the voice, thoy tad ei “@oement of ety’, Tey 9) tonne tem to stay cones 0 ae cm bps, kil, comptes ‘nas of ving and is very Mp 1s dic, shinny bok thas te ivesiy of sn whic herpetic documents cn be wen and wed, The ini ses tbe ide Here jut erp, an woul! enourge 3 {benpesincat nth your omm. Family peace document “Te follwing docent as wren wit te Anderton funy Aunty meets sie opt ne copy on the ge i he chen an ‘ch fay monber wold pls epy i tic beans his cure as ‘emi tho of he crm hey ha made Fay ese, ‘Aimeters of the Anderson Fomiy hove ogeed that Fighting end ickaring hve ben sepurating thie Fry ae cosingprblens for oe org. The Andersons are intrested n conning develop Farly Peace becouse they cll prefer It. These menbers who have signed thi document egret 10. Taepe osunein ” Co-operation and sharing daring TW watching, Eoch menber wl osu other emily membere and wate on the pcg thot the rlerity of members te interested in watching, Thote who dot Se thoi ist preference wil ref from tartans and eye, on Insta wil negotiate to vdeotape thelr program fo eer vii Sticking 10 the rosen of chores that hes been eoreed upon, No * acura willbe entered ita by eryere about the raster unt the even necting, “Taking tus stig the front Set of the ee Tn rg th, fray ‘mentors understond the i ecson wil rot aus be fr Tey hove decided upon ths case of ection inthe interests of gun amily Peace. ech person il aspect onde itom of cling ord beshoom, fa fomly member wishes te borrow an tem of clothing ar enter semeane els besten, theyll cael he ower before ing, This document ibe renews inane woo ine fr amon! ‘Signed «by Family members) {vor's steps against Panic and for Happiness vor wtte the towing to documenta with ie thls. The Gs ocuet dees the Pani Hat wan wreaking vos in Tors Hi, The secra docurent, eed “Steps for Happiness cries the eoutenplot o araive try, Tote decunents were wate eth herp ad eestd at bre wat no prof he ona of ors its 4 coumt-docunent ‘Wheres sre documents are fed and never changed, oer ay come ‘works in posts These mere Mi carping abl reponse pices lowe for the recanting frie! deta a eeu ie ees 6 roel stereoTe asimetinhg Flows tinge fur of proportion. ‘Seyeridelows Ren Tres ence ethat imiess ower than is dost Pra on haw i é Maes (Ny far ta beathe iy stemach hoon ' 1 heart bet uy : questa by soy Bi Fetet roa Taste for several farutes sometimes ub 18 Phrmpt dec meiaon » 2. Ter's steps genet Pon "For Happiness 1. edn wont 17 oof my ite 2, Discovering I es hee 3, Continuing todo thegs despite what It sye~ ooking onc ‘nthe ye 4, Engoing Tard working ot what It 1 tl 5, Renenbering thet I have mamged to. auscesflly Challenge anc ont least ferent eceasione 6. Kraming abel he thirgs 0 minimise the Far ihe + Fiing something ese think about or do © getting ta sfe pce 1 sopra around people who care fee when Ehnam Zn ela vlarble (© concanroting on ein lu, dtp, ela breaths 1 shing myself eld tet realy hoger” Tobe tontined Declarations ‘Decarnonsare snr herpes documerts lthoph ty edo Be ie more publey. hy are writen with the non of sharing thee wih then Finng wines declan i anti way rer an ate the new ant peered sory, bts ot mandy Senet people may sho Wo keep thar dcietions to hemsles. People may be vedo wre seston sang x poson, a conmianent ae pehan «prfrence tat hat lifcance for thea the new soy, Acley sl “The at of wing a ecaraon tems ome iit conc” ad mach et ea nd ein fun st ayng it mas mae jast how macy es eeed oihat Marae Pay? An asa ree ts Zoe onsale he aout abuse se had bee alee ob a ‘member of He Cathie Couch I war Zee iaeton 0 dsconeet {Saacatos om the femal ation of the church. Zoe moe our “Deslartion of ndepnden" ting et poston in claion ote chuck ‘ume inion an Yells. This acumen was read on several oad sembled audiences of sgporer who were ivi to Wiens and sgn locum show tht suppr: Not only di tat delraton provide Zoe outing oe et Me rom the effects f abuse, alo er in he process of chaining Onan copenstion fo the abuse. Bel meting with he chrh’s baie ad pci, Ze ead wd ytd esas whe signs of isyoieht orp wh hed sed Ha the document and signs of er spp ie said gate he seth ep going wid the vatous sages intl ix pesing ber cls ao fatng he Compenttion Pe Decltins canbe a simple as «one word seen wien dig ‘eto otlnger and mote femal ict Zoe's. I have fend he pe ‘ometns mite thse drains aay fom ses al big them wih them o om mex meeting. Lis od mc at ae dy wen se ws ving neh with he ere and ina ervosn was frig, her Asinng the nent, she did: ‘mt ging opr up wih say 1c exing my fn She went bane that afemcon end dined «pester er computer wih thse very wordt cibrly pind in lage leer ‘made several copies and laced them isin places where she Hoa ulimis might ny to anbush hee. the reson we mame hse pose “Declaaon fer Fun and Livi’ ioe rer otis desaration faced wi the Kolton of bala She showed tw clo fend who onored to be nell nia ie in i way, Ui ond hil remy sutining ad ld me that wring eng nd hing dh er end as very inert ming poet i rexaiing hie Certificates CCoiues caw be dwn op and sine to commemorate signi 70 and tung pois, Cercle elp ta celebrate the ew sry 7 10. there ocaeston 0 ‘eps and Wo commemorate how the perio has maniged to overcome the proble ean tei erm itsinuence Te ile for the cect fen comes from the mames given he Problem and the leative sary during the eoure of therpy. It may be ‘rials te commemorate sl, peson quality, dei, hope, eran ‘son, same comptes or prefeence tabs ben cscoered and ih Aiscibad inthe mew sory. I could be a ceria fer avery, courage, Inteigee, temper taming and fer eating, conden, nator sl ei ‘he cette could be phrased ing the (08 obsolete) pobiem aun! fae arp An eacape or Sef Doub Dreaking he gp of Gut redo toa Drag ode Beating Dahon Breaking fem Vode 4a ach exampethe noi sis canbe sbi fr he mane pen to she problem. Alzmatvely he ere igh mame and crime i ative try For examples Richi appeal pute ‘ting w tow paince [Navigating he jouaey of compe Five hard-won wisdom ‘Shing in oy Cletating connections 1 sex Feiss the flowing ceils ben she tad succeslly wise the abst the su and suck oe pth of etn hing donc’2 ‘hat Merete Tea? Ant rend rat 10 three ocaseresion % ‘THIS TS TOCERTIFY THAT FREIVA 1S ON THE PATH TO GETTING THINGS DONE 19" June 1999) am keep awey fr heaace ‘The fllowing people hove noticed many changes nd woul ike te soy Hamilton —F Mitchell se Soning a Pr, Ay Rowan J.Gorden A, Morgen Ali received the flowing ces when the hens” were longer inher A special cteany ws comet nl foal presenti of the cates vat made to alr ithe presence of ler pen teaches, 4 tend and myselé The conimemaraive choco cake that epara forthe cleaton var delicious (ee capt 12 for 2 description ofthe celebration, Te poets fer such conte ace ede.as era Therpy? Ancona inobscon > serying at Amy Rema home and pay: = Sering wpe sede og Hey a aye BmEng qh vot nt ng # nigh ars Allerg re sweet ies