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3 Daily Affirmations For “Bullet Proof” Inner Game
Friday, July 12, 2013 1

Welcome
• Hi, I’m Chris Andersen “Sixty” and welcome
to The Magic Mindsets Program
• It’s not what a guy who’s good with women
is “doing” it’s what he’s “thinking”
• His beliefs about 3 things: sex, deservedness
and rejection (3 daily affirmations)
• You’re going to discover the 3 magic
mindsets that make the best players so
successful with women (take good notes)
magic mindset 1
You Don’t Want To Get
Laid

Sexual Mood
• The easiest way to get women is to get into
a sexual mood. When you feel aroused
inside you will transfer some of those
feelings to the woman you’re talking with.
It’s like when you see someone yawn. Like
clockwork a few seconds later you will
yawn too (even if you’re not tired)
• Sounds easy? Well getting into this sexual
mood can be difficult if you don’t have the
right mindset. This is what we will learn.
Use Arousal Not
Alcohol
• It’s funny because most guys use alcohol to

aid them, but it’s actually “arousal” that
helps you get women and gives you
confidence to make a move (not drinking)

You Don’t Want To
Bang Her
• Conflict: Need 1 (sex) vs Need 2 (affection)
• When you look at her from a distance (I’d
bang her) you are horny. But once you go
and talk face to face you seek female
validation and affection. You want her to
like you.
• At first I was so excited and fantasized
sleeping with her (need 1) then over time I
wasn’t into jerking it to my 1itis (need 2)
You Won’t Die
• You won’t DIE if you don’t get laid. Seduction
advice & PUA has never been about getting
laid (validation and making women like you)
• Losing my virginity was more about validation
than sexual pleasure (I was masturbating for
years and I was fine). It’s fun, easier, faster
• You don’t HAVE to get laid. you can still enjoy
female affection, friendship and validation but
it won’t last (the guy she’s sleeping with)
Trick Yourself
• But sex IS the portal you need to go through
to get what you really want which is female
affection (hugs, kisses, snuggling), friendship,
validation and spending time together
• Trick Yourself: you are NOT a sex guy, but you
can’t get what you want without having it
• You’re not trying to have sex to be cool, or
rack up numbers you do it because it forms a
bond that makes her want to be with you
(affection, Girlfriend)
You Don’t Want Sex
• Bars, clubs are “social” environments – you
are not used to feeling aroused there.You’re
too worried about being judged by others
(instead you seek validation)
• Getting aroused is usually alone at your
house watching porn, not in public (bars)
• the more relaxed you are the more aroused
you will be and the more stressed you get
the less sexual you feel (sexy in public)
Women Love Pleasure
• mindset: women love sex. women love
pleasure. A lot of women are under sexed
(and you can help them)
• have to remind yourself everyday (make a
note) not just once (the sky is green)
• amateur homemade videos (not just porn)
• get a visual reminder: “romance” novels:
read 50 shades of grey and keep it on your
nightstand
Women Want Sex
• It’s very hard to come to terms and admit
the freaky stuff you want to do to women
so you hide it (not just missionary sex)
• some guys have a problem accepting
affection from women in they think they
are sexual (fantasy of purity)
• Some players have no problem with the sex
part because they’ve been hurt by affection
(not a healthy mindset either)
Be Comfortable With
Tension
• If you’re not comfortable and break sexual
tension (talking, laughing, looking away) it
communicates to women that you’re not
comfortable with sex (obviously a turn off)
• The equivalent of cracking a joke on the
playground about sex because you’re 12 yo
• If you are comfortable with sexual tension and
can hold it she will assume you are experienced
and good with women (and in bed)
Connection Is
Everything
• To women “connection” (fate, energy, vibe) is
way more important than you being good with
women or been with a lot of women
• Yes, it’s sexual tension but when done right
women interpret this feeling as you guys have
a “connection” and were destined to meet
• women fantasize about meting a guy and
having a fast connection (not months of logic)
• It’s fast escalation not aggressive escalation
Avoiding Player Vibe
• avoiding the player vibe (being too slick and
polished with your words).Yes, being cocky
is attractive but it’s not romantic
• if you use really good verbal game and
pickup routines most women will think
you’re just a player (she won’t feel special)
• Your non-verbal vibe should be “sexual” but
your verbals should be “genuine & humble”

