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The word "ethics" originates from the Greek word ēthos, which means habit, custom, or character. It is
defined as the science of morals (from the Greek hē ēthikētekhnē). It is a branch of philosophy that
deals with how should man ideally acts and relates to the society.
As a philosophical discipline of study, the Internet Encyclopedia of Philosophy defines Ethics as a science
that involves systematizing, defending, and recommending concepts of right and wrong conduct. In
practice, ethics pursues to settle uncertainties of human morality by defining the nuances of what is
good and evil, right and wrong, virtue and vice, justice and crime.
Ethics covers the following dilemmas (a) how to carry on with a decent life; (b) our rights and duties; (c)
the language of right and wrong; and (d) moral choices - what is virtuous and evil? Our concepts of
ethics have been derived from religions, philosophies, and cultures. They infuse debates on topics like
abortion, human rights and professional conduct. Morality, on the other hand, is ones’ own personal
sense of what is right or wrong. It is not imposed on anyone, it is what youthink a good and bad person
is. Deigh (2010) defines morality in the sense used in philosophical ethics as standards of right and wise
conduct whose authority in practical thought is determined by reason rather than custom.
In a capsule, Ethics refers to the standards, rules, norms by external sources like the society, profession
or community where an individual resides. It is external by nature since with it is ones social obligation
to follow the standards of a community and within cultural norms. While morality, on the other hand,
refers to the principles or habits with respect to right or wrong conduct. It is internal innature for it
involves the individual belief of what is good or bad. It transcends cultural norms.
Meta-ethics manages the idea of good and moral judgment. It takes a gander at the starting points and
importance of moral standards.
Normative ethics is involved in the matter of good judgments and the criteria for what is correct or off-
base.
Applied ethics takes a gander at questionable points like war, every living creature's common-sense
entitlement, and the death penalty.
Uses of Ethics
In the event that ethical theories are to be valuable practically speaking, they have to influence the way
individuals carry on. A few savants imagine that morals do this. They contend that if a man understands
that it would be ethically great to accomplish something then it would be unreasonable for that
individual not to do it. Be that as it may, individuals regularly act unreasonably - they take after their 'gut
nature' notwithstanding when their head proposes an alternate game-plan. Be that as it may, morals
provide great devices for pondering good issues.
Ethics can offer a moral chart. Most moral issues get us pretty worked up - think of abortion and
euthanasia for starters. Because these are such emotional issues we often let our hearts do the arguing
while our brains just go with the flow. But there's another way of tackling these issues, and that's where
philosophers can come in - they offer us ethical rules and principles that enable us to take a cooler view
of moral problems. So, ethics provides us with a moral map, a framework that we can use to find our
way through difficult issues.
Morals can identify differences among individuals. Utilizing the system of morals, two individuals who
are contending an ethical issue can regularly find that what they differ is only one specific piece of the
issue and that they comprehensively concede to everything else.
That can remove a considerable measure of warmth from the contention, and in some cases even allude
to a path for them to determine their concern. Yet, some of the time morals doesn't furnish individuals
with the kind of assistance that they truly need.
Ethics doesn't give correct responses. Ethics doesn't generally demonstrate the correct response to
moral issues. In fact, an everincreasing number of individuals feel that for some moral issues there isn't
a solitary right answer - only an arrangement of rules that can be connected to specific cases to give
those included some unmistakable decisions. A few thinkers go further and say that all morals can do is
wipe out disarray and elucidate the issues. From that point onward, it's up to every person to arrive at
their own decisions.
Ethics can give a few answers. Numerous individuals need there to be a solitary right response to moral
inquiries. They discover moral uncertainty difficult to live with in light of the fact that they truly need to
do the 'right' thing, and regardless of whetherthey can't work out what that correct thing is, they like
'someplace' there is one right answer. Be that as it may, regularly there isn't one right answer - there
might be a few right answers or simply some most exceedingly bad answers - and the individual must
pick between them. Forothers, moral vagueness is troublesome on the grounds that it constrains them
to assume liability for their own particular decisions and activities, instead of falling back on helpful
principles and traditions.
Another illustration can be found in the medicinal field. In many parts of the world, a specialist may not
euthanize a patient,even at the patient's demand, according to moral gauges for wellbeing experts.
Nonetheless, a similar specialist may actually have confidence in a patient's entitlement to pass on,
according to the specialist's own particular ethical quality.
