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Mitchell Kalpakgian
For example, to buy unaffordable luxuries and go into debt that exceeds a
person’s earnings or savings only leads to foolish spending.
To make work a greater value than health and to sacrifice one’s
mental, emotional, and physical well being for more salary and
higher paying jobs is to purchase at too great a price.
To make time for committees, organizations, and volunteer work but
not to have time to play with one’s children and to enjoy the
company, presence, and conversation of one’s spouse also illustrates
bad judgment, the failure to differentiate the truly important from the
less worthy.
To use leisure only for television viewing or sports channels but
never to read a book or find time for spiritual reading or prayer is
another poor investment.
To be too self-sufficient and self-reliant and neglect the social
responsibilities of cultivating friendships, hosting festive occasions,
and renewing family bonds also ignores an essential human need, the
enrichment of personal relationships.
To be health conscious, take vitamins, and eat health food but to
neglect the importance of exercise shows shortsightedness.
To vote for political candidates solely because of party loyalty and
economic benefits rather than for moral ideals and commitment to
the dignity of all human beings from conception until death places
self-interest ahead of the common good.
To save money and to be frugal, to invest money and make profits,
or to live only to multiply one’s fortune without charity or generosity
is to value material possessions over spiritual good and to live more
for the body than the soul.
Many folk tales and fairy tales offer proverbial wisdom about these
important choices between primary and secondary things and between
essential and nonessential matters.
In Hans Andersen’s “The Swineherd,” the Princess can choose between the
exquisite gifts of a prince and the cheap merchandise of a peddler.
As a symbol of his love The Prince offers a rare rose that blooms only once
in five years, “a rose which smelled so sweetly that its scent would make
one forget all one’s sorrows and troubles,” and a nightingale “which could
sing as if all the beautiful melodies in the world were to be found in its
little throat.”
The Princess rejects the priceless gifts of her suitor and spurns the love of
the prince. When the Prince returns in disguise as a peddler selling a
magical frying pan that releases the smells of all the kitchens in the town
and a rattle that plays all the popular songs of the day, the Princess
purchases the novelties by paying the price of ten kisses for the pan and a
hundred kisses for the rattle. She purchases junk with her greatest treasure,
her kisses.
In rejecting the precious gifts of the rose and nightingale, symbols of the
pure love of the prince, and buying the pan and the rattle sold by a common
peddler, the Princess chooses the cheap over the excellent, the common
smell of kitchens over the exquisite perfume of the rose, the popular tunes
of the day over the heavenly music of the nightingale.
She exchanges the sublime for the ridiculous. She lowers the dignity and
honor of a princess with kisses to a stranger for trivial novelties amounting
to momentary pleasures but rejects the prized gifts of a loving prince
bestowing eternal sources of joy.
The foolish Princess valued the tawdry over the beautiful, the temporary
over the everlasting, and the odd and man-made over the natural and
heaven-sent. The Princess’ every choice prizes the secondary thing over the
primary and the non-essential to the essential.