Afza Mukaddam

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ASSIGNMENT 1: Informative Writing

OH, IT HURTS!

This is what the princess replied when asked whether her bed was comfortable in the much-loved
children's story, ‘The Princess and the Pea’. Now as teenagers, we know that it was not about
feeling uncomfortable because of the little pea in spite of the many layers of the mattresses but
about the attribute of being sensitive to deep problems which may not be easily visible or
comprehensible. Being sensitive is the ability to be empathic, caring and being able to delve deep
into problems, analysing situations and the need to come up with solutions to alleviate the problems.
Thus this quality was sought to determine whether the princess was a ‘real’ one. Being a princess,
she was required to connect with the people, understand their difficulties, foresee danger and help
the people overcome distress and misery.

Well, the world needs a lot of people possessing the princess's attitude. Sensitivity may not come
naturally to many. It is a virtue that must be inculcated from an early age. It should begin at home
as part of parenting, sensitising children towards their surroundings and enabling a compassionate
outlook in their interactions with family members, friends, neighbours and the less privileged. This
learning should continue in school by making moral science an integral subject in the curriculum.
This may help prevent many children from becoming bullies and subsequently prevent victims.
The school and high school experience for many is an unpleasant one only because of lack of
sensitivity from their peers. Studies show that the repercussions of insensitivity could be as severe
as creating social recluses who, in turn, could turn to antisocial activities or end up with mental
health problems such as depression. A simple gesture of walking up to a classmate or a friend who
seems lonely and who lacks initiative in communicating could rescue him or her from taking a
probable extreme step.

It is worrisome to read and watch instances of indifference where innocent victims of accidents or
mob outrage are ignored by apathetic passers-by. In this advanced digital age, the software of
human emotions seems to be outdated. Time with gadgets is replacing time with family and friends.
The human element seems to be diminishing in this fast paced robotic world. Though it is the
privileged lot; the children and youth in particular, who have embraced the technologically driven
life, thankfully there are many more who choose to be steered by human emotions. These are the
people who look out for each other and reach out to make a difference in the lives of others. Sadly,
these sensitive people could also be vulnerable to ridicule and being labelled as ‘weak’. But this,
obviously is a false notion. Being sensitive does not mean that you are a bundle of nerves and have
no control over your emotions. Being overly sensitive may be a weakness. But for that matter,
anything in excess is harmful. Though there is a difference between being overly sensitive and
highly sensitive. Overly sensitive people can be unreasonable as they are likely to take matters
personally. They are not able to take feedback positively and may suffer from low self-esteem and
low self-image. Over a period of time, their day to day functioning may be affected and they could
need intervention. Highly sensitive people (HSP) feel emotions more deeply than others. For them,
sadness is deep sorrow and joy is pure ecstasy. But this does not mean that they are not in control
of their emotions. On the contrary, they may be able to contribute better with their vivid insights.
Research shows that 15-20% of the world population are HSPs and there are as many men as there
are women in this category. Perhaps our proverbial princess was also required to be ‘highly
sensitive’. The following quote by Brigitte Nicole bravely stands up for sensitivity: ''Never
apologise for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you've got a big heart and aren't
afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.''

While high IQ and an aggressive attitude are required in today's competitive world, emotional
intelligence is also a much sought after attribute. Here is where sensitive people have an advantage
as they are more likely to have high EQ (Emotional Quotient). People with high EQ are likely to
be more circumspect and meticulous in their decision making. Their decisions will always factor
in the emotional aspects. The corporate sector shows its sensitive side by engaging in CSR
activities that is Corporate Social Responsibility. These initiatives aim at making a difference
through taking up social and environmental causes. This shows how important it is to be sensitive.

Well, in defence of sensitivity are also examples of great leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, Mother
Teresa and Nelson Mandela whose greatest strength was love and compassion for their fellow
human beings. Their gentle power is what brought about a revolution in the world through
nonviolent means. Whatever good happens in the world, happens due to a sensitive approach.
Sensitivity towards the weaker sections of society helps them flourish. Sensitivity towards the
environment helps the flora and fauna flourish and helps maintain the ecological balance.
Gestures of sensitivity and graciousness help build personal and social relationships. From Mr.
Barack Obama to the friendly volunteer in your neighbourhood, sensitive people win hearts
regardless of their political or social standing. Sensitive people are the non-judgmental, ever-
accepting agony aunts and uncles who we rush to with all our problems. Wouldn't it be nice to
have more of such people around us?