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The Ultimate Guide To Parenting in The Digital Age PDF
The Ultimate Guide To Parenting in The Digital Age PDF
children, that’s no longer the case now. In fact, these days, it is very hard to
implement that parenting style where children have to follow strict rules
established by the parents -without being explained the reasoning behind it and
when they don’t do that, we punish them. Punitive actions no longer work in
disciplining children anymore, but instead it will only do them harm for the long
run.
“To be in your
children’s
memories, you have
to be in their lives
today”
– B. Johnson
Punishment OR Explanation?
Researches had proven that punishing
children can do them harm for the
long run. In fact, you are only teaching
them that violence it is normal to use
verbal and physical abuse to resolve a
dispute when they grow up.
“Children learn more from what you are than what you teach. Be a good
reflection for them.” – K. Health
Role Model
You won’t need to marvel at walking on the runway to be a good parent, but you
certainly need to know how to walk the talk. Children’s behaviour are massively
influenced by what they perceive, especially during their early years of life. Hence, if
you want them to do it, you show it. Rather than just setting rules to limit your
children’s tech use, you need to curb your own digital habits too. You can’t expect
your child to not watch the TV, when you are constantly on your phone, scrolling
through Facebook. It’s just unfair. Instead, take some time to bring them out for a jog
or a picnic, read books with them, teach them about sympathy by bringing them to
volunteering programmes etc.
it from being violated. Ensure they
Kids and Technology know the dangers of online predators
and whatever they share online –
image, video & thoughts will instantly
become a part of their digital footprint
indefinitely. Most importantly, keep
lines of communication open and let
them know you’re there if they have
questions or concerns.
Positive Enforcement
Skinner (1938) believed that the
human brains learn to accept or ditch
an action by reasoning the reward or
punishment that is attached to that
behaviour. The premise is simple, if
you get a reward for doing something,
that behaviour is reinforced; so you do
it more. When you get a punishment
for doing something deemed wrong,
that behaviour is weakened; so you do
it less.
Truth is, you don’t have to know all your children’s syllabus to be able to help them. That is the
school’s responsibility. Instead, parents can help to instil good study habits and monitor your
child’s progress. Here are some ways parents can consider in helping your child study better.
Helping your Child Study Better
“Children
must be taught
how to think,
not what to
think”
Avoid Distractions
In this digital age, the internet is an amazing tool for studies, but also a huge
distraction to children. Take one step further and instil a ‘communication blackout’
policy by removing any usage of computers or mobile devices until schoolwork is
done. However, if they are required to use the computer for studies, parents can
install parental control software that blocks social media and entertainment sites
while they are studying.
Helping your Child Study Better Have a Study Schedule
Setting a study schedule enables consistency and efficiency in studying. This is also
to ensure you and your child are able to keep track of their progress especially when
exams are near. You can set the study schedule if your child is still young, but
otherwise, train your child to do it themselves. Let your child assign topics and
subjects to cover each day, leading up to a due date or exam. Do remember to
include a 15 to 20 minutes break in between.
Get Organised
Training your child to be organized can
start early as it is much easier to
develop good habits when they are
younger. As your child will already be
juggling between schoolwork, tests,
projects and extracurricular activities,
you can start by having them to record
their own schedule in a planner.
Although you will have their schedule,
let them keep track of their own
schedule and update you. Your child
should also have the habit to note
down all their schoolwork, projects
and to-do lists, and reviewing them at
the end of the day.
Helping your Child Study Better
“Education is not the learning of the fact, but the training of the
mind to think.” – Albert Einstein
Parents, don't misunderstand that your child is goofing around or driving you up the wall.
Every child has different learning style - Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic and they're also
finding strategies to help them learn better.
Understand your Child’s Learning Style
“65% of the
population
are visual
learner. We
need to see to
think”
VISUAL LEARNERS
Visual learners, often called spatial learners, and they learn best by
seeing. Their strength is definitely their eyesight – they will take notice of
everything they see, including the smallest detail in a poster. Visual
learners gain information from sight and they need to convert spoken
instructions into visual form by taking notes or doodling.
Understand your Child’s Learning Style Characteristics
Great spacial sense, which makes them good with map reading and a strong
sense of direction
Able to visualise and picture things in their mind
Have a good sense in dressing and colour matching
Recalls appearances with ease
Recognises body language and facial expressions
Often creative and have a good sense of orientation & planning
Notices visual details that others might miss
Good at taking notes in the form of text and doodles
Appreciates pictures and illustrations in books
Loves watching videos, films and movies
Often lose focus and fall asleep in seminars and talks where they need to
activate their auditory ability
“Teaching is
listening,
Learning is
talking”
AUDITORY LEARNERS
Auditory learners learn best by hearing. Classroom environment suits this
type of learning best and teachers often love teaching them as they’re
more obedient and easy-to-teach. Auditory learners easily comprehend,
process and retain information in school lessons and university lectures.
They are also to listen to spoken word and interpret tone with high level
of accuracy and efficiency.