These moral standards are absorbed from our environment like our family, friends and the various
communities we are associated with. These standards are dynamic since they will change as we mature
with our experiences and learnings in life. To waste money on material things, for example, maybe an
ordinary thing for you to do when you were younger. This might change later in your life when you
realize that there are more valuable things where your money must be spent on education, charitable
works and the like.
When our act genuinely benefits the recipient then it is within the standard or morality. Taking of the
needy, for example, is a good act which normally it would benefit the recipient. Depriving the
disadvantaged of their needs, on the other hand, is an act that would damage more of their unfortunate
situation.
Moral standard is not dependent on a group who may have authority in a certain community. The
Senate cannot change the notion that respecting our parents is a noble act that children are expected to
give to them. There must be reasonable reason/s to rationalize why such an act is not morally good.
Moral obligation is another way to know if our act is within the moral standards. People are not legally
required to give to charities, but they may feel a personal obligation to do so because they believe it is
the right thing to do. Given that one has the capacity to help, he still has the moral obligation to extend
his hands to the needy even if that person belongs to the camp of your rivals.
In appraising moral standards, it is not reliant on the interest of a few. It has to be judged in the interest
of everyone. It has to be applied universally. To kill a person, therefore, cannot be accepted to the
standards of morality since generally, it causes pain to the recipient of the action and accordingly does
not benefit it though it may satisfy the desires of a few.
Lastly, there are particular feelings that we experienced after we have done something good or bad.
After doing charitable works we feel good about ourselves. But when cheat during an examination or in
a relationship, we feel guilty about it. This special feeling of guilty is associated with the standards of
morality. There is something inside of us telling us that what we have done is shameless.
Dilemmas
Definition
You are at your best friend's wedding just an hour before the ceremony is to start.
Earlier that day, you came across definitive proof that your best friend's spouse-
to-be is having an affair with the best man/maid of honor, and you catch them
sneaking out of a room together looking disheveled. If you tell your friend about
the affair, their day will be ruined, but you don't want them to marry a cheater.
What do you do? (Source: Listverse)
There are certain occasions that we are trapped in a situation in which there is a
choice to be made between two or more options, neither of which resolves the
situation in an ethically acceptable fashion. Just like the case above, we are trap
between two choices that are equally good and equally evil. It is not about our
preference since we have to sacrifice one over the other. We are in a perplexing
situation where the choices we have are between equally unsatisfactory
alternatives. In this case, we are in a dilemma.
What is normal to the two surely understood cases is a struggle. For each
situation, an actor sees himself/herself as having moral motivations to do every
one of two choices, however doing the two actions isn't conceivable. Ethicists
have called circumstances like these ethical difficulties or we called moral
dilemmas. The vital highlights of an ethical quandary are these: the agent is
required to do every one of (at least two) actions; the agent can do every one of
the actions, yet the actor can't do both (or all) of the choices. The agent along
these lines appears sentenced to moral disappointment; regardless of what she
does, she will accomplish something incorrectly (or neglect to accomplish
something that she should do).
The Platonic case strikes numerous as too simple to be described as a certified
good situation. For the agent's answer, all things considered, is clear; it is more
critical to shield individuals from hurt than to restore an acquired weapon. What's
more, regardless, the acquired thing can be returned later, when the proprietor
never again represents a danger to others. Accordingly, for this situation, we can
state that the prerequisite to shield others from genuine harm abrogates the
necessity to reimburse one's obligations by restoring an acquired thing when its
proprietor so requests. When one of the clashing necessities supersedes the
other, we don't have a qualified moral dilemma. So notwithstanding the
highlights specified above, keeping in mind the end goal to have a bona fide moral
difficulty it should likewise be valid that neither of the clashing prerequisites is
superseded. Sometimes called ethical paradoxes, these dilemmas invoke an
attempt to refute an ethical system or moral code, or to improve it so as to
resolve the paradox.
Conditions of a Dilemma
Before a situation can be called a dilemma, specifically ethical dilemma, there are
three conditions to be satisfied. The first one is when the agent, the decision-
maker and the doer of the action, has to make the best decision. In making
decisions, there are significant value conflicts among different interests. The
value of family may be in conflict with the value of religion in making a choice.
The second is that alternatives are equally admissible. They have their own valid
reasons why the agent should embrace them. Spending money for the ailing
parent is just acting and likewise also spending it with the education of his
children. The situation demands a decision from the agent which more justifiable
act to be made. And the third is that the decision is made will have consequences
on the stakeholders whether favorable or not. It is like you have your mother on
your one hand and your lover on the other hand. You have to let go one to save
the other. Whatever decision you make, it has consequences not only you but
also to both recipients of the action to be executed.
