a comic-strjp

memotr
about
being
a jolin
a comic-stci.p meft'loic
about being a john

CHESTER BROWN

DRA'WN k QYA&TER.LY
montreal
Also by Chester Brown:
ED THE HAPPY CLOWN (1989)
THE PlAYBOY (1992)
I NEVER LIKED YOU (1994)
THE LITTLE MAN (1998)
LOUIS RIEL (2003)

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Paying For It I Chester Brown.
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 For Joe Matt.
He's a good friend
and a character
in -the following pages~
but it's also appropriate
to dedkate this book to him
because
his au-tobiographical
comic-strips
were and are
an inspiration
for me.
 Chester Brow.., is ..,ot of t..,is pta .... et. He iS prob01bfy
the r~s"'lt of one of thoH~ 01lien obd~>~ctio..,s where they
Stick (A t"'eec;(Je il"' 01 ht.emDin WOWIDI...,'S G\bc:iome..., QI"!Ql
iW"V~pre~ne>.te her. He is o. very advar1ceo ht.emo....,. YoCA
Ce>.n tell by /ookin~ o.t tf.,e photo of hiWJ. PAYING FOR IT
is e>. very e...,li9htenin9 book., o.s well as bein.!J enter·
t01iY1i..,~: he is a very skillft.ol o.rtist ;.., th~t wo.y. t·..,
sure to MDIYIY people he's o. dry,. en-~otionless perso..., .
Notice how, throt.Agno&At the book_, his f01cial e)Cpres -
Sio.., is odwo.ys the S'~WJe. His WYOCA'th is Q slit. He r'lever
s~ow~ his teet11, never 9ri..,s, ..,ever 9rimo.ces. TS,e
opposite of my portro.yo.ls of ..,yself. Chester Brow..,·s
nelAtro.lity ;"" the world is_, in MY estiM~tio..,.> ctCAite
o.(;(.-nirOible. As JeSlAS so.'icl., "Be QS passers· by.,
His o.rg&Aments for tl-te c01se in f~vor of t.enregt.c-
JOt.teoC. prostitt.ction seem er1tirely co9ent to ,.,e. W..,ose
busiYleH is i t ;f 01. wome>.t"l WOI.r'ltS to cho.r9e tor sex ?
His prese..,t01tior1 of "" the uSIAOII argtA,.,.,ents "'9ai.., s t
prostittAtion 01ncA his reb~>~ttal to the..-n iS very effec.tive .
He s""ows the>.t the anti-prostitLAtio.., Qrgc..u\o'1ents Dire all
bo.Hol OYl eit-1-ter the olot retrogrc;~~cAe religious WJorodity
or knee -jerk libero.l> hG\If-bG\keol G\SS~>~~ptions o.bo"'t pros·
tit~Atiot'\, All the SMDirt 1-tool<ers I've know.., roH their
eyes in c:iesp01ir "'t t~e liber-011 c:io-9oo<l(er.s' "tte,....,pts to

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 INTRODUCTION

~,....~ y ·~~ """ ...... ""V ·-- v v "

" refo..-..,.... " tne ....... Not tno.t I've ever 1-lo..o( sex witn o.
pro s t ittAte m ys elf. I'v e o.lwo.ys been t oo tiMid to tr y
it, 01..,~ Qllso~ 0"\'\Y sextAality is too quirky o.noC odd. It
.-,eed s o. s pe ciod t y pe of woma.., to o.ccept the w01.y I
o.m> or like the wo.y I o....,.,, lrt tho.t re9o.r~ > Che s ter
Brown's sex v.01/ &es ires 5ee. t"YY q_'-1ite " norm01f>" " MOR "
( ,.,.,;QlcHe of the roo..cJ. ). It's 9reo.t the. wo.y l-Ie shows>
t-1-trotA9h the yeo.rs~ ho~..V he beco..rY~e o. re01f c o..,..,oi$St'1Ar
;.., the wodcJ. of professio,.,o.l sex workers. All the ir1>telli-
9e..,t ,.,e.., I've knovv"' wl-to p01tt"o..,;zeo( prosti ttAtes
beco.~e. c o,.,,oisse~Ars ;.., thi s wo..y. So me were mo.rriec:i,,
some wet'"e. bo.chelors. DicJ..., 't mo.ke o.ny o(;ffere.,..ce.
The icle01. of me..-. poo.ying for sex is repello.l"'t to
the oo.ver01~e WOmOin> 0. thre01t to noi'Yie> foo.W?ily 0\.., Q(>
yes> the ideo.! of roMo..ntic love. The oo.vero.9e w o ...,o..,
rYitASf" bel ieve o.lf the .,e9o.ti ve .stor i e s 01nd ;o(eo.s 0\bo~At
p rostittAtio ..,, BtAt oo.s Chester- po i .,t.s o~At> SLArely there is
o.s m'-t c h sorcAic( beho.vior o.wto"'9 mo.rriec:;( cotAples o.s
ta.,et'"e is ;.., tJ-te worl o( o f prostitt-4tiot1. A"'d th e n too_. so
mo.l"'y of the pro b I e..,.,s tho. t p/o.9u e pros ti'ttA t es o.re the
res..,.lt of socie ty's sc orn for the.., > to tne e x tent t'"ro.t...
0\S the book shows> m",.,Y of theM ho..ve to keep tl.,e; r
"wor k " o. secret_. eve.-, fro,., their fr i e"'o(s , I h01d o.
f e m ~I e f r i e., c:i who ,. o.., e ., i 9 h t o. t d i n .., e r, c o., f e ss e d
H101t s he h01c::( c:io.,e "' e sco rt ·· work for yeo.n,
LAI"'bek,.,ow..,st to her frie.,o(s_. o..nc::( I obs er vec:;( tho.t
everyone tho..,.3ht of her o. bit c;l;fferently <~~fter thC'It,
Worne.., tho LA9ht less of her> I t1oti cecl,. o.s if she'Clf
co.,fessed to h"vi1"19 bee.., ;..,volved in s o...,..,e sort of
c. rirni.,OII oo.ctivity. Men~ sowte of th e ""'> then co n s io(ereot
hero. loose wom01n,. fo.ir ~01..,e for coo. Sc.Ao.l sex .... o.l
coW'Ie-o., s. It ttArr,e.d o"t> ;.., f01.ct, th01t she wo.s o.
h i~ l-tfy S('X'-4011 WOMOII'\ wJ.,o dic:J ho.ve Wl0\1'1Y COIS'-10.1
01ff01irs with me,. Bc..tt yoc..t c01n ..,ever tell o. book by
i t s cov er > o"' tJ.,e S'-'rfa c e s l-, e w01s "' s hy> ..,.,oc::(est...
Se.lf-e ffo. ci "'S woMOin. You never wo..,.Jd 've suspected
t&.,o..t s he'(;( eve r been "' profe ssio ..,o./ sex work(>Y.
Eve.-,t-~AOIHy,. she rnovec:;( o'-tt of th e o.re01 . Al,.,ost oo.l( her
fe...-..01.le o.cq_c..tOiinfOirJces i rtcre01si n9/y s h..,...,..,ec::( 1-,e,.- o.s 01
"slc...ct " ""'o( "' home-wrecker> thotA!Jh s J.,e see ....,eot t'-te
n ices t Olno( s weete s t persot1> C.Or'ISC iE'r'ltioi.A S-1 no.rc:A.workio1!:J .
It wo. s s o.~ > "'' tc.Ao.lly. lo.ter_. we leo.r..,ed tho.t s he
beco..n-te 01 s urro301te c.hild-be01rer for Some we01lt&.,y
c.o~Apte . DtA...,..,o who.t be co. me of her o.fter tho.t.
Well> enou9J.,. PAYING FoR IT is o. 9reCllt corY~ic. boo k ,.
rYtOiybe Chester 8ro"'m's best wor-k to c:l01te.

R. ( rtAn'"lb
Febri.Ao..ry 201/

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 I live. in TorOY1tO, So I w~s ori9i..,G\IIy 9oin9 to begin
t~is foreword by expl~;.,;..,9 (QnG\oo.'s prostifc...ttio.., lo.ws,
btAt o. recent cotArt n.ding ho.s left the fo.te of those
lo.ws I.AI'Icert~in . They I'YIO.Y or ..,o.y t1ot be cho.nging .
This is wi-IG\t ti-le le9G\I sitLAo.tion wo.s like d1AI"in9 the
ye~rs cove yeo( by this me..,..,oil": "01Atccd(" prostit~Ation
wo.s le9«AI - - tho.t is.~ .sex-workers were o.llowed to 90
to (). john'.s home or note I room. "1•1Co.ll" pro.stit IAtio..,
wo.s i/leg~l ~- sex-workers were not o.llowed to work
OIAt of o. specific. loco.tion. They co~Afol..,'t work i"'
brot'-lels, or OIAt of their ho...,.,es, or rent ~po.rti'Yients
to work in, Whe., the police rO\ide~ ""' inco.ll lo co.t io.,,
Q.nyone foLAf"\c;{ in there cotAid be o.rresteo( -- prostit~Ates
o.not t10I'I·prostit1Ates . In orO.er to d isc.o tArG\se s treet -
wc-lkers, there WC\S o.lso C\ l01w forbiotdin9 prostit'CAtion~
relo.teGI( solicitG\tion in ptAblic..
In 'this book I rec.orc{ every tii"Y''e I pG\icA for .sex lAp to
the en& of 2003 c-nc( every prostit«Ate I've ho.& sex with
si11ce tJ.,en.
Q""ite o. few of tJ.,e sex - worker.s I spe..,t time witn
opened lAp to me G\nd tolol me aboCAt tJ-teir fG\milie s,. their
c.hi/&hooc(s, their boyfrienots, o.no( other c-speds of their
lives. I wish I ho.c( the freecioi'Yl to ;..,c/tA de tho.t n1aterial
iYl tne followi..,9 pQ9es - - it woulol have bro1.A9ht- ti-le
wome"' t-o life QS f«-<11 hLAmcvl bei..,9S ancl I'Yiac:le this a
better book. I'm o.SSCAI'l'1iY1«3 that o.ll of tl-1em wat1t to keep

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 FOREWORD

sec..ret tl-te sex-for--money po.rt oF the;r- lives, so I

refro.il'1eol from pLAttins in per.sor1o.l de~o.ils tl-lo.t cot.Aio(
P-ote.r1tio.lly reveo.l their identities if o. po.rtictJ~l~r frieno(,
fo.mily W~ember, lover, or G\cqt...co.into.nce were to reo.o(
this memoir. When I snow HteWI giving deto.ils o.boi.At
tJ.,eir lives, the cieto.ifs o.re eit-her trivio.l or o.bout
mo.tters relo.teo( To their work -- the lo.tter being wh~t
you preSLAmo.bly woulo(n't tell fo...,..;/y G\nol fr-ieno(s who
diolr1't kl'tow yotA were o. prostitLAte , TI-le opi niol"' s I h~ve
the sex-workers pv.ttir19 forti, o.re pretty cowu,.,o..,. Ar1y
of the more id i o syncro.t ic views they express eo( to me,
I've. orr~ittecL. lt'.s o. sho.Yne -- I felt genLAine ().ffec.tion
for mG~~ny of these wome..., o.nd reo.lly wish tho.t tl-1is
no.Yro.tive 9o.ve o. better sense of their persor1o.li"ties.
The no.mes the prostitt..cte s we.,t by were all fo.ke .. of
C.o\Arse..,. bLAt I've c::ho.n9ec:i those ,.,o..,.,es becatJ~se even tney
cotAict be potentiaiCy reve01lir19. For exo.mple_. o. womc,,...,
mi9ht choose G\S her work-no.me the Vlo.me of "' fo.mo~.es
o.ctress she resembles, or tl-te no.me of o. fo.volArite
fie tiono.l ch01ro.c te ..-.
Alfowin9 for some cie.9ree of co.rtoon ex"9sero.tion>
l've cAro.wn Their bodies o.cctAro.tely, or as acciArCAtely o.s
my meYY?ory 0\llows . I 1-ro.ve odtereo( ~spects of their
boc;(ies if they coulo( potentio.lly reveo.l G\n ident i ty--
for instCAVICe, I didr1't olr01w o.ny of the to.ttoos or
unust.to.l piercin9s tho.t some of them ho.d . I've ofiten
cnan9ed their ho.ir - Styfes, pc::.YticLAfG\rly if the hG\ir WG\S
C\rt'"011'19ed in o. distinctive wo.y. While yotA'd r"'ever k...,ow
it fro.-n my dr01win9s, some of these workin9-9irls olio(
howe. blond 1-Jo.ir. ( whether or not they were n<llttAra.l
blondes is C\ different mat"ter-.) I so.w womer1 of
VClriOI.A.S ethnic bo.c::k9rotAnc::h, b .... t I'Wl c::hoosin9 to not
ir1clico.'te who wo.s white_. or blo.ck, or hetd. another
skin co/otAr.
While I've n?colAnteo( the inc.ideV~ts o.11d. conversatioi"'S
th01t rnG~ke lAp this 9rC\phic r1ovel in "' mo.n..,er- tn<llt's.
re~sonab/y fo.ithf .... l to my memoYies, yotA snotA iol keep in
...,.,;VI~ 'tho.t me...,ory is r'IO't precise. I wot.Ald often rerY~ell>7-
!;,er +1-te 9iSt of "' (0"1VerSCA'tion I n~o( with 0. frieno(
b"'t not where or whe,... it ho.ppeV~ed. or wh01t we weYe
do;.,~ G\t the time. I kept "' recoro( of whe.., I saw -the
prostittAtes.~ so I co.n VoVIch for the o.cct.~trac.y of -tJ:..tose
olo.tes .
1'..,_, 9oin~ 'to SOlve n"'OSt of W'1Y tho.V~k-yotAS for Hte
o.fterworc:l, b .... t CAp-front here I do wo.11t to th01r1k The
CanC\ola (otAI'tcil F"or The Arts for 9eneroLASiy o.ssisti'n9
me fi...,OIVJc.iodly while I wrote C\nd drew this work.
c.~ster
B,-oW"7
t>ecel'\'1ber 2.010

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 I love you as much os
ever; ond. I'm sure I'm
always 90in9 to love
you> bt.t1". • • I 1-hink
l'wt falli1'19 in love
wi-th someo"'e
e lse .

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 CHAPTER 1
No. 1... at this poin-t I
jtAs t Wc;\nT t'o dQ'te hin'l.
I don''t even know if
he' ll be in-terest-ed
in wte.
I don'~ ~now. I hQven'-t
said onythin9 'to h ;,.,...
yet. I don't ~P"'ow i f h e's
9oin9 'to feel the
same Wc;\y or
not'.
And even ;f I do
end lAp J.,~vin9 (;\ sextAa I
rel(;\tionsh ip witJ., hin'l,
I do.-,.t ~now if that wi II
mec;\n 'th~'t I'll wan't to
stop hG\vin9 sex
with YOtA.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
 CHAPTER 1

I love li vin9 with

you too. I'm so 9 l01d
I CQ n be honest with
you 01bouf" 'tnis
sort of
stuff.

You're not I'm feeling l;ke my

Qngry or norm01 I, conf"en"t,
jealous or all- is-well- wi'th-
anything ? the - world
self.

No one feels '3ood when his

girlfriend 'tells him tha't
she's fallen in love with some
other '31.AY·

I didn' t say I feel goocf Maybe th01t"

01bout it, but I don·t fee l me01nS y o u
b01cl 01bout i t. don't really
love her.
 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

We're perfectly suited

'to eo.cn other. She's 'the bes-t
9irlfriend I've ever nod.

Just the foci" thot Sne WOIS

oble to tolk to me obotA't this
shows how much trtAst o.nol
openess there is between us.

Plu s.. I find h er enorrYtOtAsly

sextAo.l ly ottroctive -- o.lt-hOCA'3h
I'll a~drnit -thor we ... rorely
h cwe sex onymore .

Bt.~ttho.t's not becouse MY

des i re h o.s dimin ished.

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 CHAPTER 1

Sne h01sn''t stG\rl"ed When they start

hG\ving sex wit-h this hG\ving sex~ THAT'S
9lAY ye't, right" ? when yOI.Ar je01lousy
will kick in.

I 01lrnost wenl" out" of my And lot.Aise ho.d sex with 01

mind wit-h je01lousy when few other gc.Ays while we were
Kris StG\rt"ecA ha~vin'3 se)( going ou't -- I definit-ely
wii"h someone else ofter fel-r jealous t-hen.
w ,e broke up.

rc~inin9 really horol G~~ncA I

It's
don't" WQnt" -to send Justin
home in i t - -

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 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

- - G\nol ... well ... do you.

mind if he spends -the
night- here ?

Are yot..t st..tre ? This won't-

~pse"t you. or anv-th i ""'3 ?
You.'re going t-o be able
to deal with i"t ?

Heyman~ nice to mee-t yot.A.

lhGtnks for bein-:3 cool abou.t
me s"tGtyif'l9 the ni9h"t.

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CHAPTER 1

It acttAodly 8~At you must

wasn't terrible nave been
a1" all. emo1"iol"'ally
devas'toted.

No. I'll admit I'm 0\ little

StArprised, because in similar
situations in the pas-t I HAVE
bee.,.. jealous. But not -this
time.

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 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

If o.ny-thin9, I fel-t 90od. I've -- so when I wo.s lyin9 tnere

never t-hou9nt of jeo.lousy os listenin9 -to those sou.,ds. omd
o. positive emot-ion-- I reo.lized I wo.sn't jeG\IOt.AS --

--well, i1' felt like I'd conctuered Bud it's not no.-turG\1 to no-t
some-thin9 ne9o.tive within feel jealous when something
myself. like 1"ho.1" nG\ppens.

Jeo.lou sy is no-t no.tt.Aro.l -- its

lea,-ned beho.viot.Ar.

... so Sook-Yin osked me if it's And you're 9oin9 to

oko.y if Justin moves in o.nd c.ontinue t"o live tnere ?
I soid
yeo.h.

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 CHAPTER 1

The three of yo!A It's o. big plo.ce -- i t

li ving in one ho.s two bedrooms.
~pcutmen"t ? An~ rYly sn~re
of the rent will
<30 down.

Who.t punishment ? Fre«Adio.n nonsense.

I'm no-t in o.ny If I'm no1"
wo..y s ufferin9, CONSCIOUSlY
o..nd 1"11 be sufferin9,
so.ving money. then l'I'YI no-t
suffering.

When -this whole Jt.es"tin "thin9

sto.rt"ed, didn'-t Soak-Yin brin9
up the possibili-ty -tho."t YOIA
t-wo might conTinue to ho..ve
~ se.xuG\1 reiG\"tionship?

tO
 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

No, and I 'm pre tty sure that,

sexually, things are completely
over b e tween u.s.

living <All together in the SG\me l'...n becoming more ond more
opartrne nt is a c tuolly greG\t". convinced -thot I never want
I get- "to hear oil of 1"neir to have a gir lfriend
"'rgurnents. ever again.

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 CHAPTER 1

Just bec~use you con he~r

Sook-Yin ~nd. Justin fi9hting ?
But EVERY couple fi9nts.

Before Justin entered tne lhere•s no lo,..ger anyt"hin9 to

picture, Sook-Yin and I argued seriously arque about. f c~n
like every other romarrtic just enjoy nG\nging out with
couple. Now we get alon9 her os o friend.
great-.

For instonce, now I C<:;\n t<:;\t k A yeor o.go she would h<:;\ve
to her o.bout finding other flipped out in o jealous r~9e
worn e.., if I'd soid some other womon
Gt"ttrG\ctive . was beautiful--

-- bu"t now -th~t' we·re Now it's Jus tin who hG\s to
not involved, thot's not" wotcl-1 l-lis tongue. 8ein<:3 the
threo.'tening anymore . We friend iS w~y better than
con t01lk obout wh~tever: being the boyfriend.

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 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

look a"t you G\nd. YYle -- we I hope. yov

ge-t along WG\Y better G\S don·t I'Yiind me
friends th01n we did G\S a SOiying SO --
romantic
couple.

-- bv.t thQt I don't think This ho.s

yeG\r you anyThing to do with
were "'Y l'Y'IG\turity or lack of it.
girlfri end.
WOIS
hell.

It's SOI'rlet-ning "'bout the Neither of you had

dynOirY~ic of rom01nt-ic. love . the excuse of being
look o.t- how you fough-t- eighteen.
with your last
boyfr ienc:A.

It 1-u"ppens even wit-h -- bvt being in "' rom01ntic

nice people. 5oo#<-Yin rel01tionship brings up oall
01 wonderful, her insecuri-ties.
consicfen;~~te, l't does t•u;~~t for
generous EVERYONE-- me
person -- too.
 CHAPTER 1

The people I've behQvecl THAT'S tr-ue. But Qren't you

-the worst- to were my lonely? It's been almost 01
girlfriends. E&\ch of you. yeQr since you C\nd
sow me &lt my Sook-Yin
me&\nest Qnd broke
pett-•est. up.

lonely ? No-t o.t all. I live Our- cultt.Are pushes this

with Sook-Yin C\ncl Justin, idea tho-t romC\n-tic love is
ond I'I"Yl C\IWC\YS h&\n9in9 somehow more si9nificon"t
OUT with th01n other
you C\ncl fon.-.s of
Se-th Qncl love.
Joe.

I used to occept- -tha"t as In the lon9 run they're

-tr-ue, but not- anymore. probC\bly uSuC\IIy MORE
Frie.,d'ship l ove and fC\mily ftAif;lling.
love con be 01s
fulf;I,Jinc:J as
romC\nTiC
love.

I've been thinkin9

about why I even
ever wo.n-ted to
ho.ve 9irlfriends.
 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

Aside fron-t love, -there were One: beco.~Ase it's

three reG\SOnS why I wo.nted sociGllly expect ed -- guys
-to hcwe gir-lfriends. don't h01Ve ~irlfriends 01re
considered t"o be losers.

Two : I liked the ego-boost of Bu-t you don't- hG\ve

h01vin9 G\ WOn-tOin wo.nt to to hcwe 01 9irlfriend
hG\ve tho.t sort- of exclus ive -to h cwe
reiGttionship with n-te. sex.

You could nQve o ne-night I don't ho.ve the soci01l skills

s-to.nds wit-h st r01nqers or necessary to pick up women
something like -th01t. for CG\Suo.l sex.

I've on ly ever hG\d sex So does ThQt meo-n you're

with women I've been going -to be celibo.te for the
romo.n"tico.lly involved re s t of your life?
wit-h .

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 CHAPTER 1

I've goT TWO COWipe"ting

desires - - ti-le desire -to nQ.ve
selC, vers us Ti-le desire to
NOT tlG\ve a girlfriend.

Mo.ybe at some point my B"'t I'm noT -thQ.T despera-te

l-lorniness will drive me to ye-t. For t"ne momenT I'm
despercrte measures a,.,d I'll enjoyin9 being single Too
be fo r ced l"o get anotner mucn 1"0 9iVe in TO what
9irlfriend. my penis wanTs.

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 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

He's movin'3 ou-t? If you wo.n"t You think I've been living
ner bo.ck} here'S your d1o.nce. wi-th Sook-Yin o.nd Just in
·co.tAse I've been waiting
for rny chance ?

Whether you've been waitin'3 I'm enjoying being her friend.

for it ·Or no't, why not seize Someone else can ho.ve t-he
'the opportunity now th01t" i t's boyfriend role.
here ? 5ook-Yin's good-
lookin9 ~nd. you love her.

BtAt the boyfrie..,d gets l01id. H01vin9 01 girlfriend doesn'-t

Which iS more impor-tant: mean you. ho.ve c;,uaron"teed
sex or ovoidin9 occ~sionc=-1 access to sex ort any a..,d
fights? 0111 times.

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 CHAPTER 1

Usw:.lly -there's G\ loT of sex The longer <A couple has been
G\T t~e beginning of -the Toogether, -the tess sex
re/01-tionship G\n~ -then it they're nG\Ving.
drops off G\fter tho;t.

Even ort the end of otAr Tt-een yov. 9uys were the
reiG\tionship, Tri s ~ 01nd I except-ion. ThG\t's n ot now i"t
were still n01vin9 sex works for most- couples. As k
all -the time . any mG\rriec:i '3V.Y·

Even if yov.'re rig~'t, mosT

mG\rried people are s-till
howin'3 sex SOME of "the
time -·- yov.·re no't hG\ving
sex at G\11.

OkG\y, yov:ve '301" o. point. BuT

Sook-Yin wov.ldn't wG\nT to
9e1" romo.ntic01lly re-invol ved
'Wi"tn me G\nywG\y.

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 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

Ho.nd me the pro9ram, Where d id I plAT my program ?

J o e ? I wo.n"t "to see I can' t find it.
who else iS o.ttending
"the conven-tion .

Why are Plo.yboy

Playma-tes
at-tending o.
comic- book
convenTion?

s.-.e·s no"t o. Plo.ymo.te. Is there a picture

She's posed for P/o.yboy bur of her in +here ?
they've. ne ver put her in the Let me see.
centre-fold . I don't know why
not -- she's c:30rgeous.

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 CHAPTER 1

Oh! There's Alley What's going on? line-up of

B~99et"t's
booth -- ~nc:f guys... she's ntAgging 01:
there sne is. 9tAy... c~rner~ ...

lhere·s o si9n thot expl~ins

what's soin9 on .... For fif-ty
d.oll~rs she hu9s you, a
poloroic( iS t~ken, ~nc(
she si9ns it.

Bu-t let be rnortifiec( Why d.o I w~nt to h~ve my

if Qnyone s~w me picttAre taken with ner ?
doing it. I've 90t lots of photos o-F
ner ~lreG\dy.

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 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

No, it's not the phot-o th01t
wG\nt ·- whG\t I reG\IIy WCllnt
to get next" to her.
I'd. be p01y in9 f;ft"y dotl01rs
to hove ner put her o.rm
01round me. Am I tno"t
d.esperellte for ell womelln's
'touch?

For ellnother fifty -or -so

I could prob01bly p01y
01 prostittAte .

I wonder now
much prost it-utes
cho.r9e?

l'rfl not" 0'3ellinst the The mG\in reellson why hte

icleG\ of po.ying for sex. never been with G\ hooker is
Anti- prostitution ellr'3~Arflent s because I w ells worried th01t
hG\ve never m01de it would ruin my chellnces
sense to me. with G\ future g irlfri e nd .

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I'm no~ o secretive pe rson -- if I'd hove to tell ~he people lm

I ever whored I wouldn't be close to, and thot wotAid
oble to keep it to n1yse.lf. inc/lAde ony future. 9idfrie.nds
I mi-:tnt no.ve.
~~

Okoy, tnot wos 01 re01son Two yeors 01f-ter bre01king

-the p01s t , blA"t now I'm lAP with Sook-Yin, why om
plonnin9 on no-t h01ving I s till not" po.yin9
onother gi rlfriend . for sex?

Becouse l 'rr~ worried o.bou"t

now it'll look to people -- I 'm
worried thot I'll look
like o. loser.

Thot's not 01 900d reoson .

I shouJdn'-t care whot other
people tni nk.

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 MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

How wo~lcl it even work ? Anci then +here's the risk

Most g~ys who pick up th~t lel solicit Q femQie cop
streetwQikers hQve ~ c~r. dis9uised QS a streetwol ker
Since I don'-t h~ve ~ c~r, how and shed Qrrest me.
would I 90 ~bout i+ ?

No, it's Qll too much - - I'll just

have to do without sex.

Z3
 Do you. m i nd if
1 ,.eG\o
t-hG\ -t DG\n
SG\VG\9e book I
bou.9ht you. ?

zs
 CHAPTER 2

A 21 yeo.r- olol '3UY who's o - - o.nd Don odvises hirYI to

virgin QSI<S ~ow to go obout phone on esc ort and "o.sk
nir·in9 0 prostit~.ete -- wnG\t her
hou.rly
ro.te
iS ".

" Moke on oppointment to meet ''She'll know who.t yoiA want,

i n G\ safe~ mutw~lly G\gree o.ble al"'d she'll know what to do.
locG\tion". Be respectful> let ~er lead,
u s e condoms,.
ond tip the
h~dy. "

He mokes it sound BtAt escort ods don't hatve

so SirYiple Qnol P.hotogropns. How would I
str o.iqhtforword. know ;f o
Moybe I SHOULD porticCAiar
poy for sex. escort
i5 good-
looking
or
I"'Ot?
.........J~~l-1--.,

P;ckil"''3 up a s treetwG\Iker Okoy, I'm

would moke more determined - -
se..,se - - let be ·.uo--.-'0 tonig~t I'm
G\ble to see going to go
if I find her out ond
ottn~ctive. look for
nooker.

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 CARLA

how mtAch money I

sho<.Aid hrin'3 ?
I'll brin9 200
doll~rs. Who.'t
if I 9e-t
robbed?

I' ll leo.ve my wo.tlet here o.+ It's nine -- it's

nome so f don'-t lose o.ny of surely +here
cords. I'll just plAt -the o.re
money some
in my 9irls
pocket. workin9
now.

Maybe I didn't brin'3 enough 200 dollo...-s probo.bly isn't

money. Who.t if I'm supposed enOIA'3h for time wi-th o.
"to po.y for o. hote I room too ? prostitute AND
for o hotel
rOOP'Yl.

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 CHAPTER 2

... G\nd. I don't see o.ny

streetwo.lkers.

Well, I've o.lso

0..-t jQrViS
Street --
I'll Try
tnere.

leT me think .... When I wo.s

90in9 out wi-th louis e there
were olw01ys nookers
no.n9in9 G\roun~ o~tsi~e
ner opo.rtrnei"'T
buildin9 by
Co.dton
Street.

No one's cu·o1.m~ tho.t Workin9- 9irls olso ho.ng out

opo.rtrnenT buildin9. W!'l01t's fortner eQST on Corlton in
9oin9 on ? This iS we•rd. CG\bbo9etown. Tho-t's Seth's
nei9hborhoo~.

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 CARLA

ltei be emb01rro.ssin9 if he
wo.lkec:A by while I wo.s
nego"tio.tin'3 something, but-
l'm n.tnnin9 out of
op-tions.

Nope , no streetwodkers Mo.ybe police pressure ho.s

i..-t C01bbo.9et"own. driven them into other
nei9hborhoods. Mo.ybe
there wo.s o. r ecent police
cro.ckdown. Or mG\ybe I'm
just" too e01dy.

let·s to.ke o. closer look

o.t the escort o.ds.

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 CHAPTER 2

I hcwe n 'T tol~ S ook-Yin I'll h~ve

th~t I'm -thinking of doing
this, s o I wouldn't w~nt to co.ll
~ coall- gid coming
o.ds tno.1"
-to OlAr so.y " in ".
house .

ShotAic( I CGIII
Who.t if the
cops ptAt
fG~ke Glds
in the
papers to
flu.s n
ou-t the
j o hns?

Mo.ybe the y
keep 1"rG~ck
of who's
po.yin9 for
sex. nr
CGIII fro""
Q po.y-
phone.

-
lO
 CARLA

5CAW YOIAr'" CAd, and f'rn And

wonder-in9 l1ow much wher-e is
YOIA chorge. yoiAr --
where
ore yoLA
locO\ted?

I'm very ClttrC\cti ve -- 5- 6 --

pounds -- 35 - C, 24-, 36.

BlAt I sho~Aidn't ThG\-t wa~s tne tr ...tn, b~A.t

thG\t why ma~ke her feel bod
q_~Aestion C~~bOIAt bein9 28?
l~st. It
SO lAnded
like I
decided
no-t to
see ner
beCOIIASe
of her
G\qe..

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 CHAPTER 2

Hi St.e2y. I
SG\W your
acJ, and I'I'Yl
wonderin9 if
you could
give ....,e o
description
of
yourself.

I'm beo.utiful • · I hope Not o.t o. ll -- I'm 130 sounds

blonc:A - - very you don't '2 3 o.nd wei'3h like a bit·
sensuous --5-3-- mind if I 130 pOI.Ands. ynucrh for
36- D, 25, 37. G\Sk how Soi'Yleone
much you who's
wei9h 5 - 3.
and how
old you
are.

Yeoh,
+hot's the
better
way
to do
it.

By endin'3 with the

looks like I'm cheo.p
tho.n like
I didn't
find her
description
of herself
appeo.ling.

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 CARLA

Ce~rl"'s
workin9 later today.., but
we have several other beautiful

Would you l;ke

to he<Ar <About
them?

Cou ld you o. l so Sur e ... hold o n a second ... I'm

descr ib e Carl o S1Apposed. to heAve a wri tten
f o r m e? clescr;ption
of. . .. Where
iS i t?
Vlh . . .

1'1\ay be I can trY. to 9 ive you She just s-tarted working here,
o. description from memory. but I clicl see her brief I y
Let-·s see ... yes'te rd ay.
un ... 1 She's very
actuG\ Hy beautiful,
haven 't in her
r eG\IIy early
met twenties,
Co. ria I t hink ...
yet.
 CHAPTER 2

And where are you.

locat"ed. and. how
n'HACh do you
c.harge?

We're in ~ luxury condo ne~r And A luxury condo ....

j __ and W_. There ~re it'S 120 MaY.be at a brothel
sever~ I for ~ like this there's
bedrooms, half- some kind of
~nd each hour "quality control".
one has and
its own 200
bathroom. for
~n
hour.

Whoever runs this place Are you sure ? You'll hcwe to

probably tries to hire we~it to see her-- the other
~+'tractive women. 91rls e~re cwe~i le~ble
ri9ht now.

Oko.y> Co.rlo. ce~n see you at

three o'clock. Would you
l;ke to be with her
for ~n hour?
 CARLA

Only your first ne~me is Okay, 90 to J _ and w_ a-r

needed, S-teve. He~ve you three. There's a pe~y-phone
been here before? there.
us
Ce~IJ
from
that
pe~y­
phone.

Why does it n~ve 'to be THIS

p~y -pJ,one? Do they ke e p
an eye on
it 50 tho.'t
they can
size up
the johns
beforeh~nd ?

Hi, this is S-teve - - I

h o.ve an opP.oin-tmen't
to see Carlo? I'm oi'
the corner of
J _ a nd
w_ .

Ce~rlo.? I'm $Orry. There must be We have No, I wcu'l-t 1'o see
some mix- up. She won'T be severe~ I Carla. I'll wait
availe~ble other till lf:30.
tAntil '+'· 30. girls
WotAicl you working
l;ke to see here.
someone
else
instea~?
 CHAPTER 2

Go to 3_
s __ . Th e
e ntry
code iS
5·8·3-6.

No, my bike's in the other

direction, 01nd by H''le tin'le
w01lk b01ck to it" Qnd 9et it
lAnlocked I
COlAid be
..,OIIfWOIY to
s_.

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 CARLA

/ ---
C2J u

Wh01t if 01 bunch of 9t.AYS Do.n So.vo.qe so.id "to "til). I

are in the o.p01rtmen"t wonder how muc.n ? Ten
o.nd "they mug percen-t wot.'ld be 12 dollars~
me? 20 percent-
would
be
l't.

But I probably shou ldn'1" ge"t

my nopes up. lnis n"li9h"t
~~u. be o. reG\IIy
dis01ppoin"tin9
experience.

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 CHAPTER 2

Hi Steve. We're on the 5-6· 1· 2> then 90 to

third floor. When you oportmen't
9et -there~ there's o 3·0·6.
locked door- with a
ntAmber- po.c(.

I'm sorry--
third floor:,
press S -6-J-2,
apo.r'tment
3-0-6.
CARLA

There's
1-he
door
with
1-ne.
niA"'ber-
pQd.
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4-0
 CARLA

I wonder ;f she's new to Uh, G\ref"''i' yov.

workin'3 as 01 prostiTute or forgetting
if she's just new to this sornet,.,ing?
particc..lar. . . I gues s this
is G\ brothel .

Damn -- I should nave hG\d

t,.,e money alreG\dv counted
al'\d set aside s o I wot.tldn't
be. fu..,...bling
G\round
in l'l'lY
wallet
like
this .

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 CHAPTER 2

Okay,. jus-t
make yourself
cow.fort-able .
I'll be b~ck
soon.
 CARLA

" M~ke yourself

comf'or"t~ble. "
Does thot
meon I'm
supposed
-to -toke
my
clothes
off?