Understand your Child’s Learning Style Characteristics
Good at remembering people’s names
Loves listening to music and rhymes
Remember song lyrics naturally and sing them out the next time
Enjoys listening to audio books and storytelling
Sensitive and easily distracted by sounds
Strong sense of hearing. They can hear soft conversation and sound while
they’re busy at something.
Remembers spoken information easily
Prefers classes in lecture format
Tends to record classes and lectures to hear them again
Often lose their way as they have poor sense of direction and map reading
Need to repeat what they see and often overlook their surroundings.
Prefers someone to read a story to them rather than reading it themselves
“I hear, and I
will forget.
Show me, and I
may remember.
Involve me, and
I will
understand.”
KINESTHETIC LEARNERS
A smaller group of the population, kinesthetic learners are a complex bunch and
they learn best by doing. They’ll be bouncing around, fidgeting and running around
during your classes. Teachers will always have a hard time teaching them and they
are often regarded as the naughty students in class. Kinesthetic learners often
struggle learning through traditional and sedentary textbook learning. They learn
best through physical activity, muscle movement and hands-on learning experience.
If you often hear your child saying “Let me see that.”, “Let me hold that.” or “I want
to explore everything here.”, they’re most likely to be a kinesthetic learner.
Understand your Child’s Learning Style Characteristics
Unable to sit still. They need to move around and explore the environment
Likes touching objects and people
Always curious about the surroundings
Gets bored and lose focus with traditional textbook learning
Enjoys sports and physical education
Needs to participate in everything, rather than watch others do it
Gets excited over field trips, projects or physical experiments
Gets satisfaction from creating things with their hands
Often high energy
Very sharp reflexes and respond to emergency situations quick
Starting Early
A 2013 study by Cambridge University has shown that children are ready to
learn about financial literacy from 5 to 7 years old. At this age, they’ll
eventually notice and learn their parents’ spending habit. Parents play a
pivotal role in educating your child in financial literacy and as well as being
a good role model to them. You have to set a healthy example for them and
they’ll be much more likely to follow when they are older.
Concept of Saving – Why is saving important? Why must you set aside
money for future use? Parents can start giving your kids allowance as
soon as they can count money. While children tend to save for a short
term goal to buy a new toy, it is important to teach them the
importance of long term saving as well.
House Chores
Letting your child earn some money through doing house chores is one of the
simplest ways to teach them about earning money. However, some parents have
raised concerns that this method may backfire whereby children are only willing to
help out at home only if they’re paid for it. Therefore, one suggestion would be
instead of paying them for each completed chores, you can instead give them a
weekly allowance with conditions to help out with the chores.
“If you want your child to keep their feet on the ground, put some
responsibility on their shoulders.” – Abigail Van Buren
Simple Money Lessons for Kids having a party or a beach outing, give
them a task to list down what they
need, give them a budget and let them
plan out their own shopping list! This
teaches them the value of money, self-
discipline and budgeting.
Bank Visit
Your children may watch you withdraw money from the ATM or use a credit card to
pay for shopping, but they will find it hard to understand how banking transaction
actually works. Kids being kids, they may just think that money would freely be given
to you when you go an ATM machine. Bring them to the bank and open a savings
account where they can put deposit their savings into. Show them how it works and
how online banking works. While savings account generate some interest, also teach
them different saving strategies that helps them generate interest. Your child will
then learn to appreciate saving money when they watch their savings grow.
You might not love the idea of your child dating but it is important that you are present
throughout the process because they still need your support and love because they may not
even know what dating is. Just ensure that you are clear of your rules & expectations for them.
So, in the circumstances where your child starts dating, what should you do?
When your Child Starts Dating more confident when interacting with
members of the opposite sex, dealing
with their emotions, learning from
mistakes and eventually knowing what
is best for them.
Don’t live in the denial that your kids The first order of business with your
will always be kids forever. The fact child should be to ask them to define
that your child will grow up and what they think about dating. You
someday be in the arms of another could start with an opening line like:
person is inevitable. Instead, you have “It sounds like a lot of kids are talking
to embrace the change and allow about dating now. Is that something
them to open up to you about their you’re interested in?” Otherwise, you
feelings. You wouldn’t want them could also make it more casual by
learning the rules of dating from peers discussing it over TV shows or movies
or the media, without your input. that are age-appropriate.
After all, dating serves a very
Be kind with your words. Their
important purpose in every child’s
teenage romance may be just ‘puppy
development. As we all know,
love’ or ‘crush’ to you, but it’s very real
relationships and healthy dating take a to them. Do not trivialise or make fun
lot of practice, trial & error, and of your child’s first relationship as this
experience. Through relationships and will only discourage them to be honest
even heartbreaks, they learn to be with you.
When your Child Starts Dating
Teenage relationships can gather steam quickly, so you have to be aware of warning
signs too. If your child’s grades are affected and they are spending lesser time with
their friends, consider limiting how much time is being spent with that special
someone.
Sadly enough, whenever the issue of sex education arises, it becomes a hot
debate, especially in Malaysia. The negative social connotations that ring
around this issue is so prominent, many think that advocating sex education
(especially in school) equals to encouraging the youth to engage in more
sexual acts and become more promiscuous.