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Brian Edwards
Instructor: Malcolm Campbell
UWRT 1104
11/08/2018
The Paradox of Fulfillment: Changing Ourselves to Change the World
There are many complex issues that exist in the world today. When one problem is solved
it is as if there is an even greater one lurking in its shadow. This is something that is also
occurring in all our lives. We each aspire and have a desire for something more. This carries the
burden of having to overcome problems and learn something new about yourself. What if that
journey is the key to solving the greater problems that exist in society and the world at large?
Perhaps if we embraced the hardships and failures as much as the glory and success and faced
the adversity that comes with the lifelong journey of self-actualization, then we would
Everyone is living a different life. Their minds influenced by past experiences, present
conditions, and future endeavors. In the same manner, there are many ways to achieve self-
actualization. There have been psychological studies based around this phenomenon, one of
which dates back all the way to the 1960s done by Psychotherapist, Everett L. Shostrom and the
Institute of Therapeutic Psychology. They describe the self-actualized person as someone who
can, “tie the past and the future to the present in meaningful continuity.” Often there are people
that argue that they cannot be successful in something they are pursuing or once pursued due to
their circumstances. They believe that they were not born with the right talents or maybe they
have just failed so many times that it just seems like an exercise in futility to even try anymore. It
is very true that all of us have different lives and different ways of going about them, as I stated
earlier. However, the key is not becoming a slave to the events of the past. First and foremost,
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even those that seem to have a high aptitude naturally for their field or fields had to put in a
considerable amount of work to achieve that which they set out to achieve. The deck is stacked
against us all in different ways, and no one has reached success without deep introspection,
dreaming, and calculating. The past is meant as a reflection point and not a dwelling point.
Thinking about what can be done better instead of simply wallowing in that instance of failure
Psychiatrist, Carl Jung talks about this topic of understanding more about one’s psyche in
his book titled, “The Undiscovered Self”. He pinpoints a different terminology called self-
knowledge that states that the mind and the body behave similarly in that although it is
something that we live in and with it is something that we have very little knowledge of if the
proper research has not been done prior. What this shows is that if the proper precautions are not
taken to assess the situation at hand, people’s perspectives are often based upon a spontaneous
reaction to the things that are presented to them. That is when people begin to take on the futile
exercise of searching for answers outside of themselves instead of facing the truth about
The simple difference between people that have reached the point of self-actualization in
A writer and columnist, Pagan Kennedy, wrote an article for the New York Times
chronicling the life of novelist, William Styron and his battle with depression during a time
where there was a harsh stigma attached to such a mental illness. Styron was labeled by brain
scientist, Alice Flaherty as “the great god of depression” due to his deep level of insight into
depression. His book “Darkness Visible” became required reading in some medical schools and
inspired others to write about their experiences with depressions and other related mental issues
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in a time where people that were diagnosed with depression were seen as “pathetic and even
dangerous”. Before dying of cancer in 2006, he had one final message for everyone,
“Everyone must keep up the struggle, for it is always likely that you will win the battle
and nearly a certainty you will win the war. To all of you, sufferers and nonsufferers alike, I send
my abiding love.”
is depressed can have a high understanding of their purpose. William felt that after writing
extensively on the matter, he felt that it was his duty to take on the role as the “guru of
depression”. This shows that one’s fulfillment and ultimate contribution to the world is
dependent on the way in which they utilize their circumstances and not just their circumstances
alone. In Styron’s case, he has shown the dichotomy between succumbing to the mental and
physical ailments that come with depression and fighting to be more and give more in the face of
one’s problems.
I have suffered from much of the same issue. For a very long time I never really liked
myself. I felt hopeless, spiteful, and worst of all suicidal. I wanted more than anything to do
something impactful and inspire other people but at the same time I had given up because I
always felt that I was not good enough. Until I realized one day that doing something great and
creating an impactful legacy comes from the will to do so and not simply from being good at
something. After all, your talent will take you places your character cannot keep you. Since then,
I have made that effort everyday to be something more than I was before and inspire others to do
the same.