M()ybe. B~At whQt if somethin9

I shoufd nopP.ens Qnd I hQVe to
~t /e()s -t run? No:. ru
tG\ke keep my ""1--~!!!11
off my shoes on
shoes. for the
moment.

Does this
count QS
port of my
nQif- hour?
 CHAPTER 2

Wow -- tho.t's so r1eo.t. I WritinSJ o.nd

co.r-toons. Do you meo.n, dro.wing for o
c~rtoons on T-V ? living is greG\1".

YotA write your stuff too? So> would you

You must off with o
~o.ve .o. g~od I've been -told mo.sso.ge?
•mo.g•nG\-t.on. th~t.

Oko.y. Well> lets

COWiforto.ble
t-hen.

So> whG\t" kind of comic s do

you dro.w ? 5ttAff like
Su~ermo.n o.nd
Bo.tmon?
 CARLA

Should I
toke m y
glo.sses
off? It's
going to
be weird
le Gwing
tnem
on> but
I wo.nt
"to see
wnot's
hoppenin'3 .

Who't would
like ? Me
o n the
bo tto....,?
 CHAPTER Z

Let me puT
o little
Astro9lide
on you.

104 forgo-tten how u~ - oh

-- it feels TOO
omozin9ly f300d 90od! I'm obout
i t feels to to come!
hG\ve sex !

B~t I've only

been i n her
obout ten
seconds !
Tl1iS NEVER
noppens --
1 At.WAYS
hut
lon9er
when I
weG\r G\
condom!

- - o c.er t oin omoun"t o f

couro9e to do this work --
you never know w hoT kind
of 9UY will
show
up --

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 CARLA

--blAt on the w~y here tod~y YolA don't know wh~t

it suddenly occurred to .,.,e kind of situ~tion you
thGlt you guys are in the might be w~lking
same sc~ry position into. ~~SS~~~
we Glre.

Like, what if there's ~ <3UY t~kes guts to walk

hidin9 in the ap~rtment into a pl~ce like
who'll 'I'Y'Iuq you~ or -- I don't this.
know -- tS,.,ere are all sorts
of unple~sant
poss ibilities.

Why c:Ai~ sne say th~t ?

Could she tell now
nervous I
was whel"'
I showed
tAP.? Can
sne tell
it's my
first
tiYne
p~ying ?_~r!~~(

A tip? 40 I want" to.

dolfars ? thou-:Jh' I
It's no-t didn't l~st
necessar y -- very lon9
You don'-t I was
have to totolly
give I'Yle 1-laP.PY
anything with the
extra. whole
experience.

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 CHAPTER 2

You.'r-e 01n 01n9e I ·- Ar-e

"th01nks so you
l'l'ltACh. I goin9
just rnoveci to
01nd th01t come
eats up see
money.. so me
this will again?
really
come in
n~ncly.
CARLA
 CHAPTER 2

I meo.n> I'm
sure most" of
-them Cllre nice
people--

I'm SCA.r-e, but you won't -- o.nd Tn<llt's fine.

know whcxt they're like you don't I thi..-.k you're
wnen you first cont<llcT know ... worryi..-.c:J for
them-- you know.. nothin9, but I
who -th ey underSt<llnd . I
associo.te wo..-.·t bring o.ny
with. prost"itutes nere .

H1<llnk you. Now

-tell me more
det"o.ils.

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 CARLA

I've gone wi-thouT

sex for longer
thon you l-1owe>
I'M the one who
should've been
next-.

Ws noT like I but-ted

line oheCild of
you.

I didn'T butt in front of you. You could wCillk over to the

I lefT t ·he line you're in -- the pCilying-for-sex line Too. It
free -sex line -- ond I "'oves Q loT fo.ster.
wolked over to the
poyinq -for-sex
line.

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The n why even bother 9ettin9 wos plenty hoppy with the
oral ? A blow-job with o blow-job she c;tave me.
condo.n
is no
fun .

It felt ... odd, but not clinical.

And she wosn't cold. She
WG\S very
friendly
and
nice.

sz
CA RLA

d isturbin'3 ,
b~At it's
QISO
good
gossip .

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 CHAPTER 2

He was upset" but" not" for any Ri~ht. Do YOU have an

reason connected ~o o moral opmion on the morality
principal -- he's bother-ed of pr-ostitution ?
beca«Ase yo«A're 9et-tin9 laid
anCi he's
not.

be /e9ol, b«At
that's not
the some
thin9 OS
saying it's
ri9ht.

I'm no-t sure that I co.n

address it as on issue of
s imple ri9ht ond wron9. To
be honest it just seems
sod to me.

One wot.Aid hcwe to know

how she views sex to know
whe-ther- or not" it's
sod for
her.
 CARLA

For some women it -- bu"t for o-thers Ws prob01bly

be terrible to hG\ve no worse thc.m
sex for money -- it iS for you I h01te h01vin9
"to dr01w an to dn~w
illustra-tion. illustr01"tions
to mo.ke
money.

Oko.y. some illustro.to,.s ho.'te -- but I'm sure thG\t

;llustr<~~tion, but the,.e ARE them like it -- or 01t
illus"tro.-tors who like the it" G\S no worse
work . Yes, some thG\n G\ny other
prosti-tu-tes job.
hG\te being
prostitu-tes --

I wonder now things will

90 with me G\nd CG\rlCo\?

I'm 90in9 "to cont-inue TO I wonder how long she's

see he..- for G\S long <~~s she to work ? How dose G\
wo,.ks 01s 01 r elationship will develop
prostitute. between
us ? ,}.,~~~,_~~~
 CHAPTER 2

Th01t doesn't This cloesn't

seem like m01ke you w01nt
sornet..,il"19 to stop bein9 my
you'cl d.o. friencl, CJoes
it?

No, of course not-- it's just I ~on''t. I clon't know

we ire{. How clo you know wl-101t her situation is.
she doesn't j.,ove S..,e works in 01n
a pimp? 01p01rtmen't
with
sever01l
other
women.

M01ybe it's like 01 co-op But you don't" w01n't' to

where they r-un i"t support 01 sys+em -th01t
collectively, or m01ybe 01 enriches Q
guy runs it. - - - - -""' pimp.
I don't
know·.

Well, I hope she goT' to

keep mos-t of -the money
I 901ve her; 01ncl I hope
no one's be i n'3
violenT'
with
her.

S6
 CARLA

You know, "ta~kin'3

G\dv01nTG\9e of
someone in
on unf01ir
wo.y.

It's wron9 for No, not neceSSG\rily. lr

someone who's would depencA on -the
38 to no.ve sex circumsto.nces.
with someone
who's
21 ?

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CHAPTER 2

WhG\t
time?

I don't wG\nt to
ej"'cu.lo.te so
qu.ic.kly G\9Qin.
Th is t-ime t'll
jerk- off
o.t home
before 90in9
to the
brothel.

S6
CARLA

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 CHAPTER 2

didn'T evel'\ wo.it If I wen+

two week s eve..-y two
""ill!~....,...~\"1"-':tl"o..J-t'_ betw e e.., weeks. -tho.t
visits. WOIAid be
I don't 26 times
know if o y eor. ?.6
if I con multi plied
o.fford by 160
+no.t on G\ dollars
regular e q~..tG\IS --
bG\SiS.

-- 't. l60 dollars 01 yeG\r -- multipli e d by 11 e qt.tols

that's qCAite o. bit. Eve..-y 2,1 ZO d o llars o year.
three weeks t not 's more
WOCAid b e mo.no9eo.ble .
seventeen
times o
yea~r.

••11 bet I anntAodly spe nt didn't hove s ex

o.boiAt tno.t rn1Ac"1 ;.., onywhe..-e
relo.tion ne01,.
to bei""'3 seven1"een
Sook-Yil"''S times
boyfriend . i.., the
lo.s-t yeo.~
that- she
WG\S my
9irffriend.

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 CARLA

IT'5 STARTING TO
HURT,
Y'KNOW .'

I - I'm s on··y. Do
you -- shoul~ we use
more lubricant?

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6 4-
 CARLA

No, not today. look, Glt leas-t

feel right "tGlke 1-lolf --
tGlkin9 it twenty
tocioy. dolla..-s.
I did
e njOY
.-.nyself
for
mos -t
of -the
se ssion.

6S
 CHAPTER 2

Wh01.t hoppened there? Surely I'm r1ot the first

Why did she 01.sk why I mar1 she's encoul"'tered
w01.s s"toppin'3 ? Wasn't it who does thot.
obviou.s? I was p01.usin9
so tha~
I didn't
COII'Yle
too
quickly.

Well, I do.,·t hove to rnoke

+he decision right now.
I have three weeks to
fi9ur-e ou+
who"t I
waf'lt to
do.

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 CARLA

The second. time I s~w her, Obviously I WG\S tryin9 to do

we went throu9h G\ lot of the SG\rne tod.G\y. I guess,
positions G\"'d the sex l~sted for her, G\ hG\If- hour
m~ybe session
twenty doesn't
minutes . t'YleG\n
twenty
minu.tes
of
fu.ckin9.

In the future I'll try

limit myself to ten
minutes of
sex in ~
-thirty
minute
G\ppointment.

67
I'm co.H ; ng
o.bot.AT Tir'IO..
How .-rH.ccn
does sne
cnc~~r·ge?

69
 CHAPTER 3

Neu..- No, "todo.y'S no't

C- gooc:A for me.
C\nc;( How ~bou-r
R_. Mond~y?
Wh"T
T i me

She looks like

She'S in her
thirties,
she's no't
thin> she'S
rtot
busty~
CAn~
she's no't
p,.etty.

70
 ANGELINA

You're no't
Q cop..
are
yo~?

I 'll be rig nT
bG\ck. MG\ke
yourself
corf\forn"ble .

71
 CHAPTER~

Wny ~ i~ I co.re ;f I l-·HArt'

her feeli~gs ? She lie~-­
sne's 1"\0t in G\ny
w~y like the
descript'iOI"l
in ner
ad.

I CG\n't hQve sex with her -- ' sJ-tould ~G\Ve Bu-t I

she's 11ot a.r a.ll sexCAally WGllked O..WGly. o.lreo.dy
G\ttrGl·c t'ive to me. 1 I Still g~ve
snotA ld~'-r can. her the
n01ve YYloney.
co~e

7Z
 ANGELINA

Don't" be
OlfrOlid. We'r e
just wom e ..... .
Come out
nere .
WnQt?
Who
are o.ll
tne people
out there?
They weren't'
There before .

Fou r of tne"' are

una"ttr-Olctive, bur
t w o of -tnern CO\re
re allv. good
looking.

73
 CHAPTER~

I'm
getti..,g the
imP.ression
thcu· !one cA.; df"''T
w~nt ro be c.nosen.

U._,, if yOI.A'd
r~"tner no't, I
c.Qn pic.k one
of t ne otner
girls.
 ANGELINA

'lov. looked ..e~lly tAns.ure

ou:t 'there. If you. don'~
want 'to do thiS l'ol
v.nde rst'a n d .

Don''t 9e't me wrong -- I - - blA1' ;f you.'re

think you're gorgeot.As~ otnd. uncomfortable obot.At
1 f"eodly WCAf'\'t to.•• v.l-t ••. you "thiS, I CQn
k11ow,., be pick one
il"'tima.te of "the
wi-tn other
you-- 9irls.

the Gtd WGtS Gt

descrip1'ior'l
of I-ter;
r'lO't
T;r1a.

75
 CHAPTER 3

It looks like It~ cliffictAI't ftAckir'lg

t-he b,.-c:a is her-· she's rec:ally
S'TQying dory.
on.

l'm 90ir'lg to WGlr'lt" to see Yeah~I mec:an,

you Qgc:ain -- wl-tc:at" nc:ame you don'T
snoCA ld 1 01.sk fo,.- ? no.ve to g;ve
me you.r
reQI
nc:ame --
just.. you.
kr'IOW>
your
working
nc:ame.

76
 I wG\nt l"o see
09G\in_. bul"
l'wt G\ISO
CLArious
to see
the petite
18 yea,.- old
described
rtt "this
G\d..

11
 CHAPTER 4-

S~e's ,..ecally cu;te,

bu't sli1e's so t;,.,y.
Sl-te COULD be
te, bC.A t s"-e c.oc.tfc:J.
also be younger.
It's ho.rO( 'to
-tell.

On7 ThG\T'S
~few
frie,.,cts.
ViSi'ting.

Do,.,•t worry Un7 you're 18.

a~oou't the.-n~ rign't ? I meca,.,~
tt-ley'll be a~bte no't
yo~.A're
TO C\rnUSe UNDER 1e,
t..-.e.-nse lves for are you ?
01 little wnile.

16
 ANNE

Her body'!>
kinciQ tfte
oppos it"e of
Ange I i nQ'S_.
but" ·~·s
jus't as
QmQl:ing.

IWG\S 1"ellil'l9 ""'Y S"tep -

W!Other G\bou1" yOu.r
whoril'l9 and sne WG\S
<iiS9U.Sf"eci. She
SQiGf, "He'S
obviously
~o"t no
self-
respect." --·"

1 don' t" know,. I Hlink I' ve

go"t a pret"'ty h;g.., opinion
of myself. f f"hi..,k I've
901" G\
lot of
re.spect
for
rv~yse I-f.

79
81
CHAPTER 5

li" ' S G\
....,onster
in o.
mini- skir't!

62
 BACK TO ANGELINA

Do you.
remember
YY~e?
S'teve.

~ tube of lubric:Qn"t
Th ere's
on -tho.'t Cho.ir --
 CHAPTER. S

How long
ho.ve yot.A
lived in
Toronro ?

How c;t;~ 1
not notice
tnQt ? 1
g~..<ess 1
followed
her reo.d.
in not
speQking
mu.cn.
 comic.- books ?
Tho.'t'S
awesome.

Tne nex1' time you. come st.... ff's quire d;Herenr

'to see me, you. shou ld from A,..ch;e, bu.'t I'll
bri..-.g n-le one. I lASed bring yOtA
'to l;ke Archie comics. s omet-hing.

6$
 CHAPTER 6

Before I
show it" t"o
you I
sl-loulc:A
expfoin --

'lo~Ar reol no.n1e He led "two rebellions

iS C:hest"er ? Wnot·s Qgoinst" t-he Conod;on
This non1e? government" it'l -the
too-;s Rye -e l nineTeent-h
cent"urY-. Yov.
probably
stv.d;ed h;s
STory in
history
closs
in
s<.hool .

66
 &ACK TOANNE

Oh yeoh.
Q.funny
version
of t-he
story?

I've bee .... thi..,king obov.t

Tho-r com ........enl' your
step-I'Yiom
rYlode
obou't
me .

Yeoh, he's s-till

And why iS he
Becou.se
1-le got-
rejected.
Be co use
he needs
sorneo..,e
TO be
in Jove
wiT~-\
him.

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 CHAPTER 6

WithotAT ·· they're insectAre -- t-rhey

voice r"'eed "to nG\ve
so.ying so ..... eone
" I love o.ffirr"r"~ing
you> " l-Ie tho.t they're
fo.lls IOVG\ble.
O.P.O.rt.
Tl-'IG\'t'S
why
people
"to b e
.--eeGt
11"1 r o mG\ntic.
re IG\tions .,..ips - -

The guy who The 9t.A.lf who's po..ying for

respect· sex iSn'T using seXIAG\1
is the reiGlt"ionships to
gv.y who snore vp
Gtoesn't" o. fr~gile
need "to ego.
be in o.
r"OMG\r"'t"iC
love
relo.tionship.

Well, 1 guess it's possible

-tl-lere MIGHT be peopte
in rOn1GII.r"'t"iC
reiG\tions h ipS
for o"tner
reo.sons.

The fo.c.t' t"'o."t you're

r"'"\o..king o. b ig deG\1
G\bOtAT rr"'Y
s-rep-mom's
co.....,ment
mo.kes
.....,e
"t-hink
m01.ybe
sne
wo.s
righ"f.

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:SACK TO ANNE

Tner-e's
O.Yiorl-ter
girl wno
works
here--
if you
WO.YIT to
see ner
so metime,
it's oko.y
wi-th
me.

89
Her- fac.e is reas onably
attractive, but "those
boobs look t-oo fake
for n'lY lrkin9.

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 CHAPTER 7

Sne·s
obviously
really
caref... l - -
"this ;s
~ ver-y
tnorough
iYISpectiOr't.

HARDER .'
fASTER .'
OH
GOD.'
LIKE
THAT!
fASTER.'

9Z
 Fine.
She
WQS
n;ce..
but"
-those
fake
breasts
were
~i5t"t..crbing .

Yot..cr brec:As~s feel

-the way breasts
snot.Aid. Yov:re never
going
to get
breOt s~ -
i rw'lpl~n1'S
are
yov.?
 CHAPTER 8

I do"''t know. They're

as firo·n as
-they once
wer-e -- I
can 'tell a
difference.
You
shouldn't--
your
brec;\sts
are
perfect.

whCllt" we do --
comic-books
like.
"thiS.
BACK TOANNE

All you needed -ro so.y

wo.s one worQ~ yes. No
elo.bora~1'ion wGls neces.so.ry.
Yov. didn't ho.ve -to show
her yo tAr comic.

She ASkEP me -to give her

one of ""'Y comic.S. So I
go.ve ...,er -the -first
;ssv.e of R•e'.

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 CHAPTER 8

No. It's .-.o"t nc:;u··o( "to

imQgine -thQI"t sne
migh-t no't nQve
"tnQT much
interes-t
i.-. nis'tory
QnO
-therefore
wov.loll"''t
ho.ve
found a
inl'eresting.

I G4iGtn'f" WQnt "to ptAT ner on I'd. rtQVe -to know. I'd
-the spot ;f sne d;ddr l;ke nQVe O.Skeo( ner.
it. She WQS
probQbly
being
di,:?lomotic
in no't
so.y<ng
Qny-t&,;ng .

lodking -- 9ettin9 To know

-the girls o bit-- it'" jtAst
odds "to -the w"iole
experience--
mo.kes i-t
seenn Jess
cold. Qnd.
impersono.J.

ideo: ;f you
WQn't o
sextAo.l
experience
tnQ't'S noT
cold ClncA
impersono.t --

96
97
 CHAPTER 9

Here•s Ot'le for

Q girl nQmed.
Sus01n. ine
p~one
nurY~be~
indicOites
workssheJ~~~~
tl-'lo't
in 'the
s01me
b~otnel
<AS
C01rlo..

don't look How did yo~..A expec.t

wo.y I WQS me -ro look ?
expect-ing
yOt..A "1"0
took.

Wno:t tit-s ! She's go-r -the

body of o. c.f<ASSic PIQyboy
Plo.ytYT~o'te.
And s he's
got Qn
oko.y fcu:e
-too. No't
greOit..
bu-t
oko.y.

She's licking <AI'ld sucki1119

my bo.IIS -- I wish
sne would.,·t- d.o
-tho"t. l't seef'l"ls
unso.f'e . But- i t
would feel
<Awkward
to tell
her 'to
stop .

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 SUSAN

lhey F~EL reo.l, bVt"t they

look too gooc< to be -true.

No, they fel-t od~ -- yours

feer ... breo.st-l;ke.

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 CHAPTER 9

I'm looking ~'t o. web-site Yeo.h, l;ke, which girls CAre

wl-eere johns wril"e rev;ews pretty, which ones o.re c.Agly,
of prostit-ute s. wno.'t they'll do sexually_.
o.tl t-no.t sort" of stuff.

Ex01c:tly -- it 's like movie There Olre o. whole bunch

reviews or book revie ws. of these prostitu'te-review
web- si-res. I so.w o.n Qd for
Ol"'e in
Now..
01nof
-tn011"
one
led
me to
o-tl-lers.

On, -this is 0111

QI"'OnymOIAS --
+.... e guys
I wov.l c:l use foke
ko.ve nomes.
tno .... ghr
tho.t most"
johns
wot..d dr1't
want 'to
be pt..tblic
aboi.At this
Stt..tff.

Anyw01y, I'm trying - - bc.At I co.n't fi<3c.Are

to figt.Are Ov.l" 0111 'the wno.'t o. 8 · 8 · 8 ·J
~brevo~tions. G·F·E I me~n.. it's
iS - -
~pp~ren'tly obviously
me~ns Girl- some SOI"''t
Friend- of blow-job
Ex per ie"lc.e -- but I
F- S rne~ns co.,'t
Fu.II- figure
Servic.e, OV.'t
whic h those
meo."ls first
sex-- two Bs.

tOO
 SUSAN

TnQr "'"'kes
condom less
Tnere·s o.
review of
CAn Ant'le
on here--
1 wonder
if it's
o.bOI.A't
"the
Anne
l'r'Y'I
seeing.

'toned. til'1y boc:X. "Moved on to F-S d099Y·

Smo.ll boobs. Sne st(;\rted getti~'~9 reQIIy
Doesn't juicey o.nc:;(
kiSS. C-B·J. t'Y'IOOining.
Howe Flipped
ho.ol her over
better." o.ru;(
S'tc;\r'Ted ··--

How co.n tnis I'""' c:A;S'tlArbecA Anc:A~ ,oT To defenc:A porn, bLOT
be dtS.'t tArbtng -thGit I waTch -there iS somethit"19 a bit cA; fferenT
for someone SO I'YH.ACh GlbOI.At thiS .
who porn . The wornen i n
WQ'TGh>eS po r n know
porn t haT whaT
(;\I mos-t They're c:;(oing
2~ iS for pt.~blic
hours COnS IA....., pTiO,.
0.
G(Qy?

Prost i tt.~tes, on Well, ;t's no-r don'T know. It

the oTher hanoi, like tnese jt.~st seem s ...
expect a mec;~si.Are reviews seecAy or
of... privGI c y and 01re Somethin9.
diScret io n printin9
fro...., their -the
johns -- 9irls'
don' t reQI
they? nQmes.

tOt
 A
f,-;e,...ot
of mine
WellS
doin9
i1;. 01nCI
s..,e
convinced
""e ~o
"try if".

I worked
G\"t -the
She ploc.e she
WellS, li ke, worked
" Jt.ASf" -t,-y for .-nQybe
it- ell few Cl hOIIf-yeG\r
cAClyS -- if before t
yot.A don'-t s"toa r~ed
like i'f> working
yotA c~n nere wi1"h
'\LA if". " At'YtellncAQ.

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 CHAPTER tO

l hey 're I; ke I'Y'IOvie rev;ews..

only tl-tey're abotAt... girls
J;ke yot..~.

l\lo~
I've
never
hec:Arci
Glbot.AT
this. Are
-there
t"'eviews
of n-1e ?

I read this one site co.tted I wrote one of the...., . t

-the Toronto Escor-r Review
Bo01rd 01nd~ yeo.h,. there
o.re severo.! t'eviews of
yotA on
there .
only SOlid good 't h ings
01bot.At yot..t~ of course .
A ll of yot.Ar reviews
are posi'tive.

104
 &ACK TOANNE

Diol you check stAre if I WOlrt"feci

revrew 1"o r-eG\ol reviews
web-site <llbou"f me> so I
-tnQt 1 G\Skeol o
"fold you frie..,~
obou"'t? of mi..,e.
wno's
Q.SO
;.., tnis
btAsir~ess
"to reod
the""'
for Yl'le.

No... noT 01-1 ye01h~ 1 thir1k

ArYlG\rtoiG\ -- 't..'HS yotA n'te..,tio..,ec:.f
friend her before. She.
iS ot the looked
plc:~~ce I G\t -the.
use~ t'o reviews
work . for rYle,
She's -the G\nd she
o.,e who rotd. ....,e
con'llincecl bosicolly
me -to w hG\T
work 1"he. 9tAYS
there . wrore..

She so.id, '' On my god,. I'm I guess SOWle of -the

reOI.d.ing S'ft.Aff o.bot.At you 9tAYS cor~ be pretty
I never knew ou•1ol never e)(plic.it in their
w01n"te~ -ro kt"'ow." olescnptions. TnCA't's
\A.IYtQ"t it"
SOtAnole.ol
l;ke. from
wn"'-r my
frien~
so;ot. So I
dioln''t 90
on t,.,e.
Sit-e.

105
 CHAPTER 10

No> I Think iT Ye01n, ;f -the 9«-tys are

would rrtOike rrte writ; n9 good "things o.bou.T
uncomfor~~ble. you.> wh;c:.h they 011re in
But I your case> then
9tA€SS a·'s free
i"t'S Ci\averTiSing
9000 fof' you.
~0
be
t~IJ.ced
o.bout
on
there.

Wov.ld you
prefer ;t-
;f we go't
~o9eTher
0.1' Q
d;fferent-
"time of
do.y?

I don't' like drunk client's --

they're 'the wors't. Those
Wnen o.n~ 9t.tys wan bi9 pen;ses.
yo~ 1 wis"'
work all n-~y
'"' 'the clients
evel'lin9S> were
very like
often you.
ti-le
9UYS
atre
drunk.

106
 &ACK TOANNE

c~e't> cio.-t't"
eve~ do tnat
a~goin o~ I will
sma~s.,.. your
f~c.e in .

I'm 9IO\d TO see .so...... eone . 1

was beginning TO tlrtink
the world hao forgot'ten
"""e.

I wish Who.'t you. SQid e 01rl ier

I WOIS. Qbov.t FebruQ.ries odwa~ys
FebrtAo.rie s being slow -- i't implies
are tho..'t you.'v e been doing
always this work for more
slow. 1"nQn one
Fe brt.AQry.

10'1
 CHAPTER 10

I 9uess it's rt.otde to press Well, I COin see why you

01 l01dy on 01 q_uestion cloim to be 18 - - yot..t
rel01ted to her 01ge, but.. certatinly
well... yo<.A're StApposed. look like
-to be 'IOtA
18. COI..(Id
be.

In f01ct, when I fir$"t SOIW I wos considering it. I'"""

yotA.. I w01s worried. ~ha~t g latd I ~idn't. of COI.Arse, bu't
yo<.A ..,...ig"'t be YOCAnger. I 1 w01s worr ied -rhat't yotA
w01sn''t SCAre ;f t shoCAid migh't be
s-ta~y or ,---.,.-,rl tAnoleroge .
no't.

Ye01h, they ..,...01ke --like, "Oh, I've got -r-o go to

Olppointme..,ts,. but' tJo\e bonk-matcn;ne TO get"
when I open the money.,"
door Olrtd 01nd.
tl-ley then
OIC.tCAC).IIy they
see Wle... dOrt'"t'
they COn'\e
m01ke ba-.ck.
exc«Ases --

I've 011 WQ.yS ().SSU rned. CCi\n'-t be bec01use you're

that they d;d...,'t find """e unatt"trOict;ve. And you
orttretctive ... but mCi\ybe 'the certCi\irdy m011'cn
re011 'the desc.roption
reason in your
they Qd.
lef-t
wo.s
'COl CASe
"they
thought
I wo.s
unoleroge.

106
:BACK TOANNE

11-lelt" I"YYokes ......,e feet

bett"er. I know , •......, not"
,_....,..._.every guy's
-type> but"
you still
feel~
bit b~d.
when it
see n-1 s
tike.
you·re
being
rejected.

109
 (O~I~ yOU 9iVe n'le 0
descrip-tio n of your~e lf ?
I'm 22, 110
po~Anc:ls,
IVe got an
o.thletic
body~ I
look l;ke
a model,
, ,.,
Q very
sensuc:d
person .

111
 CHAPTER 11

Chestel'", J'm sol'"ry-- so..,.,e-th i ng

CC\,....,..,e I.Ap. I'll be t,_,ere soon .
Give me ten more

OkGly> bu't
I've been
"'Glnging
out- il'l the
doYlu"t
shoP. -roo
1011'19
now.

I don''t wa n"t
"tO buy c:tnot-her
donut> so I'm
going to be
outside on 'the
r'IOr'th -e c:tst
corner.

lnG\t- guy keeps looking o't

me. Is he G\ cop ? 1$ this
some kincA of
sting?

t12
 WENDY

How I"Y''tACh
longe r iS
she 9onnCA
be? r
should
jUST
leove
now.

A bit" on -tlrle el-l ~Abby Side.--

bod -teet-h-- t1o"t ""91y, blAT
not" re01lly
gooc(-
looki""9
ei-ther.
Do I
wonT
t"o
wolk
QWGI'y ?

I'J'VI so
sorry
for Well ~
be i n<3o she
l~te . seei'Yis
I wos frie..,dly,
h01vin9 Qnd it's not
problems like she's
wi-th "''1 IGI'neUord. hic(eOI.AS.

I'm SO sorry.
un.., would you
7"'_ _.,. mind giving ""'e
+he money now ? I need
;t- "to p~y the desk-clerk

tt3
 CHAPTER 11

And
could
you
WG\it
over
by
H'l~i"
door?

YeCln, I'"' gonn~ So I'"' s upposed J'"" going

p~yfor -the roo ......... -to w~i"t ou-t -to go in
then I'll come nere by tn<:At -the front
ge-t you . door? entre-nee
I don'-t wh;le
VJG\nt +he you
desk- clerk St()y
to see nere.
you.

Af-ter I'v e pGllid for +he

room, I' ll le-t you in
.__ _~"tl-'lrougn t-h~t
Side- door:

Oh, you know ""h~-t ? It's

okay. Why don't you jus-t
Col'Y'Ie in
wii'h
l'l'1e ?

tH:
 WENDY

\ . _.
"

He
thot,\gh"t
you
were my
boyfriet"''d.

Oh, you know

wh~t-? I forgot-
to bring
condoms.

115
 CHAPTER 11

Thi s is t~rnin9 in -to a Are you sure

bit of 01 n01ssre . I -think I con't' dO
I'm just anything for
90in9 to 90 yotA?
horne.

I was il'l
sue h a
ru sJ,>
Olo'ld
'tOciC\y
has
been
such o
cra-zy
day
for
me.

116
WENDY

117
 GlfWGlyS
so
quie"t
w,_.,en
you
COI'Yie.
It-'s
nG\rd
-to
t-e II
when
yoi.A're
f;n;sl-,ecA.

119
 CHAPTER 12

Hey, i-t
looks l;ke.
some one's
on 1-,er
period.

Relax, I'm
noT bothered
by Q little
blood.

'lolA t.Ase one of those

men$Tri.AQI spon9es.. right

1 promise l&-,e very firs1' G(Qy I did.

l'l'VI not -this work I 901" nny period
90in9 -to ri9ht" before. my f;rsr
write. customer arrived. .
about"
-this on
Terb.

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 &ACK TOANNE

I w~s freaki..,q ou-r and It WG\S -the first" time

s~;c(, " I CGln'f' do
-r~ is ! " Bt.A"t t.ASed one, al"'d I was
ol"'e of the other girts worried -that" s o""'e
gave me a s po..,ge. blood
would
COWle
-throt.Ag~
Q.nyway,
but it
workeo(
fine.

Bc..-t then ~t the enoC of I was tot~lly panicking- -

the day I couldn' -t get it" "On ""Y god, nr never get"
ou-t -- it" was stuck this sponge out!" But of
in course 1 did get iT O<A~·
-there . Even"tw"lly.

Wha-t do
you do
be-tween
cl ients ?
Do you
ge-t
bored

Are there ever times when

something really dramatic
is about to happen il"l tne
soap you're
watc'-'iing --

121
 CHAPTER 12

Isn't -th0\1" A bit. No-r

O\nnoyin9? rectlly.
Amc;\noG\'S
wo<t-chin9 "too~
and she fills me
on wh(;\tever
I YYliSS.

T..,e lo ~•t
few 'times
I've seen
Anne I' ve
felt err~pty
ofterwQrds.

122
 &ACK TOANNE

Are the people who believe

in roma nT ic tove righT ?
Do yo(,( n eeol
SOn"te SOrT of
comrnitrnen1"
for a sexua l
relationship
to stay
satisfying?

- -.

lZ3
 CHAPTER tz

There i t iS G\'3G\in -- -thG\"t'

emp-ty feeling. MQ.ybe
1 jus-t neevt
-to see
soW~eone
else.

If J'I'YI in 01 criSiS, s houlo(n't - - G\nd G\S fo.r o.s W~y sex-

I feel like I'W~ in 01 cr;s; s ?
I'm persOnG\IIy nCAppy~
!:ml'mr.........._ work-wise I'""
proo(u.ctive --
life goes, l'wt enjoyil"'l'3 it'.
Where·s 1-he criSiS ? This
iSn't' G\ crisis, it's the
wisdowt of G\ge.
iiii-...~

124
 BACK TOANNE

After- all these year-s I now Romantic. love iS bulls'-·tit;

r-ecognize w"'a"t makes me anol l'n-t no"t going -to was~e
ho.ppy G\na hG\ve ch~nged any mor-e t;wte chaSil'lg if·.
my life accordin9ly.

T"'is is obvio~.Asly a
del;cate subjec-t
for- SOMEbody.

t25
Yeah ... uh ... Di~ne. It's l't doesn't- I hoven•-t? I
nice 'to meet-... yo<.c. sound like me01n .. . uh ...
you n~ve who"t?
-th~"t noi'Yie
me.-noriz.ed
yet-. J 9uess
yov..
ho.ven'i"
been
working
here
long.

121
 CHAPTER 13

Is she on I CQn't" -- I don'-t--

drugs? She ---~~I CG\n't find .-ny
seen1s kind pGln"t ies. f had
of O~T tnern before
of i"t. 1"1-le
las-t
guy
~AJhO
WG\S
here--

It wouldl'l''t su,-prise me .
1 heG\r t-l-lo1' t-ne re G\re lots
of pQnty-fet-isa.,;s-ts
out "there.

IZ8
DIANE

129
 DG\nielle's no't ;..,
toc:l<>y. Sl-le'fl be
' " on MondG\y~
blAt we hcwe
several other
girls working
tod.o.y.

Th01nl<s, bv.t"
Da.-.;e lie's t~e
one I w01nt"
-to see. I'll
CG\11 bG\ck on
MondG\y.

13t
 CHAPTER 14

How long
h"'ve yot.A
been doing
'this
work?

Three yea.rs. Bu't I t!a.ven' t" I mo.de more money

been here -tho.t whole d.oin9 out-calls
-time . I st"a.rre~ off "thon I do Why?
cloi ng ou.t"ca.IIS. working here, ·
bLAt I prefer
being here.

It 's less iSolo.ting workilflg Anot ;.., be-t w e e"' cl ient"s

;.., o plo.ce like this wi"tJ.l we ca.n wa.t'ch T-V or
other girl s . u.se the computer. Ws
much nicer wo.y
of workin9 .

132
DANIELLE

Take
;t·
easy,
Sook-
'f;~-­
l'n-t
not"
use~
"to
thiS
vnu.c h
fewuJ~Ie.
contact".

Are you 90nno

V101ve lunch wi-th
u.s,. Sook-Y;n ?

How's Sook-Yin
get-t-ing o./on9
with her new
boyfriend?

Are yotA Are you. stilt

k;~~;n9 ? get-t;ng <Along
I'm witl, Sook-'lin ?
enjoying
""Y
sex- life
w01y too
rnvch
t"o be
jeolovs.

133
CHAPTER 14
 TH15 15
THE ~EST
BLOW - JOP>
OF M'V
Uf£!

Uti~ girl
was Kindo.
Silent' o.nd
SCAlfen
before
we got'
undressed,
but' now
she's going
wtlcl!

135
CHAPTER tS

136
 JOLENE

S&.,e•s
delibera~tely
pfOICing
her hoir
over
her
foe e.

Who't o contros't --
so energe-tic
while sucking
"'"Y cock.
bu't
now
it 's
li ke
she's
de a~ d .

ln ste01d I'll jus't

moke 01n effor-t
to come 015
q,tAickly
G\S I
COin.

I gc,cess she wos

1-tor~ to get "'"e
come duri ng
The blow-job
so tho t I l"r--'--r:::i.L
would..,'"t
fuck her.

137
 YeCAh~ I' ve been
bc.csy Wi-th ThiS
Qno( 'tho1" -- work
and wha"f- not'.

MQybe -the reCAson

I'd been feelin9
ernp'ty CAf'ter
seei"'9 ner
WG\S ThG\'t
I'd been
seeing
her too
often.

