It's all in the balding scalp ;) But seriously, it comes with years of experience.

You're probably fine with expressing yourself authentically around your friends
because you feel SAFE around them being yourself. With random women, you may not
have enough experience for your mind to automatically associate them with it being
ok to be yourself.

In the end, practicing and exposing yourself to situations you're afraid of,
pushing through, and coming out the other side really is the only way.

If you can change your focus, you can change your future.
Don�t spend a minute worrying about something that you can�t control. If something
can�t be changed by you taking direct action, put it out of your mind. Today�s
society is overrun with useless distractions