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HADAS WISEMAN
University of Haifa
enjoyed strong social support from their overseas triends. Limitations of the study
and directions for future research on overseas loneliness are discussed and
implications for counselors are suggested.
college students study far away from home in a new culture for a finite
period of time, while undergoing changes in the balance of different
relationships in their lives, is certainly unique. In such a transitional,
international experience, students are faced both with problems that
confront anybody living in a foreign culture, as well as with difficulties
that face all late adolescents and young adults, whether they are study-
The author is indebted to Amia Liebhch for her assistance in the realization of this work,
to Roanne Feinberg for her invaluable part in this research, to Michal Givon for her
assistance with the interview material, and to Rachel Seginer for her helpful comments and
suggestions. Finally special gratitude is given to the overseas students who participated in
the study for sharing their experiences.
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ness Scale (Russell, Peplau, & Cutrona, 1980). Studies investigated the
at a
metropolitan university in the Netherlands found that the more
adapted students experienced less depression, interpersonal helpless
ness, and loneliness (Van-Rooijen, 1986). Indeed, it seems likely that the
faced with a cultural transition, their loneliness scores will be higher than
those of the normative sample (Russell et al., 1980) of American college
students in the United States; (2) Based on previous loneliness research
with college students, it is hypothesized that the variables of quality of
interpersonal relations will be more predictive of loneliness than the
variables of quantity of social interactions; and (3) Within the variables
of quality of interpersonal relations, ratings of the quality of current
In addition to the
questionnaire data, interview data seemed most
suitable for better
understanding the individual's experience of loneli
ness
through his/her subjective reportings. As Stokes (1987) and others
(Rubenstein & Shaver, 1982; Weiss, 1987; Wiseman, 1995) have argued,
in order to focus on the
processes involved in loneliness and its meaning
to different people in different circumstances, there is a need for a more
METHOD
PARTICIPANTS
The sample consisted of 105 overseas students (47 males and 58 females)
attending a one-year program at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem in
Israel. They were all single and their mean age was 21.36 (SD 3.01) for =
the males and 20.32 (SD 1.58) for the females. The students had already
=
program were
segregated in special classes (given in English) in the
overseas school.
They lived together in the same dorms and had specially
organized social activities. A subsample of twenty students (11 females
and 9 males) participated in an in-depth personal interview.
INSTRUMENTS
THE INTERVIEW
as
part of their current overseas experience. In addition, other questions
about loneliness included, such as, "What do you do when you feel
were
PROCEDURE
questionnaires an
participate in an in-depth personal
invitation to
interview with the investigator. They were asked to come forward
upon completing the booklet, and to sign up for the interview. The
first twenty subjects who accepted the invitation and were willing to
participate were interviewed. A comparison between the loneliness
scores of this subgroup and of the larger group showed that while
RESULTS
The mean UCLA loneliness scores of the overseas students were com
Russell: M =
37.06, SD 10.91; z .94, n.s.), and females (Overseas: M
= = =
36.09, SD =
8.06; Russell: M 36.06, SD=
10.11; z .02, n.s). As in the
= =
a non-overseas
university sample of American students.
10. Loneliness
Note Frequency frequency of contact with friends in Israel; Dating dating status, Eat + Weekends
= =
=
combined frequency of eating dinner alone and spending weekends alone, Satisfaction-family -
satisfaction m relations with family, Satisfaction-friends satisfaction in relations with friends in Israel,
=
Satis -friends-home =
satisfaction in relations with friends back home, Same-sex intimacy intimacy =
scores with same-sex friend in Israel, Opposite-sex intimacy intimacy scores with opposite-sex
=
friend/partner, Arrive =
time since arrival in Israel; Loneliness =
UCLA loneliness scores
.001). Entering the variables in the other order with the quality variables
first, the results of the MRA indicated that the quality variables explained
39%, and that the R change for the quantity variables was nonsignifi
cant. Hence, the second hypothesis was confirmed in that the
quality of
social relations was more
predictive of loneliness than the quantity of
social interactions.
To test the prediction of the loneliness scores by the quantity and
Beta
F_ R2 Change
Quantitative Predictors (Stepwise)
I. weekends alone -.37 16.04** .14
Eating +
was entered forth (2.2%). Hence, the results of the MRA that included
both the quantity and quality variables indicated that the best predictors
were the three quality variables and the one quantity variable. Taken
gories (as agreed upon by the judges), and the percentage of respondents
for each category. An account of the themes that emerged from the
interview data with regard to the students' relationships with family,
friends, and romantic partner are beyond the scope of the present study.
In what follows, the major themes that emerged with regard to loneliness
are
presented, including some examples of the interviewees' own words
in telling the story of the overseas experience.