139
CHAPTER 16

Sc.ratc"'
Tho"t
theory.
1'..-n
feelin9
e l'l'\ Pr-y
019GHn.

ti-0
 Unfriendly
no't very >
P,ret-'ty _. no
blow-job --

11-l
th;s is Ch ester -- I ho.v e I',.., in my car
"'"' appoin'trYtent f o r r ig ht now,
twe lve? o n ..ny w ay.
I'll be the r-e
i n t- wet1ty
m ; n LAtes --
c a ., yo tA
wa i t ?

--
r-- . ' .
 CHAPTER 18

-/
./ D-.
.·.. /
/

Hi Che-~-ter, ,.,.....
sorry for keepi""9 you
wt:liting -- +..,ere were
SOWle unexpected
tn"ffic problems.

No+
+nQt-
fQr--
I live
in w_.

I wan+ To WliJ"'iwtize +he

chGtnce t..,Gtt one of ""Y
clients will be someone
I know.
 GWENDOLYN

wo.s very Anci s he'S t"'Ot >V~O.king o.

friendl y sound. -- she's not oc-ting
before like she's enjoying -th is.
the sex
started>
but
now her
fo.ce is
like on
i"'po.ssive
mosk.

~ - 01 pros1'i'tu"te who's not

going "to put on o show
pretending
f'o enjoy Qn
experience
-thaf'
she's not
enjoyi ng.
I-t's
honest.

A legit
massoge parlour
oro.
rub-and-1"ug ?

14-5
 CHAPTER 18

It's tess work to jus"t

ho.ve. sex wi-th the guys
ins-teo.cA of ""O.SSG\'3in9
them.
And
you
n'lo.ke.
more
money
t-oo.

I noticed you cho.n9ed your

o.d. "to reo.cA,
"9entlernen All of my
over "thir'ty friends o.re in
only'~ Why? their twenties.
I wo.n"t to
rno.ke sure
tho.t none of
thew. codf
me.

Ho.ve No, but I ho.d o. close I diS9uised n1y

you COl II. A guy phoned voice and told him
ever ond I re.co9ni'2.e~ hiS I chQr9e 600 for
ho.d voice -- he wo.s o.n o. ho.lf-hour.
01 ex-boyfriend of
client l'l"'ine.
who
turned
out
to be
someone
you
knew?

14-6
 GWENDOLYN

lhis iS ""Y fift-h

-time wi't,., her,
Qnd her feo\ce
is still
like 01
WIOISk
durin9
sex.

·~7
Not G\S Yov. brov.9h1" Oh. Does
beG\'-t"tiful o book-- JohnSon
G\S whG\ tG\re you think -the
Gwendolyn r-eG\ding? Civil WG\r
bu-t s-till stort ed
G\"t"tractive, over
and wh~T slavery
o boo4y - - or
she is t01rrif s?
S"tG\cked!

J49
CHAPTER 19

Not this c;\901in.

I should
tell her -to
s top. Bu-t.
like with
tho."t '3irl
StASOin, I~
feel
awkw01rcA
aboi.At
it.

150
 ALEXIS

And cii~
you use
1"h~ r'lG\rYI~
S~ASQn
wJ-.en
you.
~Norked
-there?

J5f
 Here are 1'he
rt.Aies: no
kiSSing on
rnou t 1-1--

-- no di99ing for -- aY~d we lASe a condo"'

gold~ no dinin9 for everyrni..,g inclt.Adit"19
at t'he Y -- the blow-job.
I s t'nQr fine ?

153
 CHAPTER 20

not 9e"t1"ing an erection. Is ;t me ? You don't

This c:tirl jus't isn't find me o'ttroctive.
turning
me on.

No, it's me. I come too easily, If I nQdn'"t ThC\t n"''okes

so before I have sex I jerked me feel a bi-t
masturbate so i'hat I'll be off rigJ,t bet1·er.
C\ble to IC\St before
longer, COmin'3
bur over
doing here>
i'hC\t I'd
can r'Ylake hQ.ve
it more 9otten
diffic.,.lt an
to ge'ii' on erec.rion
erec-tion. easily.

l5t
lS5
 CHAPTER 21

You give
me or01l>
t-he.., we
howe
sex.

Why DID
I 9ive her
01 -tip ?

lS6
 She's CV\te i~n
on ove..-o.ge
wo.y blAT
not I'Y'IY
type. A"'~
-thiS iS ...,.._ _,,
o. very
Yl"''edioc..-e
blow-job.

Tnol"''ks for
trying, blAt
it looks
like
J'Wl not I feel
going like I've
to be let you
o.ble -to down--
get o.n J,i ke I
e..-ection. didn'-t
do I'YlY
job
properly.

151
 CHAPTER 22

l't reolly wo.sn'-r your fo.v.lt.

I rno.de The rnis'to.ke of
jerking off.m~----~
before
COI'ning
over.
'lov.
see, I
corne
TOO
eo.s;ly,
so
before--

158
Well~ things Qre -- Qnd we·ve been "tGiking
9etting serious o.bot.tT hi"" I"YYOVir'lg in ,ere.
wi+n S~eve-- Bv.T.. you
know..
it's o.
Srrto.ll
house,
Ql'\d,
well ...
I feel
-rerr ible
asking
this--

lS9
 CHAPTER Z~

It'S
ok~y. I
tAnderst~nd.
I'll
st~rt"
lookit"tg
for
O.f"'other
pl~ce
TO
live.

I think I CQn 01fford.

to buy Q p·lotce.
There's ~ sm~ll
,-ow- house for
SGlle rignt n eQr
5ook-Y;n·s.

·-I'd hove
to geT a.
mort901'3e.
TI-le.
dOWt"t-
p~y""et"tT
will
wipe
OUT ""'>'
5otVi "''35~
bv.1' I
co. tied
Cl-lriS --

- - e~,c:A he Ci\Ssured ""e -th01t -- btA1' I sholA lei be

he'll be e~ble to pc::Ay me
regulc::Arl y for ~while.
be living hOind -to-mo~Ath
for CA bit --
~ble to
m01ke it. And if I get re01lly
I'll desperQte> Sook-Yin Sc::Ays
she'd lend me money.

160
 THE MOVE

The Je(;\s~
she could.
do ? It's not"
like s he's
done
Qnyt"hing
wrong
here.

It's complerely understc;\nd.oble

thot' sne would. Wc;\nf TO
live in her own house
wi-th her new
boyfriend. 01nd.
WITHOUT on
ex- boyfrienol
r~~~~~~ hc;\nging
~-It:! orounol
oil the.
"time.
-----

I coiled. you
yesteroiCAy
obou-t-
Qrronging (;\
n"'OrtgCAge --

161
 CHAPTER 2~

l'n'l 90in9 1"o

Sook- Yin ...

I
I
I

t6Z
THE MOVE

163
 CHAPTER 2~

I'm depressed becQu.se As much o.s I like

no-t going to be living Sook- Yin, -tnis
Sook-Yin is HER
o.n y more. .......c..Ju."""-.,p...~_,..........._J.N..._... house--
W"'y hc;wing
would ""Y own
-thinking plo.ce
Qbout' w i ll
living by give
l'nyself l'ne<'~
mQke feeling
me of
no.ppy? sect.4ri-ty.

And living on And I'll be Qb#e

one's own 1'0 YJQVe OUtCQfl
can 1-lQve G\ prostirutes
peo.ceful. come -to
MediTQ'tive me-- I
q_w"l it'y. won' T
ho.ve
1'0 90
OU't TO
i nCQifS
o.nymore .

16~
 THE MOVE

Ho.ving my own
pl~ce iS gon n~ be
pret1"y good.

I've been depressed beco.use Mo.ybe I con work W'y way

I've been focusin'3 on the out of t-his depression by
po.st and how blockin9 out tnou9hts of
n~ppy 1 the po.st and
wo.s focusin'3
Jivin'3 instead
witn on now
5ook:-Yin. greo.t
ho.vinc:3
W'Y own
place
will
be.

It's smal l
but
cosy.

165
CHAPTER 2:5

166
 think I COin Qfford
to st01r't see i n9
prostitutes
01901in.

I wonder I 9uess I'll

if l-\01ve -to see
Gwendolyn someone
1
,.--.,... "",___ woulcA else.
do
outc01ll
sessions?

167
 CHAPTER 24

I'll 90 over to There are.

Terb and They're o.ll
see ;f -the,.-e good.
are any Everyone.
reviews -thinks
of her. she's
greo.t.

If / '"" 90in9 to '-leAve o.

prostitute come here~ I'd
bette,.. clean up this
place.

166
JENNA

169
 CHAPTER 24

She's o.ctuo.lly kisSi~"~9 Accordin9 to the

O~"~tne .,.,outh! reviews on Terb>
This is the she 9ives her
first tin'le o clie ....ts bo.re·
P.rosti"tute back blow·
no.s jobs.
~iSSed
YY~e.

sure enou'3h, it
l oo~s l;ke
she's about
to put ~"~"~Y
condo.,., less
cock in
her
YnOtAth .

ThQt WG\S
incredible·-
the best
sex J've
eve r pG\id
for.

o.heQd. The "towels tho.t

are pi led up o.re
all cleG\n--
u se
wn ic.l-\ever
one you
wont.

170
JENNA

I feel e1ll
9iddy
01nd
excited.

171
 I -thoughT I wos going -to see
Jenno ogoin, bu-t this gir-l
ki-tty hos
been
get-'ting
reolly
good
r-eviews, -.l:i:?;:=;;;~
onc:l she's
o lot- less
expensive
-than
Jenn01.

173
CHAPTER 2S

17~
Come on,
I'm worth it.
I promise
you won·'t be
disappointed.

l7S
 CHAPTER 26

Twen"ty --and
,.,.;nutes I've Or"'ly
have P.CAicl
passed fo,. G\
G\nd hCAif- hour.
we•ve D<"n
spen"t SG\va~ge
t-he wrot-e
whole -thCAt- one
t-iw.e should
TG\Ikil'l9 -- ''leT her
leCAd "--

--bu1' in t,.,is
SitUG\"tion I
don'~ think
CAnything
sexv.a~. l will
hG\P.pen
unles·s
I "tG\ke
'the
lea~d .

176
 LARISSA

co... Jd you have her

call me when she
gets out ?

Your
driver
ca llecf.
He.
wants
you to
CQif
hi m .

177
 CHAPTER 26

-3reG\'t. It's o.
con"e"' i en't.

Who.t were Wnen I s o.w o.

YOIA doin9 I'd 90 To ner
before? o.pCU'"Tn"'enT.

Some-times~ And often it's more Tho.n

live in one. one woman working ouT
apG\rTmenT of the SOin'le o.po.r'tmenT.
and work
OIAt of 0.
differenT
one.

l7{)
 LARISSA

And it's rare for johns -to Whe-tner johns are violent
be violenT. There's probably or nor~ it would dis-turb me
more violence in to have
~p~rt"men-ts the we
cont"O!ining WG\Ikin3
rom~nt"ic in the
couples same
thG\n i n hG\IIWG\y ~~~
G\P.G\r"T' W~ent"S G\S me.
1'h01t
prostituTes
work
OUT of".

They're creeps. Wno If I h~d a d~ughter I'd be

knows wnar -tj,ey're worried abouT wh01T would
cap01ble of ? h~ppen
if she
w~s in
-the s~me
elevator
G\S one
of those.
9uys.

I 'M one of -those I know YOU'RE

yov. really oko.y, buT you' re
-tl-tink no-t -the -typical
d1ildren guy who po.ys
o.ren'-t for
so.fe with s e x.
me in.
elevo.-tors ?

I'll ber I'WI close You can'-t d e ny +no-t

the typic.OII there are johns who
john ;s l;ke. do Terrible +hings
I'll be-t o. -to prostitu-tes--
lo-t of johns beo.-t t-hen'l,
ore rnild- even
m~nnered kill
in-trovert"s-- +hem.

179
 CHAPTER. 26

Tninking tl-lot" kind of guy

represent-s ti-le t"ypicol john
is l ;ke thinking
t-hot ~~-----.
quys who
beot or
murder
t-heir
wives are
f'ypicol
husb~nds.

And you do tho.t despit-e t-he

foct thot one of your best
frienots iS o. john. You of
o/1 people ~'''""'""
should
ha~ve o
more
open
""'ind
obout
this .

I guess I ho.d the

friends . I had ~~,.,r-.
some friends
who were
doncinq in
strip-clubs~
so I
started
do.ncing.

And then some I f;ke this better.

knew were I hat-ed ho.vinq to
doinq t"his nustle in dubs.
work, and
f"hey were
mo.kinq
LOTS of
money.
so I
si"o.rted
doing
if".

160
 LARISSA

You know> +he girls But I wosn''t

qo from guy "to guy I'"" o.ctt.tolly
osking if -they kind of shY.,
by Wor"~t donees. If so I ho-ted
hustle ? you. were refllfly J.1oving
G1'3gressive you could -to keep
"'lQke o lot of going up
money. to guys
ond
pester
them.

And of-ten I'd feel -- a..-.d tho"t reolly he'd

if Q guy ro+her hove o
soid I could donee from 01 .----.,...n
give him 01 blonde with
dance. he'd big boobs.
be so.ying Thi S work is
yes just d;fferer"~t - -
beco.u.se mv od so.ys
l-Ie fe l-t who"t I
sorry for look
me-- like--

-- SO I kt"'OW -tho't And -the

who like petite one-on-one
girlS wi'th in"terc~ction
smoll boobs j ust see""s
ore phoning more
t'Yle. If' relaxed
doesn'-t ancl nice
bring up in o.
+he same Si'tuo'tion
ki..-.d of like this
insecUJrity. "thQn
if' did in
the clubs.

When I WQS o kid, I

didn't know what"
sex wos> let o.lone
prostitution .

161
 CHAPTER 26

I com't" remember w.,o:t I If you

-thou:Jh"t of pros-ti-tunon could h~ve
when I w~s ~ teen. looked ;..-.~o
the future
am.« seen
-th~t you
would.
becoW~e Q
whoremon9er;
wouldn't you
nQVe been
horrified ?

Well. don't I wo.nted "to be Do I owe i~ "to my youn9er

you owe a poleon"'tologist self t-o drop W~Y caree r as
1t "to ~he when I was Q o. cart'oonis~ o.nd qo "to
person kid. university "to st'udy
you were paleo..-.tology ?
't"hen t'o
live t-ne
life he
would
"-o.ve
wo...-.ted
you to
lead ?'

As on odul~ I hove ZERO Sure, I ferven-tly

interest in paleontology. l'..n believed in
not going romantic love
t'o become a wJ..en f wos
pofeo,.,t'olog ist 01 kid--
now -to
fulf;ll a
childhood
wt-tirn --
tho.t'
would be
idio~ic.

162
 LARISSA

-- blAt I'd hClld no a.c.tuCAI -- and because everyo"'e

experiences with sex or CAround. me believed. ;.., it.
rornCllnce. I believed in Now thCAt
roPY~antic. I'm older
love and I've
bec<Ause acttAClllly
""'Y been
culture -through
WellS the
telling roma..,tic
me to love mill
believe sever"' I
in i t - - times- -

-- I'm in o. better Roma.ntic love couses

assess it- th01.., I t"?10re misery thCAn
I wa.s 01 hCAppiness.
teenCAger.
Now I
CClln see
thQt -the
romCAntic.
love
ideol •s
CAc.tu<AIIy
evil.

Think of a.ll the single Mo.ny of the,., go their

people who long for love whole lives in tnCll"t
a.nd oare misera.bfe becCAuse miserable s ta.te .
-they c01n'-t find it.

Righ"t, <:And then they're - - and. tl-ten they're miserClble.

happy for "' little They think they're mis erable
h;le -- a. few mon-ths becCluse they're with the
or years-- until wron9
reality hits-- person
instead of
reolizing
that the
romontic
love ideo/
itself is
impossible.

10~
 CHAPTER. 26

It's impossible for one person It's natural for us To

to meet" all of our emol'ional
ond sexua l needs.
experience lovin9 f ee lin9s
for many people and "to
experience sexual desire
for many
people .

Covples who remain And I ho.ven'-t even

nappy to9ether -for ment-ioned yet t-he
tne lon<3 t"er"' 01re that" ensues . - - - ----\
very rare. when
couples
break up.
Rorno.n"tiC
love
COH.ASeS
more
misery
tj.,G\n
h01ppi,.,ess.

Time
to make a,.,
appoin-tmenT
To see
lariSSQ.

Tha-t's Q
diSCllppoinTment".
I wonder
where sne's
disappeared
to. I hope.
she's
ok01y.

164
 The pho'to of ~hi~ 9irl
Arlene looks qrea~'t, bu't'
there 01re no
reviews of ..uJ..J.~~'".:,
her on
Terb.

165
 CHAPTER 27

Are +he If t-he

pho"to'3ra phs 9irl wno
on your snows up
web-si"te doesn'-t
reol ? look l ike
t-he 9irl
in -the
photo9raph>
I'll send -r-ra::~·-r
her
bock.

l+'s noT +h e 9irf in The

pho"to, b ut s h e's still
cu-re . She looks youn9.

166
 ARLENE

Yot.A We II> s"'e's

l;ke not" -the
the same Sirl
9irf ? OS -ta.,e
You one in
wOint ta.,e phot"o~
to but I like
send her-- sne
her COin
back ? st"oy.

If I'm not hurting her; whY-

does she keep soying "ow"?
6y her faciQI expression it
lOOKS like
she's in
poin.

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ThQt she seems "to be in pQin

iS kind of 01 "turn-on for me,
bu-t I G\lso f ee l bG\d for her.
l'rY1
9onnG\
cut
-thi s
short
01nd
come
quickly.

186
A,-e you
90if'19
to be
keep;.-,g
Y.OUr
bro
Or'l .-~

169
 CHAPTER 26

Those o.re
beo.urifuf.
E.veryrhing
o.bOI.At'
you is
l:)eo.u.Tift.AI.

She's rn01kin9 eye- con"t01c"t

with n1e
durin9 "the
sex - - 1'10
ot-her-
prostitut-e
tho.t I've
bee,
with
ho.s
done
tho."t.

190
 EDITH

Did Witl-l two of -them

you I mono.geol t-o
J.(eep keep it· on.
your
bro
on
with
tJ,em ?

ShoCA I d prosti-tution be le9Gllizo.tion

legalized or should it be would meon
decriminolizeol? regulotion,
right ?

Ri9ht, and decrimino.lizotion Yeah, I think

would meo.n ;t should. be
prostitution regulated.
would
not be
regulo.ted.

Well,
prostitt.tte s
mo.ke
money-- it's
o. business,--.=~
so it
should be
re9CAiated.

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Not cllll wows You have "to hcwe o

money are REASON 1"0 regulaTe
regulat-ed. so...,e:tl-t i ng .
We make
money as
car-toonists,
but"
carTooning
isn' t
regulated.

Okoy, uh, i t should be How would le9olizotion

regulo."ted To prevent prevenT violence
violence o.ny better t-han
againsT decriminalization ?
prostituTes ...

Re9ulo.tion As a
woulci mean ,.esul1',
licencing - - mClny of
not all them woulc:A
prosti"tute s worf< in
would -the blacf<
won't to morke1'.
geT
licences.

Re9uloteol pros t itutes Unoler le9o.liz.ation,

hire priVQ'te security r e 9ulo.1'ed
01nd go to gi rls
the cops. would be
Wom@:n in safer, but
the blac k the block
mot'ke't market
wouldn' t ones
be Qb le would be
to do vulnerable
either. to
violence .

192
 EDITH

Und.er d.ecri r"Y'linG\1 i zG\1"ion, WhG\T G\bOUT

ALL pros-titu-tes could hire heG\Ith?
securi-ty prosTitution
01nd ger spreG\ds
help from S-T-Ds.
-the police.
AU.
prosti"tu"tes
would be
SOifer.

.-

S-T-Ds G\re G\ISO UnpG\id. extrG\-YY'IOiritGII

spreG\d Through sex is illegod
unpG\id CG\StAG\1 in n'lG\ny
sex -- should -the G\re01c; of the
governmen-t world, so
reguiG\te of" course
one- re9uiG\tin9
nogh't- i-t is
s't01nols? possible.

Th01-t sor-t And

of regu/01-tion -there's
would be more unpG\id
difficul-t -to cosuG\1 sex
enforce, bu-t going on
th01"t'S ALSO thG\n pG\id
true of sex--
re9ul01-ting
prosti'tution.

-- so if you' re reodly But you're not

concerned G\bou-t the obout S-T-Ds,
spreod of 5-T-l>s, then you're jus-t
it'S unpG\id usin9 i'hem
CG\SUCllf OIS G\n
sex ·H,Oit excuse to
should juSTify
be your regul01ting
primG\ry pros-tituTion.
regulotory
focus .. not
poid sex.

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If yotA con -- then you should be

Q bosic oble to see tho:t it's o.lso
civil right" o civil right" in po.id
for two situo."tions.
consen-ting
odults "to
be able to
hQve sex in
o.n unpo.id
situo."tion --

But getting pQid - - mokin9 Self-expression is Q bQs;;c

money -- civil right. You o.nd
ThQt's the I write
diffe~ence. Qno dro.w
Pros1"i1"u"tion comic-books,
is a business o.nd our
o.nd. publisher
businesses po.ys us
CQn be money.
reguloted.

Does 'the fo.c:t tho.'t we Should -the

get pc:Aicl for our comics governmen"t
-toke o.woy our righ't 'to l-!a~ve the
self-expression? right 'to
censor our
work
beco.use
we moke
I'YIOney
from
it?

S..,ould we ho.ve to ge't And I'YIO.king money should

licences to wrfte o.nd not negoTe o whore's
dro.w? rig..,t To choose To ho.ve
Moking sex Wi'th o.ny consen'tin9
money o.dult she
should not wonts 'to
nego"te the o.nd for
co...-toonist's who."tever
C.iVi I reo son
..-;ghts. ~he
won'ts to.

194-
 EDITH

She s..,ou.ld There should. be no IQwS

licence or re<3uiG\tions thG\t
-to be vioiG\te our
G\ble -to fundo.mentG\1
hG\ve sex rignts.
G\nd t"o
be G\ble
to mG\ke
money.

ljlAST HeQitn CG\re is free i n

wQnt to Co.nG\dG\ -- they CG\n get G\ny
rnG\ke ..-nedicG\1 CG\re they w01nt.
sure H,o.t
prost itutes Yeo.h,
are qetting but -they
medico. I don't all
CG\re . go to
doctors
on G\
reguiG\r
bas i S.

You. wo.nt
medicG\I
treG\-tmen-t
-to be
FORCED
on
prost itutes ?

t9S
 CHAPTER 28

C~II'YI down. co.lrn down --

he's o. good person. He:s
just" talkin'3
off i"he top
of hiS heaCI.
This isn' t
somethin9
he'S qiven
o. lot o-f
"thought
to.

Medical treo.'tment should Each individual shou lcl

always be voh.cnto.ry -- it be able to choose for
should never be forced 1-limself or l-1erself
on anyone. the level
of heo.hh
risk they
want to
l-ake in o.
porticulo.r
situa-tion --

-- whether it's a
sexu01 l situation
whether ii"'s ...

Yes> btxt we're -tolking

o.bout -the right" of -the
individual
to make
choices,
including
potentially
unheoltl-ly
ones.

196
 EDITH

Who.t o.bou"t you ? Do

ho.ve o. 9irlfriend ?

don'"t think Bu"t love .•. it... it binds

rom01n1'ic. people to9ether. Romo.n"tic.
love love, or
iS Q t-he love
900d tho.'t
t-hing. P.o.ren'ts
ho.ve for
their
children,
or love
be-tween
friends--

-- love unites people

in sympo.t"Yiy o.nd
unders-to.ndif'\<.3
o.nd .-no.kes
t-he world o.
better plo.ce
"to live in.
Who.t's the
o.lternotive?

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love iS about snarin9, I think it's +he exclus ionary

caril"'9, and 9ivin9. nature of romal"'1"ic. love
ROMANTIC thOit mOikes
love ;s about ;t different
ownin9, from
hoardin9 , other
ond kinds
jealou.sy. of
love .

When a mother hQS

severol d'lildren, she
loves all
of them.
When you
~-'love
many
friend s ,
you
can
love
all of
them.

I think it encoura9es a But... btAt I' m not sayin9

certain type of "thinkin9 : slowery they're the same
the desire was thin9 - -
to owrn forced on
ar1other people--
P.erson. romantic.
It's the love iS
impulse volunto.rily
that entered
s lo.very into.
9rew
out
of.

- - bt.A't they develop I don' t" nowe

of the some ownership
rnen"tol root. wi'tn my
I know I've friends--
feH i1' witn 1 know
9irlfriends -- they have
" She's other
M&NE." frier1d. s.

196
 EDITH

AncA I don'-t ho.ve I'm no-t o. pros-ti-tu."te - - I'm

of ownership escor1", You -t~ink I'Wt
with you. G\ prosti-tute ?
I know thG\1"
prosti1"utes
hG\ve
other
clients--
+nG\-t
yov:re
not
'' mine '~.

didn'T meat.n know, uh,

TO- - -to the usuo.l
offend defini-tion--
you- - I-- I thot ~ s -- I
don't see meo.n - - ;.f
prostitution one is poid
G\S o for hovin'3
nego-tive sex> one
-thine;,. is us~.eolly
considered>
CAh ...

You' re p01ying If I ho.ve sex

TIME with durin9 -the
yol.4, NOT TO P.Oid for; if·'s
hove sex becC\use I
with you. c hoose t"o,
no-t becouse
you' re
poyin9 Yl'le
1"0.

guys you've seen

o.s o.n escor-t,
were t"i-1ere
o.ny who
you didn'-t
ho.ve sex
wi-th?

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-the so.me perso.., I So,. yeo.h... there

wo.s te .... yeo.rs o.re rom01"'"tic.
o.go.. 01..,d ,•.,.., couples wh.o o.re
VERY different o.bsolutely
from "the right for eo.ch
person I ot"her o.t t-his
wo.s twenty mome"'"t ;..,
yeo.rs ogo. time- -

-- b~-t't those "two people 01re more likely th01t

<:JOin<:J to cho..-,ge., ond it's they'll c h01nge
tremendot.Asly ;..,to people
unlikely th01t who ore
+h.ey·re going V~nsuited t"o
'to d1o.nge eo.ch
in exoc.tly other--
"the s01rne
WOlyS.

-- no m01tter how Yes,. bt.At yOI.A con TRY to

compatible they contint.Ae to undersf"o.nd
were o.t the your portner. And lf
be9i11n i nc:5 you love him
of t-heir or h.er --
relationship .

200
 EDITH

-- you'd be If I rY~et the r igl-rt guy I'd be

v.~illing TO hoppy to do t.,e work. It
rl"'Oike that tokes work to get onything
effort. worthwhile in life..

It's interestinc;3.
Romantic love
poetry only
be91c:;~~n -to
become
ROPt.clar
in the
Love twelfth
In The century.
Wes-tern
World by
Denis de
Rouc;3e monT.

At oround the s ome time,

olso '" southern Frt;lnc.e, the
Cotnor religion wos bein'3
suppressed by the Co:tholic
(hurd·• ·

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 CHAPTER 28

He tninks some CoftruJ~rs

went ··~nde rground" -- t-he\t
the tro~be\~Ours were
secretly CG\the\rs.

Whe~"'~tne troubadours Of co~.Arse, r'Ylost people

sa~"'~'3
of love for a didn't understQnd -the
partie ular woman, it- Syi'Tibolic level --
Syi'Tibolized
t he love
+he\t
one was
supposed
to he\ve
for the
divine .

- - Ql"''d, as this new form of What -- love

poetry became popular, it" didt'l't" exist before
9raduodly chQn9ed the WQy -the twelf-th
men omd women reiQt"eO. cent"u ry ?
t-o eQch ot-ner:

wasn't Q reason "to 9et

It -- family connections, child-
married. People 9ot reorin-:3, money, land,
married for prQgma-tic house)iold manaqer'Ylent --
reQSOns-- -that' sort of thine:!·

202
 EDITH

Ro.-n~ntic. love w~sn''t Then liter~ture spre01d

widely seen as ~ reatson -ro the pernicious ide01
9et m~rried until ~fter the 01round Europe ~nd
1'welf1"h centtAry. eventu~lly ~round
the world.

But I can thil"'k of liter~r y Like I s~id,

exo.mples of romo.l"'tic love romO\l'ltic love
before the twelfth existed before
ceYtttAry. "the 'twelfth
centtAry, but
it w~sn'1'
ideatlized. --

- - ~net -the s-tory of P~ris --but w01s diSOtStrous in the

o.nd Helen is o perfect long rtAn. Th~t WQS "the
exo..-nple. Their love wa~y rom01ntic love Wc::;\S
bro1.A9ht +hem fleetil'l9 seen prior 'to i'he
happiness - - tweH+h
cen'tt.try - -

-- it w~s seen a~s foolish,

not some'thin'3 to build 01
permQnent refQ'tionship on.

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If there is Like most" IT was

one, I don't cot.Aples seen as
r-emer'Y'Iber at +hot" foolisl-1
it. time, they to
probably m 01,. r y
WOt.Aid -for
I-tave love - -
mar-ri ect
for
pragmatic
reasons.

-- blAT on c.e yot.A were I'm s ure i f I knew Ol.,cienT

married it was seen as a litera'tlAre bet-ter I'd be able
900d -thing TO develop 01 to come lAP wi-th example s
stron'3 emotiOt"'al bond w~ere romanc:.e led 'to
with yot.Ar marriage.
spouse, as
Odyssev.s
Olnd
Pel"lelope
diet.

I'm noT SCAyinq romantic love We tenet -to think +hat

never hapP.et"'ed. Here and romOII"ltic love 1-t01s ancient"
there a few colAples fell in root s, blAt" it's only gained
love and go1" l'Yiarried, widespread 01cceptance ;,.,
blAt -they the lost few
were tl-te htAndrect
exceptions. years.

This time
she's no-t
n'"!Oikin9
e ye-
contoct-.

Z04-
 EDITH

Do yo«.Ar- friends know -that Doe s n·~ tha~ throw ~..<p ~

yov work ~s Otn escorT ? barrier between you G\nc:i
yoCAr frie.r-tds ?
I th ink
i f I told
the f'l'l,
-there'd be
an even
bigger
bOtrrier
be-tween
us.

My friend s And quite

cue very frOtnkly,
shel-tered. if one of
Tl1ey would my friends
be very -told. rne.
j ud9..-nental s"'e. was
about this. workin9
as G\n
escort', I'd
-think
less of
her.

money I
9e-t, it's
okay.
O.-,ty
01bOlAT
-two
pe rc.en-t
of -the
cl ient5
ore bOtc:i··
the rest
are
n•ce .

Hi> IC:4 like to make

an appoi.-,tment
to see EdiTh.

zos
 She's older -tha~n
hopinq for --
proba~\::>ly ea~rly
thir'ties --
b.._.'t she's
a~ttra~c'tive
eno~.A9h.

Z.0 7
 CHAPTER Z9

Sne seems
nice, bu-t her
Qccen-t is
prett-y thick --
co.-n.-nunic.Qtion
between us
iS kindo.
difficult.

Z06
 This o..,e•s older "too..
but" s he's prettier
"thon
-the
lost
one,
Qnd
s he's
901" Q
swee-t-
smile.

I'm Ches-ter.
-tQke YOtAr
COQT.Do
you WQn't
some-thirt,9
-to drink .
I've. go"t
juice or
sof-t
drinks.

Z09
CHAPTER :;o

She
hQSn'"t
picked
up her
r'Yloney
ye't.

ZtO
 DENISE

Tho:t wQS reolly

enjoYoble. Ano
she seems
SrrlG\rT.
And . ..
Qrlc:L.
9env.ine.

Ill HI lUI IIIII II Ill 1Ill I lilt

IIIII Ill IIIII

'"' "' 1111

zu
 CHAPTER ~0

of -the other prostittAtes

t've met hove h01d good
persortQiities.
blAT
something
OlbOIAT
this one
goes
beyond
tha~t.

l'o like. to
see Denise
ogo;.,, bt.At
I con'1'
righT
now.

Now I hQve no tif'Yle 'to l-tove

sex because tne Riel book's
been pt.Abl is hed 01nd lm bt.ASY
promotin9
iT.

Zl2
 At l01s-t~ tne
the book
iS winding
down. I
think I
l-H~ve time.
to ge't
'to9e'ther
with ~
prostituTe.

I h01ven't nG\d sex Since I SOIW

Denise b01ck ;., Februa~ry.
I WOIS
th ink inq of
seeinq her
01901i n :. bu't
rn01ybe I' ll
check t o
see who
else is
OIVG\il01bJe.

Zl3
 CHAPTER ~l

This girl
breOIS"tS
01nd 01
sliYn
fi9ure.
le't'S
see
wh011"
her
reviews
ore
like.

Thank yotA. I worked I loved it. I was

01t o rn01ssoge porlot..tr of money, I
for o few years. likeol -tne
9irls I
workeol
witn, I
liked I'YIY
re9tAiar
clien"t5 --

Zlt
 NANCY

- - anci I WG\S comfort"G\ble with The cops

the work. I mosturbG\tecl the raided the
9lAYS -- I dicln't h01ve sex with piG~ce 01nd
them. , . - - - r l h.""'"'_ _ _ __..• arrested
me. I
vowed
that I 'd
never be
arrested
Gl<3oin. I
qt..cit the
mossoge
porlour - -

Escorting's
OKOIY~ but"
yes, I'd
rother be
be b01ck
at tne
I'YlOISSOI«Je
But you'd P"'"lot.tr.
rather be
workin13
at t-he
rYIG\SSa9e
pGir lot.t,. ?

ZtS
 PQrT of me.
Denise
OlgQin,
but -this
girl
Millie
J-'IQS
positive
reviews~
Qnd her
photos
look
good ...

JACKPOT! She's even more

beQuTifuf thOln Gwendolyn.'
She's rQdi Oin1'!

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 CHAPTER 32

Wo\Aid. you
mind no't
"tnr\ASting
into ....... e so
for? Yov.r
penis is too
big for
me.

Ye.oh.. it'll be
autobiogrophicof. It's
90inc.3 to be obou"t
my t>xpe.rie"ces
poying ~or sex.

Reotly! Tno't snoufd

be irrterest"ing.
J"D reo.d o book
like. tho.'t.

218
 Shou ld
1 see Millie
or Denise
nex-t ?

On -the
o-ther ..,Qnd~
Denise is
bett-er in
bed. And
she IS
pretty.

219
 CHAPTER~;

But she's not Anal

cas stunni n'3 Millie's ver-y
o.s Millie. bubbly and
And Millie. friendly.
doesn't
c.hcarge o.s
vnuc:n
money as
Denise
does.

But I thi.-,k
I prefer
Denise 's
vnor-e gentle
persono.lity.

Hi De.... ise, it's

Ches ter 8ro\llm -- I
don't kf"low if you
ren'lel'l'lber
me. I SQw
you Q
few times
tost?
year.

Of co~.Arse Yoi.A're 9ettir19 Tha nk vou.

J remei'Tlber quite a bit of Are you
you, Chester. attention fol" still
Actually, you,.. new book. working?
I've been congro.t~.Alation s. Would we
seeing you be o.ble to
i n the see eac.h
meclio. . other
1"odo.y?

220
 BACK TO MONOGAMY

Yes, I'm still

working -- I'd
Jove to get
together.
Who.t
time
is good
for
you?

Probobly. But I won't s now Okay. blAt put m e in i~

your foce. ond I won't- os little as possible.
write about- any of your
pe.rso,nal
s-tuf'f.

This is what- rorna~ntic love

is: if you like someone 01
whole lo-t AND you're'
sexually
i nvolve~
Wit~
-them>
t~ot•s
rornon"'tic
1ove .

221
 CHAPTER ~3

Fo.ce i~ = you·re
i.-. love -- romo.n"tic
love -- with
De.-.ise .

She soid tho."t if you like for me ~ romGIIntic

someone o. lo1" AND yotA're Iove is o.bout
sexuo.Hy o.ttro.cted ~o possion.
them ~ 'then
+ho.t·s
~omo.ntic
love .

How 01re A strong

yotA cAefi>" in9 e ,.,ot'ion
rom01nt'ic H101t... V\h ••.
love? leo.ds people
to wo.nt'
life -mon9
mon090II"Y'')'.

