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12 CHOICES By David Cottrell
It is not being at the right place at the right time, or Once the choice to positively and proactively deal
being born in the right family, or having everything with the unexpected has been made, then it is
come their way. Successful people are willing to important for one to keep on moving forward, one
make choices that other people would rather not step in front of the other.
make.
Not everything that happens is a person's doing.
The twelve different choices presented by David Certain situations may be caused by external factors,
Cottrell can be grouped into three major choices: (1) and are mostly beyond a person's control. What is in
Character choices; (2) Action choices; and (3) one's hands is the way he or she will react to the
Investment choices. situation.
shot, because one will never really know until one understand why they have become enemies in the
has tried. first place.
First, one makes the choice to commit him or The old adage, "Birds of the same feather, flock
herself. Then, one invests his or her time, energy, together" and "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell
money, and everything else needed to achieve his you who you are," are both true in more ways than
or her goal. The keyword here is sacrifice. one. It is important to choose carefully the people in
one's life because they can affect a person
Individuals who are passionately committed do what immensely, whether positively or negatively.
they say they'll do; they walk the talk. They see
themselves achieve their goals, because not only do Just as one should give much thought in choosing his
they just sit down and make plans; but they actually or her friends, it is just as important to choose one's
go about their plans. They do not make grand enemies carefully, because just like the former, a bad
promises and deliver things half-baked. Though choice can be devastatingly crucial to one's success
failure is not in their vocabulary, they are not hard on or failure.
themselves when they fall short; rather, they use
these as stepping stones to make themselves better
individuals that make better choices.
There are three things that one can do in order to Everyone has enemies. And the more
make the commitment choice:
! Stay the course. successful a person becomes, the more
! Surround one's self with people who are
equally passionately committed. enemies he or she will have.
! Clarify one's commitment.
Chapter 3: The Values Choice There are three things that one can do in order to
Everyone has enemies. And the more successful a make the values choice:
person becomes, the more enemies he or she will ! Surround one's self with people of similar
have. And these enemies are in a person's life for values.
whatever reason imaginable. ! Take the time to identify one's enemies and
understand why.
As Abraham Lincoln once said, "You can please all ! Understand that one cannot please all the
of the people some of the time and some of the people all the time.
people all of the time, but you cannot please all the
people all the time."
When enemies come into a person's life, the more Chapter 4: The Integrity Choice
logical and more productive choice is to welcome
them, because they are actually offshoots of Honesty, integrity, and trust are three characteristics
success. This does not mean that one should connected with one another. People of integrity gain
create enemies, because they will surface on their other people's trust.
own. And because you cannot please everyone,
Choosing to be a person of integrity has got to be one
then it is important to choose which individuals you
of the most difficult choices a person will ever have to
are and are not going to please.
make. More than just doing the right thing, doing the
In order to successfully deal with one's enemies, it is right thing when no one else is watching is much more
first important to identify these people and challenging.
Integrity is not something that one can practice in from other factors, books are what shape an
moderation, or only with a select group of people. It individuals philosophies and values. The knowledge
is something that an individual either possess or that one can learn from other people is endless. It is
does not have at all. More than anything else, the through this unending learning process that one will
presenceor in some cases, lack ofintegrity reveals achieve more success.
an individual's true character.
There are three different kinds of people: (1) those
The integrity choice is one of the most important who make something happen; (2) those who watch
choices a person will ever have to make in his or her things happen; and (3) those who wonder what
lifetime, as this will determine each and every happened. Obviously, successful people belong in
action, including the roads to his or her long-term the first category. These people don't allow life to just
successes. happen in front of them; they take control.
One's integrity will be put to the test in more ways Regardless of one's status, it is important to hone an
than one. And it is important to be able to pass this individual's communication skills, because one can
test with flying colors, as people will never forget never be truly successful if he or she cannot get his or
such mistakes. her point across. Whether it's speaking in front of a
group, or writing a simple e-mail, or effective listening,
communication is a key factor to success.
In order to successfully deal with one's Fear is something that we learn throughout the years.
Notice how younger individuals, particularly children,
enemies, it is first important to identify seem to not have the notion of fear in their minds.
these people and understand why they With this lack of such a concept, they are able to do
more things, or even just think of being able to do
have become enemies in the first place. them. What is important is going past one's fears and
keep on moving forward. Mistakes and failures will
always be part of life; no one is spared. People who
are on the road to success will go past these
There are three things that one can do in order to roadblocks and keep on moving on, until they have
make the integrity choice: (1) Guard one's integrity reached their goal.
as though it is the most important possession; (2)
Realize that there are no "time outs" with one's Just as a person has made the choice to become
integrity; and (3) Do the right thing. successful, it is actually just as important to look
successful. Individuals who have made it to the top
are those that are worthy of much admiration and
respect.
Chapter 5: The Do-Something Choice
Now is the right time to begin on the road to success.
