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Myself As A Communicator 2
Myself As A Communicator 2
A. Brousseau
COMM 1010
23 February 2020
Being introduced to a different aspect of the people that deal with my interactions every
day was not something that typically crosses my mind. After interviewing three people in
questioned my mother, Vanessa, of whom I communicate with at several points throughout the
day. The second person who underwent an interview was my boyfriend of 3 years, Chewek, who
I also interact with throughout the day. The last person that I assessed was my coworker,
Stephanie, that I have worked with for 1 year. These interviews resulted in many tips and
perspectives such as clarity, simplicity, and patience in my words and demeanor that will aid me
concerns and needs. She elaborated on this point explaining that although I might not explicitly
state my concerns vocally, she can usually tell by my facial expressions or demeanor when there
I am holding back my words. However, she did note that around family, I am more open at
expressing my opinions and views on matters such as chores and other family conflicts without
much hesitation.
Chewek made a clear point that my communication with him has improved throughout
our relationship. He did notice a gradual transition of comfort expressing my needs and concerns
to him and states that I am disclose more concerns with him now than I ever had. He expressed
Stephanie noticed the high levels of discomfort I possess when I may have a concern or
need at work. She mentioned that when my boss or other superiors give me certain tasks that
might be out of my job description or I do not have the resources to accomplish the work, I
hesitate turning the work away and find ways to complete the work despite struggling. However,
she did explain that if we didn't speak as often as we do at work, that she would not notice that I
was uncomfortable completing these tasks. She also noted that if I were to ask my other
coworkers who I do not have very developed relationships with, they would most likely say that
I am more open with my needs, and concerns because I barely address them.
The results of this question average that I am somewhat decent at articulating my needs,
views, opinions, and concerns but struggle with it on occasion. These results somewhat line up
with my perception of my communication skills. I felt that my communication was stronger with
my family than anybody else. My coworker's response did not surprise me as I tend to be very
submissive in the workplace. I was a little surprised with my mother's response. I feel that I am
very open with her about my needs and concerns but as she explained that she can determine my
concerns through my expression and body language, I realized that I might not have been talking
A goal that has arisen from these projects is to become more vocal about my needs and
opinions. I was a little disappointed as I mentioned above that I was not as open with my mother
as I was with my boyfriend but with this experiment, I hope to be able to use her words to
Vanessa explained that she sometimes feels that I have selective hearing. She says that it
has improved over the last several years but feels that I still have it presently. When it comes to
emotional situations, Vanessa felt that I was very open to her words and would listen to what she
was trying to explain. She also mentioned that during arguments, I listen to what others have to
Chewek mentioned that it appears as if I zoned out when he speaks sometimes. He also
stated that if he is talking about something that does not interest me or seems important, I also
don't listen fully either. However, he did mention that during more emotional conversations and
Stephanie mentioned that it does seem like I dose off a little or get distracted by my
surroundings at times during conversations. Along with everyone else she mentioned that
although we have had very few serious conversations, during those conversations, I seem to be
This question resulted in bringing my poor listening skills to light. I learned that I am a
good listener when people need me to be but am a poor listener when people want me to be a
good listener. I was aware that I do get distracted during conversations at times. However, I
didn't realize I did it as much as I do. All three mentioned that I am a good listener when they
need someone to help with their issues or frustrations but when it comes down to hearing their
stories or telling me something funny, they saw on social media, I don't listen very well.
My analysis also lined up with these results. I was expecting to be a mediocre listener but
I ended up feeling like a poor listener. My self-assessment score was also somewhat low and
reflects how I am as a listener. Now that I have become more aware of my listening skills, I am
sure that I will use this input to improve these skills to make communication more pleasurable
with me.
III. What aspects of my nonverbal behavior are effective? What can be improved?
My mom mentioned that my face is very telling about my feelings and thoughts. She
states that my face is an open book and can easily be read by almost anyone. She also notices
that in public spaces, I seem tenser but try to hide my tenseness with a small smile. Something I
forgot I do in which she brought up in our conversation is that whenever I don't want people to
approach me, especially salespeople, I look down or put on a serious face to send the message
that I do not want to be approached. To improve my nonverbal behavior, she thinks that I should
be more open and less anxious about what others think. She stated that if I am not interested in a
product, to turn the salesmen down and that my awkward demeanor in public spaces make things
even more awkward. She thinks that if I walk around with more confidence, it will prevent
people from being uncomfortable with me and prevent me from being uncomfortable around
others.
Chewek mentioned that I always have a smile and it might occasionally make people
uncomfortable or feel like I "faking" it. He also agreed with my mother in the sense that my
facial expressions explain exactly how I am feeling or what I want to have done which he thinks
is a beneficial skill to have even when the expression is negative. He feels that the only thing I
can improve on is flashing a smile when I mean it so that people do not get the wrong
impression.
Stephanie along with the other two interviewees agreed that I do smile too much at times
that it might be giving the impression that I am unhappy but trying to hide it. She also noticed
that when I am uncomfortable with someone at work, I tend to pull myself to the very back
corner of the desk and will shake my head with the answers. She says that it seems pretty
noticeable to others that I am uncomfortable and in turn, makes others uncomfortable. She said
that I can improve on "faking it to make it." She said that if I do not want people to know I am
uncomfortable or want to have better customer service skills, I need to be able to handle those
think that I would be able to hide some of my negative feelings with a smile and thought I was
doing somewhat decent in covering those feelings and appearing more confident. After hearing
their answers to the question, I realized that this was not always the case. I think that Stephanie's
comment "fake it to make it" was a great way to out it. Although I want all of my communication
to be genuine and honest with people, I do not think that will go over well when my clients who
might be annoying at the moment get the sense that I am annoyed or when my mom wants me to
do the dishes and she can sense my irritation with the dirty dishes.
