Professional Documents
Culture Documents
for Happiness
by
Richard London
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Copyright"©2013"by"Richard"London"
P.O."Box"184,"Matthews,"NC"28106"
rlondon@AHandbookForLife.com"
www."AHandbookForLife.com"
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All!rights!reserved.!!No!part!of!this!book!may!be!used!or!
reproduced!by!any!means,!graphic,!electronic,!or!mechanical,!
including!photocopying,!recording,!taping!or!by!any!
information!storage!retrieval!system!without!the!written!
permission!of!the!publisher!except!in!the!case!of!brief!
quotations!embodied!in!critical!articles!and!reviews.!
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A!Handbook!for!Happiness!
Table!of!Contents!
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Forward".................................................................................."iii"
Introduction"............................................................................"1"
What"is"Happiness?"................................................................."2"
Your"Gratitude"List".................................................................."3"
Protect"Your"Mind"..................................................................."5"
Progress"Not"Perfection".........................................................."7"
Laugh"at"Yourself"...................................................................."8"
Understand"What"You"Can"Control"......................................"10"
Like"Yourself".........................................................................."12"
Find"Your"Passion".................................................................."13"
Let"Go"of"Money"Problems"..................................................."14"
Live"With"Integrity"................................................................"15"
Make"Lists"............................................................................."16"
Take"Mini"Vacations".............................................................."17"
Give"Your"Time"Away"............................................................"18"
Summary"..............................................................................."19"
Afterward".............................................................................."21"
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Forward!
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I've!known!Richard!London!for!over!ten!
years.!!!When!confronted!with!multiple!health!
challenges,! he! embraced! the! opportunity! to!
grow.!!He!modeled!what!it!was!like!to!live!life!
despite!physical!struggles.!!!
He!did!more.!!Got!out!there!more.!!Lived!
more.!!Now!Richard!has!completed!his!second!
book.!!!
In!A*Handbook*for*Happiness,!he!shares!
the! life! concepts,! philosophies,! and! practices!
that!have!worked!for!him.!!!
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Like! proverbs,! his! philosophies! are!
deceptively!simple,!yet!they!carry!a!powerful!
message!when!applied.!
Read.!!Apply.!!Repeat.!
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Harvey!Smith!
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Introduction!
What!I’m!about!to!relate!is!a!philosophy!
to! help! you! find! happiness! and! fulfillment!
regardless! of! whatever! challenges! you! may!
face!in!your!life.!!!
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What!is!Happiness?!
In!my!opinion,!happiness!is!an!attitude.!!
You!can!choose!to!be!happy!in!any!situation.!!I!
believe! that! you! can! adopt! a! general!
philosophy!of!happiness!in!your!life.!!!
Helen!Keller!had!plenty!of!reasons!to!be!
bitter! about! life.! ! She! said,! “Resolve! to! keep!
happy,! and! your! joy! and! you! shall! form! an!
invincible!host!against!difficulties.”!!!
The!influential!Baptist!preacher!Charles!
Spurgeon! once! said,! “It! is! not! how! much! we!
have,! but! how! much! we! enjoy! that! makes!
happiness.”!!! !
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Your!Gratitude!List!
A!gratitude!list!is!a!list!of!all!the!things!
that!you!can!think!of!that!you!are!grateful!for!
in! your! life.! ! The! items! on! your! gratitude! list!
can! include! your! health,! loved! ones,! your!
home,!your!job,!or!even!the!fact!that!you!had!
one!good!meal!today.!!!
I!find!it!helpful!to!remember!that!there!
is! always! someone! worse! off! than! me! and!
someone!better!off!than!me.!!!
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to! be! thankful! for! in! your! life?! ! I! think! you’ll!
be!amazed!at!how!a!little!thing!like!making!a!
list! can! fill! you! with! an! attitude! of!
thankfulness.!
Once!you!make!your!gratitude!list!read!
it!out!loud!at!least!once!a!day.!!Update!it!often!
to!keep!the!feelings!fresh.!
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Protect!Your!Mind!
In!order!to!maintain!a!positive!attitude!
it’s!important!to!guard!what!information!you!
allow!to!enter!your!eyes!and!ears.!!!
Have!you!ever!felt!really!engaged!about!
a!news!story!on!TV,!or!a!topic!people!around!
you! were! discussing?! ! We! all! feed! on! energy,!
and!that!includes!energizing!stories.!!!
When!I!was!diagnosed!with!Parkinson’s!
disease! two! years! later! I! specifically! joined! a!
support!group!of!people!who!concentrated!on!
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social! camaraderie! and! didn’t! focus! on! the!
negative!aspects!of!the!disease.!!As!a!result,!I!
not! only! made! new! friends,! but! have!
developed! a! much! more! positive! outlook! on!
how!I!approach!life.!!!
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Progress!Not!Perfection!
One!of!the!biggest!positive!changes!that!
I!made!in!my!life!was!allowing!myself!to!make!
mistakes.! ! I! finally! realized! that! I! was! only!
human.! ! Don’t! expect! to! be! perfect.! ! I! know!
that’s! a! hard! one! sometimes,! but! the! perfect!
person!never!existed!and!probably!never!will.!!!
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Laugh!at!Yourself!
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The!club!attendees!quickly!learned!how!
to! laugh! for! no! reason! and! enjoy! themselves.!!