Most people prob01bly do 8lAt t-h01t doesn't meo.n th01t'

wont' 'their romo.ntic. those conditions DEFINE
love - po.rtner to be sexw~lly romOIJ'lt'ic love for mOS1"
mort09CUrlOI..AS o.nd botAnd by people. Let's
o. lifetiW~e COI"Y''miti"Y''ent'. im019ine 01
colAple who
ore sexuolly
i nvolved --

222
 BACK TO MONOGAMY

-- J~ck ~nd JG\ne -- Gh1d -- lflolding n01nds

they·~e cr~zy for eo.ch time -- 0111
o-the~. They're writing thG\t stuff.
poems for And.. most"
eG\cn other,. im port~nt>
giving -they're
pe:t-n01mes pfASSiOnOI"te --
to eo.ch intensely in
other--- love.

Now, JG\ck and Jo.ne hQVe -- G\nd they DO openly

NOT '"o.de. ~ life - long honestly
commif·ment h01ve sex
to eo.ch with other
ot-her-- gtA~S 01nd.
g irls --
they're
no-t
keeping
thG\t G\
secret.

Even s.o, most people in our It's the inte..-.sity of -the

socie-ty would so.y thG\t emotion G\nd how -they
Jo.c k and. Jo.ne G\re G\ express
romol"lltic-love- couple. it to
eG\ch o ther
th<llt
defines
the.-n G\S G\
romo.n"tiC
couple--

-- no-t whet-.,er -they hG\ve.

sex wit-h other people or
whether
+hey
promise
to be
together
forever.

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Mono901.-ny 01nd commitment

G\re closely o.ssocioted
with rom01ntic
love, buT
they don'T
HAVE to 90
to9e-ther ~ ~

·- G\nd. I don't neceSSG\rily So if I'"" not G\gG\inst

see romG\nTic love OIS o. rorYJOin"tic love~
problem if it's experienced wh01t' do I
ou-tside of oppose ?
o. committed
mono9o.mous
frG\mework.

Possessive rnonoga~rYJy? 'loiA've been monogo.mous

81At YOI.A're monoge~~mov.S . wit-h Denise for... how
You' ve been monogomoi.As m01ny ye01rS
with ... wno.-t'S herr-_ __. ......, h01s it been?
nG\rne OI'3G\in ? Penise.

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And.. sP,.,e's been mono9"'mous - - ond I clon'r own her. If

wi-th me. for severol yeQrs s he oid s"t~rt ~oving sex
now. But there's no with o-ther guys a9o.in, it
comw.itme.nt. She doesn'-t wouldn'T
own me-- bother
me.

OkQy, I love her.

B~.A-t
I.An like people
tr01ppecl in
possessive monogo.rny,
I'm in 01
position -to
respond
TO my
sex«Ao.Hy-
relo.ted
emo-tions.

l 'rvl h~vin9 sex wi-th Denise You love.

becOitASe I WANT to.> 1'101" ner -- does s6-le
beco.«Ase I rY~o.de o. love you?
Yn01rrio9e vow to her or
beco.CAse
s he'd. get
jeo.lous
;f I 5QW
someone
else..

She UKES me.> bc.A-t I'm She doesn't feet

pre+ty sure she wouldn'T PASSION for me -- we're
use +he word love to friends .
ciescr ibe ~ow she
feels o.bou"t

zzs
 CHAPTER 5~

Just" havi""9 sex

with w .... ores. it
seems... empty
TO yOIA?

I wouldt"''t" I'd enjoy -t._.e sex> bu"t

h~ve o.fterw(jlrd I'd feel. ..
rerne,....bered unSG\tisfied. So I beg~n
the nome. TO think 1-n~T rno.')!be
p~y;n9 TOr
sex does
become
o hollow
experience.

If you keep I figured, if I repeo.-t with

seeing t-he any prost-it"~Ate os m~Ach os
S(jlrne womon I did with Anne, I'll feel
over 01nd empty agQin.
over.

But- Denise proved th01"t - - and I never feel empty

w01sn'-t 1'ri.Ae. I've been a-fter being with her. If
see in9 her for WAY 01ny-thing 1 feel t-he
Ionge r thon I opposite -- I feel full.
Anne--

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 BACK TO MONOGAMY

lJh ... Anne f~.tlf;lled me sexually

something b~.ttnot in otner woys,
like thot. It's even though she w01s
SOW'Iethil"'9 pleasan-t 01nd I i ke01ble.
beyond mere
sexuol
so.tisf<llc"tion.
Denise is <lin
CUTl(liZ j 1"1'3
person.

So paying for sex isn'-t o.n

empty experience if you·re
paying -the right person
for 5ex.

ZZ7
 /.-t o. recent" cornters"'tion witl-1 " frienol, I mentionec:t
tnc:\t "De.,..ise" is no lon9er CA prostit«Ate. He objecteo(>
"WhO\t" olo yot..t me"n? Of coCArse she's o. prostittAte --
yoCA're P"Yin9 ner for sex." I poi.-ttec:A o«At th"t she's
rYIOr1090\n-tOCAS with 1"11e Q.no( thO\t prostitCAt~S nO\Ve ~eX
with n-1"'ltiple men. My frienol co"'nterec;l.> " Th"t 's not
the c4ic.tionCAry c;{efil"'ition. '' I otidn't know wh"t the
clic.tiono.ry otefinitior1 wo«Aiol be, ~o I reo.c.heoC over to
my copy of tl1e GAGE CANADIAN DICTIONARY. Accoro(in3 to
+1-to.t source > 01. prostit«Ate is "o. girt or wom0\t1 w~1 o
01.ccepts ,..,o..,ey to en9o.9e it'1 sex"'"' o.cts wit-h me..,." I
empi1C\Size~ the wor~ "men" o.s I reo.ol +he po..SSG\9E.> to
my frienoL He concecJ.ed.. the point.
lO\ter... I pic.ked. LAp my WEBSTER'S --it d..efinecl. "
pros'titt.tte O.S SOWieone who nOI.S "prol"niSC.CAOt.tS" sex for
money. Not 01.1/ aictior1CAries 0.9ree -- ta.,e COLLINS CANAD-
IAN DICTIONARY CAno( the CONCISE OXFORD ENGLISH DICTIONARY
both cno..ro..c teri ze G\ prostitt..tte o.s someot"'e who hats sex
for po..yment, bt..tt neitner spec.ifies o.nythin9 o.bo""'t
tne "'"'mber of sexuG\1 po..rtners.
J·s "Denise" still 01. pt'"ostit"'te '?A"" I still 01. jol-1..,?
Two people G\f"E.' it-1 01. mo..,ogCAWIOtAS sexc.Ac:d refO\tiOr1Ship
tl-u:l\t ' s /o.. ~ted.. for yeo..r.s . They co.re for eo.ch other
( even if t&.,ey wo~Afon't S"Y they're ·•; .., love"). One of
t-he two G\Hists the ot-1-,er fi..,o.nciodly . .WI-tO\.t clo yo«A
co..ll StAch o. relct"tionship?

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Ulti)"'ft~tely, I don't CCAre whCAt you c~ll CAS, The

si3nificG\n't thing to me is th~t oCAr reiCAtionship
snoc..tld not be 0\<;30\in st the IO\w. We sl.,otAid be cd lowe&
to nQ.ve sex> G\nc.( I shotAid be 0\llowE'ol to give he,.-
money.
"Denise" isn't tl-te only perso., ciepic.t(>c;( in this book
whom I love : My brother 6orc:Aon Brown lives in QtAebec
City cv1& livecA there throu9hoCAt 'the yeCArs covered in
these po.ges, whic.h rnO\y expiO\in why he's 0111ly i., two
scenes. ( The fint po.nel he 's ;.,., is 57=2.) 1111 2000, the
9'-"Y with the hG\t1 Seth, move& to 6tAelph ( "' Sn-1G\II
city o.bol-'t G\11'1 hot.Ar-G\nd.-G\-hodf Ci\WO\Y fror"n Toro111to ). He
comes i111to tl-,e big c.ity 0111 occ01sion, so we still see
eG\c.n ot&.,er pretty freqCAently. Joe MO\tt movecA to los
An9eles ;.,., 2003:> 01111c:A Kris N01k0\W1'-"YOI movecl to V0\111CotA-
ver in 200I.t:> so I cion't see them rY~tAc.&.,, blAt I still tCAik
to tne......, o., tne pho..,e quite often. ( Kris's first pG\n('l is
a:s.) I'W1 9lo.d th01.t Sook-Yin lee still lives in Toronto
G\~~'~~ thCAt we get" to spend o.. lot of tirv'le to9e-the,.-.
When I fin i sheol olrO\wi ng PAVINu FOR IT, I let ti-le
0\.bove-me..,tionec:.( six people reCAd it. I wO\S worried
tnG\t sorY~e of them mi9ht WG\'1t me to c.h01.n9e
thin9s - - their CActions, their diG\Io9t.te.> the WG\y I drew
tnem -- bt.At no..,e of the six CASkeci me to oo.lter CA
lit1e or word.. TnCi\t cAoes..,'t me01.111 t11ey were CAll
COrY~pletely nG\ppy wi'th their portr~yo..ls. I c;iic;A 1"ell then-t
thOit r Wot.tld 9ive theW'I Spatce i111 the book to h0o.ve
their- SCi\y, Only Seth took me '-4p on tho..t offer. His
notes abo'-4t ti-le scenes he's in G\re in AppenO.ix 23.
I Catllec:i JCASti., Peroff to let him kr10W t'-tOo.t ne'> ;.,
the book o..111d to CASk hii'YI if he WC"Anted to see 1-1is
sce..,es. ( He "PPE'Gu··s in pG\nels 7:5 a.,c:( 1:6.) He w~s fine
with being G\ c:htllrO\cter in the story btAt SG\i& 1-te
WCAnteo( f"o experiei"'C€ the 9r"Cl\phic-novef in itS finc-sheo(
pri..,te-ot forvn .
Not o.ll of my fr-iends o.re chG\ro.c. te rs in this wteWlo i r.
1he following friel'ldS helped wte ;.., so.-..,e WOIY in creo.tin9
it: Mo.rk Askwitl-1 7 Peter 8irkemoe, A.,toneiiG\ Brion,
Rob i.., Go.t'lev, Jeet Hee r, JG\S01'1 Kieffer, D01ve l G\.PP:> A~ G\ m
litovitz > Co.thG\ri111e liCA, Nick Mo.o.,.-,cAG\9> MG\rc NgCAi,
Mo.gdOt WojtyrOo., Etno.n Rilly, Zo.c.h Worto.,, Do.ve SiYYI *,
lim S/0\t"er, Sit.t To., .Jol-1.., Tt'Oin, JG\f'YleS TtArner, Colin
Upton,. 01n("). TCAnio. VCAn Spyk . None of ti-lese people
<A<3t'ee with CAll of the opiniOt'IS ( express i111 here 0.1'1&
sovne c:Aiso.<3ree with most of wh01.t I SO\y. ihese frit>l'lcAS
helpe& by beir19 willit19 to c4isct.tss o,nd deb01te t-he
topics of" love G\ll"lc4 prostitCAti~n with me. They c.dso
nelped in VO\YiOCAS other WOI.YS -- pointing OCAt if"'lpor-
fOint books to reG\0., proofreG\olil'19, mo.ki1119 desr9vt
su99e stio..,.s, d i H CA ss in9 0\pproCA<. ht>s to cirOo."'-' in9 > a..,cA
;.., mowty other w01.ys. I tho.nk thef'Yl o.ll.
Ano( thOo.nks to everyone 01t Dro..wvt A111d. GuG\rterty,
J>Oo.,-tict.Aio.r/y Chris 0/ivero.s> Pe99Y BCArl"lS> C"And 1o..,..,
Devlin.

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 APPENDIX 1
THE NORMALIZATION
OF PROSTITUTION
Prostitt-ttion is jCAst ~ for,., of ci.ortir'\9.
Tl-lere is r~o regtAio.tory o r le9od fr01mework for
t.tr~po.io( d01ting . Nothing ho.ppens ci.CArin.9 p01iot c:l01tes
t-h01t doesn't n 01 ppen in <Ar'lpaid &ates. Frol"Yl 01 le9o.l
perspec. t ive tney s ~o tA iot be see., ~s icie..,ticOII. No
regt.tlo.t ory or le901l fr01rnework is ne cess01ry for p01io(
clOitir'lg.
WhO\t I ~ope we're moving towo.ro( is o. time when
givin9 01not receiving money iS pO\rt of -t"'e 110rW~o.l give -
o.r~d - to.ke of sex t.Acd o.ct ivity. It won't be wh01 t eve ryo 11e
cioe.s., but it wi II becoi'Y'Ie so com mo.., th01t no one w~ II
think it oc:lot, disgusting_. o r LAI1t.ASu.o.l ;f 0 11e C40LAit ( m a le
or fe..,.,o. l e) pays C\11other OldtAlt ( mo.le o r femc.le) for
sex. It wil l be see n o.s normt:AI.
I believe Hlo.t., if prostitc.Ation is clecrimino.lizecf.~ it.s
rtormodizo.tiot"l will h01ppe.., re/o.ti ve ly 'tc.Ai ck ly -- with i n 01
few ger~er01tions.
Wl-te11 I wa s born, in 19607 l-tomo.sext.AOIIit y w01s wi~ely
seen o.s "sick" G\not aiS9LASt ing. It wo.s ille9011 to en301je ;..,
howtosexc.Aod activity ;.., 'this <oCAntry ( a.nci probobfy 0111 of

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the other "western" cotAI"ltrieS ). In 1961~ Pierr-e TrCLAdeo.v.

~ec.rirY'lino.liz.ed.hoi'Yio.sex~Aodity ;.., Ca.na.c:AO\. Otlo,er
COI.Antries beg"'.., to ao the SO.rYI€ thi1'19. *" The re.svdt>
fo rty -5ome thing yeo.rs l ~ter, is tl-10\t nomose xv.o. l;ty ho.s
bec.ome norr'l'lo.liz.eoC for most people in " the we~t ''. It 's no
lon9e.r widely SE>en o.s Sic k or cliS9LASting .

APPENDIX 2
SEXUAL RIGHTS
Yo~..A've co....,po.re~ You. weren 't Prostit(..(tes o.ncl
hoMOS~.XLAo.lity born o. jon..,. john s clo.., ' t
to prost i ttAtion. Prosti tLAte s ho.ve the
Go.y s hc:we o. aren't born sextAo.l ri9hts
right to ho.ve prostittAte s. th01t 9o.ys
go.y sex no.ve.
beco.use they're
borYI 90\y.

Hvf'otheticc:dly ~ le t 's 5"Y tl,o.t in o. few ye("(rs 9eneticists

will be <Able to poi..,t to o. spec.ific. 9e..,e whic.n co.t...c~es
people to sexu.o.l l y desire rYJemben of tl-,eir ow.., 9ender:
o. "9"'Y 9e11e". '*
Both sicAes in the n o.tCAre-verstAS-11tAr t (..(re
debo.te o.clf'Ylit tho.t both environw"~..,f" o,..,o( in-born c. ho.r-
CH.t er-istic.s infltAence beho.vioCAr ~ so eve., if there i s a
g<Ay gene IA.Ihicl-, is re s ponsible for ..-nost howrosex(.(a(
beho.vioc,..cr, tl-1ere will probo.bly be CAt leo. st G\ few hoWJo-
sextAo. l s who clon' t ho.ve the gene_. who bec~me go..y
throCA9n the influence of Hteir enviro..,wtent. Let 's .so.y
it f~A("VI$ OV\t fl-,o.t 99 % of the hOI'\o"lO$€XCA~( popCA/GI.t"ion
V.o.ve the 9ene 0\VIc.A. I Ofo don't. If 90\Y r-i9l-1t s 01.re pred i -
co.tecl o.., being born go.y~ who..t c:Ao we clo if we
discover thoo.t 0\ few 90\YS were not born 9C\Y ? Do we
soo.y thC\t they clon ' t howe the ri_91--tt to h01ve ga.y sex ?
Do we force t hem to howe hete...-osextAo.l sex ?
Jf G\. l e~bi~n ( who IA.I().S born fesbi01n) is good f,..-;e..,c;(s
with 01 go.y rl'l0\1'1 ( ~Nho wo.s bor.., go.y) Olno( they
dec;cJ.e. to hO\ve sex to9ether jt...cst to see who.t wtoo. l e - etnd-
f~W~o. l e (oit CAS is like_, o..re they doin9 Sowtethinc:.i ..,.,or-c;..lly
wrons? Is the lesbicn1 only o.llowed to ho.ve sex with
WOW1en ? Is the 91..\Y only 0\lloweol t o no.ve sex with
Wl€"1 ? No .. tl-, c.t lesbic.n ~no( her go.y mo.le po.l ho..ve
every rigl-lt to l-1a~ve sex to9ether-. Their- in-born sex(,(01l
orientatio.-,s don't cAetel'",..,ii"'Te who they'~'"e 01llowee{ to

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howe se)( with -- those o..-iento.tioi'IS c;.(ol'l't lii'Ylit their

sexLAO\I ri9hts,
Go..y ri.snts ~.--e..,'t predic<ll.teo( Ol'l bein9 born 901y or-
"""'"i"'.9 the ri9ht gene. Cio.y ri~hts C\re predicated on
cl-1oice etrtd COnSt?Ylt, If yoiA're 0\ t'VlQYl C\n~ yov. (().,.., fiYJcA
Oll'loth.e r mo~t"l who conse...,ts to howe sex wit~ yotA~ it's.
ft..tO\t COI"''HI"'t th<At SiVeS yoi.A the ri.9nt to howe 5e:x
wit'-1 him .
Ge.,etics C\re irrelev<i'nt w'-1er1 it co mes to sexv.a(
r-i~l-1ts. J~ASt ~s 90\)' rishts 01..-e bo.seo{ on c.V7oice c.tl"'ot
COI'!SeV~t_, so C\re prostittAtiovt ri_sV'Its, @ sex~Aal ri.9hts
cu-e bc:tsed o,., c.hoice c:tno( co11se...,t.

APPENDIX 3
MORE ON THE
NORMALIZATION OF PROSTITUTION
It mo.y be o(;fficLAI't for people who ho.ven't 9iven tne
m<i'tter ~'11Acn thov.9ht to pictc..ue who.t """ to"kin.9
o.botAt.
let 's so.y t""<At prostittAtion is cAec.rirY~it1o.lized. ; ...... te ......
yeo.rs. Now let 's jurYip o.l1eo.c:J. to the yeo.r 20SO. A yo""'""9
w om o. n w o r k s i ..., o. n ~ t s hop -- I e t 's c G\ II "" e r I'll c.,.. y. A
yotAI'19 rr\CU\ "'"'""o 0\lso works there o{ecio(es to c:tsk l'll"'ry
OtAt on G\ o(o.te. ihey 've k,.,ow.., eo.c."" other- seve..-0'11
vno ...... t-hs G\...,cJ s,..,e likes him_, so she so.ys yes, c:tcld;ll'19
+1-lo.t> if he wc.tnts to ho.ve sex with her> it ' ll cost G\n
OlmotAnt of I'Yloney tho.t she spec.ifies. He ~oesn ' t fi11o\
this snocki""'9 --it's "' comrnon reqt.Aest in ~ sitiAo.t-io,.,
like this. Tney 90 OIAt to dinner "',o( then no.ve sex
~t either his G\PG\rtmel"'''t or ners. He po.ys her tne
spec.ifiec).. price. The next d.o.y> MC\ry tells her- friends
<"AbotAt the cA"te . They G\ll h~ve sex for money too, so
.., o.., e of the I"YY "' r- e s no c. k eo< . M"' ..- y t e 11 s h e .-- mot 11 e r.
She's l"'ot .shocked eitV.er - -s he still 9ets pG\icA for se)C'
""enetf. Most people ; ...... this fiAtiAre society hG\ve pC4ic.A-
se)( ~t leo.st occo.sio...,o.lly. There G\re still 0\ few people
who believe in possessive t'Vl01'109G\......,y 0\nd.. 2.!!.!Y l-1cwe
sex if tl-ley fo.tl in love wi"th someo..,e> blAt """ost people
in 2080 see thC\"t C4S weirc:J._, olcA-fG\shio ...... eot beho.viour.
A mio(c:Ate -o.9ed 9LAY who c:.lso works "t the hc.t"t sa.,op
o.pproo.<nes Mo.r-y ~ncA S1A99ests " cAo.te. Sne'.s not inter-
esteo( il'1 old.er me...,> so she politely declines. There's
1'10 expectc.ttion t'-lc:.t she h01s to ho.ve sex wit"' 0\nyone
wl-1o hatS t'Vlo..,ey. If Mo.ry o.cq_IAire.s el"'oLA_s"" frie.,cAs-
who-pOiy-for-sex> ..-n~ybe she'll be C\ble to q_t.Ait the hG\t
shop job~ bLAt ~Anti I +he~"~> the I"YY01'1ey she mO\kes from
sex 11icely StApplevnents her incoi'Y1e. No o ...... e wotAid see
M01ry OIS 01 sltAt for hC4vit19 I'YltAitiple .sex-po.rtYJers -- it '.s
see., C\S normod to ho.ve mt.Aitiple sex·p"rt...,ers.
WhO\t 0\botAt love? MCi\ry m.~Y ~evelop Iovin~ feeli1"'19S

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for o,....e ~ SOW~€~ or Ci\ll of l-Ie r fr;e...,ch- who-pc:Ay- for"- s e)(.

( Beir19 pCi\i& for sex doesn't prec:luc;(e the possibiliTy thCi\t
o,.,e coiAio( love the perso., po.yi~"~9·) Or s"'e mi9l-lt- ho.ve
o. sext.Ao.l frie...,o( she loves who cioesn't P"'Y her for- sex.
Mo.ybe she po.ys hiovt. ( It's co,..,.,,.,o..., for- wome"" to po.y
me.., for sex i..., this society.) Or mCi\ybe no money
c.h0.1"19E'S nGIII"!OS 0\t Qll in thCi\t po.rtictAio.r r-eiGIIti01'1S ,hlp.
BecCAlAS€ it's 11or..,..,o.l 01noC l"''othi...,9 is secretive
o.bout it,., Mo.ry co.n J..to.ve podd-sex wit.., people she
knows -- tl.-ter-e is,.,'t the so.wte .-,eeci to se01rch for
stro.n~ers who might btAy or self sex. This to.kes o.
good. de011 of the risk out of ti-le G\c.tivity. Perho.ps
in this pr-eciicteot worlc:J. of 2080 there will still be
streetwo.lkers o.ncA brothel~workers who howe po.ic;(-.se)(
with str01nger.s> bL.tt rY10St people will WOI..,.,. to l-'1etve
some prior con...,ec"t-io"" witl-1 the indivicl~o.ls +l-tey get
;..,to b ·e cl with> just 0\S most people liked th01t betck in
20 II.
W!.,e"" yot-"""'9 people 01re toiDC tJ..,01t bo.ck in 2011 l-tCAvin.9
sex for mo..,ey wo.s seen o.s o. Sh01_,ef"'l tl-1i""C3> it will
see., bi'lo.rre to the...,.,, "It wo.s ille90\l ? Why? lt's
SO ... l'lOr"...,..,OII , "
How likely is it th 0\t this w iII be the wo.y thi ""'9S ore
in 2080 ? Not likely o.t o.ll beco.IASe 9overnments CAren't
o.boiAt to decr;,...,;...,OIIiz.e prostitiAtio...,,

APPENDIX~
YOU OWN YOUR, BODY
Your boc.ty iS yotAr property. J~A~t CAS you own property
like books o.nd. cfothes 7 yo"' own yOIAr" bocJy. You shotAfot
no.ve the riglo,t to G(o whO\tever- yoL.t wc::....,t" with your
bociy ( Cl\1'1~ ~~"'~Y other property you own ) etS lo.-19 0\S yotA
res~ect the property right.s of others. (By whicl--t I me01n:
yoCA d.o.,'t h~rm or stec.tl ~nyone el s e 's property> or use
frc;tucl or thre01ts of force to CA~ctuire it,., c;t,.,o( yoc.A don 't
use pnysicod for-ce to mo.ke Someone cio something
they do.,'t wo.nt to d.o.)
If yo"' re.spec.t the property rigJ..lts of others cmc( treCo\t
them with courtesy, yo~A're livi~9 G\ moro.l life.

' I wCi\nt to hcwe sex I w01nt to h~ve sex

with you becettASe with you beco.~se
yotA'f( give me l love yolA.
mo11ey.

To me,., st01tement A is OIS mor01l etS stCAtement 8.

 APPENDICES

APPENDIX 5
JOHNS DON'T BUY WOMEN
JonYIS b(;(y womel"'\. When I bu.y .somethin9 -- SG\y>
No m o"'"' shoulcl nove o. book -- I to. k e it nome Ci\no<
the ri9ht" 9et to keep it for- o.s long o.s I
to b~Ay o wo.nt. I OWV1 it. When I ho.o( GH1
oppointment" with Ci\ prostitute,
I c(id. not bLAy her. I pC\icl to howe
sex with I-ter. Afterwo.r-ol, we'c(
port compo..-1y. I didn't 9et to
keep her-- I didn't own her.

APPENDIX 6
POWER
Pt"ostitc.Atio"' is Wf""OY1'3
JtAs't as m"'le prostitt.Ates
it gives "' mG\n
bec.C~.t.A'>e
c:io > fe mode pro .s tit ute s hG\ve
se.xLAod power over 0\ their rules -- whG\t they
wol't"'Oin . TV.e will o.ncA won't cAo with
jonn gets cl i et1tS. Some wi I( hG\ve
to d.i c: tCo\ te voginCi\l sex bi.At won't- 9ive
wh01t orG\1. Others only fello.te. *
h01ppe,s . Some let johns perforii'Yl
, .... ...,nilin9lAS on the.,..,, others
clot1't. Some kiss, some won't.
A..,o. it's t1ot jtAst
Etceten~.
Ci\bO&At r"tAfeS - - prostit(;(tes cJ.o nCi\ve SeXIAC\1 power in
their inter-Ci\ctions witl-t their- clients. Sex~AG\I ~esirG\bil­
ity is power. Wne.., o. rnon thinks Ci\ worn011'1 is o.ttrG\c-
tive, ne wa..,-ts to pleo.se her. Also, sex-workers '"'..,
oncA Gto speo.k tAP if" they do,..,'t- like whot's ho.ppe..,ing .
"Millie's" req_c..cest i.., pGlnel zrs:~.t- is o..., exCi\.-nple. I
remernber o. sin-tiiG\r incic(ent- wit., "A.-,ne":