nv is ig dow he ts [ikepug toprondosem nce pot a eying MeDonai for bea Wid play ning nh yt pot wh Sly or hors ‘Wacching Hots Blloon a a in > Going ey Bae hop es Thre ecmntion %s Handbooks angbooks ar abate say a fray ear pope's owing ond ‘experi. Some ofthe tes of asdbooks tt rel nee provid ell have laced 1 Hom 1 Escape fom Fears and Wor + Was Caren Kose aot Soporaon and Drorce ‘+ Kids Yemper Tamer Hondbook: Hot» Coot Of ad Be Col ‘These unions collect ores of thse with experience of thee ‘ste The coin the pesos ides Cougs and abies counteracting Doble’ motives and way. eaple newer toa problem's ways can ave cess fo the Imidbooks ef ciberg, ia thir trp aca com find the ‘owe of eters sang of them tie jou, Reding the svies of ‘ss may encoun em to ad Ui experiences and eas a exitiog handbook, o demaivey towed ova Babak ling tse ry ina ees. Tn sch handbooks, people may reco iene on tii jou os ite earubive sateen of hei rogretons lg the way. The Usps. might encoumge thea 1 make additions 10 the Handbook when unique ‘comes emerge, as away of corning and dcineting the change che ow ony hae on ter stents and competencies. When hadooks ae lt to otbers, thi ot wah she etn Ut sey be wed sexpert panes ‘They as wo ep fr oh: Insta, he imtoo share knowles ok celebrate secese. The bepfese of tandhosks Us ut ae mich in the tending o tem a ti writing of tem, ‘Some handbooks becom coliberaive, pubic dasumons where svey cadet invited cont hr xpeise ancl a hi covets to ths Prevausly record Space in hs pubznton doesnot permit the rig of ‘uch a handbook However, the wend it will st readers to pw hi sre fe,6 hat sera Thera? A con-ore out [Notes from the session and video or audiotapes ‘Prin consallations the thrpist my he wren nes to keep ack ofthe nortan igs tat beng sid nd to lp tem ei he destin St ihe coevenation For example, I wally teeord unigue eukones and arcu phases er exprestions use by people fo desre healt sony fhe things tending ood of te pobem-stuated stn). The thempist nay ais he fly for penn to ako notes daring the sesso, a mest ‘arte heaps ose thee nse tobe dhe pops of efi, When fmecling prison take noe [explain hat wil ony roar the words tay member (nt my wor), at wil el tem what Tar wrt down Sed ha Cte the acura of wat am wring wich expan at {he totes longo them and hat hy re welome fk chem at the od of the sein Tstines ak for permision to keep copy, exaiing my monons kop bout cing, Tues have me tht hey Rave ow hse notes useful 1 reff ‘eoeen season, Files hve sa ha sets werd i writing sein thet ofthe comers uml ie et hat sos during it They coset oth ots anit het si om he estat re sci with hit ceptions of te problem t0 Moat about ticic tives hat ft wid tie ‘omens and erent ht have bees wore ih desribed in ‘tarpeticcoeversition. “Thecapists ho have aces 1 videotaping or audtaping fee ce w evo he coeveraion forthe fay, Ain most nase theta ‘rou conser bse apes to be he prope ofthe fay and woul la sus th purpose fc crding at eens, Soe aie it ‘opie of hese ecordings, whit bec ret the tthe following session te taped over with hint cmvetion. Some fui meer ik rei the tapes tween estone pera sha ito someone who was beat parol session I apes ar ep oer he course of seer mosis tneome an nestag hse record of he developments that ex, The foper cat aha be seul when fais expen 8 ‘setuok. Viewing [ening pew bell convention eat be ssanig and can counter the disinren that people ate lobe cates ine. 10 Therap came, iste Lis amt sim cay way mcr pec of cores ‘wich mie poet apc of ere, Lit ay be em ‘ort ssn dpe i ao coon, Thee can 8 ‘le anew dicovoer ode Marine aod pe ‘a taka it ‘Cougs and Baye ach tie we et eae rome feo te fatal hey mabe iy be uni of eps predicted would be necessary to coarplete the project. ae Was sia act ted ad ad tack pope ‘cone noe dle ten Liss ab spelt he owls and sa contin mol a eeipen eq and hit dened he lst Rang saving othe ost ra.Bon von ted la pci ifr em et ezatne tes, Togs e n lted e hg bied an {eva a td ein Rashin an wat ht ck hi ac ino shige tht hii the owt his won sme Nalin wi e's tat ny wt ope Bens lst What helps me ge forward: What takes me bock Stoning doen ate Hon inet thin nor thin sigan deen casa ekg sect deg dered tena Tesry work teat nr Take ling down nears ne work roti ote inet lton othe set cng heleters sullen he yt en as raid i el~ ras Norte Pherae? A el nto Pictures Pious ean sho ais poople to aay conncied to an energy erative story, Tse pictures can be eter drexn or elected frm other sours, fr example agi, books, pass, phoeprap, "When meet wih cident they ote Ike vo ay a we ae ‘nang. "het dnwing became pat f th dcmenstina oF the therapy ‘hake a signcnnt consi (9 sustining the poste developmen 1 ec Por example, fet 1h checked tat abuse ws mo or of the entet of Alba’ Me, ia the wie of pees tha prove infuet tedcing th degree of Fer which se was expensing, Alyse» exe of picttes erating the ze ofthe Fea in elton te size, and alts the wap in which he was ging the Fear cut of er i Tes ‘ites formed a sry of All's abi wo regain er fe tom fnfusnco of Fear ‘This isnot uncommon: ave ned hut when Tenge in onesatons wih cide their ravings often Fen evens er ames ‘he new soy eles than aspects th lace the ou on the peole-st story Sometimes thee dings can pee fitue developments T ewings of the fee can at ata pple) and provide some mot ‘sppor a enragement 9 ciken wo each he new dstinions ey te Sometimes eilren howe to da picnre thl we seemingly une ated the therapeutic convertion On these acsions hey fave tld me ha es not aes becouse wen hey loka he pete vind them of {eas of ur convertion. fe chile cose 1 take ther dnwings ‘snd she thom ith er this a, edwin come par fof the cowesaiea nad eet ah inporart audence io developments is le Pits con alo hve syntli mung. Tear costed me te effects of Depression on er life. Throughout ese cesuions Twought othe sesion a grevting card er piste tt bad parca meaning ‘Spifance ob. Upon flection sb coche ta rer ihe course of ‘meeings hrc of ed pees ws changing, The ca np ‘sete ging colour atop in pre! with events that were occuring fer oni, These aml fol ws a staring place fer or conversations — 1 Teint decent, ” se enplored the mein abe scribd them. Thea Rpt ee pies ad cain ain to record he journey away fom Depeion. She added ‘nm net thse symbol pti assert ty comme oe ope for apne, Thesara tole ta the symbol wee ir sel a er san the rien wor. Ske epic a eo of Depesions acts was 0 preventer fom eaing en id tdi her when se atomple S0-These pcares Bete ater of Thera to er ean pines ‘Summary ‘This chpler bas explo range of ret ways of dsumeing thenpeac comerstions Sovaneat, delat, ceifests, handbook, aes fom dhe session, aug ap videoupes, ia, and pits. Ihave mat Aeseibed here th way a which mic and 00g ca aloe uted form of ‘erapetic documentation. Nor a T explored the mays a wi comsranity projects can act as cllcve forme of documentation of prefered