While minding my own business, (as most of my stories go) I got a call from a certain entertainment

channel asking what is my take on love, sex and relationships of millennials. The very first thing I've
said was.. "magulo sila" to which the researcher asked why?
 
Kasi ganito yan, para bang its seeing the forces of nature act with all its ferocity and brutality pero it
is beautiful and terrifying at the same time. Magulo talaga sila.
 
The researcher, this time really confused to what I just said hesitatingly asked "sir pano nangyari
yun?"
 
First look at how they handle relationships. Have you ever seen them date? Everything needs to be
calculated. They have to strategize even how they would respond to text! Reply agad, and they
would think you're clingy, reply later and they would think you're playing it cool replying too soon is
just being desperate. Kaya nga tinawag na instant messaging kasi instant reply diba? Tas kelangan
pagiisipan pa nila kung paano and ano ang irreply?! Laki ng amats nila meyn. Dehins ko magets.
 
It shows how they view courtship. Kaya sila nagaantayan kung sino mauuna magtapat kasi takot sila
sa results.
 
They are so afraid of showing their vulnerable side and honestly I can't blame them. They've been
hurt so many times they become jaded. Bitter. This reflects on how they relate to each other and
how they see relationships in general. Para bang for them love is a contest where the one who least
cares wins. Kasi for them, to show you care too much opens you to setbacks. Opens you up to being
duped and tricked and bamboozled and get your heart torn and shredded to pieces. Kaya hindi
pwede mahina. Hindi pwede marupok. So the less attached one is, the better.
 
Second, alot of them have commitment issues. Why? because most millennials think that they have
alot of options. There is always that better guy or girl just around the corner. Always that better
relationship. The more understanding one or loving one. The perfect one. They are just so obsessed
with looking for perfection in that guy or girl that they don't realize that they just don't exist. They dont
realize that there is no perfect guy or girl. There are only those people who will do anything and
everything for you and they are the people worth keeping. They don't realize that soul mates are not
made for them but rather made by them in the relationships that they choose to fight for.
 
That's why its so easy for them to always look. Always compare. Kasi they have this romantic notion
of love na nasa kdrama sila, na may "oppa or noona" nagaantay na magmamahal sa kanila. They
are so into searching na para bang all they do is look up in the sky searching for stars when they
already have diamonds in their hands. Kaya nga madalas mo maririnig sa kanila "sana all." Kasi
hindi nila maiwasan icompare yung sarili and relationship nila sa iba.
 
Third, the homeostatic relationships that they have, kasi they want to be in the relationship with all
the perks that go with it just without any strings attached. Its just so ironic that they would look for
their happily ever after yet cannot commit to forever. They just want the grey areas of the
relationship. Preferably the sex. They are just so hyper focused on sex! Maybe its because sex is so
readily available to them that they no longer need to shell out much effort to have it. Wala na yung
ligawan, mahalan, kasalan. Wala na yung getting to know each other part. Direcho agad sa sex.
"Why stress when they're willing to undress?" They just dont get it.. kaya may ligawan, mahalan at
kasalan kasi sex without these is just a disaster waiting to happen.
 
Fourth, When they think that its not working out edi palitan kasi madami pa dyan sa tabi tabi. Since
they are not too attached, its easy for them to "quitely" fade away from the relationship. Galing nila
mang ghost, parang may invisibility +10, Dodge +5 and Evasion +30 skill sila eh. And amidst the
chaos they are oblivious of the pain and damage they leave behind the other party. Ghosting is a
millennials' way of ending a relationship. And they become so proficient at it that it would seem like a
natural thing to do. Wala na yung concept ng actual breakup. Dati, at least people had the decency
to tell it your face na tapos na kayo. Ngayon, If you don't like someone edi ghost. No text. No call. No
nothing. We just simply no longer exist to them. Para bang psychotic na hindi mo malaman eh.
Maswerte ka na kung may matanggap ka na one liner text and emoticon na sya nalang na nagiisang
ebidensya na "hindi na kayo   "
:(

 
Hirap na silang magtiwala kasi they feel that dating is just a game and love is a race. A race that
most of them feel they are getting left behind.
 
Irregardless, dating is not a game, its a gamble and you're supposed to take some risks, not play
with it. And love is not a race, nor a marathon. Its a journey. It's taking risks, getting hurt, bowing out
and getting back again. It's bearing one's own heart, being vulnerable, being scared. It doesn't
matter how fast we go,what matters is going forward and enjoying everything in between. The reality
of love is: it involves loving, without doubt or strategy. And it also requires being loved in return
without if's and but's. And sex? Sex is.. more than an act of pleasure.. it is the ability to be able to
feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable, that it takes your breath away and you
literally become one with them.
 
Kaya to those who are dating a millenial. It doesn't mean naman na wala nang pagasa. Uwian na. It
just requires alot of communicating. A lot of opening of sensibilities and a lot of patience to make it
work. And to the millennial who is reading this right now, don't worry. Take your time. Be honest.
Forgive. Forgive yourself. Live. Have fun. Trust. Love.