What To Do When There’s Sexual Tension in

the Air?

You look at her from across the coffee shop.

You guys are face flirting back and forth.

Then you finally make a move and go talk to her.

There is tension. Lots of tension.

But…. you also want to feel comfortable. And you

want her to be relaxed.

However, despite your good intentions, you go

about this in the completely wrong way.

You…

Reveal too much about yourself.

Talk too fast.

No pauses, no silences.

There’s Another Way….

A better way.

If you feel nervous, if you start to feel that

tension…and you know she does too – you
ALWAYS want to reduce the tension with
something physical, not something verbal.
You see, when a man and a woman meet, at first
there’s lots of tension. Trying to reduce it with
talking is natural.

We all do this. It’s automatic.

But instead, if you reduced the tension by making a

physical move (like grabbing her hand) you would
not only relieve some of your nervousness (and hers)
you would also make attraction mutual.

In other words, you would be rewarded for making

each other comfortable.

Unfortunately, you don’t often get rewarded for

making women feel comfortable with your words
and stories.

And once that magical feeling goes away, you’re

usually left with nothing.

The best time to grab her hand is during these

moments of tension.

Unfortunately, these feelings are strongest at the

beginning of a new interaction – so we have to
escalate at the beginning.

When I’m talking to a new girl, my heart is beating

and there’s sexual tension – I just feel like grabbing
her hand.

And I also feel like she wants me to do it.

Now we are more comfortable.

We can relax a bit and have a real conversation.

But I’ve also gotten something out of it. Our

connection has become real and official.

The seduction is now mutual.