mative consi vies Sie 199) The posi ae eles, Ao thee motions canbe ued as eseures to atin the documented furier explotion f aleve stron Whereas the inticacies of onvenatin can ao easily be forgot, drape documents can be eed to over and ver apa Hach cain (r plying cr dawg) san et ab 2 ‘lig ofthe aerate sey, a hit ni contest new pss lites, Further reading son, From J& Labi. 197: hing th ew th Epson. Freeman J Lobes, Dal. Ply practen to Soe Prato arn sera ich ol ea, ter New Yrs Na.1 Pret es Chapter 11 Therapeutic letters ‘hin mratve rates, lees ate we in variety of mys to at ais, ‘vid Fran and Michael White (180) have inoue a mie of dierent ors f tempt ker cing + letesas summary of he eon + tes ofinvinton at bu laos + lter ofredundansy + ete of reference ‘Taste ae many pieces ta have Been westen on the we of te a aatie tay (fer racing is) 20 in hi chal wl only provide = shor desertion ef each of hese ira ype of eters Before letters ore sent Before te therapist ced ue, hey loys cout he fay abou ‘his es. They ak the fray membes they wold he interested in seeing ‘eran if 5, they gui 2 1 he reasons Fi hi eters The herpist igh exlain some of he posses aso the cntent fe eter and ak ie funy members hich of the posits appeals 1 them, Isis of onfdentty ar nortan to conser at hist 0th heap aes eo02 ars Haat hry? An contol odio seri how th eter should he abesd: Therapists can prepare he Fh for eciing tery asking te what the thnk they would be My sh te eter ~ woul they snd it jut oe ee mae fla? whee won Tes and oped key ffs, Te teat can also enplin at rae wl be interested at Be neat ewig, in ig the fais cose hoo te er and about the fet of eeting tn thi way, tether hn tet a emest wee the fay member feel erorale 1 anak hen fr thet hanes, deecons and abion ote eter an : ow wih parts of he preset canverton ty donk wou be inert Foca he next ete. Letters as summary Fro imc to tine the Geog wil wre othe peopl consi poviding 1 summary of he converatines hy ave shared. These Teer enfin any of he owing + same of te main dso hugh hat emer dag the conversions 4+ qutions hal he hen hat wandered shouts the oeverion «+ some econ ron te teat about convertion 4 deconesation f vane ofthe wg outime at were discovered the seasion + requests for clarification abot some pan of the cmvenation tt tdoapst woul ke oe clare sbot aspects of te comveration hat were aot ly explored rng the ha vay Be neat he person ceiving eel ‘When wring hese st th therapist crf 0 we he and words tha nee spon ding she esion. Tsapeai eters (tives the family as ive t ho dott and llr stones, tnopge of xtemaising connatnas and questo. fia the ne heaps mk during convert enable eo to write lets a the exact praning and express that ver ll the people cn Peep ers 2 ‘Terspenic leer whieh vary In eng content asd form, besane at ‘esi ote emp session, Therapist develo hoe pctonal asec wing thes eters. Receiving fedack fom the pope to whore te Ieers ‘ne wren plays. lage pains proces. “The following Heer was writen to Pony fer convention abou th het voices oF shiznit, The eter corn suas things iat ean told the eps, some qiotions posed by te tenis and dies ‘quaions ftom the sesoo saa. The ltr moves betneen pas pent ad aur time ames and des the mes ofthe pin (ie bel voices) and he cmeging slteativ sory (te upper hae, whe foesing pede om the alemative ory. This empha i intimal, i str that cementing the llerativ ty wll sat Peny 0 way as connected dat his wl conti to et ate ans Heng sage peste by Dror Peay, 1 thong Ff wre yu th tr after we met on Testa Secanse dere soe 0 mony hinge you od i dat cat mp anton and th ve nce Bo cris abt, Yo describe hw the hese voices! ware qtr this past wok and that you had manage 0 have “he pe hand in mt insonces as wondering more bout our igper hand and eed you if yeu ad tio 1 before You td me ha ou thu at you mast have Bon tain i over th pas few month ba tat is ws thf meth ono sd ‘vas wondering mere abou hat rae ond hat? Mom cs though ail te practice you dl with your ‘apr han was rearing ov aid tha te ‘haste oes" ony rie orate when you had des f ing 0 nea Sala he bap Even shen tong your ‘upper han silenced the beste voter und ou manage 0 0 ot tng 1 mas wondering who has bac efor you 0-0 ol thi? Whee perona aves or gual you are? 1 was wondering aio &f Sally new what you wre up agin marine her tha dy? H he di what Would ke sap tok? "We also tlted abot the faim oni ha go hack or the past fo wes, Yo sal that ven the voce ised on when ym at en the did't Boom at me Bike th asl do’ You poke of your wert freedom to bein the garde, hee fn watching TV and maligio Pasi Rartiv Tray A aoe inn Phen tes a phane calls nd the feof caror yore ore or enveston gether sot bn hi os Tas wondering here ws anyone wo wel have precede. would get back our fend resto fom te hs voices and rela “owas and fod th we thar ou ave doe? Maybe you coud mene ht We mee Tove re ltr of quenions in Oi Hr. Some of them ight be nar sing to you and thers not =e eat ao tow wen me 108 wih amin ese hat importa! 0 you 17 ok forward ering tout your fot ct and veo see haat, 904 romenber! Kind Regards, Ace ‘Macy peopl have tment ecivng 2 eter such athe oe bo canbe very helpful They have found he weiter ord] sustain i them of comer shred Ltrs tal summa »convestion Contin som fer questions ls asst people to stay conecied erg alienate soy ha 86 co-antned in oaaive mecings, Wh ore tore connected ote prefered tres of ti ies ty ae They wo comin o be able gees fo he inflaece of the problen “ter Tish ad esived si oe eter to the one Set se i couldn't Belen yu wold send the tne 0 wate me.I ‘nef so much seonpr flo 10 Atty to kro hat verona ee Wd em he gh Tend so ay tines sing the wek ~ i eal el {ting Anxiety ut fhe shadows pote Toad gia biter ‘Soma Sin we ated coudn.op wondering who was ‘tnd ih yo “appring you when yon decided t buy ht fit newspaper and bg look nthe music aston. Wire you totaly alone or was ther someone “hein you? ‘This short eter assed Sumac to eoosider hose pope who bad snd him along he pth of elimi nse ni if ae ape 9, Re= ‘membring convertion) Heer ad tht having Ue people nore is conscious al the time of taking these iapertant sep gave hin ns *4ecmination fo cote has he igh otherwise have ba ‘ters of summary cote msn creme fers. Amys si-yerld wan prt tse in the pop group The Spice Git, Test Am 2 See Gn ster nt was stock on pice of paper with age pech bale ining an oppoprits quetion ws Sexy Spice, Amy's fveurie ‘hart: Sometimes un be ofl end davange o panes to pope Feiya wat “on the road o geting hings done and express her inane ‘uificen in ier ably 19 suck 9 his pth. Ose iy, hen tending raring, | found 1 beauifl picize of « sts of paths theagh dense ‘asian! and fre set it Pea ané wrote te lowing: Tis ie ‘eniadot me ofthe pat hat you ok ms you ha hon, was wondering how ‘sche om al de ketones? How i you ow it moa it yo" Brief leters Letters of invitation and letters to buld