Chester_, my le9s G\re 9ettir19

tireci. CotA.Id we ch~11~e
positions ? ----
~~~- Of

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A few months 0190 "Denise" told me thO\t I WO\S bein9 0\

bit too 0\99ressive sexuO\\Iy> so I toneO. d.own wh01t I
wo.s &oin9.
Are there jerky jol-lt'lS wno WOLdo( clisrec;sOir"o( 00. pro-.ti-
tCAte's ..,.,;&-coitod req_CAest or St..1<3<3esrion? I'I'YI s(Are t-heYe
0\re. B ·CA't there a.,-e odso 9lAYS who igno,..e SirY~i/~r
req_«Ae.sts 0\.-td SCA99estions in unpOtid sexLA0\1 sitCAo.tions>
so ;f we crirY~inOtliz.e pede;( sex bec.o.w>e soi'Yle 9""YS o.re
booris~ ;.., beo(, we sYioLAid c.rirVlinodize 1Anpa.id sex for
ti-le scv'Yle rea.son.
Here's o. sex - wo,..ker on tl-,e SV\bjec.t:
My clients a.re invGH''"io.bly polite.[...] I control wl1c;4t
I wisl, to do o..-,o( set my limits~ whic'-1 o.re C\lwc.tys
respec.teo(. [ ... l]n four- yea.r.s C\t va.rious 019enc.ies>
I CO\n reme...,.,loer only onc.e l-101.ving to s/a.p o. m01.n
who WtH too insistent. ( He wcH immeo(i~tly pv.'>~('cA
ov.t the. O.oor [.)~)(]

Prostitutes a,,-en't passive p«Appets> a.nol most joh.-, s

0\l"en't c:Aic.to.tors.

APPENDIX 7
MONEY!s INFLUENCE
infi~Ae11ce0\ womO\n to hoo.ve 5ex wher1
.she otherwise WOtAidn't wa.nt to.

If tho.t mea.ns tho.t the infl""ence of money is b01c:(,

the.-,it odso wteo.n.s th01.t r""o~~ntic love i s bad. Mc..ny
people in love relo.tion.ships howe sex they don't wo.nt
to hO\ve.

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I don/t W~nt to I don't want to I no /on9er fee I

h ewe sex with hcwe sex ri9nt ~esire for ,.,.,Y
this 9Lty_, bt.At now, btAt he 's VY\Y hLASbC\nd_, bLAt
I neeot the boyfrieVJo(_, o."'cA for- tne sake of
I love hii"YY, so ot.Ar m G\rri019e
I will. I'll 1-1o.ve sex
with 1-Jim.

Tl-Jcue is no W'IOrod c;A;fferel"lce between the above three

c.irc.ut'Y'Isto.nces.

APPENDIX 8
SELF-RESPECT
sl-1o~ld be i IIE'9011 M~.,y g~ys prior to
it dest,-oys tne the sextA~I revoltAtiol'l
se lf - respect exper-ie.-,ceot sh~....,e.,
of c;.(epr€$Sion> .9'-'ilt,. c:•u1d
prostitt-\te s. dis~ust o.bo~.At bei....,.9 9oo.y.
That doesn't 1">"14?~.., t&.,c..t
homosextA~/ity is w,-ong,
it meo.t1S tl-tc..t) c..t a
certc..i"" point ;.., 'ti n1e,
nowro.sexlAo.lity WC4.S
revile~ .. o.ncl tY~<ll.ny 9o.ys ;....,terncdizec;{ the 90.y-ne9o.tive
values of tne C1..4ltt.Are tney lived i.,, Today, mal"ly prosti-
tvdes .i ntern01/ize the wnoril'19· iS- bo.o( C\ftitl.t(de of the
cultu,-e. we live ;.,.,. TJ..to.t doesn't meC\n th01t sex-work is
bo.c;{ , it me01...., s we howe to ~o for iT who. t we c;{i o( for
}1omos~><tAality: dec.rivninalize it.
Not o.ll prostittAtes internc..lize t-he Ylesative ctAitlAral
v01l"'es re9o.r-ding paiot sex-- ma11y c/0\iWI to like the
work, a,cl even that it iWlproveo( their self-esteevn.
Pnyflis LtAW1C\VJ Met~AI wrote:
wv. el"l I first ,,~,...9ec:( fo\"' it} I nC\d I'Y'ILAC.Yl WI Ore
se lf respec.t o.no( self worth H101.., I ever hac;{
be f o,.. e . I f e I t a p pre c i ~ t e d. [*]

According to Jo.VIe of New York:

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Before I starteci esc.or-ti...,.9, I h~d C\ few hoy-

fr-ieno(s [ .... ] They weren't shy C\boLAt floo.t OIA~
tellit19 me that I c(idn''t look 9ood because I was
too tel(( O.V'H:l too thil"l. [ ... fv7]ost of [my cfieYifS] helpeo(
wt~ leo.r..-t two very important thi..-t9S: that I oo.m
beC\utifi.A I jiASt tt.,e way I o.m_. c;~nc:A -tno.t I'YlY p/eo.-
SI.-\re iS iW~port~.,t too. WV1en I st01rteo( workin9, I
met o.ll tl1ese [ c.lie...,ts] who tl,otAght I WetS
9orgeo1As, model-like_, even. They loveo( my Sma ll
breo.sts O.Ylcl impossibly Jon9 less. They tola me I
wa.s bec.ttAtifiAI over etnd over 0\90\i..-t LAI"ltil I
tAn~e..-stoocA it.[*"~]

AY1o.Nicole of Berkeley_. (o.li forniCA > ""/dresses a

p01rt ic tA letY john :

TnroLA.9h I'Y\Y sessio..,s with yotA_, 1 hG\ve C\CC(IAireo(

il"'voo.ltAC\ble self-esteem in r-e9C\ro(s to my body, sex
appeo.l_, C\no< service. I hoo.ve '3rown as a sexvtal
bein9 not OV11y it-1 My profession, bLAt in my re0\1
life o.s well. [**]

VeroY'IiCc.t Monet conten~ s tho.t:

Sex work 1-tG\S bee.., ernpowerin9 and liber0\tin9
for WI€. My self-estee,.,., l-1as improved. clr-astic-
C\IIy ;,., tne last six ye01rs since I enterec:i Hte
se)( indiAstry. [ ...] I ~n-t .,of" cAe9rO\o(e~ by sex. I
~m not C'\ reSOlArt:e or property H1~t CG\1'1 bt»
clevodLAeci. t"hrou9h use. I arYt no't hlArt by .SIAC:h
terms 0\S "sfCAt" or "whore." I prouclfy o.ssert
H·tc~t I G\rYI both. [¥<t¥<J

APPENDIX 9
CHOICE
Whe"' they confro .... t feVY~etle ~ex- workers wl--ro ciO\im to
howe freely chosen their- profession) (AnTi - pr-os.t-itutior1is.ts
( wl.,o 0\re of t en fe~o¥~inists ) are pLAt ;.., ti-le posit-ion of
looki..-rg like they're tryin9 to restr-ict the fy-eeclom of co.
9ro"'p of woVVlen. Severed of t11ese C\Yiti - prostlturioYli~ts howe
dec.ioCecA thO\t the w~y ov.t of this q_IAo.noCO\ry is to o.ssert
tho.t c(..,oic.e is t1ot possible when it comes to sex - work .
Sheil"' Jeffr-eys, C\ feWii..-tis-t, o.r-gues this;..., ner book
THE IDEA OF PROSTITUTION :

T!-,e worol c.l-toice is vtot etppropriate for- C4 wom~n w/.,ose

., c.VIoi c e " is between Jow-p01i & se rvice work whi c h aoes

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not fit ;..., with c.hild-co.Y"e, 0.11d the cho..,ce of "' bette.--
in come with more flexible l.,olH"S HtroCAgh the vio/c.. tio..,
of her body. [Jeffreys.. pp. 155, 156.]

Tnis l-1ypotl-1etic~l womo.., m'-'y .,ot feel HtC\t pt'oStitution

is o. viol01tio..,. Sowte wome..., would, otner.s wotAio(.,'t ~ Mor-e
to the poi.,t, i f it 's r'lot possible for c::u-1 o.ttr01c.tive si r1.9/e
mom to c. l.,oo se between low - p~y work o.nol prostittAtio..,_.
Hte., why o.re there o.ttractive Single mother.s wi1o work
a.t wti1'1iW'ItA"""' - wo.9e jobs? Some wo.....,en CG\...,'t s to.....,~cJ., tl-te
thoc..cgJ..-at of hG\vi..-t_9 po.i& -s~x with ~tro...,ge,..s , so they
choose +he clrudge,.y of working for low po.y. Meo..,(...Vhile_.
there Qre. o ther moms who c. h oose sex-work ove r /ow
wo._9es o..,o( o.re hG\ppy to be o.ble to iW~prove the m~teri01l
cirCCAWlStG\11C()S thc..t their c hilolren live i n . Jf two peo ple
fcc.ce the so.me pro bleW\ o.nll( mo.ke two d i ffer-e., t olec..i sio,s
0\bOIAt how to solve tJ.tG\f probleW~, thel"' c.hoic.es are being
mO\ole , That does 11't I'Yl€O.n the c ho ic.es 01r-e eo. s y ,. blAt o.
c;l;ffic~Ait c h oice is stilt o. cho i ce,

Wne., 9i rl s howe bee.., H?>< tAO./Iy o.buseol ;.., c.V! i ld hood~

OtS prostit~Ated wowten ofte11 ho.ve, it is no.rd to see
them ~s hc:wi..,g C\ reo.ll y free c.hoic.e. (Jeffr eys, p. /53.]

thiVlk were steppin9 iV~to do.n9erous ter-r it o ry vvhe.,

we st(;(r-t so.yin.9 th~t c erto.in CAO.ults Qre not o.llow eol to
W~o.ke choices beca.«Ase they ho.d bG\ol childhoods. If
wo...,.,en-who -were- QbtAsec:A·in - c.hi lot hood o.ren't co.-npete.,t
to mo.ke the c.hoic.e to e..,9019e i n paid-sex, then o.r-e t&-,ey
competent to rno.ke other sexulll choices ? Re9 <:4Yo/f en of
who.t h01ppe..,ed to the.., ;., c. nilc:lhood_. (:\c::fults shoulo(
l-tawe the ri9hi to make sex ual choices_. inc.lc..u:lin9
cho ice~ tho.t SV!eilo. ~effyey s wov.ld olisCApprove of.

Whe...., prostitLttecA won1en themselves tASe the. lo.n9u-

o.9e of " choice '', they e. G\., be see.., to be e.,ga~i"'9
in what o( e vi" n c. y so c. i o Io 9 is t .s c c.d I '' n e «At r G\ I is i....., 3
te c. h....,iqLte s ". Sociologists use thi.s ter-m To describe
title w"'y ; ...., ~Nhic.h s o c.i" lf y despiseol G\noC mG\r9inaliSE'd
9roups cr-eo.te r-o.t io no.li s"tio n.s whic.h e...,"ble the..,..,
to StArVive their- mal"'~ in o.l coY~dirion, St.Ac.""' tech-
niqLteS WlCIY be ei'Ylployec:l beca.tAse the oV~Iy o.lteYV~o.·
tiv e m(:\y be the pO\infi.A I one of self- conteYY~pT,
r Jeffrey s, p. 1371

let's co V~trCAs t tho.t oprnrol"' with the folf owi n9 i teW~S

writtel"' by two wowten who o.re o r were sex-wor kers .
I c.CAn s~y f o r the first time ;, I'YIY life tho.t I love
my job. It 's the leCAst ex ploited I h~ve ever been

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~ .A A 'VYV VA .A vv A •../\/' •v ·v ~y 'V 'V '\rv ...,......,A •Av .AA.,.A..,/\

at work, for Ctdeqt..H"te mo11ey this -time. [ ... ] I'm

e" e .-, Cl b Ie to e n j o y t he w or k i t s e If., not j us 't its
fn~it.s) an& have c~me to Ctppreci~te C\11 body
types c.o.s lo..,9 C\S t"'ey're clean C\n& kino( [. •j

It ho.s C\ll coWie d.own to choice for me. I cnose to

see some clie.,t~ C\nd I chose not to see others. I
chose whO\t sexCAO\I o.ctivities I was williY19 to
engo.ge in for po.y C\Yld I c"'ose what w~s not" ''on
t~e menu., I ~sserted ""'Y bOIAndo.ries C\1'1o( I
honored. the CAniq_CAe sexv.ality of iV~d.ivi<iCAods. [~ tt]

Jeffreys SCAyS tho.t" prostitv.tes like these Otre r01tional-

i-z.i119 01nd th01t tney o.ctiAOtlly feel self-co..,tempt. u..,/ess
Jeffreys is o.lle9ing th~t she h~s psycl.-tic powers) s ne
can't know if 01 pC\rtictAicu prostitc.Ate feels self-contempt.
Wnen yoLA howe to resort to claiming to know what yoiAr-
icleolo9iCal oppo1o1en'ts ~re secretly feelin_g , yoi.A've riAn
OtAt of goocl argiAments.
To see how d.esper01te Jeffreys co.11 get, re01d. the
following:

Oppress ion CO\ I'lnot eff ec. t i vely be 90.CA9eo( o.ccord. i "'9
to the ote9ree of "c on s ent ·~ si11ce eve.-, il"' slo.very
tnere was SoVY~e conseVIt if consent is d.efil"'e~ as
ir1o.bility to see, or feel enti tl ed to,., o.ny
~lteYVIettive. [Jeffreys,., p. 135 . ]

Jeffr eys is SCArely the ovtly person on the plo.net who

G(efines cot-tse..,t 'this wo.y.
A penon is botA..,o( in heco.vy iron chOtins. /, thett
moW~ent then~ is no o.l'tern~tive to bei1o19 bot..tnol by
<:ho.iVIS_, bt.1t thc:.t ~oes 1o1ot mean that the persoV'I is
COV1SentinCJ to beiVI_g boCAnoL Not h~ving an alternOI-
tive t ,o o. sitCAation ~oes not mea.., thett yotA 01re
ci-looSiVlg to be in thG\t sitCAC\tion. YotA face c.hoi<:es
wl-te.., yoc.A hcwe o.lterVlo.tive s ( like the o..,e betwee"' a
low-wa9e job ~not prostitLA'tion ). Slcwes didn't choose
to be s laves.
Feminists netve o.ccepte~ that choice iS poHible
w~en it come s to o. ot;fferent, ol;ffict..tlt St..tbject ~
a.bortion. The fei'Y\inist position ( 01nol I G\gree with
it) is tho.t woMe.., own t"'eiY bodies 01no( the,..efore
ec..c.h wom~.., ho.s the ri.9ht to cnoose to get 0.1'1 o.bortiol'l
i f s "' e 9 e t s p r e 9 .., ~ .., t . T h i s ; 5 c c. II e cl b e ; n 9 .. p r o- dt o i c. e. ''.
Fe.,ini~ts shoiA/o( be co..,sistent on the SCAbjec.t of
choice. If 0\ woman has the ri9ht to c.hoose to h owe c.n
abortion , she shotA/o( etlso netve the rigltlt to <:1-loo~e to
h~ve sex for money. It's her body> it's her ri.9nt.

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APPENDIX tO
VIOLENCE
Jeffreys o.n& some ot,..,er feWiinists co..,te""al that +'-te
r-elationsl,ip betwee"" G\. pro$tit&-cte CA.no( "' jo'-'"' is
~IWQyS Cc violenT o~-te. Jeffreys quotes Evelina. uiobbe :

P r o s t i t (;( t i on i s s e x ~ o I o. b (;( s e b e ca u s e pro s -t ; t u t e s a.,.. e

s~bjec.te& to 0.r1y l"lCAI"''\ber of sex~o.l C\c.ts tho.t ;.., o...,y
otket"" context, ~c. teet ogG\it'lSt ony other womGtn_.
woi.Aiol be /Qbellec( c.tsso.ultive oY., at ti-le veYy le(;(st>
v.nw~..,ted GH1c:i coerced . [=f<]

It's my irYlpressiot1> re~oling o.ccot..c..,ts by joi-1"1S o.nd

prostitt..ctes> thO\t pO\iol-sex is uSlAO\IIy pretty mt..ccn the
so.me as unpO\id- sex. Certc.inly I V~evev- did etnythiV~g
sexiAa.l wit&1 o. pro.stitt.ete thett I ho.oln't olone wit'-1 my
9 i r I fri eno(s. The thi n9s I like sexuaHy G\re ( o.s fa..- QS I
CG\1'1 9ettl-ler) pretty nort'l'lal O."''ol not c:.t o.ll ki..,ky. ( Not
t~01t I tl1i"' k tho.t ki1o1ky se:>c bet wee..., co"'sent-i...,9 o.of..,.lts
is wron9.) My girlfrie..,ds c;(;o(,., ' t experience sex wit-h
n1e o.s ~busive or OISSa.tAitive., so it's not trLAe th01t t,..,e
sex I no.c:A wit,., prostitutes WOI.Aiol) "in o.ny otner
context> [with] ~ny other wom01n> [ ... ] be lo.belleo(
~SSolAitive ". Did prostitlAtes like ho.vin9 seX' with me
the wo.y Yny girlfrienols did? No., probo.bly not.~~ Bt-ot
ti1C\t 's not Jeffreys; G\nol Giobbe's point. Even ;f th01t
WCi\S their- point> it WOlAio( be G\ leG\p fo so.y thC\t~
becOiuse someoll'le iSn't enjoyirt9 01 .SE')C(;(Q I ef1C.OlAV1ter>
they're therefo...-e experier1ci"'S it c:u o.ss(;(ultive or
coeYcive,
Jeffreys sees sex~01l h01rc;{SSI'Yient o.s "' form of sex&AO\I
violence.*"'* SI-te 9ives exo.mples of sex ~.ttcd hCArass..,e""t:

[ ...)leering., menQcin9 7 steering 01nof sexLAo.l

gest~.ttt"'es [ •..] whistles> LASe of innvtertdo o.no(
gossip > sexi.AOII joking., propositioning[... ]
lAnWa.nteot proX'ivnity [ . .. Jeffr-eys, p, 26't. J

lookit19 o.t tho.t list., it becomes cleGtr how Jeffreys

co.n -think th01t prostitlAtion is 01. forM of viofe.,..c.e . SV1e
o(oesn't lASe tf,e woro( ''violence" tne w01y other people
do. If yotA know th01t by .st01ndivt9 close to someone
yo~.A're mo.king tl-ten1 uncomforto.ble, then it's inconsi-
derO\te Olnc( rLAde to COYltinue to StO\nd ;.., their- proxi-
mity. Still> th01.t doe.5n't make " lAit1WGH"'teol proximity''
violent. SexlAG\I jokes CO\n be i nsel"\sitive ., btAt jokes
C\re111't "' forVYl of violence.

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lr n-1o..y be thc;.t Ylot o..ll jol-lns Not

p,-ostitLAtes
~II
~..-e violent> b~..tt prostit~..t"tiol"l e..,c.o~..tl"lter
violence* btAt_,
sl-'!o~..tld still be kept i lle9AI yes> mGh"'Y do. ThAt
beCAIAS€ ~oesn ' t metH"' thO\t
prostitutes do prostittAtion shoi.Aiol be
frect~..tent I y ; ltesc.l . When ~ t01.xi
e..,c.o«.Anter driver is .st~bbeo( or
viol e.-,ce. shot> no ot1e cH=ivoc~te.s
thAt cJrivil'19 C\ CO\b
sl--totAid be c r im i 11alized.
EC\c.h pers o,., sl-1oCA /c.(
h~ve H1e ri9ht to c;(etermil"le for- him-or- Y'Ier.self' the
C\t'YlOLAY1t of risk ne-or-ske is willing to t~ke for C\
po.rticc...dAr job.
Also_, keepi1119 prost i ttAtion ille9~l m~kes tl.,e problerYI
worse ., ..,ot better.

Tho.t john beAt - - btAt th~t WOLA/o( c;(I""CtW t-heir

~no( s tole 0\tte...,tion to
my WlOI1ey. t"'e fetc:t tV!ett
I Wetnt to I' m rt.Annin9 ~..,
cedi the ilfe9et l ;..,cc;.ll
police -- operAtio...,
ot..tt of this
01 par"tmef"''t.

Dec.rirni'1aliz.i119 prostit~Ation will make it more likely thCAt

~ sex- worker wotAid report this sort of c.r i me . Of
co~Ar.se c(ecriminodiz.ation wor1t completely irraclicG\t€
violence ~901inst prostit~Ates., blAt it will sive the....., an
option to ae01l with thG\t violence.

APPENDIX 11
SEXVAL OBJECTIFICATION
Pt'"ostit~..ttio.., sho~..tlci be ilfe9o.l be cAvtse
i t e..,<ot.u·o.9e s rne,., to objec.tify
WOVI"len .

Sl-teilo. Jeffl'"eys c{efines sexLAo.l objectific~tiol"l o.s o.

fot'"l"'"\ of e t"V1 o t i onod indiffe,..e...,ce . *Is it WY OI"\9 for people
who o...-e emo t ion~ lly indifferent to eo.cC., other to hC\ve
se')( ? S&,otAic:i we n-to.ke CAnpo. io(. one-night-stands illegcd ?
I o.c:tLAo.lly do..,'t think prostitlo\tion cloe s e11c:oc..trA9e
ernotiono.l in~iffe,.-en<e. Any tim e Ct. john s to.r-ts to for9et
thO\t he's cieetl i "'9 wi-th f"eo.l people, o.n incio(ent ho.ppens
like the one I show in po.nels 60 =8 to 66 =z which brin9s

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the 91AY bo.ck to tlie re~li~G\t fo.., tho.t l,e's i.., beet with
so~eo..,e whose feeli..,~S he h"s to t"ke ;..,to o.ccoLAnt.
Tl-ler-e ...,.,~Y be so~e it"'se..,sitive jol-t11s wl,o ft\il to recos-
niz.e th~t cespo..,sibi/ity_. btAt I don't thi..,k it's P"Y;..,g for
sex thCAt c~uses the....,., to be inse..,sitive.
I feh G\ vo.riety of emotion"! n~spo.-,ses to the sex-
workers I SOIW. I WG\S never covnpletel y ei'Yiotionc:dly
i"l~iffere..,t to 0\ny of thei'YI. I WO\S less concerned G\boiAt
wh"t they felt whe.., they dic<,·t seei'Yl to CG\r-e wh"t 1
felt. "Yvette"' ( CJ-t01pter 17) wot.Aio< be ".,.. exao.mple, blAt I
w"..,
s t i II ~ i ~ n' t t he r to fee I b" c;( I y "'bolA t o lA r en colA n t e r.
Mo<;.t of the prostittAtes I w01s with I felt o. t leao. s t some
o.ffection for. Severed of thewt I reao.lly lik ed. A few of
theW~ f 9E>ntAi..,ely respe cted.. With "Denise'~ emotion01l
in~ifference is t}-Je opposite of whao.t I feel. If po.yin9
for sex co.t.Ases ao. I'Y'IO\n to feel il"'cre01si.,9ly eMotio.-,<AIIy
inct i ffere..,t to the women he 's hcwin9 sex with> the..,
by ti-Je ti.-ne I st~rteol seei..,9 '' De,ise"> I sho«.Aid..,'t hcwe
bee.-, ao.ble to howe ao.ny emotioY~od respoY~se to her.
I think it 1'Y1i9ht be possible th~t pao.ying for sex cotAiot
le01d. " I'Y'IG\..., 'to 9re01te.- ei'Yiotio..,"l se..,sitivity> ao.t leo.st
for some J"oJ.,..,s -- tho se w&.,o o.re ope.., to the po~sibifity
tlo-!ao.t tl,ey mi9ht hawe thi..,gs they coCAid be leQrnil"19 from
enCOIAt'1ters with sex-workerS,

APPENDIX 12
HUMAN TRAFFICKING
AND SEX-SLAVES
There see""'s to be so.....,e conf<Asio"' t\bo"'t tJ.,e ter....., "'"'""..,...~"
"trQfficki..,~('. Whe.., I originCAIIy heG\rcA it severt\ l years a9o~
i t refer-red. to tn:A.nsporti..,9 ""'i9rt\..,tS across bor~ers ille9ally.
LG\tely I've het\r-ol and seen the expceHiot'l l.<~(>o( inter-c.ha..,ge ·
o.bly with ''pimpin9" as if the y mean the sa,e thi..,g. There
o.re tit'rleS wlo,en certain t..-01ffic.kers ~o tlo,i..,gs t'-101t ~..-e
Sii'Yii lt\r to WheAt pi ...... ps olo.. btAt I see no rE.>G\SOI"l to biCAr the
o(iHinctions~ so I 'W~ going to ho/o( to the origii"!CAI ..,.,eao...,ing
of h ... m"'.., tr<>.ffic.ki..,9 for this ~ppenolix.
Most people who o.re tr01fficked ~ to be trOt.fficked.
They 're frorv~ poor cov.ntries G\nct want to c.o,......e to richer
co~.Antries eitner for tne ecol"lo..,.,ic. opporttA..,ities o r bec~t.(se
tney WC4..,t to trCAvel. Some of them h01ve b01ot e)(periences
while bei"'9 tr~fficke~ --others don't 01..,c:A o.re h01ppy
th~t tJ,ere's o. w~y to 9et to where they "'-'G\nt to go.*
11"1 tJ.,e mo.jority of cc~ses, J.itAmOin tr~fficking hao.s noth-
in«3 to d.o with prostitl.o\tion. ( Accoroling to one Sot.Arce>
"j lAs t 4 perc e.., t [ of t r 01 f f i c k i n 9 ] in v o Iv e s t h e s e X'
;..,~~Astry ". ~ ~) 1,., ti1e CO\Ses where prostit~.Ation is
i.,volvecl_. WlOo.ny of the woWien choose to be tr01fficked
knowiVIg they'll be worki..,9 o.s prostitLAtes il"' the COIAI'1try
tl--ley'll be t<Ake~"~ to. So..,..,e O.o l'tot m01ke thCAt choic.e a.-,o(

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o.re for-cecl to wor·k ~s pt'ostitt.Ates Ol9G\i"'1St their will. For

the SG\ke of c.lc;trity 1'...,., 90in.9 to use. the tenYI "sex- SIG\ve"
to r'efer to trG\ffickec{ fe...,.,odes who o.re forcecA to I-1G\ve
p01i&-s~x.
To j1Ad9e by C(ccents, foi.Ar- of the pr-os.tit"'tes I s"'w
were n o t born i n C c.. n c..~ o, : "A n 3 e I i n ~ ., ( C h c.. p t e r 3 )
"Amc..ndOl" ( Cho.pter 1 ), "Arlene'' ( (hOlpter 21 ), o~o(
'' L01v.r01'' ( Ch~pter 29 ). ( I consid.e,- whether- G\ny of t-hese
women were sex-st01ves ;..., the r"totes sectio...,,) The IG\st
of the foi.Ar WG\S ''l~I.Af"Gl." -- I so.w her on December 12th
2002. J wc..sn't <;\WG\re of the existence of se)(-SI01ver'"y in
C~n01cA.01 v.nti I I heo.ro( 01.n interview ~botAt" the .SlAbject
on C-S-C R01.c:Aio on Dec.e..,.,ber 16th 2003,* 1 ~ so i t ..,ever
even o cc t.U reo( to me to won de r if ':An 9 e I i n o.",
"A...,.,G\nc;(01", "Arle.,e"> GVlo "LouArO\" were sex-slo.ves. If t
ever cJ.o find myself with 01 foreign - born prostitt.Ate
019o.in , """' sure I' ll o.sk I'Yiyself if she's bee..., forcec;.( to cto
the work, If I hc:we stro..,9 re-o.sons to SlASpect thO\t she
h01s been, l'lf 01.sk if there' s o.nythin9 I c01n c:Ao to help
her 01.nci will of-fer to co.H the police on her behO\If. As
o. joh.., who's ..,ot mo.rrie~ o.nc;.L is open o.nd "otAt''
0\botAt" p01yin9 for sex I prob~bly no.ve more options
o.boV\t how I COI.Aic:i nelp in SCAC:h si ttAO.fions . MOII"\y johi"\S>
worrieol o.bo«At their wives fincti..-.g otAt> wo«Aid.-,'t wo. .... t
to phot-~e the cops.

P"Y for sex <;\re to stop tl-1~t

cre"'tir19 a vtem01nd. we h<Ave.
demCAnd. for to c ri mi I"''CI I i l. e
sex- 510\ves. p01ying for sex.
It sl-1o&Aid be
i lle~o.l to be
01 john.

let's SGli.Y 01 cert01in shoe coW!pOiny IA.S€5 sl01ve IQbour to

"""'nv.f01ct1Are its shoes -- sl-lotAio( we crimi"''o.li-ze the weo.r-
;...,9 of snoes in order to stem the dern01nd for SIOive-
mc.c*e shoes? No, we~rin9 shoes <;\no( c re01ting "' clemanc(
for shoes is not in itself wron9_, and. ma.,«Afc.cttAring
snoes is not wrong when free a.o(~Alt.s conse"'t- to d.o i-t.
This hypothetico.l shoe c:ovnp01ny wov.(o( probCAbly contr<Act
oi.At the work -- tl-,ose contro.ctor-s o.YJo( G\1"\yone 01t the
comp01..,y who wa.s a.wo.re of the slo.very shotAIO. b·e the
people helc{ legc.dly re~ponsible for the problem_, not
p1Arc:ho.sers of the shoes_, wJ.to woc-4lcln't know OlhotAt the
siCAves .
I o.o.,' t wc.tnt to hCAve sex with sex-slo.ves. When I hi,-e
a. prostit~Ate I hope thc.tt sf.1e's "'fr-ee perso.., who h01s
c:l-loH"' the work. If I foi.A.-,o( OIAt tnCAt (;\ prostit~Ate I hG\o(
hired. WG\S 01 sex -s \~ve} I wo"'lot be willing to try to help
her. Most joh.,s don't w01..,t to hir-e .sex-siCAves, There is
~o Si.9111ificG\nt conStAr>'1er cleW101not for sex-sl~ves. PtAnisl-1il"l.9
johns for soMet-hing we c;.(on' t wo.nt 0\r"lc,{ c{o..,'t know-
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in9fy p~rticipo.te in is mispto. c.in9 the blo.wH~ -- especio.Hy

when.. in Co...,o.c<o., t""e n-,G\_jority of pros tit«Ates o.re not
sex-.slcwes .. .so tn01t joht"lS co..., be reo. soY1o. b/y cert0lil1
t~o.t most of the tii"'Yle we're with sex - workers w"'ro
howe c nos en rhe profession.
A f~.oHt he.-- point: if we cri m inali ze the ptArc.V.otse of
sexlAal servic.~s... Hten police reso~Ar'"c.es will 90 into trac.k-
;..,9 c(owV~ O.l"lol identifying jol-'!ns . Those reso~Ar-c.es wov./d
be better tAf"ili~ec( ;..-, trCo\c.k i.-"19 c<owV~ .se)( - s/o.vers o....,o(
free.iV'l.9 .se)(-s lo.ves.

IF we licence fei"V\o.le p..-ostit ~Ates~ We'll be 01ble to

we'll be o.ble to mo.ke Sl..\re tho.t icte.,tify who
only wome.,-who-ho.ve- tl-1 e
th e - le go. I- right- -to -
work-in - (Oin0\()(01.
work CAS
prostitvctes .

People wl1o rno.ke this o.rg~AVY~e...,t 01re ignorin9 01 big

covY~p li cOi ting f01ctor: +S.,e bl<llck W~o.rket. If prostit~Ate s are
li c.e..,ce d, n-1ost (01n01clio.V~·born prostittAtes will c.noose to
work ;..., the l:J/o.c.k YY~o.rket wltl-to~At lic.enc.e s. (Prostitutes
YlOIVe. STf"01'19 reo.SoYIS for protec.tit19 their priv01cy, potr""tiCIA-
Io.rl y f,-o m ri-te 9over.,,.,..e.,t, whic.h h01<; NEVER wot'"ked ;.,
tkeir- be s t it1t€ ft>sts .) TV.e black market wo~Afc( be c.on1e
n~A9e -- too large to be COt"ltrolleO.. SeX- slowes WOIAic.( be
forcec,( to work ;,., t""e blo.ck m01rket, rtot in legOll
brothels. Nevertheless, the t"Yl~jority of pro s tit~Ates i..,
t!-te bl~ck mo.rker wol-\lcA be free ca~...,Oic.liOI...,S w""o
c. ""o ose -the work. lc.le...,tifying whic.'-1 proHif"t.Ates ;..,
-the bl01.ck I"'YlOirket 01.re cirize..,s ou1~ which 01re
iII e .901.1- irn rn i 9 ro.nrs- wl-to - might - be -sex- SI Qve s wo lAIc;.( be
~ never -e nc<ing 01n& very expensive to.sk for the
0\t.Athorities. lic.e..,c i "'9 wot.Aic:i m01.ke it no e01.sier to
i~entify SelC'-S io.ves +~an i t is now.
o..-, Top of t h c:-t_, OIS I've 01.1'91-'e~ elsewl-,et'"e in this book ..
tl-te ;c(eo. of lice..,c.iV'lg conse..,svc01l sex between c-.dv.lts is OI.YI
offe..,sive restriction on o~.tr SelC'I.A<lll civi l ri9nts. Two
(O n Sen ting QcliAffS ,Si-tOCAiol YIOt neeo( to OI.Cq_Uire 01. 90V€Y"t1•
ment-i H!Aeol. dOU4WleV'lt" to hOI.ve Se)(. Freei..--g .sex - sloo.ves
.sl-totAic.l be 01 priority for OI.Ar IC\w e,forc.e.,._,e..,t offic.er.s,

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in OltteWtpting to o(o so tney shoc..tlc( nOive to oper~te

biA't
withi.., p01r<:Hn eten thO\t re spect the civil r ig l-lt s o f the
Citizenry ( jc..tst ~S t-ne polic.e nO\Ve to opero.te WithiYl
tnose p~rO\vneters wl-ten ti-ley c(e~l with other- c.riW~eS ) .

APPENDIX 13
PIMPING
Why o.re yotA Co.nad.ial"' woi'Yle..,
o...,ry ~efinir"'9 who CH "E.> forc.ed by
fore i9n- born pimps to h o.ve
wome n o.s pG\ic( -sex o. re o.lso
sex-slo.ves? sex - siG\vE.>s ..

It's wid e ly reco~niz eo th~ t wheYl 01 pi """P w01nts to

lc..tre 01 wo..,..,~, ir1to prostitc..ttiol'l> he does..-1t' lASe
forc.e -· he romou1ce!> I-ter. If he's SIAe<essf"'l" s he sees
him OIS her boyfr-iencA . This iSI'l"t s/01very, it 's 01
volc..tnt~ry rel~tionship . I don' t ht:we 01 problem with
voiCAnt'~t"y rel~tio..,snips between o.d .... tts .. If o. pi~p
be01ts o. prostit"'te, I hope s he woi.AI~ choose to Jeo.ve
tne 91AY o.nd 9et the police to o.rrest ~-lim for- ~sso.~Ait"
bt-tt I ~lso thil'lk sl-le 1-lo.s the right to sto.y with J..,;..,..,
;f she wo.nts to.
Co.n01dio.n woWten o.re ro.rely kidno.ppe~ e>.r'loi forceol.
into prostitCAtion the wo.y some femade i lle9CAI i rnr'Yli-
~rOints o.re . This is in lo.r9e po.rt beCCiliASe it's eo.sie,..
for Co..no.dio.n women to esc01pe .. A Co.no.oi01n WOI'YIO.I'\
w'-'o w01s kiolno.ppeol 01nol. force~ into prostit~Ation
with;.,., C~no.d" probo-.bly wo~.Aidn't hesi't01te to CCilll the
Co-.no-.olio-.11 polic.e if she 9ot her ho-.nols o.., 01 pi-lone --
~very sy,..,potnetic john with Q cell·phone wo~Alol be on
esc01pe opportt-tnit-y.. ( I don't howe o. cell-pnone, bt-tt
the seK- worker.s who COir'Yle to my Glportment wot-tlcl
freq~,«ently ~sk if they col.A id lASe Wty phone> Qnci I
G\lw01ys let them .) On the other h01,.,d > o.n ill egG\ I
immi9r~nt n-1i9ht worry th01t the pol ice in (o. ..,O\GlO\ 01.re.
o.s c.or..-"'pt 0\S the ones bO\c.k ; ,., her '-'tome c.ot-tntry. She
coiAicA. howe. concer,.,s ~bo1-1t bei"19 ol.eporteoL She nni91-tt
not eve.-, knov.~ tn01t the emer.9enc:y ni.Amber- is 9 -H . A
C~no.O.ia.., worv~~"' COIAI~ probtA.bly tA.ISo c01ll f~rnily or
frie11&s for help. An i lle9o.l i~migr-01,.,ts f01..,..,ily 01,.,cA
friencls ~re proba~bly on 0.111other- continent. As for Co.11a·
~ian women be ins kid."'"PP'-'ot in 01 f o..-eis n c:oi.A..,try •• i t
colAIO. 11apper"' ;.., o. colAntry l ike SoWI~Iio. wher e every
" we~tern "' penon woiAid be o.t r-isk, beAt i t ra~rely if ever
ho.ppe..,s ;., COI.Antri es with o..-~y kit"'o\ of to""r-ist ;..,o(l.o4stry.
The Ol~Athorities there o(o..,'t wo. r1t tlo,ose to""r-ist doll~rs
9oi..,9 Qwo.y . BtA.ol tl1 i119S OCCC4Sio ..... ally ho.ppen to (CAnO\&io.n

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totA.rists ;.., forei9n plo.ces~ bc..\t if Co.no.ciio..., wo.....,en wer-e

r-e9c..\IOtrfy Olrt<i syste.....,<l<tico.lly bei"'9 ki<ino.ppeol ;.., 01. p(;\rti-
CCAio.r- C.Oc..\rttry_,. it woc..\lc( be 1'10ti c.e<:l( C\nci O«t" 9ovel'n....,ent
CAnol. medio. woCAIG( st01rt wo.rni..,g people to o.voiol. H1(;\t
c:Hea. of tl1e wor/c(.