Types of Moral Dilemmas
There are several types of moral dilemmas, but the most common of them are
categorized into the following:
1) epistemic and ontological dilemmas,
2) self-imposed and world-imposed dilemmas,
3) obligation dilemmas and prohibition dilemmas, and
4) single agent and multi-person dilemmas.
Levels of Dilemma
The dilemma at the personal levelis when one, on the subjective level, is
confronted with choices that are equally good and bad. The agent choice does not
affect any organization but only between individuals.
Since organizations are controlled by individuals, the moral guidelines of people in
the business are a vital thought. People may well have an altogether different
arrangement of moral benchmarks from their boss and this can prompt strains.
Factors, for example,peer weight, individual money related position, and financial
status all may impact individual moral models. Administrators and entrepreneurs
ought to know about this to oversee potential clashes.
An organizational dilemma exists within an organization or a particular sector. It
refers to a problem of reconciling inconsistencies between individual needs and
aspirations on the one hand, and the collective purpose of the organization on the
other.
At an organization or corporate level, moral measures are inserted in the
strategies and techniques of the organization and shape an essential
establishment on which business system is manufactured. These approaches get
from the impacts felt at large scale level and thusly help a business to react to
changing weights in the best way. There can be a hole between the organization
strategy on moral principles and the lead of those responsible for maintaining the
business, particularly on the off chance that they are not the immediate
proprietors, which can display a moral test for a few employees.
Systematic/Structural Dilemma refers to the ongoing search for a satisfactory
system. Managers rarely face well-defined problems with clear-cut solutions,
instead, they confront enduring dilemmas like tradeoffs without easy answers.
At a full-scale level, ethics are characterized and impacted by the more extensive
working condition in which the organization exists. Factors, for example, political
weights, monetary conditions, societal demeanors to specific organizations, and
even business control can impact an organization's working gauges and
approaches. Entrepreneurs and supervisors must know about how these weights
influence tasks and connections, and how they may affect on business sectors
locally, broadly and universally.
Morality Defined
Moral Philosophy is an attempt to achieve a systematic understanding of the
nature of morality and what it requires of us, “how we ought to live and why”.
Moral Reasoning, therefore, is a process by which one thinks about the moral
dilemma in ways that:
identify (as comprehensively as possible) the morally relevant aspects of the
situation;
weigh the significance of the morally relevant aspects, giving due importance to
the views of the persons’ concerned of what constitutes benefit and harm;
identify (as comprehensively as possible) all the possible actions that could be
pursued and their most likely consequences; and
consider all of the above elements and come to a decision about which action is
reasoned to be the most ethically justified.
On Impartiality
Each individual’s interests are equally important. Therefore, each must
acknowledge that other person’s welfare is equally important as our own.
Impartiality entails a proscription against arbitrariness in dealing with people.
A conscientious moral agent is someone who is concerned impartially with the
interest of everyone affected by what he or she does. Being impartial is to
carefully sift facts and examines their implications. The agent also accepts
principles of conduct only after scrutinizing them to make sure they are sound;
and he/she is willing to listen to reason even when it means that prior convictions
may have been revised, and who finally, is willing to act on the results of this
deliberation.”
In simply putting the statements above, the nature of morality implies two main
points:
that moral judgment must be backed up by good reasons;
morality requires the impartial consideration of each individual’s interest.
Ask any person if he wants to be free and he will say yes. But do we
really know what freedom is? And how free are we? First of all, nobody
is completely free to do anything he wants. Freedom is always limited in
various ways.
I may decide that I would like to launch myself into the air, spread my arms and
fly. I may have dreamed of doing so, but my physical body is, and always will be,
incapable of unaided flight. To overcome that limitation, I must resort to
technology.
I may wish to be a famous and highly talented artist, musician or gymnast, but my
freedom is again limited. It may not be physically impossible for me to achieve
these things, but it requires a sustained investment of training in order to develop
natural ability. Therefore, my chances of achieving what I want are limited to the
quality of training that I can acquire.
I may wish to take all the money in a bank, but I am likely to be arrested.
These are some examples of the way that freedom is limited, whether by physical
law, natural ability, or legal and social constraint.
