Cosmopolitan USA - May 2018

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109 What to Know
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10 editor’s letter
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22 the quickie
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30 on my mind
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51 style
67 beauty
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season two set and get my career going before I
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premiere. But think I have a good foundation, and
first, meet fan fave somebody I bring into my life
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you’ll get there.” roles written for an Asian actor that
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because that’s who I am. I’m proud of
my Asian heritage, but I was raised
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onscreen.”
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legal, this 101-year-old orga-
nization has a proud tradition accept the things you disagree I’m doing something right.
of audacious troublemakers. with or you can do something Earlier this year, a report
Always on the front lines of the about them. Take it from me: found that young women are The
fight for reproductive rights, Doing something, whatever it more likely than young men to longtime
head of
Planned Parenthood was built is, feels a whole lot better than have taken action over the last Planned
by women who broke taboos doing nothing. year—donating to a campaign, Parenthood
and laws to stand up for what I’ve learned that activism is going to a march, calling mem- believes
there’s
they believed. As I leave not only exciting and power- bers of Congress, volunteering never been
my post to the next leader, ful, it can also introduce you to for a cause. They aren’t waiting a better
I’ve been reflecting on what it people who will change your for permission—they’re assert- moment to
speak out.
means to break the rules… life and change the world with ing their power and fighting
or better yet, write your own. you. I met my husband when for what they believe in. And
My first brush with the we were helping hotel workers what do they have to show
authorities, so to speak, was in in New Orleans demand fair for it? They’ve helped protect
seventh grade in Texas, when I wages and working conditions. affordable health care, includ-
wore a black armband to school As president of Planned Par- ing birth control, for millions
to protest the Vietnam War. enthood, I’ve worked alongside and make sure Planned Par-
The principal called my mom, inspiring leaders who taught enthood’s doors stay open.
Ann Richards, to complain. me that—whether you’re fight- So maybe you have a big
(Years later, my mother would ing to get birth control covered idea or a new way of doing
become the first female gover- by insurance companies or things and you want to tell the
nor of Texas elected in her own advocating to help transgender world. Maybe there’s some-
right.) But she was something Americans get health care— thing at work or school that’s
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of a troublemaker who wouldn’t often, to make a difference, you

have hesitated to give him a have to make trouble. And I’ve
piece of her mind. Luckily for been inspired every step of the
him, she wasn’t home. way by women in elected office
For a young girl who was who are standing up for all of us.
always trying to be good, being Anytime you’re challenging
taken to the principal’s office authority, there will be peo-
Check out
for standing up for something I ple who won’t like it—usually arbitrary rules are made to be Cecile’s new
believed in was scary…but also the people who have the most broken. The future—and the memoir, full
of wisdom
thrilling. It sparked a lifelong to gain by keeping things the present—belongs to trouble- and
passion for making trouble. same. Over the years, I’ve come makers. If not you, who? inspiration.
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5,000
I.D. YOUR CAUSE GET THE WORD OUT DON’T GO IT ALONE

Think local. Often, you can A million followers is not “Nobody can carry a movement
make the biggest impact in required for online sway. “Don’t by themselves,” says Tarana
or near your hometown. For underestimate your existing Burke, senior director of Girls
example, you can address a influence,” says Taylor Barnes, for Gender Equity and founder
road that needs streetlights or director of the United State of the Me Too movement. So
a homeless shelter that lacks of Women, a group dedicated be open to others’ help and
funding. “You understand to issues of gender equality. ideas. Burke started Me Too
the landscape,” says social Post about your movement on in 2006 to talk about sexual
entrepreneur Erin Schrode, COO your social-media feeds, and violence, and in 2017, #MeToo
of #ChefsForPuertoRico. “Look invite everyone in your life to get went viral. Burke notes: “The
around your area and ask, What involved. “Your network would public response from survivors
are our pain points? What can rather interact with you versus has helped shape the narrative
I do?” Then focus. If there’s an people they’ve never heard of,” of our movement. We knew
uptick of mental-health issues explains Barnes. If you ask friends that to best address their
on your campus, don’t try to go to join you at a town hall to fight needs and elevate their voices,
broad. Set a goal to do workshops for healthy school lunches, we needed to make the focus
for 40 students. You can always they’re more likely to come than of #MeToo about healing and
expand later if it goes well. if a stranger had asked them. centering survivors.”
#Hashtags101
A strong movement
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“Make a call to action,” says
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“#TimesUp is good because it’s
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SHOULDER TO SHOULDER.
BROW TO BROW.
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for the same blowing? On average, a woman
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As part of the campaign to
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The Making
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nology. “We wanted to work
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says Adriana Gascoigne, founder
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When beauty lifestyle brand European Wax Center (EWC) will help finance Girls in Tech’s
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Confessions
“I was at the
biggest basket-
ball game of
the year—
everyone was
there! I had to
be the cutest
girl at the
game, so I put
on the highest
pair of heels I
could find.
Everything was
going perfectly
until I had to
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tripping on
my own heel. I
tumbled all the
way down
on the court.
That was three
years ago, and I
still have not
lived that down.”
—JASMINE J., 23, TEACHER,
JACKSONVILLE, FL
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TOO FUNNY!
Celeb
Confession
“I was training “It was

at the gym Memorial
when I saw Day week- “I used to have
my crush. I was end, and I a stripper pole in
trying to impress was driving my room, and
him by adding with my one time, I put
more weight— boyfriend on a show for my
why I thought of less than now-ex.…I was
this would work, a month in the middle
I don’t know. to go to his of a trick, and
We were doing family’s I completely fell
one move with flat on my
cottage. We back. It made a
equipment, and were driv- loud noise,
as I brought the ing as slowly and he asked me
bar up past my as possible if I was okay.
shoulders, I hit through some Not the sexiest
my nose so trenches. moment of my
hard, it started Before I knew it, life, but luckily,
gushing blood! I the car jerked, I survived the
tried playing it embarrassment
“Once, a piece of my hair cool, but that’s
and I took a bite
out of my and wasn’t
harmed. Our
extensions fell out and went difficult with a
bloody nose.
boyfriend’s
missing. I looked everywhere I attempted to

stop it, but it kept
I could think of but couldn’t bleeding for
find it! After two days, I finally the rest of class.
Safe to say,
found it—my cat had eaten it, and my crush was
disgusted.”
it was dangling from his butt. —GINA P., 26,
PERSONAL TRAINER,
And yes, I did have to pull it out.” NEWFOUNDLAND, PA
—ARIANA S., 19, STUDENT, TOTOWA, NJ
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“I was going to a luncheon and got stuck in the rain with no umbrella. Still, I made my way there, late and
dripping wet. It was bad enough everyone was staring at me and my see-through top. But then the host
said, ‘Let me get you a shawl. I just had a kid, and I’m lactating too.’ Lactating?! It was the rain!” —SUSAN S., 34
“This guy asked for my number. He

seemed nice, so I thought, Sure, why
not? and recited it to him. Later, my
boyfriend texted me a video show-
ing the entire exchange! The dude
was a YouTuber filming a segment. It
had 200,000 views and caused a
huge fight between my BF and me!”
— MAGGIE B., 20, STUDENT, CLEVELAND, OH
“I was at
dinner with “I was out
some friends with my
and got up to boyfriend
use the rest- and parents.
room. Unlucky My mom
for me, my dress and I were
was stuck to my standing
undies, and I together and
accidentally happened
flashed a family to be wearing
with small chil- similar
dren sitting outfits—and we
nearby. My bad!” are the same
—STEPHANIE P., 19, height and have
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“I met this My BF walked
guy at a away to get a
party, and drink, and when
we hit it off he came back,
He he put his hand
around what
he thought was
my waist and
cupped ‘my’
butt. Turns out,
it was my
mom’s butt. He
freaked out and
couldn’t look at
my mom for,
like, a month. But
at least she was
me to take a pic- flattered to
ture of them know he thinks
kissing under she has the ass of
the mistletoe!” a 20something!”
—CAROLINE B., 21 —LAUREN G., 28
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TOO FUNNY!
Dates From Hell

“I got dinner
with some-
one I matched
with on
Bumble,
and things
were going
fairly well
“This guy until he got
and I bonded really drunk.
over our He kept order-
mutual love ing more drinks
of horses. even though
Things he was already
seemed extremely
great until intoxicated, so
our third
date, when
we were
riding the
subway and “My first
he noticed date with
I avoided my now-ex
touching the was at an
pole…(hello, arcade. After
germs!). The I whomped him
in a game, I saw “I went to his apartment
dude picked
a massive fight he was staring for the first time after a
into space. Sud-
with me about
denly, he fell couple of dates. We were “When the
thought I was
it and said bill came at
he no longer and hit his head lying on the couch and dinner, he put going to be his
on a machine. wife one day and
wanted to date.
He began to
watching a movie, and we his card down,
His reasoning: so I thanked that we would
‘If you’re afraid convulse and started making out. I was him and figured look back and
of germs on the bleed! EMTs into it! He started moving tell our children
all was well. He
subway, how came, and we about this night
will you be spent the night his hands toward my bra, later texted me
and laugh about
screenshots
someday if we in the hospital, then he squeezed my boob of him telling it. I have never
move to a farm where he had run out of a res-
to get stitches!” and went, ‘Honk honk!’ his mom I paid
taurant faster.”
and have to for nothing!
deal with horses —STEVIE T., 26 Like a little boy! I was He realized his —HANNAH H., 21
and other mortified, and it eff-up and

animals and said he didn’t
their germs?’ mean it. He just
Um, getting mood. I walked out.” wanted his
G E T T Y I M A G E ( 5 ).
a little ahead —TAYLOR A., 22 mom to give him

of yourself more money.
Blocked!”
—DINA D., 32 —DANI N., 25
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TOO FUNNY!
Expectation vs. Reality

Totally Tuning out
bonding
Mother’s
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BEAUTY
Best
Longwear
Lipstick
“Possibly the
longest-lasting
lippie ever. I
applied it at 10
a.m., drank several
cups of coffee and
water, ate a salad
with oil dressing,
snacked through-
out the day, and
at 7 p.m.? The pig-
ment hadn’t faded.
Holy-grail status.”
—KATE FOSTER,
ASSOCIATE BEAUTY
EDITOR
Maybelline New York
SuperStay
Matte Ink, $9.50 each,
drugstores
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Best
Bronzer
“This ultra-fine
powder—available in
light, medium, and Best 1
deep—warms up my Sheer-Coverage
complexion in a few Foundation
swipes with a bronze “You really can’t mess
that looks natural and this up. The lightweight
luminous, exactly as the formula leaves a glowy
name promises.” finish, and the sponge
—MADDIE ABERMAN, BEAUTY
EDITOR blends it out in seconds,
2. L’Oréal Paris True Match like magic.” —PAIGE
Lumi Bronze It Bronzer, $12, STABLES, BEAUTY ASSISTANT
walmart.com 5. YSL Touche Éclat Le Cush- Best Full-Coverage Foundation
ion, $48, yslbeautyus.com
Best Mascara “It passed the greatest torture test
“Name what you look Best Blush
for in a mascara: “One little drop—I known to women—being a brides-
Length? Volume?
Definition? Zero flakes?
mean little; this ish is
pigmented—leaves
maid—staying put through an outdoor
Now look no further
because this does it all.”
my cheeks flushed and
glowing, like I just
wedding in 90-degree Arizona
—LAUREN BALSAMO, SENIOR
BEAUTY EDITOR stepped in from the
cold. And this
with zero shade. It made my skin
3. Covergirl Peacock Flare
Mascara, $8, amazon.com Minnesota girl knows
cold.” —M.A.
look so flawless, I got triple-digit
Best Strobe 6. Nars Liquid Blush in Dolce
Vita, $30, sephora.com
Likes on my Insta.” —MARTA TOPRAN, BEAUTY DIRECTOR
Stick 1. BareMinerals BarePro Performance Wear Liquid Foundation SPF 20,

“Cream highlighters or $34 each, bareminerals.com
bust! One swipe of this
reflective soft gold
creates a lit-from-within 3
2
look that doesn’t
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disrupt my foundation
underneath.” —K.F.
4. Hourglass Vanish Flash
Highlighting Stick in Cham-
pagne Flash, $42, hourglass
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Pro Picks
Lisa Eldridge,
celebrity makeup
artist (she
scan to shop works with
A-listers like Lily
Collins, Cara
Best Pencil Delevingne, and
Liner Keira Knightley)
“The soft texture was and makeup
made for smoky eyes. creative director
Just trace along lash of Lancôme
lines, and smudge
away.” —M.T.
8. Burt’s Bees Nourishing
Eyeliner in Soft Black, $10,
amazon.com
Best Corrector
“Dark circles virtually
disappear with these
camouflaging pots. I
use the light peach on 9 Best Brow Filler
my fair skin, but this pretty berry (sheer with “I love this when
deeper peach is great one swipe, bold with I can’t be both-
for medium to dark skin more) and keeps my lips ered to create a
tones.” —L.B. super soft.” —P.S. full-on brow and
9. Becca Bright Eyes Under 11. Dior Lip Glow in Berry,
Eye Brightening Corrector, $34, dior.com just want to brush
$32, beccacosmetics.com them into shape.
Best Concealer It gives them
Best Shadow “Meet the only a bit of color and
Palette concealer you’ll ever fullness.”
“Red-tone shadows are need. It’s pigmented Glossier Boy Brow, $16,
all the rage right now. enough to cover acne
IMO, this mini has the yet lightweight enough
best, most flattering to nix the dreaded
hues you’ll actually 10
want to wear. My fave
combo is Playful in my
creases and Passion on
my lids. Btw: Could the
names be more
Cosmo?!” —M.T.
10. Tarte Tartelette Flirt
Eye Shadow Palette, $23,
tartecosmetics.com
Lancôme
Grandiôse Liner, $32,
lancome-usa.com
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BEAUTY
Best Retinol
“Retinol smooths texture
and wrinkles long-term, but
it can really screw with skin
short-term. My pick helps
eliminate the fallout by
combining a time-released
retinol with hydrating
botanical extracts that
boost your skin’s ability to
retain moisture. Genius!”
—LAUREN BALSAMO,
SENIOR BEAUTY EDITOR
Revision Skincare Retinol
Complete 0.5%, $95, revision
skincare.com for retailers
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SKIN
Best Body Oil
“My 2018 #SkinGoal:
to treat my bod one-
tenth as well as I do my Best Under-Eye
face. Enter this luxe Patches 1
moisturizer. It has “These ultracooling
antioxidant green tea patches give me the
and rosemary oil to help same depuffing
boost circulation, and it benefits as the old
never feels greasy.” cold-spoon trick, minus
—MARTA TOPRAN, BEAUTY the cutlery hassle. And
DIRECTOR they give intense
2. True Botanicals Pure hydration, thanks to the
Radiance Body Oil, $48, true aloe and glycerin.”
botanicals.com 2
—MADDIE ABERMAN,
BEAUTY EDITOR
Best Bar Soap 5. Nerium International
Eye-V Moisture Boost Hydro-
“Just when I thought I’d gel Patches, $55 for 5 pairs,
never stray from the OG nerium.com
Dove Beauty Bar, the 3
brand launched this
anti-stress version, and I Best Sheet
jumped ship. It has a Mask
refreshing spalike scent, “My boyfriend and
leaves your body clean I used these on a night
but not squeaky, and in and were obsessed 4
costs less than a with the results.
coffee…for two entire Think super-glowy,
bars!” —L.B. moisturized, post-facial
3. Dove Anti-Stress Micellar skin. Definitely the
Water Beauty Bar, $3.50 for a best sheet mask I’ve
2-pack, drugstores ever used.”
—KATE FOSTER, ASSOCIATE
Best Brightener BEAUTY EDITOR
6. Neutrogena Radiance Boost
“Being Latina and a Brightening 100% Hydrogel 5
former tanaholic means Mask, $2.50, drugstores
I have a dusting of 6
freckles and sun spots.
This serum with 15% THD Best Do-It-All
ascorbate (a form of Balm
vitamin C) keeps them in “I use this on my lips,
check and makes my cuticles (I’m a biter!),
skin look brighter and and dry patches
less damaged.” —M.T. because it heals and
4. Sunday Riley C.E.O. Rapid hydrates better than
Flash Brightening Serum, $85, anything else. Bonus
sephora.com points for the piña
colada–esque, all- 7
natural scent.” —K.F.

