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by Nick Notas
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What
are
the
differences
between
mee1ng
girls
at
night
vs
during
the
day?
17
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Once
you
start
mee0ng
women
ac0vely,
you
are
in
the
posi0on
of
power.
It’s
your
choice
to
pick
a
great
woman
and
you
don’t
have
to
feel
helpless.
If
she
isn’t
your
type
and
you
don’t
click,
you
can
find
someone
else.
What’s
the
likelihood
that
the
first
woman
who
comes
into
your
life
is
perfect
for
you?
Or
even
highly
compa0ble?
The
divorce
rate
is
50%
because
people
rush
into
rela0onships
that
aren’t
right.
By
having
the
op0on
to
meet
any
woman,
you
drama0cally
increase
your
chances
of
crea0ng
something
meaningful
and
fulfilling.
Trust
me,
it’s
beIer
to
be
single
than
in
an
unhealthy
rela0onship.
As
your
confidence
with
women
increases,
so
does
your
confidence
in
social
and
professional
seKngs.
The
same
skills
you
use
to
aIract
a
woman
will
benefit
you
in
presenta0ons,
networking
opportuni0es,
and
mee0ngs.
Strong
body
language,
vocal
tonality,
and
eye
contact
are
vital
to
your
career.
Even
if
you
don’t
hit
it
off
with
a
girl,
you
can
make
a
new
friend.
And
guess
what?
Women
have
female
friends
they’ll
introduce
you
to.
Also,
having
a
wingwoman
by
your
side
is
one
of
best
ways
to
meet
other
women.
By
going
out
and
being
more
social,
you’ll
find
good
company.
Approaching
an
aIrac0ve
woman
takes
courage.
You
have
to
overcome
your
fears
and
put
yourself
on
the
line.
You
get
beIer
at
listening,
being
comfortable
in
your
own
skin,
and
not
taking
rejec0on
personally.
Most
of
all,
you
learn
how
to
express
yourself
honestly
and
create
deep
connec0ons
with
people.
Mee0ng
women
is
essen0al
to
transform
from
a
“nice
guy”
to
a
real
man.
And
let
me
tell
you,
there
are
few
things
as
incredible
as
being
in
bed
with
a
gorgeous
woman.
To
get
there,
it
all
starts
with
hello.
A
girl
wants
to
be
with
a
guy
she
can
have
fun
with.
She
won’t
be
able
to
relax
and
enjoy
herself
if
you
seem
nervous,
tense,
or
just
plain
blank-‐faced.
And
if
you
don’t
smile,
you
can’t
expect
her
to
reciprocate.
Walk
down
a
busy
street.
For
every
person
coming
towards
you,
hold
eye
contact
and
smile.
You'll
no0ce
how
many
people
perk
up
and
will
return
a
warm
smile
or
greet
you.
AZer
that,
start
gree0ng
them
with
a
simple
"Hi"
while
smiling.
Again,
you'll
no0ce
how
many
people
return
the
gesture
and
how
it
encourages
your
mood
and
mo0vates
you.
This
will
help
overcome
approach
anxiety
as
well.
3. A
Clear
and
Powerful
Voice.
Slow
down
and
speak
clearly.
You
can’t
build
a
connec0on
with
a
girl
if
she’s
struggling
to
understand
what
you’re
saying.
Speak
with
purpose
—
it
draws
her
in
and
hides
any
Learn
to
project
from
your
diaphragm
(chest
voice)
and
not
from
your
throat
(head
voice).
You
will
have
a
more
resonant
and
aIrac0ve
tone
that
carries.
When
you’re
using
the
right
muscles,
your
real
voice
will
begin
to
come
through.
See
this
chart
on
diaphragma0c
breathing
and
this
ar0cle
on
vocal
projec0on
for
reference.
YouTube
has
tons
of
great
videos
on
these
subjects
as
well.
Hum
at
a
comfortable
pitch.
Move
the
pitch
slightly
lower;
pay
aIen0on
to
how
your
chest
feels.
Hum
un0l
you
can
feel
the
vibra0on
in
your
chest.
Con0nue
humming
and
try
to
increase
the
vibra0on.
