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Feminism's Flip Side A Cultur
https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-017-9468-0
ORIGINAL PAPER
Abstract This paper provides a historical account of the ‘pickup artists’ (PUA)
phenomenon, tracing the origins back to the early 1970s when more liberal attitudes
towards sexuality were on the rise in the West. Today PUA advice not only includes
information about seduction techniques, but also programs about self-improvement
or so-called ‘inner game’. Seduction and dating gurus can be found across the
internet—from individual bloggers to dating coaches and relationship experts—all
providing niche services and products on how to seduce and/or have fulfilling
relationships with women. By addressing the moral panics around the PUA dis-
course, the paper seeks to illustrate the connection between second wave feminism,
as a discourse increasingly interested in the idea of ‘gender egalitarianism’ and the
popularity of seduction techniques for men based on emerging scientific research.
Introduction
In 2005 Neil Strauss’ book The Game became an international best seller in the so-
called ‘pickup artist’ genre, generating controversy for its primary interest in sexual
seduction techniques and the pickup artist (PUA) community which taught them. The
Game reached the number 1 spot on Amazon after a few weeks of its release, and
remained on the New York Times bestseller list from October to November 2005
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Data from Amazon shows the book’s long tail reach—it currently sits at number 6612 of the most
popular books ever sold; number 11 in the ‘Social Sciences [ Gender Studies [ Men’ category, and
number 26 in the ‘Self-Help [ Sex’ segment.
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Restrictions on printed publications were being lifted too; the word ‘fuck’ being included in the Oxford
English dictionary for the first time in 1972. The Sensuous Man (1971) and The Sensuous Woman (1969)
were two classic sex manuals written at that time (by authors simply known as ‘M’ and ‘J’). The Sensuous
Man includes a good deal of information about male sexuality, covering topics like penis size, impotence
and premature ejaculation.
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of the ‘pickup’ and seduction culture emerged in the 1990s, with the development of
the internet and a more critical focus on female sexuality. Whilst this second phase
never explicitly criticises feminism per se, the current range of PUA books—
including Roosh V.’s Bang series—is much more polemical in its attack on
feminism. Media coverage of Roosh often seeks to characterise his work as
canonical of PUA philosophy, thus writing off useful distinctions that exist within
the genre. The current phase of writing and online video production also focuses on
self-improvement and masculine forms of attractiveness.
This paper argues that the growth of PUA philosophy parallels the rise of
feminism in academic and popular culture—and in some ways can be seen as a
critique of its limitations, particularly the idea of ‘gender egalitarianism’. Whilst
second wave feminists concerned themselves with legislative and representative
forms of equality, it has left a popular legacy that makes it difficult for
educators, policy-makers and other public figures to acknowledge the influence
of biology on male and female personalities, work choices and dating
preferences.3 Without questioning the philosophical foundations of the gender
egalitarian ideal, media and cultural studies research risks losing touch with
more empirical behavioural approaches that seek to understand the dynamics of
heterosexual attraction based on biological differences between the sexes. These
approaches are not only becoming prominent within the PUA discourse, but also
within popular neuroscience books. The current study does not seek to promote a
normative view of sexuality through these scientific approaches, but rather
suggests that by examining PUA philosophy as a cultural phenomenon we can
better understand the role of culture (and indeed education) in shaping
heterosexual forms of attraction.
Though it has been more than 10 years since the publication of Neil Strauss’s book,
very little has been written about the growth of the online seduction community
from a media and/or cultural studies perspective. In part this is due to the dominance
of constructivist-feminist approaches in the field, which have been reluctant to
consider men’s experiences of dating—either from a scientific or cultural
perspective. Media and cultural studies research rather focuses on the history of
dating advice books (see, for instance Bailey 1989; Connerley 2008), and share an
almost exclusive interest in women’s experiences and interpretations of the genre.
Likewise, Eaton and Rose’s (2011) 35 year study of dating advice books places an
emphasis on ‘cultural scripts’ as an explanation of women’s disempowerment when
dating men. Those cultural scripts insist that men propose and pay for dates, leaving
women with the power to reject or accept the man’s offer of intimacy afterwards.
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Not all feminists would deny the existence of biology in helping to shape gendered and sexuality
identities, but by looking at media debates about quotas in politics and the military, for example, these
voices are less prevalent. At times Hillary Clinton’s presidential campaign was almost entirely based on
the feminist ‘gender egalitarian’ presupposition that, because of her sex, she was at a disadvantage and
would make a better political leader.
