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Pre-opener pour la mettre dans un mode social => Qualification => Instant date => #numclose
Indirect
Pre-opener + teasing -> opener -> qualification (attract) -> Instant date -> rapport -> TB
Direct
Opener -> qualification (attract) -> instant date -> rapport -> TB
Peut être fair en 30 secondes
Qualification
• Qualification = compliment
• Devrait être sur un intérêt légitime que tu as pour elle
• Conduit à une instant date
• Exemple :
o Qui es-tu et qu’est-ce qui te différencie des autres nanas ?
Instant Date
• Une Instant date, c’est simplement aller dans un autre endroit avec elle
• Le mouvement est le test ultime d’attraction
• Cela crées une dynamique ‘on est ensemble ‘ au lieu de ‘on vient juste de se rencontrer
• Conduit au #close et TB
• Exemples
o " J’ai vraiment envie d’aller prendre une bouteille d’eau à la boulangerie !
Teasing
• Playful
• Banter, witty
• Préliminaires Verbals
• Surnoms
• Il y a des frames à l’intérieure
• Conduit aux jeux de rôles
Frames
• C’est le sens sous-jacent de l’intéraction.
• Contrôler activement la frame : tu fais quelque chose
• Contrôler passivement la frame : les choses arrivent sans que personne ne fasse quoi que ce soit
Jeu de rôle
• Etablit des rôles qui sont fun et avec lesquelles tu peux délirer
• Permet de prendre la distance et de l’objectivité de la situation actuelle
• CF sex and the city
• Exemples
o Assistante personnelle
o Past Adventures Projection
o Future Adventures Projection
Challenges
Openers
• Utiliser après les questions socials et le teasing pour commencer une conversation intéressante
• Le but d’un opener est juste de lancer une conversation
• Peut être un opener d’opinion, ou un opener d’observation, ou un opener direct.
• Il y a une échelle de risque/récompense
Opinion Openers
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• Faible sur une échelle des risques et des recompenses.
• 1 : la question
• 2 : la réponse
• 3 : « La raison pour laquelle tu lui poses la question (grounding)
• 4 : note humoristique (tease sur sa réponse)
• Exemples:
o Combien de temps tu prends pour te préparer ?
Observational Openers
Direct Openers
Indirect Openers
• Pas forcément intéressé par son avis, juste l’avis des femmes
• Plyful, marrant, social, fun
• Prend plus de temps que l’approche direct
• Exemples
o Opinion openers
o Observational openers
Qualification
Hoop Theory
• 3 niveaux de questions pour la qualification
• Small hoops, medium hoops, large hoops
Small Hoops
• Small hoops sont des stéréotypes féminins positifs pour lesquelles toutes les femmes diraient oui.
• Ce sont des questions dont la réponse est souvent oui ou non
• De petites choses qui créent du momuntum
• Exemples :
o Es-tu aventurière ?
o Je pari que tu es aventurière.
Medium Hoops
• Medium hoops ne sont pas des questions don’t la réponse peut être oui ou non
• Il y a une chance qu’elle te donne une réponse à la con
• Elle doit penser à la réponse( montre de l’investissement)
• Exemples :
o "What do you like to do for fun?"
o "What do you want to be when you grow up?" ,
o "What are you passionate about?"
o "What do you do when you're not out here hitting on guys in the street?"
Large Hoops
• 2 small hoops plus 2 medium hoops = 1large hoop
• La fait se qualifier ouvertement
• Elle sait qu’elle doit se qualifier pour que l’interaction continue
• Exemples :
o "What do you have going for you more than your looks?"
o "What's your best quality?" "Why are you special?"
Cold Reads
Warm Reads
• Warm reading is when the girl is giving you some clues to what's happening
• Stripper warm read: "Fractured sexual identity." ,
• Consult horoscopes, tarot cards and psychics for more examples of warm r eads
Grounding
• Grounding demonstrates who you are as a person-and where that came from.
Explains why you're acting the way you act an8why you're talking about what you're talking about
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• Examples:
• "I'm a writer so I'm arrogant enough to believe that everyone should listen to me."
• "I grew up with three sisters so I've seen how guys mess up all the time, and I understand how women process
information different from men."
Storytelling
• Storytelling is unavoidable
Notes:
• The ending of your story is the most important part. Don't leave them asking "What happened next?"
• The content of the story should be detailed and should use language that is emotional, not logical
(sensory words, feeling words)
• Good characters make a good story even when there's no plot
• Create unanswered questions. This way you won't be bragging when you answer them.
• Use transitions to get into your story (no tranSition, phrasal transition, observation transition)
• Check in to make sure the girl is still interested and is paying attention: "You've been there, right?"
Instant Dates
• Instant dates shift the dynamic into an "us" situation instead of a "we just met" dynamic.
• Get to the instant date ASAP.
• Practice cooling off from nighttime approaches.
• Set aschedule, stick to it, and reward yourself or discipline yourself.
• Pick appropriate locations: bookstores, coffee shops, malls all have built-in instant Date locations
• Good instant dates are close by and safe. DO NOT ask her to get
Setting up date
Phone Game
• Phone game can make or break you
Notes:
• Seated sets
a• o "I'm going to get another cup. Can you watch my stuff and beat up anybody who tries to
steal itT
b• o Cell phone opener, wait for her to eavesdrop
c• o Opinion or observational opener while seated near her. After a few back and forths, join
her at her table.
• Walking/Waiting sets
Notes:
o Sit in the flow of traffic and ask for a girl's opinion loudly. Push the chair near you
out to the girl in question so she feels pressure to sit down.
• Gym game uses either the slow track or the fast track
• The slow track is when you go to the gym at the same time, see the same people, slowly
build rapport with them and then go for the date
• The fast track is when you pick up a girl at the gym the first time you see her
• Because everyone is exercising, you'll be talking in short bursts and for shorter times over
a long period of time
The Gym: Slow Track
• Make sure the girl is by the equipment, not the free weights or cardio
• Pre-opener: "Hey, can I work inT
• Teasing, changing weights to heavier for her
• Conversation and rapport leads to getting the number and setting the date
Location: Malls
• Three types of sets: In store, seated, walking and working
• Best time: 5:00pm to 7:00pm on Wednesdays and all day on the weekends
• Built in instant date at the food court.
• In store sets: "I have to buy something for my sister and I like your style.
• What should I get her?"
• Seated sets: Cell phone opener, direct opener
• Walking sets: Go direct and try for the instant date
• Working dates: Get her from work mode into talk mode