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Responsabilidad y Moral en Terapia de Pareja
Responsabilidad y Moral en Terapia de Pareja
Within the past two decades there has been a growing awareness of the
importance of moral and ethical judgements in family and couple
therapy. In this article we provide a detailed analysis of placements of
responsibility related to blame in one couple therapy session. We suggest
that it is important to study therapeutic interaction in situ, when searching
for an understanding of moral reasoning in couple therapy and an ethical
evaluation of the practice. A detailed analysis of discursive tools used by
clients and therapists makes it possible to look at moral reasoning in
action as it unfolds within the flow of therapeutic conversation. The
findings are discussed in relation to two discourses of moral justification:
autonomy and relationality. The principle guiding the therapists’ actions
in the studied conversation could be called ‘relational autonomy’.
a
Clinical Psychologist, Department of Psychology, University of Jyväskylä, Tapiolan-
tie33 as 1, 00610 Helsinki, Finland. E-mail: kskurri@luukku.com.
b
Professor of Psychology, Department of Psychology, University of Jyväskylä, Finland.
The case
The session took place in a university psychotherapy clinic in Finland
and was conducted in Finnish. Videotaping and the use of the sessions
for research purposes happened with the informed consent of the
clients. The analysis was carried out using the original Finnish audio-
and videotape and the transcript of this. Here the extracts are
translated into English with the aim of preserving the fluency of talk
and the emerging meanings as they were displayed in the Finnish
original.
The session analysed is the fifth out of seven sessions. The clients
referred themselves for treatment due to the distress and tension the
addiction problems of the family’s eldest daughter had brought about
for the rest of the family. They did not seek help for this daughter, but
explicitly for the repercussions her troublesome behaviour had had
for their relationship. This particular session was selected for analysis
because it is rich with tensions, apportioning of blame and conflicts of
interest between the spouses. There are five participants in the
session: the two spouses, two male family therapists, and one female
student in training. The spouses, ‘Erkki’ the husband and ‘Tuija’ the
wife, are both academically trained professionals in their early fifties.
We show five extracts from the transcript of the conversation to
allow readers to make their own observations of the discursive
practices in use. We recognize that the choice of the extracts is already
our construction and a part of the analysis. In the transcription,
numbers in parentheses indicate a length of a pause in seconds and
brackets mark the beginning of overlapping speech.
1 T1: What is your thought about that . . . which you could sort of put
2 into one sentence . . . when you see that now Tuija is again very
3 emotional or how [might one say?
4 H: [Yes yes, overcome by her emotions and
5 confuses with them the matter which we should now think about
6 and discuss . . . what my thought is in that situation.
7 T1: Mm, and can you put into words the kind of automatic thought
8 which then comes [into your head?
9 H: [Yeah mm.
10 (3)
11 H: Well there the problem probably is . . . it needs to be put into
12 words but that doesn’t quite succeed just now.
13 (14)
In these few turns we can see many subtle shifts in the husband’s
placement of responsibility. We can also follow the therapists’ quite
persistent continuation of the work that had begun already in Extract 1.
This sequence begins when both therapists continue with a series of
questions concerning the husband’s thinking concerning his wife.
These other-oriented questions (Brown, 1997; Tomm, 1987, 1988)
invite the husband to reflect in ‘a relaxed situation’ and openly give his
view on the reasons for the wife’s emotional conduct (lines 1–2 and 4).
In response the husband offers his own behaviour as a source of
explanation (line 6). The therapist’s comment ‘You think that it is
related particularly to you?’ (line 7) seems to mark at least partial
disapproval of this account. The husband responds by saying that it
would be impossible for him to act in a way that would not ‘set off in
Tuija something like this’.
These turns are interesting from the point of view of how respon-
sibility is placed. When offering his own way of behaving as the source
of the wife’s ‘emotionality’, the husband seemingly admits responsi-
bility. However, by constructing himself as incapable of behaving in
any way that would not set this off – in his judgement non-preferred –
reaction in her, the call for change is directed towards the wife. Then
again, the use of a mechanical metaphor (‘set [this] off ’) works also to
mitigate the wife’s potentiality for change. Neither one of the actors
seems to possess power to influence the course of events.
Therapist T2 continues with the other-oriented questions (lines 11–
12). He picks up on a claim made by the husband earlier with respect
to the wife being overcome by her emotions. The husband’s response
is somewhat blaming when he states that ‘with less we would get along
better’. The therapist ignores this and returns to the invitation for an
other-oriented account (line 15). The husband’s response, ‘Well it’s
her habit and characteristic’, is interesting. The use of the word
‘characteristic’ gives the understanding that the behaviour would be
difficult to change while, on the other hand, the expression ‘habit’
refers to behaviours over which a person can have more control.