relationships i eter hat apap oly nt wo guns soma pestis consbrint pap’ es Ga set ne Seo af a son wih ek sou is atinstoaply job ne ewan Sam wasn iereacig bi cen mmc pu wek et th ante weve yeu, An abe iden ad eed i try sacl em ma les had prevent om ene caer etn o ie enqeper x eve ea, Sel Er dsm up ning th ekg ond el cere el i Lets ca alo bs us in itng people o aed meng wi the ‘herp and various amily member. The rete for sc an inition ate Imad lero the people who ate ei nial m oppor & made fo ‘hem wo rspend othe aviation, ‘Lauren received hs tor fom ‘have spoken to our mum and she's old me abot whats going on at1 aes Hamaive Thr? A cosa eben the moment ve been hehe bo You and wondered if ¢ wot ep 1 ‘ome ana ewe cha sometime me you ser fore and would ie eget oko you to, What da eu ink? Prom Nos Morgan ‘vie pop who ae significant in he ie of he person coming nomi ut wae nt ay mers, can alo be nied attend sessions, esr Merde “Ayam oy Miche and ave met ao tes ods some ‘that ar inortant ober. The he dy she wld me how hod rede “comment about somthing ae had done a schon when ae wa 0 thor Ncate as ery eons abou Michele and are intererc i ‘raring rm more abou hat you ke aout Miche’ bisa tu ne wee wondering 0 would be lew mer wth ws? Lal ct arab ha pot ‘ow a ew uso, ta io, oth Mice Tare Thope you are inex joining hs proc an ook Sra Bost wither, Ace Morgan tes of inition can lp help to Hnace people to the tea and esblih th hopinings of laos peor to et convention. an aaa people wi the decision o consul rapist abot a port sii: Tne Pry wot srs fers a yuna boy, in, who ad spoken in hf fr some tne. Te fest eter ofa seri enh [Ned tive ha Let sent Fe tad not atended any ery ssi Let nd poten Jose, i's aetatr, who proved ce rs tas wth he ele, Th eer coms invitations, therpentie comme tea goes ant eved to devslup a cesactonbeoweon Trea ae Fi ets wets seven rr Its before se ese pons fom Fs tha tan caaple of how letescan be wed ould coestons 1 tite sip ing up toa they spiment io an option for he. fhe lencr ana dscsson ofthe hey are dalled in Poy 1999) Dear Fin, Tes taappined sat rf appiement ll rough 301 1 hrs are z "Pasir ve een od by ds tha yon reo reat Thar theres to ong even months. Sometime ago I weed a show on tle and et fanaa t loan about indica, perhaps lke youre. cho ‘comm to and jon what they eal “Order Orde tite vows af nce ‘an promis fom the pope, xametins freer ~ have yom herd abt ‘his? Ofcourse the inven couldn tlt the pepe an erat hey a ast questions ofthe fal membre, oof trod fend if tey i's have any family people around. Nr of i pepe om reat seemed 1 have made amy aw frends since the vows of sence. The Interviewer ‘std thn some gusto shot the sence thi ha taen them ove ‘guts tite: Did sence have 1 wrk hard and fora lo tne before it ‘on you over? Or did silence convince yw cont ot one? Does sine onthe use eon seer on the iis? And des comment 10 freer moon forever? Th nervener sed tings ke a ing Us wondering whether here vere any smart the ‘commitment you ve made wee an the deat frward oth show The shove grabbed my auation, a of me wanting to Bow more about eoele ta ence cole upon Yow sr, hace of he tine costa there ve some ching ef wma paar elaine oun woman — se wa'rasoung os ou though Dt, all a te so ge me ing Fealy love o meat ob fly certo Yh vos 4 an preven this fons happning. Ith commie: ence doin mat you ‘ocome bac a spaking world ast ye, could aol lend of yours, or someone from eur fam, come i our place, at ke inthe slenson Bow? 2S: How do you get wo hoow wha’ going ont the world exe your remeut? Do you sand jour ees and ars ouside whe you sty ‘ndvors? Letters of redundancy ‘These lees may be writen t someone who i eng «make Yedundant sme job orl hey may have oe fills ding te te deyos rats Nwratie Phra? An reed ition ‘ere udr the infsence of pasar problem, Some poe invite press ‘ke putea tole tat st thei ring i ime hy are od it the dttety. Aste child makes savy fl in problem's lacs hit tole maybe no longer sexed. Tas was she stmaon wih Aes. ear ha ter prevetag er frm sleeping in br bstoom aloe, She wa conta ted tnd his mae ffl fr her emerbe orig ings 2 shoo 1 tho meant sb ws of ‘disorganised and forget Sax seating ou a oe as nota contibting fc, we explore sn retanstip between Algesn ander mote, Pan Pam sipped Ayia ‘ate abrnk the Fea, by of o remind her of th ers she needed to tie to school and giving #9 make special ts to schol if abe fers stcaary te, fr ena mse equipment or spl ches Pam forward oscaming the ines hen Alla wns ble thi for besa lan ns sucess geting Fear at of ber ean began 103 sean infer beatoom. As she eine ba eer sb began 1 nue tha ‘he aed er nam od a he tank oe ta he had ke om: We Pum iter withabe 200d new eat Pom Today Alyse ond have tad abou some of he hangs she has ttn she bas ot ere back from Fears Ar ode that no he ep bee he is ou hat he more coo of er if’ a ats ‘Gon omonber ings now" Ata ry plead boa an era Sergi hore ings When Yk hr what yom woul ik (hough you would Be ext su. Aleve encunced oy tha mas ton ¥en mus fo dare bcs ott Fen do feat eons that you won't ne worry abou the reminds Sepik ond wl have me mere sine ot your hands, om that for oa? remember onc jo ling me cls’ wat for day ome 50k forward baring wht odo with Miya ali sid hat she wanted thank ou for what yo dil cp Br fe going es she hr Fear and she has mse some plans Iw ooh Fw spol he surprice! Regards, Alice Morgan Rawat tes 1 Letters of reference: These Its ane usally writin “Ta whom ty cee ad contin counts of pet's developing ii, oe tha s por deine by he problem hat has ben influetig is ve. The thei wie hs 6 of ‘ever in cenation with th peson ad eta multiple copie ae mae or ‘vide distin These lees cn heparin svabons where a problem has inv cersin repaints ptaon’s He, Tse nets ‘eputons canbe dict to shi o ote Sch a his may si hose sound te penon begin enterin tew and ire postive fap These lees conte shifting the acount of epee tat were once oblem saad rnc, more posite on ‘Shaun was reining is fe fom Tosble fly ad shoo wee concerned oe th fet hat Trobe wh le was hago, Aa Sha regan ‘site oon he problem, te allowing tr reference sa writen, Shan request teen copies be de aad seal “ey pope lik hi acer, his ends and membas fhi fiy Te Whom 1 May Cercer: ‘aye to, Shun eben resing Hele fom Trl for scl naarau tov te ct wh Stan as ‘cheveers eda yu eye be lap Ye eo following: “a os ‘+ Tr isnow 35 das since Shaun wae required ta attend adetertio, 1+ Staun has complete an ited ol the work thai deere ‘curenty up 12 date enol esegrmerns “+ Shuur tos been having wear es ver Lyi. 1+ Shaun thinks thor hi tia ost more positive nd hat he wont nts to say ot tre) ‘+ Shou intends to ‘oun up tthe graffiti he wrote and offer to leant aff the mall, Although te M eect dye, Sheu intends to conte to calenge0 tras Kaan hry? An cape boon ‘bens ncn i hse depts etry the ote occ ta net of HUT Ue Foie ue ro Tr oer yout Tene Srelcners may rami Jou eat Shan overt fret thon twos tt Wt oyu taka Two py Re frm ry fy tat ote fier err eens ee Best wishes Ace Margen ‘Summary Within sanative prstns,theapetic eter wring fen plays igticant pct In some Cisurtances, de ence therapy can oir Tete ea. where dec coaverationjsimporsibe). Leer wtng cn | pry signin sons ee popl a waa wheter Ro wo tik to a Geapist Ge Wo fol simaton), (mses sna Tears ean provide ales thesening oping a elnnsip tan waking totic in her tiation, br act as a pall proces! 