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Dating, they argue, is ‘the prime arena for evaluating progress towards gender
equality’, even though such cultural scripts clearly limit how both women and men
are seen to interact. That this process could be disempowering for men underplays
the extent to which women’s attractiveness can be a form of power in itself.
In all of these approaches there is an unquestioned assumption that traditional
gender roles are oppressive, and that so-called ‘nontraditional’ male/female
interactions are more ‘progressive’. The conventional ‘gender studies’ or ‘con-
structionist’ view of gender asserts that any observable behavioural differences
between the sexes are the product of culture (‘nurture’) rather than biology
(‘nature’). Eaton and Rose’s study is based on a review of articles published in Sex
Roles, a social and behavioural sciences journal which endorses the feminist
‘constructionist’ viewpoint—even though some of the papers cited contradict this
perspective. Citing a study of gender preferences in dating, they highlight that even
‘men and women with nontraditional (egalitarian) gender role attitudes described
[their] ‘‘ideal dating partner’’ as having stereotypically gender-typed personality
traits’. Though gender roles may not be entirely fixed at birth (as some socio-
biologists suggest), the role of biology as an explanation for gender preferences in
sexual selection is never explored.
It’s worth highlighting an obvious point here that relationship advice books are
dominated by women, as both authors and consumers. This is a point made by
McLean and Kapell’s (2015) study of self-help books, where they point out that
women make up the majority of readers. The Game is classified as ‘self help’ in this
study, and an interviewee named ‘Finn’ is quoted as saying this about the book: ‘I
just wanted to ascertain what the book claimed … Once I got into it though, I started
to think more about improving self-confidence’ (qtd in McLean and Kapell 68).
Danny Kaplan’s article ‘The nerd and his discontent’ looks at PUA genre more
specifically, but eschews the possibility that the consumers of ‘game’ books might
want anything more than a one night stand with women. ‘Courtship is construed as a
standardized, rule-governed social skill and is characterized by hyperconsumption
and objectification of women’ (1). Men and women have always objectified each
other during the courtship process, yet the definition here clearly views objecti-
fication as a one way process. Traditionally men were expected to initiate courtship,
to pay for entertainment or gifts (consumer commodities like movies or takeaway
meals at the diner) and, in earlier times, even to meet the parents before dating—for
better or worse, these are examples of women qualifying men for their affection.
The article goes on to mention the importance of ‘inner game’ (personal
development, self-improvement), but only discusses the use of ‘outer game’ (tricks
and techniques). Men are pathologized for wanting sex with women,4 and other
aspects of the genre—such as a confidence-building and relationships—are ignored.
What a relationship is, and how it is defined in terms of a woman’s primary
biological drives, are never discussed in academic reviews of the dating or
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Kaplan goes so far as to say that ‘gaming logic culminates in the dehumanization of all parties and
suspends moral considerations’. It’s important to consider that all interactions cited in the article—like
those mentioned in PUA books—are consensual, and objectification in and of itself is not necessarily
amoral. The implicit assumption here is that traditional dating practices (whatever they are), by contrast,
are morally superior in some way.
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(Thompson and Hampton 2011); and self-disclosure during the final ‘seduction’
phase [to] induce feelings of closeness and emotional affinity’ (Collins and Miller
1994). All of this is not to deny the flexibility of gender roles in male–female
courtship; but much PUA philosophy promotes the idea that men need to accentuate
‘masculine’ traits (such as assertiveness, risk-taking and expressions of social
dominance) as ways of attracting feminine women—creating what Manson (2011)
describes as ‘sexual polarity’. Masculine behaviours are said to attract feminine
women, in other words.
Whilst PUA philosophies are not anti-feminist per se, the central idea of sexual
polarity does contradict the feminist notion that men and women are biologically
indistinct as far as behaviour and psychology is concerned. A number of popular,
scientifically-grounded books assert there are not only important sexual-arousal
differences between men and women (Bergner 2013), but important cognitive
(Baren-Cohen 2003) and emotional (Brizendine 2007, 2011) differences too. PUA
advice draws more upon insights from behavioural and evolutionary psychology,
but many also acknowledge the significance of these different scientific viewpoints.
The extent to which gender-relativism remains unquestioned in the media and
humanities/social science research reflects the degree to which feminism itself may
have become something of an orthodoxy; by breaking with the political correctness
around ‘equalist’ gender roles, it’s no wonder that PUA philosophies, which teach
the importance of attractive masculine behaviours, mindsets and orientations, draws
such harsh criticism from the media.