I was really surprised that my smile was brought up by all three people. I did not think
that it was that obvious but reflecting on it, I understand what they are saying. I don't recall
seeing someone smile for hours on end. Using their answers, I will work on my demeanor. I
think that it would be a very beneficial skill to maintain a positive demeanor even though there
might be some negative feelings. Even beyond this interview, this is a topic that my boyfriend
when I speak and interact with her or others in her presence, besides the occasional lack of
listening, I devote a large quantity of interest and passion. She also mentioned that I usually
Chewek mentioned that I can interpret the surroundings and the group of people that we
are interacting with and can communicate with people very well once I become comfortable. He
also mentioned that I work with people and occasionally overelaborate to make sure they
Stephanie mentioned that when people have questions at our work, I will explain things
to them step by step and verify that they have a proper understanding before sending them off.
She also noted several instances where department are does not cover their question, but I take
the time to listen to them in depth so that I can direct them to the proper place to avoid the "run-
a-round." She compared these traits to herself where she mentioned that she usually keeps thinks
simple and people will come back still lost whereas no one ever comes back after I explain to
I learned that I am very open and aware of the people I come in contact with. I think that
openness to every unique situation is one of the best features of communication. I think that the
interview's responses align with what I responded with on the self-assessment. Along with
everything else, I do not usually think that these traits are noticeable or that important but as I
spoke with the interviewees, it became apparent that this is something people might observe.
Seeing that my interviewee's observations are like what I feel are my strengths have
shown me that people are more observant than I think. It makes me excited that I might be
encouraging people to also do the same and realize their strengths. I think the ability to be
adaptable and helpful/mindful to others can be beneficial and less time consuming for both
parties.
Vanessa admitted that my biggest weakness is losing patience. She explained that
sometimes when I am not understanding or correctly interpreting the words coming out of
someone's mouth, I tend to get a little irritated or just completely close off halfway through a
sentence. She also states that I do not take a second look at clarifying what I misinterpreted and
instead just take in the first part and ignore the rest.
Chewek suggested that my biggest weakness is clarity. He says I tend to include many
unnecessary details, backstories, and present stories that tend to distract the general point of the
original story. He said "For example, the storyline is that you drove to Walmart to get some ice
cream and came back home and enjoyed it. But you mention what time of day it was when you
had the craving for the ice cream, what time and who was outside when you got into the car, how
many people cut you off on the way there, where you parked in the parking lot, how many
different flavors you contemplated, who you ran into at the store, how long the check out line
took, which road you decided to drive home on and the traffic on all routes, and then you will
regress to your first time trying that ice cream flavor and how many times you have had it since
that point in time, and then you'll talk about another story you had at Walmart. By the end, I
Stephanie stood strong with the first question being my weakness. She thinks that it
would be more beneficial to my relationship and happiness with my position if I was vocal about
my feelings, needs, and concerns. She feels that to become a better communicator, that is one of
the key points is to be able to openly address any concerns one might have.
I learned that even though my weaknesses varied between responses, they are all
important issues that need to be improved to progress my relationships with everyone and make
communication enjoyable for both parties. My perception was mainly concerned about the fact
that I would easily tell little white lies to make people happy not realizing that it could result in
negative consequences until it was too late. Seeing these different responses than mine, I have a
Hearing Chewek's explanation annoyed me at first but after letting it sink in and hearing
what my mother's thoughts on my weaknesses were a few hours beforehand, I realized I needed
to clarify what he was saying and realize that it was a joke that represented the way I do interact
with people. After thinking about his words, I realized it was true because I caught myself doing
Vanessa stated that conversations with me are interesting because I always have a story
to tell and can keep the conversation going for a little while. She states that I at times will make
sure she doesn't need help with anything. She also expressed that despite any of my strengths and
weaknesses, I "visit" her words passionately and will attempt to share powerful meanings and
responses.
Chewek states that I laugh frequently at our conversations whether it is good or bad. He
mentioned that this feature is a side weakness but also a strength that despite my mood, I will
respond with a giggle or laugh often throughout our conversations. He also stated that even
though I giggle throughout the conversations, I also maintain a level of seriousness during
serious conversations and a level of joy when I am extremely happy. He recalled some of the
first conversations we had before we started dating and mentioned that I was very awkward, to
begin with, but states that I have changed majorly in not only our relationship but with the
Stephanie mentioned that I have very light-hearted conversations. She states that I am
very strong in making sure everything is right whether that is at-home situations or at work
emails but that I try not to have too many serious conversations. She also mentioned that I a lot
I learned that all three people agreed that I speak with strong emotion behind my words
but don't take everything on a serious note. My mom mentioned that I am also willing to help as
needed and will offer my services often. Chewek mentioned the giggling which I also did not
know I did until after it was brought up to me in this interview. I noticed that it happens in
situations where I am more nervous than usual, but it also happens when I feel extremely
My perception is that I tend to try to cater to people's needs. I thought this is something I
did often, and I still feel like I do even though it wasn't entirely brought up by any of the
interviewees. I think the giggling would be something that I should work on to prevent people
from thinking that I am taking away the emotion from a deeper conversation.
This assignment was very beneficial to me in many ways. I think being able to look at my
communication skills from the standpoint of other important people in my life was a good way to
fully see how I am and how I can fix my setbacks and enhance what I already have. It was
interesting to see the differing views on my communication skills from not only interviewees but
This assignment has also benefitted me in the form of having more patience. Since each
individual socializes in different ways, I think that learning and monitoring my patience levels
will improve my conversations with the people around me. I will have a better understanding of
what they are hearing and seeing when they are speaking with me and I can learn how to better
accommodate their needs. Overall, I would look through these conversations I had that they
might not have mentioned and the things they did address to help me with my communication