Laughter!club!attendees!experienced!reduced!
stress,! and! an! increased! sense! of! happiness!
and! wellness! throughout! the! day.! ! Today!
there!are!over!8,000!clubs!in!65!countries.!
! Laughing!for!no!reason!can!seem!a!little!
strange!at!first.!!A!few!years!ago!my!wife!and!I!
took! our! daughter! to! a! laughter! club! session.!!
My! daughter! spent! the! first! ten! minutes!
laughing! at! her! parents! and! the! rest! of! the!
hour!laughing!with!us.!
When!was!the!last!time!you!had!a!good!
belly! laugh?! Do! you! remember! how! it! made!
you!feel?!!Laughter!is!good!medicine.!!!
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Seek! out! a! laughter! club! in! your! area.!!
Just! Google! “Laughter! club”! and! your! city’s!
name.!!What!do!you!have!to!lose?! !
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Understand!What!You!Can!Control!
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How! many! times! have! you! stressed!
yourself! out! trying! to! change! a! situation! that!
was!out!of!your!control?!!In!actuality,!there’s!
no! one! in! this! world! you! can! control! but!
yourself.! ! Think! about! that! for! a! moment.! ! If!
you! can! only! control! your! actions! why!
frustrate! yourself! when! other! people! do,!
think,!or!say!something!that!bothers!you?!!!
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Like!Yourself!
Don’t!let!someone!else’s!opinion!of!you!
define! your! opinion! of! yourself.! ! As!
adolescents! we! were! all! sensitive! to! the!
opinions!of!others.!!The!problem!is!that!many!
times! we! still! rely! on! the! approval! of! others!
well!into!our!adult!years.!!!
How!do!you!react!when!people!criticize!
you?!!Are!you!immediately!defensive?!Do!you!
begin!doubting!your!actions?!
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Find!Your!Passion!
Find!something!you!love!to!do!and!do!it.!!
If! you! can! do! it! every! day,! great!! ! If! you! can!
only! do! it! once! a! week,! or! a! couple! times! a!
month!that’s!OK.!!At!least!you!have!something!
to!look!forward!to!on!a!regular!basis.!
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Let!Go!of!Money!Problems!
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Of!all!the!problems!people!face!in!their!
lives! money! problems! are! among! the! most!
disruptive.! ! It’s! hard! for! many! of! us! to! be!
happy!when!we’re!worrying!about!our!debts.!!
Everything!we!do!seems!to!require!money!in!
some!way.!!!
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Live!With!Integrity!
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Have!you!ever!told!a!little!white!lie!(or!
worse)!because!it!was!convenient!at!the!time?!!
Have!you!ever!felt!uncomfortable!after!doing!
something!that!you!knew!was!dishonest?!!
Having!integrity!in!your!life!allows!you!
to! sleep! soundly! when! you! put! your! head! on!
your! pillow! at! night,! and! look! others! in! the!
eye!with!confidence.!!Isn’t!that!how!you!want!
to!live?!! !
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Make!Lists!
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If!so,!make!a!list.!Keep!a!pen!and!paper!
handy! wherever! you! go.! ! ! When! you!
remember! something! that! you! need! to! do!
write! it! down.! ! That! allows! you! to!
immediately! put! that! task! out! of! your! mind!
and!not!worry!about!it.!
Do!you!get!overwhelmed!about!starting!
the! tasks! on! your! list?! ! Do! whatever! you!
dread!most!first.!!Get!it!out!of!the!way.!!That!
way!you!will!not!only!be!relieved!that!the!task!
is! done,! you! will! also! view! the! remaining!
tasks!as!easier!to!tackle.!
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Take!Mini!Vacations!
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Take!what!I!call!mini!vacations.!!A!mini!
vacation! could! be! taking! a! walk! at! lunch,! or!
surprising! your! spouse! with! a! dinner! out.! ! A!
mini! vacation! could! be! a! three! day! weekend!
in!the!mountains!once!a!month,!or!a!daily!15!
minute!meditation.!
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Give!Your!Time!Away!
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Remember!what!I!said!in!the!chapter!on!
gratitude! lists?! ! There! is! always! someone!
worse! off! and! someone! better! off! than! you.!!
Find!an!organization!where!you!can!volunteer!
to!help!someone!else.!!I!guaranty!that!you!will!
receive!as!much!if!not!more!of!a!reward!from!
the!experience!as!the!people!you!helped.!
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Summary!
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• Happiness!is!a!decision.!
• Make! a! gratitude! list! of! the! things! you!
are!thankful!for!and!update!it!often.!!
• Protect! your! mind! from! negative!
influences.!!
• Don’t! expect! to! be! perfect.! ! Remember,!
Progress!not!Perfection.!
• Laugh!at!yourself.!
• The! only! person! in! the! world! you! can!
control! is! you.! ! Don’t! get! frustrated!
trying!to!control!others.!
• Don’t! judge! yourself! based! on! the!
opinions!of!others.!
• Find! your! passion! and! make! it! part! of!
your!life.!
• Live!with!integrity.!
• Let!go!of!money!problems.!
• Make! lists! to! keep! from! being!
overwhelmed.!
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• Take! mini! vacations! to! be! more!
productive.!
• Give! your! time! away.! ! Helping! others!
increases!your!happiness.!
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Afterward!
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In!friendship,!
Richard!London!
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