Types of Freedom
Internal Freedom
The first and most basic type of freedom is embodied by the chap in jail. It is of
the greatest personal intimacy and secretiveness, indeed it is the hidden core of
our being and unknowable by others. Some people call this moral freedom. But
this kind of freedom is not in itself moral.
Self Freedom
It is in the sense of learning how to escape the ever-present danger of
enslavement by our own passions and ignorance. It is to practice of self-control,
restraint, and balance to achieve the admired master-slave relationship of the
soul over the body; it is “to find my self.”
External Freedom
This refers to the normal and common freedoms expected in daily life, in most
countries, throughout history. Sometimes called “freedom from...” It implies
immunity from undue interference by authority, especially by government.
Political Freedom
Collective Freedom
Spiritual Freedom
In its purest form, this type of freedom comes from striving for a complete
identification with God to arrive at a condition of soul that transcends the
confusion and disharmony of the self and the material world. For this type, strict
control if not denial of the allurements of the body leads to complete freedom of
the spirit.
Freedom of Will
If you decide to do something but then give up, are you free? If you find yourself doing
something you know you shouldn’t do, and you know you will regret it later, but still you
cannot stop yourself, are you free? Do you have the freedom to follow your conscience? Do
you have the freedom to forgive someone, or do you sometimes say, “I cannot forgive that
person”? Do you have the freedom to apologize?
True freedom is closely linked to self-control. Only a self-disciplined person can decide to do
something and accomplish it. A person who cannot control his desires is blown all over the
place by impulses, spurious thoughts, and feelings. For example, is an alcoholic free? In one
sense, yes, because no one is forcing him to drink, but in another sense, he is a slave to his
insatiable desire for alcohol. How about a person who wants to give up smoking but
cannot? If we cannot redirect our desires, our will is not free.
A person who has freedom of will is naturally creative. He is always growing, creating and
developing in every dimension. Such freedom can never be taken away.
True freedom is the freedom to follow one’s conscience and maintain one’s personal
integrity. This is freedom of will. It sometimes involves struggle, and it takes a lot of
courage. Yet it leads to more and more of a sense of liberation and fulfillment. The joy of
freedom is not only to be able to choose but to be able to choose well—to choose the right
and the good.
Viktor Frankl was a brilliant psychiatrist who was Jewish. When Adolf Hitler came into
power, he sent Jews to "concentration camps"--camps where Hitler's Nazis murdered,
tortured and starved Jewish people to death. Viktor was sent to Auschwitz--the most
infamous camp of all.
Conditions in the camp were horrible. Yet Frankl observed that even here, prisoners still had
the freedom to choose how they would act in those terrible circumstances: some chose to
be good and kind, some chose to be evil and mean. It was each man's choice and each
man's responsibility.
Frankl said, "Everything can be taken from a man but...the last of the human freedoms - to
choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
When the United States Army liberated the camps in 1945, Viktor Frankl became a free
man. He wrote over 30 books and started a new form of psychotherapy. (Source: Frankl,
Viktor E., Man's Search for Meaning, Washington Square Press, Simon and Schuster, New
York, 1963, p. 104.)
True freedom is not the freedom to do evil and be selfish. That is called license. For
instance, one cannot defend being rude and doing whatever one wants without regard for
others as an expression of true freedom. When we use freedom to make bad choices, the
eventual result is less freedom, less joy. An example might be a person who engages in "free
sex"—meaning that the person has sex with whomever the person wants to, whenever the
person wants to.
This may seem like very liberated and free behavior—but that person will wind up less free
when the consequences of such actions fall. An unwanted pregnancy, a serious infectious
disease—and/or the psychological burden of uncommitted yet bonding relationships—will
sooner or later make that person feel less free and joyful than someone who chose to
behave within the limits of morality.
Freedom of Action
Besides freedom of will, freedom also includes freedom of action. As social and political
freedoms developed, the opportunity for free action was expanded. Often this was due to
the efforts of people who wanted the freedom to worship God in their own way, to hold
beliefs different from those of a powerful majority, to pursue truth and spread that truth
though freedom of speech and the press. Freedom of will and freedom of action should go
hand in hand.
However, when there is freedom but people do not follow their conscience--in other words,
when they use their freedom of will to make the wrong choices-- the result is a crime, social
collapse, and anarchy. A free society in which people have few morals soon collapses. There
cannot be a genuinely free society that is not at the same time a moral society, one made
up of mature and responsible people.