Sexual & Romantic
Balance
• On the non-verbal level women want the
connection to be sexual but on the surface they
want the manifestation of that connection to
look “romantic” to the public
• That’s why sexual hookup books like 50 shades
of grey are called “romance novels”
• romance is having sexual feelings that are
displayed romantically as flowers, being a
gentleman, caressing etc.
Sexual & Romantic
• The NICE GUY fails because he does her
favors, compliments her and buys things but
has no sexual vibe
• The player fails because he is too slick,
cocky and lacks connection with her
• You need to balance the sex and romance
• Nice guys with a “sexual edge” are the
most dangerous players in the world
Sexual/Romantic Tactics
SEXUAL ROMANTIC
bedroom eyes loving glances
listening
get closer to her
(mysterious)
sexual vibe holding hands
sexual tension caressing
fast escalation genuine/humble
get caught never break
checking her out rapport
reveal sexual
be a gentleman
intent
Tight Non-Verbals
• If you try to create the sexual vibe with
words you can be rejected or resisted
(even if she likes you).
• And when you try to create a connection
with her “by talking” it’s never as strong as
a non-verbal connection (the way her
looked at me, the energy, the vibe)
• Girls fantasize about having a non-verbal
connection with a guy versus common
interests, agreeing on everything
Mindset #1 Review
• You have to “trick yourself” to want to get
laid slightly more than you want validation
and affection (this way you can get that
affection from girls)
• You have to truly believe women love sex
and need pleasure (and you can assist them)
• Strike the right balance between being
sexual & romantic (creating a connection
and don’t come off as a player)
magic mindset 2
You Deserve Her

Deservedness
• We talked about how you being “turned

on” and putting out a sexual vibe is the
easiest way to attract women
• But what’s stopping you from getting into
that “headspace”?
• Why can’t guys make the switch from being
social to being seductive?

Deservedness
• Not every girl will be attracted to you, but
you have to believe you DESERVE every
girl, so if a hot girl is attracted you won’t be
surprised (and sabotage yourself)
• Never “try” to create attraction, if you
think like that you automatically lose. The “I
am enough” mindset is very attractive to
women.
• Do less, don’t try as hard or talk too much
Deservedness
• In the first 3 seconds you believe you
COULD seduce her. You will get into
“pounce mode” instead of using gimmicks
• Mindset: why “escalation is attractive” to
women (not relying on her)
• Less is More: the less you say and do the
better it works. Do just enough and she’ll
feel like she has to work for your attention

Do The Bare Minimum
• approach her humble, genuine

• be seductive
• grab her hand
• let’s go somewhere where we can talk (it’s
quieter)

Deservedness
• Deservedness & Drive: when a girl likes you
or you think you can get her you get
horny, but if you don’t feel like you deserve
her you are not aroused (seek validation)
• If you don’t believe you deserve her you
will “break rapport” and pretend to be
disinterested because you don’t want to get
hurt (nothing wrong with a bit aloof but
still nice and engaging)
• Appreciate her and let her turn you on
Looks
• The number 1 thing holding most guys

back from feeling “deserving” of beautiful
women is their beliefs about LOOKS
• Your looks and also HER looks

Your Looks
• Sexual Tension (feeling of connection) is

more important than looks. Good looking
guys make her feel butterflies at first but
then blow it (make her too comfortable).
• If she feels that tension she will assume you
have a connection and she will consider you
“good looking”

Your Looks
• A woman might date an ugly guy but she

will never date a guy without confidence
• Obviously looks matter to an extent but
you’re going to get way more girls if you’re
ugly and are comfortable in your skin
(confident) versus if you let looks define
your worth

