Title: A Father who blesses his home

Text: Psalm 128:1-4

Good morning po…

Introduction:
Children’s point of view of good father
1. Dahil siya ay may balbas.
2. Dahil malaki ang muscle ni daddy.
3. Dahil kinakarga siya lagi nito at pinapasan sa kanyang balikat.
4. Dahil mahilig sa kape si daddy.
5. Nagkukumpuni sa bahay.
6. Dahil hinahatid niya kami sa school.
7. May dagdag baon daw siya.

Marami tayong alaala ng tayo’y mga bata pa tungkol sa ating mga tatay. . .
Maaring may masaya o maaari din ang malungkot. . .

Sa panahon ngayon we need fathers who will leave a legacy in their home. . .

Yes a Legacy. . . a legacy that will be passed to other generations, that the world will know and other people will
imitate and modeled to other people.

Ang that legacy is the Legacy of bringing the blessings in our own home. . . .

Question: Paanong isang ama ay magiging isang pagpapala sa kanyang tahanan?

Transitional Statement: A father blesses his own home by:

Text:
I. Faithfully loving his wife (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Husbands, your wife is not your cook, maid, or personal babysitter. She is your wife, an heir of this world, and a
future queen of the universe. 
Eh pastor mabunganga po eh. . . hindi po ba pwedeng itikom niya muna ang kanyang bibig bago ko siya
mahalin?
O kaya yung sumunod muna siya sa akin…
Ano ba ang sabi muna ng bible?
Husbands love your wife. . . di ba nauna ang love your wife?
When God says, “Husbands, love your wives,” he speaks of the woman as a complex being. He calls every
man to love his whole wife just as every man loves his whole self (Eph. 5:29). This means that a husband must
do all he can to understand his wife’s world.

Eh pastor ang sabi po sa Genesis ay ang asawa po ay aming “helper”. opo pero ito po ay katuwang at hindi
katulong. . .

Nakakalungkot dahil may mga pamilya ang nasisira dahil sa paghihiwalay ng mga magulang. . .
Ito ang dahilan kaya may issue ng infidelity. .
In Barna Group Stat nila po 26% ng evangelical Christians ay nauuwi sa divorce sa America.
The issue of infidelity. . .

Data showed that the number of Filipinos who got separated from their husbands or wives increased by 36
percent from 893,167 in 2010 to 1,211,262 in 2015.

Alam nyo po kung bakit nauuwi sa infidelity ang isang asawa?

I believe hindi ito issue sa pera, hindi po sa issue ng ugali. . .
Ang tunay pong dahilan: Hindi na tayo nagte-take delight sa ating asawa. .
We do not see our relationship with our spouse as delightful. . .
Alam nyo po ang infidelity ay hindi laging pisikal. . . malinaw sa salita ng Panginoon na maging sa ating puso, sa
emotional na aspeto at intelectual na aspeto ay maaari na tayong magkaroon ng pagkakalunya

Tandaan po natin na ang pagpapakasal sa ating asawa ay isang sagradong sumpaan sa harap ng Diyos at tao. . .
Natatandaan mo pa ba ang mga panahon na siya ay iyong nililigawan? Pinakasalan?

How can we love our wife?