10 2 ener, orbiting tte tickseg of aecaie sve and prov ‘elections atc be refed oy tne Further reading tye 08 tin Hove’ en, Cag Op a "icra ofa poste ed ap beds Bae dee nisin com te ust 9 arate Et oily Sea nen voa nome Chapter 12 Rituals and celebrations ‘italy and celebrations mak celebrate igniicat sles Se he journey aay fom problem story ta pew a peered vison of Ui, Ii ificl to te generally abet rnals on ceemaier a they ea vavied a the Feople who ars involved inher, Celebrations cin Be formal ifm can ake pace wih or witout ihe presence of he heist I hs scion, L Aescelbe tres cermanes hat Uhavepatisiated iopive some tent ofthe Sonia's ritual of membership Sonia and 1 planed a ceremony to elevate and pivloge the rslalousis tht were sigan To het ant formally rls vo cher ‘litionsips Tis ea aoe frm ar member convertion (ee chapter 9) that hal eeu dag one of our seston. Iba igre about who ese ‘souk now of Sonia's seegth and courage and the comment she had mde 3 fre of “lb! and mtraace’ a also we! about the people who would sparc ho wer cameo xpporing ne diction for he le, Soni had heen daconnecte fm thi omenitmen sel tlie ad auras for ame fr event feyers, nd ith ben contin “scourge by some members het bog amily.ts Moti Nea harap? An easy rato ‘Soni ld that here wee every eponant people hr le who pore her an ecoaged er coc self li on arcs {coer he had ner nal yao choo (Pon) a chose fiend Dianne, an ter nope a (Sado). Boa, Dinne and Sake 0 celeb ‘tn exphned ttn: obonou heir ontbaton to Sonia's le. At he renony Souia ond Tvead ane prepared siaements 1 Fos, Dine and Sade aad pected them ll with Honorary Life Merrship Crises 1 Son's if 1 ierviewed Soni about the span ofthis her ist be ‘tree women Tidened. 1 then atted ora, Dianne end Saic = sis of tons about econo tht Sis id ade ts ves. In his Wat, The eciprocal mune ofthe reationshie was honoured and ackowledac A ths ceremony we ao ead prepared steers at mound the cessation of fw abun relationships ht Soin no loner wise fo hae Be fe Th ‘oem concided withing champapne and mush auger Alirra’s ceremony of fun in a been sce in geting bvk fn and confidence fom inten ef Headaches. One day, Le lina ise thoaght we soul la Celebration of her achievements, Ara yas debit with te mggeton Sone to invite vor peopl jin usin thi The nex wo sessions pentmaing plas. Aira coe ate he pople who ad made sini ‘Catuon 1 the geting bck om and coufldence’' projet ~ ber me. fee, her eure teacher, he teacher fom te previous yar, he Sn ‘yl Together we mae he tts a planed apex the event ‘At ihis election, cach ptiisnt had the opportunity w speak reflect on Alen’sacicvesents ad conurbations. lia ake me 6 seth Ter bla boat the eutbtons at hose who were preset had mde. retention wo Alka of cette wo commemorate geting bck fn Toni” Gee chatr 10) was made in he presence of ited ue Member of the meeting signed he ceri a6 wines, er moter a ‘Aliza a recat ad had baked pec chocolat cle. Ths was decom thls (a pnb ffi ht Als and Thad fen spoke abou) the word ‘Alina tong, conident, cing, determine, cosogs' write 12a a erations w ‘cng These words came fom conven ht Alia er moter and ns tht Alia, nd te ‘i shed abou the ptsenal quai As posted ha sister with set ek fon and coniece, A citual of declaration Zoe sn planned 9 rial t cela ad celebrate and publi acknowledge het ‘Delraton of tnepeedncs (ce Desai in chap 10), At ths tinal We sel the our tugs ofthe outsider witness wap pees, dete in caper 14. The foal at of he evening han afer der. Zoe i wo candles for her two ches who were overeat he ce of the meting and who fa ‘sent thir suppor forthe evens. The event as udoaped and sto tem. Family members who were ined wo the event fis witnessed an inerview betneen myself and Zoe Ate 1 had merviewed Zoe, then Ieviemed the vied members boat wha hey Bad Retr Tied tem 49 ‘eet onthe conser thy wines do commento hse apes tot pariulaly cmpit tec ateaion Zoe wat ab oulletoe to ths ‘neeation. Zoe then ha the ampere comment a hese etn nd ‘ead her "Declation of ladependenee’ tal stb. The out pat of he Cvening gave everyone the oppor to ask me questions abet why I had ‘kee guess Ud and about my ik thinking, We cond by all siping the delition and listening 1 “What 4 Wonderful World emg by Louis Armor air Summary ‘Tho poms fo the we of sland elation win marae ‘york te usted. The Sming, spe cont of els re determine Uiough a ealuboauve proces benen traps an te pope colin them. In each ccumtaes, considerations a made nla o what woul be the sopopcie audience and seting forthe rial and bow sould be svetued in 2 way to most poweflly acknowledge all that a oon experienced. Rimas do nr necessary ave We ivovecsebration, Powerme rena Pray? Anca int sino hs ig and movig 8 may abo bea pao «en Joy, Inco he arring i mpi stay cas pls hat infor reasoners ie ten fo ru det fon lyon th roematie tayan ht aerate si tne pore nage stig ont of exeily skie wee “The cing end performance of leatve storie hee Seng sree. Chapter 13 Expanding the conversation: Co-research, leagues, networks, committees, groups and teams ‘Toone people who have experience with robles, erm he rete or he as, ol sec aowledes, skill, sompetencis a expertise tat cen sit ‘hes in sm saton, Thy have pial expertise and wisdom bau, for example, she ways tht parscue problems opera, the way in whch problem: speak, he ks ond des of patel probes, and th ways thy have oud court oc chang hele wit these problems. Fer cmple, Bary, trough hi lnship wih ‘sanrtines sbi, at ‘esi keowledges and undrstnings about this problem ahd bow he ‘wang to rela i ie fom it effets, He ols understandings shout bow substince abuse invites seit people's ves, Bow M speaks tl epee, ‘nd how be changed he relstinship ith substncs fim an ‘abuse? To 8 moe “arnonius one. Thee words wets she by Bary to dere the ‘anges in his elton to mbsane we, These Krome ta Bay ns equ have the potest o aes ti sgt hes who re neste rsclaming hei ives rm rug pbs, Iagine wha t would Be keto colt a ssand Bay's special Lrowlees and fo hese to be acceuibi t ois ppl, Imagine ay of deans about ie voice of substan abuse” documents hat recordus rat Rae Py? rand itratoe teak tm he fc a mae on o's ie ara ‘ents tec hcl owes cin ie he ‘nce och tons ihe nso foe eye acon Spunante cee em Scccan epen a wmtag o g api' snow ile eshng yor coerce ‘ce doumcio ops trlier sn sil shot poles an wa State tom ths i drs oe. Thi “stn eae