Next,
move
the
pitch
slightly
higher;
pay
aIen0on
to
how
your
nose
and
mouth
feel.
Open
your
mouth.
Hum
un0l
you
feel
the
vibra0on
in
your
tongue
and
lips,
behind
and
above
your
mouth.
Con0nue
humming
and
try
to
increase
the
vibra0on
again.
Finally,
return
to
your
chest
once
more.
Repeat
the
whole
exercise,
always
ending
with
your
chest
in
order
to
develop
a
full,
luscious
sound.
SiKng
straight
or
lying
down,
put
one
hand
on
your
stomach.
Breath
in,
aIemp0ng
to
move
your
hand
out
as
far
as
possible.
Your
stomach
should
rise
while
your
chest
stays
rela0vely
s0ll.
No0ce
how
it
feels;
this
is
how
you
want
to
breathe
when
you
speak
in
order
to
use
your
en0re
lung
capacity
and
get
the
fullest,
strongest,
and
richest
sound.
As
you
progress
through
the
alphabet,
pretend
that
with
each
leIer
you
are
speaking
to
a
target
farther
and
farther
away.
By
the
0me
you
reach
the
end,
you
should
be
very
loud
and
strong.
The
only
excep0on
is
the
figure
4
posi0on
as
you
are
s0ll
taking
up
space
in
a
comfortable
fashion.
• Avoid
leaning
in
to
talk
to
women
in
loud
venues.
GeKng
too
close
too
soon
from
the
front
is
aggressive
and
distrac0ng.
Speak
louder
(from
your
diaphragm)
or
move
to
her
side
(helps
you
Golden
Rope
Relax
your
whole
body
while
standing.
Take
one
hand
and
touch
the
crown
of
your
head.
Now
imagine
you
are
pulling
yourself
up
from
a
rope
on
that
very
spot.
You
should
feel
your
body
rise
into
an
upright
stance
with
your
spine
aligned
under
your
head.
Your
shoulders
should
fall
back
naturally
while
keeping
your
chest
up.
• Supermarkets
• Coffee
shops
• Book
stores
• Clothing
stores
• Malls
• Gyms
• Public
parks
• Public
transporta0on
(buses,
trains,
taxis)
• Bars
and
clubs
• Social
events
and
hobbies
(concerts,
dances,
classes,
par0es)
• Online
(da0ng
sites,
meetup.com
groups,
social
media)
• At
school
(college
is
an
amazing
place
to
meet
people)
Now
before
you
run
up
to
the
chick
at
the
bookstore,
you
should
understand
the
concept
of
risk
vs.
reward
and
its
impact
on
mee0ng
women.
“The
principle
that
poten;al
return
rises
with
an
increase
in
risk.
Low
levels
of
uncertainty
(low
risk)
are
associated
with
low
poten;al
returns,
whereas
high
levels
of
uncertainty
(high
risk)
are
associated
with
high
poten;al
returns.
According
to
the
risk-‐return
tradeoff,
invested
money
can
render
higher
profits
only
if
it
is
subject
to
the
possibility
of
being
lost.”
(Investopedia)
In
rela0on
to
da0ng:
generally,
being
upfront
with
your
inten0ons
(high
risk)
will
increase
your
poten0al
progress
with
a
woman
but
also
increase
your
chance
of
rejec0on.
If
you
s0ck
with
small
talk
(low
risk),
Some0mes
you’ve
got
to
go
all-‐in
to
see
if
she
feels
the
same
way
about
you;
if
you’re
not
geKng
rejected,
you’re
not
taking
enough
chances.
Indirect – Asking a friendly ques0on or opinion (low risk, low reward)
“I
know
this
is
going
to
seem
completely
random,
but
I
thought
you
were
cute
and
wanted
to
introduce
myself.
I’m
Nick.”
“I
have
to
tell
you,
you
guys
look
like
you’re
having
the
most
fun
here!”
“Those
are
some
sweet
dance
moves
you
got
there
:)”
All
three
ways
to
start
conversa0on
have
their
own
advantages
and
disadvantages.
