This
past
Saturday
my
handsome
21
year-‐old
son,
Christopher,
was
married
to
his
beautiful
bride,
Aspen.
The
ceremony
was
held
at
Bianchi
Orchards
in
a
charming
Christmas
ornamented
barn
near
the
rural
town
of
Los
Molinos,
which
sits
about
25
miles
north
of
downtown
Chico.
Walnuts
and
wine
are
grown
in
the
orchards
and
the
atmosphere
is
like
a
hallmark
card—down-‐home
and
cozy
even
on
a
chilly
December
day.
Family
members
helped
decorate
the
barn
and
guests
were
greeted
with
the
sound
of
vintage
Christmas
music,
hot
chocolate,
homemade
Chili
and
an
array
of
delicious
desserts.
Vows
were
exchanged,
the
wedding
photos
were
taken,
and
the
remainder
of
the
afternoon
was
spent
simply
enjoying
the
company
of
our
closest
and
dearest
family
and
friends.
All
in
all,
it
was
a
cherished
day
to
remember.
The
wedding
was
scheduled
to
start
at
noon
but
was
delayed
a
bit
as
a
few
guests
were
still
finding
their
way
to
the
venue.
And
then
it
happened.
A
Honda
sedan
collided
with
a
Freightliner
semi-‐truck
on
highway
99
directly
in
front
of
the
orchard
and
the
wedding
party,
its
startled
guests
still
congregating
outside.
Just
prior
to
the
collision,
one
of
the
guests
had
slowed
to
make
a
left
hand
turn
into
the
driveway.
The
two
cars
directly
behind
veered
around
and
continued
down
the
highway.
The
Honda
sedan
however,
did
not
appreciate
the
somewhat
sudden
stop.
As
the
driver
passed,
he
rolled
down
his
window
and
shouted
a
vulgarity-‐laced
tirade
in
the
direction
of
the
wedding
guest
driver
who
by
now
was
half
way
down
the
driveway.
We
watched
as
the
driver
continued
on
in
the
northbound
lane,
our
field
of
vision
now
obscured
by
the
Bianchi
family
house.
Within
just
a
few
seconds
however
we
heard
the
blunt
explosion
of
impact,
the
sound
of
brakes
grinding,
of
wheels
skidding
in
a
slow
and
awful
groan,
the
screams
and
gasps
drowned
by
the
mash
of
metal
and
glass
churning
as
the
semi
propelled
the
Honda
backwards
until
it
was
directly
across
the
highway
from
us.
The
entire
incident
was
surreal,
like
a
slow
motion
scene
from
a
movie,
the
vehicles
locked
in
a
torrid
tango
as
they
barreled
across
the
highway.
Finally,
the
semi
jack-‐knifed
to
a
violent
halt,
its
53-‐ foot
box
trailer
protruding
onto
the
north
bound
lane
as
the
Honda
spit
free
before
resting
a
few
feet
away.
We
stood
still
for
a
paralyzed
moment,
our
collective
minds
trying
to
process
the
tragedy
we
had
just
witnessed.
Derrick
Castro,
a
Chico
periodontitis
and
retired
Naval
Officer
immediately
called
911.
My
son-‐in-‐law
Tim
Rickman,
a
US
Naval
Corpsman
trained
in
medical
emergencies
started
down
the
driveway,
his
cadence
quickening
with
each
step.
I
along
with
other
wedding
guests
followed
and
by
the
time
we
had
reached
highway
99,
traffic
in
both
the
north
and
south
bounds
lanes
had
crawled
to
a
stop.
I
jogged
across
the
highway
now
littered
with
shattered
glass,
the
smell
of
leaking
gasoline
and
radiator
fluid
permeating
the
air.
Stepping
over
a
dislodged
front
bumper,
I
could
now
see
the
driver
of
the
semi-‐truck
hopping
out
of
his
cab.
In
obvious
distress,
he
collapsed
to
the
ground,
covering
his
face
with
both
hands
in
a
silent
moment
of
anguish.
Finally
he
stood,
shaking
his
head
as
if
warding
off
the
nightmare.
I
approached
and
asked
him
if
he
was
okay.
He
nodded
yes.
I
patted
him
on
the
back
and
told
him
it
wasn’t
his
fault.
He
stared
over
at
the
Honda.
“I
was
just
doing
my
job.
And
without
warning
the
car
veered
into
my
lane.
There
was
nothing
I
could
do…”
He
turned
and
walked
to
a
lone
space
trying
to
regain
whatever
composure
he
could
muster.
I
turned
my
attention
to
the
Honda
and
it
was
then
that
I
realized
the
full
extent
of
the
accident.
The
car
was
mangled
beyond
recognition,
its
car
doors
crumpled,
its
front
end
compressed
like
a
crushed
soda
can.