Books and articles written for men on how to seduce women are not new and, to
some degree, have always attracted their fair share of controversy. Ovid’s Ars
Amatoria (‘The Art of Love’) is the first written account of the seduction process in
the Western tradition, providing advice for men on where to take women on dates
(the theatre, circus and the races mentioned as the best locations), and how to
generate sexual interest through conversation and appropriate forms of physical
touch. Despite a more liberalised attitude towards sexuality in the West, there were
only a handful of books written for men on the topic of seduction throughout the
twentieth century; books like Let’s Make Mary (1937) and Guide Book for the
Young Man About Town (1948) had a strong focus on etiquette, reflecting the class
restraints of dating circa World War II.
Such conservative attitudes towards dating changed dramatically during the
1970s, with Eric Weber’s How to Pick Up Girls (1970)—the very first mass-
marketed PUA book. The author’s descriptions were unsophisticated but novel for
their time by identifying what men find sexually attractive about women. The
simplicity cut through some of society’s judgements about sexuality, in a time when
young men and women were questioning the meaning of traditional gender roles.
The post sexual revolution politics were evident in the book’s attempt to ‘uncover’
what women really think about sex, drawing as it did on the author’s ‘interviews
with 25 beautiful girls’. Weber used his interviews to state a seemingly
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Morton Hunt’s Sexual Behaviour in the 1970s (1974), for instance, resurveys some of the same terrain
that the Kinsey’s studies covered in 1948 and 1953, including new data on the emerging swingers
lifestyle. Hunt optimistically suggests that ‘[t]he double standard [regarding female sexual permissive-
ness] has been relegated to the scrap heap of history’. The research was funded by the Playboy
Foundation.
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publicity, despite their explicit focus on sex as an outcome of dating and interacting
with the opposite sex.
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to become good at seduction, the process needs to be deconstructed. How to Get the
Women You Desire into Bed (1988) starts with this key understanding:
There is no such ‘thing’ as love, attraction, chemistry, desire, fascination or
any of the other labels society commonly uses to describe and explain the
dance of attraction between men and women. What society commonly labels
as ‘things’ are, in reality, ongoing processes that can be understood,
duplicated, modified, and re-directed.
Such an unemotional view of the dating process lends itself to feminist criticisms
that PUAs are selfish and disrespectful to women, but some PUAs would argue the
reverse can be said of women: that women crave attention and only reward the bad
boys with sex, rather than the ‘nice guys’. The whole ‘just be yourself’ (JBYS)
convention that was championed by Weber in 1970 became less useful to the PUA
movement, and the development of ‘inner game’ propelled the genre forward—
much to the ire of some feminists.
The very first online fora for discussing pickup techniques was the alt.seduction.fast
forum, which was the creation of David De Angelo’s student Lewis De Payne in the
mid-1990s. The original forum was also used to promote Jeffries’ Speed Seduction
products, but also provided the space for young men to share their results and
feedback from the techniques practiced ‘in field’. Today the sharing of seduction
techniques occurs across the internet, and the original forum has been surpassed by
a range of different bloggers and ‘experts’. Using much of the pickup lingo that
Strauss first popularised, dating gurus like Coach Corey Wayne have achieved
success with more mainstream audiences. These dating experts seldom receive
attention from journalists or feminist bloggers, despite being critical of feminism
and a more ‘feminized’ contemporary media. At the other end of the extreme,
activist PUA’s like Roosh V actively provoke controversy, maintaining a hostile
view of feminism and a less than favourable view of (mainly Western) women.
One of the most popular dating experts online today is ‘Coach Corey Wayne’,
who attracts male and female viewers through regular video posts on his YouTube
site. Drawing upon advice from his book How To Be a 3% Man: Winning the Heart
of the Woman of Your Dreams (2014a), Wayne’s videos answer email questions that
develop from offline coaching sessions with clients. Emails are usually in the form
of a synopsis of a date, or a client’s interaction with someone they are sexually
interested in. Videos cater to all manner of questions, from picking up women and
arranging casual hook-ups, through to long term relationships, reigniting attraction
with an ex or dealing with general life pressures, such as planning for children or
becoming unemployed. The breadth of topics are reflected in the volume of videos,
each being 20–30 min long, but the underlying principles apply to situations many
young men and women may find themselves in. Being a ‘3% Man’ refers to those
men who understand and embody what it takes to be attractive: being aligned with
inner values and core beliefs.
