internal change has to do with awareness: you need to "put you mind in your feet".

Basically, what ever anxiety you have you can feel somewhere in your body (tight
throat?). If you concentrate on it as something independent of what ever judgmental
emotion it is connected to then it will go away. Putting your mind in your feet
basically means be aware of the sensations around you and don't concentrate on
predicting what's going to happen: just roll with it.

Life style: basically don't be boring. Find some things to be passionate about and
own them. The guy in the video teaches pick up, does some martial arts stuff,
massage therapy, plays an instrument. I enjoy philosophy regarding morality and
human nature, programming, women, dungeons and dragons, etc. And what ever you do
own it.

Seduction: Here he talked about what to say and how to navigate tension. If
something is awkward, you can call it out to release the tension. He gave a frame
work for talking with them: Ask a question, challenge the answer(build tension),
reward(release tension). So you ask something like "oh, who are you?" and then she
says something like "I'm am california's best chef" then you say "Oh really? what
makes you the best?" then she says "[what ever]" and then you say "oh that's really
awesome". repeat. Also feel free to let her question you.

also you need to be asking yourself questions like "what kinda people do I want to
be around" etc.

Dr. Paul Dobransky's lecture on managing stress

"Most of the problems of the world that involve human behavior are caused by a lack
of knowledge about personal boundaries. .. all domestic violence, bullying,
wars...." ( the boundary is very complex, but its basic psychological function is
that enables us to keep good stuff in and bad stuff out by the