Loneliness During the First Week. Most of the students reported having
experienced some bouts of loneliness during the first few days to a week
(see Table 3). This seemed to be a time when many students were seeking
out people to establish friendships. For some, this was quite a difficult
period. One woman reported: "When I first moved into the apartment
here, I felt a little bit alone because my roommate had a boyfriend and
all the other girls in the apartment had been here for three weeks already
and they were already meeting people and they knew people. Two of
the other girls in my suite had boyfriends and the other two had their
eye on somebody. I kind of felt left out in a sense."
Ease of Making Friends and Seeking Friends as a Priority. Many students
group of friends. "I met people the first week just because everybody
said, 'We're going out this night and we're going out the other night.'
We basically stuck with the same core of the group we started. ..there are
about four to five of us. I met them about the first or second week. We
all lived in the same building; so we would meet in one room or another
at night and play cards or listen to music or talk."
Interviewees described a
strong desire shared by the students on the
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3. Seeking friends as a
priority 60
4e. Boredom 15
5d Wallow 15
5e. Self-reflection 10
overseas
program to make friends with one another, which facilitated
their building of a network. "Especially at the university here, everyone
came and
everyone was in the same situation, everybody was in a new
culture, a new place, thrown together into Ulpan (an intensive program
for learning the Hebrew language). So, it made it really easy because
my parents. You have your family there, it's not like you're ever really
lonely." Interestingly, all the interviewees whose responses fell into this
category where the ones with relatively low UCLA loneliness scores.
That is, they were not typically lonely individuals.
Other times of loneliness feelings related to the absence of intimate
relations made in Israel, including feeling distant from a romantic part
ner who is not
nearby, or feeling distant from close friends made at
Hebrew University ("I feel very lonely when I'm sitting in my room and
my roommate isn't there and the other people around the dorm are at
classes, and I'm sitting there and my boyfriend is away)."
Another circumstance precipitating loneliness, which was not quite as
widely reported though still seemed fairly common (see Table 3), was
being amidst ones peers, but feeling lack of connection to them ("I feel
lonely when I'm sitting with someone talking and I realize we're not
connecting at all. ...I'm sitting with them and they appear interested in
me, but they really don't care.").
A few students indicated that feelings of loneliness arose during times
while there was a lull in activity when they were feeling boredom. For
these individuals loneliness did not subside after the early initial period
of adjustment, but rather was experienced at a fairly steady rate through
out the year. Interestingly, these students' UCLA loneliness scores were
playing guitar, doing crafts, and just "keeping busy"), which could
distract them from their state. An almost similarly large number of
responses were related to establishing some kind of interpersonal
contact, whether this included writing a letter, calling family mem
bers, or going to visit a friend. A few students responded in a manner
that could best be described as
wallowing. They seemed to have little
desire to do anything but dwell on their
feelings as they waited for
them to pass.
Lack of Friendships with Native Israelis. Almost all of the students got
to know only a few Israelis, and usually as not more than acquain
felt with Israel and the Jewish people. In terms of what part this overseas
experience will play in their future, most students said that while they
enjoyed their current experience in Israel very much, they did not foresee
living in Israel permanently in the future.
DISCUSSION
culture. This situation which involves both being at a great distance from
one's family andformer social network, as well as involving a transition
to culture, language and social environment, is one which can be
a new
One of the most interesting findings that emerged refers to the rela
tively low level of loneliness experienced by our sample of overseas
new
country, without their family and friends, wherein they needed
to adjust to a new culture. However, as indicated also by the interview
studies have shown that the source of the support offered by social
ties whether it is from the immigrant's ethnic group or from
own
members of the host society is not relevant (Kuo & Tsai, 1986).
Indeed, it has been suggested that social support from coethnic ties
isjust as valuable
support from members of the host society, but
as
pressure to obtain social support from the host society (i.e., Israeli
students).
that have the student's social relations back home, are most
impeded
likely contributing to difficulties in the new social environment.
many also who chose to take an active role in hastening the dissipa
tion of their loneliness. Due to the lack of differentiation between
study (all participants were at least six weeks since arrival). In order
to address these issues infuture research, there is a need to differen
tiate state vs. trait loneliness
(e.g., Hazan & Hutt, 1995; Shaver et al.,
1985), and to obtain assessments of loneliness before, during, and
after the overseas experience. Such a longitudinal design could en
able identification of students at risk for loneliness and relate their
loneliness to expectations from the experience. The role of
overseas
program. Counselors can also gain from exploring with students the
degree of their satisfaction with their friendships back home, as this
emerged as an important predictor of loneliness. Those students who are
dissatisfied with the friendships they left behind are at higher risk for
loneliness, possibly due to their expectations that are difficult to fulfill
and the lack of a secure social base. Although an overseas program such
as the one studied, which involves separate English speaking classes and
housing together with other overseas students, limits the contact with
the host society, this structure has the advantage of facilitating the
development of dense social networks. Finally, both individual and
group approaches to crisis intervention, including building networks
and social support (Rook, 1984), are suggested as the treatment of choice
for treating loneliness in overseas students.
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