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Best Oil
Cleanser
“This works on dry, oily, Best Neck
sensitive, and acne- Cream
prone skin.…I know “Tech neck, be gone!
because mine is all four. Soften ‘necklace
It uses omega-6 oils to lines’—a by-product of Pro Picks
8
decongest pores—oil repetitive eyes-to- Ellen Marmur, MD,
dissolves oil, ICYDK— screen movement— scan to shop dermatologist
and break down SPF with firming peptides and president
and makeup in the and tightening algae and founder of
gentlest, most effective extract.” —L.B. Marmur Medical,
way possible.” —L.B. 11. StriVectin TL Advanced
in New York City
8. Kristina Holey + Marie Tightening Neck Cream, $95
Veronique Pure + E.O. Free for 1.7 oz., amazon.com
Oil Cleanser, $40, marie
veronique.com
Best
Best Hydrating Overnight
Serum Treatment
“I dare you to dip into
“My desert-island skin this spongy gel texture
ingredient? Hyaluronic and not be amazed. Best Makeup
acid, hands down. It Unlike a normal gooey Remover
holds up to 1,000 times mask, it instantly
its weight in water, absorbs, so you wake up damia oils dis-
which means when to skin like velvet, sans
applied to damp or just- pillow stains.” —L.W.
toned skin, it gives a 12. Erno Laszlo Hydra-
glow better than Therapy Memory Sleep Mask,
highlighter and a $90, amazon.com
surface so bouncy,
wrinkles almost
disappear.” —LEAH WYAR,
CHIEF BEAUTY DIRECTOR
9. PCA Skin Hyaluronic Acid
Boosting Serum, $115,
amazon.com 12
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Best Eye
Serum
“Once again, it’s
hyaluronic acid ftw!
This minimizes lines,
dark circles, and
massage tip.” —M.A.

10. Estée Lauder Advanced
Matrix, $69, esteelauder.com
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Best
Moisturizer
“This lightweight
cream locks in
moisture and
works with any
other product.”
Skinbetter Science
Hydration Boosting
Cream, $80,
skinbetter.com
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Best Blow-Dryer
“Yes, it sped up my drying time.
Yes, the ‘volume booster’ injected
fullness. But the insanely cool
feature that makes it worth every
penny? When you put it down, it
shuts off, then turns right back on
when you pick it up again!”
—PAIGE STABLES, BEAUTY ASSISTANT
T3 Cura Luxe Hair Dryer,
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been one of the big-
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this year. The formula
gave me medium cov-
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but still looked like skin. hygge experience). Chill
And I was able to find for 60 minutes, then
my perfect color match rinse. Three to seven
with its extensive range days later, the magic
of 40 shades…a coup, as begins: insane amounts
I’m fair-skinned with yel- of peeling (we’re talk-
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Pro Filt’r Soft Matte Long- Once it’s over though,
wear Foundation, $34 each, your feet will live up to
sephora.com the product’s name.”
—LAUREN BALSAMO,
SENIOR BEAUTY EDITOR 5
Best Facial-Hair 3. Baby Foot, $25, scan to shop
Remover amazon.com
“Ten years ago, I
Best
laughed when a friend
told me she spied a few Self-Tanner “This conditioner is not
dark chin hairs. Well,
karma’s a bitch, because
“I’ve been called Casper
the Ghost more than only good for my bleached
I’ve since spotted my
own—and I’m not
I’d like to admit, so no,
self-tanner and I aren’t hair—it hydrates, softens,
willing to let them
grow long enough to
besties. But this clear
mist is another story.
and detangles—but also
wax. Enter this miracle
machine that
Spritz it on like a toner
twice a day to get a
for the environment. ‘Fast-
gently buzzes off
unwanted hair.”
gradual, natural-looking
glow that’s completely
rinse’ technology lets the
—MARTA TOPRAN, BEAUTY
DIRECTOR controllable. Don’t
forget your neck!”
formula break up into
2. Finishing Touch Flawless in
Blush, $20, amazon.com —KATE FOSTER, ASSOCIATE
BEAUTY EDITOR
many smaller molecules,
4. St. Tropez Self Tan Purity
Bronzing Water Face Mist, cutting down on shower
$30, sephora.com
time and saving water.” —P.S.
5. Love Beauty and Planet Blooming Color

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“Nothing relaxes me 6
more than my night-
time skin-care routine,
and adding this device Best
made the experience Strand Saver Best DIY Mani Hack
infinitely more Zen. The
warm vibrating set-
“I’ve seen them for your
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“If you’re a not-so-steady
ting helps melt in my
creams and oils. And
(seriously), but this is a
first: a sheet mask for
polisher, these U-shaped
when it’s time to apply
eye cream, I switch to
your hair! The genius
shower cap–like pack
stencils are a lifesaver.
the de-puffing cold set-
ting. Heaven.” —E.S.
is filled with a hydrat-
ing mask. Just twist up
The paint job on my
7. HoMedics Duo Climate Hot
and Cold Sonic Facial Wand,
your hair, slide on the
mask, and let the steam
dominant hand has
$130, homedics.com
from your hot shower never looked so clean.”
kick the formula way
Best Day into overdrive.” —M.A.
—MADDIE ABERMAN, BEAUTY EDITOR
6. Sally Hansen Big Polish Guards Cuticle
Cream 10. L’Oréal Paris EverPure Protectors, $6 for 24, drugstores
“A few months ago, I Deep Moisture Hair Sheet
Mask, $4, amazon.com
went to Olay’s beauty
lab to check out their 8
latest Whip creams, Best
developed for women Anti-Chafe
who want mega- Stick scan to shop
hydration with minimal “Bless body-acceptance
heaviness—tough to influencer turned
accomplish, especially beauty entrepreneur
with SPF. The second I Katie Sturino for bring-
swiped this across my ing taboo beauty top-
skin, I was sold: light as ics, like thigh chafing,
air yet crazy-moisturiz- to light. Before this, I
ing. I even pressed a spent years DIY’ing to
blotting paper onto my prevent chafing and
skin right after and… the ensuing rashes
zero residue!” that it would create:
—LEAH WYAR, CHIEF BEAUTY
DIRECTOR from using silicone face
8. Olay Total Effects Whip primers (expensive) to
with SPF 25, $29, amazon.com deodorant (messy) to 10
9
Spanx (constricting). A
few swipes of this toxin-
Best Beauty free formula, however,
Supplement and my thighs can
“I was skeptical about easily glide past each
ingestibles until I was other.” —M.T.
introduced to this col- 11. Megababe Thigh Rescue,
lagen peptide–infused $14, megababebeauty.com scan to shop
tea. It contains Verisol,
a special type of bovine
collagen that’s clinically
proven, when ingested,
to reduce the depth of scan to shop
crow’s-feet by 20 per-
cent in eight weeks. 11
But here’s what’s really
exciting: In one clini-
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perceived reduction
of crow’s-feet was also
20 percent. Not totally
apples to apples, but
impressive.” —L.B.
9. Reserveage Nutrition
Collagen BeauTèa in White Tea
+ Hibiscus, $24, amazon.com
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BEAUTY
Best Leave-In
Conditioner
“Hydration is key to fixing
everything: frizz,
damage, dullness, you name
it. This spray contains
three heavy hitters
(hyaluronic acid, murumuru
butter, and coconut milk)
and left my hair looking
all kinds of better for days.”
—MADDIE ABERMAN,
BEAUTY EDITOR
IGK Thirsty Girl Coconut Milk
Leave-In Conditioner, $28,
sephora.com
HAIR 1
Best
Volumizing
Spray
“I use this lightweight
spritz the same way I do
Best Repair than you can say
my favorite facial mist: Treatment
anytime, anywhere, “Healthy-looking hair is
whenever I need a little my number one beauty
bit of extra oomph.” goal. And this mask,
—LAUREN BALSAMO, SENIOR packed with keratin and
BEAUTY EDITOR nourishing oil, brings
2. Rossano Ferretti me as close as I’ll ever
Grandioso Volumising Spray, get without having to
$42, rossanoferretti.com
quit bleach.” —M.A.
5. Virtue Restorative
Treatment Mask, $28,
Best Curl virtuelabs.com
Cream
“Sticky gels used to be
my go-to for twist-outs.
They’re crazy-strong,
but the next day, I have
to explain the white 3
flakes near my roots. I’m
so glad I converted to
this hydrating cream.
The hold is softer but
gives impressive
definition without the
white residue.”
—ERIN STOVALL,
BEAUTY ASSISTANT
3. Vernon François Styling~
Cream, $25, sephora.com
on my coily hair, and

my ends get the worst
of it. A pea-size dab of
use what’s left over to

smooth down my
edges.” —E.S.
5
4. Shea Moisture Manuka
Honey & Yogurt Hydrate +
Repair Split End Balm, $10,
ulta.com 6
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Styler
“Air-dried hair doesn’t
have to look, well, air-
dried. This lightweight
mousse prevents frizz 8
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and accentuates your Lacy Redway,
natural texture for a
celeb hairstylist
hot-tool effect minus
the damage.” —M.A. (clients include
7. Healthy Sexy Hair Fresh Ashley Graham
Hair, $18, sexyhair.com and Halsey) and
Nexxus Style and
Best Scalp Trends Curator
Clarifier
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growth, deep-clean 7
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witch-hazel and tea-
tree-oil detoxifier. It scan to shop
really works!” —M.A.
8. OGX Extra Strength Best Hair Spray
Refreshing Scalp + Teatree “A staple in my kit,
Mint Scalp Treatment, $9,
ulta.com
this spray holds
every type of
style in place and
Best Wave never flakes.”
Spray Nexxus Comb Thru
“In an alternate Finishing Mist, $14,
amazon.com
three.” —L.B.
Best Oil
“I work with so
many different
hair textures,
Best Dry and this light-
Shampoo 11
“A few spritzes of this on all of them.”
post-Flywheel and no
Ouai Hair Oil, $28,
one can tell I went from theouai.com
workout to work with
sweaty hair. This new
version has a beige tint
too, which means no
telltale residue on the
back of my head.”
—MARTA TOPRAN, BEAUTY
DIRECTOR
10. Klorane Dry Shampoo
With Nettle—Natural Tint,
$20, ulta.com Cream
and a hot tool.”

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Best Everyday
Scent
“Sweet and juicy, but
not too sugary, this
blend of blackberry
1
and Bulgarian rose is
perfect for 9-to-5 and
5-to-9.”
—LEAH WYAR,
CHIEF BEAUTY DIRECTOR
2. Gucci Guilty Absolute Pour
Femme Eau de Parfum, $115
for 3 oz., Bloomingdale’s
Best Night-Out
4 Fragrance
“A dab of the orange
and vanilla blend on my
pulse points feels both
sultry and rebellious,
Best Candle and the tiny-size roller-
“Into the green scene ball fits in my clutch.”
3 like me? You’ll love that —KATE FOSTER, ASSOCIATE
BEAUTY EDITOR
this natural-scented 3. Dior Poison Girl Roller-Pearl
candle lists every single Eau de Toilette, $38, dior.com
ingredient (yay, trans-
parency!). As for the Best
scent, the frankincense Confidence
and cypress notes Booster
scream sexy night in.” “The leather and vanilla
—MARTA TOPRAN,
BEAUTY DIRECTOR mix is unique. And the
1. Goop Fragrance Edition name? Only Tom Ford
01 Church Scented Candle, could get away with it!”
$72, goop.com —ERIN STOVALL,
BEAUTY ASSISTANT
4. Tom Ford Fucking Fabu-
lous Eau de Parfum, $310 for
1.7 oz., tomford.com
6
Best Travel
Perfume
“I’ve loved this light
floral scent for years, so
having a cushion com-
5 pact version (so cool!)
I can take everywhere
is major. I apply my full-
size in the morning, slip
this into my bag, then
reapply before happy
hour.” —E.S.
5. Chanel Chance Eau Tendre
Delicate Fragrance Touch-Up,
$70, chanel.com
Best Hair Mist

“Black Opium is like a
big sexy hug. This hair-
mist version gives the
scent an even hotter
spin. With your every
FRAGRANCE
hair flip or lean-in,
they’ll get a whiff of the
sensual mix of coffee
and patchouli.” —K.F.
6. YSL Black Opium Hair Mist,
$39, yslbeautyus.com
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WEEK
Healthy, glowing BE GOOD TO

skin starts in the gut,
says Cosmo contributing
dermatologist Whitney Bowe,
MD, who is known in the skin-
YOUR GUT
Skip Processed Foods kimchi, and kombucha, helps
They slow digestion, says Dr. maintain the integrity of the gut
care world for her integrated
Bowe, and the resulting stag- lining. They also serve as natural
approach to beauty and in-depth
nation causes an overgrowth antibiotics, balance your body’s
research on the connection scan to shop of unhealthy bacteria, poten- pH, and control inflammation—
between the gut and skin tially leading to a “leaky gut.” all essential for healthy, glowing
microbiomes (aka ecosystems This condition allows inflam- skin, explains Dr. Bowe.
of living bacteria). “Patients matory bacteria to enter your
dealing with acne, rosacea,
Be Choosy About Dairy
bloodstream, creating
The Beauty Milk, especially skim, can trigger
eczema, or premature aging system-wide inflammation. In
of Dirty Skin, inflammation in the skin (like acne
can benefit from my three-week by Whitney the skin, this can manifest as
and redness) due to the proteins
plan, which introduces diet, Bowe, MD, everything from acne to
$28, amazon.com casein and whey, says Dr. Bowe,
lifestyle, and skin-care habits to eczema and even wrinkles.
who recommends almond milk
reset the gut flora and improve Eat Fermented Things or coconut milk instead. Yogurt
skin,” explains Dr. Bowe. Get Consuming probiotics (aka and many cheeses, on the other
the quickie download here, and friendly, beneficial bacteria) hand, are fermented, which may
pick up Dr. Bowe’s new book, through fermented foods and help cancel out negative effects
The Beauty of Dirty Skin, for drinks, such as sauerkraut, from the dairy, says Dr. Bowe.
healthy recipes, workout ideas,
skin-care tips, and more.
WEEK
TAKE CARE
OF YOUR BODY
AND BRAIN
Get Your
Beauty Sleep
Without at least
seven hours, you’ll
experience a disrup-
tion of your body’s
Break a Sweat natural circadian
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RMS Beauty Exercise can help rhythm, says

Probiotic Within Probiotic + reverse early signs of Dr. Bowe. This puts
Supplements— Prebiotic, $64, your hunger hor-
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Look for those with at tures within our cells making you crave the
least 10 billion CFU that contain that create energy to processed foods and
Lactobacillus and keep them function- refined carbs that
Bifidobacterium (scientific ing). And exercise you are trying to
data shows the gut boosts blood flow, avoid. It can also ele-
and skin will benefit which, over time, vate levels of the
from both). positively affects the stress hormone corti-
network of blood sol, which is linked to
vessels that support collagen breakdown
the skin, leading to a and premature aging.
healthier look.
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Incorporate several of these probiotic
picks into your routine for a major glow.
Cleanser
Thanks to a mix of
gentle clays and a pro-
biotic complex, this
wash removes oil and
impurities without
overstripping skin.
Elizabeth Arden Superstart
Probiotic Cleanser Whip to
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Mist
Spritz this on your
face, feet, armpits…
wherever! It contains
ammonia-oxidizing
WEEK bacteria, which convert
sweat components into
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for the skin.
Mother Dirt AO+ Mist, $50,
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Sheet Mask
Exfoliating can tem-
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Génifique Hydrogel Melting
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Cleanse Gently Avoid Heat

HABITS Apply a Topical
Essence
Splash this on your
face morning and night
to protect skin from
“Lay off the harsh Scientists agree that Prebiotic and/or the harmful effects of
soaps, aggressive intense heat (from, Probiotic pollution. It’s infused
scrubs, and loofahs— say, a steamy shower Both are great for with kombucha, which
anything that leaves or hot yoga) may your skin but serve helps prevent free-
skin with that squeaky destroy healthy different functions. radical damage.
clean feeling,” says microbes. Heat can Prebiotics support Fresh Black Tea Kombucha
Facial Treatment Essence,
Dr. Bowe. They com- also dry out skin, the health of your $69, fresh.com
promise your skin’s which creates a breed- microbiome by pro-
barrier and negatively ing ground for certain viding it with “food.”
impact your micro- bad bacteria, adds Probiotics help bal- Moisturizer
biome, leading to skin Dr. Bowe. Always use a ance your skin’s sur- Formulated with pre-
conditions like rosa- moisturizer after face pH (which keeps biotic water, this
cea and acne. Use a cleansing, and skip bad bacteria in check) lotion hydrates and
gentle cleanser, and heating masks and and can increase your rebalances your
limit exfoliation to just devices if you’re prone natural production of microbiome to reduce
dry, scaly skin.
once or twice a week. to dryness. ceramides (lipids that
La Roche-Posay Lipikar
prevent moisture Lotion Daily Repair, $18,
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Six reasons to try a clear-the-shoulders style
VANESSA HUDGENS
LUCY HALE
ALISON BRIE
1
It’s an easy
2
It flatters all.
update. We’re talking every face
Unlike longer styles that are shape. “I think that’s why
prone to flippy, outdated- these cuts are staying
MARGOT ROBBIE
looking ends, a cut that clears around for so long this

your shoulders prevents time,” says Ess. It can even
tips from awkwardly jutting accentuate certain features,
out, says celeb hairstylist Kris- she adds. For example, a
tin Ess. (Search her Insta midneck bob will help
elongate a rounder face,
G E T T Y I M A G E S (9).
@Kristin_Ess and the hashtag

#ClearTheShoulders for epic while a shorter cut with
haircut inspo). bangs can balance a more
narrow one.
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It’s simple to
maintain.
No time for a trim? No prob!
If you keep the initial cut
chin length or longer, the
shape will grow out nicely
into a lob (long bob) until you
can get your next appoint-
ment, advises Ess.
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It works on every
hair texture.
Seriously! Curly, straight,
wavy, whatever you’re
working with. Want proof?
Just take a look at the celeb-
spo on these pages.
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Work a small amount of Go for a texture spray—
pomade through roots, the messier this cut is, the
and rake your hair back sexier it looks.
Kristin Ess Intense for sexy straight-from- OGX Bodifying + Bamboo Fiber
Vernon François Leave~In Shine Pomade + Edge the-pool vibes. Full Sugar Cane Sugar High
Conditioner, $28, sephora.com Control, $10, Target Tousle Spray, $9, drugstores
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Have BEAUTY
Good meditation studio in NYC.