Husbands, 8 Admonitions to Love Your Wife FROM William Boekestein 
1. Love Her Heart—Emotional Love
I know of no woman who wouldn’t love to hear her husband speak to her like that.
2. Love Her Mind—Intellectual Love
Does your wife know that you value her above all else? Intellectual love also means engaging your wife’s
mind. Many men win the hand of their future wife by thoughtful, engaging, conversation. Too many men fail to
take this habit into marriage.
3. Love Her Body—Physical Love
Physical love is also complimentary. Your wife needn’t be a supermodel to receive regular, sincere,
compliments. Physical love must be exclusive. Taking second looks at other women or carrying on about their
beauty is destructive. Each man must strive to please his own wife (1 Cor. 7:3,33)
4. Love Her Soul—Spiritual Love
Men tend to be task-oriented. But often we neglect one of our greatest responsibilities; the cultivation of
godliness in our wives. We need to become comfortable with the phrase, “as for me and my house” (Josh.
24:14-15). Joshua understood that as a covenant head, his choices had a profound impact of those under his
care. He must always think of the spiritual good of his dependents.
This means making thoughtful, prayerful, decisions, even if they are unpopular. “We are going to church today
even though that woman verbally hurt you last week. We must have family worship even with our busy
schedule.” These are expressions of love.
5. Love Her Relationships—Relational Love
For couples with children, relational love may require a husband to protect his wife from her “closest
relatives.” Be swift and firm to discipline children for disrespecting mom. Resist contradicting her in front of the
children. Give her “time off” when necessary. Outside of the home, develop an interest in her friends. Help her
to focus on friends that are best for her.
6. Love Her Humanity—Realistic Love
Be tender in your wife’s failures. She needs to know that you love her even if you are saddened by her sin.
Be grateful that she is different than you. A loving husband sees his wife as God’s gift to him even if she is
not perfect.
7. Love Her Calling—Supportive Love
If a wife’s greatest calling is to be submissive to her husband (Col. 3:18), a loving husband helps his wife to
be submissive. Some wives never learn biblical submission because their husbands rarely set a positive example.
They fight against the council of the church. They speak blasphemously of civil authorities. They complain about
their employer’s policies. Yet they demand full submission from their wives. God says, all men must submit to
proper authority (Rom. 13:1). You can hardly help your wife do this if you aren’t doing it yourself.
8. Love Her Maker—Theological Love
Ultimately, we are loveless because we love ourselves more than we love God and are dissatisfied with
God’s provision. This means that the more you love God the better equipped you will be to truly love your wife.
By his matchless grace, God draws us to love him and empowers us to love others. Matthew Henry notes that
the epistles which focus most on the glory of divine grace, and the majesty of the Lord Jesus, “are the most
particular…in pressing the duties of the several relations.” The gospel is the good news that the Son of God
“loved me and gave Himself for me” (Gal. 2:20). Christ loves the whole Christian–heart, mind, body, soul–and
every other part. Only as we come to terms with what that means will we be able to obey God’s word.
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.”

What is the result?

Psalm 128:3b

Ikaw paano mo naging pagpapala sa asawa mo? Paano mo pinaparamdam ang iyong tapat na pagmamahal sa
kanya?
The world is in need of this kind of husband that will leave a legacy about his faithful love to his spouse. . .

Transitional Statement: A father blesses his own home by:

II. Diligently training his children in the way of the Lord (Deuteronomy 6:7-9)
Bilang isang ama, hindi natatapos ang ating pananagutan sa ating mga anak sa pagpbili ng gamit nila, sa
pagbabayad ng tuition at pagpapa-aral sa kanila… kundi ang ating pangunahing pananagutan ay Diyos ay
palakihin ang ating mga anak na may takot sa Panginoon. . .

You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when
you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 
You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 
You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
In the OT, nakalagay na po sa bible na ang pagtuturo ng mga katotohanan ng Diyos ay pananagutan ng
magulang… lalo na ng ating mga tatay.. .
Ano po sabi ng talata. . . sa lahat ng pagkakataon turuan natin ang ating mga anak. . turuan with
diligence. . . with consistency. . .

Ano po ito?
Verse 4-6
“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. - to teach about God
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. - to love his
God
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.- to keep loving God.

Hindi lang in OT, kundi maging NT. . .

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction
of the Lord.

The task of the father to lead his family and to teach the way of the Lord. . .
Duties of Parents by J.C. Ryle
1. Train your child to a knowledge of the Bible.
2. Train your child to a habit of prayer.
3. Train up your child with all tenderness, affection, and patience.
4. The whole truth and nothing but the truth.
5. Train your child remembering how God trains His children.
6. Remember the promises of scripture.
7. Train them to a habit of OBEDIENCE.

