AUG/SEPT 2020

BEAUTY
EYE CANDY
STYLE
SPRING TRENDS
FOR HER

Women’s Mon!
EDITION
WOMEN’S DAY HOSTESS WITH THE MOSTEST KIDS CRAFTS TO TREASURE

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your life
06 BEAUTY your style
Eye Candy
Nailed It! 03 Spring Trends
Au Naturel Cleaning Out My Closet
Spring Skin Solutions
14 RELATIONSHIPS

29
Love on Lockdown
Female Friendships
17 MONEY
Pink Tax
18 CAREERS
Back to Business your family
19 PSYCHOLOGY
Lockdown Emotions 29 HEALTH
Am I a Hoarder? Insomnia
23 INSPIRATION Surviving Spring Allergies
Ethnikids - Literary Mamas 33 PARENTING
25 LETS TALK Letters to my Daughter
Get out Parenting in a Pandemic
Women’s Month 37 KIDS CORNER
Build a Birdhouse
39 NALIBALI STORY
41 FOOD
Hostess with the mostest - The
Lazy Makoti’s Guide to a
Fabulous Girl’s Night
45 HOME
DIY vertical garden

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SPRING TRENDS
ON OUR RADAR
TEXT SKYE LAVIS
talking for a change? This spring
high-impact pieces. Think bright
luxury metals. Asymmetrical or
60s FLORAL DRESSES
statement earrings to become a
The spring trend that will never end. A
one-item outfit solution, and a striking
one at that! Stand out in a classic 60’s
floral print dress, with a loose fit that
is flattering for women of all shapes,
sizes and ages. Dress it up with your
favourite pair of heels or dress it down
with a pair of sneakers and denim jack-
et. This piece is minimum effort with
maximum reward that will guarantee
you turning heads.
OVERSIZED
HANDBAGS
Remember that impractical
mini bag trend that couldn’t
even fit your phone inside?
Well, that’s over and the big
bag club is in! Totes, shoulder
bags, backpacks, bags as big
as you would need for a week-
end away. If you want to keep
it simple or you’re looking for
versatility choose a classic
shopper like this. It will
instantly transform
your workwear
wardrobe.
STATEMENT
EARRINGS
Why not let your ears do the
is all about shoulder grazing,
enamels, colourful resins and
matching, be prepared for your
conversation starter!
STRAPPY
SANDALS
Whether you are fanatical
for trends or more toward
classic pieces, the strappy
sandal is undoubtedly
the ‘It’ shoe of spring and
an absolute must-have.
These minimalist shoes
can be styled with just
about anything, from work
dresses to printed pant
suits to wedding-guest
dresses, jumpsuits and
everything in between. So
don’t be shy, grab a bold,
brightly coloured pair and
start having some spring
wardrobe fun!

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CLEANING
OUT MY
CLOSET
Cleaning out your closet is truly the last thing you want to do, but it always feels so good to get rid
of the old and make room for the new! Now that spring has arrived and (most of us) are still working
at home, it’s high time that we get around to the task. So to help you out, we reached out to our Jet
stylist, Bongiwe to find out which spring fashion trends to donate and which to replace them with.

Donate: Skinny jeans Donate: Hoodies

Adopt: Tapered jeans Adopt: Oversized cardis
Bongi says: Women of all ages are Bongi says: Try replacing your
getting bored of their skinny jeans hoodies with just as comfortable
but are not necessarily sold on an options, such as oversized
alternative. The skinny jean served cardigans or boyfriend-fit
us well for a while but we are defi- jerseys. These trendier items still
nitely moving toward a more straight give the same warmth and comfort
silhouette.Try a pair of 90’s classic as your favourite hoodie but allow
denims, the slightly wider silhouette you to elevate your look from casual
gives a nice edge when wearing flat to chic.
spring sandals, a great pair of sneak-
ers or your favourite heels.

Donate: Basic tees/tanks

Adopt: Tees with a twist
Bongi says: While basic tees and
tanks are classics, adopting a tee
with a small twist will completely
elevate your look. Graphic tees are
a great addition for a fun and quirky
style, whilst a padded shoulder or a
mesh sleeve will add an element of
structure and style.

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Donate: Hurtful heels

DON’T THROW
Adopt: Playful platforms
Bongi says: We all have those cute, ANYTHING AWAY!
uncomfortable heels that we think
one day we’ll try again. Two steps Here is a list of places
in them and out come the more that will appreciate your
sensible shoes because you’re still pre-loved items:
suffering from trauma of the last
time you wore them. Let them go
and free up some space. Instead, AMCARE:
adopt a pair of platforms that look marihetinfo@amcare.org.za
good and feel good. 011 869 5856

JOHANNESBURG
CHILDREN’S HOME:
fundraiser@jch.org.za
011 023 6870
Donate: ‘Dad’ sneakers WOMEN & BEYOND:
Adopt: Sporty sneakers womenandbeyond.org.za
Bongi says: The ugly-turned-trendy 078 146 0388
oversized ‘dad’ sneakers made a
comeback in the 2010s but are on
the way out. Yes, they are an
orthopedic dream, but they look
horrendous and are far from
flattering. Instead opt for the retro,
colourful, sneaker look. This look
is incredibly fresh and modern,
especially when paired with an
all-neutral ensemble. Conversely,
a burst-of-white sneaker makes a
neutral-heavy outfit feel incredibly
modern. Stock up accordingly!

Donate: Biker shorts

Adopt: Bermuda shorts
Bongi says: Goodbye, biker shorts.
Hello, bermuda shorts! Let’s be hon-
est the tight spandex fit is not always
the most flattering. Similar in length,
the difference is bermudas are more
loosely fitted. Dress them up with
a matching blazer for a suit look or
dress it down with your favourite tee
and sneakers.

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LIFE beauty

EYE CANDY
We interupt your beauty binge to bring you some important news: Right now
the beauty industry is all about freedom, creativity and presenting yourself in
a way that’s comfortable to you. So why not experiment with one of these FUN
makeup trends this spring! TEXT SKYE LAVIS

HIGHLIGHTER REEL
Love a neon cat eye? Great, because it’s
a big trend for spring. Just make sure
to swap your basic black liquid liner
for a bright, neon-colored one (think
pink, green, orange, yellow). If it seems
daunting to do a full cat eye, keep your
bold liner close to the lash line and
create a thin, neat line that has a slight
feline flick. Then, sit back and wait for the
compilments to roll in!

EMBELLISHED EYES
Just because covid ruined your festival plans,
doesn’t mean you can’t experiment at home. Think
adult arts and crafts project - but make it fashion. Get
yourself down to the craft store and stock up on pearls and
gemstones because embellished eyes are in! Whether you want to
try a simple line or bedazzle your entire eyelid is up to you.
Tip: to avoid a disco (eye)ball, be careful not to get the sparklies
under your eyelid.

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WHITE LINER
If you’re up to experimenting with cool eye makeup, but aren’t
brave enough for say, neon liner or full-on pearls, then the white
eyeliner trend is a great way to get your feet wet. It’s fun, fresh, and
feels completely unexpected—but not overly extra. If you prefer,
you can start with your classic black liner and then add a thin
white liquid liner to contrast and top it off. This is a gorgeous day
look that will make your eyes appear bigger and brighter.

GLOSSY LIDS
Two words: glossy lids. Simply apply a soft shade,
blend out and add a clear eye gloss over the top
to amp it up. There are also a ton of creamy
eyeshadows if you prefer a lighter texture
with the same gleamy effect. This look
is ideal for a date night at home!

FLOATING LINER
If you’re not the glossy eyelid
kind, why not let your inner
artist come out and play around
with thin, graphic lines. It’s time
for vibrant colours and geometric
shapes to replace traditional going-
out looks. You can extend a design
from your lash line or let it float on
your eyelid. Your eyelid is but a canvas!

HUED MASCARA
Ahh mascara, our ride-or-die, holy-grail product -
it’s time for a spring upgrade. Bright, bold lashes are the
best addition to any spring outfit. On your natural lashes, it’s not
actually that shocking and before you know it you’ll be hooked!
Start experimenting with a dark blue or purple and go from there.
If you are going for a more dramatic look, then go ahead and try a
pair of falsies !

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LIFE beauty

NAILED IT!