Freedom and Responsibility
People like freedom because it gives them a sense of mastery over things and
people. They dislike responsibility because it constrains them from satisfying their
desires. Yet they do not understand the relationship between freedom and
responsibility. The two go hand-in-hand. Everyone wants to be free, but there are
times when we are terrified of the responsibility freedom brings. We feel relieved
(or at least part of us does) when someone else takes responsibility and makes a
decision or when circumstances decide for us. In these situations, we try to
escape from freedom. Then, if something goes wrong, we can blame someone
else.
Viktor Frankl once proposed that in addition to the Statue of Liberty on the east
coast, the United States erect a Statue of Responsibility on the west coast.
We are answerable not just for the things we do but also for the kind of people
we become. Every thought, word, and deed in our lives shapes our character. We
create our own character through the decisions we make. If we establish the
habit of making the right choices in given situations, we create the foundation for
a good character. Poor choices, on the other hand, lay the groundwork for
developing bad character. In this way, we determine to a great degree our destiny
through the quality of character we develop. As the philosopher, Heraclitus said,
"Character is destiny."
Obviously, in many ways, our freedom is limited by laws. Many people think that
since human beings are meant to be free, they should not be restricted by any
laws or norms. However, if everyone could do whatever he pleased without law
and order, the inevitable result would be that the strongest would rule and the
weakest would be oppressed or destroyed. In reality, freedom cannot be
maintained without law. These laws should apply in the same way to everyone,
regardless of who they are. Freedom and equality are thus related.
Freedom exists only within a framework of rules. Imagine playing a game of chess.
Are you free to move the chessmen wherever and however you want? Is it
possible to play a game with no rules? Rules prevent any arbitrary moves by
either player. They establish a common understanding by which everyone plays.
How about society? If there are laws against stealing or murder that apply to
everyone, we all can feel safe. Without such laws, no one is safe, and no one has
the freedom to walk the streets without fear. So the purpose of laws is to protect
people's freedom. A train, as long as it remains on its tracks, can run rapidly or
move slowly, go forward or move backward. In other words, the train has
freedom only insofar as it remains on the tracks. If it is derailed, it will be
damaged and may also cause damage to people and property.
Hence, a human being's conscience and moral law restrict freedom, but they also
work to protect people from going in a self-destructive and evil direction. They do
not restrict or disturb us in the development of our goodness. We are free to be
as good as we can be.
Only by following the way of love and goodness can we become truly free.
Basic Choice and Basic Stance
Explaining the Fundamental Option
Compiled by Dr. C.
THE PERSON AND HIS
MORAL CHOICES
person as person
person as a moral being
a deeper level where one can and
does know and choose freely, not so
much to do a particular action, but to
be a certain kind of person
one is confronted by the basic choice
between good and evil
A rare thing
Phenomenology is the study of experience and how we experience. It studies structures of conscious experience as experienced from a
subjective or first-person point of view, along with its "intentionality" (the way an experience is directed toward a certain object in the
world). It then leads to analyses of conditions of the possibility of intentionality, conditions involving motor skills and habits,
background social practices and, often, language.
Experience, in a phenomenological sense, includes everything that we live through or perform. What makes an experience conscious
is a certain awareness one has of the experience while living through or performing it.
What is love?
What is love? The notion of love has been asked since the time of Plato. Yet the reality of love has not been exhausted. Love is a part
and parcel of man’s life.
A. Misconceptions of Love:
“Love hurts”
“You are mine. I am yours and you can do whatever you want to me.”
• Being physically attracted to him/her and going to bed with him/her. Leads to the idea that friendship is not love and when
to people break up, they would still down for friendship, as if friendship were inferior to love
Love is blind and lovers do not see
Erich Fromm, “The art of Loving” – popular notion of love at present is “falling in love"
• Confusion between the initial state of falling in love and the permanent standing-in-love.
*people mistake the initial feeling of infatuation as love.
Man as man is gifted is with self-consciousness, there comes a point in the stage of man’s life that he comes to an awareness
of his unique self and the possibilities open to him.
His natural tendency is to seek out his fellow adolescents for understanding and acceptance.
C. Equality in Love
Until this will mean oneness in difference, the person will remain lonely amidst a crowd. Loneliness is possible even if one is
immersed in the crowd. In an attempt to conform to the group and hides one’s individuality, his loneliness eventually
expresses itself as an experience of boredom.
Resorts to:
Effect: to involve one’s total being in some kind of a trance reminiscent of the primitive man’s ritual and dance.
Keeping on self-occupied with all sorts of activity to divert one’s attention from oneself, but this is only for some time. One
will eventually tire himself out.