ots hg ue write Fer ame Socunea er cope eters be eed (th pmisn) Pewee ino ring th Sin ss aS ‘Many narrative therapists try to find other ways ta assist people to access te pn ie ets ei ye. ig ‘ln ses pean fincas dow, Ths lnges te ro f ole inert hig tion wit aes Tcy bg gee edie he wie fol ed nr gg wa. al Vos tex mc tar peg ber an he aes ps Tera usher ist gi ave de aro a oowiig ate hci os Tete on sole fe cae ono pores gee ral ees or ox IN ist yal ye ei a he pe Soning am, Tee ena eos Scent nee emi So fro lkctaresucs fr or ppl ci Tene fred te pone gen er a nk aie etapa cd ctw ek oe sce Some temp hve bel bontahanons ecole rice te pe cough ch meh et Ca sm Taig’ Surigao cig’ Thee Mn ic oe show eh beac ahr deicoe sch cnn of thy eve eed ea is paion lab en nea tse ns nd epee aly ec i fst ve bc etd fe he AMA Tenis at ecole lcm Kiger 1 Bape se comer Po ‘wile nervors for seve yous ad now A acives are collotd is Asta, New Zatnd the United Stes of America and Canad: Not ny do these leagues ieule many Ites that hav been writen fo unemine he ‘lees of morena eos nd bana neo, bt a some member pk vt publicly abou x range of sues ncn he elects ht erin ines ‘women nthe meds have on women’s ve ‘Teaming up egainet a problem ‘The en of having & "Tea wo as pera tnd apn th eet of « problem evokes many posses. To whit en thepit are often intrest in peng» conversation sn which other ple ae denied wh ould tod wih nd semper the person o: aly experiencing the daly. Sophia apes yea) corm ne abou serve tal eam bad ‘tet inthe sep and ghee be. acerned hat abuse was et a this context ad was then invested in exxing ite Sophia ways of eng tte eccurene of hese bad dca Sophia odin tht the nighimares ed of my snl on tk se sd ha he ek very powees nt pete | mas ners in dcoveing Frm Soph the people se ugh mig on ‘hers! auins he bad de ‘vn se thought would daapprove of wht hea dream were up, an ke Sopa, woul wan her t say ou of fer sep. {asked Sophie what she ‘howz woud happen if we gat here pepe opts om acm What iss thick woul open i he tad éeams’ se fa mace peopl on he sie? ‘Sophia thought he ea would Kep he se Fam he ta es ad ht ould go asked her oman te pele ste knew would be om et se Insaty she named ber moter, fer, and grater, Fath ‘vertoning Led o Sophia Wentpng Flilly, her tay ea, who was vey impor be. Sophia xplsined hat Fut slept ws he and yas he fe the had dams inthe night. Atay doll wan present dong this ‘onveratin and I asked Sophia whee the baby woul so be on be side svat he bad dreams, Sophia ther ini epled “But es only one [EU ld” 7 ae the ages of he ator members f her teat. We rer ‘hem i st frm onthe whiteboard, and discovered tat betwee lh enus hat Sete Theres? An oaorecd iota embers Ure was one Hated a nineyseven yes and four months of ‘perene, Sophia content sre me hath "had dreamed wot haven ope now. We connect al the mem ofthe Team by poe son ory lei, an aol the stay woul he itereed ia jane Sophia's "Team ‘Asin to Bud Daca. Tiny all enthusastesly agreed aa erin obs ‘wee given fo each of tem to pecfern. Fatale tis eum daring these convertion was ating ont for Sopa oad conned rely 4 Det ‘esting iy eae a happy’ deans Re-membering conversations Disusion of emebesgcontenains was vided in chp 8-1 sneton te signicane pain nhs seton wale ade’ aeton Penta in te ‘uecing™ apecs of mazave therapy. Remtet eonmeratos ave anther way of engaging an aden 0 wines pron ‘hicverent, and 0 wibess an account of what is rected th Achieyemest — pec abies, competencies, Knowledges, and poe shove wa of hin, Tt i ofl possible to inv the persons) Meniied tuowgh member conversions natn asetson. The heist cam ten nr Thee sigma people, in the presence of the pen who hes ame oueling, aboot thei thew, and refeions abut this person. ote tence people se nt anble wo atend sch a esion the thea tay, with conten phone a writ thr (by et, ox ema) anak oat sry. impeessions they might ave of thecal oleae equities ie ‘Senmary Prolene fen conte olution, lgsines 2nd dioeaton. slko ofien. canbe to ccumstnces tat caoaoer people's wig nowledgr and unowow: Finding ays to Une vpeher pope who cexpeinced sini dfs ond crening process dhueugh which 15 expan cman 1 cope can shure an ud wp each ving sigan pak ‘tthe wor of therapies engaged with auaive Practice. By feng he linking € people's Ties wit hse of oes el way, a ein, sscues by which iiderinowledges canbe hae, hemp can pay at infuental bat deen le th sf tone who cons with hen Through de use of ewido group, league, eens oomnises, tens and you ememerag converte, pepe’ vet become irked wih kein aye tat te ly deserve stores. Someincs this comes the Unking oj va or ee es tote times eate uehves of soon dmowiedgcs might be cea vad Hart bea people in tensors TR proces ea eal om fon all ‘Who ate imine Wha a eTeace cn make 0 peepee ad th ether spe to aes the proba theives Further Reading Fpaon Whit M190 “Cnty yeu cana The canton of Slemane knowfge use Come Nest Nt Reed mp, D ‘Ahi M992) Iiporene, Conan Nae Iaaeon Adc, Daleah Come Piers ihe 187 ‘Ham eprint The Vanco Aare AM in esi Gt, Vl Magan 8. psn D985 hem pei hf seme cn rm pts meloge to cage Funan, ely he Rang Tham in Action gp2s?.2). Neu Ya Girt Reed nf 8. HH. Ging Up Bite De Frinton of aman pte ht pe ‘kad Due Conse boos Nonvonhy, 8. Lane 1956 How we ene ztig a ey W al ab ‘Corse mh ame ool" Cee Nae, RiChapter 14 Outsider-witness groups and definitional ceremonies Somes, native herp rete proses in which sadicncemembet t. 2 witeae in voy paccala wy (9 he convertion between he capt fd those coming 1 thenpy. These process are hinwn ot define Seremonies (afer the wr of bars Mer, 198), Tew can be omer ‘tat ating people ne reclamation or edefinon of te Meues, The people who re reemied to be xen of ah audience tothe ‘enverstion between he hpi nthe perso) orig he here ate sen called oue-viness group. Sonetinescusder nna gop se ‘stored 10 a lling teams when this soup iy made up of prions calles Outside groups ae made wp of two oF more poops ie ‘oon o unkown tothe petsn consulting the thepis Onaler nites my be ote erp, ml members, ends, es ofa commu ot Deaple enknows Wo the family, who maybe able to oer some relevant ‘saperive orexprence A cid who ht ben sujet eng and hatscpeat ay be neretd in mesg with am compriedof ther cident hove td a sim experience. Lesbian couples may be resid in ender wis, TONS comprising oles members of the Ibi vomimaty Absrqoal families © commuies may choose Jo ona 9, eam made ip of te member of hacen,pm ars Yanan hry? Ancona ntobcon na pees (or ‘Native tapy oe engage uidec-wins groups inion ererony) hts fou ic ages. A rom that is vied by a tneonay scree is commanly uss fr thbe mcings gh hs soa is tot races, When a acces asi the theraplet and perc! iy sit ‘on one side of the creck, andthe eusier-witness group wie behind the one trey mit sig fo and watching he imkrviw, In is way, he ower Tv up cao! be seen byt fay comaling the therapist, although