Whilst certainly a minor problem, a lot of nails were really neglected in the last
couple of months. Whether you’re trying to save money or you’re avoiding the
salon, there is never a bad time to learn how to master doing your own manicure.
All you need is a little practice and a good method. Follow our 5 easy steps and
you’ll be manicuring like a pro! TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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STEP 1: CLIP, FILE, BUFF
After washing your hands, use a nail
clipper to give your nails a bit of a
trim. Then using a file, gently move
in one direction to get your tips the
shape you desire. Tilt the file so that
it files slightly from underneath the
nail, this will protect you from over-
filing. Lastly using a buffer, buff the
tops and sides of your nails lightly to
create a smooth surface.
STEP 2: BASE COAT
Apply a base coat to hydrate and
protect nails and prevent chipping.
Wait a minute between each coat so
that it can dry properly.
STEP 3: COLOUR
Now for the fun part: Apply a coat
of gel polish in the colour of your
choice. Get the brush all the way
down to the cuticle and into the
corners of your nail. Maximum
coverage on the first coat makes the
second coat a breeze. Just remember
to keep the layer thin. Try striping
your nail three times: once down the
middle and once on each side. After
waiting a minute between coats,
apply the second coat of nail polish
to even out any streakiness. Sheer
or pastel shades may require a third
coat for full, seamless coverage.
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STEP 4: TOP COAT
A topcoat protects the paint from
chipping and adds shine to nails —
don’t skip it, or you’ll significantly
shorten the lifespan of the paint job
you just worked so hard on. Tip: Be
careful when you put your topcoat
on, a messy application can ruin
your entire manicure and you’re so
close!
STEP 5: FIX MISTAKES
Tidy up any mistakes or wobbly
edges using an earbud dipped in
nail polish remover. Carefully trace
around your nails and then allow
them to dry. Voila, you’re done.
Happy painting!
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LIFE beauty

AUNATUREL
Organic beauty ingredients your body will thank you for! TEXT SKYE LAVIS

COCONUT OIL
Whether you’re using it on your skin or adding it to your morning coffee,
the health benefits associated with coconut oil are impressive. Ingested, it’s
unique combination of fatty acids helps to burn fat and provides quick energy
to your body and brain. It also raises HDL (good) cholesterol in your blood,
which may help reduce the risk of heart disease. Applied externally, coconut
oil is a nourishing hair mask, moisturiser and teeth whitener.

OLIVE OIL
Olive oil may well be one of your cooking staples but it is also a moisturising
skincare essential. Olive oil contains a very high concentration of an
ingredient called squalene which is an antioxidant that prevents premature
aging and sun damage. It’s moisturising properties do not strip away natural
oils fom the skin, thereby allowing you to sweat and shed cells, without
causing irritation or clogging pores.

RAW HONEY
Everyone is buzzing about honey, and this is why: Used on skin, raw honey
can exfoliate, smoothen and brighten your complexion. It is also used as
an antiseptic, helping with breakouts, rashes, wounds and the appearance
of scars. In hair, it also works wonders. “Honey is a rich sugar that deeply
nourishes the hair without wearing it down. It prevents split ends and
minimises breakage.” explains Roger Medina, hair expert for Garnier Hair.

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CUCUMBER
There is a reason they say ‘cool as a cucumber’. This organic essential has
been used in spas for years, cooling and calming our skin after intense
treatments and facials. According to dermatologist Amy Wechsler, cucumber
has skincare benefits including vitamin C and caffeic acid, which both fight
to reduce inflamed or irritated skin. You can use cucumber under the eyes to
reduce puffiness, or over your entire face as an anti-aging face mask.

EGG WHITES
Eggs are naturally rich in nutrients as a whole, but egg whites in particular
are especially beneficial in the beauty industry. The shrinking properties help
to tighten the skin pores and give you a youthful appearance. Used on skin,
it helps to reduce the formation of wrinkles and fine lines, and is amazing at
getting rid of black heads. Used on hair, it controls oiliness of the scalp, getting
rid of greasy hair and leaving you with well conditioned, glossy locks.

PAMPER YOURSELF AT HOME

TLC FOR YOUR HAIR

The protein and biotin from eggs combined with the potassium and natural oils
from bananas will restore nourishment and work wonders on limp hair.
- 2 egg whites, 1 ripe banana, 1cup milk & 1tsp olive oil.
Combine all the ingredients and mix into a smooth paste. Apply the mask to your
hair and leave it on for at least 30 minutes before washing it out with your usual
shampoo.

REFRESH YOUR FACE

Get rid of that tired look by preparing a simple cucumber mask to leave your skin
feeling refreshed and hydrated.
- 2tsps apple cider vinegar, 1tsp chopped cucumber, 1tsp raw honey, 1tsp cinnamon,
1tsp bicarbonate of soda. Combine all the ingredients and blend into a smooth paste.
Apply to your skin, massaging in circular, upward motions. Rinse off after 2-3 minutes
with cool water and pat dry for a dewy glow.

DELECTABLE BODY SCRUB

Sugar is a wonderful exfoliator as it’s gentle enough not to cause irritation yet
coarse enough to get rid of dead skin cells.
- 125ml (½cup) brown sugar, 125ml (½cup) coconut oil.
Mix sugar and coconut oil to form a coarse paste. While in the shower, massage the
mixture all over your body then rinse off with warm water for silky-soft, radiant-
looking skin.

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SPRING
SKIN SOLUTIONS
With spring around the corner, it’s time to
revitalize your beauty regime.
TEXT SKYE LAVIS

WHAT IS MY SKIN TYPE? DRY: Scaling or flakiness, rough

appearance, itchiness, redness.

COMBINATION: Experiencing both

breakouts and dry patches of skin at
the same time. Pores around nose
are larger than the pores around
cheeks.

OILY: Shiny or greasy appearance,

enlarged pores, prone to acne,
clogged pores and blackheads,
makeup struggles to stay on.

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YOUR NEW ROUTINE
CLEANSER
DRY:
Stay away from foam cleansers
as they are high in alkaline and
can be stripping on already dry
skin. Instead, opt for cream or oil
cleansers that will keep your face
clean while leaving your skin’s
natural oils behind.
COMBINATION:
Choose a gentle facial cleanser to
mattify your oily T-zone without
overdrying your cheeks in the
process. Micellar water and gel
cleansers are a great option for this
skin type.
OILY:
Cleansers with ingredients such as
salicylic acid and tea tree oil are the
best options for this skin type as they
work well to clear out breakouts.
Follow with a toner to repair the skin
and balance its pH.
TREATMENT
DRY:
Avoid scrubs with small scrubbing
particles as they can be too harsh on
already sensitive skin. A chemical
exfoliant packed with alpha hydroxyl
acids is best, but any treatment
that contains hydrating and non-
irritating ingredients will work.
COMBINATION:
Use a charcoal mask on your oily
T-zone and a hydrating mask for the
rest of your face. Regular exfoliation
isn’t recommended, but you can
exfoliate at least once in two weeks
to avoid drying out your skin.
OILY:
Clay masks and scrubs are the
best way to treat oily skin. Just the
opposite of dry skin, you will want
to look for finer physical exfoliants.
Regular exfoliation is recommended
to improve the appearance of pores
and remove impurities.
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MOISTURISER
DRY:
If you have this type of skin, you
will need a product that will lock in
hydration whilst providing moisture.
Start with a hydrating serum and
follow up with a rich moisturiser.
COMBINATION:
During the day opt for a gel cream
and for the evening you can apply
one or two drops of facial oil before
applying your night cream. This will
help hydrate the dry areas while you
sleep.
OILY:
It may seem counterintuitive to
use a moisturiser when your skin is
already oily, but oily skin is actually
the result of your glands producing
more oil than normal because it’s
dehydrated. Opt for oil-free, water
-based moisturisers that have
hyaluronic acid. This will help the
skin retain water without leaving a
greasy film on top.
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LIFE relationships

Quarantine and chill? Maybe not. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

It has been the reality for many couples in SA since life in lockdown. We’ve all had to adapt fast, and so too have our
relationships. Even with restrictions being lifted, the increased time in each other’s personal spaces have caused
seismic shifts in many relationships. We take a look at the circumstances your relationship may find itself in and
how to cope.