Colossians 3:21  Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
Mental health issue. . .
Fathers, your children needs you. . .
They need you everytime when they experienced discouragement.
They need you everytime when they experienced sickness.
They need you everytime when they are in pain…
They need you everytime when they question their life. . .
They need you everytime when they looking for help…
They need you everytime when they need spiritual leadership God. . . (not because you are God but because
you are their spiritual leaders, parents and mentors). They need someone to direct them to the word of God…
Kaya mga kapatid. . . hindi po primary ministry ng Sunday School and pagtuturo sa mga bata. . . kayo po ang
may pangunahing napapagutan sa ating mga anak. . .

Pag tayo po ay nagde-dedicate ng bata. . . isa po sa mga bilin ay ang gawing katuwaan ng Diyos ang ating
pamilya. . .
Ang tahanan bilang lugar ng pagpapala at katuwaan ng Diyos. . .

ALam niyo po isa sa mga masasabi kong positibo sa covid pandemic ay naging mas family oriented na pagsamba.
. . ang tawag po namin dito ay pampamilyang pagsamba. . .
At some point po it gives the head of the family to lead his family into worship. . .
Ibalik po natin at panatilihin ang ganito sa ating pamilya kahit matapos na ang pandemya. . .

Huwag po nating gawing awkward ang pagdadasal sa ating pamilya at maging pag-usapan ang bibliya. . .

What is the effect?

Psalm 128:3b
your children will be like olive shoots around your table.

Kumusta po kayo ng inyong mga anak? Kumusta din po ang kanilang relasyon sa Diyos?
Transitional Statement: A father blesses his own home by:
III. Constantly fearing the Lord. (Psalm 128:4)
 Blessed is everyone who fears the Lord, who walks in his ways!
 You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you.
 Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table.
 Behold, thus shall the man be blessed 

Constantly fearing the Lord. . .

Fearing him means obeying God. . .

Ito po ang pinakapundasyon kung bakit tayo magiging isang pagpapala sa ating tahanan. .
In our spirituality there should be no dichotomy. . .
Ano po ibig sabihin nito? Ibig sabihin nito ang isang ama ay wala dapat pagkukunwari. . .

Kahit po na sabihin natin that we are busy doing the work of the Lord kung hindi ito nakikita ng pamilya. . .
walang mangyayari. . .

Yung tipong galing ka sa ministry pero pag uwi mo galit ka agad sa pamilya mo. . .

A story in 700 club asia. . .

Kristoffer, as Nett Gochuico, grew up doubting the existence of a loving God. Seen as bringing bad luck, he was
physically abused by his father and was often blamed for the unfortunate events that happened in their family.

This is the tendency for all of us fathers and husbands. .

Joshua 24:15  But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you
will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose
land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.
Nakita ni Joshua na ang Diyos ay tapat sa kanyang pangako na sa kanyag pagdidili dili o pagbubulay ng salita ng
Diyos at pagsunod sa kanya ay may kalakip na pagpapala. . . (hindi lang po laging materyal ano)
Nakita mismo ng pamilya ni Joshua kung paano ang kanilang padre de pamilya ay nagtiwala sa Diyos at
naconquer ang lupang pangako sa kanila. .
Kaya hindi na po nakapagtataka na hindi lamang si Joshua kundi ang kanya buong pamilya ay piniling sumunod
at maglingkod sa Panginoon dahil ito ang pinakamainam sa lahat. . .

Wag po natin hayaan na ang ating pamilya ang maging mapait sa simbahan. . .
Wag po natin hayaan ng maging ang tingin nila sa ating pananampalataya ay isang karibal sa kanilang buhay. . .
isama po natin sila. . . turuan at pangunahan. . .

Conclusion
The fatherhood of our God the Father
Luke 15:20-24 
So he got up and went to his father.  “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with
compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.   “The son said to him,
‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’   “But the
father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on
his feet.  Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is
alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate.

Psalm 103:13  As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him.

Kung tayo man po ay may hindi ding magandang simula sa ating pamilya o pinagdadaaanang pagsubok. . . bilang
mga itinuring na anak Niya huwag tayong mag-atubiling lumapit sa Kanya. . .