The first story in the bible where the lesseon of offendedness occurs is in the

Saga of Abel and cain (Genesis 4:3-7). And since we are taught that Genesis is a
book a of beginings I am convinced that the lesson for both sides belongs there.
Cain is the father of the offended Keep in mind that in most cases,you can't be
offended unless you are an "offender" in other words those who are offended are
most times are offenders of that which they are offended by.

Being offended means that you have hurt feelings and you largely "EMOTIONALLY"
disagree with what has been done or said and that you take it "PERSONALLY" because
you "FEEL" unjustly treated. And because of that you "assume" certain motives on
the part of the offender and "react" to what has happened.

Just laying out the crime scence lol.

Being offended is the very opposite of forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you
pardon another his offenses towards you, whereas being offended means you hold on
to a grudge (as Cain did with Abel), even where there is no offense (as with Abel
towards Cain).

being offended leads to illegitimate attitudes and emotional states of self-pity,

resentment, bitterness, anger, hatred, unforgiveness, jealousy, and vengeance. From
there, one can go on to theft, deceit, revenge, violence, and murder, which are
often and inevitably the end result of these passions if left unchecked, as was the
case with Cain.

Pride and selfishness most often cause offendedness. But for God�s grace, we all
have an image of ourselves that is selfishly biased. We forbid anyone touching our
ego. When that forbiddance is violated or overcome, we are offended.

Once again, being offended comes from pride, an expression of self-righteousness

that is contrary to God�s sovereignty and His righteousness.

Jesus says that being offended can lead to betrayal and hate.

�And then many will be offended, and will betray one another, and will hate one
another� (Matthew 24:10 MKJV).

Are not the desire and attitude just as wrong as the act?

I have had people offended at me, in some cases because I have done them wrong, but
in most cases because I spoke the truth frankly about them and they did not like
it. They were bitter and would not forgive, no matter what I did. So is fulfilled
the proverb:

�A brother offended is like a strong city; and their disagreements are like the
bars of a fortress� (Proverbs 18:19 MKJV).

What about the offender? Is the one offending wrong simply because someone was
offended by what he said or did even if it was in truth.

There is a need to speak truth, even if it happens to offend. If I compromise, I

can find myself inadvertently siding with wrongness and losing the reward and favor
from both man and God.

A baby can whine if it does not like something because it doesn't know better.
What's your excuse? Stop getting offended whenever the wind blows your hair the
wrong way! We will get nowhere if we continue to avoid truths to avoid offense.

They simply don't like the taste of the bittersweet truth

The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won�t be with others, but
with yourself

Some people take offense like it's a limited time offer.

The moment you say that any idea system is sacred, whether it�s a religious belief
system or a secular ideology, the moment you declare a set of ideas to be immune
from criticism, satire, derision, or contempt, freedom of thought becomes
impossible

Those who are determined to be �offended� will discover a provocation somewhere. We

cannot possibly adjust enough to please the fanatics, and it is degrading to make
the attempt.

It is much more agreeable to offend and later ask forgiveness than to be offended
and grant forgiveness.

Leaders create influence with the clays of criticism others throw at them. They
don't take offence; they take corrections.

Offence is like muddy soil; when trapped underfoot, it resists rapid progress.
Don't trap offences under your mind, else you resist change! Jesus said "Shake the
soil off your sandals"! What are you waiting for? Shake it off!

to be honest the feeling of being offended is a warming indicator that is showing

you where to "LOOK" within yourself for unresolved issues.

People have tried to corner the market on being offended. Ask yourself why did it
hurt you so much. Most time the offended is basically telling the world you can't
control your emotions so everyone should do it for you.

People can destroy people; People can also decorate. The former are misleaders; the
latter are leaders

beign easly offended is a sign of selfishness, insesurity and lack of wisdom. It

appears as a small problem, but in reality it will keep you from experiencing God's
best for your life.