Jol-1ns co.., be reo.sorto.bly certo.i.., t'-1<At if o. prostit~Ate
ho.~ o. Co.n01olio..., o.cce..,t.,. she is not <A sex-s/o.ve.
How m0111y of the sex- workers I so.w ho.o( piW1pS ? Five
of tl-te"" told me enoi.J(91-t 01.bo1At their l ives in enougl-t
deto.i( th01t I wo.s co11Vi11ceol. tl-tey c{;c(..,' t ho.ve pi,.,.,ps. As
for the rest_, I don't know. If's worth notin<J tho.t m01ny
prostit~Ates work witl-1o'-At piW1pS, o.nd tho.t inco.ll ~..,cA
otA.tcodl worken 01.re le ss likely t'-101n str-eetw01.lkers to
1-l<Ave pi,..,.,ps.

APPENDIX 1~
EXPlOITATION
1'1ot o.ll prostitCAtes People cu·e exploited wl-len
e>.~e sl01ves.. but they 're not f~irly compe..,-
tl-ley 01re o.ll Sc-Atec( for tn e work tne y
exploite~ . do. Yes... some prostit~AteS
01.re exptoite~ when I'Ylos,t
or <?.II of their money is
to.ke.., by pi....,ps, bt..ct ..,ct
o.H prostit~Ates 01.re
exploite~.
"Denise" beg"'.., working OI.S 01. pr-ostitt.tte whe~"~ she
wo.s o.n o.d~Ait. She c.hose to cJ.o so .... 1'10 pimp or tro..ffic-
ker foYced. ner. She ChOlrgec( over $ 200 CAn l1o1Ar. Tke
mo..,ey she eo.,-..,eo( wo.s hen Cl\lone -- si-te dicA,·t J,.,~ve to
split it with o.nyo11e . After ~ few y~o.rs~ whe.., she
d.ecic.lecJ. she wo.nted to qlAit prostittAtiol'l> 11oboc.Ay
forced ~er to co..,tir1LAE' to work -- the detisiot"' Wc;\S
hers o. l oYIE' to mo.ke. I do.,' t S€€' now o.nyone (01Aio(
look o.t tnose fo..c.ts o...,d conc. l""c;(e thC\t her co..,ditioYl
WC\S siwtilo.r- to slcwery oy tn01t sl1e w01s e:xploiteo(. Sl-1e
w'-'S o....,o( is o. fr-ee perso.,, mo.kin9 c.hoic.es t£1011" rY~otkE'
se11se to 1-ler.

APPENDIX 15
THE COMMERCIALIZATION
OF THE SACRED

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Sex. i:s so.cred.. If commenio.lizo.tioY'l of the SC<creo(

It s noiA ldn't be i s w r o VI g , t h ~ ..-. yo LA 'd bet t e r t e II
com mere io.li zed. c. hLAHhes to stop po.ssing the coll€c-
tiot1 pl~te o.ncA bookstores to s top
selliVI9 tl-te Bible . Speo.kin9 of book-
stores.. I love reo.cAin.9 -- I see tl-te
trai"'SifYiiSSion of know/ed.ge ~no(
wisclow, in print ~s o. sa.creo( ().cti-
vity. )'...., 9lo.d. thCAt we've COI'Yimer-c.i«l-
i'l.e~ the prod~A.c.tion Olno( cliS'tl'"ib~.AtioV\
of books Oll'l& m«~e them eo.sy to etcq_~.~ire. It's beco.I.A.se I
cl o see: sex a.s so.c.reo( etnd potentio.lly spirit'-IOll tho.t I
be I i eve i VI co wtme rc iod i l. in 9 it O.l"'d. VYIO\ ki ""'9 this potent i 01 lly
holy expe,-ieV~c.e more eo.si(y G\V01ilo.ble to o.ll. CommerciCAii-
'ZOitiovr is not sowtethi.-tg diSgi.A.stitotg tha.t contG\V"'ina.tes. It's
jCASt o. w«y of m01kiY19 9oocls o.nol services €0\Sily 0\Vo.il-
o.ble,. whether those goods o..,o( se,-vices o.re reli9ioCAs_,
sexv.o.l> or botl, a.t ti-le SO\me tiVV~e.

APPENDIX t6
NEVADA
The profeHion is !egad o.ne'i regCAID~teo( i lf'l Nevo.d.01 . Sex-
workers o.re licenced Q...,o( howe to work ;., brothels.
My hostil:ty to licenciY~9 c:.u"d re9t..~lo:ti..,9 prostitCAtio..,
<3rew 5trolf'l9er while I reQ.c/.. Ale )Co. AI bert's BROTHEL~
MUSTANG RANCH AND ITS WOMEN. S&.,e did her reseoe.rc.lo1
in Nev01d0\ bo.c.k in 'the 1990.s~ blAt I dot..~bt tJ.,o.t tJ..,e
ki.,cJ of control the stO\te's prostitt.ttes howe 'to ptAt' t..~p
with iis mt..cch oliffe.re..,t .-tow.
The mobility of the sex- workers Q.t the MlAsta.ng
Ro.nc~ WC\S limi ted. --for the t\mOtAI'It of time t'-tey were
011 sci-1eolt..de ( which cot..~lc;;( be d.Oly5 or weeks) they h01d
to s leep 0\t the brothel. They were not o.llowecA. to 90
home o.t the e..,o( of a. shift. (Albert~ p. Lts.) They ofte..,
wo~Aidn't see their children for weeks o.t o. tin-1e. (Albert,
P· 't5.)
Brothel l'Vlt\1'1CA.9ement o.nd lo.w e..,fo,-c.emet1t [ ... ] try
to limit prostit~Ates ' conto.ct with loco.( comi'1'1CAni-
ties. M1A.sto.Y'l9 RCi\.nch,. for exo...,..,ple, req_<.cired. 01
n.-tr1ner> or escort~ to o.ccomp"'r'lY prostitlAte5 on
errc.tnch to town o.t the wome..,·s ow., eX'pense --
r
$ 5-.$ 10 per erra.YI~ or stop. Albert, pp. 't6~ Ltr. ]

EG\cn bedroo,...,. wo.s equipped witJ.t (). nid.delf'l intercom

systei'YI tho.t cashiers tAseot to eQ.vesdrop on wcmen·s
vt e:9 oti~tioV1S [. Albert> p. Lt1. ]

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[M]~11~9erv~ent condt.A.c:t~c( \M1 C\ YlYI OIAn<: e ol 1'00""'1

seQrc.J..,es [. AI bert, p. 't1.]

Whe., o.. womo..Y'I refused C\ cu-.tomer willi..,, to p~y

tl-te ho""se miYiimtAP"Yl_, YY1CAY1o..3eme..,t expec.teG{ o..
reo...soY'IOlble ex CIAH ( e.g._, tl-1~t he refc.Aseo( to wec:v· 01.
co..,c(om ). WJ,ile [ o. prostitCAte] woCAic.l. 11egoti0lte \.,er
ow.., ae~ls ~.,~ cotAio( ro...ise 1-1er prices to c(eter
1Anappe01.liY19 elAstomers, mcv10l9e,...,ent wot..tiG{ ,..o.i s e
its eye brows if sne ~;c:( this too ofteYI.
[Albert~ p. 't9.]

Openly re~clir'lg "' book while w~iting for clie...,ts to show

lAP w"'s not C41fowed. (Albert_, p. 150.) lelephoVIe t..tse was
restricteo(. ( Albert_, p.1B.)*
Whet-1 I re~cA. Albert'.s book I wo...s o..lreo...c(y seei..,9
o
" Den i s e ·~ a.., d I en e G( tA p know i .., 9 q tA i t e o. b ; t ~ b o tAt
her life. I cotAic.l.n't help blAt co...,trast "De..,ise's" free-
dom witl1 the restrictEd. lives of the Nevo.c.I.O\
sex-workers.
I dor1't wo..nt to reveo..l wl-tether or 11ot "Denise" ho.s kiols,
b~-tt !.f she does, she wotA.Id howe been o..ble to live with theWI
dtA.rin9 the yeo..rs si1e worked "'s C\ prostit~Ate. At the enol of
+11e do.y she got to s leep in her ow.., bee( ( or wl1o..tever ot~er
beoL sne chose to sleep in). She hC\of the mobility of "' resCA iccr
(C\nccc;(io..n citizen -- she Q.ic(n't n€ect ~ "riAnner'' to o.c(ornp""'Y
ner- wl-len she went shoppit'19> or we"nt to ~ movie, or whcct-
ever-. Her nesotio..tions witt., her clients we,-e. their b~o~sivtess
o..lo11e -- no o11e wccs listeY~ivt9 in o.., then-,. No one co..,~r.Ac.tecf.
~-tnC\nVJotAYICe~ seo.rc.hes of her home. She co~ lot ( ccnof o(;of)
r-ef~Ase to see clieVJtS ;f she wo.nte~ to. She dic:lt1't need to
explccin or justify her reo.sons "to I''YHH101.9ernent --there LVo.s
no mo.no..g€WI€nt. Betweel"l c.li ent!. she coCA/o( reo.o( o.. book . No
o11e restric.tecl her C\ccess to the telepho11e.
(o..,o(itio..,s o..t other Nevc.cofcc brothels could be even worse
H101.t1 the o1-1es o.t the MtA.Stctng:

For' exGt,..,ple,. the owr1e" of cc. brothel in sov.ther..,

Nevo..c!o. o..lle9edly c.o11fiscated woW'Ien's peno..,ccl SlApplies
( co..,Joi'YI s.. I~AbriCQYit!>~ ny Ions) o..nd required the,.,., to
replArc.ho..se everythin9 c::tirec.tly fro,...., the brothel C\t
infl01tec( prices> like shccre croppet"s or Wli..,eo bLAying
f,-o...., the compo.ny store. A.,d. "his '' working 9irls hOle;{ to
blAy their meods 0. lo.. co.rte f,..o...,., the brothel kitchen>
where slccbs of toW~o..to cost $ 2> cc box of froz:e.., vege-
to.bles $ 5, a not o. J.1o.,.., bv.1'".9€r- $ 1 [ ...]. "The own e..- took
<Act v~.., t01_se of the f o.ct we were con f; n eo( to Y1 is
brothel>" o..,e prostit"'te c<iv~;~lgeol to me. "Nothin9 wccs
free. E ve,.yth ;..,~ wccs overpriced. ['' A Ibert> p. 6Z .]

Those who tou"t -tne o.dvanta9es of the Nevo..da lice..,ci.,9

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system n~vet-~'t t'"eQIIy tnov.9h't Clhou.t the difference

between livln9 In ""' oppressive si'ttAC\tior"l C\nc:A living in
f.--eedorn.
Pros'titv.tes shotAid be ~!lowe~ to set lAP brothels> bv.r
the Nev01dC\ syster'Yl i .S evil. A11y govel'ni"Ylent s c.heWie "to
lic.en.ce 5ex wov.ld be evil.

APPENDIX t7
DRUGS
It rn01.y be t(!Jle Ad.d.i c. t ioYI is " They'r'"e vtot
th01t some pros - dise"se. - - these cnooSil"'<;:s to be
titv.tes choose WOW~en don 't sex-worke.--s,.
the p,-ofessio..,, c. hoos e to be. tl-!ey're fo.--cecl
b v. t wh o.t 01bov.t Cldcl i c:ted, C\nc;( by cirCt..trYlStG\nce
pr"osti'tu.tes who prostitlAtion is to hcwe sex
o.re 01.ddi c.ted. prob~bly the for MOI'ley.
to c.trtAgS ? only wo.y they
1-l"ve of rCAi sing
€110l.A<3h W10I"'€ y
to blAy drv.ss .

Is adcl.ic.tio.., o. diSeC\s e ? Psycholo9 i ~t Dr Jeffrey Sc..hOtle..-

Qrg!Jle S HtC\t it 's l'tOt in ~-l i s book ADDICTION IS A CHOICE.

Po.tl1olo9y [ ...J rectt.cires "'"' ic;(e..,ti f i01ble odter01tion in

bodily ti'>St..\e> o. ch01t19€ in -the cells of tne body> for
cliseo.se ciCA.ssifico.tion. No sv.cl-1 i&entifio.ble p~tho­
losv ko.s been folA...,ol. iVI t).,e bodies of J,e0o.vy c;(,.-ink-
ers o...,& drlA9 1.\Sers. Thic, ~lo..,e jw;tif i es the view
thQt addidion is ...,ot 01. physic" I cAiseo.se. [ ... ] \he
pv.t01tive d.iseo.se Cellfed o.dd.ictio.., is di019noseoC.
solely by SyW~ptoi'YIS in the forn-1 of c ondt.(ct, 11ever by
si9ns, thCA.t i s , by physic<:\( evid.e..,ce in the po.tient's
body. [ SchCA.Ier:, p.l6. ]

I deny Htelt there is ~"'Y St.(Ch tl1in9 QS "o.cloict iot-t ", i,.,
the sel'lse of o. clelibero.te C\nol. con s ciot..tS co«Arse of
o.ction whic.h the person /iter011!y CQnt"'oT stop oloi""9·
A ctorclin9 to my view of the world> the heroil'1

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ad.aic.t ca.., stop ;..,jec.ti...,g himself witL-1 heroin> tl-we

alcol-wol o.cAdict ca.., stop 1-!imself fro..., swallowi.,9
w~iskey .. an~ so forth. People are responsible for
ti-leir &eliberate at"lo( cot"lsciotAS behcwior,
[ Sci-lCAietS p. XV. J

Scno"er points ot.At "th~t m01ny p~ople cue able to quit

5tApposeaUy addictive drtA9S .. beAt ratl-ler thcH'I see t-his
as evide...,c.e. th01t people can choose to do or not cAo
these Q.rtAgs... propone..,ts of ( wh~t Schafer calls) "the
'involv.nto.ry acAd.ic.tio"'' i<:Aeolo~y" cia;...., th01t those who
continue to do 'the c;.(rtAgs are the o...,es wl.,o hGwe t~e
oiSeQ.Se of CH~dic tion.

Notice H101t o.ctord.iY'lg to this way of thinking .. ;,.,~illi­

atA.ods d.e,.,onstrate t~eir iYlc:>.bility to mOike a c.hoic.e
Sii"Y'\ply by m01.king the ''wrong" choice .. the one we
wi~L-t tt-rey h~d....,'t ma<ie. [ Sch01ler; p. xv.]

It's prob~bly bac( fo.-- yo«Ar body ;f yoCA c.hoose to smoke

C.YC4.Ck or injec.t heroin> but it's your body 01r1d yo~-1 snout~
ho.ve tJ.,e rigJ.,t to do wn~t yoCA w01..,t witn it ( irtdlAdi..,9
tAnhecdthy thilf"I9S) so /on'3 01.S yoCA respect the property
rigi-'lts of otl-ler.s.

APPENDIX 18
MARRIAGE
weQ.ke..,s tne ;...,stitution
of MG\rri019e.

Yes, it prob~blyO.oes . I d.o,.,'t 11owe o. problerY'I witl1 tho.t

Sir1<.e I thirtk "'10.rf"i019€ iS0\.., evil ir1Stit~Atiol"''. I hope tho.t
fewer people will see posseHive ,...,o..,o<J"'""Y as a.., i~eo.l.
Yov. sno~Aid. be in " s eX lAG\ I rel01.tionsl-lip witn o. pG\rti <.IAIO.r
person.~ rtot be cG\uSe yoCA MG\de 01 vow G\t so..,.,e point iO"'
the past> b~.At be<~~Ase right-tf"low-in-tne-prese..,t yot.A ~
to be ;.., 01 sextA01I relo.tion s hi p wltl1 thO\t persor1 •

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What o bout el-l i /cAre., 7 Eve.., if W~CHri01ge 01t1ot

We neec( marrioo.ge sex~Aoo.l fidelity ciisG\ppeoo.r
bec<Avcse we ..,eed c. fro,.,., h~A,.,.,Oin soc.iety, people
so(.iod stnHttAre in wo~AI~ still woo.,.,t to noo.ve
which (.~ilcArert, an~ most poH·e,.,ts
chilcAren wo~Aiol love their cl-tilctre,>
can be jCA St G\S t'VlOSt p01rE.'I"ltS do
r01i se&. now. If mo.rrio.ge colloo.pses>
new socioo.l Oll'lol le901l str~Ac.­
t~AY"e s will arise. Perhc-Aps,
it1steoo.d of 01 mcH·rio.ge
co,.,troo.c.t, prospective pl).rents
WOI.Aio( Si<JI"l 01 cnilol-ro.ising (OI'ltt"OICt tl-t01t WO~Aici spell
OI.At wl-lo.t .sort of StApport 01t1c.C c~re ecul-1 woc.AI~ provide
for the kicA.

APPENDIX 19
TAXATION
Prosti'tiAtes I nOive 011'1 extreme tCJt.ke •OYI
sho u l<ll TrtAdeOivc 'S foo.rY~OIAS stoo.temel"\t
po.y tn"'t "TJ.,e stoo.te has 110 plo.<e ;.,
ro.xe s. the becArooms of the l'lCAtior-t " *
( 01s lo..-.9 <u the people ;.., i-1--.ose
be&rooms 01.re co.., se,.,til'19
CA.o~Aits ). It 's not j~Ast ti-le
Jvcstic.e Dep01rtW~ent" 01nol l01w enforceYnent t~O\t
s houlo(l"'''t be in tJ.,ere> NO brO\nCh of 9overnt'Ylel'\t s hould
be ;.., those beolrooi'Y'Is -- tho.t i rtcltA~es ti-le TO\)( Dep01rt-
Wlel'1t. l11cot'Vle eoo.rnecA frorY~ SeXIAO\I 01 c.tivities should not
be tO\xec.(. Sex is too il'ttirY~o.te> too s01crecA. -- people
s'-lo~AicA t1ot h01.ve to e:xpose their beol-lives to the
pryirtg eyes of t01x- collecti..,9 bureo.vcc.rO\ts.

ProstitJ.A.tio., is o.
b<Asit<1eSS -- blAsine~ ses
are to.xeol.

Reli9io1.AS orgGirtiz~t;o.,s 9et t01.x breCikS c(espite the fo.ct th01t

tl1ey 9e.,e,.o.te i>'lcome. We see tl1eir btASirtess iderttities o.s
secoi'IGtG\ry to their" prim01ry so.c.red iderttities. Prost'itvction
shoulo( be see., OIS primC~rily scureo( Ol"ld only secondar ily
GIS 01 business. lndeeol> peri1C~f'S we shotA/d..,'t see it OIS o.
b&ASil1eSS G\t 0111. Perno.ps we sJ.,oulo( see the ...,.,o.,ey ~iven to
prostittAtes GIS ~ifts> not pC\yments.

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APPENDIX 20
STREETWALKING
I think tho.t wl--te.., people are on privo.te property they
SnotAid- be fr~e. from 90Ver.,t'YI(>nt it1terfer-ence Cine(
t"'e~CAio.tio"' o.s loVJ9 as they're t"'espec.tin9 +he. property
ri_shts of others. BlAt o.., P.1Ablic property ( str~ets> side-
WCA.Iks> ptAblic pt:~rks> etc. ) I o(o think th01t o. 9reo.ter-
~e9t"'E.•e of regtAio.tion is justifieO.. For eXQ.f'nple> I see
nothin·9 wrol"''9 with COWlpellins people to obey tr-o.ffic.-
Si3t101ls. More relevo.nt to the topic o.t h01t1d is wl-tere yotA
COli'\ en~o.9e in btAsi..,ess. Obviow;ly I aon't tki01k it 's wron9 for
o. btAsi..,ess-person to sell tl-ti..,gs on privo.te property ( typi-
co.lly o. storefront either ow..,eot or renteot by the b!Asiness-
person ). 8tAt selling thivt.9S on p1Ablic property is clif:fer-ent.
If we let G\Ylyone set CAp S01les-st01r1d5 or to.bles on P"'"blic
property7 "there WOCAld. be Ot/1 sorts of probl€1'115. For one
thin9> the si~ewo.Jto woCAio( qCAiddy fill 1Ap witJ..t btAsiness -
people lookiVI9 to o.void the cos-t of ownin9 or re..,ti..,g
storefro...,ts, o.ncA o.ll of their- to.bles ClncA sto.nols wotAic(
9et ;.., the wo.y of pecAestrio.t1s. For G\nother-> withotAt the
c.le01..-fy ol.efi..-,ea owt1ership of property t~"'t the pr-ivo.te
pr-o,erty syst~W'I provides> there WotAiol be ttArf- wa.r-s.
Hey! I C~lw~ys Sorry, po.l .' Tnis
set t.cp my tCAble is pCAbl;c prop-
on this cort1er! erty -- yot.t don't
ow..-, this spot7
o.nal I 9ot here
fi,. s t toal~y.'

Tho.t so.id> I alo think tho.t people vvno hcwe o. "I'Ylo bile. ·'
bw;iness t-ho.t c01.., be coYJaltActeo( on two legs> witlrl no
sto.Y~ch or to.bles) shoiAio( be o.llowec( to sell goods or
servic.es on the street. Tne Toronto writer Cro.d.. KiloO.ney
solO. his books on the street for rYtOIVIY yeC~rS witho~.<~t
inco..,veniencil'lg Q.nyo..,e. ':/< To me> these 01re t-1-te rele-
vo.V"'t q:CAestio..-,s re9o.ra(in9 streetwo.lkers ~
CD "ShoiA id we let- pros titl..(tes wodk or sto.no( ot1 sic(e-
wo.lks ?" W.ell> of cotAY"Se -- everyone who's not" il'l jo.il
or IAno(er holA s e ~..-rest shol..(/o( be 01llowecl to t.HE?
sio(e wo.l k s .

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@ "ShotA id ta.,ey be "!lowed to tQI. Ik to peop le?" Well>

of cot.o'"Se -- it's a Sin-tp le mo.ttey of free speed.,,
s houlo(...,·t howe Being asked if I wa.,t o.
the right blow -job foy twenty bLAcks is
to verbaHy not hG\t'c.tSSVVlel"ff-1 it's just a
1-,G\rQI.SS q_LAestio n . If ~ prostitt,tf e
people . wor1'-t to.ke no for G\n G\11Swer-
C4nc:A follow s me dow.., t n e
street.. r'epeo.t ed ly offe ring
I-ter- servic(S 1 tl-r"'t's 11c.tr-&\s~-
prolole,.,.,.

str-eet solicito.Tio., Ht<~t 's the pr-ice of I ivi119

wil l mo.ke in ~ free soc.-rety. Yo "' hc:we
to be tolerant of other-
prost ;tu tion
mor-e people o.s lo..-,s as tJ.,ey·re
visi ble. not h "rYYI ir19 o.r1yo...,e a no(
c~~re 9oiY1S o.boCAt their
btASiness in " reo.sol'tetb ly
c.ivil G\VlcA polite way. 1.-,
tne po.st/ the sight of tw o
rnen h o ldin.9 h"no(s or- kissir1g in p«Ablic woulc:i h"ve bee..,
V\psettir19 to mc.tny people . Now th"t 9"Y r"ight~ ~re
wic;{ely "ccepted> homophobes ho.ve to toler01te seeit19
9"'Y beho.viotAr in p«Ablic. . HoW'Iof'hobes o(o.-7t like it~ b tAt
that's the pYice o f livin9 ;.., o. f,-ee society,

APPENDIX 21
MALE PROSTITUTION
AYiti - pr-oHitutioni!>ts are foc.useol o., why women
snotAic:ln' t be prostit«Ates, They i9no..-e the existence of
m~le prostit«Ates l~r"9ely bec"~Ase o.r1ti-prostitt.Atio11 argi.A·
rne .... ts WOIAiol sou ....,c:L Yiolict,t(OtAS' ;f Olpplieol to mel1. As G\
CI.AittAr"e we see me..., "s bei"'S ;.., co ntYo l of their sexu01 /it y>
so we 01.cc.ept th"t me"' coo.n choose sex-work. We'r e not
worrie~ thoo.t o. moo.11 is p«Attin9 hiYY1self i.-, o. pote11ti01.lly
risky sitiAO\tio.., beco.~Ase we accept th e>.t me.., do thoo.t,
A...,ti • pro-.t i tc.ctior"'i s t s hG\ve ~ poo.tern~l i stic o.ttittAde
towoo.ra< wome.-,.

APPENDIX 22
LICENCING ANJ> WORKING AT HOME
I've c;..lreo.cly ,.,ac:ie poi.,ts si rn i laY to the following o 111 es --
Glpolo 9 i z e for sound i "'.9 re petitiO lAS> b .... t I WG\nt to e...,.,phOI-
Sioze why it's wYong to co11Str01il"' "pr"ostit«Ate's c'-toice~.

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If w~ rY~"'ke it mau-'lo(o.tory for prostih.cte s to J.tawe

lic: er1ces to work.> 1-1ot Ct./1 of t&.t.en"' will bother- to O.C<:ti.Aire
tl-1ose lice..,ces. If sometnil19 bo.d no.ppei1S TO c::\1'1 CA1'1licel'l-
c.ec:l Se>c-wor-ker ( like_, if G\ joi-tn be"'tS l-\ii'YI-Or-1-Jer) ne-or-
SI-1e wiff be less likely to co.ll the police becet~..tse he - or~
She won 't WQnt to o.c:lm i t to work i rrs witl-to~..tt 01. li.ce11ce .
Sex-worker-s shotAio( c::\ISo howe the ri9ht to work ov.t of
tl-teir 1-lomes foy tl-te SG\me r-eo.son . It's prob01bly so.fer for-
prostitc.Ates to work coiiE'c.tively it1 brothels~ b"-!T if we
Wt"'ke tho.t tl-te only le901l optiot1, the"e ~~ be se>c-~.Vorkers
who choose to work OI.At of their homes,. 01.-tot if the·y 9et
beCAt v.p> 'they'll be less likely to ' "'" the cops beco.~..t s e they
wo.-t't wo.nt to report tno.t they 're worki.-19 rlle90\lly o.t
home .
I wo..,t every prostitt.Ate wl-ro is tl-te victim of 01 crime
to be o.b/e to co.ll the police witl-rotAt fec::\ri119 the>.t
there mi9nt be Y1e901tive co1'1Se'f.tAel1ce s for .-.ot hc:wi""9 tl,e
rig I-tt po.per-work or for wor kil'19 in the " wro..,9" plc::\ce _

APPENDIX Z3
SETH'S NOTES
As I rnentio..,eGI. i n tne o.fter-wor~ ,. Seth l101s writte..,
notes re9o.rc;.(in9 soVYle of the He,es 1-te's i11.
PANELS I0:3, 't 1 mCAy nowe believec:( C.het wo.s repres -
sin9 the expected emotiot1S b01ck then ,. b~.<~t l'YIY
opinio"" n01s 01ltered. over the yeo.r s. I ofteYl
jokingly refer to Chet o.s "the robot". In posin9
01 q v. est ion to ~ i YY1 I m i 9 h t q_tA i p,. '' Pe r-1-1 a p s I
shotAio4. o.sk 0\ person who 1-to.s G\CttAo.l htA..,..,O\n
ei'Yiotiol'ls i11steo.cl. " The tr~Ath is, Chester seems
to ho.ve o. v ery liVYlited ewtotiono.l r"G4nge corY~p­
c:AreGA to most" people . There does seer'Yl to be
Sot'Y'Iethins wro..,g with hir'l'l . He' s defiYlitely 01n
oc;{c.(bo.ll. Th01t saic.(, he is o.lso the kindest,
gentle st O.l'lc:l VYlO~t c:;(eeply thotAghtftAI ocAdbo. ,tl
know. Ped1c::\PS he is I'YiiSSin~ SOYYlethiV19 in nis
ei"YYotioYlo.l mo.ket.Ap, perho.ps not. Who co.n so.y
who.t is n"'tCAr-011 c::\t1d wl-tO\t is leo.rnecl bel-t<Avio~..tr-?
l'lf s01y tnis -- he reQIIy doesn 't o.ppeo.r to be
S~..tfferin9. Yo~.<~ ccu1't o.rsc.Ae with tno.t.
81:5- 88 ; 6 Chet's pretty no.rc.( on the ideo. of romc..n-
tic rel01tionsnips . I 019ree with him th01t for the
VYlOSt po.r-t they 01re c;(;ffi c tAit to m01int01in. Look
o.rou11c:A tne CtAit~..<~re o.11c;( yo(..( wilf see th01t people
ho.ve 01 hc::\rot time finO. i 119 I"Yleo.ni,..,9ftAI 0111ol positive
Jo..,g terrY~ romCAI'ltic rel01tio1'1SI-tips . Th"'t so.ic.( , I 'm

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not so cynicod QS he. Chet_, I StAspe c t, t-hinks it is

esse.,..tiQIIy ii'V'Ipossible . WI-Jile tne o~ols G\re cel"'fCAi.,ly
o.g at ins t vvt o s t co I.A. pIes> the r e cue pIe t'\ t y of ex a..., pIe s
of lo.,9 ICA.stin9 sood pQirings. If yotA G\Sk t'VIe~ it is
more o. prob/erv1 of ""tAWIQI"'' no.tt.-\re thQ"1 rowu"ntic.
love. People jtASt co.., 't get o.lon9 with eo.cl-, other
;., ge.,er"l. Why sl-totAiol romQnce or mcu-rio.f3e be
o.ny c.{ifferent ? For thG\t mo.tter> most people
CCl.n ' t rno.int01in lo..,g lo.sti119 friendships either.
C""et Qnc( I ~o.ve ho.shed this o<At W"tore tho..., o.
fe ,w tirYies . He mo.into.ins it is tJ.,e sextAo.l elerv1e..,t
thatt mostly co.LAses the tro<Able . I olisG\gree .
....--'-----.
IZ't ~ s
I don't reco./1 the specific excl-1o.n9e, bLA.t I
probo.bly dirJ vvto.ke this remo.d'( - - I Saty <A lot of
u..,fotAno(ec( o.nol meo.YI thi..,3S· Still, I dotAbt Chet
wo.s o.c.tv.o.lly ho.vin9 o. miol~life crisis . Robots
c.<on't k(we micA-life crises.
l'rYI not in this scene, blAt I co..., ' t resist
notil"''9 tho.t the ioleo. of Cl-lester Brown o..,o( Joe
Mo.tt O.isct..ess ir1..9 t,_,e. nOit<Are of rorYio..,tic love i s
not !Anlike two blinot Wlen pG\il"'ting Ot StAnset.
l<)l:3- 197 : 2 First off~~ where is thi~ converso.tio..,
t"' K;.., 9 pI o. c e, Che t ? I•..,_, 9 tA e s sin 9 t h e Io b by o f o.
hote I.
Seconolly, I suspec.t Chet is lettivtg Wle off
li9htly her-e. The q_lAo.lity of my o.rgVlment wCAS
probo.bly even f~ebler t&.-wo..-. who.t 1-le 's r-eporteo( in
these po.ges. I wo<Aio(.,'t hawe h<Ao( well 3roundeo(
op ~ ..,ions o.., tkese mo.ttef's ba.c.k +hen. Anol I ~ot.Abt
W~Y opinions to~o.y would be l'Y\tACVI better
j..,f'or....,ec(. Tho.t so.icl., I "'o thi...,k Chet CoWleS off
"' little better here tho..., he probo.bly wot.-\la in
reo.l life . He's ctefi.-.itely the "voice of reG\Son" o...,
these P"l3es, a.nc( I ha.ve my o(ot.Abh tJ..,att most
people woul~ come o.w~y with +ho.t opinion if
they'c:A. ever ho.c( " 9ooo( sol i c.l o.rgLA.ment wi'tJ-1
Chester in the rea.l worlo(. He's certo.i.,ly set ;.., nis
wo.ys -- he's thou9ht his positiol"l ov.t well> a.-.~ he's
cornW~itte~ to it. No cJ.otAbt o..botAt t,_,o.t. BlAt often
nis opiniol'l is 0. little too ~ogmo.tic for my tatstes - -
"'little too tieoC. to the libertcu- i G\t1 po.rty-/ine atboc..tt
the SG\nc.tity of property ri9hts . lt ·.s G\ bit of o.
broken rE~con,( listenit1'3 to tl-tese G\Y9lA.I'Vle.,ts over
o...-. o( over Ot~O.if't. I 9otto. so.y, it tires me otA t . I
reo.lly cotAict.,'t 9i v e o.. sl-lit o.boVlt most of these
isstAes . ( ' rYl btASY I'Vlopil"''g o.bout the po.st,. folks - - I
olo .,·t n "'ve tiW~e to reo.o( every new book o.., the
ethics of prostif~.Atiot'l. (Vlt some s lo.ck if I co...,e off

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looki"'9 ill·i11for""'ed here! A"'d yes > b(). ckect into~

r~etor ic ~l co rner I likely c;(i~ v.tter- tho.t SttApic;(
_____
,_...._._ line CAboVtt SW'Ioki1'1.9.

W'-'o kvtow~ ? Mo.ybe he's right.

KY1owing (net nQS bee.., G\ f(>O.rl"lil"'g C~Arve for me.
He 's torc.E.>o( Wle to c.o.,sider rn01ny I.M'ICOI"'ve"'tio~o.\
positions I woulc;( not hc:we given ml.Ac:J, thot-«glf'1t
to otherwise. Disp""ti119 issv.es with hii'Yl ho.s
n e I p e d t'Y1 e to t hi"' k ...,., ore c: r it; ( o.ll y. It 's bee.,
gooo( for me. It's to.v.sJ,t VY\E.> to ct(;(estio., Yf'lY ow11
OlHIA..,.,ptions . I SIASpect thG\t if I J.o.o.ol oo. better
memory I wov.lot be e,.y,\c>arrasseol by the many
kn~e- jerk_. reG\ctionary cowp•1o1en ts I 1-to.ve uno(o"' bt-
ecA. Iy mG\cie to hi..,., over ti-te yeo.rs re9etrc{ing love
o.nol prostit~Atio..,. The tr-uth is., if I hAo( 0\ prob-
lem with Chet 's ;..,volve.,.,e..,t witJ, prost i ttAtes ;,
the pG\st I hoo.ve certai..,(y gotte.-, over it. Pr-osti-
tut-ion mo.y .,o't work for every mo...,_. btAt it
works for J,;.....,,
The fu..,...,y tl--lit19 Abowt Chester i~ tha~t OtAt of
all the .....,en I k ..... ow 1-te's q_uite possibly the o11e
I t-hi..,k wo~Aic:A mG\ke the I'Y10 St co..,siofer~te boy-
frie..,o( or hv.sbGu-,o( for (;{ wol'r1C41"1 . ., ~nc::A yet he
is the ot'le who pic..k~o( +he who..-in~. It 's 01 ft-«..,..,y
world.

ZS7
I covER J My pLAblishers wo.nte~ this book to be co.llec;(
PAYING FOR IT. I cion' t like the title - - tl-1ere's an irvtplied
G!olAble - meGH1i..,g . It S1A3CJ€Sts tho.t not only o...v~ I po.yins
for se>t b~.tt l '..v~ o.lso po.ying for being o. joht't it'l so..,..,e
..,on- .....,oneto.ry wo.y. Mo...,y wolAicl thi~k th01t there's o.n
e.,...,otioi"'Clll cost -- 'tho.t johns o.re so.d o...,~ lo..,ely. There 's
o. pote..,tiG\1 heClllth cost if Of"'e co...,tro.cts o. sexCAo.lly
tro....,s"""ittec;( diseo.se . There's o. lego.l cost if one is
o. r r e st e d . I f on e i s "o lA t e at '', t h e ..., o .., e co 1.4 Id Io s e o .., e •~
job ""~ odso SlAffer the sociO\I cost of los;...,g OYle 's
fr-ie..,c.ts o.nc;( fo.mily. I ho.ven' t bee.., "po.ying for it " in
O.t1Y of those WG\y.S. I'm very fG\r froW'I bei...,9 so.d or
lonely, I ho.ven ' t Cc;tCAght G\n S-T-P, I no.ven 't bee11
arrested, I ho.veYl 't lost my co.reer, QYld mv friends o.nd
fG\W'Iily hG\ven ''t rejected me ( o.ftJ,otA9h I s hotAI~ ou;;l.mit
tho.t I still ho.ven' t tolat m y step-mom).
So fOir> I've bee..., p01yin9 ;.., o.,ry -tl.,e Ol"'e se .... se . ( s;,,e
this is o. r'Yle"'toir, "so fG\r " is 0111 -tho.-t's relevo.nt,)
BCA.t let wte be cleo.r tha~t """Y pCAblisher.s did not
force the title on W~e. I chose to 9ive in to who.t- they
WG\t1ted . If" I ho.d i...,sisted , they woCAIQ( howe odlowec:A
me to plAt who.tever worot s I Watntt>d on the cover. I
Jove o.nc:A re s pec t Chris o.nd Peggy atnd reo.lize thOtt
this is "' at;f"f'ictAft book to rno.rket.

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PANEl. 9 : 5 Je~lo(...(sy is nG\tCArod, bc,.(t t11oo.t doesn't meo.n

th01t I"'IOt feelin9 jeG\IoiAS iS not n01t1Arod. It's probo.bly
better to fr01wte the rv101tter ;..., r-el01tio"' to rYJe>.t&Arity.
It's ii'Yll't'lG\tiAre to be jeC~~Ioc,.(s,.. it 's mOit&Are to not- feel
jeo.lov.s.
AlthotA~h I c01n't re01lly clefencl tl--te positiol"1 thCAt
jeo.lot..esy iS leo.r..,ec::A.-1 I do thil"1k oLAr c&AitLAre el"1co&Ar-
0.9eS the reG\ctio..,. An ex01.mple of G\ cLAitLAre tho.t
oiS(OIAr"0.9eS i t is the Moso C&AittAre of Hii'Y'ICAIOI.YOII"'l
CYiinCA. [..., Coli HLAO.'S book G\botAt the .Moso (A SOCI€iY
WITHOLAT FATHERS OR HUSBANDS)., he reports G\
converso.tiot'l 1-,e ho.d witJ., two yol..\n9 men~

['' W)e c::A.o.., ' t know how to be jeo.lotAS. ''

" He ·s r i 9 h t ! '' 1-, is f r i e n ol in t e r j e c t e c:C A ..., ~ to
ex:ple>.in himsE.>If he ou::i~eo( ~ ''Girls belong to every-
one. Whoever wo.nts CG\n visit them. Thel'e is
l-1othit19 to be. jeG\IoLAS e>.boLAt." [ Hc,.(G\> p. 213 . ]

Fror'Yl YG\n9 Er-c.he Non·ntA' S memoir G\botAt ~rowil"l9 lAp

C\S 01 Moso girl (LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):

AIHtoLA~h we feel SlAc.'-1 pG\SSiorts 1 we rYILASt ~'epre~s

jeo.loLAsy CA.-..cA. envy [ .... ] In fYioso eyes-1 ..,o one is
n1ore ri~ic.IAIOLAS th01l"l G\ jeG\IoLAs lover [ . .. , N)obody
