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October 28,2019
Marriage and companionate romantic love is so overrated that it overlooks the value of
other caring relationship. Elizabeth Brake ,a professor of philosophy of Arizona State University,
calls this bias viewpoint on marital and sensual love relationship labeled as special site and the
belief that romantic love is a fundamental purpose, 'amatonormativity ': It consists of the
premises that for humans a primary, exclusive, amorous relationship is natural, that it is a
universally shared objective, and that such a relationship is standard, that it should be pursued in
In terms of physiological aspect, the scientific form of love is generated from the brain by
the neurochemical and hormonal activities. There are three main neurochemicals which activates
romantic love: Oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. Romantic love, defined in physiological
terms, is state which drives individuals to a suitable companion carefully and is the most lavish
and rewarding of such psychological structures. Evolutionarily, it is peculiar in that it serves the
centered brain areas as well as deactivation of areas correlated with anxiety and reason. Lastly,
the neurochemical and hormonal account of love is complex in its involvement of bonding-
physiological aspect of the human body to have romantic love, exists people who contradict the
societal consensus and biological process: the aromantics, also known as “aro.”
The term aromantic is formed by combining the prefix a- which means “not” and
romantic which refers to things “related to romance”. It was said to be used in the same context
as the word aromatic back in the 1820s. Only around the mid-1980s that people began to
The word aromantic refers to individuals who experience little to no romantic attraction.
We often confuse asexuality and aromanticism. Both are similar in terms of lack of attraction, but
the area in which they lack attraction are different. The difference lies between sexual orientation
while sexual orientation is concerned more with sexual attraction. Not all people are both
aromantic and asexual at the same time. Some are asexual but not aromantic, and some are the
There are two types of aromantic people: the aromantic sexual and the aromantic asexual.
People who identify as aromantic sexual do not feel any romantic attraction but it is possible for
them to experience sexual attraction. Thus, these people do engage in sexual activities even with
One example of this is Sayeed, an agender demi-girl who identifies as aromantic sexual.
She said that she had had sex when she was 16 or 17 with both girls and boys. Sayeed still has
sex from time to time. According to her, she doesn’t experience any romantic attraction. “I had
never known the technical word for it or whatever. I’m still able to feel love: I love my friends,
and I love my family.” But of falling in love, Sayeed says, without any dejection or hesitation
that this might change in the near future, “I guess I just don’t see why I ever would at this point.”
California, defined that aromantic relationships are formed with the absence of romantic
intentions. This kind of relationship can be purely platonic and he believes it can be purely
sexual as well. In addition, romance and sex are two different things which can be experienced
independently; there is one without the other. He concluded that someone who is aromantic
“would have sex for the physical pleasure, not for the satisfaction of their emotional cravings
(Lauriello S.,2019)
attraction nor sexual attraction, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t experience love. They just
perceive relationships differently, in a more vast sense of the word (DePaulo,2017). In addition
to that, aromantic relationships are also known as queerplatonic, because they queer (doesn’t
relationship without romance or sex. This is related to Plato’s belief that a strong love between
two individuals can surpass the need for physical intimacy (“Platonic”,2019). Also, aromantic
people may experience what they call “squishes” which are somewhat identical to a
romantic crush.
According to Asexual Visibility and Education Network (2019), being aromantic doesn’t
mean that they are not capable of loving others. It also doesn’t mean that they have emotional
problems nor difficulties in making personal connections. It’s just that they don’t have the
possible that there is still a reluctance to talk about it. However, even if there is lack of literature
it is important to clear the misconceptions about aromantic people. Keep in mind that
Aromantics don’t have emotional disorders and like all romantic identities they can also have
Majority of the population conforms to the amatonormative view of the society wherein
amorous relationship is seen as superior to other relationships. This view puts a social pressure
on people to follow the pattern that everyone will fall in love someday, get married and then
build their own family. However, romance is not all there is in love and attraction can’t be
considered as love. That’s why even though Aromantics do not experience romantic attraction;
they are proof that you can also be passionate in loving your friends, siblings, and parents. In the
end, what matters is having a genuine and deep bond with the people that you love.
References
Brake, E. (2012). Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law. Oxford University
Press.
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Murphy, T. (2015, October 19). Identity-Free Identity Politics. New York Magazine.
Lauriello, S. (2019,February 2019). What’s the Difference Between Asexual and Aromantic? We
Called in the Experts. Retrieved from https://www.health.com/sex/asexual-aromantic-sexuality
Asexual Visibility and Education Network (2019). Romantic and Aromantic Orientations.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201710/s-so-aromantic
sexuality/aromantic/#usage
webster.com/dictionary/platonic