Haya’ is sometimes described as ‘shyness’, but misunderstood to mean a desire to hide, to be nervous,

overly self-conscious, and unable to communicate. This is not the meaning of haya’ and it’s a real shame
that men and women are sometimes taught social anxiety in the name of haya’.Haya’ comes from
consciousness of Allah (swt)—that a servant of Allah would feel too “shy” to commit an open and
indecent sin in the presence of the Most High, that they feel humbled in the presence of the Creator, so
they honor His creation. The believer is not a show-off for any of their blessings. Rather they are grateful,
and hope to use their many gifts in the service of their Lord. One of the most graceful ways to serve Allah
(swt) is by serving and honoring His creation, in the manner that He approves.

“The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. (Qu’ran, 9:71)

How they are allies in terms of Haya.?

1. Be sincere in your interactions.

The Prophet ‫( ﷺ‬may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) taught us, “Truly, actions are
according to their intentions.”1 All interaction with God’s creation is a reflection of our interaction with
the Creator. When a person truly relies on God and seeks Him first and foremost, they let go of the need
for approval from others and seek it only from Him (swt). As a result, the way opposite sex work with
others has to do with God’s approval. , God loves for us to love and respect our brothers and
sisters. When we deal with the opposite sex, it’s important to make sure we do not need for some form of
approval from them, sexual attention, seeking their admiration. Facial expressions, body language, tone
of voice and the general energy brought into interactions should be respectful and professional. One who
is sincere in seeking only Allah’s approval and not wanting something from the people will find it very
natural.