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A Therapeutic Fable
EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
“Children have inborn tendencies which
make it much easier for them to behave
badly or neurotically than for them to
behave well or sanely.
• I must win
If a child thinks that they should not care about others.... they won't.
If a child thinks that doing anything to please “others” is okay.... they will.
If a child thinks that getting others to do foolish things is okay.... they will.
And as long as they think that way, you can't bribe, scare,
or punish them enough to keep it from happening.
Adult Belief
90
80 Hunt
70
60 "Normal"
50
40 Sub
30 Abuse
20 Control
10
0
3(5&4) 3(3)
Childhood Belief
Adult Belief
20 Control
10
0
2(5&4) 2(3)
POTENTIAL EMOTIONAL
MANIPULATOR
Childhood irrational beliefs can become
rigidly held beliefs of adulthood that confirm
their antisocial and paranoid tendencies
Childhood Belief
I must win.
Adult Belief
People will take advantage of me if I
give them the chance.
People will take advantage of me if I give
them the chance.
100
90 Hunt
80
70
Normal
60
50
Sub
40
Abuse
30
20 "Control"
10
0
1(5&4) 1(3)
Childhood Belief
Everything should go my way and I
should always get what I want
Adult Belief
Being controlled or dominated by
others is intolerable.
Being controlled or dominated by others is intolerable.
80
70 Hunt
60
"Normal"
50
40
Sub
30 Abuse
20
Control
10
0
7(5&4) 7(3)
Understanding the ‘Wolf’
A WOLF IN SHEEP’S CLOTHING
“How we think, what we believe and the attitudes we've
developed largely determine how we act.” In sheep’s Clothing
300 BC
• A mental image can trigger
Good Thinking (effective coping
cognitions) and give you the
permission to reject or control your
Not OK Emotions and to use more
effective Thumbs Up behaviors.
Using a Therapeutic Fable
to help the EM victim “sheep” and
the rest of the “flock” learn to
recognize and cope with the
Emotional Manipulating “wolves”
Therapeutic Fable
“The Collard Green Garden”
Skill Building
Role Playing
Desensitization
• Negative Peer Pressure
How did you feel/think of them? How did they feel/think of you?
REFUSAL SKILLS
What do you say? How do you say it?
PARENT (PROFESSIONAL)
NOTES
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