Every product in Miranda
Kerr’s line, KORA Organics,
Skin-tentions
touches rose quartz—which
is said to promote love and
acceptance—during produc-
tion. And each batch of the
Chinese medicine–inspired
brand de Mamiel is meditated
over and blended in the pres-
ence of sound vibrations. And
that’s just to name a few.
But is it all BS? Or could
an enlightened headspace
really be the key to reaching
glowy, poreless skin nirvana?
Why Woo Woo

Can Work
Before you can transcend your
complexion problems, you need
Mindfulness 101. “Mindful-
ness is being aware of or bring-
ing attention to one moment in
time, deliberately and without
judging the experience,” says
psychotherapist Patrizia Col-
lard, PhD, in The Little Book
Focus your of Mindfulness. The goal is to
mind on a switch your brain off autopilot.
flawless
“The practice creates structural
brain changes in areas deter-
mining emotional regulation
and self-awareness,” says psy-
chiatrist Howard Forman, MD.
“This not only calms you but
also increases your ability to
handle upsetting situations.”
When you’re stressed,
your brain and skin release
chemicals that activate your
A L E S S A N D R A FI O R I N I / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
immune system and cause

Despite today’s technological boom, practices that tap inflammation, says derma-
into ancient and mystical rituals are generating a ton of buzz among tologist Whitney Bowe, MD,
20somethings. The search term crystals currently has 6.8 million author of The Beauty of Dirty
tags on Instagram, saves for meditation went up 229 percent on Skin. Consciously relaxing
Pinterest in the last year, and—all in all—the mindfulness industry or practicing mindfulness
raked in more than $1 billion over each of the past two years. reduces the level of these
Given the popularity surge, it’s not surprising that beauty brands chemicals. It also lowers cor-
are out to prove that deeper inner awareness can sync up to outer tisol (a hormone that, when
radiance. Fresh’s Lotus Youth Preserve Rescue Mask launched with elevated, can induce collagen
four guided meditations by Jackie Stewart, an instructor at MNDFL breakdown and acne).
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Jordana Herschthal, MD, options, which sit on top
a Florida derm. of skin, leave a white
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LOVE
Not just
doing it
for the
’gram!
20
Showing your
percent of singles
think it’s okay to Like a
date’s post or photo
romantic interest
before the first date.
SOURCE: MATCH.COM’S 2018 SINGLES
IN AMERICA SURVEY
without looking
too thirsty is a hard bal-
ance to strike…especially on
social media. After you’ve
“researched” your new crush
online and gone on a few A F T E R T H R E E D AT E S
dates, when do you add Friend or Follow “Wait at least three dates before making
them on Snapchat? Is it cool the first move (sending a Friend request or hitting Follow), so you’re
to Like their Facebook sta- sure you like them enough to see them in your feed,” suggests Laurie
Davis Edwards, founder and CEO of eFlirt. “If you do it before this
tus? How soon can you post point, it could come off like you’re trying to dig up dirt.” (Of course, you
an Instagram pic together? can carefully backstalk them before this if their account isn’t private.)
Don’t be fooled—these
moves matter. “They’re
AFTER A
baby steps for testing WEEK
your partner’s interest in W I T H I N S E V E N D AY S
pe Watch
“Ho ees
being public and showing
affection with you,” says h s ....”
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thi
s LIKE A POST His
Stories
sociologist Lisa Wade, PhD, Once you’re in the Friend
a professor at Occiden- zone, throw them one or two Don’t
Likes that same week, says overthink
tal College and author of it! At this
American Hookup: The New Leonard Kim, personal- point,
Culture of Sex on Campus. branding and social-media watching
With that in mind, here
expert at Influence Tree. But each
if you’re scrolling way back other’s
are your (super) specific
(we all do it), be careful not to Stories on
guidelines for integrating a double-tap any photo that is Insta or
new partner into all aspects Snap is
more than a year old. It’d be totally fair
of your social-media life creepy if he hearted that pic game, so
during every phase of your of you from college in a get out the
budding relationship. bandage dress, right? popcorn!
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Post YEAR IN... TO KNOW
a Low-Key Make It Update

Photo Hint Insta- Your Status
Congrats! Now, Official There’s some-
you can upload Pull out the big thing painfully
a casual nod to guns with a 2007 about
your new sta- heartfelt cou- becoming Face-
tus, like a pic of ple’s post that book official by
you two at the your partner changing your
park or him sit- (and followers) Relationship
ting across will find super Status. Then
from you at sweet. Just again, once you
brunch…as long make sure your two are really
as you have his bond is in a serious, it may
permission. healthy, happy suddenly feel
“Some people place before not as funny.
really value “It’s a public
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you press
their privacy,” Share. Other- announcement
explains Kim. wise, you’ll be that you have
Simply ask, embarrassed if chosen each
“This photo is you break up other,” says
percent of people so good! Cool soon after, says Wade. So here’s
would Friend their S.O.’s with you if I Alysha Jeney, a golden rule:
family after post?” (C’mon, founder and When you two
becoming official. you’d also want relationship are talking
SOURCE: MATCH.COM’S 2018 SINGLES the option to therapist at engagement,
IN AMERICA SURVEY
veto.) Then, Modern Love you can let the
pair it with a Counseling in whole online
funny-cute cap- Denver. world know
tion like “I don’t who’s yours.
WITHIN TWO hate him.”
WEEKS
Slide Into AFTER ONE MONTH

His DMs
It’s cool to send
LEAVE AN EMOJI “He’s all
a direct message
in response to
his funny Snap or
COMMENT mine,
FB
“Comments are sure to be seen bitches!”
a meme that
relates to a convo
by your new boo and their
you two had friends,” says Edwards, so this
recently. But do should be a move you make after
so infrequently, you’ve established your connec-
and avoid having tion. And unless you want his
full talks in DMs Aunt Beth asking when she’s
(which are erased going to meet his “very forward
in Snapchat),
says Edwards. lady friend,” steer clear of writing
Stick to texting
to chat and .” Instead, leave a simple, sly
make plans. sentiment, like a .
I A N M A D D OX / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
He’s not watching your Stories, favoriting your tweets, or posting pics of you. WTF?!
When He’s Before you freak, remember: “Not all men are active on social media,” says Edwards. If
Just Not That his last post was from 2017, he may not be into online sharing—and that’s fine. As long as
you’re happy together in person, “your social-media connection is not a reflection of
Into You... your relationship,” says Edwards. But if you feel the need to bring it up and he stands firm
Socially yet can’t explain why he can’t be connected to you online, he may be hiding something.
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Sexually LOVE & SEX
Fluid…
While
Swiping
After a tough breakup with
her longtime boyfriend,
Natalie*, 25, joined Tinder.
She spent about a month swip-
Tinderellas
The new slang
ing through men until one for straight women
who are swiping
day, she decided to peek at on women
women. “At first, I did it to get
ideas for my profile,” she says.
“But soon, I was like, wait,
she’s cute. I wonder if....”
Lately, more and more
previously straight-identifying
millennial women seem to
be expanding their gender
preferences on dating apps—
broadening their swiping
and settings beyond just “inter-
ested in men.” (Many are even
going all the way by specifi-
cally identifying as LGBT+.
OkCupid, for one, has seen a like this: “Every time I’d swipe You’re an app. “That’s normal,” says
65 percent spike of such female right on a girl, I’d think, Do I entitled to Reynolds. “As long as you’re
explore your J E N N I F E R R O B B I N S / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M . * N A M E S H AV E B E E N C H A N G E D.
users in the past year.) want to be her, or do I want to not leading anybody on, it’s
Some women do it strictly [be with] her?” sexuality, healthy to explore online,
to size up their female competi- Still others might be but no one even if the connection never
tion or, like Natalie, to acting on a subconscious pull necessarily moves offline.”
crib ideas for their own bios. created by the current climate wants to Others, spurred by a
For others, checking out both of female bonding (as seen be your stronger curiosity, go IRL.
men and women can be a in the Time’s Up movement). experiment. After more than a year of
low-stakes, label-free pro- “A lot of us just want to feel So be clear swiping through women,
cess that allows them to dip safe right now, and two up front: Natalie asked one out—
a toe into sexual fluidity, says women can make a really “I’m new to it went well, and she now
Chelsea Reynolds, PhD, an empathetic connection,” says dating identifies as bisexual. Jenna,
assistant professor of commu- Reynolds. “Sometimes, that women.” too, went on a date with a
nications at California State connection can end up leading female match, but “it was like
University at Fullerton, whose to sexual exploration.” talking to someone at a work
research specializes in sexu- In many cases, women happy hour,” she says. “It
ality and new media. Jenna*, find that their female-specific was certainly not sexy.” She’s
27, explains her exploration attractions live and die within now dating a guy. Q
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Bad Sex
Happens.
But It In the midst of the #MeToo
movement, bad sex is making a
ton of headlines. The phrase has
become an umbrella term for
everything from a consensual-
Doesn’t
but-lackluster encounter to
borderline coercive intercourse.
Here, we’re focusing on the
former: intimacy between two
willing partners that falls short
of satisfying. Because while all
great sex must be consensual—
Have to
and include communication,
passion, and pleasure for both
parties—not all consensual sex is
great. Some is pretty damn awful,
whether it’s with a one-night
stand or a long-term lover.
It is possible to fix blah sessions
Happen
though, says Jill McDevitt, PhD,
a sexologist and sexual-wellness
coach. There is never a need
just to suffer through it, she
explains: “Always know that you
can stop and check in at any
time during sex.”
Can that feel awks? Sure, at
Again
first. But it’s well worth it to have
better sex. Follow this guide for
how to handle a lame lust life.
We have several solutions for
whatever’s amiss.
SEX
When…There’s an Unwanted Twist
“On our third date, Scott and I started talking about TAKE CHARGE HALT THE GIVE FEEDBACK
how we lost our virginities. I went first (freshman year ACTION
If he goes for Ideally, the limits
of college, nice guy, totally basic), and he told me he’d something unex- Can’t deal at all? talk should hap-
only had sex with one person, one time, about a year pected and not Sexologist pen before hop-
R U B B I E FI M M A N O/ T R U N K A R C H I V E S .
earlier. After a solid make-out session, heavy petting your style but you Megan Stubbs ping into bed, but
led to nakedness in his bedroom. He pinballed his way want to keep the suggests saying, both of you can
momentum “I’m not into that, still share your
around my hoo-ha, then finally penetrated the correct going, say: “We so if that’s what deal makers and
orifice. A few minutes of bunny humping later, he can talk about you’re looking breakers in the
politely asked, ‘Would you like me to put it in your that later, but for, it’s not hap- moment or after-
butt?’ as if he were asking, ‘May I get the door for you?’ what if we do this pening with me.” ward, says Carol
instead?” Then It’s a firm answer Queen, PhD, a
He saw my surprise and said, ‘Oh, I’m sorry. I thought guide him to your that clearly states sexologist at
women liked getting it from behind.’” —SHANNON, 31 favorite move. your case. Good Vibrations.
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SEX
You want to feel

compelled to
scream his name,
When...a Hot
not “WTF?!”
Sitch Goes Cold

“I met James on the train, and he was the hottest guy I’d ever seen. He
would always be reading the paper, so as an excuse to talk to him, I asked
him for the crossword. We started talking, and he invited me over to his
place. I was like, ‘This guy’s hot; let’s do this!’ Turns out, he did nothing
vaguely interesting for me—he didn’t even take my shirt off! There was no
foreplay, even kissing, at all. It was just so bad!” —JENNA, 31
Take Charge Halt the Action Give Feedback

Grab his hand and put If you want to remove Constructive criticism
it on a no-fail hot spot, yourself from a selfish post-romp can up the
like your breast, and shagging experience— odds that next time (if
say, “I like to be touched and do so with minimal you want one) will be
right here.” Or show drama—speak your better. “Say, ‘I liked
him how it’s done with piece clearly: “‘I was feel- when you were stroking
your own hands. This ing this earlier, but now me here,’” suggests
shifts his focus easily I’m not so into it. I had fun Queen. Then give a tip:
and effectively without tonight, but I need to “But I’m not crazy about
killing the sexy vibe. go,’” advises Stubbs. having my ass grabbed.”
WHEN...IT’S TOO TEXTBOOK