Due
to
the
severity
of
the
crash,
the
engine
block
had
pushed
through
the
dashboard,
the
two
front
seat
passengers
pinned
in
grotesque
contortion,
their
bodies
bent
forward
in
excruciating
45-‐degree
angles.
The
front
air
bags
were
not
visible
but
the
side
airbags
had
deployed,
covering
the
back
seat
windows.
Tim
had
removed
his
dress
shirt
and
kneeled
next
to
the
busted
driver’s
side
window.
The
driver,
a
young
male,
was
alive
and
conscious
but
appeared
critically
injured.
Tim
reached
inside
and
pressed
the
shirt
against
his
bleeding
neck
wound
while
supporting
the
young
man’s
upper
spine
as
he
simultaneously
engaged
in
conversation—anything
to
keep
the
driver
alert.
I
wandered
over,
ill
equipped
to
do
anything
other
than
offer
words
of
comfort.
I
knelt
next
to
Tim
and
could
now
see
the
driver’s
bloody
head
resting
against
the
steering
wheel,
his
glasses
cockeyed
but
still
attached.
“Hey
Brayden.
This
is
my
father-‐in-‐law,
Phil,”
Tim
announced.
Brayden
turned
his
eyes
toward
me,
a
flicker
of
acknowledgement.
I
tried
to
smile.
“It's
going
to
be
okay,
Brayden.
You’re
going
to
make
it,
buddy.
Just
stay
awake.”
He
tried
to
say
something
but
couldn’t.
His
eyes
slowly
drifted
away.
I
could
see
another
Samaritan
helping
the
woman
in
the
passenger
seat,
blood
obscuring
her
face,
her
painful
moans
piercing
the
dead
silence.
I
stood
and
walked
back
to
the
small
crowd
of
people
who
had
now
gathered.
All
we
could
do
was
watch
and
wait
for
the
emergency
responders.
After
a
few
minutes,
a
woman
wandered
over
to
the
sedan
and
peeked
though
a
crack
in
the
back
window.
“Oh
my
god.
There
are
children
back
here,”
she
gasped.
The
woman
stepped
back,
her
hand
covering
her
mouth
in
utter
horror.
I
could
hear
more
gasps
from
the
crowd
and
my
heart
immediately
sank
because
I
had
not
heard
any
noises
from
the
backseat.
A
few
of
us
stepped
toward
the
car.
Someone
tried
the
door
but
it
was
jammed
shut.
A
few
panicked
moments
passed,
people
scrambling
to
find
something
to
break
the
windows.
Finally,
a
fire
extinguisher
was
presented
as
Dr.
Castro
promptly
bashed
the
backside
windows,
the
glass
shattering
against
the
airbag
curtain.
He
reached
inside
and
was
able
to
unlock
and
pull
the
door
open.
I
wanted
to
avert
my
eyes
but
I
couldn’t.
Peering
inside
I
could
see
two
children,
one
male
and
one
female,
lying
motionless
across
the
backseat.
Before
I
could
react,
an
unidentified
man
reached
into
the
sedan
and
carefully
removed
the
boy,
gently
setting
his
body
onto
the
ground.
Then
with
equal
care,
another
man
pulled
the
girl
from
her
seatbelt
and
set
her
body
a
few
feet
from
the
boy.
I
could
see
that
both
children
were
unresponsive,
lips
blue,
their
pale
faces
in
a
state
of
repose.
There
was
no
blood
evident,
not
a
scratch
on
them.
They
simply
looked
like
they
were
sleeping.
Dr.
Castro
and
another
medically
trained
observer
began
CPR
on
the
little
girl.
I
watched
for
a
few
moments,
helpless,
my
eyes
locked
on
her
small,
limp
body.
I
knelt
down
and
gently
stroked
her
cheek
with
the
back
of
my
hand
as
Dr.
Castro
continued
the
compressions.
I
told
her
how
pretty
she
was
and
that
all
would
be
okay.
But
I
knew
I
was
lying.
I
knew
in
my
heart
that
she
was
already
gone.
I
then
stood
and
walked
to
the
little
boy
and
though
not
officially
declared,
I
knew
that
his
life
too
had
expired.
I
walked
a
few
steps
and
knelt
again,
whispering
a
prayer,
the
words
tumbling
out
in
awkward
fits
and
starts.
All
I
wanted
was
for
those
sweet
and
pure
and
innocent
children
to
know
that
they
were
loved
and
cared
for
in
their
final
moments
here
on
earth.
I
then
stood
and,
staring
out
at
an
open
field,
cried
harder
than
I
had
in
a
long
time.
Soon
the
entire
area
was
awash
with
law
enforcement,
fire
trucks,
and
emergency
responders.
A
CHP
officer
approached
and
asked
where
we
had
come
from.
We
explained
we
were
attending
a
wedding
across
the
street.