Deciding to do something and actually doing that It is never too late.
something are two completely different things. One
should never remain contented with the status quo. There are three things that one can do in order to
Even if the way things are have been good, there is make the do-something choice:
always room for improvement. Life will always ! Spend more time on action and less on
throw things in people's directions, but it is important thinking.
to know how to shake it all off and do something. ! Study successful people.
! Keep learning. Read every day.
There is actually a direct relationship between the
number and quality of books a person reads and the
level of success he or she attains, because aside
Chapter 6: The Persistence Choice cynical. This positivism is actually a more important
factor to success than the way a person looks or how
Success never happens overnight. The road is
much a person has achieved.
long, winding. The only way to be able to go down
this path is to persevere. Just like integrity, enthusiasm is not something that
one can just switch on or off; rather, it is a way of life. It
There are individuals who have great talents and
is important to learn how to get rid of negativism in
abilities, only for others to see them go to waste.
one's life in order to achieve the success one is
And there are those who seem like average people,
striving for.
and yet these individuals surpass the former group.
The difference between these two is their choice to The good thing is that optimism is something that can
persist, to stick it out until the end. be learned and developed. These people, more
often than not, always see opportunities in whatever
Failure will always be part of life. It is almost often
situation, and make the most out of them. This
the precedent to success. The road to success will
optimism will give one the strength that one will need
always have roadblocks and speed bumps.
in order to keep on moving toward his or her goals.
Successful people are those who persevere despite
these, overcoming these obstacles, and not
stopping until they reach their goal.
What is more important is learning from past Honesty, integrity, and trust are three
mistakes and failures in order to make more
informed and better choices. What separates characteristics connected with one
successful individuals from the others is their ability another. People of integrity gain
to turn failures into successes.
other people's trust.
There are three things that one can do in order to
make the persistence choice:
! When one reaches roadblocks, don't give up.
! Failure is a learning tool.
! If one wants to win, one has to stay in the There are three things that one can do in order to
game.
make the attitude choice:
· Consciously choose one's attitude.
· Keep one's eyes open to new opportunities.
· Be easy on one's self and on everyone else.
Chapter 7: The Attitude Choice
A person's attitude affects those around him or her,
both in a positive and negative way, and every
aspect of his or her life. It is not something that is Chapter 8: The Adversity Choice
just a reaction, an automatic response to the outside
world. In each successful person's life, being able to
overcome any kind of adversity has been a crucial
Attitude is something that is internally controlled by turning point. Just like everyone else, these people
the person. One can never completely control what experience problems that are, more often than not,
is going on around him or her, but he or she can beyond their control. However, regardless of the
choose how he or she will react in certain situations. situation, what defines successful people is their
ability to go past these adversities, attacking the
A positive attitude aids a person who is on the road problem itself and moving forward.
to success, because there is not one successful
person who has been described as negative or When a person is faced with an adversity, his or her
true character comes out. Once a person is faced is important that both people have open
with this kind of situation, there are only two choices: communication lines, are interested in how the other
to either become immobilized and stuck in self-pity, person feels, know that a relationship is more than
or overcome the adversity and move on with life. what is in it for them, and that the other person may
Adversity can either grind a person down or polish bring some negative excess baggage from previous
him or her up, depending on how he or she deals relationships.
with the circumstance.
There are five helpful steps in order to cement one's
According to Chris Novak, the author of Conquering relationships:
Adversity, they are six steps to follow in order to ! One's relationships reflect the relationship one
successfully overcome any kind of adversity that a has with his or herself.
person may encounter in his or her life: ! Everyone wants to know that they are cared
! Acknowledge what is and what is not lost. about.
! Pull one's self up and avoid the "why" trap, ! Despite busy schedules, it is important to
moving forward with positive expectations. always make time to make contact.
! Allow other people to help. ! Conflicts will occur so it is important that both
! Keep on moving forward. parties are willing to compromise.
! Do not attempt to face adversity alone. ! Practice forgiveness when the relationship is
! Celebrate with positive energy, as it will tested.
nourish one's spirit and refresh one's attitude,
giving a person enough strength to overcome There are always opportunities wherein new
his or her own obstacles. relationships can be developed. They are key
interactions in one's life and crucial to one's success.
There are three things that one can do in order to
make the adversity choice: There are three things that one can do in order to
! Realize that adversity is short-term. make the relationship choice:
! Don't panic, freeze, and stop because the ! Be willing to focus on building positive
adversity presented is perceived to be relationships.
insurmountable. ! Become a mentor for others.
! Don't waste energy on looking for someone to ! Don't travel with friends that desert at the first
blame. sign of danger.
Criticism, whether constructive or otherwise, can Just as a person has made the choice
either be a hindrance or a help. But more often than to become successful, it is actually
not, criticism helps a person grow, as long as the
individual welcomes the criticism and refuses to be just as important to look successful.
negatively affected by such feedback.
Coming face to face with reality does not necessarily Giving should always come from the heart, regardless
mean abandonment of one's dreams. On the of what a person is sharing, because this kind of
contrary, it helps a person identify the best way to go unselfish act is repaid tremendously without our
about things, helping a person learn more about him asking for it.
or herself.
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