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Proscribed Days
It was forbidden to perform marriage ceremonies on the
kalends, nones, or ides of each month, or on the following day.
Marriages could not take place in the month of May, or during
the periods of 13-21 February, 1-20 March, or during 5-15 June
before the purification of Vesta’s temple.10 Days dedicated to
the Manes, or on which the mundus was opened (24 August, 5
October, and 8 November) were prohibited as well, as were
the atri (black days) of unfortunate dates like 18 July (Roman
defeat at Allia) or 2 August (Cannae) when "religious law
forbade sacred acts".11 Other dates, considered unfortunate in
a family according to their particular cultus gentilis would also
rule out days on which to hold marriage ceremonies. At one
time marriages were predominately held in April, seen
perhaps by the Carmentalia of 15 January, when the goddess
of childbirth was invoked.
The Sponsalia
The Nuptiae
Domum Deductio
Nuptiae Coemptionis
The Confarreatio
For a confarreatio the pronuba first led the bride to the altar
and joined her right hand to that of the groom as at the
Sponsalia. The groom would then lead the bride three times
around an altar in a clockwise direction45. In this they were
preceded by the camillus, still carrying the bride’s cumera46.
With the Pontifex Maximus and flamen Dialis present,
offerings of fruit and far cakes were made to Jupiter. Prayers
and sacrifices were also offered to Tellus, Juno, Pilumnus and
Picumnus. The vows of marriage were said before Tellus47.
Pilumnus and Picumnus were invoked as guardians of children
and of women during childbirth. Juno safeguarded the
sincerity of those vows.
Final ceremonies
The day following the coena nuptalis, the new husband would
host another dinner for his friends and family. The bride would
attend, appearing in her new role as domina. On this following
day, too, she and women from the husband’s family
performed religious rites together. One rite involved the new
bride being made to sit upon the phallus of the ithyphallic god
Mutunus Tutunus55. As in other parts of Roman marriage
ceremonies, this rite was meant to ensure the bride’s fertility
and to ward off the evil eye. More importantly, the bride
joined with women from her husband’s family in performing
the daily rites at the hearth to the Penates, and to the Lares56.
She would have to perform these rites from now on in
accordance with the cultus genialis of her husband. Each
family belonged to a gens that abided in a certain tradition
that could in some respects differ from the cultus she had
known in her father’s house. The other women from her
husband’s family were on hand to guide her in the proper
form as she made the daily rites according to her newly
adopted tradition. The Penates were the local spirits of the
land on which the house was built, who were primarily
invoked for safeguarding the household larder. As the domina
her primary duty would be to see after the larder and its
contents. To the Penates the bride would offer the coin she
had carried in her shoe during her procession, along with other
common offerings such as incense. The house resided in a
certain neighborhood, and thus she would visit the local shrine
to offer sacrifices to the lares compitales. This shrine was
located at the crossroads that designated the neighborhood in
which she would now reside. To these neighborhood lares she
would sacrifice such items as fruit, wine, olive oil, milk,
incense, and the purse containing a coin that she had carried
in her procession57. The other Lares to whom she would
sacrifice were the ancestral spirits of her husband’s family, and
thus would be for her children as well. The shrine of the
family’s Lares, called a lararium, was either at the hearth or in
the atrium near the front door of the house. In her new
lararium, that of her husband’s, she would place such things as
the tokens of fire and water given her the night before by the
groom, or her childhood toys, or other personal items. That is,
in addition to offering wine and incense that was part of the
normal daily worship of the Lares, the bride would offer other
things that specifically represented her in her new family. In
all, the wedding week beginning in the bride’s house then
concluding with the sacrifices she made to the Lares of her
husband, signified her transition from one family to another.
Not only did she give up her childhood in her mother’s house,
she accepted as her own, and was accepted amongst, the
ancestors of her husband’s family.
Notes:
1. Grammaticae Romanae Fragmenta, G. Funaioli, 1907:
Cincius 23: qui parentem necavisset, quod est
obvolvere
34. Ovid Fasti 3.675; Livy 7.2; Horace Epist. 2.1.145; Macr.
2.4; Catallus Carmina 61.27; Pliny H. N. 16.22; Virgil
Geor. 2.385