Your Looks
• Of course women prefer good looking guys
but there will always be exceptions - do you
want to whine about it or be the exception
• Being short (I only date guys 6’)
• Don’t be a hater or complainer (they want
you to hate) indifferent is the way to go or
they win

Your Looks
• You are better looking when being

seductive (bedroom eyes, closed lips,
mysterious) versus being social (wide eyes,
goofy smile, talking a lot)
• Go to a mirror and try this for yourself
• Get looks momentum - new haircut, dentist

Face Contact
• The secret to be considered good looking
you have to be comfortable with your
looks (especially a girl looking at your face)
• The Handsome Mirror Technique:
Confidence (good looks) means you can
hold her gaze without looking away and be
comfortable letting her check you out your
face (face off = you’re cute)
• Seductive but relaxed face contact
Her Looks
• There’s no secret tricks for getting hot
girls.You still do the same seductive tactics.
• She’s had a boyfriend or had sex with a guy
that looks like you or is uglier than you
• No girl is HOT. Don’t let labels (model) or
rankings (perfect10) intimidate you
• It’s not her looks, it’s how much she turns
you on that matters

She is Gross
• Face Off: Are you really going to let a face
intimidate you (and make you feel
undeserving). Hot bodies make you
aroused, beautiful faces make you nervous
(butter face with nice body)
• It’s all just a fantasy. Women wear a lot of
makeup, usually not as hot as you might
think when you get close (study hers)
• Human beings are gross. It’s all just an
illusion, a fantasy and that’s fine (it works)
Deservedness Review
• You won’t get every girl but you do
deserve every girl
• When you feel you deserve her you will
automatically “assume attraction” and act
seductive around her (not use gimmicks)
• Being considered good looking is about
being comfortable with your looks (your
face) and being looked at (hold face)

magic mindset 3
REJECTION ISN’T
REAL

Real Fear (Rejection)
• We all make mistakes and get rejected at

first, so might as well start now versus
wasting years of your life (real estate lingo)
• Fear of rejection is a “bottleneck” to getting
on with your life (weighs you down), leads
to procrastination in other areas
• we know what to do (approach, be
attractive, escalate etc. but we don’t, why?)
Avoidance Feels Worse
• While you did your best to protect yourself from
rejection, you actually feel worse than if 10 women
told you to F-off and die. What ‘s going on?
• Truth is you can’t hide from yourself. Even if nobody
sees you get rejected, you still know you were scared
to approach women. And that’s all it takes for that
negative voice in your head to start beating you up.
• And we can be much tougher on ourselves than any
woman could be so you might as well go for it.
The Rejection Buzz
• It may sound crazy, but a small dose of rejection
actually feels pretty good.You get a little buzz like you
just got off a thrill ride. That’s because even when you
fail your inner game gets a boost just for trying.
• Have you ever got your ass kicked then got home and
for some strange reason felt like a champ.Yep, your
brain was rewarding you for standing up for yourself.
• Remember, rejection can hurt, but it also rewards
you. Avoiding things just hurts you
Regret is the Enemy
(not rejection)
• I really liked this girl at work and I could tell she was
into me as well. There was lots of flirting and we hung
out a few times outside the office. But I never made a
move. I was scared of REJECTION.
• 5 years later and I still think about her and what
happened. But it’s no longer fear of rejection, it’s
REGRET. Because I did nothing I’m still effected
• Lesson: Regret is much worse than rejection.
Rejection is a few days at most. Regret is a few years
at least. Make a move, you will never regret it
Real Fear (Rejection)
• Social Rejection: (men or women) we don’t

want to meet or talk to you. go away!
• Seductive Rejection: fear she will think
you’re creepy (ewe) or likes your friend
better (subtle but it hurts)
• Escalation Rejection: you try to grab her
hand/kiss and she pulls away. biggest fear is
that you misread her signals (embarrassed)
The Scary Truth
• You can still be scared of rejection even after
it’s obvious she likes you (kissing, caressing)
• The fear actually gets worse because now you
are scared of 2 things: rejection AND also
scared of losing something (her)
• Why guys don’t close the deal.You’d rather
stop here and leave a winner than try for the
grand prize (sex, a girlfriend)
• It Always Ends Bad (eventually)
Sexual Shame
• Revealing that your interest in her is sexual
1. Fear she’ll think you’re a PERVERT or get
offended for asking her to come home with
you (The Text Story) - just ask home
2. Fear she will say NO. Fear she will say YES
(walk the walk - you’ll have to perform in bed)
3. Feel GUILT for wanting her for sex (NPR: I
knew you just wanted me for my body)