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Much like his PUA predecessors Wayne’s advice retains a critical engagement
with more mainstream popular culture, particularly what it means to be a man.
According to Wayne masculine men should be concerned with their personal
mission and purpose, not putting the woman at the centre of his life a la standard
romantic comedies and soap narratives. This doesn’t entail treating women with
disdain, but rather focusing on being a happy and productive person. The definition
of masculinity in Wayne’s videos is much more nuanced than the PUA versions, as
the commentary about ‘What Women Really Want’ (2014b) describes a shopping
list of positive characteristics:
A man who is unapologetically himself. A man who knows what he wants,
why he wants it and is determined to get it despite the risks and potential for
failure, a man who marches to the beat of his own drum, a man who is a
gentleman, strong, charming, chivalrous, humorous, determined and respect-
ful; a man who will chose walking away verses staying in a relationship that
requires him to sacrifice his hopes, goals and dreams to make a woman happy.
Successful relationships should not compromise personal values and dreams, for
either men or women. Here the importance of ‘inner game’ again comes to the fore.
Though Wayne’s advice is intended for both sexes, he does focus more on the
role of the man in the relationship. His work does not seek to be politically-engaged,
but he occasionally offers critical views about the influence of feminism in today’s
society. Wayne is not anti-feminist per se, but his popularity entails a view of the
effects of the second wave feminist gender egalitarian ideal. In response to the email
of a 42 year old man in the video ‘My Feminist Man Hating Girlfriend’ (2015), the
criticism targets mainstream media as much as the feminist movement itself:
Feminism originally was a great movement that came about in the early
twentieth century in order to help women earn the right to vote, earn equal
rights to men and no longer be treated like they were property, objects or
second class citizens. However, modern-day feminism often takes the
women’s liberation movement to unhealthy extremes. You can see this in
most television programs and movies. Men are generally portrayed as being
stupid, inept, weak, feminine and often as having little use other than being
sperm donors.
Rather than establish himself as a feminist agent provocateur, Wayne’s more
general-focus advice as a life coach helps him sidestep some of the negative
coverage his PUA predecessors attracted. Having developed the business solely via
the internet, self-publishing his book through Amazon, Wayne is less reliant on the
broadcast publicity PUAs like Jeffries courted back in the 1990s.
With such a low mainstream media profile, Wayne’s skills lie in being able to
solve mundane communication problems that men and women face whilst dating—
a subject rarely covered in broadcast media. Titles of videos include statements that
women make that men find confusing: ‘I don’t want to go all the way’; ‘Sorry, it
didn’t mean anything’, ‘Men only care about sex’ and ‘Do you miss me?’ For
Wayne the key to understanding such statements starts with an observation that
many women often prioritise emotional forms of communication, and are less direct
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By viewing the vast number of videos on Corey Wayne’s website, and judging from
other dating advice ‘vloggers’ on YouTube, it’s clear that most men just want to
have a girlfriend. Yet it’s easy to see why dating experts like Wayne are ignored by
the mainstream media, given the media’s interest in accentuating the perceived
negative elements of the pickup artist. Given the mainstream’s fascination for
stories of danger, men’s very ordinary interests in relationships are not that
interesting. Other PUA bloggers and so-called ‘experts’ take a much different tack
in building up their reputation, engaging their critics in inflammatory ways. Roosh
Valizadeh is a blogger and self-published author whose Bang series of books best
represent the more controversial side of the PUA phenomenon, particularly given
his antagonistic relationship with feminist bloggers and activists.
Born of Iranian and Armenian immigrants to the US, Roosh’s travel books
explore the application of pickup skills in different countries. In his Bang series the
seduction of women is accompanied by a detailed description and history of each
country, and reads like a PUA’s Lonely Planet Guide. Cultural descriptions are very
detailed, but also reflect back on the modern American culture he seeks to engage.
In his Why Can’t I Use a Smiley Face (2013), a book written about his brief return to
his family in the US, Roosh takes a swipe at Western feminized culture by
comparing the different pickup styles that work on Eastern European and American
women:
It was going down like a Lithuanian or Ukrainian pickup. The lead time was
slow, but the attraction was being built based on my experiences and
knowledge instead of my ability to make her horny with cocky statements.
