WHAT TO DO DURING A

TEMPER TANTRUM

“You are so mad. You are showing me
1. Label the emotion how much you wanted that candy.”

"I can see you’re angry. When you
2. State the next steps calm down, I’ll give you a hug and
we can talk about what happened.”

“Your arms are doing this (cross your
3. Mirror your child arms). Your face looks like this (mirror his
facial expression).” Then label the emotion.

4. Redirect their “I see you’re upset. I wish I could help you

calm down. Can you draw a picture to
energy show me how mad you are?”

5. Reassure your “I love you no matter what you say. But

we need to take a break and then talk
child about this.”

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 WHAT NOT TO DO DURING A

TEMPER TANTRUM

Giving in teaches him that all he has to
1. Don't give in do when he wants something is go
berserk.

Ignoring your child makes him feel less
2. Don't ignore it safe.

3. Don't punish Research shows it doesn't work anyway.

You can't reason with a child in the
4. Don't reason middle of a tantrum. Her brain just won't
compute what you’re trying to say.

The maybe-I-can-talk-some-sense-into-her
5. Don't ask questions approach will probably intensify the
tantrum and make it last even longer.

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