Fumiy memes Know of on ive aproved of ek pesnc. is alvys ve the fama momkes decide wnt rat ey wish ve such a 0 a8 tm naienoe ote conventions. Tha omesnay seen is oot soe, the presence of obe can be Jane. The separation ds cetes import as it ve tee (nd ‘moe cecemenial if th oferta oc dog, daring heft tres feof te proses, between he oud wness group 08 one ad nd the droit nd fry the oer, Cusdersnes group have been we i many stings away fom the “editoes?” cherpy 100m, including va omer gutting (ee fares edi). Port 1: Tritial re-outhoring conversation Te fit prt te ei eneney moles tm Tie sari sept og eat cnertion ‘Rhencobeosnnsdes ely owha eing d Part 2: A retelling from the outsider-witness group 1M the eooctason of the comenaton between the thei and fui he enaierwines group se places wth them Te amy 83 tend he sercen withthe etait and able o watch a sien ase ou ‘mes grup ells what hey have ot hear The conversation between Trembers othe ouidrwites grap spied bythe rns, ick fracices of marae therapy. Tht relling tks the form of a dialogs {uctons nd comment low fly Beoven te members of the roe. Th 1 ides ein on deftones ns ‘lings conte oa neh daerpton oe conversion tht has at been steed, Tey aohive this ich decipton 4 forwing om the emerging semaive sires of people's vs, snd onthe anigoe eucomes ha were iemified ducing Pat 1 ofthe interim. Oalernines rou members ak ach other questions about anything at caught ti aterin,commest ent tht hey wete croas abou, sd ere cto about aspects of te ‘oavesaion dh they would ike wo ued me fly, Group members ‘may tho speculate on the waning of cet cyt ad sal wonder owt te iplieon of hese fr the ate ofthe pera cosaing the Perit ‘ex, an ouside wits pop mier might sy “Wen Jose wa taking nrc ake sid that twas re tw tut her mun wi at pce of nfosaton. 1 wondering mare about wht Kd pt ie ei ben tee moter te she dt? Ac what Lat sys abot wht ese wane comet to in er relationship wither mer? 1 was wondering what is omntent might rman foe ther relitiep and what Fe chins sat ‘Asmat convertion snare member of the emi achieved by ‘up membets interviewing eas other and by responling oe ading Something that oes group members hive eit. One memcr may sy it ‘esponse t Alce’s comment: “Yes, wat carious about the significa oF 2's he othe lo und beard erm say ht herein nig claseness agin Cwoadered if was a ‘closmee” tat Zone wt omit to or maybe sorting es ‘Osderominses group members ay ten ak ec oe questo ike ‘Why wete you pica iter in tat” What dl yo ea that ad you ‘enceriag out tht ert? Why o you thik ye ae cats about tat? ‘Wat do yon thin tat says about Jone aera’ aon ht thy re geing back ter cseness? The oxsernen group mewber ake lear ta they ca only speculite abou the amily meres respomcs Ech ‘ime a speulton is eneted int, dose wit he uma of hesitancy and ‘spect eam members ever pes now wht sight far te pen ot fray This achieved hough coments ie," nt sue i th won ios, t check with Ber’ oY no se boat tha a woulwe Iasi ura harap? An cane irae realy He to know mice about 40 make sure t woul ik Jost and het ‘lado Tan cea aot hu asus inking a “Group members aso take cate to explain why cura pats of the convection cmt teat ~peiaps Bocas wha dy wimesed ma Similar a somes tht hd occured thee own ies, pertaps Bees Teminde thm of someone ot some event, or paps because it refed tometing they had een been reading of iking about Group membeis ‘hare the epority fr recoping Dow what ty have beard some way eons oconaet wi the enperienoes fiom ve, of wih hi omic ad eli Ibi way the hp omens and baie the mideratci pogp member cone inked in ome way with thre of the family smi Thi can post ihe the aleatve stares oe ves of tail mona {i ad anal fox ssp members oa sbout ow the convertion thoy have wines as fet the thinking abot heir Ova lives. woh cor ite potential shop ard combue otc vx or work races he Tune. shring dane in sock way a he fay il mis at the ent of th lig (as Geet fos i being » pein sag ht cone {he up mene). Tse krown a de-ened sharing (WiNe 1997) 1 6 8 ‘Slteratcandeavtl ye of having net provies acknowledgement of the way in nich the sees of ne ver ofthe fail mers nko the aus ofthe Hes of group meter. 1 coal sound something ihe this ‘When Josie was taking aboot cust, was thinking about how {ave sometimes ad tole Sig trasing places in wich to tak abot ces ‘hngs in my own i, Hering Jose tay has mad me more como ‘presou elias f a ae Her words wil ep mew hk moe ab {he people my fo who aa test and T wl go avay fom bee wating ‘peat ee er bout nat ey me ome Group members cul then this commea to dcsion by aking qvestons aboot or by comment fon wrth heya aa ther hiking in sis wa Th here concent ateton a kamparency (eng open about wy on saying wt oe is yin) on bal of he eterna roups mbes Tprteprane Paice aenon tao aly given othe deen i pon (weer grup member acd fh erly i way that nis he plea ‘his uate o have bari fies Team marr re cate sea 14 Ovssrwimen grap and deftina eens bs ys target tyme i et on he ome This comer tte oti nn gp mb ots sale aed ie ec orale fa see sy menos oe members see that its time to swap places, anal Port 3: The family member's response The thd pat of he rece pov ott of ly snenbes ome! oe etgh oe cts gp. Te ‘heat ways eal mee hte pom els tor enol a ey tog of te p's eames, vit creed hm ats coment id oe al nes oe ‘pak genmly howe perce Tis pu of be nenvew a 9 cotomtin of te dengeae ei i ein Pat i net ty comet onthe lings of Ue oleh gp nn a ‘yon wharves acd att vy, Ge greg Sours ma ce iy hati of arin oa ey 1 yen hw wo at a a el en Th ‘aa eat eg esa itr etn ee ‘ymin erent pp tot hen al ‘nee oge a acou ete oral expe obs ance {owen ott ie ow hyped i igh oe ives im the fare. Binet AP ih ts Part 4: Discussion of the theropy Aller the family mantic, fave commented oa he ssi the comin som vid in te rp nd efi Ati npn ree eco Be ef vas Lian te ivi evens etd eo ed, ‘making he dheapeatis conversations meant. The fmily antes16 asi Nari hry? Anca re ino mayor may nat wish cote thi dneasion at this tne, Tey mys {ine Ths practi of tanspnency Gs witha eb! poston held by many ave naps bout ty cussing te cotet ofthe ineview or det ff tei ofthe fay members wis ne Canis "The tanya he outic-winess group rember ae ined 19 ok te serpin saying about hers contrat tothe cameron, Tey might ante thera: stat ver thoughts wart ein pies ing einer, + why ate ated panic questions, “why ste puted oe pattie cton of "ine of eetons, = what she thought abou tier opans for in conversions dung the ineriew, shot tuing pos inte interview, “for clasifction shou any apet of he serepente covet ht th ‘wa finder endestn, + tw speculate abut the posse fo Sure conveatins with he dat my occur ara ef he meeting with de css witest BONN ‘rings Youth sag, the deapist may ao intrview the os wines group neibers bout their ets, shout tei eas on rable questo ht the ay mentee col! fave bee asked, ead {hey might ave done ey