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What is swinging? Let us talk more elaborately about the swinging lifestyle and how it impacts
your life. Plus, we give you places to discover swingers.

Swinger Lifestyle: What are Swingers and How

to Find Them
So, what is the swinger lifestyle? Swinger lifestyle or swinging is an arrangement where people,
especially couples, engage in non-monogamous sexual activities. They exchange sexual
partners as a social activity or to spice up their relationship or sex life. Couples who practice
swinging are called swingers.

Most swingers are normal people trying to have fun and make their life enjoyable by beating the
monotonous lifestyle. Swinging lifestyle is mostly frowned upon and considered a taboo for
many people. For swinger couples, sex isn’t just an expression of love but also a fun practice.
Many think it’s easy, but that isn’t the case. Some see swinging a medium to create a spark in
life or to explore sexual fantasies that are bizarre in terms of traditional relationships. Many
cases point out that sexual problems or unmatched sex drive can be the reason couples choose
this lifestyle. Swinging can either make or break a tie. Those who enter it found that swinging
has either made their relationship either fulfilling or damaging. Hence, swinging isn’t everyone’s
cup of tea.

Issues in a relationship swinging

As there are so many boons to swinging relationships, there are some drawbacks to these as
well. It only works if you don’t bring emotions into the game. If you do, the entire setting will
backfire. The idea of swinging is to having sex without getting emotionally attached or feeling a
pang of jealousy. Many relationships, as well as lives, are ruined because the couples/partners
merged their emotions. First, you need to decide if you will be able to carry swinging or not. If
you do, there are some rules to follow to avoid falling into messy situations. The rules vary from
couples to couples, you need to talk to your partner about the rules before you venture into the
arrangement.

Let me tell you a story I have read somewhere. A woman forced her husband to try swinging.
While the husband was hesitant, he still tried to do it. Most of the time, he seemed to be
uninterested and felt bad seeing his wife having fun. As time passed, he eventually found
someone who was younger and hotter than his wife. Not only that, but the woman was also a
kinder person at heart. The guy started getting closer to that young woman and acted distant to
his wife. Can you guess what happened next? The wife started being envious and miserable
that her husband was getting attention from an attractive girl. It ruined their marriage!
The point of the narration was to make you understand that this arrangement only works if two
people agree. You shouldn’t force each other. If one isn’t comfortable, leave it. There’s no point
in forcing.

A few facts about swingers

1. Swingers are easy-going people who are sweet in nature. They are socially outgoing and
take an interest in getting to know their new partners. They can instantly form a connection that
empowers them to get a sex partner very quickly. They are great at making people comfortable
with the arrangement.

2. Swingers are adventurous in bed. Swingers are always keen on advancing their skills in bed.
If you ever meet experienced swingers, you’d be surprised how much they have explored their
sexual side and preferences. Things that you might find gross or weird, they have already been
there, done that! They are continually looking for a different aspect of sexual improvement to
spice up their sex life.

3. They are unproblematic. Swingers don’t feel insecure, as I have mentioned earlier. Any type
of emotion is terrible for swinging couples, and jealousy can be detrimental to this type of
arrangement. Swingers know this and don’t jump into swinging without understanding the
consequences. Married couple swingers don’t get jealous because they are very open about
their sex life and encourage each other. That’s why they are the happiest people in marriage.

Where to look for swingers?

Once you have set your heart to it, there’s no turning back. But the real question you would find
yourself asking is how to find swingers in my area? Well, finding swingers can be pretty tricky if
you don’t know where to look for. Let’s take a peek at how to successfully discover other
swingers.

1. Swingers Clubs
Every big city has swinger clubs operating like night clubs or bars. These clubs consist of
adjoining rooms for couples to have sex during or after the party. These are clubs that are
exclusive to the swingers only. If you are still unsure, searching on Google will give you a
clearer idea of where you would find one.

2. Clothing Optional Resorts

Some swingers like to be naked in public, and thus they choose clothing-optional resorts when
they travel. If you do a quick search, you’ll find that many resorts host swinger groups annually.
If you want one while you are traveling, you are surely going to land upon one.
3. Facebook
Facebook and Craigslist are a pretty good place for finding swinger communities. Private and
anonymous Facebook profiles are created for swingers. You might even locate some private
swinging groups near your location or city. Once you find a swinger specific page or profile,
you’ve found the key to open the door to swingers’ world on Facebook. But beware of security
and privacy. Your privacy might get compromised if you fall into the wrong hands. If you want to
keep your exotic lifestyle private, a good rule of thumb is to open a new account and hide it from
people you know. Never use your public profile in the swinging groups.

4. Craigslist
There’s nothing you can’t find on Craigslist, trust me. From casual sex to swingers, you have all
the options open. People post ads for their needs, and from there, you might find what you are
seeking. You just need to keep your eyes open and need to look at the right place. If you search
the “personals” section of the website, you will find a list of ads seeking couples and singles for
hookups. You can either reply to the ads or post a specific ad for yourself.

5. House Parties
Nothing is more intimate and exclusive than house parties when it comes to swinging. Swingers
love hosting such parties, whether publicly or clandestinely. By exclusive, I mean, you won’t get
access to the parties that easily. You need to be personally invited to these parties. Facebook
groups and Craigslist ads are an excellent place to start. Another great option will be making
contact with people from swinging clubs. Most of the time, they can help you achieve the golden
ticket to your desire.

Swinger dating sites

In case you are wondering how to find other swingers online, swinger dating websites are your
next options. If you are unable to find local swingers, you might consider these websites. Here
are some swinger sites for you:

1. Adult friend finder

You have probably heard about Adult Friend Finder. It’s not only a site for casual hookups but
also for people who think of giving the lifestyle a chance. The site claims to be the world’s
topmost online sex and swinger websites. It’s also gay-friendly and offers its subscribers access
to articles and blogs. The site is free to join, but you need to pay for more risque content and
better services. The site supports emailing and direct messaging. They also offer an option
called “flirting” which is similar to a poke you’ve seen on Facebook. The flirting button is to let
the profile know that you are interested in them. Apart from that, they offer virtual gifts, live
broadcasts, adult chat rooms, photo contests, etc. They have an app for mobile as well.
2. Swinger Date Link
SwingerDateLink is the best place for open relationships online. Being a closed-off website, you
don’t have to panic about chatting with a bot. Users report that the site is small yet very useful
for people who are seriously considering swinging and are seeking swingers. The site offers
free audio and video calls for members, and this helps immensely when you need to verify the
authenticity of a profile. However, only the paid users can reap the benefit of the features.
Otherwise, the site is free to join and offers DMs and search features.

3. Swing Lifestyle
As the name suggests, Swing Lifestyle is best suited for those searching for partners with a
similar taste. Swing lifestyle is your go-to place to meet swingers online. The site allows you to
chat with users along with vacation bookings. But the features have a price to pay. The free
version only contains hot dates, profile searching, and member blocking. Unless you pay, the
site doesn’t offer you many options, which can be seen as a shortcoming. However, one
significant benefit of the site is its serves as a directory, which helps users find swinging clubs,
groups, resorts, etc.

If you and your partner are considering venturing the lifestyle, be sure you aren’t pushing each
other. Swinging isn’t for everyone, and there’s no shame in admitting. So, it’s crucial to be very
open about the topic of interest. Ask yourself and your partner some questions about the goals
of swinging, for example, how badly you want it? Will it change your personal relationships? Will
it affect your work? Do you have a jealousy issue? Most of the time, a swinging lifestyle goes
horribly wrong when a partner chooses to break the rule. Therefore it is necessary to make and
adhere to the rules you both agreed upon.