Love is the answer to the problem of loneliness because it is only in love that I find at-onement and still remain myself.
o Love is the union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality, love is an act of power in man, a power
which breaks to the walls which separate man from his fellowmen, which unites him with others.
o Love makes him overcome the sense of isolation and separatedness, yet, it permits him to be himself, to retain his integrity.
D. Loving Encounter:
Loneliness ends when one finds or is found by another in what we will call a loving encounter.
Meeting of persons
Happens when two persons or more who are free to be themselves choose to share themselves.
1. Not his corporeal or spiritual attractive qualities since they can only gave rise to enamoredness, a desire to be with the other.
Love is more than mere infatuation, more than mere liking such and such qualities of the other.
The other person is more than his qualities, more than what I can conceptualize of him and love is the experience of this
depth and mystery of the other and the firm will to be for him.
The appeal of the other is himself. The other in his otherness is himself the request. The appeal of the other is the call to
participate in his subjectivity, to be with and for him.
The appeal of the other which is himself enable me to liberate myself from my narrow self.
If the appeal of the other is himself, the appropriate response to that appeal is myself.
As a subjectivity, the other person is free to give meaning to his life. His appeal then to me means an invitation to will his
subjectivity, to consent, accept, support, and share his freedom.
His appeal then to me means an invitation to will his subjectivity, to consent, accept, support and share his freedom. Love
means willing the other’s free self-realization, his destiny, his happiness. At times it may mean refusing whatever could
impede or destroy the other’s possibility for self-realization. When I love the other, I am saying “I want you to become what
you want to be, I want you to realize your happiness freely.”
Love is not only saying it but also doing it. It is effective, it takes actions.
To love him implies that I will his bodily being, and consequently his world.
Love is inseparable from care, from labor. To love the other is to labor for that love, to care for his body, his world and his
total well-being.
Willing the happiness of the other also implies that I have an awareness although vague, of the other’s destiny.
In such a case, respect also means being patient. Patience is harmonizing my rhythm with his. It requires a lot
of waiting and catching-up, a waiting that is active, ever-ready to answer to the needs of the other, and a
catching up that is spontaneous and natural.
F. Reciprocity of Love
G. What is the relationship between love of the other and love of myself?
In love I offer myself to the other by placing a limitless trust in the other.
There is an element of sacrifice in loving the other which is often understood by many as a loss of self. In love I
renounce the motive of promoting myself.
The pain lies in abandoning my egoism, my self-centeredness.
But this does not mean loss of myself, on the contrary, in loving the other, I need to love myself, and in
loving the other, I come to fulfill and love myself.
In loving the other I have to be concerned about myself in order for my love to become authentic.
Since in the loving encounter I am offering myself to the other, the gift of myself must be first of all
valuable to myself.
Yet this value of myself remains unconfirmed, the joy of being myself a hidden joy.
The primary motive for loving the other is the other himself, the “You”.
The motive in love is the “you” that is seen not only by the eyes or the mind but more by the heart”.
Since the “you” is another subjectivity, he is free to reject or accept my offer. This is the risk in
loving, that the other may reject or betray the self I have offered to him.
Once cannot erase the possibility that the rejection of the beloved could be a test of authentic love.
But granted that the rejection is final, no doubt that the experience is painful, and it will take time for the
lover to recover himself from the said experience.
The experience of being rejected can be an emptying of oneself which would allow room in oneself for
development. Unreciprocated love can still be an enriching experience.
Indeed the risk and reality of love being unreciprocated proves that “there is no shop in the world that sells
love”
I. Creativity in Love:
There is a distinction between loving the other and knowing him as he is.
Loving the other is willing the other’s free self-realization, and willing demands a making of the other.
Concomitant to the creation of the we is the creation of a new world – our world.
J. Union of Love
The we that is created in love is the union of persons and their worlds.
The union of persons is not an objective union: when two things are united what results is a composition or
an assimilation: the two elements are no longer distinguishable from each other – they have each lost their
identities.
The union of love however does not involve the loss of identities. We become more of ourselves by loving each
other. This is the paradox of love, the many in one. The one in many.
To give myself is to give my will, my ideas, my feelings, my experiences to the other – in short, all that is alive
in me. Love is sharing myself to the other.
Because you are lovable. You are lovable because you are you. I see certain value in you and I want to
enhance and be a part of that value.
M. Love is Historical
Love is historical because the other who is the point at issue in love is a concrete particular
person. Love is not love if it is simply love of humanity in the abstract.
