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The Ten Paradoxes 31 PDF
The Ten Paradoxes 31 PDF
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No Mind
Relationships
631
632 transcending the “I” and experiencing unity with partners
through touching, closeness, and sexual ritual. The Ten
No Mind
501 Paradoxes helps us maintain a path of action that will
make our relationships better—for us as individuals and
Living for both partners as a couple.
No Mind
No Mind
In addition, Maslow argues that an individual can be Relationships
much healthier in his environment when he is not at-
tached: ‘Living by his inner laws that he sensed within him
rather than follow cultural pressures’ (Maslow, 1954).
Whether or not two partners have distinct lives and ca-
reers, they can be united through spiritual awareness of
unconditional love. They can discover this through the
practice of No Mind. They understand the relationship be-
tween work, play, and love, and they experience an intrin-
sic bond with one another, as well as true freedom from
one another. Their love is not based on conditions or de-
sire potentials that need to be fulfilled: “If she only did this,
I would love her more,” Unconditional love is universal
love, or god x’s love, experienced by both partners at the
same time; it is universal like a great pool of water where
they come to play, refresh, recharge, and “get wet.” The
roots of such unconditional acceptance and love are in
spiritual awareness. Partners recognize that they are spir-
itually the same and that their love is not individualized; it
is the essence of nature that manifests itself as love. Cou-
ples who share such enlightenment (in the sense of experi-
encing oneness beyond the Iill) grasp the essential love
that permeates the universe and expresses itself in the nat-
ural world. Two lovers manifest unconditional love when
they look into each other’s eyes and are no longer aware of
themselves. In losing oneself into the other, they have
“gained everything” in the total absorption of the moment.
Unconditional love is the mystical union with the infinite.
MINDFULNESS-BASED RELATIONSHIP
ENHANCEMENT
The technique of mindfulness has been scientifically
shown to enhance a couple’s relationship.