Some
may
work
beIer
depending
on
your
personality
or
the
personality
of
the
girl
you’re
talking
to.
Try
using
all
three
many
0mes
—
you’ll
start
to
see
what’s
your
forte.
Remember,
these
are
guidelines
and
not
a
script.
You
can
use
the
examples
as
a
fallback
but
you
should
always
try
to
approach
with
your
own
genuine
words.
• Listen
to
some
music
you
love
on
the
way
out
or
while
driving.
It’ll
put
you
in
a
pumped
up
and
excited
mood.
• Ask
someone
what
0me
it
is,
where
a
store
is
located,
or
for
direc0ons.
It’s
simple,
safe,
and
then
you
can
go
on
your
way.
• Play
a
game
with
a
friend
where
you
choose
a
unique
word
for
each
other.
Each
person
has
to
use
that
word
within
the
first
30
seconds
or
minute
of
speaking
with
a
girl.
• Give
your
friend
$50.
For
each
girl
you
talk
to,
he
gives
back
$10.
• Follow
the
yes
or
no
rule.
If
you
see
a
girl
and
you
think
she’s
aIrac0ve,
tell
yourself
“yes”
and
approach
her
right
away.
Start
moving
your
legs
and
don’t
give
yourself
a
second
to
get
in
your
head,
worry
about
it,
or
make
excuses.
• If
direct
approaching
is
too
scary,
start
with
a
lighter
direct
approach.
Instead
of
“Hey
I
saw
you
over
here
and
thought
you
were
cute,
I
had
to
introduce
myself.
I'm
Nick"
make
it
casual.
Try "Hey I just had to tell you I thought you looked cute." She says
• Fit
is
king.
The
most
important
rule
in
looking
stylish.
Most
guy
dress
in
clothes
that
are
way
too
loose.
This
comprehensive
fit
guide
is
amazing.
Don’t
hesitate
to
ask
sales
associates
for
advice
on
the
fly.
• Learn
your
measurements.
Any
tailor,
department
store,
or
men’s
store
will
do
it
for
free.
OZen,
when
you
buy
something
from
a
store
you
will
need
to
get
it
tailored.
A
few
dollars
can
make
you
look
like
a
million
bucks.
• Understand
color
usage.
Discover
the
right
tones
for
your
skin/
hair
and
what
colors
work
together.
Limit
your
ourit
to
no
more
than
three
primary
colors
at
once.
• Match
correctly.
Pair
your
belt
with
your
shoes
and
accessories.
Make
sure
they’re
the
same
color
and
preferably
the
same
texture
–
shiny
shoes
with
a
shiny
belt.
With
dress
pants,
match
your
socks
to
your
pants.
With
jeans,
match
your
socks
to
your
shoes.
• Do
not
mix
and
match
metals
in
accessories,
choose
either
all
silver
or
all
gold.
Please
don’t
overdo
the
bling,
one
or
two
pieces
is
usually
sufficient.
• Avoid
excessive
“peacocking”
(dressing
extravagantly).
Simple
is
always
best.
Unless
that’s
really
your
thing,
choose
one
statement
piece.
That
can
be
a
big
belt
buckle,
a
vibrant
0e,
a
fedora,
or
extra
flashy
shoes.
• Get
a
watch.
Watches
are
sexy,
but
they
have
to
be
the
right
kind.
Metal,
leather,
or
nylon
bands
with
clock
faces
are
best,
lose
the
rubber
digital
watch
unless
it’s
during
athle0c
ac0vi0es.
• Dark
wash
jeans
–
The
most
universally
flaIering
pants
a
man
can
wear.
Excellent
for
any
occasion.
Slim
and
straight
cuts
are
recommended.
Avoid
the
“over-‐distressed”
look
and
whiskering
on
the
thighs.
Fashion Resources
You’re
going
to
get
turned
down
some0mes
–
it’s
inevitable.
Even
the
best
guys
strike
out
way
more
oZen
than
they
succeed.
But
don’t
think
of
it
as
a
“rejec0on”,
you
just
weren’t
meant
to
be.
You
don’t
want
to
be
with
every
single
girl,
right?