During the extract the husband places the blame on himself; he gives
a view of the situation as intractable; and he hints at the need for
change on the part of the wife.
1 H: Yes, I was in fact kind of annoyed . . . maybe I ought not to have gone
2 because I wish I were not towards Tanja (the daughter) . . . that I
3 would not treat her in a cold and unfeeling way and it annoys
4 me because such was the meeting . . . I couldn’t do it . . . she was
5 muddled and on a respirator and of course that too gave a setting
6 to it . . . but then on the other hand I was annoyed that I perhaps
7 shouldn’t have gone there at all.
8 T1: What would have been . . . if you would imagine that you could have
9 done exactly what you would have wanted to do . . . how would you
10 then have been there?
11 (4)
12 H: Well something like . . . hold her hand and shed a couple of tears
13 over how my oldest daughter is there in a miserable state. . . and to
14 talk comfortingly and to encourage her that we will surely still think
15 of something about how you will move on from this . . .
16 something like that . . . but it was prevented.
1 T2: If somebody . . . some person would say that he is both angry [and
2 T1: [Mm.
3 T2: then at the same moment also at some [point then experiences this
4 T1: [Mm.
5 T2: kind of caring . . .
6 T2: [feelings . . . they would seem in that situation to be . . .
7 T1: [Mm mm.
8 T2: [quite right and adequate feelings.
9 T1: [Mm mm, yeah yeah yeah yeah . . .
10 T2: And now in some [way,
11 T1: [I’m now angry but I’m also very sad and I’m also
12 upset . . . I feel that I’m not able to function . . . I know that I however
13 have to be able to function . . . so kind of all these feelings are there . . .
14 T2: Mm.
15 T1: but . . . some of them are bad . . . some according to Erkki and some
16 according to Tuija.
17 T3: Yes, in my opinion both said however that the original purpose was
18 the same . . . both want to share . . .
19 M: [Mm.
20 T1: [Yes yeah.
21 T3: the matter and think over [the matter . . . as far as I remember
22 rightly so . . .
23 T1: [Yeah mm mm yeah . . .
24 T3: [both said it quite in the same way but . . .
25 T1: [yeah yeah yeah.
26 T1: And then both of them are disappointed over this . . . how did it end
27 up like this . . . why do I see ((laughing from here on)) . . . why does
28 the other have so wrong feelings [that we . . .
29 H: [((laughing))
30 W: [((laughing))
31 T1: can’t share this.
1
This practice pays attention to what Edwards and Potter (1992) call second-level
accountability. They point out that most attention is usually given to first-level accountability,
i.e. how people attribute responsibility for events. How people take or renounce responsibility
for producing attributions is more seldom addressed.
Relational autonomy
The moral dilemma present in the spouses’ talk can, on a more
generic level, be seen as a conflict between two different discourses of
moral justification, i.e. the discourses of autonomy and relationality (cf.
Benhabib, 1987; Gilligan, 1982; Walker, 1998). These discourses
differ in what they consider as morally significant. Moral justification
stressing autonomy highlights individuals’ rights to pursue their own
interests, construct their own personal meanings and make their own
choices. The relationality discourse stresses the value of emotional
support and care; individuals in this discourse are held responsible for
responsiveness to others.
We can approach the question of moral justification by contem-
plating what the potential consequences could have been if the
therapists had adopted either an autonomy discourse or a relational
discourse. The autonomy discourse would have, for example, put an
obligation on the wife not to challenge the husband but to adjust
to the situation as it is. Paradoxically this would also have jeopardized
the wife’s autonomy and offered her an oppressive social role of
self-sacrifice (cf. Card, 1990; Friedman, 1993; Grimshaw, 1986;
Keller, 1997). If the therapists had chosen the discourse of relation-
ality it could have come to mean ignoring the husband’s view of his
inability to change, denying his autonomy, and the validity of his
experiences. The therapists’ responses, however, seemed not to
reinforce either an autonomy discourse or a relationality discourse
alone.
The therapists’ solution to the moral dilemma presented to them
may be said to have followed a principle of relational autonomy. Valuing
autonomy in therapy talk was achieved by strengthening the client’s
discursive displays of agency, while not denying the narrations of a
diminished experience of agency. Valuing relationality was realized by
highlighting the clients’ responsibility for how they related to each
other. Thus we can say that the therapists’ talk produced a situation
where the partners’ autonomy was necessarily understood as rela-
tional (cf. Keller, 1997). Talk arising out of a discourse of relational
autonomy indicates that identity and autonomy are generated from a
matrix of relations.
2
The two therapists in our case were both male and the student was female. It is
interesting to imagine how the conversation might have proceeded if the gender grouping had
been different. We, however, cannot make any a priori assumptions concerning the impact of
the gender of the therapists, and we do not have the possibility here of making comparative
observations, but we do recognize its importance.
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