IS THIS THE RIGHT PERSON

"And the Lord God said, ° It is not

good that man should be alone l will

make him a helper comparable tQ

him"(Genesis 2 1 😎.

Objectives

1. To understand the importance of staying under God's cover

and within the walls of protection indicated in the word ofGod.

2. To encourage every young person to live each stage of their

lives without rushing or feeling anxious but focusing theirhearts on God.

3. To understand that God gave us free will and respects our

decisions but that we will have a blessed future if we takehis wilt into account.

§ 4. To understand that God called us to restore families.

INTRODUCTION

God has said that it is not good for man to be alone and soHe rewarded him with a helper comparable to
him, a suitableone, We could even say that he was given a perfect helper.Perhaps a great number of
young people are asking themselvesa number of questions today, sucH as : who's the right person
forme? Am ! ready to get married? How do [ handle my emotions?A number of questions come up that
can sometimes confuse

them, and make them feel like they are trapped in one, bigquestion mark they cannot get out of.
parents worry as welland ask themselves how to best deal with their children, what
to teach them and what to do the day they say : "Mum, dad, / likethis person.II

It is interesting to see what the Word of God

teaches us about the right and wrong ways of

starring a relationship there we find examples of

people who did things the right way but we also

find others who did not, and that is why we should

try to understand God's message and ways for

our lives today,

1. THE RIGHT KIND OF FRIENDSHIPS

The bible teaches us about a young girl named Dinah who wasJacob's daughter. She was loved by her
parents and siblings who

would look after her zealously. As I was studying Dinah's story, I foundthat they had given her certain
parameters, limits and principles, but

\ also tound tRat"Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she hadborne to Jacob, went out to see the
daughters of the land. And

when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prin ce of the country,saw her, he took her and lay with
her, and violated her"QG\enes\s

34 : 1-2). The first thing we learn about Dinah's life is that she sought

friends she did not need, she formed close friendships that were notin her best interest, with girls from
Siquem, a completely pagan city,Like Dinah, many young people may ask why can l be friends withthat
person even if they don't share my values? And the answer isthat they can contaminate your life and
lead you to do things that donot please the Lord. The first step a young person should take is tobe
cautious with their friendships and take care of friendship circlesthat lie close to their hearts.

As a parent it is very important to ask the Lord to share his wisdom

with us so that we can guard our children's lives in prayer and they
can find the friends they need ; the Apostle Paul said : "... prayitrg

always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchfulto this end with all perseverance and
supp[ication for all the saints"(Ephesians 6 : 18).

Dinah possessed the wrong kind of compassion as she perhaps

thought she could bring her friends closer to God. That was not

the case however, as her friends in fact pulled her away from God.

It is important that you know that Jesus the savior of this worldhas more compassion than we do
ourselves. He is a completely

compassionate God who loves humanity and has therefore given

His son fof us, Let us not have the wrong kind of compassion. we

have seen many cases in which people have let go of God because

felt the wrong kind of compassion for others.

they

The Lofd said

"The heart is deceitful above all things, and

desperately wicked ; who can know it? I, the Lord,

search the heart, / test the mind, even to give every

marl accolding to his ways, according to the lruit of

his doings"(Jeremiah 1 79-1 0).

2. KEEP YOURSELF FROM THE WORLD I

The second characteristic observed in Dinah is that the she exposedherself to the dangers of the world.
The Apostle John said in his firstepislle"Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone
loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is inthe world-the tust of the flesh, the
lust of the eyes, and the prideof life-is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is

passing away, and the lust of it ; but he who does the will of Godabideslorver''(1 John 2:15-17).

Once a person walks into the enemy's territory, they can be attackedseverely because the enemy is
looking to destroy lives. He wants tobreak those who have been called and make them unhappy. This is

why it is so important do be under God's cover.

The cover mentioned is the collection of values

and principles that parents have given their

children : it is the church that God has put in your

lives,

When we walk away from this cover voluntarily, the enemy launchesthe kind of attacks that can destroy
someone's life. The Apostledeclared that : "For whatever is bom of God overcomes the world.And this is
the victory that has overcome the world-our fai th. Whois he who overcomes the world, but he who
believes that Jesus i8the Son of God? This is He who came by water and blood-JesusChrist ; not only by
water, but by water and blood. And it is the Spiritwho bears witness, because the Spirit is truth"11 John
54-61.