i111 Moso (OlAntry todCAy co.n rec01ll [ ... ] 01 trtAiy
u9ly fi9l1t between [ ... ]jilted lovers. [Yo.ng , p. 69.]

H~vin9 broc..(gV!f" '-'P the StAbjec.t7 I shoc.Aicl explc:\ill"' tl-'le>.r

Moso 5exu01l ptutners c:Aon''t t.ASLAe>.lly live to,9etnef'. At
..,;9ht t,..e men go visit tl,eir- girlfrie,ds ( ""ho live
w'itJ, 'their I'YIOtner.S ). 1"1 tne mOrl"lirtg, tJ..re I'Yien
rettArn horne. ( The men o.lso live with their
mothers.) Ac,orc:Air19 to Christine M01thietA ( who
c.o-wrote LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):

[T]hey howe diSCOII'decl mo.rri~~e. [ ...] Tl-le Moso

CAc(vocc..te [their J mo.terno.l WC\y of life G\S t&.,e
be~t possible 7 o.nd the most likely to foster
h"' ppiness 01n 0. hC\ rmony. Vis i tir19 rel01tioll"' ship S-1
they s01y, keep rele>.tiot1s betweeY'I ..,.,en 01r1c:f
women ptAre o.ncl joyf«AI-1 o.ncl people who live ;..,
l~rge m01terno.l 11oLAses c(o not fi9ht like
mo.rriect people c(o. We CC\n trlAst th01t they o.re
spe01kil"l9 fro..., e.xperie..,ce, beCGllAse mor1y Moso
noo.ve tried I'YI01rri01<,3e.1 lAnder preSSlAre frorYl the
Comvn&A..,iSt Ot.lAthorities, 011110. most goo.ve I.Ap.
( Y01.n9.> p. zao. 1

For those of yoLA ~~Vho o.re interested in leo.rni1119

oo.botAt this C~AitCAre> the more ree>.ci01ble of the two

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above-me.-,tlonecl books is LEAVING MOTHER LAt-<€.

ActtA~IIy>
it'.s more th~l"' reao(able -- I fou...,o( it re~lly
ii"'VOIV~t-19.

jta:s- 23 = 3 I
we wer-e G\ttel"'o'.ir'lg -the bi,g SeA.., Oieqo
COI'Ylic - book (011Ventiol"'. I ~on't oepic.t then'\> bt.At also
sharin9 tne hotel room witl-t u.s were fellow cartool1-
ists Joe Sacco> Ac;(riO\n Tomine> ~nc( Chris Oliveros .
( Cl·,-is is also one of the publishers of this book.) I
c(on't thi..,k there were more thG\..., two beds in the
rOOVYI. ( I don't r-e.....,err~ber ~A.~ho slept with whowt.)

I '20: 3 I I
tl-link Ms B~99ett
WO\S charging $50 for
tnose Si9nec:l poiO\roids> bv.t I'm not 100 percer1t
cert~i~.

12s=2-26='t I s~"~<le? p.6o.

l 26 : 6 I Escort pr"int ~ds ;.., Toro11to in 1999 di&..,'t he>.ve

pi-lotos. SoWle OYl-line 0\o(S pr"obably d.i&? b~.tt I wasn't
o.ware of tneir e>c i ste..,ce yet. Wl1e11 I clio( o(isc.over them
~ short while later"~ they werel'l't co..,vel'lient, It cou.l&
take five VY~inv.tes or more for o11e photo to ~ppeo..r> 0\Y~d
the c.on1pv.ter wo~Aiaf ofte..-. crash as it str~Agg/ed. to plAt
the iVYJase tosether. It w~s G\ few year$ befot"e br-ow-
sin9 on·line escort o.ds becamQ eG\sy.

} 30 : 6 I
I've never heo..rcA of the police c.J.oi..,9 anyti-1il'l<3
like this. My p~r~..,oic:t is o.-, d is pfoty l,t-re.

31 : 6 )'.., c.er't~inly cotpCAble of fi.,di..-..9

Iolder j"th01..., worYter'l who o.r-e
28 c:tttr01ctive . ( Witl-lou.t ~ivin9
ner e><Olct
~9e> "De11 i se" is severCAI year-.s beyo..,a( 28.) My thinki.-,9
here WG\S 'thG\1'.> si..,ce I cou.lo(.,'t see photos of the
prostitCAtes 7 ...,>' odds of findin9 someone ~ttrCActive
were ·9 reater if I SO\W y0lAr19er won1en. Ther-e are
wo""'e"' who are fif-ty who CAre beo.v..tif~.tl.> bv.t they' re a
SWlod I pene,tG\ge of t-he ~.>Uh ole fe WlG\Ies- who- ~re-fif.ry
popv.lc.'tio., -- there ~r-e "'lore 90o~- looki..,9 wo..,e.., ;..., the
fe W~od es - "'->ho- are- twe..,ty popvtfa tiol'l.

l 3 't' 8 I I o.polo9ize 'to O.r'lyo.-,e nOIY'Ylea( St-eve Mc.Do~.tgoo.l.

I0\ppc:He.,t(y
35 5 I No, they weren't WC\tc.i-1iV19 me. Johr1s will
; 4-.>
son-1etimes m01ke Olppointrne..,ts 01ncA ll"'ever
snow u.p, Prostitt.Ates who work. il"''c~lf WOII"'t to 9ive
their" loc~tio.., to G\S few people o.s possible --they
only w~nt to give the o.olc:lress to 9v.ys tNho ~re
reG\IIy «_30il'1<3 to show u.p . If 0\ jol-tn WQS co.llin9 from

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~ p~y-pnone tl-lCAt wo.s close to the incodl) i t

inc.reo.seo( the odc;{s tno.t he wotAic( o.cttACAIIy o.rrive
Since o.t le~st he wo.s in tne nei9nborhooc.l. (This
prO\ctic.e wo.s commo.., o.t t-he tii'Yle. I wove/c.( g~Aess
t-hC\T johns o.re now expecteo( to lASe their
ce 1/- phones. )

I 'f'f:lt I I'm breaking Do.n s~vo.9e's rtAle here~ "let- her

leo.&''. E.vel"t thow3h I &i~n't WOI.nt ~ mo.ss~13e > I
s~oiAIC'A h01ve let "Co.rlo." <3ive me one. Th01t WOIS prob-
o.bly '-ter w01y of eoo.sing ii'1TO physico.! intim01<:y with
o.s little o.wkwo.ro(ness o.s possible.

I 't't: 5 I Yes, tho.t's wh01t I re01lly s01io(,

I 7 : 6 - 8 J Tippin9: I ert&e& "'P tAStAo./ly ~ivin9
't o. $30 tip
when l WG\S n01ppy with " prostit"'te's service. ("Denise"
tells me tho.t I"YlOiny jonns a>cln't tip her, bi.At those who
ciic.t typiccdly 901ve $ 10 or $ 20 . It ~o.y seeW'I like o.n insiCj·
l"'ific01nt G\mo"'nt, blAt she G\pprecio.te~ eve.., the $ 10
tips.)
.BecG\\..\Se indepe.-,c;tent sex-workers 9et to keep 0111 of the
money,. wni/e escorts-who-work- for-0111-0.9ency ho.ve to 9ive
"o.nywhere from 35 -to 50 per cent'' of the fee to the
G\9ency ( Me lo.ren, p. 52 ), Sol'Yle johnS no.ve mo.~e the
o.r9'-'I'Yient tno.t o.9e..,cy-escorts s~oi.A/c;( be tipped.) blAt 1"\ot-
ind~pendents . This reo.so..,in3 i9nores the fo.t.t t~o.t inole-
pe..,c;Ae..,ts no.ve expe..,ses thOit O.<je..,(y- escorts c.(o..,•t foloiVe.
Also, Cl.S self-ernployecA bi.ASiness - people, inc:iepe,dents ~o.ve
tirYie-consl.o(rnin9 &tAties to deo.l wit~. ( A..,o( time .!2
money.) Depenolin9 on vo.rioiAS fo.ctors> incAepenoCe..,ts
mo.y or mo.y not rno.ke more money.. btAt tippin9 sho1.AioCt1't
be ~botAt tr"yin9 to eqt.co.lize thi,gs betwee.., olifferent
sorts of sex-workers -- it's o. 9estl.o(re tho.t lets CA...,
;..,divioC~o.l prostitt..tte know tlo,o.t yot.c enjoyea tne tiWle
yot.c spe..,t- to9ether.

jltB<B- 'f- 9 ' 2I fi9t..tr-eo( tho."t YY\ost reo.ders wot.cloC ~AnoCer­

l
StG\ncA., ~t leo.st ;,_, o. 9ener01l wo.y, wha~t I YY~eo.nt by
''the b~;~rden" here_, bLAt Sook-Yin ho.s toto( rY~e tho.t-
she's pt.cz.z.led by these po.t1els, o.nc.( since there's no
reo.son to be coy or rl'lysterioc...s) I'll explo.in.
Every time I so.w o.n o.ttrCA.ctive womo.n,. I wo.nteGI. to
wo.lk lAp to 1-ler o.nc;A try to initio.te some sort of inter-
CA.ction. I V.SlAo.lly l~cked tne confiolence to do so.

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No I shov.l~n't.
she woc.Afcln't
w~nt me
botherin9
her.

Tho$e f'rectt.tent inner ba.'ttles le~ to "' lot of tension. I ro.rely

o.cted~ I.Vhic.h a.~ded to the bt.o~rden beca.~.tse lo con~erY1.,
rvlV.Self for fo.ilin~ to do o.nythin9 G\nc.( for missing
pote.,tiG\1 oppor-t~A.,ities. F~.trther addin9 to the b~.trcAen
WO\S the fo.ct H1o.t sometimes o.+trc:H.tive women
(often complete stn:"nger.s) wotAict flirt with I"Yle or
try eve., Ynore direct me~ns to 9et my ~ttentioY'I.
TJ.,en~ w~s the yoLAng woman w'-lo yelled o.t me on
t .., e s t r e e t > " Yo I.A • r e c. I.A t e ! '' G\ n ~ t h e ,., n ; ~ b e h ; n ~ h e r
friend, G\nd the o...,e who ~sked .-ne in G\ record.
store wl-lat WIY fO\vorite bCAnol WG\S_, G\..,ot tne o..,e ;..,
the SlAbway wl.-to wa..,te~ to k11ow ~bo~.tt the book I
WG\5 reo.di119 -- I coiAI~ 9ive mO\ny .-nore exG\mpfes.
Tl-tOtt sort of tning h<:Appe11ed to me q_t-tite often wheY~ I
wo.s yotAnger. BecG\I.ASe I W().S socio.lly G\wkw<:Arc.t I
1..\~IA~IIy Sc.id the wrong thiY19 ( or 110thiY19 G\t ().lr ) G\nd
n o t h i ..., g o f s ; C3 .., ; f i c"' .., c e w o "' f o( h o. p p e .., . I 'cl. co .., de W) ,.,
Mysel-f for blowi..,9 ().!( those opportv...,ities> ~,o( I
obsesseo( G\bov.t the~.
l wo.sn't even o.wo.re th~t 0\ll of tho.t felt like G\
bv.ro<en tAntil I WG\Ikeo( ov.t of thG\t brothel G\nd so.w
o.n attr-~ctive womo.n o..., the stree+ o...,o( reo.li-zeol I
felt no inner- tension G\bo~.tt whet-her or not I shoc.-.lo(
tG\Ik to her. Of cou.rse I shot-tfci,.,'t --she wo.s Q stro.n9er.
WJ.,y wo~.tlc.t I worry -tho.t I WO\$ r-nis~il'l9 O.l'l opportv.nity
to pote..,tio.lly hG\ve sex? S~.tdcienly, sex wit~-! beo.v.tihd
wo,.,e.., WG\S eQSy to 9et. Sc..tddenly7 it dioln't ma.tter -tl-l01t,.
ye01n 'b efore, o. bea~AtiftAI yov...,:1 worno.n 1-JG\d yelled o.t
rn e, " Yo v. ·r e c ""t e ! " Ol n ot I 'c.( j u.s t k e p t w o. I k i .., ~ w i t h o "' t
todkin9 to her. StAodenlv tl--tose sorts of memories
we,.. e..,. t me rn or i e s of miss e c;( o p port"' nit; e s -- they were
thi..,9S thCi\t co~.tld ho.ve 9one wron9. Who.t if leA ta.lkeot
to tnOlt "YotA're cv.te ! " 9irl G\..,o( we'o( end.eQ( tAp in o.
mi~erc-tble rY1~rrio.9e, o.no( (•c:J. sto.yec;.( I.Anha.ppily f~i thfv.l
to he17. o.nd I'd ..,ever visited the brothel tho.t 10( jtA<..t
wo.lked OI.At of? In thG\t mornent I WG\SVI't conote~~'~'~"lin.9
0\ny p~st G\Ctio..,s or fo.if~.t,..es to G\Ct> c.not I wo.sn't
worrying ~boc..tt whether or not to tG\Ik to Ql'ly of the
be~v.tiftAI wome.., wo.lki..,9 by me on tne si~ewO\Ik.
lnsteG\d I wc.s lookin;, for~No.rot to G\ f~.ttv.re of seYtAG\1
SO\tisf01.c.tion.

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And, c:\S I wrote: Tne bCA.rden hc:\S never retc..u'nec:4.

Iprint
St:zJ TJ.tere
eHort
G\re two weekly newsp01per.s in Toro11to that
~()(s ..
NOW C\nd EYE. AlthotAgh I mention
oYlly NOW in the comic-strip, I o.lso regt-tlo.r/y perLAsec(
the o.ds ;,... EYE.

I sz~z J Joe WOCA.I()( like me to note t~o.t.. while he is

cheC(p> tl-lo.t's not why ne isl"''t C\ john. He WOCAI(i(n't
po.y for sex eve"' if he wo.s ric.h, becC\t-tse .. despite his
repCAtOition, he's very romo.n'ti<. Whic.h is trCAe -- Wty
portr01yC\I of Joe d-oesn't properly convey his ror:t'!Oint"i£.
5 ic;(e.

Iw01y
55 : 6 - 8 I My
looks
it-
bed.roorn l ooks differe"'t here tho.n the
Ch01pter 1. ThC\t 's beco.CA.se it ~
i"'
~ifferent. 1., the f01ll of 1998, Sook-Yin o.nc( I t'Yioveo{
froWl O.t'l o.po.rtment to 0. SWlC\11 YlO\ASe Htc),t she bOIA.9ht.

[ 65 :7 I
Jt-tst to W'lake it c.lear - -si-te wo.s ref~.ASi1'19 the
tip .. not the fee foy ti-le 1-,o.lf-hotAr.

I 6~ 1 - 16 : 8, B I : 1 - 8't: 3
= J W o. s "An 9 e I in o... C\ sex - .s I 01 v e ? S he
worked in o.n incG\11 brothel --this is -the preferreot
workivts venCAe for sex-SIC\vers becC\CASe it 9ives therv1
the most co,.,tro f over the sex-slo.ves. ( Perri..,,.. pp. LtS ..
't 6. ) "A..., 9 e I;,.., o.'s " he sit 01 t ion c:\ boCA t 9 e tt; n 9 (A p w n e n I
cl-lose her ( 13 =1- 1't~6) is StA9c;sestive --she wo.s C\ctin~
the wC\y o...,e wo~.A icl expect "' sex - s/C\ve to o.ct : rei«A<-
to....,tly. On the other ~o....,o(.~ it's possible she wo.s..,'t reltAc-
trA...,t beAt jCAst cor1ftAseo( since sl-1e ciicA..,'t speo.k Er19lisl-1.
A..,()( ..,.., ""'Y prostitlAtes who choose the work C4ho ~l,oose
to work i., brothels since tl-tey're seen o.s beil'19 s(;l,fer
tha.., worki119 o"' the streets., or Ol.(t of o..,e's home .. or
G<o j n 9 0 tAt c. 01 rr s.
TJ.,ere o.re two other fo.ctors to co..,sio(er: ''Tit'lo."
~ ,., ci t h e " t'YI o.., s t e r i 1"1 ~ l"t"l ; ,., i - s k; r t '' f r o I'Yl C h C( p t e ..- 5.)
who I'm going to co.ll "A...,selino. II ", lmc:\9ine yoc.A're C\
sex- sl~ver who's rt...tnl'ling ~ brothel C4ncA you hc:\ve
some 1.u1o.ttt'"active wome..., workin9 for yotA "'.,..,~
SOWle beC\tA.tifvtl wornen. (As I me,.,tion in pane/ 13~6,
there were two good-lookin9 lo.oie s in t-V.e plo.ce -the
first tin1e I visite~. The seconcA time, I SC(W yet o.
thirc;.{ beo.CAt y there.) Sex-slo.vers prestAmo.bly co.re
c;\loOtA't m01kivt9 mo..,ey, l"'ot c:\bo~.At the feeli.,gs of the
sex-slaves. If yo CA. wo.n teo( to maxi mi z. e yo LA r prof its..
wl-to wot.Alc.( yot.A ~-<Se to 9reet jor,.,ns o.t the o(oor :
uno.ttractive sex-SIC\ves or- beo.utiftAI ones? If yoiA lASe
tl-te CA.no.ttro.ctive OY\es .. there's o. goocl chO\nce the
9uys wi II leo.ve wi thOIAt eve t'l wa I k i n9 in_. so obvi oCA-
sly yoi.A'c( lAse tl,e C(ttYC(ctive wome,., to flAre ti-le: Wlen

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insi~e. Yet tl-u:\t w~s..,·t w..,~t noq>pe..,ed.. The first time

I w~s there> piOiin-et..,c(-c("'mpy "Ti1101." Ol.t'1Swerec( the
door_. 01.nc-J tne secon~ time it WG\S ':An9elin01. li ''> who
WG\S fiCAt - ot..tt" u9ly. lt5 n01rd to be SlAr"e betsed o..-, only
two experieYices .. btA't it looks like the piCAce. w01.s bein9
rtA.n by someo"'le with 01.., e9c::d i t01ri01n bent - -they were
letti"'l9 t'-1e IA.r1G\ttractive women h01.ve C\n ectt.u~l snot
c:t.t" 9etti"'l9 c.f;e..,ts. Act'-'t"AIIy_. for-.9e't the who - 9ot-to -
01.nswer-t,...,e-ofoor-- issue -- I c01n ' t im01.9i"'le th01t sex-
SIG\ver.s wot..t/~ hcwe bothered to kid.n01p "An9eli"'a Ir ':
Sl1e WG\Sn't someone who might hcwe been G\ttrCActive
G\t one point -- sV!e had c/e01rly 011 w01ys bee.., very
otiffictA.It-to- look- G\t. No"'le of +his P.roves tnat ti-le place
was not r"IAn by sex - sl01vers> b«At it seems tA.t"'l i kely thCAt
it w01s , s i11ce whoever - r01n - the - brothel doe sn ' t s ee..,., to
n01ve tnOLA~ht of t'YlOney G\ S their O"'lfy cons i cler01tion .

ls~t ; r . 2 I It mCAy seem odc4 H101t I n01dY1 ' t to'lotice~

"A "'l9 e I i.., 01's '' i "'l 01 b i I i t y to s p e 01. k E "'l gl is h ct tA. r i ,., 9 o u r f i r s t
session. As yotA see on p019es 14 to 16> l"nost of WlY
01. ttempt s to ted k to her were met with the t c.vo- wo ret
r-eply, "It 's okCAy." I took th01.t CAS "'"' in~ic01tion H101t
she d.i~"'l't w01nt to t01lk. I try to be se11sitive. to tne
CtAeS tn01t e~cn sex·worker 9ives. I'll rv~o-ke Olt'l effort
to st01rt 01 conveY"SG\tion .. blAt if 01 \AJOW'IGu., doesn 't seerv~
to WG\nt to chat ;> I'll sJ,.,IAt lAp.
Wnile "Anselin01'' seemeol t..u-'lCoW~fortOible c;(lArin9
o\Ar first Hssion .. she WG\S very sweet 01not lov i n9 tne
sec.ond time ol.espite J.,e,- obviotA.s l&.~c.k of se)C«AOII
excitement. I wish l 'o\ been oa.ble to see her more.

/a 6 : 6 / 1 "'sec4 ..,.,Y Ye01l n01me witJ., pr-ostitiAtes f,-oi'Y\ this

point on .
My 9r"o.phic. novel lOI.AIS RIEL w01.s seriodi"Z.eol in te..,
24 -p019e ''comic book" parv~phlet s befoYe it WO\S rele01sect
CA.S o. book ;.,., 2003 . This w~s tne first of the
pCAI"YYpi-llets -- it w01s P"'blisheol ;.., Jt.t11e 1999.

I 86 =1 I The ri9""t prontAnci01tio..., is LOO-ee ree - e.L.

I C)l:l- 92 :7 I "AWlCo\nOG\ spoke witn 01

G\ forei9n CA((E.'r1t. WCiiS
sne sex- sl01ve? Wi-leYl I pno..,ed her to oa.sk if we coulol
C>.
9et togetney-, she cJ.iGL...,'t o.tAtomo.tic.~tly s01.y yes . When I
s~;ot l 'o( OllreCAcly seeto'l "Anne ", ':Amanol~" m01ole I'Yle wCAit
while she cons~Aited. with her work-m01te . Only CA.fter
"Anne " l-10\cl SOI. icl I WOIS oko.y c:J.id tne Ol.ppointMe...,t 9et
booked.. The ii"YYpression I set is tn01t sex-sl01ves 01re not
G\lloweol to be th~t picky Ol.b o tA.t their cliel"'tS G\nc;(
WOtAfcA.., ' t set to book their own o.ppointments. A..-ro(
cAovt' t see wny se)C-SICAvers wotAicl set I-ter tAP ;.., t&.,e
Sort of ivtCG\11 sittA.Oition sne WOIS in with "Anne "> who

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wo.s not tro.ffic.keol.. ("Anne" SOI.id. she WOI.S born 11ere

01.nc;( cert01.inly .seen"'eol. 01....,o( sot.otnol.eol. c.orY~pletely (G\no.c:A-
iOI.n.) I wovcfd think 'th01.t sex-slo.ver.s wov./o( wo.n't to
iso/o.te sex-slo.ves 01.w01.y froWI (OI.Vlao.ol.ic...n prostitL4tes>
wl-lo ...,.,i9ht> throiAgh rE'91AI~r intero.ction> develop
sympG\thy for- ti-le forei9n girls o....,o(, o.s o. restAit> might
wo.t"lt to help the.-n.

~.. e we b -s1te
\too'!- IOI•B j 1 ... · .11"'1 ctv.est1o..,
. ·1S terb.<:OI.. It's G\
vo.lv.o.lble so~Arce of informo.tion for joJ.11'1S wl-to live in
Torovtto or visit it,
These review-sites 01.re covttrover-sio.l for prostittAtes.
S PR EA D MAGA Z IN£> wl-tic.h is written by sex - workers,
ro.n pro 01.nd con pieces on tl-te St.otbject in tV.eir SU\W~..,..,er
2009 isst.(e. (Vol. 5,.. isst.(e 1.) Kelly of WG1.sl-tin9toYl, DC
wrote :

AVly bt.otsinessperson knows there's no better o.olver-

tisement tl-!0\n woro( of t'Y'JOt.(th> ano( [. .. ] ti.,ese sites
Co\re wovtol.erfiA/ ov.tlets for ex01.ctly tV.o.t type of
free ao.d.vertisi""<3· [ ... ] I cAon't even p01.y for o.o(verti-
si ,n9 Cl~'~YW~Ore> since I 9et new clients every tirv1e
so...,.,eone wrires o. new review. [ P. 20.]

Nettao.lie of So.n Fr01ncisco hao.ot 01. very cl.ifferen't opi"1i01"1 :

Seeing the il"ltimc-Ate d.et01ils of my encoiA!"''ter with

o. client mo.kes me feel otiS9tASting, no wtOitter
now posi'tively ~e r~tes the el<perience.

She. instit«Atec.( ~ l"lo-review policy.

Withol.o\t o.llowing reviews> I fino( I ~1'1"'1 better 0\ble
to offer 01. 1-\niqlAe> speciao.l €l<perie!"''ce to e01ch
cl i ent I con"'e in co.,t<:lct witl-t. I olon't l101.ve specific
tnin9s to live v.p to> o.nol. O.I"Y'' o.ble to re/ao.x> enjoy
rnyself> o.not v.ltimo.tely offer o. better tit'Yle to
both p"'rties. While it 's tr~Ae th01.t I o(o...,' t 9et o.s
1-ligl-t 01. volv.me ao.s I ~id [ whe ..... I o./lowed revie·ws L
I mCAch prefer spendin9 my tin'\e with ti.,e few
m en who w i If to. k e o. c h o.., c e . [ P. 2 1. ]

Botn vvot'Yle..., 1-to.d more to sao.y on the St.otbjec.t -- l'rYI jt-tst

printi""9 these el<cerpts to 9ive o. sense of the G(ebo.te.
By 1rhe wo.y> SPREAD is worth chec.kin9 ov.t wl.,ether"
yotA're sellin9 sex or bt.(yil"\9 it. I'm odwao.ys h01ppy to ~ee
o. new issv.e . The web-site is spn?Oio(t'Ylo.go.'l.ine.or~.

/ The expression is ao.ct~Ao.lly '' bo.re - b01.ck blow-job''>

1 100 ' 8
so Joe wo.s close. He's now emb"'n·o.ssed. i-1-tao.t he d;ol.,'t
9tAess correctly, bv.t I don't thil"lk he shotAicA be. He got

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"the ri9nt meG\1'1in9> ;f not the ex~ct wor-d.in9> anc:;( J'a(

been ptAzzlin9 over the il"litiods for ~t least fifteen
mintAtes witV! no S'-'<<ess> ""'hile Joe w~s 01ble to come
lAp witJ, VIis SLA9qestion in'lmecli<Ately.

I 101 : 8 - loB ··I I This wCAs how I bro~c.necJ

tne topic. of her
CAge > b~.At tnere we.-e other" reCASOt"\S why I thotAsV!t- s he
w~s o l cJ.er. $1--je h~c;( tolol me vcH· iotAS d.eto.ils ~botAf" her
life> G\nc:A sorvle of those d.et~ils seemeo< iVY~prob~ble
1..u1less s,.,e w~s older than eighteen.

1
121 : 1 - IZ9: 7 I
Tnis scene t-akes place in the s~me brothel
t h ~ t " Carl~ ., ( C h a pte r Z ) w or k e & in , "J o Ie n e " ( C h o. p -
ter 15) ano( "Myr-c. " ( Ch<Apter Z2. ) also workeol there.

l•zs:s, tl9=1 I
" Diane " did not ~-lave ~ 1-lairy mole. She h~d.
a pr-oblei'Yl tl-101t I'I'Vl 90in9 to be deli ber01tely va9LAe
abo~.At ( jtASt a.s I wo.s vOI<;lLAe o.bolAt the loco.tion of the
non-e>c:istent rYJole ). let's just so.y thO\t this problem
w01s hinder-in<J my C\bility to fincl her sextA01IIy attr"'c. -
tive7 o.nc.( slfle cotAio( eo.sily have ole01lt witl-1 the problen1
so t"'e"'t" i t wotAicl.,'t h01.ve bee"' as notice<Able ~s i t wCAs .

l 13 S ' 2 I
Th01t w~s the best blow-job of my I ife ~Anti I I
met " Denise".

lthe book
JI
1'f 9 : 'f-odwCAyS CG\rry "' book with me7 ~nO. this wc.s
I wo.s r-e~clin9 C\t the time . I do reme...,..,ber
t n CAt ·• S ""san/A Ie x i s " o. s k e c;( o. q_ LA est ion t h ~ t in cJ i c "'t e c.l Q
kr'lowlec;.(ge of Ameri c G\n history beyoncA whG\t yo~Ar
~vero.9e person woLAid k.-,ow, b~.;tt I c;.(on't remember
wh01t the q_tAe stion w01s .

I
Why ci icin' t l reco9nize he·r ? She hG\d ~
\lso : 6 - l5l: 2
different l-101ir-style . More si~nifiro.ntly, si-te wo.s ~9
cliff erently. The first time I so.w her> G\lthotA<_3h she wCA s
polite, she wo.s o.lso &et01cheo< o.no( o(istQnt. The second
time she WG\S wtlACn more frie..,dly.
This c.hG\pter- is set in the SC\me brothel tho.t
''Do.nielle" ( Cho.pter ll.t) workeG{ in.

\lss : ~to/ 1 ·~ reG\d 01. book wV!ic.~ clo.imed tl-t01t " h01lf G\ncA
h~lf" is 01 cort1mon e)(pression ;.., tne worlt:A of prostit~A ­
tiol'"\. This w~ s my first o.nd lo.st o.tte....,pt to lASe the
expression.

) 15 9 ' 3 - 160 : 1ISook- Yin wotAicl like rYJe to m01ke it cleG\r

tl-t~t it WCAS Steve who wG\S conc:er..,ecf OlboCAt my pt'eSeV~ce
j.., the hotA Se , O.ncl he OISkeo( ne r to SIA99est tl-tG\t I f i r1cA

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o.notV.er plo. c. e to live . Steve's o. 9ooG( 91AY ou1o( I tAt1der-

StOit1~ why ~e wo.s unc.ornforto.ble wit 1-t the icl.eo. of
howit-19 Gin e)(-boyfrie...,G( of Soo k - Yi.,'s livi"'9 witlo, the two
of the YY'I,

l 167 : 3 ~ lt " 6weno4oly...," o....,o( I o4icA 9et bo.ck in to&Ac.lo, o. few

I
year!. lo.ter t""ro~Agh terb.co. . (There's o. privO\te vness~~e
syste....., on the site.) Sl-1e hoped l'o be willit19 to sto.rt
seei.,g her o.9o.in. I wo&Aid nO\.ve bee11 eo.::ter to cJ.o so~
blAt by th~t tir-ne I wo.s seei"'9 "De...,ise" o.11ot felt
coW~r-nittecA to her, So_. with soW~e ,.-esret,., I tolo "uiAI€11-
clolyn " tno.t I cot..tldn't see her.
(Yes, I ~Asec.( the wore( "c.oW~WiittecA" there . I do feel
(OI'VlrnittecA. to "DeVJise ". 8tAt feelin9 co.-.,.,.."""ittecl is
o(;fferent fro""' ho.ving 01 forW~odl y sto-.tec.( CO rY~Y\'litW~eY'It
or proM ise. Tho.t feel i n9 n1iglo,t c.h0\t19e with t i me ,., or it
might not -- I oot"''t kl"'ow. I reco9Y'Iize tho.t emotions
o.re.,'t ne cessa r-ily pet'"mo..,ent. TV.e relo.tionship I have
with " De.., ise" will conti.,I.Ae for o.s lot19 o.s we both wo..,1"
it to co...,tint..te. )

I
ltro ·. 1 None of the inco.ll - 9'irls kissee;( me on the Ynot.Ath,
most of ti-re OIAtco.ll-girls ~icL I ~on 't know why there
wo.s o. c;(ifference .

1 110 : 3 I Si Ynilo.rly,.. I ne ve r 9ot the ir-npression tho.t o...,y of

the >nco.ll-sirls I so.w wot.Aid ho.ve been wil/it"19 to 9ive
me 01 condoYY~Iess blow-job, while o.t leo.st three of the
O&Atc.o.ll - 9irls wot..tl& ho.ve c;(one so if I ho.cin't stoppe~
HteW~ . (The other two were " KiHy " o.n~ "Lo.riss01.".)

1 113 : '2 I K..-iscoW~p/o.ineG( tho.t it w01.S11't cleo.r why I

never SC-\w "Jenn01." C\qOiil"'. The explo.nO\.tion is in this
pC\nel -- she WQS too expensive. At $ 300 ~.., holAr,., she
WG\S 'ti-le most c.ostly p,..ost i tt..\te I so.w, I wo.s reo.lly
ho.ppy with he..- service~ beAt I couldn't' CAfforal it 01'1 o.
regtAio•.r be\Sis. It's o.lso worth t"'otins -tho.t I wc:;..s jlAst C\S
ho.ppy oli.Ari"'S ...,.,Y lo.ter encot.Anters witl-1 ''lo.rissc:;.. '',
"l:c;tith ,,> Qn d " De.., i se", even thow3n they o.ll c ho.rgeol
leH . My best sext..to.l experie11c.es with prostit~Ates were
with those foi.Ar yot..tn9 woYY'Ien . ( Tl-1e sex conti.,""'e s to
be 9 r e Q t w it h '' D e n ; s e ''. )

\tT~ · 't J'W~ ..,ot weo.rin9 9lo.He.s in t-l-1i.s po..,el. I bo~Asht

I
conto.c.t-le.,ses C\ short while before seeing " kitty " ~110
be9o.., weQrin9 tl"''eVY~ when I wG\S with prostitt.Ates. I did
write ~nol clrc:;..w 01 few p01.Y'Iels to show thi s,., b1.1t I editecA
them otAt-.

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Wo.s "Arlene" o. sex-slo.ve? She didl"l 't

seei'V'l like one -- she w oo. s very cneerftAI o.no( o.ttentive.
Also) sex - .slo.ves CAre less likely to be Set'lt on o u.tcc.lls . ,.,
hiS book INVISIBLE. CHAINS> Benjo.rnin Perr-in expiC4ins
wny :

( Outca II e]scort services mo.y provide the woi'Yien

with o. measu.re of temporary freec.Lo.,.,~ increo.s in9
the r-isk tho.r they rY~o.y flee [. Per"r-in_, pp. 45> 't6. ]

Wl1i/e Perrir'l doe s 9ive o.t1 exOIWtple of o.n oLAtcOIII ;..,

whid., ti-'le prostittAte wo.s o. sex- s/o.ve, she wo.s OltComp-
O.I"lied to tl-te john's note! roowt "by" co«Aple of bCArly
m e , . " ( P. 1; 't. ) No b tA r I y m e n o. c c o ..,., p 01 n i e ol "A r I e "' e ".

\ l9J:3 - I91 : 2 lin nis notes ( Appe.,cAi)(' 23 ), Seth 01\ks

when~ this conver.so.ti o.., took pl~c e . The cA.i~ lo9ue ito1
this sc eYle is o.ctu~lly bo.sed o.., rYIY rYle.,ories of two
con v erso.tiol"''s we no.d tho.t I'v e mo.shec( to9ether o.s oY'Ie.
I co.11''t rei'Ylember when the f irs t convers o.tion ho.ppeY~eO.>
bu.t I remewtber where= lhe Keg Resto.lAro..,t o..,
Chc..crc.h S<treet. Seti-'l's wife To.nia. wo..s with lAS_, o.l"'lo( she
also took po.rt in the discussion . The seco...,c( co,ve..--
so.tion took plo.ce o.., Mo.rch 30th 2007. Ch..-is Wo.r-e
wo.s visitiYI9 o.nc:{ 9CA"e. G\ to.lk o.t the Uto1ivers:ty Of
Torot'l'to . The school pu.t up (C.,ris i.., G\ &.1o~H· 01'1 (.O.wtp!AS.
Seth o.nd. I were ho.vtgin9 OC.At wirh Chris it"' the livivt9-
room ·o f tlo,i s 1-tou.s e. He left to c.Lo .so"""et,_,i...,9 -- per""G:\PS
~Anpo.c.k. -- o,...,o( Se.th G\nd. I sot ;..,to the se <oncl conver-
SG:\tio..,. Tlo,e setti..,9 ;.., these po.nels is bo.seo( o"" """Y
( prob~bly il'le>. CCtAro.te ) M€Wlory of who.t tho.T l i vin9 -
rooi'YI lookec.( like. ChriS rejoineo( u.s o.t Sotrne poi..,t
b«.At c.licl..,' t po.rticipo.te i11 tV!e excho.r1ge u..,til we>
s w i tc.l-led topics .

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This is now I ~ I'~ responcl.ed. to Seth's

st<"te,.,ent in po...,el 193 ~ 3. The rest of the word-b01lloon$
I wrote for my~elf in th is scene reflect ti-,e """'Y I
re.....,e..,..,ber the ~cttAod co.-.ver-sCA.tioi'\S 90in9 . Still, whO\t
Seth write s ;, Appenc(i x 23 is v01lid.; "C het <omes off
o. little better here tha.., he prob~bly wotAI~ ;.., real
"'w
I ife . '' J·.., s lA r e I expressed. I'Yl y point s ""o,.. e k w ~,. cA Iy
in the re~l ctiHI..(SSio.-.s. Anc:A those c:Aiscc...cssio"'s woiAI~
hCA.ve bee.., more like o(eb"'tes -- Seth wo&Aid. ho.ve been
more forcef~l in opposing wh01t I wOlS .so.yi.,g.

/ 196 ~8 - 191
2 J While Seth said this,., he w01sn't actCAodly
!

SW1okin9 when he said i t. ( 81At he probably lit lAP

within twe..,ty minCAtes. )

jt98 : 2 -a I
A hcrther point OlboCAt the exciiASio.-.G\ry nO.fCAre
of poHes sive mono901rny : it Cc:i\tA ses rese111t~ent . If yotA're
in " po !>Sessive mono901~y relG\tionship an~ you fin~
yotArse If sexu01lly o.tt """"'tee:( to soW~eone- other- HlG\1"1- yoCAr-
rom"'"'ti<.-pOirt.-.er o.t 01 p01rty (or work,., or whereveY ) 7
CAl'tcA yo~ fin~ yourself wishil'\9 you cotAic( cHt on this
0\tti'"CA.C tion, blAt yotA c01n' t beCOIIA$€ yoi.A're in o. I'Y101'10901rn-
0tA5 rel01tionsnip> you're likely to feel reSE!I'ltW~ent . Th01t
resentme.-.t b~il~s LAP o.n~ resU\Its in t'-1e sort of melo-
~ramo..tic fights th~t ~re coW~mon in possessive I"Y''ono9-
<Amy. T&-tose sorts of i.-.tense, 1-teCA.vily eW1ot"ion01l fi3nts
o..r-e r01re between frien~s.. G\n~ o11e of the recHoi"'S is
bec01tAse there 's less reset'lt""'le.-.t betwee.., frie,.,~s. Th~t·s
bec~use yoCA COl..-. no.ve O.S W'IG\ny fyjenc.ls 0\S yoc...c Want--
it 's 11ot ~n e xci ~Asive reiG\tio., s J.,ip. If the soc.ic:AI <ode sac-ci
yo~ coCAicA hGwe Ol'lly ot1e frieno( > resentme11ts between
frie.-,d.s woCAio( it1cre"se. ( Tl1is is o. generc:A( te..,~e..,c:y . I'W~
S'-'r-e tl-tet"e 01re en1otiono.lly mo.t«.AYe people wJ.,o k.,ow how
to clef~A se tJ.,eiY resentW'Ie..,t s or who never feel the
eWlotion to be9i.-. with . A.,c:A. people who ho.ve difficCAI~y
9etti1'19 IG\icl. mi9ht feel less rese.-.t""'e""t ;.., rnono901"""'o1AS
reiOitio.,ships H101n people who don't l,c:Ave tJ.,"'t cAifficCAity.)

l"Ec.(ith"
19 9 : 1I It m01y see ...,., l ike f w~s bei..,9 cruel