“We were well past the honeymoon phase
When... TAKE CHARGE
For minor accidents
although still very much attracted to each other, Disaster (in which no one
is hurt), humor can
when my boyfriend and I slid into a routine:
making out, a little bit of oral, then missionary Strikes ease the awkward-
ness, says McDevitt.
But if it’s major, work
until he finished. Every. Damn. Time. Part of me “After a date, John together to take the
next necessary step.
didn’t mind it because it was reliable and easy, and I ended up at
his swanky apart-
but I desperately wanted us to break out of our ment with its floor-
HALT THE ACTION
rut and try some new things.” —ANN, 29 to-ceiling windows, Clearly tell your part-
ner you need a time-
which was an out…or that you may
Take Charge Halt the Action Give Feedback empowering place require help. Later,
Prioritize your own Take a hard turn the Make a date to go to stand naked, if you think you can
climax. “If you know minute you get toy shopping recover and resume,
palms up against
it takes [XYZ] for bored. “Stopping (online or in store) McDevitt suggests
you to orgasm, and changing the together, and get a the glass, with John saying, “Now where
start with [Z] and context can make versatile third behind me. Things were we…?”
work backward,” sex more exciting,” party, such as a got downright ani-
says Stubbs. That says Queen. Say, small bullet vibe, to GIVE FEEDBACK
will give you time to “‘Hey, do you want join you in the bed-
malistic. Then he
do whatever gets to pretend that room. You can rest attempted to repo- There’s no need
you off (two-thirds we’re somebody it on your clitoris sition us by lifting to soften what
of women say cow- else?’” Try role- during doggie- you’re feeling with
me up, only to acci- a “Sorry.” Lay down
girl is an orgasmic playing as strang- style or press it
position for them), ers who just met. It against your cheek dentally drop me! your current state
then you can move may lead to new to give your guy a My head landed on with “That really
on to his finale. erotic scenarios. buzzy blow job. his radiator, and I hurt/upset me.”
Then explain what
got a concussion.” you need from
—GRACE, 27 them to feel better.
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sex How can my
partner and
I make
kissing feel
Choose-your-own-(naughty!)-answers edition
exciting
again?
1_ Have a “sex day” when all
Imagine bae's
mouth on every that’s on the menu is lots of
exposed inch. nudity and kisses all over each
other. “There’s this idea that if
something’s planned, it can’t
feel spontaneous, and that’s not
true,” says clinical sexologist
Dawn Michael, PhD.
2_ Next time your S.O. is
making coffee in the morning,
hug them from behind unex-
pectedly and start nibbling on
their ear before turning their
face toward yours.
3_ Take a detour to a secluded
spot on your drive home. Run
the tip of your tongue in a circle
around their lips before press-
ing it into their mouth.
The dude I just started

seeing says he wants
to finish on my face.
How do I respond?
1_ He probably got the idea
from watching porn, says
Michael. Bring him back to
reality by asking, “Why do you
think I would want to do that?”
2_ Say, “If there ever comes a
point when I’m interested in
that, I’ll let you know. Until
then, let’s try this.” Then steer
him in a direction you’re more
comfortable with.
3_ Shut him down with a
joke, like: “I’d prefer a more
skin-friendly facial at a salon,
thanks.” (For real, though,
his semen can sting if it gets
in your eyes.)
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SEX
What’s a fresh foreplay E-mail your Which sex positions are

sex questions
move I can try on my guy to SexQandA most like a workout?
while on vacation? @Cosmopolitan 1_ In missionary, squeeze your
.com.
1_ Take his hand at dinner and booty, and thrust your pelvis
put it under your skirt, then up in the air. This angle works
whisper in his ear all the bad, your glutes and lets you control
sensual things you want to the thrusts, says Cleman.
do to him, suggests Courtney 2_ Tone your abs during girl-
Cleman, cofounder of The on-top by hugging your mate’s
V. Club, which offers sex mas- torso tight with your knees and
Most
ter classes in New York City. swiveling your hips in a cir- wieners,
2_ While you’re making out cular motion. The closer your cut or
in the resort hot tub, take his knees, the tighter the penetra- uncut,
enjoy the
finger in your mouth and suck tion will feel. same
on it like it’s an ice pop. You’re 3_ Stand in front of your part- moves.
essentially giving him a pre- ner, and bend over so that your
view of your oral moves. hands touch the floor. (Can’t How should I treat an
3_ In your hotel room, kneel reach? Lean on a stool.) By uncircumcised penis?
in front of him, and take your supporting your own weight, 1_ It’s not that different from a
time leisurely running your your legs and arms are getting circumcised one, but it can be
tongue from the base of his a solid exercise session. more sensitive, says Cleman.
scrotum over his family jewels For a stellar HJ, put a few
and up his shaft to the very tip. Where’s a hot place to drops of lube in your hand, and
hook up that’s not the slide his foreskin up and over
I haven’t been in the bedroom? the head, then slowly pull it
mood to masturbate. 1_ Take your sexin’ to the down his shaft, exposing his
Any new erotic reads kitchen, suggests sex therapist extrasensitive tip.
that’ll inspire me? Susan Block, PhD. Turns out, 2_ During oral, slide the fore-
1_ Asarotica, edited by Asa most countertops are just the skin down, and lick his frenu-
Akira. In a series of 22 short right height for you to sit on lum, the nerve-packed ridge
stories, women test out every and get it on simultaneously. of skin that anchors the fore-
erotic and wild turn-on. 2_ Sneak into the bathroom skin to his shaft. Stimulating
2_ The Mismade Girl, by at a friend’s house party, sug- this hot spot can feel especially
Sasha Grey. After leaving a gests Block. You can bend over wowza to uncut guys.
secret sex society, Catherine the sink for standing doggie or 3_ During P-in-V sex, hop
scan to shop
meets a man who reminds her lean on it to receive oral. on top, and slowly thrust for-
of what she’s missing. Steamy Reads
3_ On a balmy night, grab a ward and backward so that his
3_ Night Shift, by Joanna Asarotica, $17, blanket, and set up under the penis glides in and out of you.
The Mismade Girl,
Angel. A you-decide-the-plot $16, Night Shift,
stars in your backyard or roof- Reentry may push back his fore-
adventure set in an adult store. $17, amazon.com top for some al fresco loving. skin, giving him all the feels.
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It’s kind of like yoga (think: deep breathing, staying centered) but way more NSFW.
WTF IS... “The only goals are to go slow, be present, and discover new paths to pleasure,”
says sex expert Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily podcast. And because it’s
Tantric not necessarily about climaxing, it can help couples deepen their bond. Try it by:
1 Pre-intercourse, syncing up your breathing with your partner’s. Working on this
Sex? together is surprisingly intimate. 2 Locking eyes. The longer you hold your stares,
the more vulnerable you’ll feel, which can lead to more playful and uninhibited sex.
3 Grinding half as fast as you normally do, so that you feel each other’s every move.

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Conjure
Up a
Super-
Steamy
Sex
Dream
The Raciest
Time of the Month
You may have spicier-
than-usual dreams when you’re
ovulating and already
feeling horny, says dream
analyst Lauri Loewenberg. You
can thank an increase in
hormones, such as
estrogen, that spike
your libido.
SEX
It’s not a fictional bedtime story—you can

experience seriously hot sex while snoozing.
We’re talking frisky fantasies and physical
feels, including—for a lucky few—actual
orgasms. Once you’ve drifted off, your mind
is still active, explains Michael Breus, PhD,
known as The Sleep Doctor. And you can train N OW
it to up your odds of having lusty reveries. T H AT ’ S A
STO RY
Here’s how to dream sexier. C LI M A X !
1 Stay Hands Off 4 Think Extra Thirty-seven

percent of
Start by stopping. Naughty women have
Masturbation, that is, for one “Most people dream about experienced
week or more. “One of the pur- whatever they’re thinking of a wet dream,
poses of these dreams is to as they fall asleep,” says Breus. or nocturnal
That Scene... orgasm,
About Your Brother be a release,” explains profes- Before you hit the sheets, write
according to
Or boss, frenemy, etc. sional dream analyst Lauri down a sultry scenario, then
Don’t freak. You don’t have a a study in The
hidden attraction to them.
Loewenberg, author of Dream visualize it as you drift off. Journal of Sex
You may simply appreciate or on It. “For example, if you quit Once you enter REM sleep— Research. Racy
want to connect with some smoking, you’re going to dream the phase in which you’re most thoughts in
qualities they possess,
says Loewenberg. about smoking because you’re likely to have vivid dreams— your sleep can
Phew! trigger a rush
trying to compensate for what your fantasy just may start
of blood flow
your body isn’t getting.” Resist- playing out. to your lady
ing the urge to pleasure your- parts, and that
self makes it more likely you’ll 5 Get Into Position can be enough
be “touched” in dreamland. Lie on your stomach. to unleash
a climax (one
People who do are more likely
so powerful,
2 Knock to have visions of being tied up it wakes you
Yourself Out or getting it on with a smokin’ up!). While
Sip some chamomile tea celeb, according to a study pub- research shows
(like Celestial Season- lished in the journal Dreaming. that dudes
tend to erupt
ings Sleepytime Tea, $3.50, Researchers say it may be due
spontaneously
celestialseasonings.com). to the pressure from lying on like this less
The herb promotes quality your erogenous zones. frequently
zzz’s, during which you’re as they age,
more likely to dream. Control the Action women are
6 the opposite:
Anyone can have a lucid
more prone
3 Sexify Your Room dream, one in which you’re aware to midnight
Sleep with your part- you’re sleeping and yet you can delights as they
ner’s T-shirt on your pillow to still manipulate the story line. It grow older.
invoke their presence. “Out- just takes practice. Set your
TENSING KR AMER /TRUNK ARCHIVE
side interference, like cer- alarm for half an hour earlier

tain scents, can bleed into the than usual and the snooze setting
dreamscape,” says Loewen- to 30 minutes. “Within that
berg. Letting porn or a sexy time, you’ll fall back asleep, but
movie play on a low volume you’re more likely to retain a bit of
while you’re dozing can have a consciousness,” says Loewen-
similar effect. berg. Enter Michael B. Jordan! Q
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Dating &
Mating With
Esther Perel
Why Seduction
Isn’t a Dirty Word
Even if he’s
romantic,
he could
still be a
cock.
Thanks to a long overdue cultural so clear. Perhaps you can’t fully decide whether
reckoning, our society is now laser- you feel flattered, offended, or both flattered and
focused on how women are treated in offended by how someone has approached you.
all aspects of life. Much has been said about In those cases, use the following guide to process
sexual harassment in the workplace, but less your emotions and proceed accordingly.
P H O T O I L LU S T R AT I O N : M AT T C H A S E . G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 2 ).
discussed is what’s appropriate outside profes-

sional settings. This has left many people con- RECOGNIZING SEDUCTION
fused about the boundaries between seduction Seduction is a beautiful form of flirtation that
and harassment on a romantic level. When it implies an appreciation and respect for you, the
comes to flirting, what’s considered an acceptable person being seduced. It can make you feel
come-on, and what’s crossing a major line? praised and enchanted, and because it hints at the
The shortest, most basic answer is this: If you possibility of a consensual relationship or sexual
feel complimented, you are being seduced. If experience, it can also rouse your imagination
you feel degraded, you are being harassed. Of about the exciting romantic potential ahead.
course, real life isn’t always so black-and-white, When acting decently, a seducer knows that
and there can be times—say, at a bar, party, or you have the power to say no to their advances at
even online—when the distinction may not feel any time, and they will respect that decision. So if
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LOVE + SEX
LOVE QUIZ
Is your
seducing
style on
1 23
If you’re flirta-
tious with some-
one and they
seem uneasy, do
you try a differ-
ent tactic?
Do you send
dating-app
matches multi-
ple messages,
even if they
haven’t yet
In your opinion,
is taking a slow
approach an out-
dated way to get
together with
someone?
If you answered If you answered
mostly yes,
moves that leave
others feeling
uncomfortable.
mostly no, then
you may be making you are respecting
other people’s
boundaries.
Continue to flirt
point or YES responded? YES
Next time, pay
closer attention. If
with romantic
prospects in ways
offensive? NO YES NO someone declines that pique both
NO
your advances, take your interests.
a hint and bow out.
If you feel complimented, you are being seduced.

If you feel degraded, you are being harassed.
someone is offering to buy you a drink or suggests The person making the advances aims to
that the two of you have dinner together some- degrade or conquer. That can leave the recipi-
time, they are aware that they may not succeed, ent feeling intimidated, threatened, trapped, or
and they won’t push you to reconsider or demean if they try to stop it, like they’ll be punished.
you if you reject them. They tried and missed, but Unlike seducers, who are pursuing a genu-
it’s not a statement about them or you. ine romantic interest, most harassers act out
In this way, seduction is like a dance. In of shame and rage that have been stored inside
order for it to be considered exciting and sexy, them, typically because they have been romanti-
both parties must be willing participants and cally or socially shut down over and over. (That’s
gradually be more and more drawn to each compounded by the fact that, for many men, the
other as they go along. fear of rejection is one of their greatest vulner-
abilities.) Although it’s not an excuse nor is it
NAVIGATING BLURRED LINES right, some will deal with this pent-up anger by
True seduction is a slow process—one that’s harassing others, especially women, as a kind of
been lost in recent years because of so-called hostile revenge. This will feel like they are sham-
Esther Perel is a sex
pickup artists who will try to lure a partner in and relationship ing you—an emotion that true seduction will
the quickest way possible. Even well-meaning therapist, New York typically never evoke.
Times best-selling
people fall into this trap, because our culture author, popular If you’re still unsure, remember this: If you
has become all about instant gratification. This TED speaker, and have to say no twice to someone who’s hitting on
the host of the
means that the romantic aspects of seduction hit podcast Where you, that’s harassment. If they don’t walk away
are often cheapened down to whether or not you Should We Begin? when you say “I’m not interested” or they send
Her latest project
score or a need-to-know-right-now game of “Is is Rekindling you messages online like “What’s wrong with
this going to lead to something or not?” Desire 2.0, an you?” if you don’t respond, that is harassment.
e-course for cou-
As a result, many women today are right- ples looking to keep
fully skeptical when they are being flirted with. their spark alive. MAKING YOUR DECISION
Learn more at
This newer, sped-up seduction can leave them EstherPerel.com If you’re comfortable or excited about a person’s
uncomfortable with the way they are being pur- or by following advances, you can flirt back and see where it goes.
@Esther
sued, and they might question whether they are, PerelOfficial But if you’re troubled in any way, you can respond
in fact, being seduced...or harassed. on Instagram. with “Leave me alone” or physically step away. If
you worry that may incite anger or a dangerous
SPOTTING HARASSMENT situation, try “Thanks, but I’m not interested,”
At its core, harassment is about power. It’s a which may prompt the harasser to retreat with
form of erotic sadism that’s deliberately their ego intact. That may sound controversial,
orchestrated, objectifying, and unrelenting. but it may also keep you safe. ■
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all about
men Boxers
and Shirtless
It’s a good bet that
comfort is key for him.
With that priority,
he’s likely a solid, down-to-
earth type who loves
Decode snuggling more than
showing off.
His
Bedtime
Attire
Whether a guy hits the
sheets in his b-day suit
or rocks head-to-toe
jammies, his bedroom
style offers hints about
his personality.
Full-On
Pj’s
Unless it’s freezing,
covering up signals a guy
who might be a bit shy. G U Y TA K I N G O F F S H I R T: S I M O N 1 7 1 / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M . D U M B B E L L ,
Aww. You may have to lure
him out of his shell by
helping to peel off his
layers.
Naked
He may be a chill
type, since colder
temps mean better sleep.
K ARDASHIAN, ROBB: GET T Y IMAGES.
Also, according to clinical

psychologist Samantha Briefs and
Rodman, PhD, “sleeping Tank Top
nude suggests he’s This dude is proud
confident.” of his body and wants to
be admired in the
bedroom, suggests
Rodman. Let him
know you enjoy
the view.
THE LOVE COACH
M AT T H E W H U S S E Y
1 2 3 4
Men on
Make
Conversation
Suggest a
“Date
Give Him an
Early
Defer the
After-Hours Oral
With Other Interlude” Compliment Drink A study from
People Yes, you want him Dates can feel like Finish on a high, dating site
It’s sexy for a man to have a plan. But a poker game with and leave him
to see a woman be
Victoria Milan
you can also each player wanting more.
charming with mention the taco waiting to show Politely decline
gets guys’ views.
others. Important: place that he has their hand. the “one last
Do this mostly to try. Guys like to Instead, give him a cocktail” offer, but
with other lead, but it’s fun compliment ASAP, arrange the next
women or it
might come
off as
flirting.
when you can help
cocreate the date.
It says that you are
like how great his
shirt looks, to
foster an instant
meet-up. This will
keep the flame
burning till he sees
94%
of men are big
a good teammate. sense of comfort. you again. fans of
receiving oral
What are some phrases that make a man fall for you? Get Matt’s pleasure.
attraction cheat sheet at 5Compliments.com/Cosmo.
%
85
of men say they
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has a place in
every bedroom.
72%
of men say
they enjoy
performing
oral sex.
PERCENT OF
MEN ARE IN
FAVOR OF
FLIRTING AT
THE GYM.
HE’S NOT
THERE JUST
TO GET
#SWOLL.
SOURCE: MYPROTEIN SURVEY
Would He IRL
Rather… “Hook up “Meeting “I’m obsessed

Meet His with one of AnnaSophia Robb with Kim
Celeb Crush my crushes. would be cool, but Kardashian, and
Meeting meeting my real I bet she’d invite
or Hook Up celebrities can me to meet
With His IRL be awkward.” the fam too.”
Crush? —ZACHARY S., 19 —JOHN M., 21
By Taylor Andrews and Danielle Kam