The anointing to overcome each temptation the

world sends your way is within you,

The characteristic that brings a person under spiritual cover is

obedience as this teaches us parameters, principles and how to do

things the right way. Somebody who does not want to be underthis cover thinks "l will not do things that
way, l will do them my

own way. " You should make the decision today to be an obedient

person to God and His word, knowing that He always wants thebest for us. Many young people think
they are always right andblock out other people's teachings and attempts to show them a

greater path. Nevertheless it is important to listen to our parents'advice as well as our spiritual parents
and our leaders, the person

God places over us to guide us. Being obedient is very important,

"Obey those who rule over you, and be submissive, for they
watch out for your souls, as those who must give account.

Let them do so with joy and not with grief, for that would beunprofitable for you"(Hebrews 1 3 : 17).

3. Living free of shame and dishonor

By not following the values that were established, Dinah was put

to shame and dishonored. She experienced much grief and went

through something that nobody would want to experience. All her

suffefing was a direct consequence of ignoring the limits outlined at

hoMe,

Every young person needs to foster principles and

respect them, Parents are their role models each

and every one of you, mothers and fathers alike,

are a living example of these principles,

It is necessary for each young person to learn to guard the purityand integrity in their heart. This is a
very serious matter. Dinahteaches us a great deal. The wise King Solomon said :"Watchover your heart
with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life"(Proverbs 4 : 23, NASB).

Dinah moved away from the Lord's parameters ; she started todevelop an interest for what she should
not. She began to look at

the things happening far away and observed a number of youngPeople who possessed customs and
traditions different to her own.

the began to move away from the protection o«ered at home andin the end experienced much grief.

God wants to bless each young person and He

does so when they remain under his cover, The

Lord has lifted up walls of protection around the

lives of young people and it is fundamental that

they stay within those walls if they do so, He will

bless them greatly.

4. KNOWWG HOW TO WAIT FOR GOD'S TIMING

Many young people, like Dinah, let themselves get carried away by

loneliness, sadness and even by their friends. They do not wait for

God's timing. Adam spent some time on his own and knew how to

Wait upon his Creator.

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Waiting allows us to work on the foundation : our character

in God. I have met young people who God wants to bless

romantically, but due to a lack of character, they fail or miss an

opportunity, I have learnt that success occurs when we are

ready to take hold of an opportunity. Make sure to work on thefoundations of your life while you wait
for God's blessing.

Waiting on God gives us the necessary strength to achieve

His promises. The current generation wants things the quick

and easy way and so waiting can seem unbearable. The Lord

however, wants to test our hearts. Before blessing us greatly,

before giving us the desire of our heart, He tests us. We must

ensure that we have as much strength as Sara, Abraham's wife,

did in order to reach God's promise for our lives.

Waiting leads to obedience. Abraham had received God

calling and for it to be achieved he had to be obedient. Once

Abraham had received God's calling, he immediately acted out

of obedience, It may be the case that he did not have a clear

picture of the things awaiting him in the other city but he simplyobeyed and did not question God's
word,

F Waiting helps us to be less attached and more open to

change. The christian life is full of emotions, we can always

prove to ourselves that God's ways are higher than our own

(Isaiah 55 : 9). Human beings are very prone to becoming

attached to what they have achieved and sometimes question

change, but God has more extraordinary things in store for each

and every one of us. We should cultivate an open heart and try

to understand God's will. If we need to let go of something, we

should do it because it contributes to our well-being.

Waiting shows us God's faithfulness. God is never late. Healways rewards us with the best. All our hopes
and desires willgo through a filter named : God's timing."To everyvhing there

is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven : A time toembrace, and a time to refrain from
embracing ; a time to gain,

ar?d a time to lose a time to keep, and a time to throw away'atime to love, aud a time to hate
(Ecclesiastes 3 : 1, 5b-6 ; 8a).

CONCLUSION

Before meeting Eve, Adam was working in

Paradise, in the garden that God had given him.

Young readers, 1 want to tell you that you should

work on the garden that God has given you.

Which one? Your calling, your cell group you

should work in the calling that God gave you,

cultivate it, take care of i+ so your heart may be

ready. It is important to teach our people, our

church and our friends to build a family in God,

Questionnaire 6

WHO is THE RIGHT PERSOW

1___-Whv is it so important to have spjtitual cover?

2. Was marriage God's idea or man's?

3. What is the first thing that parents should do when o«ering adviceon their children's romantic life?

4. which garden should every young person work on when they are

training to build a family in God, Are you doing this? write about

yotjr personal experience

5, What do you understand by'the wrong kind of compassion"share your opinion on the matter.

6, List the five benefits of knowing how to wait for God's timing.

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