Althea Grace M.

Pumar

I DO: A LIFETIME WITH YOU

Once upon a time, a prince from a faraway kingdom crossed paths with a beautiful
maiden from another kingdom. He pursued the lady and they got together after a couple
of months and the marriage, Oh I loved the way it was designed! My little hopeless
romantic heart felt giddy and I felt my tummy churned. Haaaay… SANA ALL! However,
my mood turned sour as their story continued on with them filing for divorce. I got
confused because they were so in love with one another. Why do couples opt to separate
when they’re madly in love in the first place?
According to some researches, here are the four most common reason why
couples divorce.
First, INFIDELITY. Third party, if I may say. Ruth Houston states that infidelity often
begins with emotional affair which later got out of hand and blooms into a physical affair.
Second, MONEY ISSUES. Or the typical, “I earn more so follow my rules.” Clearly,
money and stress seem to go hand-in-hand for many couples.
Third, ABUSE. Older people says that if your partner abuses you physically, then
you should not just sit around and wait for the person to repeat the same actions again;
instead stand up and do not tolerate those exploits.
Fourth, UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS. The “It-Should-Be-Like-This-Like-That”
type of union. Most of us are hopeless romantic and admit it or not, we’ve got our own
versions of relationship based on what we see on movies or series. And it is really
disappointing if those “ideals” aren’t met, isn’t it?
Conversely, those rationales should not be a reason for couples to let go of each
other’s hand. Because according to researches, here are the top most reason why they
think divorce shouldn’t be practiced.
First up, divorce is not the answer to growing violence against women and children.
It is not a solution to growing problems in fact, it extends to the growing problem of
immorality and sexually related diseases and problems. These problems are a threat to
women, children and even families simply because of a given so-called “choices and
chance to change for the better” while the fact is it is where the so-called “rights” is
abused.
Next, it gives a wider path to domestic problems. We are actually not giving people
a solution to their problem but a chance to repeat the same mistake. It is like taking up a
medicine that isn’t recommended by physicians.
 Lastly, divorce degrades the value of marriage. Couples make divorce an option.
Most of them who are not in good marriage as of the moment will go for divorce by making
it an option. You are encouraging people to go on their separate ways rather than trying
to work it out first. You ruin the sanctity of marriage when you give options to easily break
it apart.
In reality, the word ‘perfect’ only exists when people are describing ethereal things
and we have to admit that to some, the words perfect and relationship doesn’t correlate
with one another, just like in marriage. Folks, every marriage is meant to last for a long
time, like those fairytales, if I may add. The couple, after facing a lot of hurdles, is now
ready to take the bigger step in their lives. What started with “Will you marry me?”
continued on with the exchange of “I Dos” and ended up with the very cliché “I now
pronounce you husband and wife.” Remember the WALANG FOREVER and MAY
FOREVER scheme? Well, some couples are vying to prove that there indeed is forever
because yes, we are all FOREVER in love with the feeling of loving someone. So, instead
of cutting the knot, why don’t we just chase our “Happily Ever After” with the person we
spent a hefty amount of memories with? Now, are you up for the challenge? Well, we
should all be.
THE END