1. Your partner isn’t taking
lockdown seriously
The SA government’s guidelines
have been explicitly clear on social
distancing and self-isolation,
so there should be mutual trust
between you and your partner in
respecting the rules. Spending
time with people outside of
your house and being careless is
bound to cause frustration in the
relationship. If your partner is
making you uncomfortable and
putting themselves and you at
unnecessary risk, raise it with them
calmly and at the right time. Open
and free communication is always
the answer.
2. You were trying to keep
things going with a crush
The early days of dating are some
of the best: flirting over text, going
out on dates, getting to know each
other. Now you’re stuck at home
where you can’t ‘coincidentally’ run
into them on a night out. Recreating
those feelings virtually is going to 4. Lockdown has made you
take some work. You might want to long distance
allocate time for dinner dates where At this point, if your partner lives
you both eat and catch up together. further than your front door, they
If thats too much pressure, get a few might as well be on the other side of
of your crush’s friends and a few of the world. To keep the relationship
yours to hop onto a Houseparty or healthy and happy, it’s important to
Zoom call together for a fun games establish a routine of contact that
evening.
3. You’re locked down with
your partner’s housemates
They say when you date someone
you also date their friends. While
you might get along well on a night
out, that doesn’t mean you would
all want to live in the same house. If
that’s you, then it’s time to make it
work. Focus on your own happiness
first and it will have a ripple effect on
the rest of your living arrangements.
Create a routine for yourself that
includes time separate from his/
her housemates. The more time you
spend on yourself, the less time you
have to find little annoyances!

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is consistent, but not constant.
If you’re texting all day, then you
might run out of important points
of conversation when it comes
to catching up on a video date
later. Allocate some time for your
relationship in the same way as if
you were seeing each other face to
face. Cook and eat together, play
games or watch TV together.
5. You’re locked down with a
new partner
Being locked down with someone
you’re newly dating is a fast way
to know someone. If you’re in this
situation, you need to set boundaries
ASAP. Have a discussion about how
you would both like to operate.
While it might be a little awkward,
there is no time to tiptoe around
each other. Eventually you’ll find a
routine that works for both of you.
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6. You’re locked down with
your in-laws
Getting along with your in-laws
over a long weekend away can be
tricky, but now you’re living with
them during a global pandemic. If
you feel like your boundaries aren’t
being respected, politely discuss
with your partner that they are. If
you are feeling frustrated and need
to get out for a bit, do so. This is a
stressful time for everyone, so you
need to at least try to enjoy/endure
each other’s company. Look at it
as an opportunity to build deeper
relationships for the long-term with
your partner’s family. You’re part of
the family (for the lockdown at least).
7. You’re locked down with
your ex
This situation is the peak of
awkward living arrangements. It’s
probably the last thing you wanted
but you may not have no other
options. There is no point making
things any more uncomfortable than
they already are so try to foster some
respect for each other by keeping
things civil. Creating clear physical
boundaries around the home allows
you both some space to grieve the
relationship. In the meantime, look
at your options and research your
next move.
8. You just went through a
break-up
While lockdown has gifted most
of us with more time, if you’ve
just gone through a break-up, you
are definitely more vulnerable to
dwelling on things. Use this time to
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your advantage, life has given you
an opportunity to heal. Process
your feelings through journalling or
talking things through with a close
friend. It’s also a good time to put
some plans in place. Apply for that
job you’ve always wanted, research
that holiday you’ve always dreamed
of. Focusing on the future will help
bring some positivity in.
9. You’re missing alone time
No matter how much you love
your other half, sometimes you
just need some me-time and
that’s ok. It’s important that your
partner understands this too
so try explaining the situation
kindly rather than from a place of
frustration. You’ll likely both benefit
from doing some exercise separately
or reading a chapter of your book
alone.
10. You’re losing the spark
The stress of reduced visits with
friends and family, and adapting
to working from home can all be a
strain on any relationship. Although
you aren’t able to go out to wine and
dine, it’s still worth making an effort
at home. Whether that’s bringing the
cinema experience into your lounge,
recreating a restaurant in your
kitchen, dressing up (in something
other than your tracksuit bottoms),
it can all make a difference. This is
the time to get creative with date
night!
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FEMALE
Friendships
M
en are from Mars
and women are
from Venus; mean-
ing females are in-
herently different from our male
counterparts. Women think
differently, act differently, solve
problems differently and are
more emotionally guided than
logically guided. Although men
and women do complement
each other, as women, we thrive
on strong relationships with
our girlfriends. These female
bonds give women an outlet to
share their thoughts, feelings,
problems and victories. We
treasure our hour-long phone
calls with our girlfriends, special
sister road trips, hilarious text
messages (that should always
be kept secret), celebratory girls
nights out and happy hours after
work on a Friday. Most of our
emotional and mental strength
comes from deep bonds with the
strong females in our lives.
HEALTH BENEFITS
According to a study published in
the Journal of Clinical Oncology,
women with early-stage breast
cancer were four times more
likely to die from cancer if they
didn’t have very many friends.
Those with a larger group of
friends with early-stage breast
cancer had a much better
survival rate! This beneficial
effect of friendship was felt
whether the friends lived near or
far. An article published on the
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New York Times website states that
women felt they could count on
their friends to pull through for them
no matter what they are struggling
within their lives.
The unbreakable
female bonds that can
solidify your happiness!
THE BACKBONE
OF OUR SUPPORT SYSTEM
Women are each other’s emotional
support systems. Giving advice,
being a shoulder to cry on, lending a
listening ear and boosting each
other’s self-esteem is something
strong and healthy female
friendships consist of. Girlfriends
have a distinctive way of reading
emotions and intuitively recognizing
what needs to be done and then
acting on it. We understand each
other, we validate each other, we
give marriage and breakup advice to
each other, we share intimate family
details with each other, we share
beauty secrets with each other, we
tell each other when we have food in
our teeth or when our skirt is on
Some women pray
for their daughters to
marry good husbands.
I pray that my girls will
find loyal girlfriends,
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backward and most importantly, we
share lasting memories with each
other. If you are a female, no matter
your age, treasure your girlfriends for
as long as possible.
STRENGTH
Interacting with other strong women
simultaneously builds our strength
too. We are able to keep each other
in check, be brutally honest with
each other, be angry together, laugh
together and cry together. The best
part is that you don’t feel crazy, too
sensitive or too emotional for any of
it. You’ll just feel like you. When you
and your girlfriends are able to build
each other up despite all the
negativity circulating in the world
today, you feel confident and
invincible!
PINK tax
If you’re a
woman,
it’s costing you
lots of money
every year!
TEXT SKYE LAVIS
WHAT IS PINK TAX?
T
o drastically oversimplify the
situation, women are
generally earning less and
paying more. Pink tax is the
extra amount that women pay for
everyday products and services, like
razors, personal care items,
contraceptives and medical screening
to name a few. Sometimes you’ll see
or hear it referred to as price
discrimination or gender-pricing.
The prices on individual products
may not seem that different but over
time, these little increases can add up.
According to axthepinktax.com, pink
tax costs the average South African
woman more than R20 000 in her
lifetime. Although social media
hashtags such as #genderpricing,
#pinktax, and #AxThePinkTax have
brought attention to the issue,
currently there is no law that
prohibits companies from charging
different prices for identical items
and services based on gender.
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HOW DOES IT WORK?
Of course, there are things that the
one gender spends more money on
compared to the other gender, but
there are many background factors
to consider. Code for Africa, a gender
pay gap tool based on the World
Economic Forum’s 2017 Gender Gap
Report, found that SA men earned
about R6 607.25 more than SA
women monthly.
“Pink tax costs the
average South African
woman more than
R20 000 in her lifetime.”
“This equates to the sixth largest pay
gap in Africa. Now, add this to the
fact that women generally have to
pay more than men for basic monthly
necessities and one begins to perceive
the full spectrum of challenges to
women achieving financial indepen-
dence,” says Danelle van Heerde,
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Head of Advice Processes at Sanlam
Personal Finance. It makes you realise
that although our society has come
so far, there’s still a long way to go.
WAYS TO COMBAT PINK TAX
The three categories women pay
more for are:
- Personal care products (13%)
- Clothing (8%)
- Girls toys (4%)
To combat pink tax, women can
switch to men’s or unisex versions of
commonly overpriced products. Yup,
we’re encouraging you to shop in the
men’s section. Buy blue razors rather
than pink if you want to save cash.
If you’re shopping for your little girl,
rather opt for something gender
neutral. Lastly, be conscious of where
you shop. Some companies reduce
the price of women’s products they
sell to minimize the effect of the pink
tax. Next time you go shopping, why
not try a little comparison
experiment for yourself?
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BACK TO
BUSINESS
Finding your new normal, again.
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ince the outbreak of
COVID-19, working from
home has become a new
reality that most employees
have had to face. While the change
was sudden and a difficult adjust-
ment for many, we adapted and got
to work in our makeshift home
offices. Flash forward a couple
months (and lockdown levels), and
it looks like employees are due to
start returning to the office. But
being back in an office 40 hours a
week after being able to work at your
own leisure in your pjs at home will
undoubtedly be another adjustment!
Here are a few ways that you can
prepare yourself so that going back
to work is simpler and easier than
the first transition was.
ROUTINES
Routines such as waking up at
the same time every morning and
getting yourself ready for work (even
at home), will help you to build
habits for when you return to work.
Maintaining these rituals will create
a sense of normalcy both during and
after this time.
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BALANCE
One of the benefits of working
from home can be the separation
from office politics, meetings that
could have been emails, and those
imposed conversations you feel you
have to make when you’re waiting for
the kettle to boil in the canteen.
Offices are social spaces, and one
can be seen as antisocial if they do
not take part in the morning tea con-
versation, smoke breaks and lunch
runs. As you transition back, it’s
important to find a balance between
being a team player and maintaining
your productivity. You need to be
honest when you’re busy and not
overload yourself. Set boundaries for
yourself instead of falling to social
pressure that colleagues will inevita-
bly bring back into your space.
CREATURE COMFORTS
Your home office allowed you to
work in your PJs, with the kids in the
next room and your favourite coffee
within arm’s reach. Upon returning
to the office, unfortunately you prob-
ably won’t have that flexibility
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you had at home, but there are other
ways in which you can incorporate
that comfort aspect. If you’re going
back to work, you might want to
consider bringing some of the items
that you’ve grown accustomed to
at home. (No, not your kids). This
can include your favourite mug or
coffee sachets, a family photo or a
small blanket for those chilly spring
mornings.
COMMUTING PAINS
You haven’t needed to travel to work
for months during lockdown and
maybe you’ve gotten lazy. No traffic
and you’ve probably saved a ton of
petrol/taxi money. What’s more,
you’ve probably saved an hour or
two everyday that you are spending
with your family. For many, this is
probably the worst part about re-
turning to work. Instead of thinking
about it negatively, allocate yourself
this time to listen to a podcast or
destress with some music. Change is
never easy and for many of us, this
is a time that will test our patience,
courage and resilience.
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LOCKDOWN
EMOTIONS
As South Africa slowly returns back to normal after a nationwide lockdown to
combat the spread of COVID-19, many people are dealing with a rollercoaster
of emotions. Whether you have been retrenched or you’re experiencing feelings
of uncertainty and unrest, we’re here to help you through it. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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LOSING A JOB
A few months ago, everything may
have felt stable in your career. Now,
with the pandemic continuing to
have huge economic impacts, you’ve
suddenly been given the unfortunate
news: You’re getting retrenched.
Suddenly, you’re left asking yourself,
“Now what?”
Don’t panic!
It was in the back of your mind that
it could possibly happen, but now it
really has. Your natural response is
to panic because your safety net is
gone, you’ve got bills to pay, you’ve
got children to feed. You are going
to feel a range of emotions during
this time and that’s ok. Don’t let
your mind run away with you and
remember decisions you make from
here on out hinges on how you deal
with this news first.
Reinforce work relationships
The connections we have built with
our peers often make all the
difference. If you’ve been at a
company for years and you’ve built
strong friendships, you are most
likely to experience a sense of loss.
Now is the ideal time to check in
with colleagues, talk about your
situations and share your plans.
You are not alone in this, and who
knows? Maybe you and your work
connection can help one another
with future endeavours.
Reduce spending
This means reducing or eliminating
any unnecessary spending you
possibly can. For example: cook at
home instead of getting take-aways,
stick to your shopping list.
Accept and move on
Try to be positive - sometimes
retrenchments can be a blessing in
disguise, there might be possibilities
that you never considered before.
Perhaps getting out of your comfort
zone will propel you in the direction
you’ve always wanted to go.
HEIGHTENED STRESS
& ANXIETY
It is extremely important for
everybody to learn how to manage
in times of immense stress. Here are
some some helpful coping tips if you
are struggling.
Maintain a daily routine
It is so important that you get up
and start the day as you usually
would. Making your bed your office
is doing more damage than you
SUPPORT
If you are depressed,
anxious or could just use
some support.
Contact:
SOUTH AFRICAN
DEPRESSION AND
ANXIETY GROUP:
www.sadag.org
0800 21 22 23
The following is
provided by SADAG:
TELEPHONIC
COUNSELLING:
Available 24/7
0800 21 22 23
0800 70 80 90
• keeping yourself busy
CIPLA WHATSAPP
CHAT LINE:
Councillor Available
24/7 - 9am to 4pm
076 882 2775
• out your closet, take the dogs for a
SUICIDE HELPLINE:
0800 567 56
• boost your mood and get those
#FACEBOOKEXPERTCHATS:
SADAG Facebook Page
Free Online Daily,
1pm – 2pm
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think. Keeping to a routine reminds
our brain that life is still going on
despite the interruptions we are
facing.
Reduce social media
usage
Facebook and Twitter can make you
sit and scroll for hours. The danger is
that the media is so convoluted with
news and different opinions that you
end up getting overwhelmed and
before you know it, it’s taken a toll on
your day. You were going to workout
but now you feel drained and your
mindset is even worse than before.
Cut down on social media time in
order to avoid negative vibes.
Focus on things you CAN
control
Life is 10% what happens to you and
90% how you react to it. An effective
way to manage anxiety is to make
the distinction between that which
we can control and that which we
cannot. Focus your attention and
energy on things you can control -
your thoughts, behaviour and
responses to what happens.
Worrying about something you have
no power over is only going to
immobilise you. Try practicing
healthy affirmations like ‘ I am the
master of my emotions’, ‘I am calm,
confident and centered’.
Boost your mood by
Any constructive or creative activity
that gives you a sense of
achievement will do the trick. It
doesn’t matter whether you clean
walk or start a new art project, that
sense of gratification will definitely
endorphins flowing.
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Am I a
Taking stock of your
possessions in time for the
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annual spring clean.