LOVE
Ask Him Anything

Love advice from our guy guru, Logan Hill
Are dudes constantly

afraid of getting a boner
at random times? And
I went on a few how do they cover it up?
A_ Once a guy pops a tent in
dates with a really his pants, it can, indeed, be very
hard to make it go away, and
sweet guy, but I’m thinking about it almost always
makes it worse. Teenagers,
just not feeling especially (with their revved-up
hormones), live in mortal fear
him. Is it okay to let that their penises will betray
them. To guard against this,
him down via text? we’ve developed several stealth
tricks: The Stay Sitting as Long
as Possible, The Cross Your Legs,
The Place Object on Lap, or The
Quick Reach In and Flip It Up
So That It’s At Least Parallel to
Your Zipper. There are many
more methods, but I can’t give
away all our secrets, can I?
I have a blind date later

tonight, and I’m freaking
out! What thoughts run
through a guy’s head My man never, ever
before going on one? cries. Is that normal?
A_ Sure, some men will only A_ The guy who never cries is a
wonder if their dates are going to cliché for a reason. Plenty of men
be as hot as they are imagining still view their own waterworks
“That was fun, (and if they’re d-bags, whether as a sign of weakness, so they
F R O M L E F T: S T O C K S Y; J E N N I F E R L I V I N G S T O N / T R U N K A R C H I V E .
but I’m good...

kthanksbye!” or not they’ll get laid). But most fight the urge to break down.
of us have the same freak-out as Others are accustomed to
you do. We get nervous, anxious, taking on the role of fixers and
A_ Just so you know, after a few months, most excited, and insecure. We over- problem solvers, so they turn off
men prefer a face-to-face breakup. But after think things, try on five nearly their emotions when a crisis
a few dates, a text is fine. To say buh-bye, be identical shirts, take twice as long hits. If this bothers you, remem-
kind, clear, and brief: “You’re a nice guy, but to shave, pump ourselves up with ber that shedding tears isn’t the
I just don’t think we’re the best match. Take our favorite playlists, and try to only way to express feelings.
care.” And no, this is not the time to add an remind ourselves of two things: Some people just process and
emoji or GIF to lighten the blow. A won’t (1) Even if the date is a dud, that’s show theirs differently. Tears or
make him feel better about being dumped, and okay, and (2) if she does end up not, it’s much more important
it may even lead him to think that you never being the right woman, all this that your guy can talk honestly
took him seriously in the first place. awkwardness will be worth it. with you about how he feels.
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“When it’s just
the two of us,
he’s the life of
the party.”
I’m so into one of my ex’s I’ve been seeing my BF My husband struggles

best friends, but he for two months now, and with social anxiety. I
seems oblivious. What his parents will be in don’t want to pressure
will make it more clear? town this weekend. Is it him into going out...but
A_ He might not be as oblivi- too soon to ask if I can I also kinda do! What
ous as you think. If he’s obeying meet them? may convince him?
bro code, he considers you off- A_ No…but it’s also okay for A_ Make things as easy as
limits because his buddy would him to say, “Not yet.” He should possible for the hubs. Organize
feel betrayed if he gave in to understand it’s a reasonable some small group hangs so that
your flirty advances. Or it’s question for you to have. But he can connect with a couple
possible he thinks you’re only Logan Hill has don’t take it personally if he of your friends. That way, he’ll
dated around,
hitting on him to play games hooked up, grown
would rather wait longer to always know someone other
with your ex (which he smartly up, screwed up, intro you to Mom and Pops. than you when you want to roll
and settled down,
won’t entertain). If I were you, so he knows what
After all, this meeting is a big on through to an office party,
I’d think twice about continu- he’s talking deal for most men too! Our par- a karaoke night, or a late-night
about. See more
ing to pursue him. The risk of his insightful
ents get just as overprotective rager. If he sincerely can’t bring
factor for drama and ruining answers to your of us. Your guy may want to wait himself to go out, don’t let that
love dilemmas at
a male friendship is very high Cosmopolitan
until your relationship is on stop you. Couples don’t have to
here. And you don’t want that. .com. more solid ground. do everything together. Q
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Dating
Dictionary
Caspering Daterview
\ kas· per·ing\ n \ dat· er· vyü \ n
A friendlier—if A date that feels
still frustrating— less butterfly
inducing and more
like you should
again, but they usually reply have brought your
very nicely to your texts. résumé. You’re bar-
raged with a line
of questions about
Catch and school, work,
Release family, where you
\ kach and grew up, etc.
ri· les\ vb
When someone
puts all their effort
into pursuing you \ lov· bäm·ing\ n
until they “catch”
you. But as soon as
When someone
you finally agree drops over-the-
to a date, they lose
interest in favor of
top affection and
a new target. gifts on you dur-
ing the beginning
Cushioning of the relationship
\ ku· shon·ing\ n
When you keep flirting with a
as an attempt to
few “cushions” (other prospects)
An extremely powerful force that can
build trust…but
just in case your current rela-
tionship implodes and make a woman become so preoccupied also to establish an
you need some- with the guy she’s hooking up with that
she loses sight of her own identity and
unhealthy level of
one to soften the
fall—fast. disappears on all her friends. control over you
for the long haul.
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LOVE
\ mon· ke· ing\ n

Hopping from
one relationship to
the next without a
break in between,
like a primate
swinging from
branch to branch
with no intention
of slowing down.
Nonversation
\ nän· ver· sa· shun\ n
Uninspired banter or small
talk with a dating-app
\ th rst trap\ n
match that pretty much
A sexy selfie posted on social media
goes nowhere, doesn’t really
that is seemingly about one thing
appeal to either party, and
(“Obsessed with my new top!”) but is
fails to encourage a date.
really for potential suitors to check out
G O L D FI S H A N D LO V E B O M B : A L A M Y. G H O S T C AT: M E L A N I E D E FA Z I O/ S T O C K S Y. A L L O T H E R S : G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 7 ).
your hot bod and give you tons of Likes.

Peacocking
\ pe· käk·ing\ n
Matrimania Dressing up in
\ ma· tr i·ma· ne· a\ n order to gain
attention—the
way peacocks dis-
play their feath-
ers. Can also refer
to a dude doing a
good deed only to
to find The One). impress you. Zombieing
\ zäm· be·ing\ n
The attempt to
come back into an
\ sub·ing\ n ex’s life after suc-
Short for subtweeting, cessfully ghosting
or indirectly referencing a out of the relation-
love interest in a tweet, ship months prior.
FB post, or Instagram The most common
caption without ever men- method is sending a
tioning their name. random “Heyy” text.
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Owning
Your Feels
Makes You
Happier
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1
Expand
Your Vocab
“If you don’t know what emotion
you’re dealing with, you can’t
You know stress. (Who constructively express it,” says
doesn’t?) You also know it’ll Tony Ferretti, PhD, a licensed
probably pass, right after psychologist in Melbourne,
you meet that looming Florida. To that end, write down
deadline. Except it doesn’t five positive feelings (e.g., excite-
always fade, and you ment, joy, passion, satisfaction,
hope) and five negative ones
remain tense and clenched. (anxiety, fear, guilt, anger,
Why? Maybe because frustration) on index cards. Jot
you’re not actually stressed. the actual definitions on the
Turns out, big, well-known back, and feel zero shame if you
emotions can disguise a have to consult a dictionary.
host of more nuanced feels. Each day, choose one card and
try to notice when you or some-
Stuff like stress can be one else is experiencing that
just the tip of an emotional sensation. Chances are, it will
iceberg. There’s often crop up—we all experience
a whole lot more going on 10 to 15 emotions per day, says
down below. For example, Ferretti. Be aware of how vari-
perhaps it wasn’t that dead- ous feelings affect your own
bod: Are you sweating? Do you
line frazzling you. It was the feel buoyant? Keep it up until
fact that your boss always you can ID your emotions as
subtly undermines you. soon as they surface. instead, sit with it for a second.
Research shows, acknowl- “Consciously feeling your emo-
edging and addressing
these buried feelings can 2 tions helps you move through
them faster,” says sociologist
lead to “better psychologi-
cal health, career success,
and meaning in life,” says
Look Closer
Now that you have more words
Christine Carter, PhD, author
of The Sweet Spot. “When you
deny or repress them, you are
actually amplifying them.”
psychologist Susan David, to work with, the next time you
PhD, author of Emotional feel a really intense emotion,
Agility. (People who don’t try to unpack it, says David. 3
Connect
What’s beneath this feel? Can
do so are at greater risk for you name two other emotions
mental-health woes like you’re also sensing? Say you’re
anxiety and depression.)
Your Feels
mad that boo waits two hours
Ready to dig deep and to text you back. A little more
reap major benefits? investigating might reveal
Welcome to Cosmo’s crash that you’re anxious about the Most emotions are trying to tell
strength of your bond after you something, says David. To
course on tapping into your
S T O C K S Y.
being burned by your last BF. figure out what, try linking the
feels. It’s time to get all emo! Don’t talk yourself out of this— feeling to your personal values.
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For example, if you feel nag-
ging guilt, it could be that deep
down you know you’re
not being present for your mom
during a health scare, yet family
is super important to you.
Recognizing emotions and the
data they contain will help you
take appropriate action.
4
Express
Yo’self
When your feelings involve other
people, let them know “assert-
ively, directly, and honestly,” says
Ferretti (if you’re afraid of how
You think you’re someone will react, you can spill
Stressed your guts in a letter). This might
but you could be…
mean apologizing to bae
for being MIA, then booking a
OV E R W H E L M E D ANXIOUS
Stress comes While stress romantic trip. Or admitting
from a lack of is about the here you’ve been jealous of his work
resources and now, anxiety wife and that it makes you feel
(like time, money, is usually future- insecure when he texts with her
etc.). Being focused. Setting
overwhelmed aside 15 minutes on the weekends. Or letting your
means it’s time each night for manager know that you could
to start saying “worry time” can use a new challenge at work,
no to things. help decrease it.
then volunteering for a big long-
term project. “Emotions connect
THE NAME GAME people,” says Ferretti. “If you’re
Three emotions You think you’re
not sharing yours, you’re not
you may be Angry going to have much of a connec-
getting wrong but you could be… tion with others.”
If the issue is more personal—
A N N OY E D F R U S T R AT E D
maybe you’re mad at yourself
You think you’re for procrastinating on that
This is a milder Anger is an
Ashamed emotion with intense response, novel you’ve always wanted to
but you could be… a simpler solve. usually to write—your best release will
Instead of a perceived
lashing out, leave injustice. come from dishing to a close
G U I LT Y H U M I L I AT E D
the sitch. It Frustration friend or noting your frustra-
Shame is about Humiliation
your fundamental stems from may be your is more tions in your journal.
self-worth, feeling lousy ’tude that needs about hitting Of course, not every emotion
while guilt is about yourself adjusting. a roadblock.
has an easy solve. Getting over
about something because you
you did. Erase it think others are trauma or major grief, for
by saying judging you. example, may require extra help
sorry and making Use positive self- from a therapist, who can
amends. talk to let it go. provide effective coping strate-
SOURCE: ROBIN STERN, PHD, ASSOCIATE DIRECTOR
OF THE YALE CENTER FOR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE gies, says Ferretti. Q
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Too tough at first?
Try hinging with your
arms at your sides.
Either way, keep your
body in a straight
line from head to knees
the entire time.
SNAP NOW,
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SWEAT
LATER!
Take a pic
of this move
to bring to
the gym.
Hinges
Tone your thighs and tighten your Kneel with Hinging from Pause, then That’s one
core with this looks-so-easy, burns- your knees your knees, bring your rep. Do three
so-hard move from Insta star directly below slowly lean arms back in sets of 12 to 15
KELSEY WELLS (@KelseyWells), your hips, back until your front of your reps, three
creator of the total-body and put your shoulders are chest, and times a week.
PWR program on the Sweat app. arms straight directly above slowly raise
out in front your heels. your upper
of you. Drive As you lean, body to
your shoulder open your arms the starting
blades down wide, keeping position.
and back. them at shoul-
der height.
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health
THE CURE FOR
A Food Coma
THE NUMBER OF
MINUTES YOU HAVE
TO EXERCISE A DAY
The Physician The Dietitian The Ayurveda TO STIMULATE
“Eating a major high- “Walk it off. Light Expert
carb, high-sugar movement is your “Chew on 10 to 15 PARTS OF THE
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down what you ate, smoothly.” in a pan over medium
fast-tracking your - heat for two
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minutes, stirring
you won’t feel Academy of Nutrition occasionally—they
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Motility Disorders and Carlsbad, California
Integrative Health
By Caitlin Carlson
Q I know I should pee Q My yoga teacher says I
after sex. What about after shouldn’t do a headstand
masturbating? while on my period. Why?
A_ In theory, if there is any bacteria A_ Some yogis believe that upside-
around your rectum, it can travel via a down poses disrupt the natural expulsion
sex toy or your hands to your urethra, of blood out of your uterus. But the
where it may trigger a urinary tract infec- flow during the typical period is minimal
tion. That said, there is no conclusive link enough that brief inversions won’t dis-
between UTIs and masturbation with or rupt anything. And in general, there
without toys. But it still doesn’t hurt to is no medical evidence that headstands
shower before solo time to minimize the cause any sort of period irregularities.
amount of bacteria on your body and to SOURCE: JENNIFER ASHTON, MD, OB-GYN AND ABC NEWS
CHIEF WOMEN’S HEALTH CORRESPONDENT
pee when you’re finished.
Healthy Obsession
Remember when your Fitbit’s coolest
skill was counting steps? LOL. This
new version plays music phone-free,
replies to texts, guides you through work-
outs, and tracks your PMS symptoms.
Fitbit Versa, $200, fitbit.com
PILL: GALLERY STOCK. WOMEN WITH PIZZ A: GET T Y IMAGES.
HOW BAD IS IT? During the FDA’s approval process, manufacturers only have to prove that drugs
are potent for up to three years—so no one has really studied how long they last
Popping beyond that, says pharmacist Lee Cantrell, director of the California Poison Con-
trol System, in San Diego. Don’t take chances with old prescription meds (like
Expired antibiotics) that are vital to your well-being. “If they are even just a fraction less
Meds effective, it could lead to serious health issues,” says Cantrell. Outdated over-the-
counter meds may work, but we need more research to determine which ones
and for how long. In the meantime, just spring for a new bottle.
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Live Don’t
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WELLNESS
Yummy
Yogurt
Impostors
“Eating more plant-
based foods is good
for your health and
the environment,”
says Mia Syn, RDN,
a nutritionist in
Charleston, South
Carolina. It’s also
hella trendy, thanks
to the still-soaring
popularity of
veganism and
a slew of inventive
dairy-free offerings.
Enter: new
“yogurts” that are
great for people
who can’t deal with
lactose (a sensitivity
or intolerance can
strike at any point
in your life and can
cause bloating and
bellyaches). Plus, BASE BASE BASE BASE
they’re just damn
delicious. These Soy Pili Nuts Cashews Coconut
four varieties taste Organic soy
milk makes for a
They grow in
volcanic soil
Vegans and Paleo
fans have used
Its tropical taste
will help you power
convincingly close smooth, protein- and deliver a cashews as a dairy through your
T R AV I S R AT H B O N E / T R U N K A R C H I V E .
to the real thing. packed cup that’s

then loaded up
soft, buttery
taste when
alternative forever.
The nuts act as a
3 p.m. slump.
Bonus: crunchy
with fruit. Tasty blended. This creamy foundation toppings (graham
flavors include brand’s flavored in this sweet yog, streusel, toasted
blueberry and pili yogurts are available in seven coconut). Check
raspberry. created with real- flavors. Forager out all four flavors.
Stonyfield Organic deal fruit. Lavva Project Dairy-Free Daiya Duets in
Dairy Free Yogurt Plant-Based Yogurt Cashewgurt in Key Lime Crumble,
in Blueberry, $1.20, in Pineapple, $2.50, Vanilla Bean, $2, $2.50, Whole
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The WELLNESS
Before- totally happy until you’ve achieved

