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English 2010 Final Paper
English 2010 Final Paper
Regina Wesseh
Brandon Alva
English 2010
Introduction
Common belief is that arguments against gay adoption center on concepts about the
composition of a family as adopted from most religions such as Christianity, Judaism and Islam.
Adoption agencies, county governments and most national laws to date place limitations on gay
adoption by placing an emphasis on arguments based on child interests. On the other hand,
advocates aimed at extending Equal Rights towards LGBTQ citizens argue that laws
discriminating against same-sex parents infringe on the rights of the individuals. In effect, the
question on the problem seems to target the sexual orientation of the parents where even
arguments claiming to address the best interests of the child nevertheless fashion their
argumentative premise on the sexual orientation of the parents. Considering the status quo on the
issue of gay adoption, perhaps a different perspective is required. In this paper, the intent is to
explore the matter of gay adoption by placing an emphasis on the views held by the children
from same-sex parents in the hope of addressing questions on child interests from the parties
As noted, most primal arguments against gay adoption focus on child interests.
Additionally, the major premise around which such arguments base their propositions argue from
the religious perspective. First, arguments cite that not only are same-sex parents religiously
objected in Abrahamic faiths, such arrangements are unnatural. Additional arguments cite that
same-sex parents ignore the interests of the child by focusing on their own need for familial
connections thereby placing the child in a position where they become ostracized on account of
their difference (Clarke, 2001, p. 555 -556). Other arguments state that same-sex parents fail to
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offer appropriate role models to children of the opposite sex which in turn encourages bullying in
schools and communities. Victoria Clarke in What About the Children? Arguments Against
Lesbian and Gay Parenting highlights the prejudice over family units formed by LGBT couples
that “it is generally assumed in law that lesbians and gay men do not form meaningful
relationships with each other and do not have children (Clarke, p. 556)”. By contrasts,
proponents of gay adoption basically proffer their arguments around the concept of adequate
parentage where social studies aimed at defining the best forms of parent-models display no
In the argument on child interests, numerous judicial rulings provide insight on the
quality of arguments for or against gay adoption. The Vermont Supreme Court in 1993 ruled that
laws against gay adoption in effect must establish clear evidence where the child’s interests were
infringed upon by same-sex couples. “We are not called upon to approve or disapprove the
inconsistent with the child’s interests…” (Appell, 2001, p. 81). Considering the above Vermont
ruling that argued for gay adoption based on the interests of the child, a different court ruling
shows the complexity of the issue. In Lofton v. Secretary of the Department of Children and
Family Services, the courts ruled that rational arguments prevailed in the case against gay
adoption. This was because there was clear evidence that same-sex parents faced discrimination
in the form of ‘disparate treatment of homosexuals and heterosexual singles’ such that placing
children within such atmospheres would in effect prove detrimental to their interests (Jozwiak,
2005, p. 408).
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In a report on adoption and foster care by same-sex or gay individuals, Gates et.al. noted
that legal statutes aimed at limiting gay adoption or foster care status would impact on the lives
of close to 15000 children in foster care while some 65000 children lived with gay/lesbian
parents in California alone (Gates et.al., 2007, p. 5). In Elovitz’s article, Adoption by Lesbian and
Gay People, it is noted that in addition to judicial courts sponsoring legal ties between parents
and children, care is given to establish emotional ties between the child and parent or parents
(Elovitz, 1995, p. 208). In the case on the re-adoption of Evan, the court ruled, “…the adoption
brings Evan the additional security conferred by formal recognition in an organized society. As
he matures, his connection with two involved, loving parents will not be a relationship seen as
outside the law, but one sustained by the ongoing, legal recognition of an approved, court
George*[a fictional name] is a 16 year old Boston resident who was adopted nine years
ago by a lesbian couple. Having come from the foster care system where George experienced a
According to George, the common narratives regarding disadvantages and oppressions that
children from same-sex marriages or families bear a good measure of truth. From early age,
George faced bullying from his peers as well as minimal levels of ostracism. According to
George, the major impetus behind the bullying came from his identity as a child from both a
foster care system as well as his parentage. Identifying the root cause behind the oppression is
not easy for George. According to him, while the school system in Boston is fair to children with
statuses similar to his own, the major conflicts arise from his own peers.