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According to clinical
psychologist Shai Fried-
land, hoarding disorder
is “having a constant
difficulty discarding or
parting with possessions
- regardless of the actual
value of the possession”.
Hoarding often creates
such cramped living
conditions that homes
may be filled to capacity.
When there’s no more
space inside, the clutter
may spread to the
garage, garden and
other storage facilities.

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CAUSES
It’s not clear what causes hoarding
disorder but genetics, brain func-
tioning and stressful life events are
being studied as possible causes.
- Personality: Many people who have
hoarding disorder have an indecisive
temperament.
- Family history: There is a strong
association between having a family
member who has hoarding disorder
and having the disorder yourself.
- Stressful life events: The difficulty
coping with the death of a loved one,
divorce or losing possessions in a fire
may trigger the hoarding of items.
SYMPTOMS
- Problems with planning and organ-
ising (indecisiveness, avoidance and
procrastination).
- Difficulty throwing out or parting
with your possessions, regardless of
actual value.
- Feeling a need to ‘save’ items, or
being severely stressed and upset by
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the thought of discarding them TREATMENT
- Excessively acquiring items that If you or a loved one has symptoms of
are not needed or for which there is hoarding disorder, talk with a doctor
no space. or mental health professional as soon
- Feeling overwhelmed or as possible. Some communities have
embarrassed by possessions. agencies that help with hoarding
- Suspicious of other people touch- problems so check with the local mu-
ing or using possessions. nicipality resources in your area.
- Has obsessive thoughts about
throwing out an item and needing
it later. PROFESSIONAL
EFFECTS ORGANISATIONS
- Disorganized piles of clutter, THAT CAN HELP:
making spaces unusable for the
intended purpose, such as not being SKITTERBLINK:
able to cook in the kitchen. cleaningsouthafrica.co.za
087 057 7090
- Buildup of rubbish to unusually
excessive, unsanitary levels. SOUTH AFRICAN
- Significant distress or problem DEPRESSION AND
functioning in your home. ANXIETY GROUP:
sadag.org
- Conflict with others who try to
0800 21 22 23
reduce or remove clutter from or send an SMS to 31393
your home. and a counsellor
- Losing important items in the will call you back.
clutter.
- Loneliness and social isolation.
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LIFE inspiration

Moms on a mission
to cultivate a
reading culture for
our ethnikids.
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A GAP IN THE MARKET