an “after” body, says Michelle May,
MD, author of Eat What You Love,
Love What You Eat. “This could
and-After
make you prioritize exercise over
other important life stuff, like
socializing or taking vacations.”
Things can also backfire when
viewers start working out but
Trap
don’t see results quickly.
Anna Victoria, a certified
trainer with 1.3 million Instagram
followers, often shares before-
and-after shots as a way to honor
women who’ve found success
through her programs. “People
tell me all the time this helps them
Ever searched for #Fitspo on keep up their healthy lifestyle,” she
your socials, hoping to score a hit says. Still, she acknowledges the
of workout motivation...only to find posts might prompt some viewers
yourself sucked into a black hole of to make unhealthy body compari-
before-and-after posts? Same. sons. To minimize that, Victoria
Although it seems like they’re says she uploads photos of people
suddenly everywhere, transforma- who are three months (or more)
tion photos aren’t exactly new— into a routine and are usually smil-
brands were using them to sell diets ing in both pics. She also makes a
and workouts decades before “fitflu- point of including specifics on the
encer” became a legit career. Lately, mental and emotional benefits of
however, modern versions have exercise in her captions. “I reiterate
become ubiquitous on social media, that everyone’s starting point is dif-
as fitness stars blast them out to ferent and you can’t compare your-
their millions of followers. self to anyone else,” she says.
And experts have begun to inves- That’s helpful for some, says
tigate how this fitspiration impacts Warren, but not all. “The images
viewers—with some troubling themselves can still be triggering
results. While before-and-after pics for certain people,” she says. If you
might inspire sweat sessions, they find yourself constantly judging
can also spur mental-health issues, your bod based on Insta photos, it’s
according to a recent Journal of time to unfollow, advises Victoria,
Health Psychology study. and focus on how you can safely
“When you’re exposed to images embrace your fitness goals. Q
of women who transformed their
bodies, you might evaluate those
bodies against yours,” says clinical
psychologist Cortney Warren, PhD,
author of Lies We Tell Ourselves. And
if you determine that your body is
more “before” than “after,” that can
chip away at your self-worth. For
those whose self-esteem is already
G E T T Y I M A G E S (1 2 ).
shaky, this could even ignite an eat-

ing or exercise disorder, says Warren.
What’s more, these photos may
send a message that you won’t be
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Cute baby,
unnecessary
scar?
Gyno Report
Why
C-Section
Rates
Are Crazy
High
The average American woman has In plenty of cases, the operation is
her first kid at age 26, and 1 in 3 of life-saving—like when the baby is facing bot-
those infants currently emerges not tom first or the mom has a condition that
from the birth canal but from a lower abdomi- makes labor dangerous. But research suggests
nal incision. This procedure, called a cesar- that nearly half of all C-sections are medically
ean, or C-section, is now the most common unnecessary. “The consensus is that we are
operation in the country. More than 1.2 million doing too many,” says ob-gyn and Cosmo con-
babies were born via the surgery in 2016 alone, tributor Jennifer Ashton, MD. Adds Neel Shah,
according to the CDC. MD, an assistant professor of obstetrics and
Maybe that’s why people tend to think of gynecology at Harvard Medical School and
Cs as no big deal—despite the fact they are director of the Delivery Decisions Initiative at
actually a major operation that requires a Ariadne Labs: “The majority of healthy women
sharp knife through the belly, a slicing of the should be able to have vaginal deliveries.”
uterus, and some rearranging of organs. (Actor Which is why the statistics are especially
Dax Shepard memorably compared wife startling: C-section rates have jumped nearly
Kristen Bell’s C-section to getting “completely 500 percent in this country since 1970—and
disassembled....Your liver’s out, I think. And... Cs could comprise a whopping 56 percent of
definitely your intestines.”) births by 2020, according to one study.
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WELLNESS
How to Sometimes,
the surgery is
Talk to your doc.
As soon as you
Research your
local hospitals.
Stay healthy.
One 2017 study
Bring a coach.
If you’re worried
Reduce necessary and know you’re preg- Websites like found that a you won’t be able
unavoidable. nant, ask about LeapfrogGroup.org healthy diet and to advocate for
Your But you can his or her C-section track C-section moderate exercise yourself, hire a
Risk increase your
chances of
rate and overall
philosophy. If
rates at various
facilities, but you
during pregnancy
lowered women’s
doula (aka a birth
coach), bring your
having a vaginal it doesn’t gel with can also just call odds of ending up mom or best pal,
delivery by yours, find a new and request the with a cesarean. or prep your part-
taking these physician. information. ner to speak up for
steps. you during labor.
NOT-SO-ROUTINE PROCEDURE investigated why the greatest C predictor is not

Like any surgery, C-sections carry risks like a woman’s medical status, age, doctor, or the
hemorrhage and infection, two leading causes baby’s health, but which labor ward she ends up
of maternal death in the U.S. Nearly 90 percent in. One reason: In hospitals lacking extra labor
of women who have had one C will have another rooms and enough nurses, staff may be more
in future deliveries, and each time that scar gets likely to perform C-sections during high-traffic
reopened, the risk of complications increases. times. Communication—or lack thereof—is also
Particularly scary is placenta accreta, which an issue. When things get busy or fraught (as they
can occur when the placenta (which feeds the often do when intense labor is involved), doctors,
fetus) attaches to the C-section scar, threaten- nurses, and moms might not really talk to one
ing massive hemorrhaging. “This has become another. (Cramped hospital rooms or strained
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1,200 percent more common in a generation,” staff could exacerbate this, says Dr. Shah.)
says Dr. Shah, “and it’s entirely due to C-sections.” Ironically, tech that has made births safer for
some may be fast-tracking C-sections for others.
A SURPRISING CULPRIT Innovations like fetal heart monitors, for exam-
It’d be easy to blame overeager ob-gyns, who, The percentage ple, have made it easier for staffers to stay glued
wanting to move things along, default to the of U.S. babies to screens. “If patients’ information is on moni-
delivered
speedier process. (Including labor, vaginal births by C-section. tors, that means nurses are typically not as pres-
can last days, while the typical C-section takes The World ent at their bedside,” explains Ginger Breedlove,
about an hour and can be scheduled in advance.) Health PhD, former president of the American College
That may be true for some docs, but there are Organization of Nurse-Midwives. And when those sometimes
myriad other factors at play, including the obe- says a rate imprecise monitors show a potential problem, a
of 10 to 15
sity epidemic and ob-gyns’ fear of being sued. percent would C may seem like the easiest solution.
Indeed, many physicians consider Cs the safer be ideal.
option, since the procedure bypasses the complex SOURCES: CDC AND WHO THE WAY FORWARD
variables (contractions, pelvic bones) involved in This year, Dr. Shah is testing new “dashboards”
vaginal births. “In our specialty, we’ve become in delivery rooms that clearly track a woman’s
less tolerant of any risk,” says ob-gyn Anastasia labor progress. The goal is to help patients under-
Koniaris, MD, of North Shore Physicians Group. stand what’s happening so they can voice their
But avoiding risk in the moment may mean intro- wishes and to encourage shared decision making.
ducing new risks later on. Dr. Shah is also creating clearer guidance about
Nonetheless, new research shows the biggest when an operation should be considered.
factor is not who delivers your baby but where In the meantime, there are still certain things
you give birth: Hospital C-section rates vary women can do to help get the birth they want
GET T Y IMAGES.
wildly—from 7 to 70 percent—even within the (see sidebar, above). Says Dr. Shah: “Women
same city. In a study published in Obstetrics and should feel they have both permission and
Gynecology, Dr. Shah and his co-researchers opportunities to ask for the care they deserve.” Q
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Picture this:
actually
having time
to work out.
The
Surprising
“Sway”
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to Achieve
Balance
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WORK + PLAY
Look, it happens to the best of us: the late- Luis Obispo. “These too-
high standards mean you’ll
night birthday party that ends a little too close be doing a lot of ‘should-
to early-morning coffee with your boss, the ing.’” As in: I should per-
form perfectly at work.
last-minute project that keeps you at work well I should be the perfect best
into dinner plans with your squad. friend. I should exercise
every day. Sound familiar?
The truth is that very
few people can “have it all”
in this way. For everyone
else, it’s time to stop stress-
ing and start swaying.
The term means shift-
ing your priorities in a
new, not-always-even
way—swinging back and
forth between your work
and nonwork lives over
longer periods of time
rather than trying to bring
them into daily harmony,
says Jeanne Thompson,
head of workplace solutions
thought leadership
at Fidelity Investments.
So, for example, you
might spend two weeks
hyper-focused on a work
deadline, all but ignoring
everything else. The next
week, you’re on a beach
vacay—sans work e-mail—
or you put in less effort
on the job so you can
plan your parents’ surprise
anniversary party.
Swaying lets you
primarily devote attention
and energy to one thing at
one time, making you more
capable of pouring yourself
B I N D E R S : G E T T Y I M A G E S . H A N D S : A L L I E H O L LO WAY.
into what you’re doing in

Yes, you can
get this all the moment. “You’re adjust-
done, guilt-free. ing your focus to help you
cope emotionally with the
stressful demands of your
life,” says Burn. So how do
Sometimes (all the times?), it feels impossible to achieve that much-hyped but ever- you actually sway between
elusive goal: work-life balance. That’s because it is. Giving a hundred percent on and work, friends, family, and
off the job every day just isn’t realistic or even feasible. Yet women in particular are a world’s worth of poten-
sold the idea that they need to find this professional-personal nirvana, says Shawn tial dating-app matches?
Burn, PhD, a psychology professor at California Polytechnic State University at San Follow this advice.
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1 2 3
How to Say
Study the Plan Sway No to Pals
or Peers
Big Pic Ahead Together Who Harsh
You know that dream of A few years ago, Hailey, “Many people who have Your Sway
getting to work at 9 and 33, a senior project man- problems managing their
Carrie Kerpen,
clocking out at 5? Yeah, not ager in Boston, decided priorities don’t like asking CEO of Likeable
always gonna happen. So she was ready for a serious for help,” says Burn. “They Media and
stop wishing for it day to relationship. But she knew feel like they should be able author of
day. Instead, expand your one wasn’t possible if she to do it all.” But swaying Work It, has
your script.
outlook: How much time didn’t carve out time from works best when you call
have you spent at work and her demanding job. So for an assist. Take Ali, 28, Be clear
at play in the past week, she started to sway. In the who works in public rela- about
month, or even year? Iden- beginning of the week, she tions in Milwaukee. She your main
tify patterns, and try would dedicate a few days attended eight weddings priorities.
“Sorry, I’m mak-
to anticipate them for the to staying late at work and last year and needed
ing a point to
next year. For example, finishing up hefty assign- colleagues to cover for her do more [XYZ]
know that when you’re ments. Then she’d take when she was out of town. this year.”
swamped at work around one night at week’s end to Months before each shin-
Memorial Day, your love date. “I couldn’t spend a dig, she asked politely Use “I don’t”
or “I’m not”
life—and gym routine, and lot of time dating because and offered to do the same
rather than
BFF hangs—may take a of my job, but I planned for them. It worked, allow- “I can’t” to
major hit. And that’s okay, ahead so I could make it ing her to be present for avoid wiggle
says Thompson, as long as work,” says Hailey. She her loved ones. If your room.
in July, you prioritize dat- also blocked off extra time peers aren’t as accommo- “I don’t skip
my family
ing and sweating with your elsewhere to catch up on dating, be clear about your
dinners.”
pals. Moving forward, at whatever she missed at the commitments (and your
the end of each month, see office when she left early to intention to sway) with Set boundar-
where you might need to meet a romantic prospect. your boss, says manage- ies within
sway. Ask yourself, Did “It made it really easy,” she ment consultant Christie your calendar.
“I’m already
I work enough hours? Did says. She excelled at her job Lindor. “This differenti-
maxed out this
I see my siblings? Maybe and found love. She’s now ates you as someone who week. How
you made bank, but you been boo-ed up for more can make decisions from about next
missed your fam. than two years. a place of strength.” Q Thursday?”
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How to WORK
Strip
Naked... It’s so
hard…
for me to
save.
I can’t wait to
show you my…
Here’s the thing: Knowing about your

partner’s fiscal situation can actually boost
credit your bond. In fact, the more often couples
score. discuss it, the happier they tend to be together,
according to a 2016 TD Bank survey.
The key is to hash things out before the
You’ve seen parts of each other you relationship gets super serious—as in, when
wouldn’t reveal to anyone else. You’ve “gone you’re just becoming an exclusive couple, before
all the way” on just about every emotional and you decide to move in together, and definitely
physical level. But there’s one thing you and prior to tying the knot. Otherwise, you both
your boo may not have done yet: speak honestly run the risk of discovering eek-worthy things
and openly about your finances. belatedly, says Amanda Clayman, a financial
Fewer than half of Americans say they’re therapist in Los Angeles—like, say, his $50,000
comfortable sharing personal money issues or online-poker debt or the fact that your mom
problems with their significant other, while still supplements your rent. And that can lead
68 percent of people in relationships report to anger, frustration, or resentment.
that convos about dinero cause more tension Done right, exploring each other’s assets
GET T Y IMAGES.
than even those about sex, according to a recent can be a productive (dare we say, stimulating?)
survey from the financial-planning platform experience. Read on for how to bare your dollars-
LearnVest. Ugh, so awkward! and-cents status.
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WORK
Set the Mood

Send a text that’s playful but has
a specific ask: “Hey, you. I’ve been
thinking about my moolah, and Heat Up Your $ Sitch
I’d love to chat with you about it.”
Enlist Help Save Better
Remember that even though this Need a hand Many banks allow
might be an initial, quick convo, you creating a realistic you to rename
should still pick a night when you joint budget? Try your accounts. Do
don’t have anything else going on. apps such as so, because
Honeydue or “3823409125”
Meet up at one of your go-to places,
Honeyfi. They isn’t exactly
so you can have maximum privacy. can help you keep inspiring, but
track of shared “Paris Trip, August
Come Prepared and individual 2019” reminds you
Think ahead about the topics you accounts, why you’re saving
coordinate bills, and reduces
want to cover, says money therapist
and keep tabs the likelihood
Kristin Sutton, founder of the site on household you’ll prematurely
Debt Free Black Girl. For example, expenses. drain the pot.
If you’re just starting to get seri-
ous…plan to share how much money
you each make, so that you can figure up, go for the bigger questions and
out how to split expenses in a way that reveals. “I make X amount of money,
makes sense for both of your budgets. and I try to save Y amount per
If you’re moving in together…be month. How about you?” Or “Sorry,
ready to ask and dish about credit babe, but here are my financial weak
scores, whether or not you pay your spots.…” Then when it’s his turn,
bills on time, and any major savings don’t judge or smirk at his deep, dark
accounts—all vital factors in a new secrets. Instead, calmly ask follow-
apartment or house search. up questions, like “Are you hoping to
If you’re talking marriage…you’ll start saving more soon?”
also need to reveal any big debts or stu-
dent loans, investment accounts, and Finish Together
any dirty financial secrets. (When you Here’s where you decide to make money
apply for joint accounts or mortgages, moves…as a couple. If your lurve is
it’s all gonna come out anyway.) fresh, figure out who will pay for meals
Regardless of what your relation- and how often, or set a savings goal for
ship status is, you may want to prep your first vacay. If you’re new roomies,
a few deeper Qs, like, “Do you prefer consider a joint bank account for
to save or live in the moment? What’s things like groceries, and decide who
the dumbest financial blunder contributes what. If you’re getting
you’ve made? What’s one thing you’ll married, make a plan for paying off
always be willing to spend cash on?” your credit-card debt, and figure out
The answers will help you align big- how much you can reasonably afford
picture on how to deal with money. to shell out for a wedding.
And remember, whatever questions If your partner seems unwilling
you ask, you also have to answer. to discuss sticky issues, gently sug-
gest you both seek outside help from
Initiate Intimacy a financial therapist, says Clayman.
Night of, start off by telling your mate And—warning!—if he’s hostile or
a few things you love about him, accusatory toward you, that may be
financially. Maybe you see how gen- a red flag for more than just money
erous he is with his little sister or drama. Ask yourself if you can be
you get hot when he talks about his with someone who doesn’t take all ®
stocks. Once you’re both warmed your concerns seriously. Q
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Eggplant:
Not Just the
Best Emoji—
Also Amazing
for Tacos!
Eggplant Tacos
With Pico de Gallo
2 lbs. eggplant, cut
lengthwise into ¼-inch-
thick slices
¼ c. extra-virgin olive oil
Kosher salt and freshly
ground pepper
2 t. ground coriander
1 t. ground cumin
8 corn tortillas
Pico de gallo, to top
8 lime wedges, to garnish
Preheat a grill or grill pan
to medium-high heat.
Brush both sides of
eggplant with olive
oil, and season both
sides with salt, pepper,
coriander, and cumin.
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Grill eggplant about
4 minutes per side,
until tender. When cool
enough to handle, slice
crosswise into strips.
Grill tortillas until warm,
no more than 1 minute.
Spoon eggplant
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and pico de gallo onto

tortillas. Garnish with
lime, and serve.
scan to shop
Adapted from
Great Tastes,
by Danielle &
Laura Kosann,
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Guy’s debut
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Book clubs are nice and all but can be a little
snoozy…and sorely lacking in edible sustenance.
Enter cookbook clubs—meet-ups where you and Kintsugi
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Consult this
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twists on
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Kaley Cuoco
has had her
share of ups and
downs. But
the award-
winning actress
has always
come out on top.
Here, she talks
candidly about
finding love
after heartbreak,
being a boss
in Hollywood,
and owning
her future. By CARRIE BELL
riding
high
Photographed by
Jason Kim
Styled by
Kristen Saladino
Alice McCall top and shorts. Golden