Taken at face value, Roosh’s work simply details his sexual encounters with lots of
women, but elsewhere he uses his profile to antagonise his many feminist critics. In
2015 he published an article deemed as ‘hate speech’ in the press, subsequently
forcing Australian and Canadian authorities to ban him from future promotional
tours. His article ‘How to stop rape’ (2016) was an attack on journalism’s
increasingly hostile view of PUA culture, and Roosh’s success in particular. It was
published in response to a number of false rape accusations covered in the press that
year, especially a Rolling Stone article about a sexual assault case at the University
of Virginia. The Rolling Stone article has since been discredited, but questions still
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remain over the lack of journalistic accountability and fact-checking. Roosh voices
his relatively conservative views on female sexuality throughout the article,
complaining about the lack of responsibility and modesty among many young
American women, enabled by a very pro-feminist (anti-male) media. These views
aren’t particularly controversial, except for the very publicity-seeking suggestion
that rape should be ‘legal if done on private property’.
Taken in isolation the statement is an extreme one, and many took the message at
face value—calling for Roosh’s arrest, and labelling his ‘Return of Kings’ website a
‘pro-rape’ forum. The media’s reaction revealed how easy it was to stir up a moral
panic around PUAs, a strategy Roosh willingly capitalised upon. The panic also
revealed the uncritical gallantry of some journalists in their rush to view women as
sexual victims—as the original Rolling Stone article did.
Roosh’s personal views on rape are stated in a number of places, including in the
controversial article itself. These views are seldom cited when journalists discuss his
work. Reading the article in its totality, and understanding the motivation for his
work, it’s clear that his writing is much more concerned with journalistic ethics
rather than rape per se:
I have a sister who I don’t want to be raped, so I carefully examined the
articles on Salon, Buzzfeed, and Huffington Post that were written by
professional journalists who pursue truth and justice over mass hysteria and
delirium.
From the very outset his writing conveys a contempt for mainstream ‘click-bait’
journalism, and what he sees as its ‘anti-male’ bias. The article continues, and shifts
the focus away from journalism to the culture of young American women. His views
are based on observation, yet consideration of his argument shows he is not a rape
apologist his critics deem him to be. Rather, the article sought to make a point about
young women’s behaviour and accountability when attending campus frat parties:
I saw women wholly unconcerned with their own safety and the character of
men they developed intimate relationships with. I saw women who voluntarily
numbed themselves with alcohol and other drugs in social settings before
letting the direction of the night’s wind determine who they would follow into
a private room. I saw women who, once feeling awkward, sad, or guilty for a
sexual encounter they didn’t fully remember, call upon an authority figure to
resolve the problem by locking up her previous night’s lover in prison or
ejecting him from school.
What Roosh is addressing here is the flip side of PUA culture, and the social context
which enables the success of the pickup artist in the first place. A culture which
insistently seeks to remove previously shameful practices for women, which are—in
biological reality—risky, is seldom questioned by academics, journalists and other
gatekeepers of public morality. For if society insists that men and women are the
same when it comes to their personal and sexual interests, contrary to scientific
evidence, such views risk further driving apart men and women in the realm of sex,
relationships and marriage. Roosh’s popularity is a symptom of such a culture,
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arguably exploiting the unquestioned view that the media presents of female
promiscuity as being unproblematically empowering.6
The history of the pickup artist, and the growing popularity of sex-focused
relationship advice for men in recent years, can be seen—in part—as a reaction to
these ideals of gender egalitarianism. Many women are likely to feel shame more
acutely than men when it comes to anonymous sexual encounters, yet some are also
likely to enjoy sex with PUAs knowing that they’re less likely to feel shame.
Though we live in an age where women consume fantasies of meaningless one-
night stands, holiday romances in Bali, and affairs with well-dressed bosses who
have helicopters and fetishes for BDSM, seldom are we treated with interviews on
day time talk shows with women who enjoy sex with pickup artists.
Such an absence is a telling one, and underlies the importance of shame as a
mechanism of social control in the discourse around the pickup artist. As Roosh’s
career indeed illustrates, it’s much easier to shame men for overtly expressing their
sexuality than to shame women for theirs. Objectively, as many PUAs point out,
such arguments are mute anyway—understanding the principles of attraction entails
understanding and mastering one’s own psychology, and that also includes your
sexual attraction to others. Shaming simply serves to make the PUA more attractive,
by establishing a new context through which different risk-taking and other
‘confident’ behaviours emerge. The risk of social ostracization is often what makes
a PUA attractive, and in a society where masculine traits are attacked, the
embodiment of those same characteristics (rightly or wrongly) may become more
desirable. The same can be said for the somewhat unspoken taboo of sexual
dimorphism, and second wave feminism’s insistence that men and women are
psychologically indistinguishable, which arguably frustrates the desires of millions
of feminine heterosexual women, and their desire for masculine men.