The concrete other is not an ideal person but a unique being with all his strength and weaknesses.
To love the other does not mean improving him, although in the course of the relationship it does
happen that the other becomes more of his authentic self.
To love is to love the other historically.
Love involves no abstraction. Everything in love is concrete. In contrast, loneliness, the absence
of love, lives among shadows, involves that nothing is real.
N. Equality in Love
If love is essentially between persons, then it follows that love can only thrive and grow in
freedom. In loving, I do not surrender my liberty and become a slave to the beloved. Love is not a
bondage but a liberation.
There exist an equality of persons in love, the equality in what they are, as subjects, as freedom,
and not in what they have.
Man as a person is not a bundle of qualities and functions. As a person, he is indivisible through time
and space.
The “you” in love is indivisible and thus love is an undivided commitment to the other. It is
offered from the totality of my being to the totality of the other’s being.
Love is eternal. The gift of myself for the other is not for a limited period of time only. True
friendship can be broken, yet people do not become friends on the understanding that they will
be friends only for a limited time.
Love implies immortality. In love, we catch a glimpse of eternity. It even conquers death.
Love is sacred, the persons involved in love are unique, irreplaceable beings and as such
are valuable in themselves.
The greatest tragedy that could happen to a lover is when his trust is betrayed, when the self that
is entrusted in confidence to the other is disclosed or thrown to the public. When a confidence is
betrayed, something fine and beautiful dies.
Love is to be practiced rather than talked about.
Phenomenology of Love
Phenomenology is the study of experience and how we experience. It studies structures of conscious
experience as experienced from a subjective or first-person point of view, along with its "intentionality"
(the way an experience is directed toward a certain object in the world). It then leads to analyses of
conditions of the possibility of intentionality, conditions involving motor skills and habits, background
social practices and, often, language.
Experience, in a phenomenological sense, includes everything that we live through or perform. What
makes an experience conscious is a certain awareness one has of the experience while living through
or performing it.
What is love?
What is love? The notion of love has been asked since the time of Plato. Yet the reality of love has not
been exhausted. Love is a part and parcel of man’s life.
A. Misconceptions of Love:
“Love hurts”
“You are mine. I am yours and you can do whatever you want to me.”
Erich Fromm, “The art of Loving” – popular notion of love at present is “falling in love"
• Confusion between the initial state of falling in love and the permanent standing-in-
love. *people mistake the initial feeling of infatuation as love.
] Man as man is gifted is with self-consciousness, there comes a point in the stage of man’s life
that he comes to an awareness of his unique self and the possibilities open to him.
] His natural tendency is to seek out his fellow adolescents for understanding and acceptance.
C. Equality in Love
Until this will mean oneness in difference, the person will remain lonely amidst a crowd.
Loneliness is possible even if one is immersed in the crowd. In an attempt to conform to the group and
hides one’s individuality, his loneliness eventually expresses itself as an experience of boredom.
Resorts to:
Effect: to involve one’s total being in some kind of a trance reminiscent of the primitive
man’s ritual and dance.
Keeping on self-occupied with all sorts of activity to divert one’s attention from oneself,
but this is only for some time. One will eventually tire himself out.
Love is the answer to the problem of loneliness because it is only in love that I find at-
onement and still remain myself.
*Love is the union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality, love is an act
of power in man, a power which breaks to the walls which separate man from his fellowmen, which
unites him with others.
*Love makes him overcome the sense of isolation and separatedness, yet, it permits him to be himself,
to retain his integrity.
D. Loving Encounter:
] Loneliness ends when one finds or is found by another in what we will call a loving encounter.
] Meeting of persons
] Happens when two persons or more who are free to be themselves choose to share themselves.
Not his corporeal or spiritual attractive qualities since they can only gave rise to enamoredness, a
desire to be with the other.
*The other person is more than his qualities, more than what I can conceptualize of him
and love is the experience of this depth and mystery of the other and the firm will to be for him.
*The appeal of the other is himself. The other in his otherness is himself the request. The
appeal of the other is the call to participate in his subjectivity, to be with and for him.
*The appeal of the other which is himself enable me to liberate myself from my narrow self.
+Compatibility is not necessarily love. Neither is submission necessarily love.
+Sometimes, refusing the request of the other may be the only way of loving the person in
a situation, if satisfying it would bring harm to the person.
] If the appeal of the other is himself, the appropriate response to that appeal is myself.