Well
you
aren’t
going
to
click
with
everyone
either.
Rest
assured,
rejec0on
doesn’t
suck.
It’s
way
worse
in
your
head
than
it
ever
actually
is.
You
walk
away
and
in
a
couple
minutes
it’s
no
big
deal.
Plus,
there's
always
another
great
woman
wai0ng
to
be
approached
by
a
great
man
:)
What
are
the
differences
between
mee6ng
girls
at
night
vs
during
the
day?
At
a
bar,
women
are
more
protec0ve
and
take
longer
to
open
up.
They
will
also
poten0ally
reject
you
in
harsh
ways
such
as
back
turning
or
being
flat
out
rude.
This
is
aided
by
alcohol,
her
looking
her
best,
and
the
support
of
her
friends.
During
the
day,
most
girls
never
get
approached
by
guys
while
doing
their
errands.
So
when
you
introduce
yourself,
they’re
oZen
just
as
nervous
as
you
are.
You
automa0cally
seem
confident
for
having
the
guts
to
say
hi
to
her.
And
a
key
difference
is
that
if
she’s
not
interested,
99%
of
the
0me
you'll
get
a
simple
"Thanks,
I
have
to
get
going
now."
or
"Sorry,
I've
got
a
boyfriend."
The
chances
of
her
flipping
out
on
you
are
slim
to
none
unless
you're
ac0ng
like
a
dick.
Both
seKngs
are
excellent
for
mee0ng
women
-‐-‐
it’s
really
just
your
personal
preference
of
atmosphere.
Experience.
The
fear
never
completely
goes
away,
you
just
learn
to
stop
leKng
it
hold
you
back.
There's
no
magical
moment
you're
going
to
feel
“ready”,
you
just
need
to
grab
your
balls
and
go
talk
to
her.
One of my big epiphanies came while reading this Mark Twain quote:
“Twenty
years
from
now
you
will
be
more
disappointed
by
the
things
that
you
didn't
do
than
by
the
ones
you
did
do.
So
throw
off
the
bowlines.
Sail
away
from
the
safe
harbor.
Catch
the
trade
winds
in
your
sails.
Explore.
Dream.
Discover.”
I
realized
that
I’m
the
only
person
who
has
to
deal
with
the
consequences.
If
I
don't
approach,
I
lose
out.
If
I
don't
talk
to
her,
I'm
the
guy
who
will
regret
it.
I'm
the
man
who's
going
to
be
alone
instead
of
embracing
a
beau0ful
woman.
Allow
your
fears
to
conquer
you
and
you'll
never
achieve
the
life
you
want.
A
liIle
rejec0on
is
worth
a
life0me
of
happiness.
Yes,
some
girls
want
to
be
leZ
alone.
But
the
majority
of
single
women
will
jump
at
the
opportunity
for
an
awesome
guy
to
talk
to
them.
Seriously,
it’s
the
stuff
Hollywood
romances
are
made
of.
So
many
girls
light
up
when
a
guy
strikes
up
a
conversa0on
with
them.
For
the
women
who
don’t
want
to
be
approached,
they’ll
casually
let
you
know.
As
long
as
you
aren’t
being
rude,
you
have
nothing
to
worry
about.
Like
I’ve
always
said,
it’s
not
what
you
say
it’s
how
you
say
it.
In
fact,
anything
and
everything
can
work
-‐-‐
I've
done
it
and
I've
seen
it
done
by
many.
As
long
as
it's
genuine
and
you
have
a
great
aKtude
(body
language
included),
that’s
what
maIers.
If
you
find
yourself
stuck,
go
direct
(reference
examples
above).
They
work
well
and
you
will
always
have
something
to
say.
Again,
the
only
solu0on
is
experience.
You
need
to
learn
how
to
express
your
most
aIrac0ve
self
in
various
situa0ons
and
that
only
happens
with
0me
and
effort.
If
you
say
you
don't
know
how
to
begin,
it
means
you
haven't
approached
enough.
I
promise
there’s
no
pressure
to
move
forward
unless
you
want
to.
All
sessions
are
100%
confiden0al.
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Notas
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Da;ng
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