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Tri-phasic Epigenetic Model of Self-Acceptance

A Roadmap to a Healthy Sense of Self


From negative narcissism* and shame to a healthy sense of self and self-acceptance

Phase I : Ego Syntonic Phase II : Ego Dystonic Phase III : Ego Syntonic
Negative Self-View Ambivalent Self-View Positive Self-View
(unhealthy stance) (healthier stance) (healthy stance)
[this stage is often achieved via therapy]

Bad is fused with self In the process of separating from the Bad is replaced by good
(introjection of bad) : (introjected) bad : (introjection of good) :

“ I am bad. ” / “ I am not OK. ” “ I am not always bad. ” / “ I know it’s “ I am good. ” / “ I am OK. ”
not OK to think I am bad. ”

( ╪ OK ) ( ╪ / = OK ) ( = OK )

“ I hate my self! ” “ I should not hate my self!? ” “ I love my Self! ”


“ I wish to divorce from my self! ” “ I want to divorce from the bad. ” “ I’m married to (i.e. one with) my
Self! ”

“My water is clouded and I’m OK with “I’m aware that my water is clouded “My water is clear and I want to keep it
it (as it is normal to me)” (“I may not and I know it should not be clouded” that way!”
be aware that my water is clouded!”)
◄ Absence of Self Relational Object Permanency ► ◄ Self Relational Object Permanency ►

* “Negative narcissism” is also known as negative self-concept / defectiveness schema / hyper self-criticalness / self-loathing.

Luc Dumouchel, MA, RP/PA, CCC, 2016, 2019

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