M
ommy friends literature for their kids to read. The Consequently, their passion project
Precious Mdlalose, stories they found in bookstores were was formed and in 2016 Ethnikids
Khumo Tapfumayeni, endearing, but unfortunately, the was born. Flash forward to 2020 and
Mpho Maje,
identities of Sleeping Beauty and Ethnikids is a fully operational, online
Kgalalelo Nazo and Tina Akuoko had
one thing in common: They were Snow White characters were not specialist bookstore. Their mission is
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children by providing them with easy
access to diverse and inclusive books
in all 11 official South African lan-
guages. Parents don’t have to spend
hours searching for books because
they have already been categorised
into ages and languages on the easily
accessible website. Ethnikids also
hosts monthly book reading events
where children get the opportunity
to have their favourite books read to
them by the authors who wrote them.
EXPOSURE FOR
AFRICAN AUTHORS
Whilst empowering children, the
ladies behind Ethnikids also aim to
give independent authors and
publishers access to markets and
foster local talent. When Ethnikids
started, they found that most local
writers were publishing and selling
their books independently. Today,
Ethnikids features a wide range of
authors from a variety of countries,
allowing them a platform to promote
their literature.
REPRESENTATION
Representation is a very
important subject in modern-day
South Africa and around the world.
There is a growing need to increase
racial diversity and pride, and it starts
with something as simple as being
exposed to inclusive media. There is
a reason the film Black Panther was
hugely successful. African kids saw
an African superhero speaking an
African language and could finally
identify with a big Marvel production.
This type of narrative in children’s
literature is limited or inaccessible.
Ethnikids’ mission is finding books
with characters that look like our
children, with protagonists of colour
from all corners of the world.
INCREASING LITERACY
RATES IN SOUTH AFRICA
“Our strong belief is that there is a
correlation between the lack of access
to stimulating, representative
material and the lack of interest in
reading shown by many South
African children” says Khumo
Tapfumaneyi, one of the founders. It
is for this reason Ethnikids started
organising book readings where local
authors could read from their books
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and make it a fun experience for kids.
One of their biggest achievements
being the Kasi Reading Tour that took
place in 2019. The ladies visited
libraries in various townships (Alex,
Tembisa, Soweto, Mamelodi and
Eldorado Park) to promote local
authors and distribute books. “It is
important to our mission to not only
be inclusive in a racial and linguistic
manner, but socio-economically as
well because of the life-altering influ-
ence of literacy” says Tapfumaneyi.
FUTURE PLANS
One thing Covid-19 has taught the
moms is not to be too attached to
the plans they make. Before the
pandemic hit, they had experimented
with having a physical bookstore
and were considering rolling-out this
offering. Now, like the rest of SA, they
are adjusting to a new normal and are
looking at ways to scale the business
and incorporate a greater digital
element. “We want to take South
African stories to the world!” says
Tina Akuoko. “And we look forward
to the days when we can all come
together again for storytime”.
Stay
updated with:
ETHNIKIDS:
ethnikids.co.za
@ethnikids_co
@Ethnikids_Co
Ethnikids
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LIFE let’s talk
Getting out of an abusive relationship isn’t easy,
but you deserve to live free of fear. TEXT SKYE LAVIS
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hy doesn’t she just leave?
It’s the question many
people ask when they
learn that a woman is
suffering abuse. If you are in an abusive
relationship, you know that it’s not that
simple. Ending a significant relationship
is hard enough but it’s even harder
when you’ve been isolated from your
family and friends, psychologically
beaten down, financially controlled, and
physically threatened.
One moment, you may desperately
want to get away, and the next, you may
want to try to salvage the relationship.
Maybe you’re still hoping that your
situation will change or you’re afraid of
how your partner will react if he
discovers that you’re trying to leave.
Maybe you even blame yourself for the
abuse or feel weak and embarrassed
because you’ve stuck around in spite
of it. Don’t be trapped by confusion,
guilt or self-blame. The only thing that
matters is your safety.
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1. SIGNS OF ABUSE
If you’re afraid of your partner, that’s a
big red flag. No matter the reason, fear
has no place in a healthy relationship.
• Your partner bullies, threatens, or
controls you.
• Your partner cuts you off from family
and friends.
• Your partner controls your money.
• Your partner physically abuses you.
• Your partner sexually abuses you.
2. SIGNS THAT YOUR ABUSER
IS NOT CHANGING
• He minimizes the abuse or denies
how serious it really was.
• He continues to blame others for his
behaviour.
• He claims that you’re the one who is
abusive.
• He tells you that you owe him
another chance.
• He says that he can’t change unless
you stay with him and support him.
• He tries to get sympathy from you,
your children, or your family and
friends.
• He expects something from you in
exchange for getting help.
3. SAFETY PLANNING
Whether or not you’re ready to leave
your abuser, there are steps you can
take to protect yourself. These safety
tips might be the difference between
being severely injured or killed and
escaping with your life.
Know your abuser’s red flags:
Stay alert for signs that your abuser is
getting upset and may explode in anger
or violence.
Identify safe areas of the house:
Know where to go if your abuser
attacks or an argument starts. Avoid
small, enclosed spaces without exits
(such as closets or bathrooms) or
rooms with weapons (like the kitchen).
If possible, head for a room with a
phone and an outside door or window.
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Come up with a code word:
Establish a word, phrase, or signal you
NATIONWIDE EMERGENCY
can use to let your children, friends, TO FIND A SHELTER RESPONSE
neighbours or co-workers know that NEAR YOU: 010 590 5920
you’re in danger and they should call
the police. Visit GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE
www.justice.gov.za/vg/ COMMAND CENTRE:
4. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Shelter-Database.pdf gbv.org.za
SHELTERS TEARS: *120*7867# (free)
A building or set of apartments where www.tears.co.za 0800 428 428
abused women can go to seek refuge info@tears.co.za
from their abusers is available and the *143*7355#
location is kept confidential in order 010 590 5920
to keep your abuser from finding you.
Domestic violence shelters generally
have room for both mothers and their
children but it will depend on the
shelter. The shelter will provide for all
your basic living needs, including food
and childcare and may be able to refer
you to other services for abused
women in your community, including:
• Counseling.
• Support groups.
• Services for your children.
• Employment programs.
• Health-related services.
• Educational opportunities.

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LIFE let’s talk
Read up on HERstory
It’s important to know why we’re
celebrating what we’re celebrating,
right? When you realise you don’t
actually know how this day came
about and the history behind it you
know you need to do a bit of reading.
There are a lot of amazing books
that are informative, beautiful and
empowering. Take a look at a few of
our favourites below and educate
yourself.
- We Should All Be Feminists by
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.
- Little Leaders: Bold Women in
Black History by Vashti Harrison.
- Taking Up Space: The Black Girl’s
Manifesto for Change by Chelsea
Kwakye & Ore Ogunbiyi.
- Call me Woman by Ellen Kuzwayo.
- What a Time to be Alone: The
Slumflower’s guide to why you
are already enough by Chidera
Eggerue.
Kick butt and build some
muscle
Nothing says ‘you go girl’ like working
up a sweat during a workout or
kickboxing class. Whatever it is, do
something that’ll make you feel like a
powerful, strong she-boss!
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The 9th of August is upon us and
Watch inspiring TED talks
for women
Youtube has a playlist of ‘20 Inspiring
TED Talks Every Woman Should
Watch’. From careers to relation-
ships, the talks cover a variety of
topics that all relate to women
leadership and empowerment.
After listening to the women that are
changing the game, you too will feel
inspired, motivated and determined
to make your dreams a reality.
Listen to a Girl Power
playlist
It’s amazing being a woman and
don’t you ever forget it! Make your
own or follow a Spotify playlist.
What are our favourite Girl Power
songs? Here a few to get you started.
- Run the World by Beyonce
- Good as Hell by Lizzo
- Girl on Fire by Alicia Keys
- God is a Woman by Ariana Grande
- Rise Up by Andra Day
- RESPECT by Aretha Franklin
Write a thank-you note to a
woman that inspires you.
We all have at least one woman that
has been pivotal in our lives so why
not take this as an opportunity to
say thank you.
what better way to celebrate
than by following our
Women’s Month guide.
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There is nothing more meaningful
than telling someone that they’ve
made an impact in your life, and
writing it down in a note will allow
her to keep it forever. If you can
afford to, add some flowers or a
small chocolate and brighten
someone’s day!
Do a random act of
kindness for the gals
Here’s a fun idea: write a few
compliments on sticky notes and
distribute them in random places.
For example, the ladies bathroom,
the staff room or a colleague’s desk.
- You’re a smart lady!
- You inspire me!
- You have a beautiful smile!
- You light up a room!
Watch your favourite
heroine on the big screen
Want to feel empowered? This is the
list that keeps on giving.
- Hidden Figures (2016)
- Moana (2016)
- Wonder Woman (2017)
- The color purple (1985)
- Frida (2004)
- Queen of Katwe (2016)