Not Sex Worthy
• Alone with her and she shoots down all
your advances (even boyfriends fear this)
• Every physical rejection says you’re not “sex
worthy” makes you feel like less of a man
• Feel that your genes will be weeded out of
existence (and die off)
• Worse: it takes persistence to close the
deal, you have to lead and try a few times
Sexual Solutions
• Don’t apologize for sexual desires but don’t be
all militant about it either (matrix boy)
• Don’t be cocky. Communicate sexual interest
in a genuine way “I admit I want to spend some
alone time with you - I like you”
• Don’t wait until end of the night to reveal your
sexual interest (you want time to change her
mood). Nightlife is like life - ends sooner think
• Make statement of humble sexual intent, don’t
ask it as question (?) “let’s go watch a movie”
Sexual Solutions
• It’s not about it working, it’s about getting your
sexual intent out there (you win either way)
• Why you should always ask her to come inside
after the 1st date (sets you up for date #2)
• It’s not about fast sex: It’s fine to go on 3
dates, but you want to reveal your sexual
intent fast & gage her reaction (upset, we’ll see)
• It’s not all or nothing if she says NO...you can
ask/try again as long as you’re not needy
Sexual Solutions
• Build comfort: We’re both adults we’ll do
whatever we are comfortable with
• Alone with a woman “resist yourself” first (like
your fighting against the tension) bite your lip,
breathe heavy and pull back, tease a bit
• The “don’t touch me” story
• Get the NO out of the way so you can get a
YES on the 2nd try
• Secret groups, trendy clubs
Rejection Isn’t Real
• Rejection isn’t real if you don’t react (pout)
when it happens.
• Don’t be bitter or hold a grudge. This
allows you to be persistent (try again)
without coming across needy
• It’s not black and white (rejection or not
rejection) most times just by doing
something you win and set yourself up for
success (a YES) down the line
The 5 Fears Review
1. being rejected by the social tribe (HS)
2. called creepy, obvious that she doesn’t like
you (likes your friend)
3. misread her signals (embarrassment)
4. shame/guilt:/perform revealing your sexual
interest
5. sexual rejection: not “sex worthy” (you
have bad genes)
The FEAR Magic MINDSET
aloof, slightly skeptical

approach: social rejection
approach
attraction: seductive rejection risk creepy
bold move: misreading the trust your instincts

signals (don’t pout on 1st try)
it’s not about it working,

revealing sexual interest
become that sexual guy
closing: sexual escalation resist yourself

3 Mindsets Review
• remind yourself everyday that women love
sex, are under-sexed and you hooking up
with women equals getting affection
• cultivate the deservedness mindset and
remember that “you are enough” “less is
more” and escalation is attractive
• remember rejection isn’t real and most
times just by doing something (no matter
what happens) you win with women
Next Steps
• Go over this material once a week for the

next month at least until it’s second nature
• Most Important: Go out and put these 3
mindsets into practice starting tonight
• I know you’ll do great, send me your success
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• We talked about how you being “turned

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• approach her humble, genuine

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• The number 1 thing holding most guys

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• Sexual Tension (feeling of connection) is

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• A woman might date an ugly guy but she

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• You are better looking when being

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• We all make mistakes and get rejected at

• Social Rejection: (men or women) we don’t

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aloof, slightly skeptical

attraction: seductive rejection risk creepy

bold move: misreading the trust your instincts

it’s not about it working,

closing: sexual escalation resist yourself

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• Go over this material once a week for the

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