Goose Deluxe Brand boots. Stetson
hat. Monica Vinader earrings and
ring (right hand). Her own ring (left
hand, worn throughout)
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Kaley
Cuoco
isn’t
really the
secret-
keeping
type. Bardot for 100%
Bloomingdale’s
top. Hudson
shorts. Christian
Louboutin heels.
Monica Vinader
earrings
Whether she’s on a late-night

host’s couch or posting on
social media, the Big Bang
Theory star has thoroughly
chronicled her nasal-spray
addiction, deep affection for
in-flight drinking, bad hair
days, on-set shenanigans,
sweaty workouts, ugly cries,
and a painful tattoo cover-up
(that last one to mask ink
marking her wedding date to
ex-husband Ryan Sweeting).
Lately, some of her posts have F U LL N A M E :
focused on professional eques-

trian Karl Cook. The two got
engaged last November on Kal-
I K N OW A S U R PR I S I N G
ey’s 32nd birthday, after nearly
A M O U NT A B O U T:
two years of dating—and her met someone who wasn’t trying
3.6 million Instagram followers to be anyone but themselves.
were all along for the ride. There was no bullshit with Karl,
That’s why, when I slide no ulterior motive.”
A FA M O U S WO M A N I A D M I R E :
into the seat across from Kaley “I honestly thought I
at lunch in Los Angeles, wouldn’t get married again,”
impressed that she arrived 10 she continues. “My ex ruined
minutes early, I’m surprised that word for me. I married
B E C AU S E :
to notice she’s wearing a shiny someone the first time who
gold nameplate necklace completely changed. The
that reads Mrs. Cook. Did she person I ended up with was
pull a Margot Robbie and not the person I originally
secretly get hitched? met. And that wasn’t my
“Oh, that...my glam squad fault—that was his.” But Kaley,
gave it to me when I got engaged,” always the optimist, didn’t
says Kaley, nonchalantly sipping totally give up on love. OBSESSION:
K A L E Y W I T H H O R S E : B A U E R - G R I F FI N . J E A N J A C K E T: B E N G O L D S T E I N / S T U D I O D. J E A N S : S T UA R T T Y S O N / S T U D I O D. A L L O T H E R S : G E T T Y I M A G E S .
a sherbet-colored smoothie. “I knew how much I had

“The weirdest part is that I was to give and how much I wanted
a Cook way before I met Karl. to receive,” she says. “I knew
Cuoco means ‘cook’ in Italian, I just had to be patient. It’s like
and [the rest of my family] goes that song [by Rascal Flatts]
by Cook because no one can that says, ‘God blessed the bro-
pronounce Cuoco. So the only ken road that led me straight
reason this necklace won’t jinx to you.’ My road was bumpy.
me is because it’s already my There were potholes. The car-
name. I don’t have to change it. riage tipped. The horses ran TH E B E ST A DV I C E I E V E R G OT F R O M M Y M O M :
That’s gotta be a sign.” away. I broke my leg.” She laughs,
There have been other her ponytail bouncing. “I had
signs too. Like Kaley and Karl’s
mutual love for horses. They it brought me to Karl.”
both ride competitively The two are currently try-
M Y TI P TO S O M E O N E
and were first introduced at TRY I N G R I D I N G FO R TH E
a horse show. “An hour later, timeline, and Kaley says that, F I R ST TI M E :
he showed up at my stable on apart from his wedding suit
his dirt bike with a glass of
champagne,” she says. “He clothes, which I think is really
said, ‘Can I take you to dinner cute”), Karl is down for when-
tonight?’ I said, ‘First, yes. And ever, wherever. His carefree
second, I hate champagne.’”
Okay, so no bubbles. But off. Especially when it comes
that first date turned into regu- to Kaley’s annoyance with W H E N I WA NT TO F E E L
lar texting, which evolved into internet haters. “I’m a strong
FaceTime dates, then in-person person, but you go down the
visits. “Everything he said he’d hole,” she says. “I’ll go, ‘Oh my
do, he did,” says Kaley. “This god, so-and-so said this’ or ‘I
was new. It’s the first time I’d read this.’ And Karl’s like, ‘Why S:
are you reading that? Why do

you care? They are miserable
people who hate everyone.’
It’s so simple to him. He’s defi-
nitely helped me with that.”
165
It’s a mentality that will
serve Kaley well as she
enters the next phase of her
career. Her time on Amer-
ica’s number one sitcom—a
role for which she’s garnered
fame, awards, and reportedly, long, and I’ve worked with the
the title of second-highest- best. I don’t let people mess
paid TV actress (behind Sofia with me. I want to show girls
Vergara)—is likely winding out there that you can be cool, A PE R S O N I WA S
to a close next year. “I spent wear yoga clothes, and run your
my entire 20s on this show,” own fucking company. You WA S A TB BT FA N :
she says. “That’s a lot of top- don’t have to be a guy in a suit.”

knots.” Iconic hairstyles aside, She’s already lined up her
that kind of longevity is the inaugural project, an adap-
definition of power in Holly- tation of the book The Flight
wood, and Kaley worked hard Attendant, a thriller she acci-
for every inch of it. She’s also dentally came across while
the first to recognize how browsing Amazon. She saw the
unique her position is, espe- haunting cover art of a blurry
cially given the recent rev- blonde woman, read the first
elations about her industry’s two sentences of the synopsis, Jim Parsons Johnny Galecki
paycheck inequality. and got chills. She immedi-

“I didn’t have to fight for ately asked her agent to find
pay,” she explains, noting out if Reese Witherspoon had
that she’s always received the already acquired the movie
same fee as her male costars rights. “Genius Reese goes and
because, 11 years ago, execu- buys all the rights because she’s
tive producer Chuck Lorre cre- so freaking smart,” says Kaley.
ated the show with three equal Reese hadn’t made a move, so Kunal Nayyar Mayim Bialik
leads making equal money. Kaley snapped them up. “It was
“It was two guys and the girl exciting and felt like a win.”
next door,” she says. “Know- Kaley is busy getting every-
ing what it feels like [to be thing at Yes, Norman just right.
paid as an equal], I will always “Our logo is a drawing of
take that stand for myself.” [Norman’s] face. It makes me
And she’s taking it for oth- so happy. We’re making stickers
ers too. Last year, Kaley (and and shirts because that’s why
her four male colleagues) took you do a production company Simon Helberg Melissa Rauch
$100,000-per-episode pay cuts [laughs]. Everyone’s gonna
so that series regulars Melissa have the cutest clothes. I love
Rauch and Mayim Bialik could that shit. I’m like, ‘We’re shoot-
earn higher salaries. ing what? But I’m making hats
Kaley says she’ll continue for everyone right now....’”
to pay it forward through her In all seriousness, though, O N E TH I N G I WA NT TO S E E H A P PE N
new film company, Yes, Nor- Kaley says she’s ready to get FO R PE N N Y B E FO R E TB BT E N D S :
man Productions, named for behind the camera and work

her Insta-famous rescue dog: as hard as she always has. “I
“I want to be a full-on girl boss. want this to be a big company,”
I’ve been in the business so she says. “I want to be sitting
G E T T Y I M A G E S (8).
down a few years from now and

have so many projects going.
That’s what I’m excited about.”
If her past social postings are
any indication, her fans will be
with her every step of the way. Q
166
beauty
tip
Looking for a fragrance
that’s as magnetic as your
personality? Try Chloé
Nomade, $75. It’s a mix of
freesia and oak moss.
Vivetta dress.
Her own
necklace and
earrings
Hair: Christine
Symonds at The Wall
Group. Makeup: Jamie
Greenberg at The
Wall Group using
ThriveCausemetics.
Manicure: Ashlie
Johnson at The Wall
Group using Chanel Le
Vernis. See page 191 for
shopping information.
Peekaboo
Chic
Edgy mesh keeps you
cool, day or night.
Altuzarra slip, dress, and
belt. Paul Andrew heels.
Tomas Maier earrings (worn
throughout)
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Stripe
TA K E YO U R
Tease
Sporty meets sexy in
pieces that look great on
(or off!) a board.
3.1 Phillip Lim
top and skirt
STYLE
SET YOUR LOOK TO ISL AND
O N VA C A Y
T I M E I N S H E E R L AY E R S ,
SUNNY FLORALS, TROPICAL
COLORS, AND STRETCHES
OF GLISTENING SKIN.
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Sunny Days
Millennial pink is out;
not-so-mellow yellow is
most definitely in.
Prabal Gurung dress.
Christian Louboutin sandals
Print Perfect
Printed tops—like this
wearable postcard
sweater—are on point
this season.
Paul & Joe top and shorts
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Game, Set,
Match
Consider this your
new three-piece suit
for all your poolside
meetings.
Emilio Pucci jacket, bra,
and shorts
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Sweet Flow
We love the beach-
comber vibes of this
seashell-print set—wear
them together or apart.
BreeLayne top and skirt
Flower Power
Want to be your
own bouquet? Opt for
bold blooms.
Zimmermann dress
Shining
Bright
Flirty ruffles + a
metallic sheen = date-
ready style.
Francesco Scognamiglio
bra and skirt. Altuzarra belt.
Christian Louboutin heels
BEAUTY TIP
No passport, no
problem. Let the
lulo fruit and guava-
Hair: Nicolas Eldin for flower notes in
Philip Kingsley at Art Tempting Paradise
Department. Makeup: by Sofia Vergara
Christian McCulloch for ($60, perfumania
Dior Beauty. Model: .com) take you on a
Malaika Firth/Marilyn. virtual vacay. One
Accommodations and spritz will transport
location: Sugar Beach, you to the tropics.
a Viceroy Resort,
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Muted ’90s-inspired
colors are making a
major comeback. Use
a dusty bronze hue, like
BareMinerals GenNude
Powder Blush in Let’s
Go Nude, $24, as blush
and eye shadow,
then coat your lips in
dark mauve (try Chanel
Le Rouge Crayon
de Couleur Jumbo
Longwear Lip Crayon in
N°25, $37).
Samsøe & Samsøe jacket.
Dinh Van pendant. Beatriz
Palacios earring
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’50s flick: Dot a liquid
liner at your inner corner,
outer corner, and a bit
below the tail of your
brow. Close your eye and
connect the dots with
straight lines, then fill
in the triangle. The fin-
isher: a cherry-red liquid
lipstick, like Lancôme
L’Absolu Lacquer in
Be Brilliant, $26.
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and sweat, the hotter
this smudgy liner looks.
Just draw a thick line of
steel-gray pencil (like
Nars Larger Than Life
Long-Wear Eyeliner in
Madison Avenue, $26)
on your bottom lids, and
blur it with your fingers
to create a sooty stare.
Espirit top. Longchamp bracelet
Put down the pas-
tels—vampy lips are
stealing the spotlight.
Apply a merlot liq-
uid lipstick (try Estée
Lauder Pure Color
Envy Paint-On Liquid
LipColor in Quiet Riot,
$28), and pair it with
sunny gold shades on
eyes and cheeks for a
warm-weather twist.
Supertrash jacket.
Essentiel necklace.
Thomas Sabo earrings
P H O T O G R A P H E D B Y A N T O N I O T E R R Ó N . S T Y L I S T: I R E N E PA LO S . M A K EU P A N D H A I R : V E R A
W O L F. M O D E L : I A N A L E S H U KO VA / U N O. P R O D U C T I O N : PA LO M A M E N D E S .
Want fame-worthy eyes?
One: Fill in your water-
lines with a navy pencil.
Two: Use a cobalt shadow
on your lids (try Dior 5
Couleurs Summer Look
2018 Eye Shadow #367
Cool Down, $63). Three:
Crowd-surf.
Love Stories top
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information.
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“My
Boyfriend
After Paul died suddenly
Had a
in a car accident, his pregnant
girlfriend made a shocking
discovery: He’d been involved
with at least six other women.
In this Cosmo exclusive, three
of them reveal the disturbing
details and warn you how
to spot a master manipulator.
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Twisted
Secret Life”
The fall had been tough,
between the morning
sickness and her boyfriend,
Paul*, working out of state.
But Jessica Boynton, 34, was
excited for Thanksgiving.
She’d finally get to introduce
her handsome contractor
BF (and the father of her
baby) to her entire family at
their annual gathering in
Zebulon, North Carolina.
She knew they’d love him…
almost as much as she did.
As a ploy,
Theirs had been a whirlwind romance. manipulative
They’d met on Craigslist, of all places, seven suitors
mirror your
months earlier, in May 2016, after Jessica desires.
gave up on dating apps. For their first
get-together, Paul, 38, took Jessica and
her 3-year-old daughter to the movies.
Soon he was whisking her off for week-
ends in Charleston, South Carolina. Their
chemistry was electric.
Although Paul lived in South Carolina and
traveled all over the South for work, the cou-
ple started talking about moving in together.
By September, Jessica was pregnant; her
daughter called Paul “Daddy.”
The day before Thanksgiving, Paul texted
that he was stuck at a house remodel three
hours away. By noon the next day, he still
hadn’t arrived, blaming a burst pipe at his
job site. “That house had better be flooded,”
Jessica replied. “Water needs to be pouring
out the windows.” It didn’t escape her that
he’d used this excuse once before, when he
was scheduled to meet her mom and sisters
for the first time. As her family sat down for
dinner without him, Jessica felt humiliated.
“This is it,” she texted. “I’m done.”
Paul showed up the following Monday to
try to win her back over lunch. But after that, J E S S I C A B OY N T O N G AV E
BIRTH TO HER AND
he went dark, ignoring texts, e-mails, and
PAU L’ S C H I L D I N 2 0 1 7.
calls from Jessica and the lawyer she hired
to draft a child-support agreement for their
unborn baby. Then in late December, on
Facebook, Jessica saw a shocking post: Paul people to fulfill different needs, be those sex-
had died. His pickup had flipped over on a ual, financial, or something else,” says Anne
highway in Georgia, crushing him. Brown, a licensed professional counselor in
Stunned and reeling, Jessica got a Face- Scottsdale, Arizona, who has worked with
book message, “When did you meet Paul?” psychopaths and their victims.
from a woman claiming to have been his girl- Research suggests genes play a role in
friend. Jessica responded that she had been the development of psychopathy, as may
his girlfriend. As her grief shifted to out- childhood trauma or abuse. Studies also
rage, Jessica pored over Paul’s online obitu- show psychopaths’ brains are different in
ary, reaching out to several women who had areas that process empathy, morals, and
posted condolences. Within a month, she’d guilt. Like autism, the disorder occurs on
unearthed five more girlfriends—most of a spectrum, with some people exhibiting
whom believed they’d been dating Paul exclu- more extreme traits than others. Officially
sively at the time of his death. categorized under the broader rubric of
There were at least two engagement rings, antisocial personality disorder, psycho-
promises of custom-built houses, and several paths comprise an estimated 1 percent of
pledges to get married at the same outdoor the population—that’s around three mil-
chapel in South Carolina. Jessica was partic- lion Americans. The diagnostic process
ularly devastated to learn that Paul had spent (typically, via a clinical evaluation and a
Thanksgiving in another state, with another symptoms checklist) remains imperfect, if
girlfriend…and that on the holiday itself, he’d not controversial. And while it’s impossible
proposed to her in front of her family. to evaluate him officially now, Paul, with his
sinister mix of charisma and cruelty, seems
to have ticked all the boxes.
At the beginning, he went all in, shower-
Jessica had no idea

ing each new conquest with affection and
promises. When he met Rebecca*, then a
33-year-old accountant in Georgia, also
that her relationship on Craigslist, in January 2016, she says she