ha bee king the vl of mterviewe. ‘Summary “Tis hae as deseo he oar sages ofthe efsam tha ce associa with sara ways of ering, When cuir ioups are used in community grberngs, oF when thy ate made wp omy member rr thar poesinal wukes, te process tote However the rips seam the sane. The oui There to wites te ethoone contenatons ard then orl wi fav head in ways tat connie 1 ach esrpton of allemative 4 Onder iness reap an dein eens @ eple's lives and otis. Pepe who cans theapits within te catten of thew defnional ‘setae invatily find his expres acknowidging ad eh rene wien ad Help. Fly bee ay th hearing hei stories not pope's wots bp ofthe ‘separate them from the prolem-saturted sito hives, and conte, 'o profound developmen is the rebuiling of the ves round pecemed ‘sores ofthc idea, Usually fle wbih have expenened th retin of csid-vines rp il pecay kf is be an of el Further reading ‘Retest toms? 19: Sei titan of Gc, V2 ‘Wht M195 eecting am olin enya Whi -auhor neues andy Sage: Dulce Pea, "he 197: etal cere Ik We M, Raat of Thi hit: Ce Peis if a ar cumpls ofthe 96 of ace = ‘he we of otros props in community gutcings, ‘cng toes eg 1: Ao mae of ‘sh Comat So la Dunk Care Nae ‘Spd eu meng eat 199: Duc Cnr Nene NodClosing remarks “Tis inoductory took i mow coming fo 3 close ad 1m conscou ofow ‘muck there about maraiv tes tht 1 heat need in these pages fine chaen no discus the broader heorets! eas that Ice narative cons within he context of ptrchalist thought and haven't esribed Tow lier theory a anthropology fave erence aratve practi: Ted have eo exphin om of th key ideas, Fo his son, Ie deibertely ‘ed hation ht are elaelyuacplicne, I hpe tat T have been able to comey the dear wiht empress the houhiies ogo “Te en, | thought Fd he ati of asmpcans ht afr naa ‘sys of working ht in ery epi ein yee of eer so om ‘Assumptions thet inform narrative ways of working! ‘The problems the rblem he peton i tthe problem 1 People have expen on he ova lives ‘People an become the primary autos of he saris of hi ow res. ‘By the mea person cons a therapist ty wl awe en mde my attenpts 10 fede the fence of the problem in their iver and reatencips. 16 Problems te contrictd i uk conten’, These contexts nl power relations o race, ls, seal referees, geeder, and advan, {© The problems fr which poole seek coosufaton usally enive thm reach tin conisons about her Les etd atom. Ofer these ‘omcisons have encurged them fo consider incebver at deficient 8 Somme way als eake fil oe them 1 acest ir knowledges,0 hats Nerina? an eas-ecend iro, competency, sila abies, References 4 Thee sil, comets ad ones can be mae vile da to ni i ecming ter ves ote ifn of he eles fr mich hy ok bel ’ eyed hee esas tn ina pi i en hi fy TEM latue eee er ety in 106 o ee lives reson “6 Boing an stmopbee of suis, respect and manspreney i the responsi of the ean rg, Sue, Mem & Veo, 199: “Powe 9 oa oumeys” In Whe, ©. Denberoush D. (es), firodielue Aaratie Therapy: A collation of pracc-astd rings Adelie: Dali CestePableatons rane, 3.1986: Aewal Mind Parable words, Cambie, MA: Harvard Univeriy Pres rotnan, J & Combs, G. 1996: Noradve Therap The sci onsncton of refered veatibes New York evan Geer © 923: “Taek descrigtion: Toman an inteetatve iory f ele” 1 Geez, C, The inept of Catnres New York. Basic Backs, undey, 1.1998 nanatve agposch fo waking wih stdens who have esning dtc In Mogan, (el, Once Upon a Tine Nara Vherary with chdren and tir janes -Adlege. Dulwich Conte Pinion, aml A. 199: Heo in he makin” Durant Me Whe, Co), ‘ear for Therapy Wh Seal fone. Adcese: Dulwich, Cente Pableatons. Reprint 1998 in Whit, C. fe Denborush D. (ed Imuedacing Nasraive Tray collection of pracicn zed reins [Alluide: Dlwics Conts Picts. Myer 8, 1986: Lite not death in Vn ls cod il Tes, Vs ‘Bruner, F (0s), The Anhropolgy of Erperience Chicago: University of ‘ois Press, yet, 1982 ‘Lifehixon, nang he elder: Perfomance, visi and rememfing” To Rby, J. (ey 4. Crack in the Miron’ Refane enpectes im andropoogy, Pips Univer of Peoneyasia Pres Power to out jurays, 1999: ‘Documents and esses In Dubich Cente Publtins (ed), Nerauve Theropy and Commuy Mork conference collection Adie: Daeh Cer bison,we hats rine Tey? anger, Py, 1999: There's gunn = somewhere In Morgan, A. (€), Once ‘Bp a Tine Neratveapproscer wth chr ond tr fami. ‘Race: Dulvih Coie Pelton si, $1999 “Comical development! ect, Vol3 “hie, M.& Epon, D. 1990: Noratve Means 10 Theraeute Kadi, New ce ; a et ah at i ad 'No3, Reprinted in Epston, D, & White, M. (1992), Experience, Sa See also transparency, Se Oe ean ome Cage anes i ae Be ers a eee i cee Se ee ee rae ich descriptions of, 15, Ghee m2 a decumentaton ‘ater of ptt xp, 70 ac aso cone yt iret store, 7. See hick deci, 73 the nkenstive 7 connect i, 98 comin, 15 dese ear ‘tetanic concen 19, See aming of, 9, 6 Sorenigus ‘em et See amar work, 24, 31.58, 12, peng, 58 122,125,127 Peal at 8 ning Yor constants, 116 Sor thiskeing 73 coesereh shy name 22 conten Soe decostmetion strmptins oF auratvefcapy 129, SHEE, 75,15, 16, 19 eames fart Gm, 129. Serra 8657 venation Soe wekeag te SN? teeming toa deslrains, 58 sulin clr 19 See herpes W606 96 See herpetic hcumeataen decantation ‘ecoestto, 2, 22,45 sini eters, 92,12, 122ie hats rae hry? 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Se ‘rape doerentubn ° comidoswincs ous 131 roca, 122 P ection o pb, 25 Penes se of 98, St epic Niu Se teewea pious over elation of 13, 22,28, 124, 129, proces ofspec 25,17, 2,82 poston ffs 0,39 Cafu the eet 2 ‘eth roles 17 24 sing 020, sitting cote, 8. See “ssonamton ‘acing history of 3. See reve influence gestins Q weston: eageey,72 ‘a hnginge ofeeraising somertions 20 & perniition ofthe probe, %6 priest eget 23,20 revising ean th protean, 28 eh deetton, 6 {therapist anes, 113,126 tuck up questions at aeover igo oes 5? econscton, 6. See econsston, bien ‘Santina comext ascovery of ulgue outcomes, 56 ‘salu eels of pode, 2 seo of eval 43 udeape facta. 0 nda fey, 62 ‘ining Ue alent, 70 remembering conventions 79 that tac the problems ty 34 ‘Se of in eter wing, 102 R reautring $ repel shai reli fe, 121, Sev oie ‘ites16 at ara hep? dn on-oe adstion rani ndrace questions 34, $8 ‘racing history of he problem, 3 sememberng coveratons, 7,118 ‘eranpies of 30 seapce See potent resp} apie 5 fllng 98, 99,122,128 ‘Svaig eta ih roblems, sich econ, 15. See in olson ie descipios, ick ‘scitons fof eslntion, 19 of membap,117 s conanicton ofthe se 29 staat of poston mp, 4, 70 tons 3, 2 See ao don nye stoves ‘© éeconstvcton 9 ‘the toader conten 9 See feconareton ateraive sone. 4 zutoring 6 Shouting, 73 treating anew say, 8. See stemats tony een ype of ors, 8 ‘flocs o7 fae ucaptc cmt hig ny ori at nes, 8 ‘mening of mera py 5 ponngs to new seis, 36 T ene 115,117 Seo ble Tolenmg api pre, ut heap decanting, 8899 moe we docusnents, 85, 99 Serpette late, 10) ‘hak depen 1. 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