Donate your time, talent or
treasure to organizations
that support girls
There are three major ways to show
an organization that you support
their mission:
- Give them time by showing up to
serve.
- Talent by using your skill set to
help out.
- Treasure by making a financial
contribution.
Here are a few suggestions to check
out:
1. 18twenty8
A 100% women-led non-profit
organisation (NPO) that
empowers young women by
providing strategies for their
educational and personal
development. 18twenty8.org
2. Project Dignity
Empowering disadvantaged young
women to complete their education
with dignity. projectdignity.org.za
3. Saartjie Baartman Centre
for Women and Children
A one-stop centre for women and
children who are survivors of abuse.
They provide a wide range of
services, including a 24-hour
emergency shelter, residential care,
counseling and mental
health support.
saartjiebaartmancentre.org.za
4. Women and Beyond
A registered NPO which provides
assistance to women and children
affected by poverty. The organisation
offers counseling, support and
intervention in relation to
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societal concerns such as women
and children abuse, orphaned and
abandoned children, as well as those
living with HIV/AIDS or other
terminal illnesses.
womenandbeyond.org.za
5. Women4Women
A foundation which focuses on the
empowerment and upliftment of
women. One of the core functions is
to raise funds for less fortunate and
previously disadvantaged women
who cannot afford to pay for their
education. women4women.co.za.
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 Your hot water bottle is all warmed up, you haven’t looked at your phone for at
least an hour, you’ve just counted your 100th sheep, backwards and yet still, you
can’t fall asleep. Sound familiar? TEXT SKYE LAVIS
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C
OVID-19 has turned the
world completely upside
down and affected all
aspects of life, including
our health, livelihoods and sleeping
patterns! Since the lockdown began,
the hashtag “can’t sleep” has been
trending, with stories of people
struggling to shut their eyes for the
night. If that’s you, here’s how you can
reverse that trend.
ROUTINE
Your daily pattern has gone out of the
window. Normally, it’s wake up early,
go to the gym, go to work and sleep.
But now life doesn’t have the same
structure as before. Routine is the
most important factor in getting good
sleep, says Professor Kevin Morgan,
a psychologist from Loughborough
University who’s been studying sleep
for years. With the lockdown causing
a fracture in our routines, Prof
Morgan says it’s unsurprising people
are finding it hard. “Routine is the
guardian of good sleep” he says. Even
if your life has changed, Prof Morgan
recommends preserving your old
sleeping pattern. “Get up at your
normal time and go to bed at the
normal time, however tempting it
might be to do otherwise. All those
extra naps some of us are now taking?
You’ve got to save your sleepiness for
bedtime”. Don’t waste your sleepiness
on a midday nap, it’s now your most
valuable resourse!
SUNSHINE
With restrictions in place, we might
not be getting out as much. That’s bad
news for our sleep because our eyes
need exposure to outdoor light to
regulates our sleep and wake pattern.
Through sun exposure, the hormone
melatonin is produced in our bodies
and helps with inducing sleep. “It’s
the only way the body has of knowing
whether it’s light or dark.” says Prof
Morgan. He also suggests doing your
daily exercise outside and taking
advantage of the outdoor activities
you’re allowed to do during lockdown.
“And even if it’s sunny, don’t take
sunglasses, get the sun into your eyes.
That will increase your sleep quality
and your mood.”
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PAUSE THE WORRYING
It’s normal to have worries and stress
at a time like this. We worry about
our families, our health, our jobs, and
being locked up at home can only
increase that stress! Whilst it’s ok to
be worried, we should try not to take
those worries to bed. “Tell yourself
you’ve done all you can for that day
and there’s nothing more to do. Then
pick it up again the next day, after a
good night’s sleep.
AVOID YOUR BED
If you’re working from home and are
fortunate enough to have options
about where in the house you work,
avoid your bedroom. Don’t go near
the bed, don’t sit on it, don’t lie on it
and don’t do work in it. Your mind
associates your bed with sleeptime
so until you actually need to go and
sleep, steer clear of it at all costs. If it’s
unavoidable, try changing the
appearance of the bed. Throw a cover
over the top and place items on the
bed that will force you to remove
before getting into bed. Ultimately, it’s
about trying to trick your mind.
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Before you reach for your anti-

histamines, here are some helpful
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POLLEN
For many people, the change from
winter to spring can bring about
sneezing, wheezing, coughing and
itching due to the increased pollen
count in the air. Allergic rhinitis,
better known as hay fever, is caused
by outdoor allergens including pollen,
weeds, grasses and trees. You can
minimise your discomfort by:
- Washing your face and hands
thoroughly when moving indoors
to remove any pollen that may have
come into contact with your skin.
- Damp-wiping surfaces with cleaning
products that are proven to remove
allergens such as vinegar. baking soda
and lemon juice.
- Keeping windows and doors closed
on warm, dry days when the pollen
count is generally high.
- Avoiding places such as grassy,
open spaces and wearing glasses to
stop pollen spores from coming into
contact with your eyes.
MOULD
Mould releases tiny spores into the
air, which when breathed in, may
cause allergic reactions. Certain kinds
of mould can be seen with the naked
eye but others are invisible. Mould
thrives in damp, warm, and humid
environments like bathrooms,
refrigerators and musty cupboards.
You can limit your exposure
to mould by:
- Cleaning problem areas such as
refrigerator door seals and shower
curtains with a trusted cleaning
agent.
- Avoiding damp and musty places
which are known to house mould
- Keeping your home dry and
ventilated. (Minimise the humidity
in your home by opening windows
or finding other ways of increasing
ventilation).
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DUST MITES
Have you ever felt itchy or had
difficulty breathing during or
immediately after vacuuming, sweep-
ing and dusting? This may be due to
a dust allergy. The process of cleaning
stirs up dust particles, making them
easier to inhale. Symptoms of dust
allergies including wheezing,
coughing, tightness in the chest and
shortness of breath. Dust mites are
the most common trigger and are
often found in pillows, mattresses,
carpeting and upholstered furniture.
To manage your distress, you can:
- Clean carpets regularly, espescially
in the bedroom.
- Frequently wash bed linens in hot
water.
PETS
While we love our furry friends, many
people are allergic to animal fur. Pets
shed dander, which is a combination
of dead skin cells and hair. This can
often trigger asthma attacks and
other allergic reactions in some
people. If you are allergic to animal
fur, removing them from the home
is the most effective solution, but
if this isn’t possible you can try the
following steps:
- Damp-wipe household surfaces and
floors with products that are proven
to remove pet allergens.
- Keep pets outside the home or at
least outside of the bedroom.
- Vacuum and wash
carpets and upholstery often.
While you can’t control your allergies,
you can control the effect they have
on you by changing your household
cleaning habits accordingly and
targeting the right spaces.
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Letters
to my
DAUGHTER
How to raise a progressive thinking,
feminist child. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

M
eet Chimamanda
Ngozi Adichie,
the Nigerian
born, novelist and
writer who has published a 15
step manifesto on how to raise a
progressive thinking, feminist child.
The piece comes in the form of a
letter to Ijeawele, a friend who had
given birth to a daughter and had
asked for advice on how to raise
her daughter to be a feminist. The
manifesto discusses gender roles
and the place of women in the
world. It is full of anecdotes from
the classroom to the bedroom and
the playground, and dissects how
politics, language, identity and the
news media all combine to create a
certain image of a girl child.
As a feminist icon, Adichie has
powerfully spoken and written
about women’s rights and the needs
for inclusion and equality. In an era
when presidents say their wives
belong in the kitchen, where women
are assaulted in the streets for how
they dress, the manifesto has been
praised for making moves toward a
world that is more gender equal.