to 01chnit tho.t s&-te WC\S h01ving sex
by forcing
with 0111 of
her c.(jel1fS O.ncf... th01t fJ.,erefore _, by implication> Sne C:.H. fiA -
0\1/y wo.s G\ prostiti.Ate . The tJ.,in9 is, siven the O\Y91ArYient
she Wl~cl.e > I cliO...,'t know whG\t her ~O'lSWer WOIAid be. I
OICttAOII'Iy ~icA think th~t I'YlOiybe she wasn't h01.vin g sex
with o.ll ner c lient.s.

I 201 : 8 I TJ.,e (c..th~r 1-teres y> C\ p~c i f ist brc..nol of C~r.-s­

ti<"..,ity en1bro.cin9 toler01.-.ce Olt't~ poverty> ro se to
proi"Y''i.,e.-,ce in t11e .-nidolle of tr.,e twelfth
centtAry [. O'Sl-1e01, p. 7.J

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For +l-Ie C~H1G\r'"S~ the worlc:J wo.s not the h01ndi -

work of o. good gocL It w~s w'-toHy the cre~tio.., of
o. fon:e of dG\rkness~ iW'Im0111ent in o.ll tl-1ir19S , M01tter
wcH corrv.pt, there fore lrr el evo.n~ to so. Ivo.'tion,
little if 0\ny ~tte!'ltion h"cA to be paic.< to tt.,e eiC~.bo­
rco.te systems set v.p to bv.lly people i11to obeyins
the ..,.,""' with the si-lo.rpest swore(, the f"tte~t
wG\IIet, or tl.,e big9est stic.k of il'lc.en s e. Worldly
o.tAt,.,ority WG\S "'frG\v.o( 7 Olno( worldly 0\v.thority
bOlseol on some O.ivine SOinc.tion, StAc.n 015 tl,e.
Cl-lv.rc.h do.imeo(, wo.s olAtri9VIt hypoc.risy.
The goc.l o(eseYving of Co.th01r worship w01s ~
god. of l ight, who rtAiec.t t'-'le it"tvisible, the ethereo. l,
the spiritCAal domG\in ; th is 90d> v.lflco,.,cerned with
the tvto.terio.l, Simply Gficl,., ' t co.f'e iF yoCA 9ot ;,.,to
bed before getting Wl~t"'riec;i(_, ho.ot "' Jew or
M~Asliwt for " fr"ienot , tre"teol r ..H?VI and wo..,.,en cH
el:lv.011s, or d ie). o.nyth i ,.,9 else co..,tr01ry to ti-le +eG~cl1-
i,.,gs of ti-le wteo(ievod (ht.o~rc.'-". It w01s '-'P to tl-1e ;,.,o(i-
vid~Ao.l ( I'YlO.t"\ or wo.-n~n) to dec.ic.le whether he or
she was wilfi,.,9 to renoCAnce the n-1o.terio.l for o.
life of self-deni~l. If not, o..,e v.~olAfo( keep retv.r-
nit19 to this world -- t'-tO\t is, be rei'1COIP101teol - -
'"'"til reo.dy t-o eFV~bro.c~ a life StAffic.iently spotle-.s
to o.llow 01ccession, G\t c:Ae~t'-', to t"'e so. me. bliss.f'-'1
sto.te ol"'e 1-1~0. experienceo( G\S ccn G\ngel prior to
h~vi ..... 3 been te""pteot ov.t of he01.ve.., o.t the begin-
ni,.,g of t iMe. To be so.ve~, then , tvtE.'~II"'t becoW~in9
~ so.int. To be d~n-1ned wo.s to live> ~9o.i..., a..,o(
O.CjOii,.,> Ol'l this corrlApt Eo.rth. Hell w01s 1-lere .. not-
it"\ sovne horrific: o.fterliFe dre~rneo( v.p by Ro.-v~e
to s c 01 r e p eo pIe o tAt of their w its.
f O'S l;-tea ~ pp. 10, II . J
,,., 1208~ the Co.tnolic ch~Arc.h dec:.lo.rec;( o. c. rv.s01ote
"9o.in s t the C01thcus. The heresy wo.s finodly c.r-tAsheot ,..,
12 Cf4.

I zozWo.s
: 2 .. 3 I R01A9e..,.,ont, Book n.>
ti-lere
Cho.pters 6-10.
con,.,ectio.., between
G\ the trov.b01c:Aov. r s
o..,o( tJ.,e C01t-ho.rs ? r·..,., not we/1-verseo( e,.,ov.gh in +l-te
sv.bjects to .SOIY witJ., co..,fic.lence whet11er RotA9e-.onT
wo.s rig&.,t or wrong o,., t1-1is mo.tter,

I '2..0 2 : 5 I Wnile
cot.Artly love WG\ S import~111t in Hte o(evel-
opme,.,t of t"'e concept of rorvto.ll"'t ic love , prob01bly j~Ast
o.s ;,.,.,porto.nt wo..s the infl~.tenc.e of whG\t C. Stephen
J~e9er co..l ls " ennobli,.,9 love" in hi~ book of the .so.me
ti+le. He defi..,es it o.s "o. spirittAo.li~ed love thO\t
respond s to the ' virtlAe,' the ' mG\jest y,' the ch01rism01> ti-le
so.intlineSS, of tJ,e belo veJ., to SO I"YTE' ir1ner force of Qv-th-

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ority or- o.....,i~bility or- SOtnc.tity. " ( JCA.e~er, p. Lt.) 'Thi s wo.s
o. forn'l of love tho.t ,..,.H~"" express~cA fo..- other men . p,.-ior to
tl1e IZ-t~ <.e""tiAry,.. if wo.'> coMW'!only helievec.( ti-Jo.t ''+he love
of rYlen for WOrYlen COI.Aic.( t'\ot ent"'oble> Sirtce S€XtACldity
wo.s its no.ti.Arod f"'lfiiiW'Ient . love G\1"1o( friends~ip of men
for wo..,..,e"" t'-l<At clc:.cimed 'virt<Ae' G\no( i n11ocen'e inevitG\·
bly ro~Ased SLASpicio.,, " ( J01e9er> p. 1,) Jo.e9er points OIAt
th<At e)(pressions of intel"'lse frienolship·love betwee.., I'Yien
were very common froM 0\t'lCient times LAp 111ntil the ~evel·
opmen't of cotArtly love. AlthoLA9h these friendsJ,ips were
vtot seXIA0\1> the e)(p.--ession of this fo,..""' of love WG\S so
eff<Asive th01t it reseYYlblec« wh01t we c01ll rorYIC4ntic. love,
J01e'3er- co..,tevtc:As tho.t> in I-ter letters to Abelo.rd, Helo i se
( CG\. A·D 1090 · 1163) wo.s the first to 01pply "ennob,/i..,9
Io v e '' to 01 sex lA 0\ I reI <At ion s 1-1 i p between 01 m 01"" 01 n cA 01
WOI'YIGU'1 ,

The defe..,se of pG\SSion01te love is 01 creo.tio.-, of

Heloise.[•. . ) She co..,strtAc.teo< o. virtt.Ao(..(S sexLA:o.l
pO\Hion of tl-te ele...,.,e.-,ts of e.-,nobli..,9 love: self·
lessness> p1Arity of ;..,tention> love of merit> ptArity
of love> rY~lAtLAG\Iity> coYY~plete self · OibG~~ndon.,.,ent.
She is the Qrchitect of c,. hi.91-ler l01w of p~Are love
.SO\nctio.-,ing sexLAOtlity [. JC"Aeger-> p. 169.)

( Heloise WOlS defen~ing the pre·mO\ritC41 sex thC4t she

C\ n (;.( A be I 0. r ~ 11 C\ Q( e Ylj 0 y e ~
I s h e h ~ o( ., 0 t w C\ n t ~ d t 0
m01rry A be l01ro( be c o.IA se she w01s QfrO\ io( thc;..t ...,.,c;..r.--i C\9e
wo~AicJ c.testr-oy their love . She w01s right. ) The
lette..-~ of AbeiC4Y"d. co·•cA Heloise becc.ti'Yie f01rno1AS> 01no(
wl-ze11 co..,binec::4 wit~ the poptAio.rity of co<Artly /ove-
poe.t,..y> infi<Aenceot n-1en 0\t'lo wo...,.,en to reiG~~te to e01c.~
other in 01 ~iffer-ent w01y. ( This> in t"'rn~ infiiAe..,ceo(
now men t'"el01ted to eo.c.h other. Accorolin!J to JG~~e9er,
expressions of "ennoblins love " between me"" O.iecJ.. off
0\S n1ode-GIInd - fem01le /ove·litero.t<Are. becC\me. fC4shio..,~ble.)
This doesn't meo.n thC4t re9t..d01r people .st01r-teo(
I'YIC\rryi11g for love imrY~ea;G\tely. The ideo. perc..oiO\te-d. in
E tAropeGIIn liten:"t<Are for t~e next few centuries, and.
people beco.me srOicll.o\01/ly MOre receptive to it. Per~o..,­
G~IIy, I thir1k whel\t reel\lly be901r1 the poptAIC\rity of MC\Hy·
ing for love WO\S +he rise of the rom01ntic. novel in
tl-1e IBth c.ent~Ary ( be9innin9 with the S<Access o.c.ross
E<Arope of SOirYIIAe/ Ric.hc;~ro(son 's PAMELA> pCAb/isheol in
1740 ).

By tl'1e enol. of the 1100s pers o nC\I c.~oice of pC4rt..,ers

l-lco.c::4 re pl01cecJ. G11rr01n9ec:i n-"~Oirrio.se DIS 01 5ocic;d io(e"''~
0\nc:i indivioi.IAG~~Is were encoi.ArG\sed to 1'1"10\rr-y for
love . [Coontz., pp. 145- l't6 . ]

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lhe new norms of the love - batsed.> inti...,ao.te mCA.rr"i -

G\.~e cli~ not fodl into platce o.ll o.t onc.e b<At were
o.c:J.opted o.t different rO\teS in vo.riO<AS re9i01'1S G\.f'lol.
so<.i0\1 <jroCAps. /n t"9/~nd> tl,e celebro.tior1 of the
love mo.tc.h reatc.hed 01. fever pitch o.s eatrly ats tl,e
1160s- o.nol. 1110s> while tl-1e French were still
cot'Yl...,_,e.,tin9 on the l'lovelty of "mG\.rrio.9e by fCA.sci-
n~tio.., .. ;,.. the mid - IBOOs . Mo.Y'Iy workin9-c:l~ss
fao.wtilies did. not o.O.opt the lfl€W norms of mo.rito.l
IY'ItimOtcy CAvttil the tweY'Itieth centtAry.
[Coontz> p. 141. ]

M~rr-yin9 for love sto.rteol. to 9o.in wio(espreao.ol. o.ccep-

tOIY'IC.€ ;.., the 18th centLAry. I O.on't think it wats o. coinci-
c).el'lce tho.t o.t the Satme tiYl'le OtAr mocJ.ern concept of
''the prostittAte" wo.s forl'VliY'Ig, From LOt«Aro. Mo.rlo.
A9ustln 's SEX AT THE MARGINS :

[T]here w~s no wore;). or concept whic.l-1 signifieo(

exc.ltAsively the sode of sextAo.l s ervices IAntil t-,t.,e
[ lo.te rgth centv.ry ]. '' Whorins" refer-reo( to se><tAo.l
relo.tio.--.s o<At of I'Ylo.rriO\ge o.Y'Io( co,...noted ivn.,.,or-
odity or promiH tA ity with OIA t tV!e i .--.vo/ve me.-. t of
moY'Iey> anc) the word whore wo.s <Aseo( 'to bro.>1ol
0\ny wom01n who stepped. o<Atsiole <.~Arrent
botAnolO\ries of r-especto.bility . [ Al31AStll"l> p. 101 . ]

Money WQS vrot ac defivring c.ho.ro.cteri5tic of proHit<A-

tio.., ;.., tl-te pre-moc-Jern en;;~.. ReOt~i""9 AgCAStln's book
1 be'30IY1 to woY'Icler- if it 's o. Modern iol.e~ to sepcHOtte
''trO\cle " ~spec.ts of o. sexv."'l reiO\tionsnip from "l"loYT-
t r "'c{ e " o. spec. t s CAn 0. if> i Yl o. t t em p tin 9 to d. o so> we
0\ren't ctr~win'3 o.r-bitr-CAry boCAI'1C;(o.ries. It looks obvi-
O<AS to tA.S ;.., the 21st ce'1t1Ary t"'"t prostittAtion is o.
forWl of comWter-ciod tr01.de O.l"lcJ. th~t r'OWlCAvttic. love.
"'...,o(. W1o.rrio.C3e ho.ve nothivt9 to do with trQ.cle. Bc..tt
prior to the 18th cent<Ary, o,.,e n:;\rely mo.rriecl for love-- it
wo.s WliAC.h more COMWIOf'l to mo.rry for money.

ll't E~Arope, froi"Yl the eC"Arly Middle A9es throtA9h

the eishteenth cent~Ary , the dowry at wife
brou~ht with I-ter C"At rn01rri01.9e wats often the
big<jest infusion of c~sh > goods> or l"'nol 0\ rno.Y'I
wo~Aiol. ever o.<q<Aire. Finc:Aing ~ h<Asb"'nol wo.s
IASv.OIIIy the most in"'portG\nt investmet'lt "'
wOWl0\1"1 co~Aid mOtke ;., her eco.-,oMic ftAture.
[ Coontz> p. 6. ]

0~ co~ouse> mQf"ly people still mo.rry for I"Yloney - - it's jiA~t

tO\boo to ope..,ly o.cA.....,it it now. Even whe,... it 's vtot the
prirnOtry reo.son for r'Yl~rri01'3e ... wrost people e .... tering into

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mQtriWJony &o co,-si&er" ti-le fin~t"'ciad SitCAG\tio.., of the

persova they're mG\rryi.-,g.
It's Q(So worth pointing OCAt ti-lett., o.siofe fro..,., ro.pe
( whic"' iS DlboCAt to.kin9 withoCAf givit13 CAI"''yfj.,jng )_...Sex
iS o.lwo.ys C4boCAt trG\cA.e : "I WG\nt to 9ive yo«A physic01\
pleo.sL<re becG\CASe I wG\.,t physic01l pleG\St.cr·~ in retCA.,.....,.,".,
or, ''I'll h"'ve sex witl-1 yoCA beccu.cse I wQnt "ffectio.-,'".,
or., "YoCA ccvt fCAc.k n-,e for 200 dol/o.rs." It's G\11 tr~de.

1 203 : 1 I At1tiquity h01s left no recoro( of G\n experience

o.ki.., to the love of TrisfQn Qno( lseCAit. It is well
know., tJ...tc.~t the Greeks G\r1d Romans looked on
love o.s " si(..kness [ ... ] whe.,ever it we.-,t, no
mQ\tter how little, beyo...,~ ti-le sel'lSCAG\I pleasc.Are
w&.,ic.n WOIS considered to be its nG\tCAro.l expression.
PI&At~rc.&-, cG\IIS love "G\ frerny ". "SoW~e 1-\G\ve believe~
it wo.s G\ rno.cAne !IS .... ThCAS those wL-to G\re in love
I"'"'CASt be for9ive.., G\S tnoCAgh ilL" [ RoCA<3e""'ol'lt_. p.60.]

I
203 :8- 20't : l C01rtoo11ist Eric. SJ.t01..,ower h"'s bee.., retell-
in~ the story of ti-le Troj~n W~r cu "' series of 9r~phic-
1'1ovets. Acc.oro(i.,g to the first volCArn'l!, AGf.. OF BRONZE: A
THOUSAND .SHIPS, Odysse1AS l-\01d. wanted to rnG\rry Helen
blAt insteG\d WG\$ 9iven her cotASin ... Penelope, CAS o. sort
of col"'solatio~ prize. J tr«AH tho.t ShG\nower is bG\Sin~
tkC4t ovr some G\1"\cie,.,t versio,., of the tG\Ie, or 01t le01$t
isn't- contf'adic.ti"''g the ori9it1al SOCAr<es. (The book isn't
po.git101teoL If t&.,e first po.9e H101t stetrts the story is
po.9e o"'e> t&.,e.., the relevo...,t p"'ss"'9es re9G\ro(in9 0c;(ys-
SfCAS cu-1cA Penelope G\re 011 po.9es 126 o.1>1a 135.)
l11cidently, I've bee.., e..,joyit1g the AGE OF BRONZE.
ser-ies. I hope ShCA.nower mG\nG\ges to finish it.

\-zoct:l JWe fi"'c( isoiClltec;L recorcJ.s of pG~SsionD~te love exper-

ienc.ecA by spol.-\ses o.mong tne o.nc.ie..,t Hebrews,
(,reeks> G\r'lci Ron-1Q1'1S . SCAt si..,ce o.rra..,geo( mG~~rriG~~<JeS,
rO\.ther H1"'n love l'l1G\rri019es .. were t11e ,.,or..,., ;..,
premode?rY1 tii'Yles, brioles G\n~ 9roOl'nS cAicA .-,ot enter
I'Y'lG\rriG\9€ with tl-te expec..t01tion of "fovin9" eo.c.h
other G\S we LH''lc;(erstOI..,o( t11e term. [Yo.lorYY, p. xvi.]

jzott:'t l1 believect for G\ wl1ile thett there eve ..,o pre-12tl1-

cent""ry literG~~ry works H1Qt conto.i11 cho.ro.c.ters wl-'!o
first fC41l in love G\n~ the,., 9et rno.rriec.t. This is o.l,.,.,ost
trtAe, hCAt not qt.cite. Re01ding THE SEVEN BASIC PLOTS by
Christopher Booke.,.., I co.rne o.cross o. reference to the
G\ncie..,t Greek novel DAPHNIS AND CHLOE by Long\.\s
(co.. the 21"1d or 3rol cel"''t~Ary A-D). Booker's c:Aesc.ription
it'tolicc:.tes tlo,Qt it's 01bo1At "' co~Aple who I'YlQrry beCG~.'-'Se

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ti-tey've fo.llen in love. I went OIAt o.not pic.keo( LAp 0111

En9lis~ tro...,slo.rion - - 8oof.<er is ri9nt. Accoro(i,.,9 to 'the
intr-ocl1Ac.tiol1 ;., my c.opy of t>APHNIS AND CHLOE .. tV.ere o.re
ot&-ler s i rnilo.r- Greek o.no( lO\tin works fr-ol"'\'1 tl-tis periocJ..
[ lol"'g~s.. p. x.] It seerY~s th01t they oicJ.•1t peYSCAo.cA.e people
i11 0.11y si91'tific01nt l'tiAWiber-s to ptAt m01rrio.ge-for-love
into prCAc.tice .

I 201 : z- 208 ' I WCI\s ''l"~"CA '' 01 s ex-slowe? D1Aring oiAr-

1
post-co i to.l co ..wersO\tion, "Lo.IAro." told. rYTe o.bot.At 01 trip
sne·~ jLAst to.ken bo.c.k to her l-lomelo.ncA o..,c-J how she'cJ.
visiteci I-ter fo.,.,.,ily while there. Tho.t indico..tes to 1"11E' o.
greo.ter clesree of mobility o.no'. fr-eedoi"YY tho...,., o..,e
woll\lc.l e)Cpec.t o. s ex-slo.ve to ho.ve .

I 209 3
' I
J',..., 01ot o. teetoto.tler, blAt it's ro.r-e thO\t I drink
""'Y k i no( of odcohol .. so I 11ever ho.ve G\t"'y <At hoW~e .

l 2 I 0 : 6 - 2 II : '2. I ,.De1'11Se
. " _, , b ,_ . L •
re..,.,em er t.-"s n01ppe'"'"".9 ·
c.<oec,n t
After she reo.o( tl-le book? si-te a.skecJ. .. ''Reo.lly? I for9ot to
pic.k LAP the mol'1ey th01t first tiW~e ?" Yes,. she d.icJ. .
Misto.kes like tho.t co..., h01ppe11. A few yeo...-s lo.ter- I
forgot to plAt the money OIAt.. which lea< to rt-u.A.ttAod
embar-r-OISS..,.,ent. Sl-1e wo.s eWibetrrCAsseo< to 1-towe to o.sk
for it.. et11d I wo..s eP'I"''bo.r-retsst•o( bec..GI\~ S e I dicAn't WG\1'1t
he,.- to think tl-to.t ICA. been tryin9 to 9et a.wo.y with not
pe~~yi"'~· I 11ow ho.ve "' check - list of thit"'gS to r-eP'I"''e..,ber
to a<o before "Denise'' CAr-rives -- a.t the top of ti1e list it
SO.y S, "money Ot.At".

I ztz.. : z.. 3 J It P'I'701Y seem h01rc;t to believe tho.t I wc.o work -

ins so hG\r~ th01t I coiAio(n'r spetre o.n hoLAr or two ~
mo..,tJ., to see 01 prostit~Ate. All I COin S<"AY is .. tho.t wa.s
Hre 11eo.o-spa.ce I w01s ;., , Ye s ~ I coLAio( howe pG\ic:l for se)C
G\ fe~A~ More timeS in 2003 011""10 Still nGI\Ve rYIO.c(e the
pLAblico.tion c.tea.dline for LOUIS RIEL Gl\110. coMplete~ e~~IC of
P'I"''Y promotione~~l c.ttAties.. blAt I wo.s in StACh o. po.nickeo(
st01te tha.t- I felt- like I dio(n 't h01ve o., extrO\ ,..,;..,lAte.
I'm ;.., o. s;..,.,;lo..r po..nickeot StO\te. o..s I finish this book.
Tl-te oV~Iy reo.son why I '" "' hCAvil'19 sex (i(t.Aring this
dea.~line- c rc.Anc.h is beca.~ s e ""'Y rela.tio11ship witl-t
"Denise" is too f;,...,..,ly esto.blished ;"' my life .

I Z 21 :a I Wnen 1 first met Sook- Yi., .. she br-Oiic:{ed. 1-ler ~0\ir

like this most of the tiwte. Over- tl-,e yeo.rs sl-1e 9ro.dlAetlly
stoppe~ d.oil'1~ so. By 2008 sne wot.Alo( not ho.ve wort"'' he r
1-1 o. i r i.., t-1-1 is sty Ie .

I Z'Z2 =S - 223 ~ 1 I
I t'"eW'Ie""'1bE'I" the point uorGl m~~e in this
c.onversG\tion , b"'t ..,ot ex01ctly how 1-,e ~xpre ss ec.( it. He

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ciid. not LASe "'"" im"''='in01ry cov.ple n01n-~eol J01ck 01nol J01ne to
d01rify wh01t he WCAS .S01yin9.
( 6y the w01y_, my brother is Ylot himself ;.., 0111 open
J01ck-omoi - Jcv1e sltt.tO\tion. He's i , 01 committe~,
rnono9c.molAS ,-e/01tlon s hip.)

\ 22 5' ~
3 't I I' ve fG\ile& to convey how 01mv.sect Seth WC"AS
w '-1 e.., I "'c4 mitt eo( t h C\ t I I o v e. "0 en is e ". Set.., 0\,
d. I were
01c.tv.G\1fy sitti119 ;, 01 rest01v.r"'n't on Gv.ee.., Street G\t the
tiYY~e - - Terron i.

I 2 'l 6 ~ 2 - 22 1='31
TI-Ji~ po.rt of the conversOt.t-iol'l neve..--
h01ppe...,ed. When I c;trew tl.,ese P"'..,els I h01cA only told
"Deni se" 01bov.t feelin9 th01t e""ptil"'ess.

I2010
221 3
' I The d01.te CAt the bottoW\finis
-- is w'-'e.., I t""'ov.ght I
of this p01r1el - -June 1th
WO\Shec:i cA r01wit1g the
book. A feCAJ ol01ys l01ter I re<Ad. the wl.,ole work throv.gh
0111oC I w01~n't '-'01ppy wita-. t'-le res«Ait. I n01d rY~ore to cl.o - -
ec;(iting ov.t POII"lels Q.nd. O.rC\wing ..,e"" o.-,es. By SeptePY~ber
9 t,_, I J., C\ ot 01 v e n i o n o f t h e s to r y t 1.,"' t I w"' s a.,"' p pie ,-
with .

I AFTERWORD * I Fellow cao.r+oonist D01ve Sin"! stopped

resO\rcAi1'19 n"'e o.s 01, friend in 2008 beCOIIAS€ I ref&AseoC
to sig.., an ;.-,ternet petitio.-, tJ.Jat ~e set up thO\t
reo.c:A.s.~ "Dc:we Sit'Yl is 11ot o. miso9yr"tist." I cAon't o9ree
witl-t his opinion tl-tao.t womeY'I 01.r-e intelfec.ttAG\Ity
i..,ferior to mer1_, b""t my o.ffec.tio"' G\no< r-espect· for
hi.,., remo.in U(nd'lo.t'lged.

I APPENt>IX I " I
Tl-1e wo.y I' ve phrG\sed this misl-'lt seem
to ir'l'lply t~01t otl-ter- coiAntrie s folfoweol. CG\n~oi.G\ 'S leo.ci
in ol.ec.rimin~lizing l-tor't'l05eX""~'ity. COI.rlCAc::ACA """'S o.c.tiAcdly
follo"Vin9 E..,giOI.nct's le01.c::A. ( Gv.&9eon~ p. 191. )

I A. 2 ~ } I i1cwe no stro.-,9 opinion on the connectio.-,

between 9enes "'"'c::A sex"'"'' prefere...,ce. It woi.A.Icil"l' t
sv. r p r is e ""'e if there is " "9 C\ y 9 e, e "_, 01n ci i t w o lA Io("' ' t
sv.rpri se me if there isn't one.

I A. 6 1<' I
If yo""'re wonoCerin9 wf.-\y I dic;(n't encow·1ter
C"Any prostitv.tes wl1o o""'Y 901ve o,-C4(> it 's beca.v.se they
n"!O.de it cleo.r in their <llci S wha.t f-he t10.ttAre of their
service wo.s. I k"'e"" I wo.ntec:A. more thO\..., a blow-job>
so I oioln't COlli the orCAI-OI'lly s e>c-worke rs.

I A· 6 ~* I Amy , "A 'Profe ss i on01l lover ' Spea.ks ", NATIO-

NAL POST> JlAiy 15 tl, 2006.

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I s J., o "" I c;( ~ d ..,..., i t t n 01 t I r e c::u· ,.01.., 9 e o( t h e o r cJ. e r o f the

q_«Aote -- tJ.,e "[1]., folAt" yeetr"S" section atppeatrS before
the ''My clients" section ;.., Amy's esso.y.

A. 8 * Del01coste~ p.. l'lO ..

A. 8 **
J<'\ne <'\no( At'1<'\Nicole~ "De01r John "~ SPREA D,
Wi..,ter 200S, p. IS .

I A. 8 ~·* J Mo11et, p. 221.

\ A. 9 .,.. N~rne withneld~ " Letters ", EYE W£E.KLY

I
( Toronto)> M<'\rc.h I st 2007~ p. 5.

'A.
( 9 "'* I_ M onet,..
... p. 2.20.

I A. ' 0
Jeffrey~
* I Jeffreys_. pp. 260, 261.
is quotir19 f,...on1 p019e
159 of "' 1991 p«AblicQ-
tion> RAPE. AI\ID SEXUAL ASSAUlT m : A RESEARCH HAND-
8001<, eclitecA. by Ann Wolpert B«Ar9ess.

I A. ** I " Denise" tells

10
me tho.t she enjoys hcwin.9 sex
with me. M<'\r1y of yo«A re"'~ing this will thil"''k th~t
she's bei..,9 less thQI.., hot1est with me. Peoo..,QIIIy, I
believe her, btAt I reo.li~e th~t she prob01bly enjoys se.x
w it&-, me I e H t "'\(j\ n s h e h o. s e ..,joy e ~ i t wit h the
norr - p<'\yin9 se)(IAOd po.rtners she's nOI.o( "',o( "thOit, if I
wo.s...,'t po.yir19 her~ she wo«Aidn't co..,tinlAe to 90 to becA
with me.

IL A · 10 I .
*'* FeW~in•st work o.., tl-te effects v.po, w oW'Ien
of .se.x"'o.l violen,e, St.Ac.h o.s ro.pe, ;..,cest.. seX«A<'\ I
"'Qretssment Qlnc( m~rittill ro.pe , CO.I"l be lAseft.Aily
"PPiie~ to tne effects of prostitv.tion.
[Jeffreys, p. 268. ]

IA. ~ MG\,.,V prostit~Ates ho.ve developed Hreel"'i1"19

10
sys'tems tho.t suc<essft.AIIy filter' out viole.., t cv.stome r.s.
For i11st<'\nce.. one ;..,depe..,o.e..,'t To,.on'to CG\II·9irl rectt.Aires
tho.t "New clie..,ts must provide either o. r€'o.l no.,..,.,e c-tnci
work p~o..,e l"tCAmber or two refere..,ces frorM otl-ter
respec.tecl C<'\ 11 9ids. '' ( Mclo.ren.. p. 56.)

I A. 11 * I
Here 's the c.ontext in which S heil01 Jeffr-eys
o.sso<.io.tec:A S e)(u~l objectific<'\tion with ernotiOI1G\I i1'1c:Aif-
fe,...e..,<e. This is 1-,er «efi..,itio.-, of prostitutio,., :

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MG\Ie seXtAG\1 be~01viour d-t01r01c teri"te~ by tl1ree

efe,..,.,e..,t.s v01rio1ASiy coVYlbi..,e~: b01rter_. pro,..,.,is c. ~ity>
erY~otion~l i,.,o(;ffere..,ce. Any 1"1'1011"1 is 01 prostitiAtiol"t
01buse,.. who 7 for the pl.4rposes of his sexc.AOII so.tis-
fO\c tion 7 h~bit1A01IIy or i ntermitte..,tly rec:;(uc.es
o...,other ~um&.n beit'1S to &. sexc.Aod object by the
use of rY~Ot'1ey or other merce...,o.ry co..,side..-~tions .
[Jeffreys .. p.lt.]

" Pros t i t ~ t i o t'1 01 bus e r " is o. t e r .,.,· she ._. s e s in t e rc 11 01 n <J e "' b I y
with "jol1n",
Jeffreys is Austro.li01n -- Qoes the worol " b~rter '' h&.ve
G\ ~ifferent YY1£>0111in9 in AtAstY01/i01 ? Here in (o.nOIQ(OI it
refers to tr01ole witho~t Mone y.

I A. 12
* l
The best book I've re01c< 01bo1At tl"01ff ick in.9
01t1c;;( sex-work is Lo11..cr~ Mo.rio. A9u stln's SeX AT THE.
MARC,INS . She Yec.o9nizes th01t mo st tro.ffickecA people
c:;(o..,·t see themselves 01s helpleH victirv1S. RE>so.rolin,9
the ir o(ebt - bo..,c.lo.<3e .. s he quotes o. Coll.4W"'bio....,
tY01ffickeo< il'lto Sp£Ain:

I never co,.,siderecA it to be ~ debt . For ,..,e i t wo..s

like o. fo.votAr th01t they c;;(icA for me.
[ A<3tAStin., p. 3lt.]

I A. 12¥<-Jt- l
A,.,c;(rew Rosetto.., review of .SEX TRAFFICKING..,
ecCiteO. by SiclcAh01rth l-<01ro. ., SPREAD> Fotll Z009_. p. 59.
The sto.tistic comes from K01r01> wi-Jo sees
prostittAtiol'l ets 01 form of exploit01tion.

I A . 12 *'*' Thes how WOIS SOtANDS LikE CANADA_, hosted by

S \1el019h Ro9er s. The interview s~ bjects were 8enjo.min
Perrin 01no< De tee ti ve uoi"'G(OI'\ Me c~ I loc. n.

l A. 16
* I
1'1"1'1 StAre ti1At ;,., I'YIOSt w01ys tl-'le licenc.ec.{ pros-
tit~Ates of Nev01~01 C\re si mil()lrly COI'\trollec4. ..,ow_. blAt ;..,
01 time w"'e.., o.l rY1oSt every o .-,e l-10\s C4 cell-pho..,e I woncCer
if telepho11e use ; .., t"'e Nev01~01 brothels is restric.te"
the wo.y it w01s ;..., the 1990 ~ .

A.
19
~ Then c01 me the breD~ktl-erot..cgn H101t mat.rked
[ PieYre] Tr"'cA.e01u's pc...tblic emer9e,.,c.e o.s the [ ... 1
c&.-.C4risw.at.tic. fi<JtAre th01t 01 trC4tAWI~ti-z.eO. C01n01do.
w~s see ki.-,g. E01rly in Dece..,ber [ 1967] -- o..,ly c:Lo.ys
01fter [ (01n01c<i01"1 Prime Ministel"'] lester Pea~r son
h01o( format.lly GU11'\0~nc.eo( nis retireYY~ent 0\t IOist --

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Tr~AGte"'v. broLA9nt before the Hov.se of (oW~t'VlOI"'S o.

c;4ivorce reform bill o,nc;( sever"'! CArne..,c;A.-nenf"S to
the Crimll"'"'l (ooe liber-odizi..,9 l"'ws on abortion
o.n~ homosexCAcdity. This over..,Ot.v.l of soci~l le9iS-
lo.tion ho.O. bee,., lA..,~er wo.y ;.., the J~Astice
De po.r't>'Y1eYit for ye"'rs. !)tAt' TrtAdeav. mcu:ie the
c.n01.119es his own by telli,.,g the tefevisio.-.
c: 01. wt e n:ll. s o v. t s; c;( e the H o v. s e ~ '' l J.t e. s to. t e h 01. s .., o pI 01. c. e
;.., the bedroovns of the n01.tion . " Thc:lt this icAeo.
w01.s borrowed. direc.tly froWI 01.., ecAitoriod writte..,
by M01.rtin O' Mo\lley th01t week for THE GLOBE AND
MAIL we ..... t t.H1vtotic.eol. Deliver-eol by o.. Wli.,ister of
the Cr-own weo.ri..,g o. le01ther coat an~ sportin9
o. (CAE!SDir h01.ircv.t, it h01o( o.n elec.trifyi"'9 effec.t
o., the ptAblic iW101.9ivt01tio.., , It expressed. o. wio(ely
felt need to brin9 (0\t"lrAdOI. v.p to 0.01te ;.., o. vv01y
th01.t every boc(y co&.AI& CAnc;(erS.tDII"'o(, Here wo.s 01
WlOII"' wJ,o WQS willing to oeclcue himself il'1 opposi-
tiOI'\ to the est01.blishec:A order_, o. wtOI.I'l vvho WG\S
SO\yir'l9 tho.t C"'nOI.GtQ did vtot hc.we to be o. Vic.torian
boo.ckwo-.ter~ o. WIIASetA..,.., of o~.Atmooteol i&eo.s.
( Clo.r-kso.,_, pp. 101, 108.]

Tr~AdeOI.tA w01.s the.., the rni.,ister of jtAStic.e. This is

wl-10\t ..,e 0\<. ttADIIIy SOI.io to the 01bove -W~e,.,tio,.,e<:i tele-
vision co-...,..,ero.s o~ Dece...,ber 21st 1961.:

To-.ke t&.,i~ thi..,9 on ~oWiosextAodity. I thi11k the

view we t01.ke here is th01t there's ..,o platc.e for- the
st.o.te ;., the becAroo~s of the t'lOitiot'l. I thi11k ithOtt'
vvho.t·s do..,e ;,., privo.te betwee.., o.ol~Aits does.., ''t
c:o..,ce,..., the Cril'l'1il'1011 Code. Whe.., it be(omes pLAblic
t h i s ; s 01. c::{ ; f f e r e..., t .,., o. t t e r., or w h e .., it r e I 01 te s to
...,;.,ors this is .o. olifferent l'l'10ttter.
[ G~Adgeon., p. 199.]

He becO\vne ti-le pri.,.,e ...,;..,;ster in 1968.

I A ' * ) I hi9hly
0
recom~e..,G( Cro.ot ~i/od"'ey's e>.l..4tobio-
grc..phic0\l novels EXCREMENT (Charnel HotAse_, 1988) "'"'Gt
PUTRID SCtAM ( CJ,o.rnel Ho~Ase_, 1991 ). u..,fort~Anately
they're both OtAt of prif'lt_, bc.-tt peri-1ap.s yoi.A COtY\ finoC
~.A~ed copies.

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Zed., 2oo;r.
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Praise for PAYING FOR IT
"Paying For It is a very enlightening book, as well as being entertaining: [Chester Brown] is a very skillful
artist in that way." R. CRUMB,fi·om his introduction to Paying For It

''I've loved Chester Brown's work since the early days of Yummy Fur. He started out as a remarkable
cartoonist telling strange stories that slowly became, over time, increasingly personal.
Paying For It is as personal as you can get. It's a clear-eyed, not-even-slightly-erotic, compulsively
readable, sometimes painfully honest account of his time, reasons and experiences paying for sex.
I learned things about Chester from reading this, and I learned things about sex-workers, and about the
world, and, oddly, I think I learned things about myself.
The argument about when or whether comics had grown up ended when people started making
comics for grown-ups. This is one of them. Paying For It is the kind of book that will engage your mind
and force you to think about things in ways you may never have done before. Chester would probably like
that. And if you find yourself arguing with the page, or with the author's notes, I think Chester would
probably like that too." NEIL GAIMAN

"Chester Brown is perhaps the most transparent, honest and relevant voice remaining in contemporary
comics, and this is, to my mind, his most powerful and affecting work to date. Paying For It explores life in
the world's oldest customer-base, and does so with heart, intelligence, and a complete lack of sentiment
or self-justification. Rewarding repeated readings, this book will love you long time." ALAN M 0 0 RE

"In Paying For It, Chester Brown not only makes a compelling case for the decriminalization of sex
work but he also seems like an excellent client. Sex workers and sex worker rights advocates couldn't
ask for a better ally. A must read in the canon of sensible and sensitive voices making a case against
prurient ideology-based rhetoric about consensual sexual behaviour." SAS HA, natio1wlly syndimted
sex columnist, playwright, and sex worker rights activist

"The self-aware john, a quirky and surprisingly realistic guy, is everywhere, but he's also
been silent and overshadowed by his belligerent, deluded brothers. Paying For It is a fascinat-
ing modern (and enjoyable) response to that anonymous Victorian sex classic My Secret Life.
The characters encountered here evoke Armistead Maupin's Tales of the City. Chester Brown's
emotional honesty is riveting. This is what sex ed looks like when we refuse to stop learning."
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