There were a lot of moments in my life wherein I thought if I would get

this certain thing, I would be happy. But I was totally wrong, I wasn’t happy. In
the conquest of happiness by Russel I realized that the total reason was pre
occupation with myself.

According to Russel, Man has no struggle at all, they only struggle for
success to outshine others. When I get low scores in class, I’m unhappy because
I failed to succeed and outshine others. I realized that I’m so centered with
myself which makes me unhappy. I know that I have a lot of problems but
people think I have none.

Therefore, how can I eliminate that self-centeredness? As suggested by

Russel, effort is an essential ingredient. But it should be injected with low
expectations. When you make some effort to the things you do, you gain
satisfaction of being able to perform something. But when the result shows up
that you have a low rating, you start to feel disappointed and unhappy.
Disappointment is merely a result of a high expectation. I have put unto myself
that I should not expect a lot. At least when we made effort and we have low
scores, we will not be disappointed, we’re just happy that we did it. Instead of
thinking a lot with ourselves, we should start immersing our self with life. Its
more of a positive mindset to eliminate unhappiness.

As a student, a lot of unhappiness come along with the grade but one of
my best teacher in senior high said to me one time when I failed, “Smile! There’s
more to life than grades”. Happiness is with the people close to us. Sometimes
we are unhappy because we thing no one supports us! That’s where we are
wrong. You can only find true happiness when you go outside and immerse
yourself in life.