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HERE ARE THE 15 STEPS
RECOMMENDED BY ADICHIE:
1. Be a full person. Motherhood is
a glorious gift, but do not define
yourself solely by motherhood.
2. Do it together. Remember in
primary school we learnt that a verb
was a ‘doing’ word? Well, a father is
as much a verb as a mother.
3. Teach her that ‘gender roles’ is
absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell
her that she should do or not do
something “because you are a girl.”
4. Beware the danger of what I
call Feminism Lite. It is the idea of
conditional female equality. Reject
this entirely. It is a hollow, appeasing,
and bankrupt idea. Being a feminist
is like being pregnant. You either are
or you are not. You either believe in
the full equality of women, or you
do not.
5. Teach her to love books.
6. Teach her to question language.
Language is the repository of
our prejudices, our beliefs, our
assumptions. But to teach her that,
you will have to question your own
language.
7. Never speak of marriage as an
achievement.
8. Teach her to reject likeability. Her
job is not to make herself likeable,
her job is to be her full self, a self
that is honest and aware of the equal
humanity of other people.
9. Give her a sense of identity. It
matters. Be deliberate about it.
10. Be deliberate about how you
engage with her and her appearance.
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11. Teach her to question our
culture’s selective use of biology as
‘reasons’ for social norms.
12. Talk to her about sex and start
early. It will probably be a bit
awkward but it is necessary.
13. Romance will happen so be on
board.
14. In teaching her about oppression,
be careful not to turn the oppressed
into saints.
15. Teach her about difference.
Make difference ordinary. Make
difference normal. Teach her not to
attach value to difference. And the
reason for this is not to be fair or to
be nice but merely to be human and
practical.
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Being locked up at home can make

it tough for families to keep a sense of
calm. It’s important to help children feel
safe and supported. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

PARENTING IN A
pandemic
COMMUNICATE FEARS
Children rely on their parents
for safety, both physically and
emotionally. Reassure your children
that you are there for them and that
your family will get through this
together.
Answer questions about the
pandemic simply & truthfully:
Talk with children about any
frightening news they hear. It’s ok to
say people are getting sick, but say
following rules like hand washing
and staying home will help your
family stay healthy. Tell them that
scientists are working hard to figure
out how to help people who get ill,
and that things will get better.
Tell your child before you leave the
house:
In a calm and reassuring voice, tell
them where you are going, how
long you will be gone, when you will
return, and that you are taking steps
to stay safe.
Keep contact with loved ones:
Children may also worry about a
grandparent who is living alone or a
relative or friend with an increased
risk of getting COVID-19. Video
chats can help ease their anxiety.
Acknowledge your child’s feelings:
Guiding questions can help children
and teens work through issues.
Calmly say, for example, “I can see
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that you are upset and I know it’s
disappointing not to be able to play
with your friends right now. How do
you think you can stay in touch with
them?”
STRUCTURE THE DAY
During the pandemic, it is more
important than ever to maintain
routines for younger kids and
teens alike. Structure creates a
sense of order to the day that offers
reassurance in a very uncertain
time. Even with usual routines
thrown off, establish new daily
schedules such as:

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- Morning: Wake-up routines,

getting dressed, breakfast and
some active play in the morning,
followed by quiet play and snack to
transition into schoolwork.
- Midday: Lunch, chores, exercise,
some online social time with
friends, and then homework in the
afternoon.
- Evening: Dinner, family time, bath
and reading before bed.

CONSTRUCTIVE DISCIPLINE
Everyone is more anxious and
worried during the pandemic and
younger children may not have the
words to describe their feelings.
They’re more likely to act out their
stress, anxiety or fear through their
behaviour (which can, in turn,
upset parents particularly if they
are already stressed working from
home). Older children and teens
may also be extra irritable as they
miss out on time with friends and
special events being cancelled. Here
are some ways you can help your
children manage their emotions and
behaviour:
and aren’t always effective. Corporal something dangerous, ignoring bad
Creative play punishment may also take away a behaviour can be an effective way
Use the pandemic as inspiration for child’s sense of safety and security at of stopping it. Sometimes children
creative play. Suggest your children home, which are especially needed misbehave because they are bored
draw pictures of ways your family now. Rather use time-outs. Remind and looking for attention.
is staying safe and hang it up to them what they did wrong in a few
remind everyone. Or, build an indoor words, and with as little emotion as Rewards
fort or castle to keep the germs at possible. Then, remove them from Completing school assignments,
bay, bringing in favourite stuffed the situation for a pre-set length of doing chores and getting along with
animals or toys. time (1 minute per year of age is a siblings wouldn’t normally justify
good guide). a reward because it is expected of
Avoid physical punishment kids. Keep in mind that these are
Spanking, hitting and other forms of When not to respond stressful times for them as well and a
physical punishment can risk injury As long as your child isn’t doing little extra love can go a long way!

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BUILD A
It’s springtime and birds are returning to the garden
again. Building a birdhouse is the perfect project to

ouse
welcome back our feathery friends!

Bi rdh
TEXT SKYE LAVIS

WHAT YOU WILL NEED:

- 2l cold drink bottle
- Perch (straw, chopstick, pencil)
- Non toxic paint and paint brushes
- Decor you can find around the
house (glitter, coloured paper,
markers, ribbons)
- Glue (stick or tube)
- Scissors
- String

TIME:
30 minutes

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TIP
Parental supervision is
advised when using
scissors

METHOD:
1. Remove the plastic label from the bottle and give it a good wash. You don’t want it to be sticky for the birds you’re
trying to attract.

2. Measure out the dimensions for the door. It should be around a golf ball-sized hole large enough for birds to fit
through, but not large enough for predators. Once you have the measurement right, draw the hole on the side of the
bottle and carefully cut it out with scissors.

3. Next is the perch for the birds to stand on. You need a stick longer than the diameter of the bottle. (Good examples
are chopsticks, straws or even old pencils will do!) Make two holes on either side of the bottle. One just under the
door and one on the opposite side. Slide the stick straight through the one side and outside the other.

4. Now comes the fun part: Decorating! Get creative using paints and other recyclable materials from around the
house.

5. When you’re happy with the final look, tie a string around the lid and hang it in a tree high enough that your pets
can’t get to it. Don’t worry about putting anything inside the house, the birds will build their own nest themselves.

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RETOLD BY KIRSTIN HARTMANN
ILLUSTRATIONS BY HEIDEL DEDEKIND
WHY THE MOON GETS
SMALLER & BIGGER

L
ong ago, Mother Moon lit up
the sky every night. She had a
blanket woven from the most
beautiful golden thread. Her
blanket shone so brightly that there was
enough light for all people to see their
way through the darkness. Sometimes,
Mother Moon wrapped her blanket
tightly around herself and came down
to visit the earth. One night, in the
middle of winter, near the banks of a
river, she came across an old woman
who lived alone. The old woman was
not frightened to see Mother Moon.
“Come inside,” she said and invited
Mother Moon into her home. She was
happy to have company. Mother Moon
noticed that the old woman could not
stop shivering and shaking because
she was so cold. Mother Moon felt sorry
for the old woman and gave her a piece
of her golden blanket. The old woman
wrapped it around her shoulders. Soon
she was warm. Thank you,” she said.
“You are very kind.” But in the morning,
when the old woman saw how beautiful
the blanket was, she wanted another
piece. She wanted to sew two pieces
together to make a bigger blanket for
herself. So the next night when Mother
Moon came down to visit, the old
woman told a lie and said that she was
still cold. Again, Mother Moon felt
sorry for the old woman and gave her
a second piece of the beautiful blanket.
In the morning, the old woman sewed
the two pieces together, but she was
greedy and wanted even more. Before
Mother Moon came to visit on the third
night, the old woman hid her blanket.
She covered it well so that the golden
light would not shine from her house.
Then, she told Mother Moon another
lie. She said that the blanket had been
stolen and now she was very, very cold.
Mother Moon felt so sad. She saw how
the poor old woman was shivering in
the night air. So Mother Moon gave