He
thanked
us
for
our
efforts
and
politely
asked
us
to
clear
the
area
to
make
room
for
the
EMT’s
and
extraction
equipment
that
would
be
required
to
cut
through
the
car’s
metal
exterior.
Our
impromptu
rescue
team
gradually
and
collectively
walked
across
highway
99
and
back
down
the
Bianchi
driveway.
It
seemed
like
we
had
been
gone
forever.
Due
to
the
accident,
the
wedding
had
been
delayed
for
almost
two
hours
and
during
that
time
there
was
discussion
that
the
ceremony
be
cancelled
to
a
later
date.
But
after
deep
consideration
by
the
bride
and
groom
it
was
decided
that
the
wedding
would
proceed
as
scheduled.
By
then,
we
had
regrouped
outside.
The
presiding
Bishop,
Curt
Keables,
held
a
moment
of
silence
for
the
accident
victims,
then
conducted
a
simple,
beautiful
and
heartfelt
marriage
ceremony
between
Christopher
Kenneth
Midling
and
Aspen
Kara-‐Marie
Conner.
The
warm
and
intimate
reception
followed
inside
the
barn,
the
guests
eating
and
mingling
in
joyful
but
reserved
countenance.
Life
is
both
fleeting
and
fragile
and
can
be
extinguished
in
the
blink
of
an
eye.
I
know
that
those
who
witnessed
the
accident
and
saw
first
hand
its
devastation
are
deeply
moved.
We
are
still
grappling
with
the
juxtaposition
of
a
wedding
and
a
tragedy.
For
me
the
images
are
indelibly
etched
into
my
memory
and
it
will
be
a
while
before
I
am
fully
back
to
normal.
I
cannot
extricate
the
tragic
and
poignant
faces
of
those
children
from
my
mind
and
oddly
enough,
I
don’t
want
to.
I
never
knew
them
in
life
but
for
a
few
moments
on
December
21st,
I
loved
them
as
my
own.
One
of
the
great
ironies
of
life
is
that
it
is
often
tragedy
that
brings
us
closer
together,
the
bonds
forged
in
chaos
and
tumult
when
worlds
are
turned
upside
down.
I
do
not
remember
the
names
of
those
good
Samaritans
who
abandoned
their
cars
in
the
middle
of
the
highway
to
help
nor
remember
the
faces
attached
to
those
helping
hands
that
lifted
the
children
from
the
backseat
of
that
Honda
sedan.
What
I
do
remember
however
are
those
compassionate
spirits
present
on
that
afternoon,
their
Herculean
efforts
restoring
my
faith
in
humanity.
There
are
many
good
people
in
this
world,
more
good
than
bad.
And
on
that
day,
I
witnessed
the
some
of
the
best.
I
find
some
solace
in
the
fact
that
I
don’t
think
the
children
suffered,
the
blunt
force
trauma
immediate,
the
end
swift
and
painless.
And
yet
I
feel
conflicted,
even
angry,
at
the
cause
of
a
preventable
and
unnecessary
accident.
At
the
impatience,
rudeness,
and
recklessness
of
a
young
man
whose
road
rage
veered
into
oncoming
traffic,
costing
him
his
life
and
the
lives
of
two
innocent
children.
My
confliction
and
anger
are
irrelevant
however
for
it
is
not
up
to
me
to
affix
blame.
I
am
not
God,
judge,
or
jury.
In
the
end
all
I
can
do
is
pray
for
the
victims
and
their
families.
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Dusk
had
now
descended
into
night
as
I
loaded
my
car
and
said
my
goodbyes.
I
pulled
down
the
driveway
and
as
I
approached
highway
99
I
slowed
to
a
stop.
I
sat
still
for
a
long
moment,
my
car
idling
as
I
contemplated
the
day.
Two
life-‐changing
events
occurred
on
opposite
sides
of
a
highway,
the
asphalt
chasm
separating
joy
from
sorrow,
life
from
death.
I
glanced
in
the
rear
view
mirror
and
could
see
the
illuminating
glow
of
the
barn
where
a
wedding
had
taken
place.
I
then
stared
hard
across
the
highway
one
last
time,
the
remnants
of
a
tragic
and
deadly
collision
now
removed
and
scrubbed
so
clean
that
one
might
wonder
if
an
accident
had
occurred
at
all.
And
then
I
buckled
my
seatbelt,
turned
right,
and
headed
home.
Update:
Brayden
Frazier,
the
driver
of
the
Honda
sedan,
succumbed
to
his
injuries
Sunday
evening.
He
was
18
years
old.
Eva
Davies,
27,
Brayden’s
girlfriend
and
the
mother
of
the
two
deceased
children
is,
as
of
the
writing,
still
at
Chico’s
Enloe
Medical
Center
and
in
serious
condition.