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So what steps should we take to reach a point of self-actualization in each of our lives?
This of course is not going to concern itself with specific career paths or aspirations. Rather, it is
about the basic principles and behaviors that can be used as a guide for the actions that one takes
The first thing would be to embrace the serendipity that life offers.
Life is essentially random. However, this is to our advantage. That means that all it takes
is one moment, one person, one idea to change the course of your entire life. There is a story told
in the self-improvement book, “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill that talks about how a
mining company had sold off all their equipment for a few hundred dollars after tirelessly
working to mine for gold during the gold rush. The person that purchased the equipment got a
mining engineer to do some research and found out that the only problem was that the owners
were unfamiliar with fault lines and that just mining three feet from where they stopped would
open the vein of gold. This is a common problem that stems from a person’s lack of trust in the
serendipitous nature of the world and even more so, a lack of belief in the thing that they are
doing.
As the book explains, too often people quit due to being “overtaken by temporary
defeat”. Truly believing in what you are doing is what prevents that. I have come to realize in my
own life and other people’s lives, that quitting shows that you never really bought into the idea in
the first place. Again, pointing back to the importance of mindset and perspective. Those that
understand their mission, do not have the ubiquitous, “believe it when I see it” mentality. It goes
beyond confidence, and into the realm of simply understanding the law. Just as not feeling the
earth’s rotation is not enough evidence to say that it is not happening, the absence of
overwhelmingly vast changes and improvements is not enough to say that improvements are not
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being made. Those with a goal that satisfies their long-term fulfillment are always able to see this
progress from even the most minute of occurrences. They also are aware of another important
Know your opportunities. Don’t shy away from them. It is important to not let the fear
and self-doubt blur your situational awareness. I never wanted to accept offers from others
mainly because I felt that I was not worth it. However, I learned later that the biggest mistake
that you can make is feeling like you are not worth it. You should always grab hold of the
opportunities that align with your goal, especially when someone is willing to take a chance on
you. The more you actively try to better yourself and others through your goals, the more you
realize that people do not always need the best. Sometimes they might not even want that. They
just need someone that is willing to help and learn and be better than before. If you reject
opportunities because you think you “are not ready” then you will never be ready.
Enjoy the process of strengthening yourself. Clinical Psychologist and Professor at the
University of Toronto, Jordan Peterson, uses sports as an example of something that clearly
represents the one thing that we all crave in an interview with Lewis Howes on the School of
Greatness Podcast. He says that the popularity of sports stems from its dramatization of the “idea
of aim” and on top of that “the pursuit of excellence in pursuit of that aim”. In other words, it is
common sense to know that if you do not have something you need, your job at that moment is
to get it in whatever way you deem possible. That same thinking should be applied to your goals
and the knowledge necessary to achieve them. Therefore, in order to be skilled and
the process of being woefully ignorant first. Moreover, knowing that that condition is one that
exemplified. Because this suffering can be justified, as you come out the other end as someone
with newfound knowledge and integrity. Ready to bear the burden of the next challenge that
awaits you. I still have many experiences left in my life. And as a result, have many failures and
pitfalls left as well and they still hurt in spite of my anticipation of them. But, in the end I know
that as long as I stay true to my mission of helping others see the good in themselves, my
suffering is worthwhile. It is as Jordan Peterson says, “…it’s not naive optimism. It’s a very
different thing…things aren’t terrible: they’re brutal, and you are so damn tough you can’t
believe it.”
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Works Cited
Hill, Napoleon, Think and Grow Rich the Complete Classic Text, Tarcher/Penguin deluxe
edition, 2008
Howes, Lewis, Responsibility and Meaning, School of Greatness Podcast, Jordan Peterson 8
Jung, Carl, The Undiscovered Self, Little, Brown and Company, 1957
Kennedy, Pagan, The Great God of Depression, 3 Aug 2018. New York Times,
www.nytimes.com/2018/08/03/opinion/sunday/depression-william-styron.html,
Shostrom, L., Everett, An Inventory for the Measurement of Self-Actualization, Education and