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sky.” And she started to cry again. are cold,” she told the old woman,
“We will help you,” said the villagers. “pull on this thread, and then you
“Come with us. We will find the old will know what to do next.” And with
woman and talk to her.”They did not that Mother Moon went back into
have to search long for the old woman’s the night sky leaving a trail of golden
house because the blanket shone so thread behind her. From that day on,
brightly from the inside. They called Mother Moon has stayed in the night
This story was provided courtesy
of the Nal’ibali reading-for- loudly until the old woman came sky, shining brightly. And from that
enjoyment campaign. To read the
outside. When the old woman saw day on, once a month, when the old
story in another SA language, or for
literacy activities, reading tips and Mother Moon standing in the darkness woman starts to feel cold, she pulls on
more stories to enjoy with your
with tears on her cheeks, she felt the golden thread. She pulls and pulls
children, visit nalibali.org,
nalibali.mobi, or find them at ashamed for being so selfish. Without gathering more and more thread to
facebook.com/nalibaliSA
a word she gave the blanket back. The weave a golden blanket. As she does
and on Twitter: @nalibaliSA.
people quickly wrapped Mother Moon this, Mother Moon’s blanket in the
in her blanket, and as it touched her, sky comes undone and gets smaller
the old woman the last little piece of it started to glow even brighter than and smaller until it shines no more.
the blanket she had left. Now, Mother before. “Before you go back to the night Then, when the old woman is warm
Moon did not shine at all. She said sky,” they said, “please tell us how to enough, she gives thanks and lets
goodbye to the old woman, wished her punish the old woman.” Mother Moon Mother Moon take back all the thread
well and left After a few days the people thought about this for a long while and bit by bit. Then Mother Moon weaves
in the nearby village began to worry. then she said, “No, do not punish her. I it until her blanket is whole again and
They could no longer see in the dark. would rather teach her how to share.” shines brightly in the night sky. And
There had been no moonlight for so Mother Moon unpicked a thick thread that is why, every month, the moon gets
long that they decided to find out why. from the bottom of her blanket and smaller and bigger. That is how it has
They lit lanterns and began to search. gave it to the old woman. “When you been from that day to this.
They searched for hours until they were
so tired and thirsty that they stopped
to rest on the banks of a river. As they
GET
rested, they heard a woman crying.
CREATIVE!
When they looked around, they found Let your children use paper,
Mother Moon. No light shone from her glue, tinfoil, glitter and any
and she looked sad.“What has made other shiny materials to
make Mother Moon’s
you so unhappy?” they asked. “And
blanket.
how can we help you?” Mother Moon
told them about her beautiful blanket
and how it used to shine brightly in
the night sky. She also told them how
she loved to visit the earth and about
the old woman who had been cold. “I
cannot take the blanket back,” said
Mother Moon. “The poor woman has
nothing to keep her warm. But without
my blanket, I cannot light up the night

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FAMILY food

HOSTESS WITH THE

mostest
The Lazy Makoti’s guide to
delicious, easy meals in honour
of Women’s Day.

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NO-CRUST MINI QUICHES

PREPARATION TIME: 15 MINUTES
BAKING TIME: 15 MINUTES
SERVES 6

INGREDIENTS
6 large eggs
½ cup milk
½ cup diced tomatoes
½ cup Cheddar cheese, grated
4 rashers smoked bacon, cooked
till crisp, then crumbled
¼ cup spinach, very finely
chopped
Salt and pepper, to taste

1. Preheat oven to 180°C.

2. Whisk the eggs in a large bowl and
stir in the rest of the ingredients.
3. Grease a metal cupcake tin and
pour mixture into the cups,
filling each three-quarters of the
way.
4. Bake for 15 minutes or until a
knife inserted comes out clean.

PILCHARD COTTAGE PIE

SERVES 4 – 6
PREPARATION TIME: 10 MINUTES
COOKING TIME: 45 MINUTES

INGREDIENTS
4 – 6 potatoes,
peeled and cut into chunks
2 Tbsp butter or margarine
4 Tbsp milk
1 medium onion, chopped
Oil, for frying
2 tsp curry powder
400g tin pilchards in sweet chilli
sauce
100g tin mixed vegetables,
drained
½ cup soft breadcrumbs
Salt and pepper, to taste

Heat the oven to 180°C. Grease a

casserole dish and set aside. Cook
the potatoes in salted boiling water
until soft. Drain well and mash with
butter and milk. Season with salt
and pepper. In a different saucepan,
sauté the onion in oil and add curry
powder. Add the pilchards with the
sauce and break them up into large
chunks. Gently mix in the vegetables
and season with salt and pepper.
Spoon the pilchard and vegetable
mixture into the casserole dish and
top with the mashed potato. Scatter
the breadcrumbs on top. Bake un-
covered for 20 minutes until crunchy
and golden.

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CREAMY HERBY
CHICKEN
PREPARATION TIME: 15 MINUTES
COOKING TIME: 20 MINUTES
SERVES 4

INGREDIENTS
4 chicken breasts (sliced
lengthwise to make them thinner)
Salt and pepper, to taste
Olive oil
1 small onion, very finely chopped
4 tsp garlic, minced
1 tsp fresh parsley, chopped
½ tsp each dried thyme and dried
rosemary
2 tsp dried Italian herbs
2 tsp lemon and herb spice
½ cup milk
½ cup cream
1 tsp cornstarch, mixed with
1 Tbsp water, until smooth
1 cup blanched vegetables
(spinach/green beans)
1 cup mushrooms, fried
Season the chicken breasts
with salt and pepper.

1. Heat 1 tablespoon olive oil in a

large pan over medium-high heat
and cook chicken breasts until
no longer pink inside
(about 5 minutes each side,
depending on thickness).
2. Transfer to a plate and set aside.
3. In the same pan, heat another
2 teaspoons olive oil and sauté
onion and garlic until fragrant.
4. Add the herbs and spices and fry
for a minute, then stir in milk and
cream.
5. Bring to a boil, add the corn
starch mixture to the centre of
the pan and stir immediately
until sauce has thickened slightly.
6. Reduce heat and simmer gently
for a further minute to allow the
sauce to thicken more.
7. Return chicken to the skillet.
8. Sprinkle with extra herbs if
desired.
9. Add cooked vegetables and
mushrooms, heat through and
serve with rice.

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MAMA’S TEA BISCUITS

PREPARATION TIME: 20 MINUTES
BAKING TIME: 10-15 MINUTES
MAKES 30 BISCUITS

INGREDIENTS
500 g margarine
1 ½ cups castor sugar
2 tsp vanilla essence
4 eggs
6 cups flour
3 tsp baking powder
1 tsp bicarbonate of soda
1 tsp cream of tartar

Preheat oven to 180°C.

Cream margarine and castor sugar
till smooth.
Add vanilla and beat in eggs, one at
a time.
In a separate bowl, sift together
flour, baking powder, bicarbonate of
soda and cream of tartar.
Gradually add dry ingredients to
wet mixture, stirring with a wooden
spoon to combine as you go.
Published by Quivertree Publications, photographed by Craig Fraser. www.quivertreepublications.com

Fill a cookie gun with the dough and

turn out cookies 3 – 5 cm apart onto
a greased baking pan.
Bake for 10 – 15 minutes until light
brown.

Get your hands on these and other

delicious recipes in ‘The Lazy Makoti’s
Guide to the Kitchen’. Available from
your nearest bookstore or online.

“These biscuits have been a staple in my house

for years. My mother always makes extra to
give as a gift to any visitor that leaves our
home. I love the fact that they are delicious and
so easy to make. And you can adjust the sugar
content to make them a little less sweet”.

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DIY VERTICAL TEXT SKYE LAVIS

GARDEN
A
perfect small space
solution! Vertical
gardening is a great
way to take advantage
of empty vertical spaces such as
walls or fences. It’s also a unique
way to add visual interest to your
space. In addition, those who live in
apartments with only a balcony for
outside space can enjoy the benefits
of vertical gardening. When thinking
about other ways to incorporate
vertical gardening into your space,
just let your imagination run
wild. An inexpensive shoe storage
organiser hung on a wall with the
pockets full of soil is a great way to
vertically grow herbs.

YOU WILL NEED:

- Hanging pocket shoe organizer
- Pole, screws, hooks (to secure
organiser to the wall)
- Compost | potting soil
- Plants | seeds
- Piece of 2”x 2” wood that’s as long
as the organizer is wide (used to
keep the pockets away from the
wall).

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1. METHOD:
1. Attach the strong pole or curtain
rod to the side of the chosen
structure e.g wall/fence.

2. Use sturdy hooks or wire to attach

the hanging shoe organizer.

3. Check for drainage by pouring a

bit of water into each pocket.
If they drain freely, it’s time to
plant. If not, poke a few small
2. holes into each pocket. (If you
want to catch the water that drips
from the shoe organizers, place a
trough or window box beneath the
vertical garden).

4. Now it’s time to plant. Fill each

pocket with good moisture
retaining compost or potting soil
to a few centimeters below the rim
and add some water. Spring is the
3. ideal time to sow seeds for your
edible garden. Here is what you
should be planting:
- Basil
- Celery
- Coriander
- Rocket
- Parsley
- Cherry tomatoes

CARE:
4. - Keep the plants moist (Water
slowly and lightly so you don’t
wash the soil out of the pockets).
- Don’t over pick salad leaves (This
will allow the plant to regrow so
you have a continuous supply of
greens).
- Remove any diseased, infected or
damaged plants.

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“It’s the fire in my eyes, and the flash of my teeth, the swing in my
waist, and the joy in my feet. I’m a woman phenomenally.”

Maya Angelou

Remember Women’s Day - 09 August

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