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George describes what he deems a normal weekend for him. Most weekends are spent
playing online video games like WoW with the encouragement of both his mothers. He believes
the reason they encourage his interactions with other boys on online platforms stems from the
fact that he has far more female friends than males. George confesses to being troubled by this
realization: the fact that his mothers note his lack of male friends as well as the fact that he
relates more to his female ones. He observes that his parents work hard to interact with others
from different backgrounds in the hope that he builds deeper relationships with his peers.
While his mother Martha* spends more time away at work, it is Gem* who provides
what he considers emotional support. George does not discriminate between either parents as
dominant or lesser in terms of their roles as parents. Instead, George considers their positions in
his life as necessary for him even with seeming absenteeism from his other parent. George
confesses that the absenteeism does not matter to him so much but for the fact that he is often
forced to witness his other mother – Martha – sometimes struggle to deal with him. His
intimation is that Martha’s problem stems not from her inability to provide an adequate
role-model figure for him but rather from some sort of pressure to provide for George a
According to George, the major problem he faces as a child in a family with same-sex
parents is the misunderstanding he encounters from his peers. As he noted, he faced some forms
of oppression. However, George also observes that the forms of oppression he faces are abstruse
in that peers from both sexes do not quite treat him as they would other peers. Males seem
reserved in their interactions with him while females appear closer. When asked to elaborate,
George intimates that most of his peers consider him bisexual to some level although there is no
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justification for such observations. George believes that such characterizations of his nature stem
from a belief that he is more feminine in nature. To George, this is not a problem but for the
seeming stresses this places upon his mothers. For George, as he repeatedly states, the problem
lies on the pressure his mother's face to provide what they think is adequate parenthood while his
Analysis
Interestingly, it is that critical factor that shapes George’s view on adoption itself as well
as adoption into a family of same-sex couples; the support from adult figures. George observed
that most children from mixed-sex parents do not have the same ‘advantages’ he holds. His
others who assume the natural and consequential development of such relationships. More
importantly, George believes that it is because of their exerted efforts in engaging him that he
feels more affectionate – and loved – to his parents. George believes that because his moms feel
they are lacking in something that he as their child requires, they often go the extra mile towards
meeting his emotional needs and this makes up for whatever else others think he requires.
Conclusion
On the matter of gay adoption, explorations from both social and legal circles lead one to
believe that the question belongs more to the realm of ethics than legality. Moreover, it becomes
evident that the principle agents concerned in the matter – the children - receive few platforms to
address their concerns other than incidental mentions in court proceedings or research findings.
From the perspective of the child, emotional support weighs more than social norms regarding
heteronormative social constructs. More importantly, it may be relevant that same-sex couples
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experience a greater familial and social pressure to secure and promote the interests of the child.
That said, it must be considered – as observed in the Lofton case against the department of child
care, sometimes extrajudicial considerations play a great role in determining the case for the
interests of the child though circumstances entailing such instances depend on case-by-case
considerations.
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References
Appell, A. R. (2001). Lesbian and Gay Adoption. Adoption quarterly, 4(3), 75 - 86. Retrieved
April 6, 2018
AND GAY PARENTING. Women’s Studies International Forum,, 24(5), 555 - 570.
Elovitz, M. E. (1995). ADOPTION BY LESBIAN AND GAY PEOPLE: THE USE AND
Gates, G., Badgett, M., Macomber, J. E., & Chambers, K. (2007). Adoption and Foster Care by
Gay and Lesbian Parents in the United States. University of California, California Digital
Library. L.A.: California Center for Population Research. Retrieved April 7, 2018
Jozwiak, C. D. (2005). Lofton v. Secretary of the Department of Children & (and) Family
Services: Florida's Gay Adoption Ban under Irrational Equal Protection Analysis. Law &