] As a subjectivity, the other person is free to give meaning to his life. His appeal then to me
means an invitation to will his subjectivity, to consent, accept, support, and share his freedom.
] His appeal then to me means an invitation to will his subjectivity, to consent, accept, support
and share his freedom. Love means willing the other’s free self-realization, his destiny, his happiness. At
times it may mean refusing whatever could impede or destroy the other’s possibility for self-realization.
When I love the other, I am saying “I want you to become what you want to be, I want you to realize
your happiness freely.”
] Love is not only saying it but also doing it. It is effective, it takes actions.
] To love him implies that I will his bodily being, and consequently his world.
] Love is inseparable from care, from labor. To love the other is to labor for that love, to care
for his body, his world and his total well-being.
] Willing the happiness of the other also implies that I have an awareness although vague, of the
other’s destiny.
] If love is not to become domination, it must be balanced by a certain respect, respect for the
uniqueness and otherness of the other. Respect does not mean idolizing the person; it simply
means accepting the person as he is, different from myself.
] In such a case, respect also means being patient. Patience is harmonizing my rhythm with his.
It requires a lot of waiting and catching-up, a waiting that is active, ever-ready to answer to the needs of
the other, and a catching up that is spontaneous and natural.
p Reciprocity of Love
G. What is the relationship between love of the other and love of myself?
p In love I offer myself to the other by placing a limitless trust in the other.
s But this does not mean loss of myself, on the contrary, in loving the other, I need to love
myself, and in loving the other, I come to fulfill and love myself.
In loving the other I have to be concerned about myself in order for my love to become
authentic. Since in the loving encounter I am offering myself to the other, the gift of myself must be first
of all valuable to myself.
t Yet this value of myself remains unconfirmed, the joy of being myself a hidden joy.
The motive in love is the “you” that is seen not only by the eyes or the mind but more by the
heart”.
Since the “you” is another subjectivity, he is free to reject or accept my offer. This is the risk in
loving, that the other may reject or betray the self I have offered to him.
] Once cannot erase the possibility that the rejection of the beloved could be a test
of authentic love.
] But granted that the rejection is final, no doubt that the experience is painful, and it will take
time for the lover to recover himself from the said experience.
] The experience of being rejected can be an emptying of oneself which would allow room
in oneself for development. Unreciprocated love can still be an enriching experience.
] Indeed the risk and reality of love being unreciprocated proves that “there is no shop in the
world that sells love”
p Creativity in Love:
] There is a distinction between loving the other and knowing him as he is.
] Loving the other is willing the other’s free self-realization, and willing demands a making of
the other.
] Concomitant to the creation of the we is the creation of a new world – our world.
q Union of Love
] The we that is created in love is the union of persons and their worlds.
] The union of persons is not an objective union: when two things are united what results is a
composition or an assimilation: the two elements are no longer distinguishable from each other –
they have each lost their identities.
] The union of love however does not involve the loss of identities. We become more of
ourselves by loving each other. This is the paradox of love, the many in one. The one in many.
r The Gift of Self
] To give myself is to give my will, my ideas, my feelings, my experiences to the other – in short,
all that is alive in me.
Because you are lovable. You are lovable because you are you. I see certain value in you and I want
to enhance and be a part of that value.
M. Love is Historical
] Love is historical because the other who is the point at issue in love is a concrete
particular person. Love is not love if it is simply love of humanity in the abstract.
] The concrete other is not an ideal person but a unique being with all his strength
and weaknesses.
] To love the other does not mean improving him, although in the course of the relationship it
does happen that the other becomes more of his authentic self.
N. Equality in Love
] If love is essentially between persons, then it follows that love can only thrive and grow
in freedom. In loving, I do not surrender my liberty and become a slave to the beloved. Love is not a
bondage but a liberation.
] There exist an equality of persons in love, the equality in what they are, as subjects, as
freedom, and not in what they have.
] Love is eternal. The gift of myself for the other is not for a limited period of time only. True
friendship can be broken, yet people do not become friends on the understanding that they will be
friends only for a limited time.
] Love implies immortality. In love, we catch a glimpse of eternity. It even conquers death.
] Love is sacred, the persons involved in love are unique, irreplaceable beings and as such are
valuable in themselves.
] The greatest tragedy that could happen to a lover is when his trust is betrayed, when the self
that is entrusted in confidence to the other is disclosed or thrown to the public. When a confidence is
betrayed, something fine and beautiful dies.