was “instantly smitten. The first night we
with Paul followed

a pattern—one that’s all too familiar to
hung out, we talked about last names. I said
something about how I hated mine. He said,
‘Maybe I can change that for you.’”
experts who study psychopathy. While the Rebecca rationalized his crazy work
term is often applied to serial killers and hor- schedule; he was a successful contractor,
ror-movie villains, psychopath (and sociopath, after all. Pipes bursting, cabinets in need of
which some experts use interchangeably) can urgent painting—it was all understandable.
accurately describe other nefarious personali- And their sexual chemistry was intense too.
ties. “You can be psychopathic without com- (He said he’d been tested for STIs, and she
mitting murder,” says Hedwig Eisenbarth, was on birth control, so she didn’t insist
PhD, an associate professor of psychology at on condoms. “After talking to the other
the University of Southampton. “There are all women,” she says, “it seems like he was hav-
sorts of behaviors that are evil but not illegal.” ing sex almost every night.”)
Most psychopaths lie easily, act reck- In December 2016, Paul agreed to move
lessly, and lack empathy. “They get excited by down to Georgia to be closer to Rebecca.
manipulating others and may use different Not long after, they went out to a Mexican
*Middle name is being used.
185
restaurant. Later, in the parking lot, they
kissed before hopping into their cars, Paul
saying he’d follow her home. As she drove
through the rain, Rebecca saw headlights
veer off the road in her rearview mirror. By
the time she looped back around, an ambu-
lance had arrived, and Paul was dead. She
later learned that while driving, he’d been
on the phone with another girlfriend.
For most people,

deceiving multiple
partners across
at least three state lines might trigger stress,
remorse, or at the very least, exhaustion.
Not so for psychopaths, says psychologist Jill
Ricke, PhD, a board member of Aftermath, a
group devoted to helping victims of psycho-
paths. “They tend to like the challenge.”
“Psychopaths lack the internal process
most people experience after lying,” adds
Brown. “When you lie, you feel shame, guilt,
maybe even fear, so your body and face give
off small signals. But with psychopaths,
there’s no shame. Very often, there’s little to
no fear. The signals that might warn people
away often don’t exist.”
And while they tend to seek out vulner-
able victims—when Jessica met Paul, she was
emotionally drained after a tough custody
battle with her ex—they can ensnare anyone.
They are known to “mirror” their partners,
Psychopaths intuiting exactly what certain people want
like the
challenge of and delivering it. Paul knew that Jessica
living a lie. craved adventure after years at home with a
A Timeline
of Deceit JA N UA RY 2 0 1 6
Paul meets Rebecca
M AY 2 0 1 6
Paul meets Jessica
SEPTEMBER 2016
Paul rekindles
T H R E E O F PAU L’ S on Craigslist. He on Craigslist. Within his relationship
GIRLFRIENDS tells her on the first one month, they’re with Jeanette. She
SHARED THEIR date that she could talking about believes they are
STORIES WITH one day take his moving in together. dating exclusively.
C O S M O. H E R E ’ S last name. They
W H AT T H E I R 2 0 1 6 S become close.
LO O K E D L I K E .
186
until his death in December. “Psychopaths
will chip away at your self-confidence
and sense of reality,” says Brown. “A lot of
times, these women stop trusting them-
young child, so he lavished her with trips. selves. ‘It’s as if he embedded himself in my Don’t
With Rebecca, who sometimes worked psyche’ is how the experience of dating
12-hour days, he was happy to hang at home one has been described.” Date This
and watch TV. Craigslist was his perfect
accomplice. Unlike on other sites, he didn’t
Person:
have to share anything about himself before 4 Red Flags
learning what each woman was looking for
and adjusting his personality accordingly. One of the most
The manipulation was so power-
ful that when Paul eventually became
aloof—typically after he hooked a new love
difficult questions H E ’ S M OV I N G FA S T.
interest—his girlfriends continued to make
excuses for him. Once, when Jessica tried to
confront him about not responding to her
Paul’s girlfriends
now wrestle with is, Was everything a lie?
“Real love takes
time,” says counselor
Anne Brown. If a
relationship is going
calls and texts, she got off the phone con- While the answer may never be known, at breakneck speed—
D E P I C T E D I N T H E S E P H O T O G R A P H S A R E M O D E L S B E I N G U S E D F O R I L LU S T R AT I V E P U R P O S E S O N LY.
vinced it was all somehow her fault. “Over Eisenbarth does say this: Real love is
P R O P S T Y L I S T: M I C H E L L E LO N G O F O R H A L L E Y R E S O U R C E S . P E O P L E : G E T T Y I M A G E S . T H E P E O P L E
and he tells you on

time, the psychopath’s real self emerges,” impossible for psychopaths. “A person with the second or third
explains Ricke. “But these relationships have psychopathic traits is not going to be able date that you’re
an addictive quality. The partner is waiting to experience deeply caring about someone soul mates—pause
and reconsider.
for the person they first met to come back.” else,” she explains. (Jessica, who went down
That addiction can transcend even a psychiatric-research rabbit hole after
dark territory. When Jeanette*, then 41, of Paul’s death, now believes he never loved
H E ’ S S O DA M N
South Carolina, met Paul in 2013, she also her. Rebecca believes he did love her in his CHARMING.
fell hard. But Paul soon began to vacillate own way but that he was mentally ill.) Psychopaths are
between intense expressions of affection In the shared wreckage, strange friend- expert manipulators,
and violent, jealous outbursts. Once, he ships have blossomed. A number of the and charm covers
nearly drove them both off a bridge in a fit women who dated Paul still keep in touch their tracks. “Often,
they use it to hide
of rage, only swerving to safety at the last and share life updates. Right after Paul’s something they don’t
second. Jeanette says he repeatedly abused death, Rebecca briefly turned to Valium want you to know,”
her physically and sexually, until finally, and Xanax but also coped by helping one of says psychologist
a year after they’d met, she left him. In Paul’s fiancées recover. These sorts of con- Jill Ricke, PhD.
September 2016, though, he began text- nections are crucial, since victims are often
ing her again, showering her with love, silenced by their own shame at being duped,
apologizing profusely, and claiming to says Ricke. Some even show signs of diag- H E N E V E R AC C E P T S
R E S P O N S I B I L I T Y.
have been to therapy. Jeanette found her- nosable post-traumatic stress syndrome.
While lots of people
self swept up once more and dated Paul “It’s still hard to believe I fell for it,” says have bad breakups,
Jessica, now 35, who is sharing her experi- “one red flag is
ence in hopes of warning others about men when he can’t see his
like Paul. “I’ve learned that it’s okay to ques- part in things that
tion things that don’t seem right and that as didn’t work,” says
Brown. If he’s always
hard as it is to walk away, you have to.” bad-mouthing his
N OV E M B E R 2 0 1 6 DECEMBER 2016 On Father’s Day 2017, she gave birth to exes, be cautious.
Jessica learns she’s After dinner with her and Paul’s son. Soon after, she started
pregnant. Paul Rebecca, Paul dies cautiously dating again. When she met
bails on her family’s in a car accident. John online, Jessica kept him away from HE HAS NO
Thanksgiving While driving, he’d her kids for months, until she trusted he’d REAL FRIENDS.
to propose to a been on the phone
stick around. When she invited him to “Psychopaths tend
fourth girlfriend, in with one of his
Thanksgiving with her family last year, he not to keep people
another state. fiancées.
around for long,” says
not only showed up, he also brought a ring. Brown. Ask yourself:
They’re getting married, says Jessica, but Have I met any close,
she’s not in any rush. Q long-term pals?
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HOROSCOPES
By Aurora Tower | @AuroraAstro
TAURUS 04.20–05.21
YOUR MONTH: Brace yourself! Uranus, the

planet that represents revolutionary
change, moves into your sign on the 15th.
A shift will come in the form of new ideas
and travel, but don’t blow your budget.
And when major news hits at month’s end,
decide whether the source is credible
before you act. YOUR YEAR: You’re seen as
the strong, steady type, but with Uranus at
your back, you may shock everyone. You’ll
be a busy bee with good wins at work
starting in November. No matter what,
trust your intuition and think big!
TAURUS GAL
Kelly Clarkson
04.24.82
GEMINI CANCER LEO VIRGO
05.22–06.20 0 6 . 2 1 – 0 7. 2 2 0 7. 2 3 – 0 8 . 2 2 08 . 23– 09. 2 2
With Venus, the planet of Smooth sailing ahead! Drama Get ready for a career Modesty is so overrated
love, in your sign till the 19th, that’s made waves at work shake-up midmonth. Try to (well, at least RN). Soak up
expect more attention than a settles down after the 15th, be positive and embrace the recognition at work—it could
Kardashian pregnancy reveal when unpredictable Uranus possibilities. Networking will propel you right into your next
on Instagram. And when the moves out of your career be key, so use those LinkedIn lightbulb moment. Toward
Sun moves into Gemini on the zone. Venus shifts into your skills IRL. Treat yo’self with a month’s end, hit the refresh
20th, love blossoms. Don’t let sign on the 19th, putting you night out after the 20th, and button by finally clicking Book
it blind you from real-world in the mood to swoon. But get ready for a sexy-time Full on that big trip. Chill time will
probs—unexpected bills could don’t be hasty—you may learn Moon on the 29th. LEO GUY: prime your mind for a big
hit before June. GEMINI GUY: some enlightening info on Work has him tied up right breakthrough on the 23rd.
Social butterfly + homebody the 25th. CANCER GUY: Ahoy, now, and he needs your help VIRGO GUY: He’s all swagger
= all Gems. Embrace his split mate! He’s super lovey at the to get himself together... and smiles. Celebrate his wins
personality, and enjoy nights end of May, so tell him what which might lead to a little along with him and he’ll shower
out and at home. will really float your boat! bedroom bondage fun. you with tons of x’s and o’s.
LIBRA SCORPIO SAGITTARIUS CAPRICORN

09. 23–10. 2 2 10.23–11.21 11.22–12.21 1 2 . 2 2 – 0 1 .1 9
Grab the reins, baby—it’s time Girl, it’s time to get personal. You’re thisclose to having it This month, you’re bringing
to ride high! If you’ve been When the Sun opposes all. Things may be swell at sexy all the way back. Single?
good, opposition between the good-luck Jupiter on the 8th, work, but you’ll soar with more Anticipate more than one
Sun and abundant Jupiter on you’ll meet a new boo or get structure (a change from your suitor, some who might
the 8th could bring a windfall, closer to your current crush. usual spontaneity). You’ll find surprise and delight. All signs
but be careful if you’ve been The New Moon on the 15th the drive to start a healthy point to the 11th for sparks.
balling. At month’s end, you’ll will bring clarity about your habit on the 11th. The end of After the 19th, when Venus
find clarity about a major status. In late May, tap into the month is romance time, moves into your zone of
relationship. If it’s move-on your extra-strength EQ for with the Full Moon in your sign relationships, you’ll be getting
time, a Memorial Day vacay epic epiphanies about your on the 29th. It happens once a it good. Just don’t lose sight
will help you get over it (and future. SCORPIO GUY: He has year, so be bold! SAGITTARIUS of work, ’kay? CAPRICORN GUY:
under someone else…). LIBRA lots of lurve to give—if he’s GUY: He’s going to really He’s Mr. Serious, but even
GUY: His mood: brooding. Get not laying on the romance, sweep you off your feet at the he won’t be able to resist your
him talking and all will be okay. laters, baby. end of the month. fun and frisky side.
I L LU S T R AT I O N : C I A R A P H E L A N . A L L O T H E R S : G E T T Y I M A G E S .
AQUARIUS PISCES ARIES

0 1 . 2 0 – 0 2 .1 8 0 2 .1 9 – 0 3 . 2 0 0 3 . 2 1 – 0 4 .1 9
TAURUS GUY
Put on your brain beret (like a Let your wanderlust lead Cue sigh of relief! Finally,
thinking cap but better) and you to pampering and you- unpredictable Uranus moves
Dwayne “The Rock”
pay attention to your heart— time. New opportunities await out of your sign on the 15th, Johnson
and intuition—especially near the 15th. Trust your gut, which means stability at
05.02.72
on the 11th. Life gets lighter but don’t be too impulsive— last. Put down some roots, Your dude is jacked
and flirtier after the Sun incoming intel could change because you’re about to be up on exciting, new
moves into Gemini on the your perspective on things. busy in all the best ways. After ideas. His ambition
20th. Around the Full Moon Once you make it to the the Sun moves into Gemini will really skyrocket
on the 29th, a friend may let end of the month, your inner on the 20th, the invites will if you voice
you know he like likes you. compass will guide you. just about flood your in-box. your support.
AQUARIUS GUY: He may be a PISCES GUY: Help him look ARIES GUY: Considering how
guyliner short of going full up from his screen so you busy he is, he’s surprisingly
emo. Don’t engage, but listen can get some lovin’ on a road Zen. Reward his hustle with a
carefully to find out what’s up. trip for two. pat on the back—or bum.
ALL ABOUT YOU
What Your D.O.B. Means

: We all have a number. And nope, we’re not talking about that number. We’re talking
about the practice of Numerology!
Start So What
with your full date of birth. Does
Your
Now get each element Number
(month, day, and year) down Say?
to a single digit by add- ONE
ing the numbers together. You are positive,
Example for June 22, 1989: determined,
and ambitious.
T WO
Month = 6 You are imagina-
(Note: For months with tive and romantic
and habitually take
double digits, like a backseat vs. lead.
November, add the digits THREE
together, e.g., 1 + 1 = 2.) You are trustwor-
thy, conscientious,
Day = 2 + 2 = 4 and proud.
Year = 1 + 9 + 8 + 9 = 27; FOUR
You are a born
2+7=9 rebel, sensitive,
and lonely.
Now add those three FIVE
You are quick
together… thinking, high-
6 + 4 + 9 = 19 strung, and
(Get to a single digit!) business-minded.
1 + 9 = 10; 1 + 0 = 1 SIX
You are artistic,
generous, and
determined.
Your number is 1.
SEVEN
You are restless,
independent, and
innovative.
EIGHT
You are intense,
lonely, and often
J A M I E N E L S O N / B L AU B LU T E D I T I O N /AU G U S T.
misunderstood.
NINE
You are impulsive,
courageous, and
quick-tempered.
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COSMO QUIZ
How Passionate Are You?

1. Oh, hey there, 4. Your activist
Monday morning. As BFF invites you to
you lift your head a climate-change
off the pillow, you’re: rally. You:
A Already posting positive A Show up with a mega-
intentions on your Insta Story! phone and publicly humiliate
anyone with a plastic bottle.
B Beelining to the sacred
altar that is your coffee B Gladly go, but don’t
machine. No seizing the day till get too vocal. After all, you’re
caffeination has commenced. not trying to get arrested.
C Smashing the snooze C Pass. Nothing could
button. make you brave a crowd
this size—not even front-row
2. Your latest hobby is tickets to Beyoncé.
pottery making. By
your second class, you: 5. Your favorite
’90s band is in town
A Quit your day job and
move to artsy Woodstock to for a reunion concert.
open a ceramics studio. You’ll probably:
B Try selling your shiz on A Spend your entire pay-
Etsy as a side hustle. check on seats so you can
toss the lead singer your pant-
C Return all your supplies
ies and a note on how
to the art store. Wet clay, not
he 4eva changed your life.
so chic.
B Fangirl appropriately
3. You’re at a super- (in throwback merch,
belting every song) from the
posh restaurant nosebleeds.
and feelin’ your date.
C Meh, not interested.
You show it by: Been there, done that.
A Initiating a next-level
smoochfest that toes the
line of public lewdness.
B Keeping the PDA
covert—a little bit goes
a long way.
C Giving a PG hand
squeeze. Showing affection
ain’t really your thang.
THE BREAKDOWN
W I L L W H I P P L E / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
M O S T LY A’ S M O S T LY B ’ S
Perma Impassioned Pretty Pumped
You pursue everything to the fullest… You follow your passions but never Girl, you are all business. It’ll serve
and with all the feels. That kind go overboard. For the most part, you well when shit hits the fan, but it’s
of dedication is rare, but like all good that’s perfect, but don’t let your sense never lame to show genuine interest.
things, too much can overwhelm you of self-awareness keep you from Igniting your fire inside isn’t so hard.
(and those around you). Try to focus going full throttle every once in a Start with a small gesture to show
your extra mentality on just one or two while. A burst of intensity at just someone you care and your enthusi-
things at a time, and make sure noth- the right moment can awaken your asm will be contagious. Soon, life will
ing turns into an unhealthy obsession. inner badass and inspire others. take on super-exciting new energy.
C O S M O P O L I TA N M AY 2 0 1 8 By Helen Zook
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