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Discussion
This section focuses on the consultation and comparison of different researches to the major
results of the study tat have been identified. The literature review shed lit on various
assumptions, ideas, themes and theoretical background. As described in chapter four, analysis
illuminated the six themes. So, on the basis of those themes in general and the analysis in
Single Mother - Children Relationship: The results indicated that even in the presence of
immense financial issues and poverty the relationship between the children and their single
mother was very good. They were very close and shared every little tin with each other. The
mother said that her daughter and son are just like her friends. But the strain or tension existed in
their relationship due to the check and balance and some strict patterns made by the mother in
order to control her children. She didn’t allow her child activities for example wen her son
wanted to go to turkey wit is friends just for fun, she didn’t allow him. Moreover, she forbids her
daughter to spend excessive money on makeup products that are very expensive. So, this creates
disturbance in their relationship. Other tan tat , most of the time her children are out and come
home very late. So time poverty existed. When her children come from their universities they
spend the rest of time doing the assignments and preparation of quizzes. Her son likes to go to
the gym. So, the little time that is spared, is spent over there. She said that a sense of loneliness
overcomes her and in order to get over it, se offers prayers and recites Quran. Besides that, she
says that she needs tem (her son and daughter) to give her attention. Even though they are very
close, but there are certain things that se doesn’t accept. There are some habits of her son and
daughter which are intolerable for her. One example is her son’s choice of girlfriends. Se hated
all of them and wanted her son to be a little mature and choose wisely. Now if they spent plenty
of time together, this issue can be resolved. The result also showed that children support their
mother in income generating activities; this facilitates good relationship between the children and
the single mother. In the study, the mother also pointed out positive aspects of children living
with her such as; relief from stress, absence of conflict and tension, stability and emotional
security, freedom from violence, having closer family bonds. And this finding leads many to
believe that the loss of the father has less impact on the relationship that the children have with
Economic Problem of single mother headed families: the results of this study also indicated that
the main and most complicated stressor for the single mother family is financial problems.
Maintaining the previous standard of living, it became difficult for the mother to meet various
needs especially after the payment of fees. Since her children go to very high-end universities
and expenses of her daughters degree and assignments (Buying paints, fabrics, and other art
supplies) are also very high, so this becomes a cause of worry for the mother. Garfinkel &
McLanahan( 1986) explained that mother-only families are more likely to be poor because of the
Psychosocial challenges: Loneliness, helplessness, lack of hope and confidence was felt by the
single mother and se even believed that most of these problems occur are due to the lack of
financial assistance, worries associated with children and their future and economic hardships. A
mass of research reports that most of the single headed families are exposed to higher rates of
stress and depression. There are more stressful life conditions and a vicarious cycle of ongoing
strain followed by low income. Conger and Chao (1996) also noted that economic pressure, on
the other hand, has a direct effect on the psychological well-being of mothers, and probably
indirectly effects children’s psychological well-being by lowering the psychological wellbeing of
their mother.
Mother’s Role in Children Education: according to the study, the mother belongs to a low
educational background but still is very concerned about the education of her children. In fact,
the main purpose of not going for second marriage was the future of her children. She wants a
very bright future for her children that’s why she is facing financial challenges. Most of the
money is spent on the academic fees of her children and after that, she faces other economic
challenges. She reported if fees could be excluded; there would be no financial issue. Participant
single mother’s low educational status also constrained the support she could provide in assisting
her children do homework and other academic activities. However, this challenge can also be
true for intact families with low educational status as reported in Astone & McLanahan (1994).
Children’s Future: the mother wised her children to be self-dependent, well determined,
independent, highly educated and secure and treat her exactly like she treats them. She expects
really good from her children because she says she deserves the same. Moreover, she wants her
children to be in healthy relationships and make right choices so that they don’t suffer like she
did.
Support Systems for the mother: according to the mother, the emotional support is provided by
her sisters and brothers and other family members. She says that her sisters are her best friends
and they are her support system. They discuss everything with each other and provide social and
emotional support. On the other hand, the financial support is provided by her brothers. She
continued by saying that she never asks anyone to help her financially and tries to meet all the
Conclusion and Implication for Social Work Practice, Future Research and Policy
5.1. Conclusion
This study has explored the experiences, challenges and difficulties faced by single mothers in
raisin their children. By using interview, qualitative data were collected from a single mother,
aged 45 in Lahore. The findings indicated that the experience of single mother in raising her
children is full of challenges. Financial challenges are on top of the list. The study area is a
middle class single headed family. Besides financial challenges, time poverty was also a very
important feature of this research experienced by the participant single mother. Busy and packed
schedules of her children give rise to time poverty which in turn is found to be a main factor in
eliciting a strained relationship between the mother and children. In contrast, when children start
spending a plenty of time with their mother, a positive attitude is developed which generates a
healthy mother-child relationship. The single mother in the study also reported certain
psychological challenges which include stress and depression. She also reported the presence of
feeling lonely and hopeless sometimes at the time of payment of annual fees of her children. All
these problems were the result of financial issues. The children were supportive and according to
their mother, understand her situation completely and don’t complain, but as she has to play the
role of a father as well, and sometimes forbids her children to spend excessive amount of money,
5.2. Implications for Social Work Practice, Future Research, and Policy
The findings of this study can be implicated in the field of social work and will be useful for
policy makers, researchers and social workers. Firstly, at the national policy level, there is very
limited definition of family structure and single headed families are not even included in the
definition. This gives rise to poor recognition of family groups. Policy makers should take down
the narrow perspectives of definition and should focus on more wide standpoints. Tis research
remarkably explains the single parent family. Hence, the first implication of the research is the
need for social workers to advocate an increasing recognition of the unique features and
Secondly, we want children of single mother families to have the same economic and social
possibilities as children of the nuclear family. This may involve calling for a positive
discrimination giving priority for single mother in interventions aimed at reducing and 53
alleviating poverty. Although some NGOs are doing exactly the same, the problems and
challenges that children of single mothers are enduring through , as the study indicated , are
Thirdly, focusing entirely on the enormous psycho-social challenges faced by children of single
mothers require the social workers to give importance to this issue. The social work intervention
should assist such children to cope up with such challenges. Government and private
organizations can play an important role in this regard. The research therefore calls for
recognition of the challenges of single mothers and a coordinated action to help ease these
challenges.
A further implication of this study is to keep in mind that a claim assuming that children are
better off in two-parent families may be driven by cultural assumptions. Public policy needs to
identify and support the strengths of every type of family, particularly single-parent families. It is
important to focus less on comparing children from one-parent families with those from two-
parent families and not label single-parent families “broken homes.” At the same time, the
This research has pointed out the unique challenges of single motherhood and children of single
mothers though qualitative data. Further research can take up these findings as a starting point
and can investigate in detail the effect of single motherhood on children wellbeing though
comparative approach of life of children of single mothers and children of nuclear families.