To view PUA culture as a reaction to second wave feminism is a little simplistic, but
the history outlined in this paper shows that second wave feminism’s insistence on
gender egalitarianism has many consequences. Whilst the questioning of traditional
gender roles has opened the way for less rigid expectations around what men and
women can do in society, a trend that has been extended to LBGTIQ individuals in
more recent years, the movement towards gender egalitarianism has also given a
rise to a culture of female sexual liberation that perhaps predisposes some women to
seek out PUAs for sex. Rather than judge or ‘slut-shame’ them for doing so, we
should perhaps examine the context of negative media coverage of the PUA, and
start evaluating our own expectations of relationships in alignment with observable
behaviours.
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There are, of course, downsides to both male and female forms of promiscuity, just as there are
limitations to more conservative forms of relationship. It’s not my aim to promote ‘one side’ over the
other, but to seek a better understanding as to how public debate (including within academia) has been
shaped in the first place. Scientific research is by no means infallible, but I do believe it has an important
role to play in cultural studies’ exploration of the topic.
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If PUA practice insists that concepts like social-proof do help to attract women,
given that many women do indeed pursue status and power in men,7 then women’s
biology can be manipulated; in much the same way that men’s weaknesses for a
young woman’s physical beauty can be manipulated by women. These are by no
means essential characteristics of all men and all women and, of course, not
everyone fits neatly into the classification of ‘normal’ on the bell curve. There will
always be outliers and statistical anomalies, but those should not be our guide for
understanding society-wide trends. By helping us understand biological realities of
heterosexual attraction (as it changes over time), the science of the pickup artist
might help some people overcome potential weaknesses when developing healthy
relationships with members of the opposite sex.
But such an understanding needs to start from a neutral, less emotional base. By
looking at the history of seduction as a male art, it’s also necessary to consider the
significance of our moral outrage against the pickup artist himself. The conventional
view that pickup artists are manipulating women against their will is a misleading
one and, as many PUAs like to remind men, women have the entire cosmetics and
fashion industries at their disposal. For if we insist on gender egalitarianism, then
we risk denying women full responsibility for their actions. After all, women aren’t
magically seduced by pickup artists. Women don’t get seduced; they decide to be
seduced. Pickup techniques only work so long as women actually respond to them, a
point made by Neil Strauss himself:
You cannot be tricked into sleeping with someone you don’t want to. On the
other hand, you can very easily be dissuaded from sleeping with someone you
do want to. These routines were designed to prevent men from scaring away or
boring to tears someone they like or love or desire.
Pickup artistry is not just about teaching men to manipulate women, but used in the
right way can be used to teach men and women to understand how we manipulate
each other in the art of seduction. Sexual polarity in and of itself is not a bad thing,
just as the gender egalitarian ideal of second wave feminism isn’t either. Many men
are attracted to feminine women, and many women attracted to masculine men.
With the popularity of PUA philosophy, in an increasingly fragmented media world,
it’s perhaps time we examine the science of attraction, and question where all the
moral outrage is really coming from. After all, fear is perhaps a more powerful form
of manipulation—especially when it goes unquestioned.
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A number of studies (Dunn and Hill 2014; Dunn and Searle 2010) highlight how markers of material
wealth (such as luxury apartment- and car-ownership) can increase a woman’s sexual attractiveness
towards men. These findings align with the ‘parental investment’ theory, which posits that—because of
the risks related to childbearing—women tend to seek out resources and security in a sexual partner.
Recent research provides a more nuanced view, considering the influence of hormones and risk-taking
behavior during the menstrual cycle. What defines ‘status’ too is an important question to bear in mind,
and one which relates to the individual woman’s personal values. Data on male sexual attraction, on the
other hand, continues to highlight the importance of female youthfulness, physical attractiveness (shiny
hair, nails and clear skin) as well as a hip-to-waist ratio of about 0.7. Evidence suggests a strong
correlation between these traits and female levels of fertility.
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Conflict of interest Andrew Stephen King has received no grants or research funding from any external,
commercial and/or institutional sources.
Ethical Approval This article does not contain any studies with human participants performed by any of
the authors.
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